Very interesting topic, I am a South African man married to a Nigeria woman. We met in the UK and I know a few SA men that dated some are married to Naija women over there, but the last 4 years since we moved to SA I am yet to see a Nigerian woman dating/married to SA man, infact people are shocked when they find out my wife is Nigerian😊, I guess they are not used to see that because its always the other way around Naija man & SA woman.
@@ChimmaFrancherry Her parents welcomed me with open hands because they themselves are from two different parts of Nigeria, her mom is Yoruba from Lagos state and father is from Edo state that was an issue when they got married 😂
Actually 99.9% of South African men date and marry local. They're just not interested in crossing the borders. We have plenty of beautiful and sexy girls here so there's really no reason to look outside.
True man,for us the main reason is that we are not mostly attracted to outside women, we normally prefer local, during my varsity years there were plenty of them coming from Nigeria and they were available and easy but it was just most of friends were not into them.
Sincerely Being Honest I Dont Think South African Men Are Into Women From Other Countries...They're Into South African Women It Can Be From Other Tribes Or Province
I think it depends largely on background/ exposure. e.g. A Limpopo guy who has lived there mostly will probably find it hard to marry a Zulu lady in kZN for e.g. yet an SAn guy who grew up in exile or was exposed to UK/US may marry someone that they're in contact with psychologically, emotionally,etc.
Thank you for saying this. Some of these women make it sound like South African men are approaching them in droves and they keep rejecting us one after the other. Before a man approaches you, he must first be attracted to you
As a South African guy, i know 100% that a lot of South African guys prefer to date South African women, there is very little interest from a lot of South African guys to date foreign women. I dated a congolese lady for a long time and the relationship was great. I think there is also a general misconception about foreign women amongst South African guys.
The only reason they are not dating is because most women come with their husbands. There are a lot of beautiful women in SA and our men are not having any scarcity problems.
@Mighty LGK Nah dont say, people, if you understand human psychology, you will know why, most men who are after SA women is men from countries behind SA in development, Men turn to chase women or men they envy or aspire to be not men who are behind them, that's why in Africa, South African men are chasing no women of any country because we believe we are above all men in Africa in terms of progress, this plays into a big psychological manipulation which makes us view them as inferior and this also means we won't have an appetite to go after their women while on the other side, some view it as some kind of achievement when they finally find SA ladies and marry them, they automatically think they are now ranking or competing at the same level with us and it helps them when one is coming from an inferior state. You hardly find a Cameron man bragging about marrying a Senegalese woman but most African men can't wait to announce if they with an SA lady but SA men hardly announce when dating an African sister. This can be detailed we'll by experts in psychology and human behavior but you can start here. Remember, every society has an illusion of superiority and inferiority and this hierarchy has been very direct for human evolution. It's playing on a subconscious level, they don't even know why they feel like is an achievement to be with SA ladies but yet is because of us South African men. For women of a certain nation to be a price and high ranking, the power is all in the men of the said nation, how they carry themselves and contribute to human civilization. This is the same case with white women, some black men see it as an achievement to be with wyte women because wyte men have made them the price and set the standards while other men turn to be inferior. Is sad but is a fact
We prefer the independent, free spirited, progressive yet culturally grounded, stunningly beautiful and voluptuous SA women instead. I wouldn't trade a SA woman for any woman on earth, not even Beyonce and her millions lol.
Only if SA women defended y'all this way. This women don't deserve y'all kings. We can do better. Most women defend their own, not this once and trust me, I know what I am saying.
@@thabisomaila8095 Those SA women who says negative things about SA men don't think about the implications of the things that they say. Because as soon as I start saying negative things about SA men that includes my father, my son and my brother. Yes we have a culture of absent fathers but if you know a little bit of SA recent history you will know that, that was engineered by those who thought they were smart.But, even married women do find themselves parenting by themselves because their husbands have to work far from home. I think the SA women who were left holding babies by SA men think that the grass is greener on the other side but one day they will to eat their words.
Here are my reasons, in addition to yours: ◾ There aren't as many Nigerian women in SA, and those who are in SA don't assimilate into communities and mingle. ◾ Most of us in SA are genetically related to the Khoisans and often small in stature, Nigerian women are often tall and large. ◾ Some Nigerian women have strong manly facial features, some South African men have subtle and feminine facial features. ◾ There's no shortage of beautiful women in SA and SA men are spoiled for choices and don't feel a need to venture and explore. ◾ Nigerian women are mostly conservative, want to be excessively pursued and wowed, SA women are progressive and open. ◾ SA women are independent and prefer to contribute where possible. Nigerian women believe a man must pay for everything regardless. ◾ Unmarried SA couples can happily cohabitate, buy assets and have kids. That's still tabooed within the Nigerian community.
i wish Nigerian men who are marrying outside of nigeria would see these comments and see south African men who love their women and dont date or marry outside. Nigerian men are the only ones to disregard Nigerian women for other tribes and cultures...that is sad..
I agree 100%. SA women are not perfect just like us men, but you will never see us South African men simp after women of any nation on Earth while I have came to realize that, not only Nigerians but west African men in general, behave like marrying a foreign woman is some kind of an achievement or it means they are better, in particular, countries that have better economy than theirs, more like seeking validation because they have a personal problem of low self-esteem. In Southern Africa, such is not a thing or is it even noticed. Again, we don't simp after women of any nation, we are very pride full
If u don't know how to address issue just keep quite, Ppl who come to live in south africa... Get married here becos south Africa are the only woman they are seen eveday not becos they plan or deside to married by force, anywhere u live u will get married there, fool.
@Mighty LGK My dear,tribalism is real,and is being practised all over the world.Those truly in love will marry,irrespective where they come from.God created all with the same fabric,each with its own personality.There no such thing that south african or nigerin women are better then any other women.You find good women/man,in any colour,race,tribe,country.period.Thanks
@Mighty LGK I agree and disagree with you when it comes to beauties!You can find beautiful women all over our continent Africa.Africa is blessed with beautiful womens.
I think the problem is that most of South African men don't like to date foreigners we just love and appreciate our women, that's all I never heard South African men talking about Nigerians women
Because Nigerian women love to marry Nigerian men, especially those from their own tribe. Also, South African men love to marry South African women. The reason is quite simple. Now let's move on to more important issues that will advance African continent.
You are a blessing to the continent🙏🙏🙏. How I wish one day we can just STOP entertaining and responding to this stereotypes not to mention shallow views dished out by people who are only interested in views and likes just to pocket something for their own selfish needs. Caring less to non about the strife they create within the continent.
In university, Nigerian girls are focused on studies and no time for fun. In workplaces they are usually already married or are brought to South Africa by their husbands. There are more women than men in this country so most men prefer locals, exceptions are Botswana, Lesotho and Swaziland due to similar tribes and cultures. For some reason the average South African man won't date a Zimbabwean woman either. The difference with Nigerian men is they actively seek out relationships with South African women.
Simple answer: we love SA women. Infact we love our country, that's the underpinning of this whole thing. This is why most of us don't even aspire to emigrate to the UK, US, Canada etc. We just love almost everything about our country and don't really fancy to be anything other than SAn. 🤷🏾🤷🏾
Stop lyin'! Is that why you guys are tryin' to turn our beautiful country into another Zimbabwe? Please, stop lyin' to yourself!!! and stop lyin' to your fellow Africans, South Africa is slowly turning into a sh!th0le thanks to your beloved ANC.
@@bantuspirituality4728 I understand and I wish the others did too, but y'all don't and one day, from my home in Europe, I will look back on my home country (South Africa) with sadness, knowing the potential it had but was never able to be great because of ignorant and uneducated people who had greed and self interests in mind. But goodluck guys, I hope y'all one day realize the error in your ways.
@@bronzesweetqueen4227 The argument can also be the other way round. Perhaps they dont have what SA men want. But it would also be better for you to individualize the issue and say, "SA men dont have what I want".
@@bronzesweetqueen4227 lmao. South African men posses the seed to making the most beautiful people in the world. Messing with foreigners waters down the genes.
@@bronzesweetqueen4227 But can't stay away from our country. The jokes keep writing themselves. You come in our country and we still don't show you interest, ain't that enough? 🤣
In some cultures it is considered rude to pay EVERYTHING AT ONCE, for lobola(bride price)it’s part of the culture it’s not about not affording. The families, elders want an excuse to meet up more than once. True Story!
Also the husband is expected to take care of his wife's family in times of crisis. There is no need for him yo pay full bride price because he will help the wife's family his entire life.
The average Southern African woman is more attractive to the average SA man than a West African woman🤷♀️. That's why SA men don't go for Nigerian women
lol ok..its cute that you think your women are more beautiful. You should ...we as Nigerian women dont care to argue over who is more attractive....its a subjective rating and something would be wrong with you if you were not biased towards the race that gave birth to you. Good luck. Btw whether or not you go for a Nigerian woman would ot matter, since there are 15% more men in Nigeria...finding one of us single would be a chore, so its a good thing you find your women more beautiful, and dont go for us, otherwise you would be single lol
@@musastimorol9162 remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You should have just said you prefer SA Black women and left it at that...no need to compare and put the other women down. I’m SAn and I I generally think Nigerian women are stunning and I have so much respect for them, don’t care for their men truly avoid them unless they are varsity friends but I rock with the women...some of the best vloggers I follow on here are Nigerian women and they are good looking eg Jackie Aina, Dima, Patricia Bright etc I rep SA all day but I know a cute woman when I see one and I’ve seen plenty cute Nigerian women and some I’ve mentioned here
Please sister's try to ask south African man why nigerian women's don't marry them...... Nigerian women's can never marry south African man anyhow because nigerian women's can't come from far country and marriage with a drinking up and down or man who having blood on he face maybe Congo woman's can marry them
@@yusufimam5149problem is you guys cant take rejection. We south african women said we dont like Nigerian men at all you cry. When south african men say they dont like nigeiran women you cry . What's the problem ?? She posed this question you western africans dont have the right to attack south africans yet cry victim. If I say nigeiran women hate nigeiran men because they sex traffic them into italy for prostitution and dubai You never speak about why??? Leave us alone For Gods sake. This obsession is unnecessary.
In some South African cultures like mine, It is rude and disrespectful to pay the full bride price at once. You are not buying your wife and as such irrespective of how much money you have you must pay in installments. Remember, every time the instalments are received the delegation are also getting an opportunity for the two families to meet and build a relationship.
All our south African culture you don't pay once even if you have enough money they will charge you alot of stuff until it goes down to the level that you'll have to owe more again. In fact you pay lobola until you die.
Hey Chimmza...as usual...this is a brave and interesting topic you have. It takes a courageous and open minded RU-vidr to raise and discuss such issues without fear of condemnation. Keep on raising such uncomfortable truths... love it.
Interesting topic, my sister, well done. I'm South African, my fiance is Rwandese, she is beautiful but I can tell you that not many South African men date foreign, some don't date outside their tribe, those who do have a variety of Black, Indian, coloured and white women to approach. I've noticed with South African friends in the USA, they usually marry white girls, not the black ones. It can be tricky to come from Nigerian upper class and reside in lower class in South Africa, because you will not have a balanced view of the country and it is an experience of many Nigerian in South Africa. According to our culture, lobola isn't really about the money like in Nigeria, it's about the partnership of the 2 families and streams based on their 2 children, lobola is paid by my family to your family and just like Nigerian like to negotiate the price at the market, our families enjoy the game of the lobola negotiations, it's not supposed to truly end, otherwise it will be like you sold your daughter and that's not the objective. Nigerian women coming into the country don't have enough exposure with South African men at critical stages, like High School, University and corporate where people usually meet in an unbiased position, most come and work in a foreign business so they are influenced by what they are told, how many South African men can you say you know well since you came? Tribalism is an issue everywhere so your points are also relevant for South African men too. South African women generally can complain about their men but make no mistake, they love the men too, they are more open minded because they have the privilege of meeting more Nigerian men, put it as a factor that in Africa it's the men who approach the woman, how many Nigerian women have been approached by South African men. Remember that the comments are also your research too, much love, keep up the good work and uniting Africans 👍
Women mostly don't date down, Nigerian women consider some African men to be timid hence not even open to trying, the world is a global village now and Nigerian women marry foreign nationals, in Nigeria the bar is set very high and that can be seen how women all over the world go crazy for Nigerian guys.
@@NymaMargaret Nigerian guys are all over the world, so the whole world is exposed to your men. South African men and Nigerian women aren't all over the world, South Africans really like to stay, work and do business in their country, it's a really beautiful country, most Nigerian women travel with their husbands so the single ones aren't exposed but I get as much reactions from Nigerian women as South African on dating sites, so it's just an exposure issue
Men are the ones that approach and and propose to women. I just don’t think SA men are into foreign women like that. SA has no shortage of beautiful women and SA men have a type
@@bronzesweetqueen4227 do they even know SA men to begin with? It’s not like our men are scattered all over the world, running away from home like cowards from certain African countries.
@Sarah Lee SA The issue of moving is not a problem but denying the reason why people move is what is the problem. Is not by accident that most migrants from Africa move to south Africa, is all because south Africa is indeed the best over all in Africa and this is just a fact or else people won't be running to SA than my country in Africa
How many nigerian women marry out of their tribe😭😭😭 this is where the issue is🙏🙏in general south african marry each other with ease tribal issues iron out 1930 already see our former president thabo mbheki he has a sothos mother and xhosa father south africans are inclusive Ubuntu...❤️❤️❤️
Fact is most Nigerians women are not attractive as South Africans you can argue and lie to each other but truth is south Africa women are very attractive and curvy asf period
Facts they musnt deepen it . Other time nigeiran men couldnt take rejection when I told them south african men are ×10000 attractive than all west african men combined. The problem lies with these people being emotional at us saying the truth it's sad how they hate themselves And want to mix with any black that doesnt look like their black.
it seems South Africans are just comfortable with their own, because our culture doesn't stop us from marrying outside of our tribes/clans yet we choose from our own women including Lesotho, Swaziland and Botswana
One of the reasons is because most South African men have never seen a Nigerian girl, let alone spoken to one. There also seems to be a cultural disconnect between Southern Africans and West Africans in general..we just don't know each other that well. infact, you will even notice in international university campuses that Southern African students tend to get along with East African students (Kenya, Tanzania, Rwanda, etc) better than West African students..I think this is due to that common Bantu identity. East African women also are a lot more open to dating men who are not of their nationality than West African women, especially Kenyan women. Nigerian women seem stubborn like Ethiopian women when it comes to sticking to their own men. I need to say though that Ghanaians are some of the most wonderful people I have ever met, and I will definitely visit Ghana and Nigeria one day. Southern Africans and West Africans need to interact a lot more (increased intra africa trade and travel will foster this) just to understand each other because at the moment, we hardly do. when that happens you'll see more inter cultural marriages across the continent
As long as that interaction is not in SA, we don't need more foreigners, we already have more, and I think SA men are fine, I doubt we need west African interaction
I'm a South African woman and I have travelled around Africa and one think I picked up in other African countries. Men are not gentle towards women , this you notice right from the airport. A South African man will never let a woman carry even her own language into a trolley by herself even if they don’t know you they jump to do it for you and this has made me realise that our men are the most gentle men in and has made me appreciate things that I used to take for granted about our men, and they pull a chain at the restaurant for a woman to sit and open a car door for a lady and this is a common behavior in South Africa. For these small things I learned to appreciate S.A. men. And ofcaurse there are gentle all over the world. Let’s treat everyone well.
@@kehindeemiabata4032 Thats not true at all, unlike most African countries, we have systems that can be checked and monitored as well as producing accurate stats. We are also transparent, you really can't say SA women are in more danger than countries likes zim, Nigeria, Mozambique, niger, DRC e.c.t they don't even have a carrying government
@@niphotwala188 people will say and agree with anything to degrade SA because in reality, they envy SA, women from all around African countries are flocking to SA, no SA woman is trying to enter any African country, they don't even visit those countries while their women even buy SA identities, the irony for a dangerous country
@@thabisomaila8095 Exactly, the only reason SA seems so dangerous comparatively is because these third world African countries couldn't care less to record and report these crimes. How can countries without running water, nevermind a functioning government, care enough to record daily instances of crime? Nevermind that it would also be a conflict of interest because these countries rely HEAVILY on tourism and not reporting would be in their best interest. This is also the same with Covid 19. SA has the highest cases simply because it has the infrastructure and capacity to record all these cases. People just suffer from cognitive dissonance, they see statistics and forget most of these African countries don't even have the capabilities and incentive to record their own negative statistics.
Truth need to be told ,the reason Nigerian man are dating SA woman is for citizenship and the short cut to overseas, did u ever had a SAfrican woman being taken to Nigeria to be introduce to the family big no .
I may be a white man, but South Africa is my country too, so here's my take: The few African South Africans I interact with seem to be of the opinion that Nigerian women are louder, untamed and not nearly as well shaped as the 'local talent's in South Africa. Call it what you will, but if a man doesn't find you attractive, what is the point of even making a video about reasons for not dating him?
South African men prefer dating South African women or women from SADC region like Botswana, Lesotho, Zimbabwe and Malawi. Most South African women date and marry South African men.
Please respect our SA culture when it comes to lobola it's not allowed to be paid at once not that the man does not have money or cow's. The reason for this is for the families to meet more than once.
Great topic. Here's my take: I think this has a lot to do with how we've evolved as humans, and how we attempt to ensure our survival, and also ensure there's benefits from relationships. And yes, there's the element of love in relationships, but survival always triumphs. In this case, Nigeria isn't doing well economically at the moment, so Nigerian men will readily be wiling to intermarry with SA women, in order to ensure that they and their children will have a home that's doing reasonably well. Because even though SA isn't perfect, it's currently a safer bet to raise children in, more than most African countries. On the other hand, I as a SA man, won't have the same benefit if I were to marry a woman from Nigeria or another part of Africa. And don't get me wrong, there's love in some of those Nigerian man - SA woman relationships. But the survival factor is always there. It has to be there because it's human and that's how we've evolved, unfortunately or fortunately.
Sir, I don't think your analysis are right. Nigeria is a funny country , we may have issues but we do understand ourselves, when it comes to us. And one other thing is Nigerian men in South Africa, came for many reasons and when they find South African woman that they love and can build their life with they marry them. Is not because they can't take of their children in Nigeria. You don't even know us, look Nigerians support their own it's a fact. We may have our problems because of our diverse cultures, traditions, languages, values etc but we do support one another. We know ourselves, you don't understand us and it's difficult to understand us , because you are a South African.
@@sundayigbinovia6359 I've lived around Nigerians for a long time so I know what I'm talking about. This is not an attack on Nigeria, it's just what I've learned from the time I've spent with them. And the issue of survival is a human one, not just a Nigerian one. Every human thinks of survival more than anything, whether they're aware of it or not.
@@kagisomgibi4644 Dont bother to explain more because the reason they come here in large number not even comparable to us going in Nigeria is the same survival reason. No Nigerian who own business like MTN in SA, so you are 100% correct, it is survival and denying this is ignorant At the end of the day, in our position, is a catch for a Nigerian guy to find an SA lady while for us SA men there is none to gain to get a Nigerian woman. It also psychologically helps them to think they fit in our society if they have a south african wife while for us there is nothing like that, a Nigerian sister is just another lady All this means, there is a demand from foreigners to get SA women while there is no demand for SA mem to get foreign women. There is no that drive or a will because we don't have to
You are on point. Even here in the UK Nigerian men after other women from different countries or cultures because they want citizenship or their money. How many stories do we read of Nigerian men marrying women who are old enough to be their grannies!! It's survival instinct, whereas SA men are not lacking in that department economically and there's a wide range of women from the Sub Saharan region to choose from.
@@kagisomgibi4644 In your scenario, it is the woman who would look for a man "to ensure that they and their children will have a home that's doing reasonably well". Men do not generally look for women that can support them and their children from an economic standpoint.
I'm a Black American and I'm going to date Nigerian women (Igbo in particular). African American men are now starting to look at African women and we have our eyes on Nigeria & South Africa. So Naija men & S. African men, get ready....we are coming for the hot women in your country. 😁
Lol you are welcome bro 😊 just don't exploit our sisters. We're not intimidated or worried there's plenty women here(South Africa) real stuff on surgeries😁.
Lately there has been an increase in Nigerian women married to South Africans. Many people would not know that they are Nigerians because they now have South African Surnames, papers and speak the local languages. Love knows no boundaries. 🇳🇬🇿🇦
lol I think you just made this up...you’re correct in that there are Nigerians who’ve been in SA for over a decade and yes plenty speak local languages eg SeSotho, XiTsonga,Zulu, Xhosa etc because it’s survival requirement as wherever you go in SA you must speak the commonly spoken language to fit in...SAnsspeak English but they’ll always prefer to speak own languages...they are produc like that of language and culture. but hardly of Nigerian women in SA marry SA Black men...you’d be hard pressed to even find one. But Nigerian on the other hand and other non SA African men from west Africa, central, north and east Africa are marrying SA Black women way more...I’ve even seen Somali men married to SA Black women in the villages now and this is also still rare but it’s happening...Black men in SA just view themselves as the custodians of culture and identity and have a preference for SA women to keep culture and also they just prefer local , hence they don’t venture much outside of SA, Eswatini, Lesotho & Botswana.not saying SA men don’t ever marry outside but saying it’s red, nothing common about it as you claim
Come on now, Nigerian women look nothing like South African women and I'm not even saying this as a diss so it's highly unlikely anyone would mistaken a Nigerian woman for South African purely because she has a South African surname and I'm not going to even get started on the flamboyant colorful outfits and over the top make up which will be a dead give away on top of everything else
I am a South African man, married to a South African woman from my own Batswana nation for 24 years. What do I do with a noisy Nigerian woman who still believes in backwards dark rituals?
@@ChimmaFrancherryyour people generalize us all the time why not give back that same energy. Or how every women in the continent Is concerned with becoming nigeiran mans next ritual or being sex trafficked by nigeiran men. Speak about how Nigeria has the highest sex trafficking rates in all of africa to italy and Dubai.
It is South African man who do the approaching don’t think or imagen reasons why we are not approaching u, the truth is even American Woman cannot compete with South African women. And the other honest truth is we just love our woman they are simply 🔥
The question should be Why are Nigerian men leaving these "beautiful and well-mannered" Nigerian women for South African women? To me it seems that Nigerian men put more value on S.An women. Now why would a S. African man leave a woman of high value for a "reject"? 90% of Nigerian men, given the opportunity, would choose to marry a S. African, Ethiopian, European or Asian woman over a Nigerian woman.
As far as lobola is concerned, historically, it is said that you don't finish paying lobola. This is because you're not buying the woman, you're building a relationship between two families. So as a result, you can pay in installments every few years
South African men generally aren't interested in non South African women. 🤷🏿♀️. But most Nigerian/ foreign non SADC African women are here for their husbands.
Personally, as a man from Mzansi, I admire African beauty and know all African women have a lot to offer, but I do remember making a conscious decision that i’d shop locally, one of the reasons being parents from neighboring countries badmouth SA women and portray them as loose and unruly and caution their sons not to came back with a wife from SA, many of my SADC friends confirmed that to be true; and really, any of us, now as SA men, marrying outside SA would strengthen that lie, cause the argument will be “even their men cross borders for wives”, it really didn’t sit well with me that such a shade was cast on our women. Long story short, South African men in any case hardly ever chase women from other countries, for many reasons including this one, they may talk bad about us , true, but we defend em with our very souls, we have a love-hate relationship going on,☺️☺️
this is true my brother. I am from Botswana but have many friends in South Africa and visit often. I see South African girls putting their men down on twitter and youtube but not the other way round... and yet its not South African men putting S.A women down, but men from other african countries. I have friends from other african countries too, and indeed there is the stereotypes about South African women that you have mentioned.
To be honest, they might say that about SA women, but let's not pretend that they wouldn't find any reason to bad mouth South Africans. Our continental brothers and sisters don't like South Africans at all, that's why I as a South African woman, wouldn't date or marry any of them... But thank you, and some of us love our wonderful SA men... You people hype up our looks so much that even other nations find us beautiful, thanks to you. Sometimes jealous women bad mouth us
@@hannahakorede6497 Save your breath and time, south african men are not even interested, so we really don't want to know all that because it doesn't affect us
In all honesty, I dont even look at Nigerian men. Not at all. I guess their reputation precedes them. Not interested at all.the rotten apples damaged the image of their fellow good, honest and hardworking countrymen.
I really like your heart and mind going into this subject, you have identified that this is a sensitive issue and we South Africans receive a lot criticism from foreigners but, you took the route to understand South Africans and not approach it with generalising and judgement. And I thank you for this. I think we need to ask South African men why they don't date or marry foreign women never mind Nigerians
I love how you worded your statement. And yes, she was also very good in that she didn't make any conclusions, but asked questions,amd allowed people to answer.
What an interesting topic which is on south Africans minds, thanks for sharing your thoughts, I definitely can relate and understand. Keep up the great work. This topic needs a talk show, 😆
SA men when we marry or date foreigners mostly are from SADC as we share lot of similarities culture and language South African can marry from this countries Swaziland, Lesotho,Botswana,Namibia, Zimbabwe and Mozambique and still won't even see the different who is foreigner or not because of same culture we share
I have seen in Nigerian movies a boyfriend can directly approach the girlfriends’ family and start negotiating marriage terms. Here in South Africa you can never do that. It is seen as being disrespectful and you may get hurt. You rather send your elders to negotiate on your behalf after you and your girlfriend have decided to marry.
@@tosinojo7310 even if the elders are dead, you can still get other older people in distant relatives or any elder people who can do it on your behalf. Under no circumstances can you go and negotiate fir your own marriage.
It’s all a matter of supply. Not enough Nigerian women in SA. South Africans are also not short of single women. There’s more women than there are men in SA. They’re beautiful too.
true meanwhile in Nigeria we have 15% more men and some of them are married to multiple wives..so we have a shortage of women..we export them to you and kenya and its a win win situation.
@@tosinojo7310 Maybe stop exporting a burden of men who are economic migrants and take any women interested in your men and import into Nigeria, men take women into their home in African tradition, not the other way around. We export companies into Nigeria not economic migrants and the shortage of females should not be used as an excuse for economic migrants
@@chiichii6698 How are Nigerians building our economy? Did you pull that from your arse? You can't even build toilets and roads in Nigeria but you building our economy? SA has the most diverse economy in Africa, what do you know about economy since Nigeria is poverty capital? Remember, nobody invited your people to SA, they came here because SA is already 100 x better than your country
Major reason really is because South African men are generally more attracted to South African women. I'm not sure why really but they prefer local girls.. weirdly, even Nigerian men don't usually date Nigerian women in South Africa, unless they're already married. Which as a woman I honestly appreciate because I wouldn't want to be deprived the opportunity to date someone because of where I'm from. Very interesting topic Chimma♥
That's how most of you gain popularity though. You'll be surprised when your own sisters make videos on RU-vid disrespecting you. I don't know how it is difficult to marry foreigners and leave us alone.
@@mmachuenemaloba5594 no it the media, it publish so many bad things done by men , and ignore those who do good. So a bad stereotype turns to build up around that .
I always wondered why, why Nigerian women can't date us but you answered me especially the first 2 answered very well said. 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦 Keep up the good work 👌
I am from 🇨🇩 ( Congo) in my culture man don't pay lobola once... It depends on a man. Some man they have all the money and other they don't have all. Most of people give lobola 2, 3 or 4 times it depends. Some ladies they even get old with their husband and lobola has not finish.
You come across as a respectful lady so I will also keep my comment respectful. Even amongst my friends, I have never ever heard South African men talking about women from other countries. We unfortunately just don’t find them attractive enough.
You are so incredible and I agree with you with your closing remarks because you know "LOVE conquers all". Even this thing of saying Nigeria this South Africa that could be a thing of the past. God bless!!!💘💘
So true. The Nigerian women here are used by Nigerian men who have divorced SA women already after getting citizenship. So they're not single. Why should we chase other men's wives?
as a south african man, i will be honest south african woman are beautiful, ow my gosh i will say this again, south african woman are very beautiful in mind, spirit and the body, and know how to dress, their not caught in some cultural or religioius wara wara, nope these are woman who aspire to be great and dress the way they feel and are very confident and express their confidence.. their on point all the time, , niaja has some beautiful woman i guess, just generally over dressed generally even on a very hot day, not sure if its a culture thing or what.. but i just cant deal with the accent, generally not interested in the culture shock that comes with niaja woman, in short we are patriotic about our country and did i mentions south african woman are hot...... it would have to take something very very special for me to date a niaja in general.. 100% proudly south african woman for me..
To Mary a Nigerian you’ll be bringing shame to the family and majority of South African women who married Nigerian, it wasn’t easy for them many will tell you tha they have been accused of bringing shame to the family and many foreigners who married South African women they were after the South African passport, hence South African men don’t give a demn about other african passport they don’t even dream of living in nigeria. If Nigerian women can marry a South African man, that poor woman will suffer a lot in the hands of her in-laws she won’t be welcomed. South African men only Merry in Swaziland, Lesotho, botswana.
SA men don't date women from such different culture. Maybe as far as Zimbabwe or other Southern African countries. Only a few will even attempt that even if they get opportunity. They may admire your beauty or acknowledge good qualities but that's all. Nigerian man attempt to date any women though. I know more Nigerian man with foreign wives. There many Zimbabweans married to SA men.
I agree a lot of Nigerians in ZA are married. In my township there's no single Nigerian we are just south African and our neighbors Zim and Moz. Nigerians are in the city busy with salons
@Shakka Proxy Intolerance towards those who are different to them is what accentuates a Nigerian's life. There may be a few cultured exceptions here and there, but I have seen enough from them to draw my conclusion. Statistics is an exact science and frequency of occurrences need not be interpreted.
@@ZAR_72they cope alot I even said nigeiran men are not attractive and south african men are a million times more attractive you should've seen how they cried because they know it's TRUE.
South African men love their ladies..it very rare for them to marry outside..swatiland yes, Bontswana yes, Lesotho yes..mozambique no, but prtuguese yes..zim its very rare...A woman who marries outside is never held at high esteem even by women..they say she is tired and has been gallavanting a lot ...i have male friends ..i know what they say..once a lady date outside they will not touch her.
This is true, I usually don't have a problem with a lady dating outside but there are some nationalities that I just don't respect or value due to personal experience and I turn to not rate them or want anything to do with them, even ladies who turn to date them, I turn to lose respect I just can't help it even if I want, however this is bad because is a generalization and putting people in groups but I just cant help it. This is the reason why some women chose to hide their past because for me it will be a deal breaker. Imagine I am involved with someone who use to sleep with a drug lord or an ex who didn't bath we'll or look after themselves, It is a red flag for me
It's only SA women who are hurt who sometimes try to date foreigners and marry them, but most of the time they come back when they realize how a woman in other foreign countries or when they agree to marry a foreigner they don't want to leave SA. I don't think there's a South African woman who wants to be makoti and stay in that foreign country. Most of the time we tend to date those foreigners who have "South African" vibes.
I'm a Zulu woman ,I love Zulu man , the way they a and when esethi ," Mina ngingum Zulu ubokhumbula " not ukuthi they a bully but that's what they a ,I don't see myself married to other countries , no ,no
