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The Mother Wound In Men 

Ehsun Anwar
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In this video, I talk about the most common form of the mother wound that I see in my coaching sessions.
(the audio quality is a bit lower because I had a fan on, but hopefully its good enough for you to enjoy)
Most traditional men were raised by a stay at home mother who was very sweet and caring, but who was also overwhelmed with running the house. So she couldn't actually give him the amount of emotional attention and calmness that he craved as a young boy. He felt a degree of isolation from her. And, he usually noticed in his early years that she was treated as an inferior by his father. The combination of sensing the stress in his mother and not receiving the warm connection that he wanted from her + seeing her not being treated with respect and affection by his father, set him up to become a highly wounded man, who learned to relate to women in a damaged and disconnected way.
Some men were raised by a single-mom, or a mother who was dominant over his father in the house. She was very critical, driven, and controlling. This creates a hurt and inadequate sense of self, and a deep resentment against women that will flow into his current relationship. Sometimes, this resentment actually shows up as him being a pleaser, feeling unable to assert boundaries with her.

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@_IslaNearly
@_IslaNearly 4 месяца назад
I understand all of it and want to work it out. But that person refuse and get onto new relationship. Just because you can understand and be compassionate towards them, doesn’t mean you have to endure the dysfunctionality
@ehsunanwar
@ehsunanwar 4 месяца назад
This is true :) There comes a point where you have done all you can. As I said, if he is not willing to improve, there can be no healthy relationship ❤
@carrielegg5480
@carrielegg5480 6 дней назад
This is the best authentic video i have ever seen. I don't feel so alone hearing this video. I pray that things will start to change between my mom and I.
@5kidsBubby
@5kidsBubby 3 месяца назад
I'm the mom who never knew how to love my sons. My dad was abusive and never loved himself, either... my sons are in their 40s. My husband was also treated as a military child. Broken and defensive. All I can do is cry.
@carrielegg5480
@carrielegg5480 6 дней назад
I hear you. You are a beautiful human being.
@MC-wv2wp
@MC-wv2wp 4 месяца назад
I’ve been hurting my wife for 25 years because of this wound and also a father wound. Everything you said is spot on. Bought your father wound online course. Gold! Keep up the good work! This is a global problem and you are helping solve it head on. Very timely. We appreciate you, and your wisdom.
@Pearltms3
@Pearltms3 2 месяца назад
You just described my boyfriend 100%
@AverageAufa
@AverageAufa 7 дней назад
I hope you’ve left him? This describes my husband 100% and divorce is a lot harder than a break up
@briechilli4496
@briechilli4496 5 дней назад
Mine too.
@jmecoo
@jmecoo 4 месяца назад
Thank you for talking about narcissism in such a compassionate way. I hope many people see this and feel worthy of healing. Right now it seems nearly everyone wants to label their exes as narcissists. I met with someone recently and she said the guy she’s dating is a narcissist. I didn’t want to discount her pain, but I did say you can have narcissistic traits without having NPD and it’s probably from trauma. It makes me so sad that people with trauma end up being completely vilified as a lost cause. They didn’t ask to be traumatized. The world definitely needs more compassion. Thank you!! 🙌
@ehsunanwar
@ehsunanwar 4 месяца назад
Thanks for this, totally true. But as I said, it takes a lot of inner work to develop TRUE, gentle, loving compassion for all. I am on the journey like everyone else 🙏🏽❤️🌎
@martaszyszka7654
@martaszyszka7654 4 месяца назад
Have you ever been in a relationship with a REAL narcissist? I guess not. I'm kinda feeling sorry for my ex, very abusive ex, who had no problems leaving his own children (our son, and 2 girls from his relationship years ago) behind.and just moving on like they never existed. To say the least. I know he must have been hurt when he was a child and a teenager. Badly injured. But at the same time when I think about how he was treating me, I wanna send him straight to hell.
@cbrumigin4107
@cbrumigin4107 11 дней назад
My God this is very, very good. Thank you for this video so much, God bless you 🙏
@EggMCMUFFIN-e4l
@EggMCMUFFIN-e4l 2 месяца назад
I was exactly like this. My mom left me and my two older sisters with my abusive biological father for a year and a half. My sisters had fend for ourselves as he was rarely home. I was 5 at the time. Fast forwards, my step father abused her, she left us again with my abusive stepfather. I was 14. I grew up with women so acting out as a man was not condoned. And i recently realized this after my last relationship where my ex even told me she was acting as my mother. I struggled to act out emotionally out of fear of emotional rejetion. I struggled to be there for her when she needed me emotionally. I miss her so much and she had every right to leave..
@AverageAufa
@AverageAufa 7 дней назад
I wonder how many men vs women watched this video. 😢 It feels like the wife/gf are trying and trying but the husband/bf don’t even want to acknowledge anything
@longingforjannah
@longingforjannah Месяц назад
You...Are...Brilliant. The way you explained this is so simple yet deep enough to open up and uncover much unawareness. I'm truly grateful. Thank you so much.
@devinl8487
@devinl8487 Месяц назад
It's so hard to stay. I am a wife that has wounds too. I try to be better and not stay in victim mode.
@naturalwomanhairandskincar9512
@naturalwomanhairandskincar9512 Месяц назад
Thank you so much for answering your calling ❤
@carrielegg5480
@carrielegg5480 6 дней назад
Im going through this with my mom. I talk to her daily. I love my mom. Its very painful these terrible fights we get into. I feel deep pain. It hurts me so much. I feel sad, not good enough, unloved. My heart is broken. Yes im not adequate. My mom is very critical. I have grown so much too. I even lost 225lbs and maintaining for 15yrs now. So I get confused why can't I get past this? I have done deep inner work around this for years now.
@alisonadenis-sickofibs
@alisonadenis-sickofibs 7 дней назад
Wow. So well explained.
@PatriciaHinojos-k3m
@PatriciaHinojos-k3m Месяц назад
This was an amazing piece. Completely informative. I have been trying to understand some seemingly disconnected actions from someone I care about great deal about. This untangled so much of it. Your ability to explain the complexities of the soul is truly a great gift. Thank you.
@FatimaZahra-oe6br
@FatimaZahra-oe6br 26 дней назад
Unbelievable how straight to the point and pertinent this video is !! First time I see this channel 🎉🎉🎉 cudos .. bravo !
@izarawanjiru
@izarawanjiru 3 месяца назад
Golden knowledge ✨️ 💛 Much gratitude ✨️
@anacraciun-lambru5291
@anacraciun-lambru5291 2 месяца назад
Thank you so much for this video! It brought so much insight into the inner struggles of my partner and the reasons of our conflicts. If brought a lot of insights to me as well, because it applies to what I have experienced in my life. I am so grateful that you are sharing this information, because it is so hard to discover what is truly going on inside us. I am really looking forward to your next videos about the father wound and the mother wound in women.
@friedmangobean
@friedmangobean 4 месяца назад
thanks for taking time to create this type of content!!! it's helpful for many of us navigating our own/others trauma 🙂☯️
@ehsunanwar
@ehsunanwar 4 месяца назад
@tehreemrasool6917
@tehreemrasool6917 4 месяца назад
Thank you for sharing this valuable knowledge Ehsun! Sometimes i wonder ! Is there anyone emotionally healthy anymore? I mean, all i see around is wounded men n women! I just want the whole humanity to heal including myself
@ehsunanwar
@ehsunanwar 4 месяца назад
Thank you for appreciating. To be honest, humanity has been living in survival mode for thousands of year. So it makes sense why very little of us are currently emotionally healthy. It will take time ❤
@Psyched123
@Psyched123 4 месяца назад
And that's exactly how my dad used to behave. He had both mother and father wound.
@ehsunanwar
@ehsunanwar 4 месяца назад
Thank you for sharing that
@kevinmai2947
@kevinmai2947 21 день назад
Nice video! Keep 'em coming!
@ItsRaitisLV
@ItsRaitisLV 4 месяца назад
Sadly I have a big mother wound and have hurt my girlfriend greatly
@FatimaZahra-oe6br
@FatimaZahra-oe6br 26 дней назад
Salam from Morocco ❤️
@afterthestorm221
@afterthestorm221 2 месяца назад
Thank you this is an excellent video for both sides to listen and think about.
@Hebsparks
@Hebsparks Месяц назад
Coming out of a 6 year relationship with someone with CPTS, DID, as well as complex bodily challenges. My inability to do this level of work made everything worse & we both suffered due to it. We both did our work as hard as we had the capacity for but it eventually was too overwhelming and we, for both of our own mother/father wounds, needed independence in order to focus on solely that. The trauma bonding wasn’t going to sustain us or give us a stable foundation. The clarity of this is amazing, thank you so much. I wish I could have come across it 4 years ago - but such as it is. I am grateful to be doing the work now. * I am also finding Alexander Lowen’s work very very helpful! The book “Fear of Life”. In the introduction alone he articulates the neurotic nature of our culture in a profound way.
@amaliariganova5181
@amaliariganova5181 4 месяца назад
Hello brother, so here we are ur followers from instagram 🙏🥰
@ehsunanwar
@ehsunanwar 4 месяца назад
@stadium999
@stadium999 10 дней назад
Thanks man
@rebeccamccaffrey5897
@rebeccamccaffrey5897 4 месяца назад
I watch your shorts on Facebook/ instagram and you are incredible at explaining everything so well and spot on. ❤
@ehsunanwar
@ehsunanwar 4 месяца назад
Thank you for your appreciation ❤
@Vani_22
@Vani_22 4 месяца назад
Thank you ehsun for the awareness you brought into me while I was in confused state about the term narcissistic personality disorder. Now I got clear idea about the past childhood trauma is the factor of everything 🙏
@ehsunanwar
@ehsunanwar 4 месяца назад
It absolutely is, in terms of explaining one's behaviour. But the other factor is, are they now open to growing? This is a pivotal factor for people's relationships
@VanyaHolisticLiving
@VanyaHolisticLiving Месяц назад
Thank you. Very good and comprehensive explanation. And I appreciate your compassion and calm. Would love to hear your take on the golden child dynamics. How a glorified, pampered boy may be traumatised, have low self-esteem (as his true self was never seen / wanted etc.) and become a narcissist as adult. Glorification of sons (in certain countries / cultures like India) often results in their self-entitlement and really toxic relationship behaviour...
@SunShine2024-t2w
@SunShine2024-t2w 3 месяца назад
Thank you for this video.A lot of key lightbulb type moments.Your insights and perspective are really inspiring and helpful
@_AhaNah
@_AhaNah 4 месяца назад
Thank you for such a informative video❣️ which it was made sooner, totally could’ve used this information when I was with my ex. It’s so hard to see someone hurt and not knowing how to help 😢
@ehsunanwar
@ehsunanwar 4 месяца назад
Thank you for appreciating 🙂All happens in divine timing so don't worry. It will make sense soon enough
@jamiec5274
@jamiec5274 4 месяца назад
Thank you for sharing all your wisdom. I’ve learned so much! I would love to do one on one with you. I’m feeling so disconnected from husband. Like I’m just here, stay at home mom, taking care of kids and house. And he has no need to be loved or feel connected. So I feel like I’m with holding love to give and am not receiving connection from him. He’s very successful self employed, very drive and disciplined man.
@ehsunanwar
@ehsunanwar 4 месяца назад
Thank you for sharing this. My one to one work has closed for now. But I would love to see you (and perhaps your husband if he is open to it) inside of the new Peace Program starting in June ☺
@bserene6328
@bserene6328 2 месяца назад
Wow. What a great vlog. Thank you for all the explanations!
@ts381
@ts381 19 дней назад
I wish I could send my ex to you. Not for the relationship. He needs to heal for the next person. Otherwise these type of people keep spreading their wounds like contagious disease
@FatimaZahra-oe6br
@FatimaZahra-oe6br 26 дней назад
❤❤❤
@Zphora
@Zphora 25 дней назад
Simple and well explained Thankyou..a dismissive avoidant I met def had this. Makes sense. Just wondering Could you maybe come closer or have brighter lighting? Just helps to connect. Thanks again
@omarelrafhi9595
@omarelrafhi9595 Месяц назад
great video ! can you please make a video about father wound in men ?
@saksoka4421
@saksoka4421 3 месяца назад
Can you make also long video for father wound in men
@jarhonda2702
@jarhonda2702 Месяц назад
My Ex is a Narcissist because of this
@advitiyasharma1536
@advitiyasharma1536 4 месяца назад
💯
@ehsunanwar
@ehsunanwar 4 месяца назад
🙏🏽
@qadz7635
@qadz7635 10 дней назад
Solution then ​@@ehsunanwar
@Nextlevelyo
@Nextlevelyo Месяц назад
How do you get someone to understand this wo getting defensive
@briechilli4496
@briechilli4496 2 дня назад
You leave !
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