the most important step I took to live well - ending the negative cycle

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When I was trying to recover from severe anxiety I found a lot of wonderful support online, but also - naturally - a lot of negativity as well. I noticed a trend of ‘acceptance’, of people claiming that mental health was something that couldn’t be improved, and that I just had to accept my situation. Now, perhaps this is true for some people, I really don’t know, but I found that believing this hindered my personal journey, stealing my ability to find courage and confidence in myself; to believe I can change and grow. Our belief in our ability to do hard things is so crucial. I simply wanted to encourage all of you to believe in yourself when faced with challenges ❤️
The root of my anxiety has always been quite negative: negative thinking patterns, despairing thoughts, worrying about the future, assuming the worst will happen, doom-scrolling, believing I am powerless. These are common feelings. As a human population spanning centuries, we seem to often fall into negative patterns and seek out negativity, to find reasons to judge and criticize. And again, I am not saying this is necessarily bad. Maybe being negative doesn’t affect you at all - but in my personal case, I’ve found it to be unhelpful. I need to balance this way of thinking with positive beliefs. How I negatively or positively I react to my external world directly reflects how I feel within. I hope this reflection today encourages you to simply consider whether or not your beliefs about yourself and the world around you are aiding in your growth or not ❤️ and honestly, I can only speak from my experience, so perhaps none of this applies to you, I don’t know, but I’m glad we can connect and share insights. Sending much love and light. lot of wonderful support online, but also - naturally - a lot of negativity as well. I noticed a trend of ‘acceptance’, of people claiming that mental health was something that couldn’t be improved, and that I just had to accept my situation. Now, perhaps this is true for some people, I really don’t know, but I found that believing this hindered my personal journey, stealing my ability to find courage and confidence in myself; to believe I can change and grow. Our belief in our ability to do hard things is so crucial. I simply wanted to encourage all of you to believe in yourself when faced with challenges ❤️
The root of my anxiety has always been quite negative: negative thinking patterns, despairing thoughts, worrying about the future, assuming the worst will happen, doom-scrolling, believing I am powerless. These are common feelings. As a human population spanning centuries, we seem to often fall into negative patterns and seek out negativity, to find reasons to judge and criticize. And again, I am not saying this is necessarily bad. Maybe being negative doesn’t affect you at all - but in my personal case, I’ve found it to be unhelpful. I need to balance this way of thinking with positive beliefs. How I negatively or positively I react to my external world directly reflects how I feel within. I hope this reflection today encourages you to simply consider whether or not your beliefs about yourself and the world around you are aiding in your growth or not ❤️ and honestly, I can only speak from my experience, so perhaps none of this applies to you, I don’t know, but I’m glad we can connect and share insights. Sending much love and light.
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@TheCottageFairy 4 месяца назад

Hoping I can offer some encouragement and warmth in this video! It was so interesting to read about the research behind the power of finding beauty and meaning in the midst of challenges, of being kind to yourself and others, and to have a healthy sense of optimistism in regards to life, despite pain and fear. So powerful to see how these people live longer lives and can more easily find a balance and regulate stress. I’m not there yet, I have a far ways to go, but I am inspired, and wanted to send you all some love. A therapist that was helpful to me in regards to anxiety was Therapy in a Nutshell on youtube (but there are so many others too that may fit you better!), as well as books on mindfulness and meditation. I took these insights, combined it with my personal spirituality, worked on consistency and believing that I have an identity and innate value beyond labels, and that I can overcome challenges in my own unique way. Healing and thriving looks different for everyone, what it is to me may not be the same for you. But I encourage you to try to see light in dark places, because it seems our minds and bodies respond to it in amazing ways, and work to aid us in that pursuit. ❤️

@rimonagale1625 4 месяца назад

People are creatures of habit. Becoming aware of how we think, react...allows us to work on forming new & more positive habits.

@jessicaashley3979 4 месяца назад

I have been watching Therapy in a Nutshell as well. And I'm so glad I have. I have been learning so much from it. Thank you for your videos, Paola. They're also always inspiring and calming to watch.

@jane8142 4 месяца назад

Thank you for this video, it really resonates with my own outlook and values 🩷 I would love to read the book you mentioned and wondered if you would mind sharing the title please? Thank you so much, and also for opening to International orders for a while

@MagicalMindsByAmra 4 месяца назад

"Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if one just remembers to turn on the light" - Albus Dumbledore 💖🌟

@MagicalMindsByAmra 4 месяца назад

@@rimonagale1625Spot on. Awareness is realizing we can always think new thoughts💎

@CammyHell 4 месяца назад

These videos are going to be such a beautiful legacy for your child one day.

@MagicalMindsByAmra 4 месяца назад

What a beautiful comment💖

@rewilding_rose 4 месяца назад

I was thinking the exact same thing!

@barbied2736 4 месяца назад

Your comment is truly touching! ❤

@happyrose1924 3 месяца назад

Absolutely🌹

@FurodaRawdah 2 месяца назад

Definitely❤

@TheDreamer1618 4 месяца назад

I saw a video recently about someone saying, the person you're in a relationship forever is yourself. You are always with yourself. Why are you making that an abusive relationship? And it finally made me understand the whole self love, inner child, etc thing. I don't want to be abusive to anyone, much less myself. It's really helpful to make me catch all the ways I put myself down or criticize myself or else am just so mean. I didn't even realize the habits I got into. So very slowly I'm finally trying and learning what it means to be kinder to myself, without it being an egotistical thing, without fearing that I'm "letting myself off the hook" or being overly self-indulgent of weaknesses/faults. Wishing all of us positive growth and gentle hearts. Thank you Paola. 💞

@calypso4554 4 месяца назад

What I can share: One can be friendly with people. As a customer in a store, as a hairdresser, as a mechanic, as a professor, as whatever you find yourself in whatever situation. It comes back and warms your heart. ❤

@TheCottageFairy 4 месяца назад

I love that ❤

@marykaydavis5002 4 месяца назад

I love seeing life grow in you in so many ways. You are a blessing to those that share in your life's journey. The calm that you inspire, your music, your thoughts, even your holistic crafting, give me such joy. Thank you.❤

@TheCottageFairy 4 месяца назад

Thank you so much ❤

@tygerlily1700 4 месяца назад

❤God Bless you and your Family Always- Thank you for your heart warming encouraging words-they resonate with me...Thank you❤❤❤⚘⚘⚘🦋💕

@JenFlutterby 4 месяца назад

@@TheCottageFairyWould love the title of the book you referred to regarding the chapter/view on Optimism. 😊

@cynthiatreynor1973 4 месяца назад

You are on the right path! As a former sad and angry person, I can tell you for certain, looking at life with positive thoughts and feelings is a far better way to live. I'm not a very peoply person. But whenever I can, I try to brighten the day of others that I come in contact with. Mutual respect and kindness are so important to your inner happiness. I know that I have felt so wounded by others mistreatment of me in the past that I began to just hate on all of them. No more. I do not allow others to rock my boat and I do my best to help theirs float❤

@TheCottageFairy 4 месяца назад

I love that, thank you for sharing! I can relate to your journey, especially when others have hurt you deeply. I also understand not always being a people person, my husband is introverted like myself and always jokes that he shows love to others by recharging away from them often 😂 thank you for your insights

@carolinasongbird3362 4 месяца назад

@@TheCottageFairy I'm with Luke! I love my beautiful family better when I give myself a chance to miss them a little

@tedpreston4155 4 месяца назад

You not alone, in your effort to stop being a sad and angry person, Cynthia! I hope you and I can both stay on the right path, moving away from that sort of thinking! If you're not already using it as a tool, I have found "Metta" meditation practice to help keep my mind focused on love and abundance!

@southerngirlkr 4 месяца назад

I love your videos when I see you posted a new one. I stop and take a deep breath and watch them. It’s a much needed break in my day to remind me of the important things in life. 🩷

@__rishikasingh 4 месяца назад

That frame where you and Luke are together watching hot air balloons is the best shot of your entire RU-vid video journey!!! ❤❤❤ It has my entire heart !!!!

@sallybourne4886 4 месяца назад

I so agree that positivity has a huge effect on our health and wellbeing. There’s a little poem, “Two men looked out from prison bars One saw mud and the other saw stars”. None of us can be star gazers all the time of course.

@MagicalMindsByAmra 4 месяца назад

"Even if you are in the gutter, you have the option of looking at the stars" 🌟

@philomenaward1833 4 месяца назад

And why not!? pray, be a star gazer and a light bearer all the time.

@marilynschmidt6400 4 месяца назад

Just know you are a bright shinning 🌟 blinding all the haters

@mosaic2476 4 месяца назад

@@philomenaward1833because you need to look at what pains you in order to transmute it. a huge part of post-traumatic growth is the depth of gratitude some survivors experience because witnessing and accepting the darkness makes the light shine brighter

@bryonmacpherson1470 4 месяца назад

Wonderful Video Poala. I am older, okay, much older than you(great grandparent) and life has been pretty good. There have been many challenges, but the older I get, the more in awe and appreciation I am. Your sense of cultivating a grounded optimistimism is consistent with my experience. Wishing you well! 😀

@bolilukp683 4 месяца назад

Your videos are so calming and peaceful to watch. On this video, it delights me to watch Your Maine Coon Kitty, observing ever so intently at every move you make. It's like the kitty is taking *Mental Notes* for when he/she can do crafting Cat-Style. Thank you for sharing your world and your thoughts. This 71 y/o widow appreciates the way you view your sweet life. Blessings on you and yours. 🥰😘

@morrigans_cottage 4 месяца назад

Your story has been a big inspiration to my own decision to buy a little cottage in rural Ireland to live a slower more peaceful life! Thank you for sharing ❤

@yuleham 4 месяца назад

Your child will be a very lucky one, the world needs more mothers like you

@Umbra_Magna777 4 месяца назад

I'm so glad you touched on the topic of people who say, "If you were able to recover, it was never really that bad." I can't even begin to remember how many people I've encountered like that on social media, perfectly content to complain about problems but suddenly becoming bitter when they see someone recovering. It's good that social media has given us a way to talk about things like anxiety (especially since, until recently, it wasn't socially acceptable to talk about mental health), but the problem is that a lot of people sort of stay there in that venting state and don't actually take the steps necessary to recover because they genuinely believe it isn't possible. And then, of course, when they see someone else recover, they become convinced that that person's anxiety and depression weren't real. And not only does that harm their chances of recovery. It's also disrespectful to the people who do recover, because it invalidates how hard they had to work to get where they wanted to go. It's fine to talk about it when you're struggling, but at the end of the day, you've got to get back on the horse and start riding again, or you'll never get anywhere.

@TheCottageFairy 4 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing! When I was in recovery for an eating disorder I faced a very similar atmosphere, and a lot of bullying once I decided to try to recover - I now try to always reiterate with everyone that we are each on our own timeline of healing, so we must be gentle towards ourselves and avoid tearing down others who are in a different place in their journey ❤️ thank you again for your insight

@cindygaudet1390 4 месяца назад

Not just anxiety depression but also pain and ill health. I know2 people who if you do better or try to help yourself( healthy diet ,exercises given by physio etc) work on yourself physically and mentally they then think you weren’t that bad.so frustrating as I watcha friend woe is me not get any better but figures i wasn’t that bad even though for 3 yrs have worked hard to r3gain my health and have a long way to go.

@dod2304 4 месяца назад

I heard that one time as I was trying to recover from crippling depression and emotional shut down due to a traumatic event. "If you have trouble naming your trauma what say you believe it was, maybe it wan't that at all." That set my recovery and ptsd back years and years.

@meloniestewart2940 4 месяца назад

I’ve been learning to feel my feelings not, to push them down and pretend they never existed as was often done in order to keep the peace or to please others. It has all been bubbling up to the surface bit by bit, day by day to be acknowledged, healed and released. If this is also, true for you, become the witness, the observer, the watcher of these toxic, stuck, old energies but do not, engage with them. Do not give them your soul but simply, observe them like passing clouds. Remain as the witness (the true self, the higher self) let them pass and “let them go.” They are not who you truly are.

@onepartwild 4 месяца назад

That's so true. There are some people who seem to like staying in that place. My mom is one. I can't talk to her about my traumas without her one-upping me, saying how much more traumatic her life has been. I'm not allowed to be tired {she's more tired}, sad {she's more sad}, stressed {she's more stressed}, and so on. My mom constantly diminishes what I've gone through since childhood. I've had to recover on my own over many years, and my mom tells me my trauma wasn't so bad if I am so well recovered. No, it was bad. I've just had to be strong, and determined, no matter what, to overcome.

@debrakintzing8914 4 месяца назад

I love how your cat is always so intently interested and engaged in everything you do. What a sweetheart!

@paultrubey8508 4 месяца назад

I will be sixty one next month. In 2020 I remembered experiencing ongoing sexually abused at age nine through ten by three people in my neighborhood as a kid. My life changed as tons of puzzle pieces of my entire life came together with lots of grieving and pain. Your videos have been a gift to me which has helped me to be present in the moment and to rediscover my true self. Being present with simple intention and noticing and feeling grateful for the miracles of nature around me and on my farm has been a big piece of my healing. I want to say thank you. You are a beautiful light in the world.

@nancyelliott3653 4 месяца назад

Hello Paul, let me say that Iam so very sorry about the trauma you went through and how proud I am of you to be able to overcome it and not to let it define who you are as a Devine being. Much love❤

@paultrubey8508 4 месяца назад

Thank you. Still moving through it but def on the healing side. 🙏

@nancyelliott3653 4 месяца назад

Sending healing energy to you, my dear, God bless you❤

@brightpage1020 4 месяца назад

You’re sharing the experience with little one now! Babies get bathed in emotional hormones based on how Momma is feeling. Looks relaxing, gentle, adventurous and fun!

@lorifalk5517 4 месяца назад

I have a granddaughter that suffers from anxiety. Love your statement: "You are capable, you are strong and your soul desires growth and healing."

@lorij9649 4 месяца назад

I commuted for work from Sonoma, California to Napa, CA and would leave Sonoma around 8:00 am. Many many mornings on my drive I would see the Balloons and always loved it.

@autumneve2463 4 месяца назад

I've been watching you since I was about 15, I'm 19 now, and you've given me such a hope for my future and such a positive outlook on the world.

@carolinasongbird3362 4 месяца назад

I loved making that lantern! I hung it in my window with a simple knotted jute holder and a handful of faerie lights. I love my glowing orb!

@TheCottageFairy 4 месяца назад

Ohh!! Wonderful! I love making this craft, every time it turns out a little different ❤️

@stacyrosa6672 4 месяца назад

My Dear, I just turned 62, and I am so inspired by your musings, and crafting! I am struggling at the moment, but you always bring back my appreciation for life❤

@bonnieblack3825 4 месяца назад

Hope you are doing better. You are so precious in the place where you are in life. You are a valuable part. Be blessed.

@Jess-wj7cc 4 месяца назад

Sending Love Stacy💖

@mnichols180 4 месяца назад

One minute at a time... sending love and hugs your way. xoxo

@momiborah8707 4 месяца назад

Sending love❤

@debbiesmith9591 3 месяца назад

I just found you on RU-vid and it came at the most perfect time. I’m caring for my 91 year mother who is not doing well. Watching you videos give me hope that even though death comes to the ones we love but life will go on. Your calming voice and your love for art, nature gives me hope and encouragement to face tomorrow in the hard days I have faced. Thank you so much for what you give to us in ways you don’t even realize. Thank you.♥️

@joniuptain5509 4 месяца назад

You bring such profound beauty to such ordinary things and it’s so refreshing in today’s world! Thank you so much for what you do!

@StellarumCreative 4 месяца назад

I grew up at my grandma’s house (during the day), a few miles from a small local airfield in western WA that had year round hot air balloon flights, so I was fortunate enough to get to watch the balloons every afternoon while playing in the backyard. I miss it so much.

@TheCottageFairy 4 месяца назад

Oh! What magical memories ❤️

@chayanika8155 4 месяца назад

This positivity is a trait common in many of the people that I admire.

@user-mb4ee1pg2h 4 месяца назад

Your words are wise and true. Amazing at your ‘few’ years on this earth. I will be 77 years old and I must say, you are ‘right on target’. Having been with you for awhile now, I am so proud of you. You are truly beautiful and I must say, that lil boy in your being is so fortunate! God will continue to bless you dear one. ❤ Trust you will be criticized for your joy! That is sadly the way of life on earth. We will continue to promote joy and peace no matter what!!!

@debbiewilder4738 4 месяца назад

I call that positiveness, hope in Christ. I cant do it on my own But it's an interdependent relationship where I have to do the best I can and He covers the rest and even though I'm still sad and grieving some things that I've lost ,my hope is inJjesus that I can get past this and b present and live the rest of my life. ♡❤ God bless you your baby and your husband.

@BethanyPlatt322 4 месяца назад

Anybody who says that you are stuck with whatever mental health issue you have and can't heal from it, just doesn't want to put in the work to feel better. They would rather stay trapped because it is comfortable and less effort. I used to get massive panic attacks and anxiety attacks, and my depression was very severe. Now, I am not "cured," but I am much better, and there are more days of light than darkness. It was a lot of work to get here, but I am very glad I did.

@tedpreston4155 4 месяца назад

Here's hoping that your work (and mine) will keep us on a better mental path for the rest of our lives!

@Malgorbia 4 месяца назад

I believe there is nothing I can’t do. Full stop. And I believe that in everyone. I’m a stone cold engineer STEM head but I am an unstoppable optimist. Lots of people get bothered by that, and they especially get bothered when I actually DO the thing! Haha! But then after slowly I’ve found I look around again and suddenly those same people are pushing harder, believing more, and standing taller. I might not be the gentlest individual ha! But I do like to think I can light the fire. And sometimes that’s exactly what people need. Never stop believing in the future. There’s so many of us out here fighting for it too. In all different ways. Walking through the dark with others is an adventure, and if it gets the children of the future to the next dawn it will be worth every step. : ) Thanks for your lovely videos.

@MagicalMindsByAmra 4 месяца назад

Love this! We need people to light the fire☄️to show that fire can be lit!

@claremiller9979 4 месяца назад

I love your energy, I want to carry it with me all day

@SGTJones2009 4 месяца назад

Thank you for this beautiful reminder that our hope and determination is a gift we give to others, sometimes unknowingly. There is so much I've done that I might never have done if someone hadn't lived out that possibility before me.

@Gwaycee 4 месяца назад

Your face is glowing, and it's a joy to watch you grow bigger and embrace motherhood with all your being.

@cindygaudet1390 4 месяца назад

I agree!pregnancy agrees with her❤and love her clothes.

@sherryallen4537 4 месяца назад

I agree too, Poala you look so beautiful!! I think a woman looks her best when expecting even though she may not feel that way!

@kimcunningham2107 4 месяца назад

Precious watching your kitty watch you. ☺️💜 Beautiful video💖💕

@deborahclavette879 4 месяца назад

What a beautiful video, both visually and in content! You are a wise woman to recognize that you are more than the challenges you face - you are what you have overcome!

@user-oz4od6qk1o 4 месяца назад

I think you were reading my mind, because I really needed this video. thank you so much!

@amberhawke 4 месяца назад

I love those big, massive oval shaped things that float in the air! We have a balloon festival every July 4th weekend, and they are beautiful to watch. They have mass launches, they have accuracy competitions, and the pilots are quite open and friendly. My wife gifted us a balloon ride for our anniversary one year, and it was phenomenal! It's very peaceful and quiet, all you hear, besides the quiet voices of fellow passengers, is the whoosh of the flame as it warms up the air in the balloon. I highly, highly suggest that you and Luke do a balloon flight, it is an amazing experience!

@lorifarlee8704 4 месяца назад

I loved today's video. I daily try to chose to be positive and grateful and to make the world a more beautiful kind place. Your baby is going to be so blessed to have you for his wise, sweet mother.

@sunshinedunker3220 4 месяца назад

Your videos are so uplifting! They're not only beautiful, but filled with words of wisdom for all to contemplate. Thank you for making the time to share your thoughts as well as your creativity with the world. It is truly a gift for many! So happy for your journey into motherhood! We learn vast amounts of valuable information from raising human beings! Love to you always!❤

@TheCottageFairy 4 месяца назад

Thank you so much for the encouragement, I am honored and hope you have an absolutely wonderful week! ❤️

@JBFrank-qk6hy 4 месяца назад

Your subscribers are so thoughtful and kind. What a wonderous community. I hope you know how special this is and of course, how special you are.

@laurazeiher2549 4 месяца назад

Thank you for your courage, creativity, love, and sweetness.

@TheBestOfLisaRenee 4 месяца назад

I, too, am a survivor of Psychopathic abuse. Mine took place in Italy where I did not know the language over a six month period. It’s been over 7 years of recovering on my own and I’m not fully recovered, yet. I want to learn more about neuroplasticity. I wish I could move back to the countryside for my recovery and to a forested area. I need it desperately. I live in the city, alone. Without family or friends. I am alone. Thank you for sharing.

@duchess1774 4 месяца назад

@theBestOfLisaRenee I hope you can find support for your healing journey. And nature is the greatest healer. Wishing you peace and grace.

@jolloyd2293 4 месяца назад

In a week that's been challenging beyond measure, it has been so wonderful to tap into this...

@DistinctiveThinking 4 месяца назад

Your thoughts are so spot on! The most important decision is to 'start'. Life is a journey. I like to think of it as a trail upward. There are narrow spaces, rocky terrain, exhilarating heights, quiet meadows. It is like creating an inward map. Just begin. Take that step forward. If you fall, that is good. You just get back up and keep moving your thoughts forward and toward the goal. A tumble on the trail does not make you a bad hiker. It actually will help you become more attentive to that inward landscape. Anxiety is a thief. You must move toward it's mask of deception with the decision to strip it of its power by being loving, kind, and gentle with 'you'. An anxious child usually just needs to be held. Soothing ourself as a child is perfectly healthy. So, cuddle in the rocking chair, snuggle near a loved animal or partner, take a long hot bath, brush your hair in rhythmic slow movements. These are some of my soothers. Life moves swiftly. As an older woman, I can promise that being just you is completely beautiful. ❤❤❤

@zaram131 4 месяца назад

Thank you for this beautiful writing. I needed the encouragement so badly. ❤️

@squishysirenita 4 месяца назад

Just wanted to share a gem of a quote that my therapist shared with me when I told her I felt I was going backwards... "Regression is part of the progression" It has stuck w me (helps that it rhymes😂) I found it to be so true and has helped me immeasurably.

@katiewright2232 4 месяца назад

As always, a beautiful and insightful video. ❤

@1925garden 4 месяца назад

Great message! So many of us are learning to overcome negativity and to build a more positive interior life. Your words always make me feel less alone as I travel down that path.

@MiaStayingCreative 4 месяца назад

“Negativity sells” - so true Paola! Thanks for the divine reminder. Thanks for everything you shared in this video 💕💕 keep up the great work!

@donnarakitzis2719 4 месяца назад

I love learning along with you through your life experiences. Thank you for sharing. As always your cinematography is breathtaking.

@giftsofspring 4 месяца назад

Just wow. What a beautiful festival ❤ this video is so calming. I love your art. Thank your so much for your path as a content creator and taking us along the way. 😊

@BoitumeloSelogatwe 4 месяца назад

Watching from South Africa 🇿🇦 I am so happy I found your channel during my dark day, you have no idea how your content healed me. And for that I’ll love you forever ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@marjorieroman9591 4 месяца назад

This is so very true... Being able to get rid of the negativity as much as possible is the only real way to go through storms of life... I'm currently hardly learning that and I'm 52 since 2 days...I wish more young people like you could realize that to not waste their lifetime and live wiser, like you ❤ ... Love from France.

@suzy1335 4 месяца назад

So glad you share what's in your heart.

@piafleig 4 месяца назад

Could you share the book that you mentioned in the video with us? ❤ It sounds like it’s something I might enjoy!

@Grace-fb7jk 4 месяца назад

Unfortunately the world is full of negative and jealous people who don’t want to be removed from their misery-whatever form that takes. I’m glad to see you whole and happy and optimistic. You do what you can. Thank you for your lovely vids. 💕

@HaneenIAdam 4 месяца назад

Thank you Cottage Fairy for yet a beautiful, filled with wisdom video that tugs at the heart of my inner child and old sage self🤗 I wish to say to every person who is suffering from a form of mental illness, from the mild to the extreme cases, do NOT believe anyone who tells you that your case is permanent. You can heal and live a good life. I has been done before, and if psychology isn't do in it for you there are many forms of healing nowadays to choose what works and clicks with you. Stay safe❤

@michellefuhrman 4 месяца назад

I love that you are content. Our culture pushes the more, more, more! When in reality all we need is enough. Contentment is something I am praying for in my life. Thank you for your inspiration.

@Amandinhaassis 4 месяца назад

Oh my Gosh!! I love you sis! I thankful God every day for putting people that like places, things or that have the similar thought to mine. Thank you for this!! Greetings from Brazil! 🇧🇷 ❤

@jsylvest500 4 месяца назад

The balloon festival is so fitting for welcoming spring back! I was especially touched by listening to you recount your journey rising above negativity. It is something I constantly aspire to, often I backslide, but I'm undeterred in my desire to create a beautiful personal life.

@philomenaward1833 4 месяца назад

I sense that those of us who are so very self critical find it really difficult at first, to re model that Inner life you refer to. The surprise is that it is not only possible but even a real pleasure. Nurturing the positive much as we can nurture a lovely garden where nature and ourselves work together. Thankyou for sharing the lovely outlook you are actively and consciously creating what a wonder it is and so utterly rewarding for all others you encounter.Thankyou again I so enjoy your sharings and the hotair balloons are magical. Bless you.❤

@trishnickles2236 4 месяца назад

Hello, Paola, Those shades are so pretty. When you first removed the balloon(?), I thought, "Oh, no, it broke," BUT! I saw the magic of your beautiful, artistic touch unfold, and a delicate, little shade emerged! ❤ I too am on the journey to more positive/balanced living, and while it's a long and winding path, I think we learn so much. I agree with you that positivity isn't daily sunshine and roses, it's about balancing our inner health and outlook with everyday living, and all the events that occur in the world. My friend used to tell me, "Be in the world, but not of the world." (I think I'm recalling that correctly. Ha. Anyway, I send you all blessings of good health, peace, and prosperity. Be well. 🙏💕💕

@bethanyconroy 4 месяца назад

To heal, we have to care more about becoming well than about being validated. That has been a tough, imperative lesson to learn.

@katiemynette4285 4 месяца назад

❤I think so too! I PRAY for LUKE, YOU, and ❤YOUR FAMILY. KATIE!

@L.O.V.E.CaratStay 4 месяца назад

I love your quote about "nurturing the things that help us rather than hinder us." It sounds so simple but when we're constantly surrounded by negativity and daily life is a struggle, it's a lot harder to actually focus on, especially when it comes to our thought life. Anyways, it definitely gave me something to think about and I love this sweet video 🥰

@kaizen2049 4 месяца назад

Your videos are like therapy helps me calm down ❤❤

@andreamayne3509 4 месяца назад

Beautiful colours against a colourless tail end of winter, great balloon festival. ❤

@_isayyt_ 4 месяца назад

this is so pretty! I have definitely struggled with anxiety and listening to what others think about me and feeling like if i do something i feel like i'll get judged for it. I always feel like no one understands my situations but i have learned through years that others have similar experiences and its ok to grow from these issues we have had in life. Such gorgeous words. ❤

@iflumberg9610 4 месяца назад

Im from sweden and just want you to know that i feel so att peace watching your videos

@nibblesname8638 4 месяца назад

Sometimes you make depression your whole personality. It happened to me. It was my muse, part of my identity. That makes getting better so much harder, because it's like I'm killing part of myself, losing who I am, and even simple things like having a good day or not being in pain feel weird and unconformable, because the pain has become my everything.

@FG-ie7cu 4 месяца назад

Thank you for saying this. It is making me think . . . about what is going on here, I mean.

@anitatate9852 4 месяца назад

Beautiful video Paola and it is so beautiful because of your peaceful, calming voice and eye for beauty outside and inside. Please ignore the naysayers, because they are just miserable, and maybe a little jealous of your positivity. You are living your best life and encouraging others to join you.

@buddhabro.9130 4 месяца назад

In my spiritual path, I've learned that it's not all about gaining knowledge but maintaining an understanding of the truth of what is and maintaining inner wisdom. You made an awesome point about understanding what 'true' positivity is. Like "perfection" isn't what many think it is, Mother Nature teaches us that. 😊🙏💛

@V0ID115 4 месяца назад

In a routine where I don't have many positive things going on, this helps me keep on my track. Thank you for sharing your experiences and your positive attitude.

@tinaweeks438 4 месяца назад

The hot air balloons are so magical as are your delightful dried flower lanterns, I must look to see if we have any hot air balloon festivals close to where I live in Sussex in the UK, thank you for sharing dear one. 🧚💫🌼

@kathleenfleming7519 4 месяца назад

Only a negative soul would criticize the gift of being positive in a situation where you experience anxiety. Stay positive, Paola. You have a beautiful soul.❤❤

@LeisureLane-jz3cv 23 дня назад

I am so blessed that God has led me to your videos today. I am on the same journey and everything you said here resonates with me. Only, I am forging this journey at 71. Much of this knowledge I've been gathering for years, like scattered pieces of a puzzle needing to be gathered to complete the whole. Obstacles thrown in my path over these years made it difficult for me to consistently put this knowledge into practice. I, too, was an artist and writer and now dabble in it to find myself again...rediscovering the things that brought me joy and made my spirit soar. But, it is only this past year and most recently the past month that I had to pull myself together and stop the cycle of negative and hopeless thinking, accompanied by matching emotions. What an amazing journey. But, like you, I have most recently been collecting new information about rewiring the brain - "renewing the mind" if you will. Everything you say here is like I am looking into a mirror. Kindred spirits, in a sense...I loved to dress the way you do, I loved all things antique with a story to tell, love beautiful things - flowers, birds, nature. My hair was long and full. In you I see a beautiful soul and a reminder to me that my soul still exists somewhere buried under the rubble of poor decisions and stressful jobs and circumstances. So, little by little I am cleaning house...removing bits and pieces of the rubble of the past and learning to see a bright present and a brighter future. Oh, it's not easy, but the puzzle pieces are coming together much more quickly and, I feel, on purpose. A gratitude journal has been helpful these past 12 years, and sometimes when I have a day where prayer seems most difficult, I take out an old journal and read through it, and it is like praying as I read the grateful things I listed, along with the affirmations and scriptures accompanied by little sketched accent flowers, or simple little poems, and it lifts my heart toward heaven - which really is not so far away as we feel it to be some days. So, my point in all of this "rambling" is to connect and to thank you for your inspiring videos, and for sharing your life with those of us who can truly appreciate the journey. Your art is beautiful. You are truly blessed with a lovely home, a sweet baby, and loving husband. God bless you always, my dear. My apologies for such a long comment. I pray you receive it in the spirit with which it is written - gratitude and light. Sincerely, Marianne

@stephaniebrogdon4024 4 месяца назад

Seeing hot air balloons always fills me with joy! I live in Albuquerque, New Mexico and every October the Albuquerque International International Balloon Fiesta takes place and it is truly a magical experience to witness hundreds of balloons filling the sky!

@avantikasharma9333 4 месяца назад

Your channel is healing at its core and I often find calm through your videos. I enjoy your genuineness. You have learnt to not only build beauty inside but also outside through your various artistic pursuits which includes the videography of the channel. You capture the small joys of a creative life, your channel is very important in this world. Also would love to know the name of the book. Stay happy, stay optimistic.

@L0U1SE 4 месяца назад

As a person who also suffers anxiety I have actively pursued maintaining optimism and good thoughts towards myself and others. It is impossible to be that way always but it is attainable at times and it comes back to me

@ImnotBebe 3 месяца назад

Sometimes we have no complicated thoughts or words but we forget even very simple words can be all that some one needs to hear so I wanna tell you that I like your aesthetic.🧚‍♂️

@brendagalligan7891 4 месяца назад

This is a beautiful post in so many ways! The balloon footage is stunning. We actually got to pull a hot air balloon to the ground a few years ago. They were having trouble finding a landing spot & asked if they could throw a rope down & have us pull them down! We thought he was joking, but he wasn't. Such a fun experience! As far as the optimistic view of life; you're so spot on & it resounded highly with me! I would love to know the name of the book! I 100% believe that it helps us to lead a longer, more peaceful, life! Your channel has given me so much peace, contentment, beauty, & enjoyment along with so many other people for sure! Keep on keeping on because you are an extraordinary human being! You look radiant every time I see you; it's that pregnancy glow! 💖🎈🌿🌺🚼 ps. I thought for a moment, you were going to decoupage a smaller version of a hot air balloon; you've got me thinking...hmmm... 🙂

@emilywelsh5359 4 месяца назад

Positivity is so important! I think another word for it is hope. It has helped me to start small and then keep going - to realize I have control over small life choices, which then leads to bigger ones. Love you Paola!

@awilda2724 4 месяца назад

I LOVE your creations, including all your videos. Thank you so much, my dear Boricua. You sooth my soul, calm my being, and reassure me there are beautiful souls in our Earth. I am 77 years old, by the way:-)

@kartikis.9144 3 месяца назад

Ma'am thank you. You have no idea how many souls you're calming down, showing them a life, without turmoil but genuine care for themselves and other souls around them.

@LynneNicolson-ou8zi 4 месяца назад

You have a very assuring and soothing way of expressing the things many of us feel.🌿

@triplethreat2226 4 месяца назад

Paola, I’m proud you challenged some of the bad advice you received! Don’t let it define you. It’s far too common for people to get the wrong message and internalize it. As someone who can relate to this negative experience, I’ve grown and sought out proper supports and too have learned to work with what I have in the best way I can. Be proud of yourself…. You’ve used this to your advantage and have help so many people…. Including yourself ❤ Thank you for what u do!! 🙏

@jillychandler 4 месяца назад

I suppose there will always be horrible folk around, who try to bring us down, but as you point out, we have to be true to ourselves. I believe in being kind and caring to others, maybe because I would love others to be kind and caring to me. It makes me sooo happy if I can make someone happy, and give them a better day. I can not bear cruelty to animals, or people, but we can only do our best to be good people. I am a recluse now, with Madge, but that suits me, and I do get to speak to other human being occasionally. That is why I subscribe to a lot of You Tube channels, like yours, as I feel part of something then, and not so alone. Blessings and love to you, from Jilly & Madge the rescue greyhound, from West Devon, England. xxx

@tedpreston4155 4 месяца назад

I'm happy to be part of something with you, Jilly (and Madge)! My girls, the stripey Staghound & shaggy Deerhound, sure like my energy better after I watch one of Paola's videos! May you and Madge find health, joy and contentment in your reclusive life! Give Madge a bellyrub for me!

@jillychandler 4 месяца назад

@@tedpreston4155 Thank you tedpreston, give your girls the same from us! xxx

@saragart8820 4 месяца назад

Automatic happy mood when you upload! Love you're videos and I hope you're pregnancy is going well! ❤

@daggy1778 4 месяца назад

dear Poala...................a wonderful video...................thank you so much for sharing ......I am sure,you and Luke will be very good and proud parents and you will show the little one the important things of life...............your selfmade lamps looks beautiful..........Blessings and Greetings from Daggy,Kiel,Germany☘☘☘

@nathalielorit9417 4 месяца назад

You are a brave and wonderful young woman. I must say that you are able to convey such peace and wellbeing through your videos, your soft voice, the beautiful images of your surroundings, your artistic handcrafts and the way of life you have chosen... that I find it hard to imagine that you may once have suffered of anxiety issues. Thank you for your beautiful videos and for your wise thoughts, they are soothing, nurturing and they reassure me that somewhere out there is the possibility to live in a better world. Take good care of yourself and the precious baby in your womb, dear Paola.

@leslieefird7062 4 месяца назад

I’m so glad that you share your life and lessons etc via this video platform. While it would make a fascinating book, it’s so enjoyable to be able to share in the sights sounds and your smile. Best wishes on expected baby❤️

@fannyriand4917 4 месяца назад

I really resonate with the words you shared in this video, and feel more hopeful ❤️ I was very optimistic as a child and now as a young adult I feel much more fear and dread that can make just sitting alone with my thoughts overwhelming. I want to find and rebuild that optimism again. Thank you for sharing this wonderful video ❤️

@homebodyheaven6114 4 месяца назад

I was desperately depressed throughout my childhood and early adult years. Never got counseling or ‘therapy’. Just kept seeking God. Life is a spiritual journey. God never let me down. Today I’m a grandmother and one of the most optimistic people you could ever meet. Don’t let the Negatives get you down. Life is Good!

@katherinec3463 4 месяца назад

Such a lovely wise video. I'm sure you've read Joanna Macy but I find her approach so uplifting and inspirational. She says without challenges and even dire circumstances, where would you find a hero? She encourages us all to take up our capes and welcome adversity as it makes us into superheros! Being willing to change is so powerful and freeing! Thanks Paola!

@mrsplumbridge4888 4 месяца назад

You are a shining light Paola strive for contentment I think that's the most important thing. Happiness is a fleeting emotion like many others and contrary to mainstream beliefs we cannot achieve happiness constantly. But contentment can be a lasting state of mind. Im 58 and this is my life lesson so far. 😊 sending you love and light you beautiful soul xxx

@glistenandgleam 4 месяца назад

I am in grad school to become a mental health therapist and I absolutely LOVE this mindset! Thank you for your videos

@flowergirl7260 4 месяца назад

I think sometimes our happiness is not warmly regarded by unhappy people, but i guess that's to be expected. It just feels better to be optimistic, regardless.

@dianamarie1652 4 месяца назад

The balloons were beautiful, I remember watching the balloons races when I lived in Arizona! So fun! So great to see you and Luke❤

@eyaelysian 4 месяца назад

Thank you for the beautiful message . Love from india❤

@angelagrimes8237 2 месяца назад

Thank you for this vlog. At 68 I am discovering what you have learned now and keep sharing. It is never too late to find peace with oneself and mindfully live life with a point of view of abundance rather than lack. It is so true that anyone can accept that the world is on fire literally and figuratively and that finding the beauty, joy and goodness of life and the world seems like a false hope. It isn’t. Being optimistic, light hearted etc isn’t difficult once you choose to be. Finding the balance is challenging but honestly, your words make it so plain and simple and doable:be the light you want to see in the world. Yes! Thank you so much! Oh and if you ever can do it go up in the ballon! It’s is a fabulous experience!

@hollybrabeau 4 месяца назад

Difficulties in life well round us and make us appreciate the simple things, especially through hard work and perseverance.

@iremfeyza_luna14 3 месяца назад

I can be a source of light in the darkness. ✨💫 "Once you decide to be that source of starlight you'll realize that there're entire galaxy of stars and you are far from alone." 🧚‍♀️ This is beautiful 💜

@lindaedwards7840 4 месяца назад

Hello Paola, good morning from England , I have enjoyed watching your videos, this one in particular watching the Air Ballons is something that always takes my breath away, the slow rise into the air the peaceful joy of life fantastical whimsical, you captured them perfectly as they floated across the vast sky, You and you husband together beautiful. Life is like a balloon floating along the more peaceful energy you put into each moment the higher you go. The more aware you become as you see your horizons clearly.Your craft work incorporating your experiences light shinning through for all to see. Joy to you both. Hugs and Blessings 💚🌹💐

@malindakolb5994 4 месяца назад

I was raised by a father who taught us to work at being positive. It has helped me handle my trials and tribulations. The joy of the Lord truely is my strength. 😊

@giarivera5060 4 месяца назад

About time ending the circle of victimism and feeling sorry for yourself. A new life is about to come and he needs a lot of attention, love and happiness. Good luck and stay positive always and no matter what.