The Most Frustrated Man Out There 

When I was frustrated, It was all mine fault. Pick up yourself and move forward.

I've met those men too. They lack that charm that makes someone unique and individual. They're too busy chasing what everyone says they should be striving to be an everyman instead of being who they are.

Good way to bring out that aggression is martial arts/jiu jitsu/muy Thai. Speak up for yourself too and limit saying sorry every time you’re out and about

A woman complimented me on being assertive with her a year ago…it was something I had to learn on my own because my upbringing was very similar to the guys in this video you described. My dad would tell me to just keep her happy and keep trying when she show resistance, buy her gifts. He was fortunate to marry a kind woman with that philosophy but I learned quick being too nice and not assertive will get your ass kicked by the woman every time. Great video.

To add to your point Malcom x said you have to be 80% of the time be firm and 20% show love and affection

The nice guy lacks authenticity that's why he gets lackluster results with people. Can't truly connect to them as people because they're too busy being servants. Hopefully that's not too harsh 😂

If you'know you're too nice you've actually won half the battle because you recognize your weakness now you gotta emphasize work in that department

Killer instinct - I knew exactly where you were going with this topic when I clicked on the video. These men seemingly have it all on paper, but they lack that crucial factor of masculinity, virility, dominance, etc. It's like you say Rom, be a nice guy AND a player. Women want both sides from the same guy.

The way her eyes light up when you’re tender aggressive with her… blissful 💯🐺

One of the ( few ) luxuries you have as an older man is that you don't feel the obligation to be delicate around women as you did when you were young. I think a little bit of that is the scarcity mindset you have as a young guy around beautiful women and how life and death each approach feels. That is not how you think in your fifties and beyond. ( hopefully ) Last week, walking past this outdoor cafe in Montreal, the type where the beautiful people display themselves, I meet eyes with this remarkably attractive woman, in her early thirties. I have my 180lb Great Dane which always attracts them. . Before I can catch myself, I blurt out well " you are so attractive I bet you are a real pain in the ass" She starts to laugh. Apparently, I was correct. I will leave it with that but the conversation definitely flowed from that point. Life is always full of surprises.

My advice to nice guys is to read Ice berg slims book. It change my dating forever. Also when you are with a woman, be a man, go for what you want and be confident in doing so.

That's the guy who nobody suspected to be a intelligent killer.

Agreed rom. There’s a difference between a nice guy and good man.

They are frustrated because they listen to what women say instead of looking at what they do and who they do it with.

It's that "it factor" Rom. You have to be that type of guy that a woman knows would both treat her right but also be the type to take her down in bed. When a woman gets aroused for you, it's because you give her those feelings and thoughts of knowing you'll take what you want and be a man about it while doing it.

It’s amazing how women open up (literally and figuratively) when you act like a man and be a little rough. You know you’re doing it right when she say, “You make me feel so feminine.” Straight up facts, Uncle Rom! Peace and blessings!

I'm currently very frustrated.But I brought it on my self.I know exactly the chain of events that led me here.The problem and solution is within myself.

A lot of men can’t even tell women to smile. Without a woman telling them to mind their business

Indifference. Separates decent / “good” men who are attractive compared to the players who are also attractive. Decent men show woman their intentions which sadly turns many women off…or make them put you aside because they feel you will be around. If they don’t feel or more importantly know you won’t be around everything will change…

Not gonna lie, I'm that guy. Career of 17 years, make just under 100K, body on point, cologne on point, blessed by the clippers once a week, homeowner in a fantastic neighborhood, car on point, I'm 36, no kids, looks above average but not a model, became a professional boxer at age 25 for 7 years (just to see if I could do it) I didn't even want to be a fighter but because I was naturally athletic and had done everything else I went ahead and did it. And.......nothing. Nothing but frustration for years. I RARELY get compliments or choosing signals. I'm literally the antithesis of what women dream of (at least what they say) but......I'm genuinely too nice. Not a pushover, but too nice. And the reason I'm too nice is because I don't like having to be the "boxer" to get respect. I don't even like bragging about that because it seems needy to me. But I can admit, I was raised by a single mom to be a "gentleman" and had no male influences.....none. Had to go through a lot of mental mind unfuckery to regain my masculinity. But at the end of the day, I am who I am. I can't just become an asshole, I don't know how. And the ironic thing is, I can handle myself if someone really wants to push me as I still train at high levels. But I hate being that guy, because there is a monster lurking. Once the lid has popped open....I don't know how to go back. Its the silent ones that need the most respect, because you just don't know who you're dealing with. So, I just accepted who I am. If there is a woman interested, great, if not, I have to be content with me. I wish I had someone like Rom or other guys in the manosphere at a younger age. I may have had better success. But I agree wholeheartedly with Rom on this topic.

Unc I think you pegged me with this video. I'd say when I was younger, p-sleeve came a lot easier than it does now that I'm older and have my shit together. I just got a raise from my job (after being off for 11 months), I live by myself, the barber blesses me, I have nice teeth, I'm 5'11'', and I be working out. I'd say I'm no longer frustrated, I'm at peace with going my own way. The women who reject guys like me are many times doing us a huge favor. My attitude has always been aloof and indifferent. I'm a stocky/thick dude, so I won't blow over easy in the wind, and can do MMA, so ain't nobody just gonna whoop my ass either. I played football in both high school and college. So my build is larger but you can tell I played ball. I think many ppl judge things based on how they want you to be, versus getting along with the better program, so that they like you more. If your way is better, instead of them trying to undermine you and make to more amenable to their way of seeing the world (which is normative and stupid) then they'll see that you're more efficient and frugal at times when handling things. But I'll reiterate a previous point, most of the low class women and even the structured professional types they did me a favor. I'm not stuck with debt and kids I cannot afford, and I'm not married to hippo for a wife who doesn't want to bang like most men I see these days. It's crazy I be in some place dining and the women married to these "wealthy" guys be eyeballing me, but they wanna bring me into their bedroom so she can make him a cuck, I ain't cool with that. Or the women become egoistic and try to act like you ain't shit, but not in a shit-testing kind of way. They be straight up envious many of them, which doesn't jive right with me, sir.

Eye catching title,& it doesn't dissapoint. There's few things worse than having a significant amount of women describe you (or call you) as being "handsome", or "nice", and NOT have a genuine attraction for you. That in itself would cause most men in that situation to cast doubt upon himself. My theory for most men who fit the description in this video is that there's an internal struggle that manifests insecurity to others around them.

Uncle rom, females at work always say I look pissed off.

Rom: This reminds me of an earlier chapter in your book "Nice Guys and Players" where you discussed the importance of confidence and aggression in men. You also provided suggestions on how we can develop those traits.

The hunter energy 🐺 activate

This video is very needed.

Thanks Ron for the wisdom.. you're like a big uncle I never had

This video hit home for me. Been like this all my life so far. Definitely working on it.

Man, Rom you spoke to me on this one. Very much needed. This is why I got you as my example on how to move in this world. Please keep putting out similar content like this. This is my third time listening to the part of where you say it's screwed up with women making Bizzaro choices. Appreciate you for your time. Peace Rom.

I been hella slacking watching your videos but the universe had to be talking to me uncle Rom because this is the perfect video . I can write a thesis about this. I Just about checked all the boxes I’m working on the car thing over the summertime. Became a GM and trainer for my company and it’s blocks away from my spot making solid money, I workout just about everyday. But it’s tough man.. it might just be the killer instinct so I may have to take some time to develop it. it’s really a harder pill to swallow seeing your friends and family having kids and families and I’m hoping I can survive a pay period without a chick ghosting me lol. Needed this unc thank you 🙏

So true sometimes they will do something rude around you, just so you will call them out. That's kind of a turn off to me, but you can see how they yearn for that treatment.

Just to let you know once more rom thank you for spreading your knowledge.

Thank you for talking to the top 11% to 20%. Understanding how and when to display strength is a lost art. Observe the naturals when teachers aren’t available, pay special attention to the natural that is willing teach. Your work is influential beyond measure. Be Well.

This video needs a million views. The lack of aggression is the main issue men have. We can easily link the current obsession with mens height, toting a gun, having a beard etc to the lack of aggression.

Wish I would've had this kinda advice earlier, would've helped me like 8 times in life.

True talk

Facts💯💯💯🐺

Ngl that Vampire Hunter series sound like it would be a great movie/movies. R.I.P your friend

Let's be honest Rom, you and I both know these women fall under the vast majority of the toxic non viable women. They're good for a short time but not a long time. They can never get it "ALL." You know what I mean to Uncle Rom. 🤣🤣 Great video as always.

Sucks it has to be this way but It is what it is. I'm still young (23) but no more Mr Nice Guy for me. I have a story for you. I really was really cool with this girl at work but I was to nice. I would buy her lunch and all the other shit nice guys do and shit. Mind you , I'm built like a bodybuilder because I workout alot. Months later I found out from a mutual friend that she was fucking one of my co workers and he wasn't doing non of the shit I was doing. He didn't look better than me, and didn't have a better body than me. But he was a former street dude and he had that "IT Factor" that Rom talked about. Lol nothing will annoy a nice guy more than finding out a guy is fucking the girl for free that he was doing all this stuff for. I have another story . One night I heard a door open from my car late at night (forgot to lock car). Look outside and saw a guy in my shit. I don't have a gun but I live with my parents so I woke my dad up . My dad was to slow so I just went outside and acted like I had a gun in my hand since it was dark. Dude backed off slowly and he started walking away and he apologized. As dude was walking away with his back turn my dad came out with the shotty . Me being a kind hearted person stopped my dad from killing this man by holding him back from pulling a trigger eventhough he stole some things out my car. My thoughts was maybe he was very hungry or really needed the money. I really got chewed and cuss out by my father that whole night. My dad had that warrior/hunter aggressive energy that I'm lacking. I know how to fight ,and I had really bad anger issues as a kid. I came a long way to becoming calm and peaceful. You don't have no clue of how many beat downs I had to give people in school because i snapped. I don't want to be that person but I think if I would have enforce that energy more people would have never tried me in the first place. I'm starting to understand human nature and how being firm and aggressive as a man will get you more respect from being a nice guy.

To keep em’ keen, you gotta be a lil’ mean.

Once upon a time I searched for videos by entering your name to see if you've done collabs I hadn't watched previously. That was the first time I saw one of your detractors. Offensive Lineman type with a successful business complaining because he expects to merit himself to female affection. I've known these types all my life. One of them tried to fight me at the Homecoming Pep Rally in front of everyone. There are guys like this on the Police forces and in the military.

Comes at the right time. I lack "bite" for almost three years now. I lost faith in myself and let men and women walk all over me. Even if they don't do it directly, they feel they can fuck with me anytime, push my buttons. I used to have more masucline frame and could bite when necessary, no fear of anybody, save women who I thought could legit destroy a man. I moved to a country where "bite" is the basis to navigate in the social sphere; you need to be cunning and aggressive when the situation calls for it, if you don't you will be at the bottom. I need to regain that art again. Thank God things are going uphill steadily.

Uncle rom do you think the society will change?

Honestly I think that the solution (though not as easily said,done) is for man to transcend his conscoiousness (not coping) to a higher degree than currently because the big elephant in the room here is the importance put upon the idea of getting $3x otherwise there's something deficient with you;hahaha you loser type of thing. Hand to heart,there's plenty to be grateful for as you mentioned the archetype: stable financial status,their own place,car,looks etc. And I understand the social pressure to fit to a certain set or standard,in this case getting abundance of punani, but to all the frustrated men (including myself to a certain degree),try taking a step back and reflect brother. Do you really need all the good looking females around? Is your worth directly correlated to the fact of you getting action or lack thereof? Towards what goal (philosophical or not) is the cat getting you closer to? Do you really just wanna smash and pass or want to actually build solid relationships? Who are you trying to prove shit to? Me,you,strangers,God? Make it for you and your woman infront of you homie,we ain't finna prove shiiiiit to people who don't give a f if you f'ing out here or nah. Ah and yeah,please don't compromise your swagger and character in the face of entitlement to the coochie just cuz of your achievements,keep working on you sir,pay attention and don't screw the good opportunities that come in your life,cuz them strangers still will not give a fuck about it,good or bad. Uncle Rom,hope you doing better,may health be with you.

INTIMIDATION.

Pond that pavement like you got Watchtowers