The Kids Are Not Okay. 

Time to bring back the belt....

​@@cmanhanks1 no, just bring back discipline, you know like taking away the things causing them to act poorly.

And the belt

@@SnickerDoodleBug05 the belt IS discipline. Nothing like the sound of a belt clearing belt loops to make a kid straighten up their adittude.

​@@cmanhanks1 your literally promoting child abuse

I'm 14 and I had no idea what pound town was

@@kangaru975 same and when i looked up the lyrics i was shook, like the kids prolly don't know what they mean but still

Im 17 and got a younger sister like this, youre so real for that damn

wtf man I'm sorry for your loss

This is sadly relatable

I thought ballet in exchange for free tuition for the adult dance classes. The kids I had were really I’ll behaved. I was able to blackmail them into behaving when I was made casting director for the recital…until one dance mom found out and had me fired as well as kicked out of the school.

Exactly. Ballet is such an organized environment. Like that behavior is not tolerated. I don't remember a problem like this ever in all my years of dance classes from KY, to MS, to IL. ballet was fun for us girls. U were happy to do what the teacher told u to. It's an extra-curricular activity.!!! The behavior is so bizarre!

​@@TEWMUCHI'm 33, and would never had dared to go against a teacher. But I have to say, ballet was not fun for me. My teacher made fun of me for being dyslexic multiple times. I couldn't make friends in the class because she basically encouraged the girls to also make fun of me. I quit ballet at 13 because I was literally being bullied by the teacher.

@@YasuTaniina I can see that. I've heard negative ballet stories too. I'm sorry you were bullied by an adult.

Have you seen the nurse and doctor TikToks? I'm terrified of the health care I will receive TODAY!

@@WFHMM actually no, I'm not on TikTok. I can imagine though. I pretty much went 3 years without going to the Dr through Covid and so had to start over with my PCP as a "new" patient. Which meant the 1st appointment was a long wait. So I had to visit an urgent care when I got a sore throat. The Dr was a barely 30 white guy. I told him I hadn't had a sore throat since I'd quit smoking. 1st he smugly said "Oh, so you're vaping now?" Um, no, nicotine free for 9 months now, thank you very much. So he goes "well, you're still going to get COPD." WTF??? CAN YOU JUST DIAGNOSE MY SORE THROAT NOW? No, because I deserve a LIFETIME of shame because I grew up in an era where Dr's smoked inside hospitals. 🤦🤷

I left the healthcare field after 25 years because of the unqualified medical personnel that were being hired but didn't know a damn thing. More and more hospitals will be getting sued in that future and the reason malpractice premiums will go up!

It's already scary actually. I could share some stories.

Good point

My daughter is 2 and just barely starting to talk and count, but she’s such a sweet heart, she says sorry and thank you, she listens when I tell her no too , I don’t have to be mean either, sometimes I have have to be more stern with my vocal range but she’s so polite and I hope it stays that way

The fact that they even need to resort to give out rewards to a child for displaying basic decency it's actually so sad tbh 💀 your child's behavior shouldn't be the exception, it should be the rule. I never misbehaved in school and was always respectful, never got an award for it. That sounds insane to me.

I’m so nervous about this. I’ve kept my son home and schooled him for 3 years now and I’m going to have to send him to school next year. I hope he can stay strong in the foundation I’ve helped him build over the past 8 years. These kids are wild and my heart is heavy thinking about him being exposed to all of it.

The fact that they’re giving rewards for BASIC human decency is terrifying. The education system is destroying the next generation.

My little sister is 3 going on 4 and she can’t speak or use the toilet yet, time to watch this madness. Anyway, congratulations on being a good parent! Way too many of those are lacking. And no, parents of IPad kids don’t count.

OMG I'm so sorry that happened to you. Nobody deserves that. Is it any better at private schools there?

This is just so sad ....Thank you for still trying to find a way of being helpful to society after you've experienced something like that . I wish you well!

Kids who know nothing about the outside world are being brainwashed by the govt and Hollywood to become SJW zombies to vote for wrong leaders. Where has our country gone?

Private schools are no better. The students in private schools are spoiled rotten and administrators do nothing because the rich parents pay their salaries.

First off, thank you so freaking much for your service. And not to make light on this, but would a war be better than teaching kids? I’m legit curious now, because that kinda sounds better than teaching.

That’s terrible! Praying for your principal

thats literally so fucked up

Tf 😧

He needs to sue all of those parents.

Omg!

Your generation is literally running around trying to destroy our country

Omg this! I work at a makeup store and people do not give a flying fu** what their kids do to product or how they behave. It’s deplorable.

Darling, I used to work in retail 20 years ago and your generation was running around destroying things all the same. Had a boy once, who hit his head on the table so hard he needed stitches, his mum was trying things on, and dad did not care about him running around the store and even shouted at one of my colleagues for gently telling him to calm the child down. Shortly after the incident, GAP outlet UK got round displays tables 🤣🤣

@@natalijasmirnova7589darling, F off if you don’t think it’s worse now

In most cases, they bring their kids into public so they destroy other people's stuff & get them tired so that when they get home, they don't have enough energy to wreak havoc at home.

It is not surprising iPads cause kids with no concentration.

That basically shows what I've been saying for years. Parents don't give their children enough time and the government is adding to it by make sure both parents have to work fulltime a lot of the time, so that they can't even give their children the attention they need in the first place.

As a previous nanny, I just want to add here that one of the worst things I see is that the parents seem to expect their Nanny to be a maid, a teacher, and a mother who as proper training and understanding of specific illnesses/behavior problems and taking care of five pets, driving the kids to everything and cooking/cleaning everything all while only paying you $10 an hour. Oh and yes, I must be vaccinated, apparently. That is crazy, that the expectations go even beyond my own personal autonomy. When I started babysitting and was 17 and knew only the basics, I was making more. The expectations of the parents for themselves are so low but for everyone else are incredibly crazy high.

I think its less the ipad and more clearly the first child had a learning disability that needed extra attention. Instead of HELPING their child, they just threw the ipad in front of her. My son is on the spectrum and I would argue till I'm blue in the face that very specific learning youtube videos helped him to actually become verbal with words. Some specific learning disabilities can be helped tremendously with technology. My son was nonverbal till about 2, was tested into the early-intervention program in my state, has an IEP, and was "diagnosed" with ASD. He is 7 now and is thriving amazingly. He still enjoys lhis tablet but more often than not he prefers puzzles and listening to "kids bop" music lol.

My nephew is 7 years old. He will be on multiple electronics at one time ( like the kid in the video), because it has been modeled for him. Plus an iphone was put into his hands or laid next to him from the time he was a baby to change his diaper because he was uncooperative. He is so heavily medicated just to make his behavior tolerable. It makes me sad because he truly is a sweet kid. But it is easier for the adults in his life to continue to pacify him.with medication & electronics.

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And i’m in sixth grade in fifth grade. A lot of my classmate started calling me, the N word and a RETARED and wanna know why because I’m a Sonic fan and I like video game music it’s crazy they also made fun of me for not getting a phone till I was 11 keep in mind, the one calling me the N-word ship bokugo and duku from mha and the people calling me a retard had bad grades I also occasionally see them in school in the hallways.

I really think this is a effect of capitalism

Same but I can see the difference in behavior and life skills.

Keep modeling some will take notice and start asking questions. I'm always full of joy when the blinders fall.

Really? Because the internet improved my mental health!

Yeah I think the screens play a huge role in this. It affects your concentration, attention, reward centers of your brain so much. Also I think the lack of free play outside running around like we got as kids.

​@@Demonetization_Symbol she isn't saying they don't get internet access. But there's a too much and too early for everything.

Agree, using phones and TV as a babysitter and attention sink is a very comfortable trend, and I'd argue it's a very very harmful way of keeping the kids occupied. Eg: whenever we're at the table, I don't let the kids watch tv or play on the phone - they should be focusing on the food, and BEHAVE themselves without having to have access to multimedia. Harder, but that's the way they're supposed to eat. Then I got couch-parents tell me I let my kids stay tech-illiterate because they only get max 1.5h TV at evenings and 1h PS3 per week..

Also too much positivity, these kids aren't being disciplined they aren't having to work for what they want

This is a big reason why I'm moving to 165 acre cabin in West Virginia next month. My almost 3 year old son will be able to grow up in nature and learn naturally (along with school). He will not have tablets and phones and TV time will be limited. Children need to learn to entertain themselves without screens, and how to be patient in boring situations. I can't wait to go out in nature with him so we can learn first hand. I can't wait to do activities with him like ATV riding, fishing, taking care of animals, the orchard and the like. I feel like kids these days don't really have a true childhood because they waste it all on screens.

You are right

Yep. It's not about being nasty or harsh. My parents were very lenient with me at times because I knew my boundaries and would generally stick to them. It's about setting boundaries though and being consistent about enforcing them and having low tolerance for deliberate naughtiness and disrespect and correcting it when it happens rather than tolerating or rewarding it. It sounds bad, but the dog training comparison actually is a good one and I think a lot of parents could actually learn a lot from taking a basic dog obedience class. You train dogs well by being clear and consistent. You don't get angry, you don't let their cuteness allow them to get away with stuff that snowballs into problems later. You set boundaries and apply them in the same way each time so they understand what is ok and what isn't. That's not that different to dealing with unwanted behaviour in a child just applied in a slightly different way. I've been asked so many times how my dog is so well behaved and it's really not rocket science, it's just being consistent. I really do think for some reason there has been a knowledge gap increasing on how to raise kids or train animals happen in recent years although I don't quite understand why. As I'm writing this, I can hear a young kid (sounds like they're probably about 6-ish) screaming at his mother in the street *facepalm*. Scarily on topic.

@@Jsa460 True and sad.

Yeah, same with me. You don't always need to hit or scream (raising voices when necessary is fine), just try and teach them the best you can. One example is Bluey, I wanna be like that one day, but I'm only a teenager rn😅

The kids can’t be that cute😅 Take the iPad!

Awesome! This is how we parent our children as well! Plus, we homeschool.

this is what gentle parenting supposed to be

This! People are raising eyebrows on me wanting to become a stay at home married mom, but I'm doing the same to them because it is the norm to birth your child and not see them the majority of the day. Can't imagine other people raising my kids and being at work and getting a call from the daycare telling me my child took their first steps or said their first words. Looking forward to staying at home and raising my child the Montessori way and raising them to be capable and independent

@old_yeller4251 Wishing you all the best! I stayed home with my children and worked part-time when they went to school. Best thing ever! I didn't have children to have others raise them. 🥰

I feel like a lot of women now a days have kids and RUN AWAY from having to be stay at home moms it’s kind of sad that most women now a days don’t even want to be stay at home moms and it’s kind of sad when the ones that do want to be can’t cuz of finances I think a lot of moms now a days will rather go away to work and stuff cuz it’s just … easier than just being at home w your kids all day and raising them and cleaning and cooking all day and making sure they are productive functioning people in society they rather have other people raise their kids for them cuz it’s just easier and another thing I notice a lot is becuz they are so selfish they just don’t because they NEED time for themselves they need to have friends a social life and “need” to have their own career and life apart from their kids and most moms now a days only spend evenings and or weekends w their kids etc

How can we be a stay home mom if husband can cheat or divorce us any time? I am in the process of child support and custody trial. My ex is self employed and hiding his real income. He doesn't want to pay child support and he left me. Thanks God I have a job so I can provide for my 2 year old son and live from a pay check to a paycheck. Now I am back to school getting my masters so I can make more income and buy a house for us. ;(

@hopperbopper your comment is so delusional. I thought he was a good partner. He doesn't have a tattoo on his face saying he is an ass

we are all screwed.

I saw this coming back in 2008 when there were some paper-work at my former school that needed doing before my much-anticipated exchange year. And pretty much everything I've heard about the classroom from teachers (traumatized by their profession in the literal sense) has seemingly only confirmed my worst fears and suspicions...

@@PhilPhilson Teachers Get 3 Months Annual Leave And Push Homework 📚📄 On Parents?.

Girl, you should have taken a leaf out of Professor Snape's book. Ain't no kids ever misbehaved in his class

@@marioluigi9599 nah, professor snape has favorates. Nobody likes that.

As someone, who went to grade school in the 70s, I can testify that schools were disciplined and nice environments to be in and learn. In no way they were an 'unnatural and damaging' environment. That this is the case now, says a lot about the decisions society as a whole has made about what is and what is not acceptable behavior.

Yeah, schools are simulating the socialization of a gang of bandit kids….

As a mom getting ready to put my first kid in pre k this is terrifying

Kids are not being raised correctly because of the collapse of the nuclear family, blame the feminists

in my school i kept my head down and just wanted to work while listening to everything that was happening most years of my school were a mix of Lord of the flies and unstable kids backstabbing each other at the end of year nine i just said to my mother that I'm not going back to that clown show because I'm not learning anything now because a single teacher cannot teach if 20 out of 30 students are being disruptive so i might as well focus on my own interests and learning from home i think the real issue is a lot of families are not made aware of how bad most schools are in till they get that breakthrough moment of realisation. So year 10 and forwards i had a combination of home-schooling on science maths and English while also learning the fields of knowledge that would actually be useful for what i wanted to do in life and the 4 years i had home-schooled i learned far more then in the ones i was dealing with flying monkey's.

same :)

Just pray that we course correct and in time for gen alpha

I wouldn't be so sure that they are angels at home. I think they have raised their parents so well that they cater them hand and foot.

I am so sorry to hear that. I really hope that something can change for your sake. It's horrible that these children aren't growing up with structure and as a result they are falling into these bad behaviors. Ones that are very hard to discipline anywhere other than home- and of course the parents think their kids are angels only because they finally shut up when they're on their phones/electronics... I sound like I'm 50 saying this, but I'm only 19. I saw this even when I was a senior in high school, how the grade 9s came in with the attitudes of 6th graders and the freedom of adults. I walked into the music room to eat lunch one time and a group of rowdy freshmen came in and started talking about all the sex they had and how someone's condom broke and about all the alcohol they had at a barbecue. Like,,, come on. I can't say that my cohort (grad '22) wasn't affected in this way too, but we were at least still able to get a year of proper discipline and teaching before it all hit the fan. Of course it's always like this in high school, where you hate the kids younger than you because they haven't had the same amount of time to mellow out their middle school / elementary ways as you have. But it was especially horrible (both for older grades AND the teachers...) because these kids came into the system purely influenced by time online with technology and neglect by parents. I fear this divide will only get worse as elementary kids are reaching higher grades where they are expected to learn and act much more mature. Don't even get me started on the attention spans. What really can anyone do? And I'm only talking about a high school here. I can't even imagine how difficult it is for you. Please remember that you are not the bad guy for wanting children to behave where they should. You are supposed to be another authority figure for them to base their behavior around. I commend you, and my heart goes out to you. There was once a time where I wanted to teach. You have more strength than I do, for even thinking to continue a career that deals with this. I hope that there will be change. Sorry for the text wall :)

It’s all honestly because Gen alpha are kids of Gen Z and late millennials. I know people who just came out of high school few years ago who are Gen z and have kids already. Many Gen z have kids 17 to 23. Gen z parents are NOT like Gen X or boomer parents it’s sumn else and it’s crazy 🤣🤣 and sad personally I don’t think any Gen z should be having kids but our birth rates are dropping so 😭

It's simply because they are taught that they can do whatever they want at home that's why they do it everywhere else. The parents only tolerate it because The woke say that you're supposed to do that & people listen until they go legit crazy & get taken to a nut house to be indoctrinated further and not helped at all. That's basically what happens.

If you go to bed or wake up dreading the day … start looking for another job. I stuck it through my job thinking no other school would hire me cuz my principal might bad mouth me and 2nd I didn’t want to be a quitter. Both fallacies of a demented mindset. I finally quit. There were a lot of problems I had but the major one was I just got to the point I started hate the parents, and it end up I just didn’t care about 4yo anymore. 11 years teaching and I’m happier (as one can be) in this lower paper pushing job than I ever was with teaching. I got my Masters and can’t even use what I learn in my classroom. All that learning was a waste. I was so proud of it too. I do tell ppl I taught but not with pride and not with a master degree because it was just a huge embarrassment to me how the parents treated teachers and even how other teachers treated each other. I still remember one dad telling me the reason his son doesn’t listen to me because the son knew I couldn’t punish him. So I ask his dad what do I need to do. He said he doesn’t know. Basically, not his problem. Really?! It’s prek im babysitting who cares right? Then they go to Kinder expect them to know ABC surprise surprise they don’t. Spend all their time reteaching, get to 1st grade expect to read K level, surprise surprise they just barely reach beginning K level. So you see. By the time they finish 1st grade they are already behind you can only retain like once in 2nd and once in third I don’t know what each state level is but the don’t want a8yo in 1st grade. Even if that child can’t read or write. But hey we spend all our taxpayer money so your child can go to prek whoppee. My sister and I joined .. yes became Lutheran so our children could become students in their prek program. Every day (mostly my sister) would spend time going over the basic ABC. But you have to do that. They only watch educational show. As my daughter grew up she would watch some tv show not age appropriate but I would explain why in REAL life what is the right or wrong of it. Did my mother or father teach me this NO! Nothing is going to change until we all begin to accept that not everything has to change. I was filling out my new medical enrollment form and I was really upset that they had all this transgender selection yes even “cis gender” but I’m not “cis” anything. I’m just plain female. Why are you now catering for the few and ignoring the many? I find it very disrespectful. It’s like calling me Mr because you want to. Ok that for another rant lol. Anyway, get out while the going is good or teach overseas the children there will be a little more respectful.

Do everything in your power to disconnect from the Internet as often as you can.

As someone who was homeschooled their entire life until 17 years old, 100% FULLY AGREE with the person above me. I have a great brain but being online for so long has broken it, I find it so hard to actually reach my full potential

You have to form new habits and break the old ones.@@Redddragon

@@bhante1345Trying my best

I’m so sorry you went through that, but I’m so glad you have parents that care enough to listen to you and see the situation you were in at school and take the steps for you to be homeschooled. Hopefully your brother grows out of it. It’s wonderful you care so much about him and want the best for his future. Many times when we thought our parents were being mean taking away our tvs laptops or iPads they were doing it because they cared and wanted the best for us and our future, but it didn’t make it easy. A lot of times it was an argument, but the parents stood firm because they knew it was best and I guarantee your parents don’t want to argue 😂 it’s much easier to give in and avoid an argument and indulge a child and say okay fine you can go out or you can play your game or have your iPad etc, however you and your child will pay for it in the long run when that child is incapable of being independent and unable to live life and expects everyone to give them everything they ask for. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Wish you luck in the future for you and your sibling.

Kids are monkeys nowadays

the bar is low af

SAME! I’m always getting compliments. Granted, I teach my kids discipline, but I’m just now finding out how BAD it is. I homeschool my kids, so this is crazy to me & im a millennial, I had my first kid at 23.

honestly from all the kids i come across on my way back home from school, one that says thank you after you give/help them with something is considered very nice in my perspective

Well said. And the little asshole will grow up to be a big asshole, and wonder why his life is miserable.

As a fellow millennial, I'm glad to see some of us have our stuff together.

Also a Millennial and completely agree. The career thing and being convinced they were abused as kids if their parents were even slightly harsh is so spot on.

"Gentle parenting" doesn't actually mean parenting that's gentle, it means a specific philosophy that's against any sort of corrections or discipline. What is needed is authoritative (not authoritarian) parenting.

I agree. personally, I will not spank my kids, but they will have strong boundaries set in place

Yes. People need to learn you can discipline your kids without spanking them.

​@@TheAmalaEkpunobiso what do you do when the child doesn't obey your commands? This is the problem with gentle parenting. You must be willing to grab, redirect, or otherwise physically reprimand the child. Because if you don't, they will not listen. Too often the parents just keep talking and coddling and rewarding the child for not listening by having one on one time that is not punishment. That's why gentle parenting doesn't work. It reinforces bad behavior by rewarding it with positive reinforment. Positive reinforment is great, but if your kid disobey's you repeatedly. Pick their ass up and put them in time out. They get up. You pick their ass up again and put them in time out and tell them if they don't sit down and obey your original command, their gonna get whooped. They get up.. They get whooped. It's that simple. Here's what I've seen from my gentle parenting family members. Johhmy punches his brother Sam. Sam cries to mommy. Mommy softly tell Johnny that wasn't nice while Johnny continues play with his truck ignoring mommy and Sam cries in mommy's arms. Dad walks in and begins to play with Johnny and mommy tells daddy that Johnny hit Sam but didn't mean to. Dad asks Johnny did he say he was sorry, Johnny says nothing, dad softly asks again, Johnny continues to ignore dad and play with his truck. Mommy says "Johnny" answer your dad. Johnny says sorry and in no way means it. Daddy then begins to play trucks with Johnny while fvcking Sam has a black eye! That's gentle parenting. The kids suck and throw tantrums constantly and have no negative reinforment for extremely poor behavior. And it actually becomes too much because eventually the parents can't take it and do negatively reinforce the behavior and the kids are so blind sided by it, they don't know how to react.

@OneWorldGovernment2030-yv3zc or their own Legos left all over the floor!

When I was in my senior year of high school (2021-2022) I had to deal with a lot of rude kids who didn’t respect the teachers, there were fights (one teacher even got a concussion trying to break one up) things were just so crazy! Plus phones were a huge problem and even if the kids were disciplined they didn’t learn their lesson they would just keep doing the same things. Another issue that year was kids skipping school.

Some kid even came into the classroom and just started a fight with someone. That really bothered me 😭

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I'm a 13 year old who's been homeschooled for a long time, might've picked up reading from Minecraft but I still excel at it. You're doing a good thing right here, homeschool is without a doubt the way to go.

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She may not be socially adept. Time will tell. Maybe she’ll be a unmarried spinster

Make sure she's not socially awkward. My fiance was homeschooled and I've nearly broken up with him in the past because he's much slower at understanding emotional and group dynamics than a typical guy. I've met his other homeschooled friends and it's all the same. Even though they were put into sports after school.

"But if you home school your kids they wont receive the same level of education as public school kids" I know and thats great

exactly, im planning on that. our reality is too off, is unnecessary to pass throught shit in such young age. Im not saying they will not take shit for the rest of their lives, but i will spare unhiged bullshit.

Yup. They can socialise at parks and other places outside of school. I dont want other peoples animals around them

I certainly won’t wanna send my kid to a school where addiction is so heavily encouraged,they can socialize with their neighbors, family friends and family thank you very much

Home schooling should be illegal.

Technology has evolved from being an enabler to being a disabler. It’s tragic.

@@christopherestewart 😞

that's pure laziness because they are addicted to technology or social media themselves.

Your parents should not be gen x with a 11 yr old child

what makes you think there's gonna be a future with lawyers, teachers, doctors and governors.. In 2040 its all going to collapse. Essentially because boys wont invest themselves in a society system that hates them.

If it makes you feel any better, these kids probably won’t even be able to get into college with their reading and writing skills let alone go to and graduate law/med school

If you’re in 6th grade right now then your generation is gen alpha, not gen z (sorry I don’t mean to annoy you just wanted to let you know)

@@blazeguyYT1256 Gen z ended in 2012 tho?

Authority figures are mean and abusive.

Respect!

Both of my sons are grown now. I was a military dependent that was raised in a VERY strict household, and I carried that through when raising my own children. My sons didn't have cable tv or internet by the time they were in second or third grade (we couldn't afford it at the time), so I got them involved in Church programs after school instead. I surrounded them with positive role models. If they were punished in school for misbehaving, they were punished again at home. I actually had teachers request that I quit 'harassing them' about my sons (I called the school each week to check up on their progress and to make sure homework/projects were turned in) grades. The ONE (and only) time I caught one son stealing (he was 9) I taught BOTH of my sons a lesson they would never forget: I first took them both back to the store where the item was stolen (a pack of gum), the one caught stealing with his piggy bank. I made HIM tell the Store Manager what he had done. I then made him pay for what he stole (since he had already opened it) out of money he had in his piggy bank that he was saving for a school field trip. When we got back home, I made him give away EVERY PIECE of gum from that pack he stole. He also missed his school field trip because he didn't have enough money to go. I refused to replace it because of why he didn't have the money, and I would not let the school pitch in either. Many people said my punishment was way over the top, but I will tell you this. My oldest NEVER stole anything again, and my youngest never stole anything at all, because both knew what would happen to them if they did. My boys knew that if I found out they were disrespectful or impolite they would catch HELL from my husband or me. I taught them how to cook, made sure they had the skills to keep their own homes, do their own laundry. But we also spent time with them, and did things together, like game night, movie night, family nights out to dinner once a month. The end result is that I have two sons I can be proud of. I never had to worry about drugs or underage drinking. I never had to worry about them breaking curfew and getting a girl pregnant. I ALWAYS knew where they were and who they were with. They both have an excellent work ethic. They follow the rules at their jobs (two if the few that do!). I'm sure when they have kids of their own, they will make sure their kids have the same upbringing as they did.

​@@sdmcdaniel2255 You really shouldn't be on the internet bragging about this. Seriously, my parents were normal and it never once crossed mine or any of my siblings minds to steal anything ever we definitely knew better at the age of 9 and we were doing our own chores by the age of 7 no need for the insanity you display here also How expensive is gum in your country or maybe the question should be How cheap are school trips in your country?! Also you made your kids pay for their own education?! Wtf is wrong with you? I know what's wrong with you. You confused respect with fear. I don't think your kids ever respected you. They just feared you. There's a difference.

@@sdmcdaniel2255 👏👏👏 Good job mama!!!!! This is what I aspire to have my sons be and you should be so proud of how you raised your boys!

The internet happened especially social media it’s ridiculous no one cares for the kid they just care what they can get from having one and it creates monsters with no social skills no life skills in general who grow up and have kid and the cycle repeats

Punished how?

@@Demonetization_Symbol Either jail time or fed to lions. Depending on how many lions I can find.

​@@Demonetization_SymbolProbably grounded

​@@Dash277Lions can be scarce at times

What I do to combat spending too much time online is set aside 1 hour per day, usually between 3pm and 4pm and do no screens or music. That hour is for prayer, meditation, other reflection, journaling, and reading books, not even for chores; it's just for cognitive purposes. I spend the hour outside if the weather permits. I still probably spend too much time on the internet, but that 1 hour helps. Just listen to the birds every once in a while. This in addition to my other normal activities such as working (which requires only some screen time), distance running, jigsaw puzzles, maintaining small garden, yardwork, housework, meeting people, running errands. I spend about 3-8 hours a day on internet entertainment, but that 1 hour of peace helps. If you lack a quiet place of solitude in your home situation, walk to local park to have quiet time or just go for a walk in general to get fresh air.

Maybe sell your current phone and purchase a flip phone, it’s much cheaper and can still call and text and everything. Just minus the addiction.

I’m on my phone a lot but I still know how to take in real life!

But imagine getting screens shoved in your face from day one

@@coinbuyer-8605this is great except i struggle to see whats wrong with listening to music

Me too, I am from Brazil, but the almost same happens here

I really relate to this. When I joined year 7 I was so shocked lol, my whole class was awful - and I don’t usually struggle with making friends but I did hwre

"Freerange parenting doesn't help." Just curious - how does letting your kid walk to their friend's house or to the store without a parent tie in with the rest of your comment? I blame some of the problems on the fear-mongering that followed the Jacob Weaterling disappearance such that kids can't just walk to a friend's house. The parents have to spend so much more time just to give their kids socialization or physical activity that the kids are just going to get less of that. I heard recently a parent got arrested for letting their 10 year old do something that my son and all his friends were doing at that age. Can't remember what it was exactly, but it was something like letting them ride their bike to a friend's house. Terrifying that a parent would get in trouble for something like that.

Rules are literally the safe space everyone is striving to create. Children do not feel safe when they can move the boundary lines all the time. I once had a stern conversation with my niece (she was about 8-9 years old), where I told her that I didn't like how she was speaking to her sister and that she should apologize for what she had said because it was rude. Her mom and grandmother were around, but nobody told her about her behavior and she refused to apologize and made fun at first. I told her that I still love her but what she had said was wrong and that 'I expected her to apologise'. Before I left that day she gave me a huge spontaneous hug (she had apologized but it took a awhile and I didn't nag her or anything, just stated my opinion of her behavior.) I remember being floored that nobody had ever tried that with her, her mom just usually grumbled that she 'wouldn't listen', but there was no making her listen as if she could understand. It's all respect.

I guess your small town has stronger values

Or you live in an expensive neighbourhood 😂

haha, yeah@@lillylee2410

thank god@@Shtickyaight

the different between you and them is that you choose active parenting regardless of your stress and exhaustion. You may be the one suffering today, but your child will thank you later on and the payoff will be worth it in the end. Trust and believe that children raised by good parents often times know it at some point in their young adult years because they see their peers who had none of it and how it affects them. Mental illness, addiction (gambling, drugs, alcohol), criminal activity, etc is almost always linked to childhood neglect & abuse. Thank you for being a present and involved parent. ❤

There was a great week-long program that was developed by just one woman called "Pathways for Family Growth." It was successful beyond my expectations, and included some simple things like practicing eating together as a family, and games that taught the importance of fair rules and treating people fairly.

I am working as well. But I do not take that easy way out. YOU are responsible!

Good for you. I’m a mom, and it’s hard for me too. Thanks for the inspiration.

My dad worked 12+ hour days every single day in my childhood. Sometimes he worked jobs he had to commute 2 hours just to get to one way. And he spent just as much time with us as our SAHM. No excuses if it is important to you. My dad is still my best friend because of what he did for us.

We do indeed, all the problems of society start in the families, bad families rise bad people and we have to deal with them out in the world.

@LotharFriedrichFreiherrvon Yeah, no, I am telling my daughter "No" to things she should not do.

Nah bro, the adults would belittle kids back then and wouldn't listen to their thoughts or emotions- I'm glad I wasn't born in the generation where adults say "Kids should be seen not heard"

@@nuraortoma1820 Funny how those kids turned into functional members of society, right?

@@nuraortoma1820sad you don’t understand that this is a serious problem!

Older Gen Alpha or “Zalphas” (which you seem to be a part of) are alright in the same sense as mid-later Gen-Z.. it’s kids born ~2014 and onward that are the “iPad kids” with little to no discipline at all..

@@Gamer12kzChanneljust barely got into the newer gen alpha, have a iPad but behave pretty well compared to others. truly a terrifying thought that people at the age of 12 are smoking.

Absolutely none of this is unique to Gen Alpha. This is the average middle school experience, I remember feeling the exact same way. There are other kids at ur school who feel the exact same way you do

I'm also a middle school student, and at my school the worst I've seen is people cussing and making sexual jokes, also people drawing genitals and cuss words in the restroom. I never thought a middle school could have kids vaping, smoking weed, doing drugs, and having sex. I really hope Gen Alpha doesn't get worse in the future, the problem seems terribly bad already.

I barely JUST made the cutoff for Gen Z (Kids born in 2012). I know I done some bad things, but this makes me concerned about the future. My parents are always complaining about my generation, but they know NOTHING about Gen Alpha

We have home educated our children since 2012 and have had the same compliments about manners!

I homeschool my sons and they’re such a joy and definitely on grade level. We’ve held more school days than the local school district and we have more freedom.

Homeschoolers are most likely to succeed in life based on statistics. I love the freedom to change curriculum and advance kids at the rate that works best for them. My 4th grader got 8th grade for science testing.

I saw this trend in the early 90's as well. There's this part of me that wonders if we ever had any intention of giving the younger generations the tools they would need to succeed.

@@peteranon8455 We need to create a better model and image for what a “good kid” is. Kids don’t want to be good lately. I still haven’t figured it out yet. But I think about it often on.

Todays problems is that we have reached an opposite extreme. We used to beat our kids viciously if they didnt listen or behave, my mom told me so many stories of her mom beating her with a belt over tiny things. She never abused or hit me, she ensured i learn my lessons by being there for me, she taught me to be respectful and to not be a dick, to respect my space like buses and public spaces because even tho its not mine, i will be using said buses and public spaces daily so take care of things as if they were my own. Now days not only do we not hit kids, we refuse completely to discipline them, the kids make the rules. The kids choose what they want and what they dont want.. the kids control the parents becsuse these parents dont actually wana be parents.. I recall a video of a massive 15 year old buy whos teacher took away his nintendo switch because he was playing during class. He walked up behind the tiny female teacher and beat her unconscious.. the comments was a bunch of people supporting the kid, saying he did right she had no right to take his stuff and she stole his stuff… like the most insane takes ive ever seen.. thats when i said our future is fucked. And imma go conspiracy but im convinced the government is doing this on purpose.. why is education failing so horribly suddenly. Why would we want to have our population be dumb as a brick instead of educated and respectful.. we are a first world nation, we have to be smart and educated to keep being a first world nation. This feels like we are being set up for communism much like china. Canada is in the same exact boat. These kids are dumb af more so than usual.

me too!

No need to worry. These kids are the result of CONSISTENTLY bad parenting. One mistake or lapse in judgment will not affect your child as long as you've raised them with love, discipline, and structure the rest of the time. Make sure to say you're sorry, but let them know who is in charge!

It's not about the mistakes you make. It's about being consistent. It's about understanding how your child thinks and working with them through that. Teach them how the world works. Teach them that they are so important to you that you have to tell them no sometimes. Teach them that others have value too. Teach them that the universe is not fair and how they can work through that. Get them outside. Go to play parks, go to nature parks, do volunteer work. Read to them. Don't let them become addicted to technology. Teach them how to live without it. Show them how to enjoy life without a screen.

Everyone makes mistakes sometimes. The difference is that these "parents" haven't actually put any effort into parenting in the first place.

My daughter is 12. And I have been a single mom her entire life. I have made many mistakes. But it is how you rectify your mistakes, and showing consistent love to your child that matters.

Don't be so hard on yourself. You aren't a failure that's thoughtlessly feeding off your parents...society, government, and our educational system has failed us, and your current situation is the result of those failures. No one wants to teach anymore, this isn't a you problem...it's a broader social problem.

Hoping the best for you ❤️ I’m also 31 and not where I thought I’d be by now. but hey, we’re still pushing forward!

Making a excuse!!! You must be rasing one like that!!!

@@danacastellano5838 No, I actually don’t have kids at all and don’t plan to have any. Yes, there are crappy parents as well, but you have to acknowledge that the world you grow up in is the world you learn from. Even the most sheltered kids still look to their parents for guidance, and parents nowadays are becoming increasingly stretched thin. Even from an objective economic standpoint, because both parents have to work even more than they did 20 years ago for the same standard of living. Even if they want to be there and be present for their child, teach them everything they can about life and how to act….the reality is they’re often not even there to be able to. They’re both busy working. Sometimes the (very, very expensive) daycare raises your kid more than you do now. It may take a village to raise a child, but that village just isn’t there anymore. You simply can’t be as good of a parent as you want to be, if you don’t have the hours in the day and dollars in the bank. And just like my own parents freaking out about possibly losing the roof over our heads in ‘08, kids can tell when you’re stressed. Again, they may not fully know why, but it affects them all the same. Why do you think it’s bad for kids to see their parents fighting, too? Studies have even shown that kids who watch their parents fight, are more likely to repeat that turmoil in their own marriages as adults. That’s the first place where they learned how relationships work, after all. Also, tell me, even if you do everything right as a parent, what are your kids exposed to when they’re at school? When they’re socializing outside of school? When they’re inevitably exposed to the ever-decaying culture around them? Your peers influence you almost as much as any parent or teacher can, after all. So does the place you’re raised in, hence why children of immigrants often assimilate more than their parents do. What world are today’s kids “assimilating” into, that their parents didn’t? How will it impact them as they grow up? Because I assure you, it can and will. You can’t shelter them forever.

It's also a sign of generational trauma. Not a joke btw. Millenials were raised by Boomers, who -as we all know by now - were often not the most selfless/healthy. That's why they act so "weird". The idea of "your child is not listening to commands" reminded me of an online argument I had in an abuse-survivor's forum: The context was making kids eat food, even if they might resist. The OP was of the opinion "If they said no -why ever persist?!" and became really aggressive in the comments. Again: This wasn't about forcing kids to eat till they vomit. Or forcing them though they have sensory issues/allergies. I mean per se: Kid says "I won't eat that". It's amateur psychology here, but this could explain the ballet-mother: The "SO DON'T MAKE HER?!" reaction is a triggered attitude. It's not about logic. Same way kids sometimes need to be coaxed into eating: They often push boundaries, and need to learn to at least try the food. Or, they might not be that hungry now -doesn't mean they won't eat that soup later. It's not abuse. But to people like that, this can seem so.

I raised a Millenial and i'm a Gen X!@@leroyjenkins1249

No you fail as a teacher if you don't DEMAND RESPECT AND DISCIPLINE IF A CHILD DOESN'T LISTEN YOU GIVE THEM A 0 ZERO FOR THE DAY ENOUGH zeros then they are left back

​@@timothyruggles3031 Tell me you've never taught without telling me... Your expectations have merit, but they are impractical. I recommend you watch the Sound of Music and maybe rethink what raising kids like soldiers does to them.

Oh heck no!! If I missed behaved in school I got a paddle to my back side, along with a note explaining my actions and discipline ( to be signed and brought back ) which then led to another paddle to my backside from my mom or dad! As far as people females and males sticking their rear end up in the air…..well to be honest that’s what dogs do….on the side of the street…..behind the trash dumpster……hmmmmmm…….

@@timothyruggles3031administration does not allow you to give zeros or let children be “held back.” Look into it.

​@@timothyruggles3031Children can no longer be kept back a year, unless a parent agrees. You can advise that their child is not ready, but a parent can ignore you and do what they want. Also, some schools apparently don't let you fail kids. The biggest consequence that you can currently give children at the moment is something like a suspension from school, but if the parent is really bad then the child just gets a vacation.

so true

Same! She was also my favorite teacher lol

@@rydbthatsme lol me too1

@@faridwiser5441 One-on-one interactions involving those kids will be fun to watch during their young adult years: "Ma'am, I clocked you at 25 miles over the speed limit. Step out of your vehicle and keep your hands in plain sight." "YOU CAN'T TELL *_ME_* WHAT TO DO!!"

@@ConservativeGrouch Haha, yea!They would grow up to literally have no self awarness🤦🏻🤦🏻

Nah, when I was in 5th grade, I would BEG my parents to buy me a Rainbow Magic book because I genuinely love reading. It's is actually so upsetting seeing kids behave like that. My school used to bring in book fairs, now they bring people to sell slime and poppets because VERY few people actually read books.

about tables, im in highschool and i still dont have them memorized because i have dyscalculia, so it could be because of that

same but I'm a younger gen Z (2009 baby) going to 9th grade but my gen alpha siblings who are going to 3rd and 2nd grade I'm not playing I had to teach them to read, write, do math, and even fucking behavior because my Gen X and Millenial parents are so soft with them but with me are strict as hell with me I mean I learned to read and write at FUCKING 4 years old

Youre a good sibling. Nowadays parents doesnt want to parent. It happens to my family too

My ex-husband got our 3yo son an ipad and he's not allowed to use it at my house. I would literally send my child to a 3rd world boarding school if he was as big a piece of shit as some of these kids.

You are very well spoken for your age. It's such a shame you have to go through this at school.

Same here, I hope these kids and parents will have a come to Jesus soon.

It seems that some parents either forgot or don't understand how much of a duty they have. More and more, I see boundaries being eroded, as if there's no good reason for the boundaries to be there in the first place.

If you look at all the children who misbehave, you'll find that an overwhelming majority of them likely come from a single mother household. The children who are well behaved likely are from a two parent household. Father's have traditionally been the disciplinarian; so when they're absent or have little minimal time with their children, this is often the result.

This is depressing, and I’m not that much older than you. I’m only 23 and feel like I haven’t been out of school that long, and yet this sounds nothing like the environment I grew up in. I had a really nice public school, diverse, everyone followed the rules for the most part, a fight was an extremely rare sighting, more rare than a bomb threat. At this point, I can’t decide if I wanna have kids, to try to make some decent humans in society, or skip having kids because of the inevitable influence they’ll have around them in class, with friends, and online. I know a lot of people say it, but I’d so much rather go tech free, give them a burner and see how much better they fare. A little tv is one thing, but bingeing and swiping on ten second videos for hours is rotting their brains, more than SpongeBob ever did for my brothers or I.

Preach! This is somewhat close to what I tell my kids. Giving them historical perspective is helpful, in fact.

This is how the teachers are in Texas. We’re all so grateful!!!

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James Monroe was 18 and Alexander Hamilton was 21by the time they signed the Constitution.

😭

Don't let him back online until he has watched the movie *My Fair Lady* from start to finish. I don't care if it's nearly three hours long.

Exactly 😭 My brother, same age, also does that. If I did that stuff at his age, I would've been looked at weird by my family.

Similar here

Saddest part is that "g.y.a.t." most of the kids actually do know what that *ACRONYM* means, and these children think it's okay to be spouting swear words constantly, and their oblivious parents who are too lazy to research the things their kids do don't even realize that they are allowing their kids to repeat **technical* sexist slurs used to objectify women... and the worst part, it's being directed towards class mates... same age, elementary school female class mates -- saying "girl your a** thick" is disgusting to say to any human, and now it's being directed at children, because these *lazy parents* don't pay any attention to their kids.

Bro What is mogging?

It gets better bro, make it to 9th grade.

I'm about to go to 9th grade. I don't live in the States, but these 8, 9, and 10 year olds don't respect ANYONE. Some kid asked me to move, and i didn't hear him, so he PUSHED me and insulted me under his breath. Like what happened to discipline????

EXACTLY what i was about to say. It’s also widely about the American school system.

​@@astroherelolshould've pushed him back and tell him to learn some manners and speak properly so you can hear him

One of the things Donald Trump wants to do is rebuild the education system.

The specific word would probably be neglect.

Hey, I get your point but we can't call everything ABUSE, every mistake, every fail, I think it will be counterproductive... The right word is neglect.

Atleast someone said it

"Children who are abused or neglected are also at increased risk for experiencing future violence victimization and perpetration, substance abuse, sexually transmitted infections, delayed brain development, lower educational attainment, and limited employment opportunities." -CDC

⁠@@sivc.29 - except that neglect is officially listed as a type of abuse by professionals. Failing to provide for your childs needs, whether it’s physical like food and clean clothes, medical, or even mental/emotional can inflict just as much damage as if you were putting out cigarettes on their skin or screaming at them all day.

It's not that they don't love their kids it's that they got no time cause they got to work all day most double jobs and simply don't have the time to both support their kids and be with them as much as they want to or need to be! This is a society problem on a pandemic level!

I'm fortunate that the parents I know who live near me aren't like that.

You guys are overlooking the most productive under compensated job era that we live in that is contributing to this debacle

@@v4v819 With all due respect, I disagree. I’ve talked to parents who would rather sit on their phones then play with their children. They give their children iPads in order to amuse them because they don’t want to interact with their own children. That is a lack of love.

I've nannied in many different houses, and I now have two children of my own (I am 26, they 4 and 2). My mom was also in childcare for years. It is nothing new, for generations parents have chosen not to acknowledge their children. It is just SO EASY now! Everything is made available to pass them off. The behavior and attitudes of the kids are reflective of the adults they model after. It is simply a cultural fallout. Many Americans are just surviving for the sake of doing it, no other initiative. For what? "We didn't choose this life" entitled and self-pitying.

I never had a proper father unfortunately, so I can definitely speak from personal experience in saying that yes, we absolutely do need more compassionate and strong willed men who love their families unconditionally.

This man right here Keep doing what you're doing, it helps