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The Misconception About Filipina Single Mothers

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@MyWatchIsEnded Год назад

If women sleep with someone they better expect to raise that child alone since they are taking on the responsibility of child bearing without being married. YOU are the one who decided to have sex, you weren't raped. YOU allowed sex without protection. YOU couldnt control your sexual desires. YOU are an adult capable of thinking for yourself and making decisions like sex which can have life long consequences, and benefits. YOU are to blame for being a single mother. The man just did what you allowed him to do and now the woman wants to blame him for not wanting to be a father. If you wanted him to be a father.... Why didn't you marry him? 🤔

@albraun-sq6rg Год назад

The ravings of a potential Deadbeat Dad (if he isn't already.) Blames women, not himself. No sense of responsibility. Ignore trollers like this Shay, you and your guests said it all in the video. 99.9% of your viewers know what this guy is. You don't have to respond to losers like him.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

This is coming from someone in TX who doesn't want anything serious but an open relationship.

@rednab2001 Год назад

@@albraun-sq6rg You are wrong and the commenter was correct. Women control access to sex. Men control access to relationships. When a woman makes a decision to engage in sexual relationships without commitment, the woman is rolling the dice and the fault lies with her first and foremost. The accountability starts with her. Shifting all accountability towards others is wrong. We all know women hate accountability. It is part of female nature. Being a single mother in the Philippines is definitely tougher than it is in the US due to there being no welfare state or child support. All the more reason that women should take sex more seriously there.

@Anthony_in_Bloomington_Indiana Год назад

Thursday, May 18, 2023 Metatron, you are as cold as ice. 🥶 You don't have a single drop 💧 of compassion or empathy. You are selfish, selfish, and selfish. 😕 Well, you did pick Metatron for a nickname. I see you're one of those overweight, nerdy, gamer, computer boys with next to no social skills. Most of what you wrote also applies to the boy. When a person abandons a woman he got pregnant, I can not call him a man. There is an old expression - it takes 2 to tango. 💃🕺 There is no sex education in The Philippines. There is next to no birth control. And sadly, there is a general stigma against using condoms. In one of her videos, Rubeauti recalled being in a convenience store. There was a western man ahead of her, and he picked a box of condoms from a shelf and added the box to the things he was buying. The cashier was a woman, and she gave him a weird look, as if to say - why are you buying condoms? The man just ignored her. And ... abortion is illegal in The Philippines. So with all those conditions, lots of young women are going to get pregnant. This is the reality of the situation. And Filipino men are famous for abandoning their families, being alcoholics or drug addicts, and gambling their money away. Ooohh, but you don't understand reality. You live in an artificial world of video games. 👾👽👻 And, of course, I am not writing this for you, since people who lack empathy don't want to improve themselves, but for other people who will read your sad note. Someone needs to act as a foil to cold hearted people. Thank you for your video, Shay! 😀 It was so touching to see all the love and effort you put into raising your sweet daughters. It was especially touching to see the 3 of you on the beach, working to clean up litter from other people and keeping the boardwalk and your beautiful beach 🏖clean. 🥰 I wish you abundant success and happiness! 😀 I love you, too. 💙

@iluvmoney6767 Год назад

@@Life_WithShay You say that single Mothers are not damaged goods....but it is the filipino people that say this! You know that a filipina Mother would NEVER allow her filipino son to marry a filipina single Mother. NEVER. Because she thinks that the single Mother is "damaged goods." Am I correct? Which is why the only choice for a single filipina Mother is to be with a much older foreigner....because he is the one to accept her and her child. This is a fact! So don't get pregnant to begin with and insist your filipino bf use a condom! INSIST!!!!! No excuses!!!!! Or things will NEVER change!!!!

@George-ux6zz 6 месяцев назад

I dated after she left but only one seemed to be really interested in me. One day she came over and wanted to talk but left her 2 kids with her babysitter. She's asked me to marry her, but under one condition. I had to give my son up for adoption. I was shocked, very angry, and very hurt. I couldn't even speak to her I was so angry. I opened the front door and pointed. At that point she knew I was extremely angry and she left. She came back 2 weeks later and said, ok you can keep your son. The problem was, now I knew she didn't want my son around and I couldn't take the chance on her abusing my son. So I told her to never come back. After that I dated but never found the right woman. It turns out most American women don't like men with kids bcuz I'm still single.

@jdtravels5140 2 месяца назад

I would not date a western woman with a child, but I would date a Filipina. Children are a blessing.

@paulsawyer4541 Год назад

I raised my two girls as a single dad and was very fortunate to have the help of family. I can't imagine leaving a child behind but it happens all the time. At 67 I'm not interested in having more children but if I found love with a single mom her child would be loved like my own

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you for those kind and sympathetic words Paul!

@jamestopeka2236 4 месяца назад

Me too but I'm 63 and my story matches yours to the T but I raised 3 son's . My Philippina is 51 and she has 3 grown girls that I love dearly , they have been in my life 10 years .

@WOLFSENT1 Месяц назад

Science has proven that single fathers do just as good if not better than two parent households. Single mothers on the other hand have a dismal record.

@user-di8yk3bu6u 8 месяцев назад

I am a retired University Professor...taught my first course in 1983...had many single moms as students...they worked very hard and were the best students and graduated and got really good jobs making very good money.

@quackersna Год назад

I'm a single father, having lost my wife tragically a couple of years ago. If that makes me damaged goods then so be it. I'm living my life in a way to bring maximum happiness to myself and others and anyone who doesn't support that is probably not someone I would spend my time on. Much respect to all of the single parents out there. I'll also just encourage all of you to never give up. Like Paul said in the clip, there are men out there who will view it as a benefit. My children are not mine biologically, but they are mine. When I met their mother, I only saw good things about it. I promised that I would care for them if anything ever happened, and I'm happy to have an opportunity to fulfill that promise. Much love to you all. 🙏🧡

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Hi Mr. Quackers! No, you are not damaged goods, as we are not either! You are a good man who is there for your children, biological or not! Good for you!

@quackersna Год назад

@@Life_WithShay thank you Shay. I honestly view it as the greatest thing I will ever do in life.

@pauldeanda4985 5 месяцев назад

You are an exceptional man, my friend!

@jamesvermeulen4695 Год назад

From a former single father from America, who's now in Dumaguete for a long vacation , I think that you are inspiring. Keep up the faith, being a single parent can be difficult, but is well worth it in the end.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much James for your kind words! I have faith in my daughters, and our relationship! That always keeps me going, along with all of you who watch my videos :)

@StanHasselback Год назад

This video is really well done Shay, It's been my experience in life that people who have to overcome some obstacle or difficulty in life end out to be better people for it not damaged goods. Its how you respond to a situation in your life that makes you who you are. I follow all the women you interviewed and I'd love to meet all of them because I think they all are very special people who have a real depth to their personalities. None of them are damaged goods in any way, they are resilient strong individuals who I would be proud to call friends of mine. My mother had two children and her husband just took off and left never to be heard from again. My father married her and she had 3 more children. All 7 of us grew up as one family and my mother went on to get a doctorate in Education. The strangest thing to me about single mothers is that there is a man out there somewhere who has a child and he doesn't care about them at all. I could never live knowing I had a child and not want to be part of their life.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Stan! As usual, your comment is very thoughtful and informative! Your mother sounds like an amazing woman! And yes, when I look at my beautiful daughters, I ask that same question all the time and I think the men missed out, but I try to make up for them everyday.

@BusinessChatWithRob 11 месяцев назад

My wife was a single mother of 3 when I met her. I had already raised two sons and being a father is one of the greatest joys I've experienced. Not every man would agree and they are certainly free to have their own opinions but, my wife gave me three amazing gifts that bring immense love and joy into my life. For the deadbeat dads, out there, real men that are ready to STEP UP say thank you for getting out of our way. Any boy can be a sperm donor, it takes a MAN to be a father. For all ladies that are facing fears, struggles and misguided opinions because your partner wasn't a real man, BE PROUD! You are the mothers of the human race just like any other mother!

@Life_WithShay 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for that Robert! From all Mamas :-)

@dannydubose Год назад

Another thoughtful and great video Shay. I myself can understand the struggle you encountered because I was a single dad who raised 2 boys by myself. Riseing above your challenges has made you a better person and I am glad to have met you as a fellow Earth human

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Awww, thank you Danny! And thank you for being a single dad who also played both roles! You should be proud of yourself for that. And yes, I am a better person because of my children...

@OneJuanWon Год назад

A very thought-provoking presentation on a topic in which everyone should give introspection to, especially those who tend to cast labels or judgement onto others without really knowing their backstory first. The challenges of single mothers in PH is quite different from the same in other, more developed societies where support systems abound....and the statistics provided are rather sobering. We all should invest more time in observing and familiarizing ourselves with someone new before we place any kind of a label on them. Well done Shay 😊

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much One Juan Won! Very well said!

@davidkarl5192 Год назад

30 years ago, I was a struggling single father, it was because of my son that I had success. his existence made me stronger. As a grown man he still gives me inspiration.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Awww! Thank you for your wonderful comment! I agree completely! I think you are a wonderful father, and I'm sure that you also inspire your son!

@davidkarl5192 Год назад

@@Life_WithShay I can share another point of view on the single mom...I'm 55 and have a son already and he is an adult. when I become an xpat I will probably choose a woman with kids because I do not wish to be the reason that a woman can never be a mom. So, I would prefer to date a single mom because I want her life to be complete.

@RichieRichAbroad-us6ol 8 месяцев назад

Hi Shay, Richie Rich here, I have watched a few vids of yours and stitched a few vids that include Leahs and your content. I already have a partner, and I dont simp so im not "fishing" here. I do, however, want to pay you a compliment regarding how you carry yourself on a public forum and your ability to succinctly discuss difficult topics like this one. You are likely an inspiration to other women here in the Philippines, whether single moms or not. Keep up the hard work. I wonder if it wouldn't be really beneficial to talk about some of the mistakes you may have made as a young girl that you would take back in retrospect. Maybe that would also help a lot of the teens or young ladies here to consider your words before making the same decisions as you at that time. Keep up the hard work. It always pays off. Sincerely, Richie Rich

@artking8544 Год назад

A beautiful and informative work of art Shay. Well done!

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much for that! You are always so encouraging!

@rorybellamy2533 Год назад

Thanks! Good message and education , keep up the good reporting

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you Rory for your kind donation! It is very much appreciated!

@annbreakable4228 Год назад

thank you Shay, i love this whole episode.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you Ann! You were wonderful, as always :)

@ColWJW Год назад

Great to have a healthy you back, another honest and informative video.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you Col Wilcox!

@stannmcb3 Год назад

Wow you are a great videographer and story teller. I was a single parent. Being a parent is seeing your child not as a burden, not as baggage, not as an obligation but as the most important investment you will ever have. The dividends you hope for in return for time and work is to see them flourish into competent adults that will be happy and satisfied with life. My daughter is thirty now and I still love her more than the air in my lungs. You should be proud of this work on your video. Excellent.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Stan for such thoughtful and encouraging words! You are a great father!

@TomScott__ Год назад

Good video Shay. Thank you for making this video on the side of some Filipina that never gets told in a loving way. ❤️

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you for understanding Tom! This was a difficult one to make.

@lostinparadize9826 Год назад

Aloha Shay, Great topic for the world to see. The other side of the Philippines. You thank US for coming with you. We THANK YOU for letting us 🙏 ❤️. Have a beautiful night and a better day tomorrow.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much for your kind words, and for watching!

@metalroofing6708 Год назад

That is some damn beautiful scenery and impressive videography. I liked the soundtrack too. Well done!

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you MR!

@__Craig__ Год назад

Simply amazing content. Bringing both an expat and a Filipina perspective was brilliant. Love the energy you project on your channel. Well Done!!!

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Craig! They were all great collaborators! :)

@deantucker1464 4 месяца назад

Shay...this video was so well done, I just wanted to congratulate you and say that maybe, these types of videos are also your calling. Very well done, informative and moving! Much respect...Dean

@Life_WithShay 4 месяца назад

Thank you so much Dean!! Yes, we are planning to do many more of these documentary/interview style, plus reflective videos.

@deantucker1464 4 месяца назад

@@Life_WithShay That's fantastic, Shay...your voice and demeanor are perfect for them! I'll be in Dumaguete permanently sometime this June or July and who knows, maybe we'll run into each other. I'm good friends with Goldfinger and know Paul and Mae as well so who knows. Take care and God Bless! Dean

@brucestanley9330 10 месяцев назад

Terrific video Shay. It was really nice to learn a little about you. You look like you've done a great job raising your children. 💐

@Life_WithShay 10 месяцев назад

Thank you so much Bruce! I'm very proud of them. :-)

@napoleonmdusa8877 7 месяцев назад

Great video content, Shay.

@TruthFinder7839 8 месяцев назад

Everyone grows up and learns the lessons of life their own way. I do believe once we have made decisions that makes life harder for us individually, we usually adapt and carry on the best that we are capable of, and this will make us stronger as we age on. These struggles I believe make us more aware of the downside of poor decisions that we are capable of making, and thus we focus on slowing down and careful thought for ourselves, to make better choices for our futures. That isn’t being damaged in any way to make poor decisions as young adults, that’s just called life and learning from it in our own special way, to proceed on our unique journey going forward. All the single Mom’s are stronger and cherish their children, everything usually works out in the end for most of them. My best wishes for you and your daughters, you’ve been blessed in so many ways, you’re very lucky indeed. 😊

@steelcitytv Год назад

New subscriber from the US Pittsburgh Pennsylvania beautiful work keep it up can't wait to visit this year

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Welcome aboard Steelcity TV! Working on the new video, hope to get it out this week. 😉

@terrysolomon6513 Год назад

Watching your vlog about single mothers gives me GREAT RESPECT FOR YOU. I’m working through a similar situation with a woman I met and I’m working on being a better man. I’m working out how to help and support her and make life better for her family. Thank you for showing me the path.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you for that Terry! 😌

@danielupinski7101 Год назад

In Europe women initiate 70-80% of divorces. For comparison, in informal relationships, breakups are initiated equally. In the west, it's women who kick the fathers out of the family the most. In the Philippines, men often use a "hit-and-run" strategy. There is a big difference between our countries.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

I agree with that Daniel, but I think Filipinas are becoming less tolerant of bad behavior from their men. Like I did, many will leave or get rid of their partners and choose to be on their own rather than stay in bad relationships. Not enough, but it is changing.

@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Год назад

GOOD JOB shay! This is so GOOD, very creative, I get emotional while watching 🙂💕

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Send proof kuno be hahahaha.

@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Год назад

@@Life_WithShay very good editing pud Kay WA ko na ulawan 🤣

@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Год назад

@@Life_WithShay ayaw na basun ma discover ko ka gma 😅

@Scrunchychingo 11 месяцев назад

I’m super impressed with you Shay. You really seem to be a quality person.

@Life_WithShay 11 месяцев назад

Thank you so much! :-)

@williambreeze2659 Год назад

What a well thought out video! I have my own views on this topic, but I respect the presentation you've laid forth here!

@Life_WithShay Год назад

I appreciate that William! :-)

@vincesalzer9855 Год назад

This is a very well done video. It looks like you have been creating videos for years. You will go far in your pursuit. I encourage you to Go For It!

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Vince for your support and encouragement! 😌

@jeffkanyo9978 Год назад

Welcome back shay!! Hope you feeling better!!

@MrStrocube Год назад

You’re an inspiration. Wishing you and your family every success. I just subscribed.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Juan and welcome to the journey! :-)

@bonsaicho1 3 месяца назад

wow, you took a tough topic and laid it out frank and concise. your message has encouraged me to be more open with my search for a new wife (second chance), that has children. Thank you so much!!

@Life_WithShay 3 месяца назад

You are so welcome!

@Biarritz60 Год назад

Another great video from Shay Travels, and congratulations for 2k subs :-), you are the best, thanks Shay for sharing your life with us...

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thanks so much Michael No, you all are the best! :)

@davesmith9916 Год назад

oh my goodness Shay. This was such a good video. The m essage is so important and was so well presented by you.I hope many, many people watch this. Thank you.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Dave!

@dougl707 Год назад

Shay, this video was excellent. Your ability to combine multiple segments to support your ideas is very good! The individual segments flowed very smoothly. I suspect you spent a great deal of time on this video and it really demonstrates some great abilities. Sound throughout was very consistent and I thought the individual segments were appropriate for your topics. I have a daughter that is a single mom with two kids; a 16 year old and a 3 year old. She is a great Mom raising two great kids. You are doing a great job with your kids. Congratulations on this video.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Rockherder for your well thought out comment(s)! I appreciate you being part of my channel! And yes, my kids are great :)

@gregsarah430 Год назад

Another great video Shay ! Both me and my husband were brought up by single moms ! It was difficult, but we learned to appreciate the single things in life !

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Love that Greg and Sarah! I want my children to appreciate the simple things in life too!

@curtiscagle6261 3 месяца назад

My wife was a single mother when we first met. She was only 19 years old and her ex boyfriend, left her when she was 6 months pregnant. Five years later we got married and I adopted her son.

@Life_WithShay 3 месяца назад

Wonderful Curtis! :-)

@fturfler2 Год назад

as a Documentary filmmaker, this video is so well done. I just found your channel and hope the rest of your content is just as good.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

I appreciate that. Thanks a lot.

@edm4844 Год назад

So glade you are feeling better!! Loved the video! Yes, the single Filipina mom has to be given a lot of credit for doing it all on their own. They are amazing moms let’s make that clear. In the US single moms do get assistance from the government to include going after dead beat dads who do not own up the their financial responsibility for their part in creating the child. So hats off to all the single Filipina moms!👏👏 In the end every child is a blessing! Great video Shay! 🙏🙏

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Ed! I agree, my children are my blessing!

@billmiller5741 Год назад

This conversation and video is well done. I was never happy knowing single fathers who were not involved in their childs life. So many words can said of this. I appreciate this video you have done because it sparks up a conversation or a thought to oneself to become a better man. Thank you

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Bill for such a thoughtful comment!

@brian-dee2244 Год назад

Shay, sitting here in Melbourne Australia, I want to tell you that you are a hero of mine. I decided this when I saw the video of you and the girls cleaning the beaches of Dumaguete, and I'm further convinced after watching this. In fact, all the single mothers that dust themselves off and raise their children without support from either fathers or the government, but from their own hard work, are to be admired, not looked down upon. I am retiring to the Philippines, in the next few years and will be there for a visit later in this year. I would have no hesitation in being with a single mom and supporting both her, and her children, except for one thing... When a single mother is a married single mother, that is a scary thing for a foreign guy. It means that we would be breaking your laws and opening ourselves up to the repercussions of that by being with someone else's legal wife. Until the government make annulments easier and more cost effective, I'm not sure things will improve. Your girls will always know and remember the sacrifices you have made for them. People like you make this world a better place.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

So nicely written Bee dee! We are all hoping the marriage laws will soon change. The bill allowing for the legalization of divorce has passed the House Committee. We are all just waiting for the bill to be enacted. Everything here moves so slow. I have never been married, but I want divorce to be legal for everyone.

@noahcount7132 Год назад

Very insightful and very well done presentation, Shay. 👍 The observations you included from Filipina single moms and from American expats Bud, Mike, and Paul provided significant wisdom and credibility to this video's message.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Noah for your kind words and your support! 😌

@Jason-47.. Год назад

Glad you are up and about again. Hopefully no more sickness for many more years. Another great video! Have a great day 😊

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you Jason! You too!

@willc4922 Год назад

Awesome video on a very important topic. Glad you are able to make these videos as well as your nature videos

@Life_WithShay Год назад

So glad you like them Will! Thank you for being a part of my channel!

@222jojo Год назад

Excellent story that needs to be discussed. Thank you for being transparent and I am sorry you (and all single mothers) had to go through this. God has better things and it's such a pleasure to see your gifts on display in your video's!

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Joe! And thank you for your support and encouragement!

@blueopal2840 8 месяцев назад

You see many videos from vloggers in the Philippines relating to this style of video that do not have any direct experience with the topic of this video. This is the second or third video in your collection that I have viewed, and I continue to be impressed by your calmness and style on presenting your subjects to you viewers. I have to admit I am very busy personally and I pick your videos at random to view and see your style, and it seems to be fluent at this stage. Children may not always be planned in peoples lives but they should never be a regret. I have two beautiful children from being married in my life, and they now raise their own beautiful children within their marriages, but I would never have judged them for marital status as my children and grandchildren are treasures of my life. As mentioned by an earlier commentator the marital rules and divorce costs there are prohibitive and a deterrent for those of us that live abroad. Enough said on this video :)

@Life_WithShay 8 месяцев назад

Thank you for such a thoughtful comment! We appreciate your insights into our work!

@GSFxEdge Год назад

Thanks for sharing your story Shay. Your articulation is immaculate as is your videography. :)

@Life_WithShay Год назад

So glad you enjoyed it George! Thank you for your kind words!

@kevingamblesonlife9999 Год назад

Shay, this is a documentary quality vlog.. Well done.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Kevin! 😊

@kevingamblesonlife9999 Год назад

@@Life_WithShay you're welcome. I look to filipinas to have children. It's a plus for me. I have no family of my own so it's a ready made family ☺️

@Life_WithShay Год назад

And you will find a good Filipina who has a child or children who will truly appreciate you!

@kevingamblesonlife9999 Год назад

@@Life_WithShay God bless you and your family.🙏

@lynne14344 Год назад

Omg Shay. Ive been longing for a vlogger that tackle a positive situation of being single mom . Youre a gem for us! You nailed it Ms Shay every words you said are true. Honestly, teary eye here you inspired us as a single mom, and praying my annulment will finish soon. Love you too- Lynne

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Lynne! Your comment really means so much to me! Thank you for watching and being a part of my channel!

@free2roam674 Год назад

Hello Lynne, wonderful comment on a truly incredible video. I really hope everything works out for you. Cam

@chadcadsonvii5258 Год назад

Data from around the world shows that children raised by single mothers are statistically more likely to; go to prison, fail at work and education, fail romantically and be more violent and antisocial. So what are the positives to potentially ruining your child's life? On top of this, single mothers are a burden on society that all men through their taxes have to shoulder. (in case you don't know, women are net tax beneficiaries and men are net tax payers.)

@dansharpe-ss9nn 3 месяца назад

Thank you Shay for your honest video. It is a delicate subject but you covered it very strongly and well. I would hope to find someone as beautiful, intelligent, loving, and honest as you.

@Life_WithShay 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much Dan! 😌

@danielwarnes7231 10 месяцев назад

This is an amazing video!!! It is definitely the single best I have seen about single moms in the Philippines, SERIOUSLY. There was not one comment from any of your guests that I did not agree with (I follow Paul and others for 4 years now). As Paul mentioned, I am one of the men who actually thinks finding a partner with a child or children would be a blessing because I don't want to make a baby at 67 years of age. But would like to know that I have been able to provide for my family and enjoy the love and joy they bring to my life. Thanks for sharing this especially because of the personal information, took courage. Oh my mom was single mom too.

@Life_WithShay 10 месяцев назад

Thank you so much Daniel for such a thoughtful comment! Yes, it is difficult for me to talk personally, but these are my experiences, and I can only really speak about my own life and of those close to me who I really know. Otherwise I am just gossiping. I don't ever want to do that. :-)

@thenorwegian3292 Год назад

Shay !!! This was an awesome vlog. I know I have said it before but this was a professional art of work. And on this vlog you are telling us a lot what a beautiful human being you are. I loved it!!!❤️ Best wishes to you and your family from your subscriber from Norway 🇳🇴

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Norwegian for your kind words as usual! Best wishes to you and your family as well!

@chrisbeidler162 Год назад

First off thank you for the many hours of labor, blood, sweat and tears you put into filming and editing this film. It really is well presented. Many points of view are bought into the comments section and people don't generally change their opinions so I'm not sure mine really matters. What matters is you bravely said what you've wanted to say for a while now I think. And you've shown the community that a life is not defined by a few bad choices but can be redeemed by taking responsibility and changing what you can and accepting what you cannot. You should start a women's support group. You would make a difference. Your daughters can be proud to call you their mother.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much as always Chris! Your comments are always so thoughtful. My woman's group is my channel. I don't feel much like an activist as I'm a little too nervous around a lot of people. I feel more inspired in nature, and like an artist. I (we) can speak best through my videos. Thank you for all the encouragement Chris and for being part of my channel!

@Johnny-ee6ol Год назад

I don't know if it damaged me or not, but I raised 2 kids for 14 years from an ex-wife. They were not mine, but I raised them like my own. My ex lied in many ways including cheating. She was stealing and lying, mental, physical abuse because women know they can do it here (USA). I finally left them all. Oddly, I found out a few months later, one of her new bf went to the oldest kid HS graduation. For some reason that broke my heart thinking of all the love and energy I devoted to those kids. Then I also realized my worst nightmare is raising child(ren) of another father and them growing up and wanting to go find their biological father. Which I have seen happen with every friend that raised another father's child. They seem to be understanding of the now adult child, but it never make sense to me why child had to find dad that didn't care. When I am dad, I am the only dad. I don't answer to him or ask permission from him or his family for anything. Just how it works for me right or wrong to anyone else opinion. Never had child of my own blood by choice. No win situation here if she leaves me.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Hi Johnny! You are not damaged. What good things you did for those children will come back to you in other ways. We should do for others because we want to, not because we expect anything in return. I expect nothing from what I do, including for my children. I just do it because I care about them, and I care about certain things as well. Hope to see you tomorrow at my livestream :)

@Johnny-ee6ol Год назад

@@Life_WithShay You are awesome Shay Travels ph. The only thing I wanted out of it was respect. I hope to catch you live stream also.

@robertl2227 Месяц назад

If my parents told me i was adopted i would not want to know about my biological parents. What good can come from it? Its only going to open a can of worms that someone might regret for years

@brianmaydotca 7 месяцев назад

Shay, thank you for this very well produced and photographed mini-documentary. The single mothers were presented with kindness and compassion, and you allowed us to gain a non-judgemental understanding of their view. By the end, it brought a little tear to my eye. That's the mark of a good film maker. Nicely done. I just recently developed an interest in following PH-based vloggers, and I recognized all the ones you interviewed! I have "liked" and "subscribed" to your channel Shay, and I look forward to watching more of your videos. Cheers.

@Life_WithShay 7 месяцев назад

Thank you Brian for watching and commenting! We truly appreciate it.

@rolandmueller7218 Год назад

Shay, Thanks for covering this important topic.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

My pleasure Roland! Thank you for watching!

@vince1012 Год назад

Oh wow, you have a line-up of the best Philippines youtubers. All giving positive messages.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Positive forces are greatly appreciated. 😊

@charlesc.9572 Год назад

Such an important topic you presented, with insightful thoughts from your guests (I subscribe to some of them and have much respect for them all). Well done Ms. Shay, well done.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Charles!

@alr818 Год назад

This channel has to grow. All the best to you😊

@Life_WithShay Год назад

It will ALR, with supporters like you! 😉

@jaysonpi7506 Год назад

Your subject, camera work and editing is very good.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you very much Jayson!

@andrewwoods8153 Год назад

Shay, love your depth as a person and respect who you are. The way you deal with life, this gold. Well-rounded people who live open minds and non judgemental attitudes and continually learning ,growing ,reaching beyond our limitations. Love you too, Shay. My LDR broke up with just short of three years, but we are working on our friendship, and I am still family to them, the three children and the broader family. I am working hard to be in the Phils this Christmas before permanently there in 25. Wherever life paths lead, and no matter the losses and pain and disappointment, I will be a person of love, integrity, and engagement beyond my shortcomings and mistakes and beyond my limitations. Try to hard and care to much. Life is short. ❤️ .

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Andrew for your very thoughtful comment! The Philippines will welcome a person like you and you will probably meet someone when you least expect. Great that you are working on your friendship. Thank you for being part of my channel's family too. :)

@cliffwilliams2906 Год назад

A tough subject my heart goes out to you glad you finally found someone that treats you right

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you Cliff. Yes he does :)

@jesselinthephilippines Год назад

Thank you so much miss shay 😘 💗

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you Jessel! You were really great!

@gotaplay Год назад

First of all Shay, its wonderful that your feeling better , Now I understand why editing took a while , this vlog I'm sure took a while to put together . I feel that most of your subscribers are aware of the problems singe mothers face . Me personally a single mom is ideal because at my age I wouldn't be able to watch a baby grow , watch them go through school ect . But having said that I love kids . I personally know several single moms who have had what I will call " sperm " donors who go from girl to girl leaving a trail of children , and that's not limited to pinoy . Shay , I've watched enough of your video's and seen enough to know you are raising 2 wonderful loving kids any mom would be proud of and its easy to see the type of person you are ..Any " good " man would be blessed to have you by their side to share that first smile each morning .. The girls commenting are spot on too ...

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Paul, as always! Yes, this video was a difficult one, not only because I was sick, but because it is an emotional topic, and it took others to help bring it together. And thank you for your kind words as well!

@geoffreyswan7866 7 месяцев назад

Very honest and open experiences of the harsh reality that one can face as a single mother and the difficulty you have experienced and overcome and still to face in supporting your daughters is so inspiring and a lesson to other single mothers out there no matter the challengers you face to never give up ,,AND HAVE FAITH IN GOD AND JESUS AS THEY ARE WITH YOU ALL THE WAY TO LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU TO OVERCOME ALL CHALLENGERS YOU MAY FACE,,😂😂❤❤

@dave_in_florida 2 месяца назад

Shea, great video, great audio, and great topic. You should explore dynamics of marrying single western women opposed to single Filipino women.

@Life_WithShay Месяц назад

Great suggestion!

@Sammmommy 11 месяцев назад

Rooting for you shay ❤

@Life_WithShay 10 месяцев назад

Thank you Sam! We appreciate your encouragement!

@free2roam674 Год назад

Thank you Shay. This video was absolutely incredible. Professional level documentary. I am truly impressed. The best messages are delivered with a whisper.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you for the compliments 😊.

@Itsweng0106 Год назад

Oh my god shay!I love this this video

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you it's weng!

@MrNpenfold 10 месяцев назад

An intelligent lady who seems to be resourceful and with a balanced perspective. Impressive

@Life_WithShay 10 месяцев назад

Thank you Mr. Npenfold! :-)

@bertvisser6944 Год назад

A very honest and truthful video thank you 🙏 subscribed

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Bert! Welcome to the journey. :-)

@prescottosegie Год назад

Thank you for doing a video on this topic shay 💪😎

@Life_WithShay Год назад

You're welcome Prescott! Thank you for watching!

@Super8point Год назад

Very well said. Single mothers are quite often the strongest people anyone can know . Being both a mother and a father is harder than anyone can imagine .

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you David for that! 😌

@terrygreaves8176 Год назад

WhT a beautiful story. Thanking you for doing this video. I’m in full admiration of the ladies you featured. You are all very strong women.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Terry for your kind comments and for watching this video! It was an emotional one to make.

@BuzzSargent Год назад

There is a whole bunch of wonderful in this 4'11" mom and creator. All of the beautiful Filipinas here are well-spoken, caring, and very capable young women. One positive in the Philippines about a single mom that did not get married is a little weird. If they are a single mom and never married their partner she is free to find a good man. However, if she got legally married, then the guy ran away. The Philippine govt makes it legally dangerous for guys to become a partner. I hope this changes in the future. Sometimes videos need to be done honestly. This was a great show. Have yourself and your children a Magical Day.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

You too MrBuzzSargent! Magical! 😉

@donald6301 Год назад

Great video as always. I have nothing but respect towards single mothers.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you Donald! That's so nice to hear!

@lyptonsaunches6803 Год назад

Wow!! This was a well presented blog. Very informative. No, single moms are not damage goods. You and the other young ladies who spoke here today are proof of that. You and them are making a difference and hopefully will change the way Filipinos views single mothers. Congratulations on producing this top notch video

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Lypton for your kind words, and for your support and encouragement! It is truly appreciated!

@tedjohnson4451 Год назад

Excellent Video... Single Motherhood is much more accepted now in the US than when I grew up in the 1970's & 1980's... It's still not the best situation for Single Mothers & their Children, but is still gradually improving. I hope that things get better in the Philippines as well.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you Ted! We are always behind the US, seems like decades behind. But eventually we do catch up :)

@tedjohnson4451 Год назад

@@Life_WithShay Another thing: The Expats I know tend to be those who have been "burned" in the West. The older Expats tend to "invisible" in their home Countries. Personally, I'm disgusted with the lack of civility and manners in the US. At the most: I'm Five Years from retirement & going somewhere where the Winters aren't Cold & the Cost of Living is more reasonable.

@chadcadsonvii5258 Год назад

@@Life_WithShay if you think it's wise to emulate the US cultural degradation I truly fear for your country. The family unit is the foundation of our civilisations, once it is destroyed society collapses. Promiscuity, divorce and single parent households encouraged by government incentives will result in the collapse of the West. I'd also point out that a lot of men leaving the west to come to places like the PH are doing so to escape the destructive culture of the West that you seem to venerate.

@chadcadsonvii5258 Год назад

@@tedjohnson4451 and yet you don't seem to understand why the cost of living is increasing at such a rate! And seem to want to encourage that behaviour in other countries? Please brother, do some research!

@watchman6141 Год назад

Shay, a very well put together video on a difficult topic. You and other Filipinas certainly are not damaged goods. A question I do have is how do the children respond to a man who would like to have a relationship with their mother. My past experience, several years ago, here in the U.S. is not very positive especially when the children are young and their parents are divorced.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you Watchman! My most recent experience is that my children are happy for me if I am happy. And because they didn't have a male figure around throughout their lives, they do appreciate having one who is kind and caring to me, and to them, as my man friend is.

@scottandtheworldasiseeit Год назад

This is the best video I have seen in a very long time.Thanks Shay .

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Wow, thank you Scott!

@mikesample6104 Год назад

I am so proud and have so much respect for any single mom I was a single dad of three Children. So I really understand thank you for telling your story. Much respect for you 👏 🙏

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Mike for being who you are! Much respect for you too!

@meditationbyking8484 Год назад

another Awsome video Shay very tough subject I believe you did a great job of it ,you have a huge talent making video never give up you are a great mother you are a great person with a Beautiful soul good vibes and God Bless you and your family Shay .

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much MBK!!

@matthewmutch7853 Год назад

THANK YOU!!! Shay you have my upmost respect! As a man I pray every day that God would bring a lady as wonderful as you into my life. Your kids have a lot to be thankful for having a mother as loveing kind and strong as you! GOD BLESS YOU! I pray you will be happy and blessed the rest of your life. M.M.M/

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Matthew for your kind words! 😌

@tnormanthird Год назад

I'm adopted, and I adopted 2 boys. So long as a child is respectful and has a desire to be loved by a nonblood parent, the experience can be a beautiful thing.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Good for you Thomas! And how lucky for your sons to have a good father like you! I agree 100%! 😌

@georgiapeach7832 Год назад

Wonderful video thoughtfully done. God bless you and your children with much love and happiness. I am 76 years old and I lived in your country when I was 16. We lived on Clark Air Force base near Angeles City. I have so many memories of your country and the friendly people there.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Georgia Peach for your thoughtful comment! You memories are part of our developing history :)

@SteveThornton1 Год назад

19:14 Shay, you continue to reach deep into my spirit with your reflections of life. It reminds me of my teenage years and forces me to account for my own irresponsibly as a young man. I would like to apologize on behalf of your own PH culture as well as foreigners who are so preoccupied with judging others before judging themselves. As the Bible says.. before attempting to remove the speck in the eyes of others, first, remove the log in you own eye! May the love and grace of God be bestowed upon you and all single Mothers and we give thanks to God for placing these beautiful children with strong, capable women who have their best interest at heart. May your dreams come true and may you have deep satisfying love throughout the remainder of your life. Prayers going up! ❤

@Life_WithShay Год назад

Thank you so much Steve for your thoughtful comment! And thank you for watching!

@chrisamick6350 Год назад

Shey you’re inspiring.

@hardmtnbiker Год назад

I’m not sure if you have seen my channel and my beautiful single mom,Filipina. She’s my wife now and I love her daughter as my own, because she is now. Personally I didn’t ever think of her as being a poor single mom, that needed me to rescue her. She knew that my intentions was to settle down in a secure relationship with a partner that cares for me and wants to build a future with me even though I’m a busy man that is still working and isn’t looking for a early retirement and minimalist lifestyle. I feel that I have been blessed to meet her because she has come from a very stable family in a beautiful home with a mother father and two brothers that all worked together to keep their home since they were born. The home her papa built. Her father has passed and I was blessed to have met him and spend time to see the values that he passed down to his children and granddaughter.I know that I have “big shoes to fill” to carry on his values for my wife and our daughter that I love so much.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

I just subscribed to your channel from someone else's computer (I'm heading to Moalboal) and I will watch more when I get a chance, and will subscribe from my computer as well. Your Filipina wife is beautiful and I love the story you just told! Thank you so much for being part of my channel too! Looking forward to watching your channel too!

@hardmtnbiker Год назад

@@Life_WithShay I really enjoy your content and your style of telling a story. You have obviously put a lot of work into editing and narrating and it is very much like a professional movie. Thanks for looking at my channel, I’m madly in love with my beautiful wife and have been blessed with how she has believed in me throughout the years. LDR sucks,and I wish I was retired or that she didn’t have family obligations that keeps her there so she could have moved back to California with me long ago. I’ll be going there this summer and several times these next few years. Perhaps she can come back with me on a travel visa or we apply for a spousal sponsor visa but we really don’t want to be obligated to live in USA for an extended period since our goal is to travel other countries.

@ericg9092 Год назад

This video is well done, but difficult to watch. The trolls posting below are absolutely ridiculous. In the U.S., if a deadbeat gets someone pregnant and tries to walk away he can be forced to pay child support or, in many states, be placed in jail. The fact that an American and/or a Filipino man can walk away with no ramifications is tragic. Men should be forced to take care of their children no matter where they were fathered - it's not like he wasn't present and participating enthusiastically when the child was conceived. If he decides to engage in sexual activity, he should be 50% liable for the outcome. Saying it's up to the female is a disgusting copout and society should force him into accountability.

@Life_WithShay Год назад

What's done is done. The mothers are not running away from the responsibilities, the dad's are. It's tiring to hear men always blaming women. They only see that women engaged in the act, as if the men had nothing to do with it - and then the women have to be the mothers and fathers of their children . And yes, I completely agree with everything that you said. It's heartwarming to know there are real men out there who show compassion towards other people . Thank you!

@mikepedersen0897 Год назад

Shay, you are truly amazing This world needs more people like you. Your thoughts should be shared on a world stage that's bigger than just RU-vid ❤❤

@Life_WithShay Год назад

I appreciate that Mike. Hopefully, one day!

@NewsNewEngland Год назад

GREAT REPORT SHAY, but one issue I didn't see you touch on and if you do a fallow up I hope you address it as well, is that's It's stupidity like this misconception that may be keeping mothers in abusive relationships, fearing they would be considered "DAMAGED GOODS". I think it's bad enough to be feeling stuck in a relationship and be worrying if you walk away you suffer this as well. It's good reporting like this that I am so happy I subbed to this channel, you my dear are a rockstar

@Life_WithShay Год назад

That's a great idea NNE! We wanted to mostly deal with this issue from my personal experiences and those of my collaborators. We did not experience that situation, but it is a very valid point that needs serious consideration! Thank you for that!

@NewsNewEngland Год назад

@@Life_WithShay I would think that a nurse or a doctor could give some insight on the issue seeing cases of abuse. They may be able to find you a good name or two to interview. I would love to be involved if you have a panel on the topic

@Life_WithShay Год назад

It'll be a while before we return to this topic as we have so many other videos to finish first. But yes, this is a very important topic that we should definitely do a video on, and I like the idea of a panel NNE! Thank you for your precious input!