Message to all women and girls, if you notice any of these signs, end the relationship, as it will be the most traumatic event in your life that will take you years to get over. Signed a survivor.
@@bianca4579 Make sure she is well informed of the situation she is in, that is if you are allowed any contact with her.Show her some information about abuse on youtube. I went to therapy for 12 months before I left, it helped me alot. I am so sorry you and your family member is in this situation, stay strong.
You got that right. Even long after I left the narcissistic bastard ex boyfriend, my health is still ruined. I ended up with eczema that I still can’t get rid of to this day. I swear that if I ever get diagnosed with a terminal illness, I’m going to make that evil pos disappear.
This is what my narcissist ex did to me msde me so sad I’m normal happy, he definitely had a miserable energy about him, he ghosted me few times no closure ignores messages, act like he never knew me then the next he’s messaging. Plays with my feelings. Worst guy I’ve ever known.
I’m married to a narcissist. I filed for divorce and he came back begging me to not go through with the divorce. We had a talk and I believed him. Biggest mistake! Now my children are upset with me and I’m miserable. I spent sooooo much on attorney fees. Follow your hearts ladies!!!! These narcissist aren’t to be played with wolves in sheeps clothing
You are supposed to exist without them knowing.always involved a third party to handle your affairs be it a lawyer.good thing is that your kids know the type of person he is.
My narc husband agrees to the divorce which makes me feel worse. I thought like a normal person he’d change and beg me to stay, but maybe it’s a blessing he’s not begging cuz god knows I’d probably take him back too.
If your children are upset with you for being with anyone, you probably should really consider not being with them. Unless, of course, the children are narcissistic themselves, lol.
Gurl. You got love bombed! Consider checking our therapist Ramani’s videos on here? Educate yourself on their tricks so you can see how comically predictable they are and see them coming. Then, see a Narc experienced therapist and have them help you get a solid plan together to keep you impervious to their tricks and on track. Use the last bit of time left with him to move any and all shared funds and assets to a private account. (A lawyer can coach you on this). After you leave, cut them out ENTIRELY. Talk through your lawyer only, keep an accurate record on the cloud of every outright abusive thing they do. Do lots of therapy to regain your individuality and break the cycle of codependency. Good luck 💗
You have to explain to them like they're 5 about how their impressions of others or their own behaviors are way off. That's often the narcissist's weakness. The narcissist can't see that their behavior is abnormal. Also they think they can read other people's minds, but what they're really doing is thinking that everyone thinks as they do (projecting).
@@missj2045 yes they have arrested development & i had to try & explain their actions have consequences 🙄 my last 2 relationships were with narcs, narc MIL & I’ve a dad with traits so yea. know only 2 well 😝
I don't see the point in doing anything harmful to others, especially toward the people I don't know and the people I care about but besides that, I can't lie that I really wish I'd be neurotypical.
@@schnitzelberry Do you actually have NPD, or could there be another explanation for your neurodiversity? I have ADHD and I'm possibly mildly on the ASD spectrum. I've never been a normie. I'm in my 40s now and I appreciate not feeling the need to fit in anymore. I let the normies compete with each other. I'm so much happier on my own and thinking for myself. I don't need to impress anyone. I like the right people in small doses.
I can’t see narcissists honestly going that deep into thought over “the differences between a human & a machine“...to a narcissist they’re both just tools to get stuff....the only difference would be “which one pisses me off & disappoints me more”
Idk, I feel it may be a lil dif for each one~ my NPD ex actually referred to himself as a robot a handful of times. Called himself a social chameleon, also.
@@missym5196 My Socio sibling would have said ALL of this out loud and loud enough for the guy in the corner to hear. Hoping for a confrontation. AND does extensive research on people that she is jealous of, looking for a flaw that can be pointed out to assure herself that she is better than them just as she suspected. I had a great perspective and confidentiality with a sibling that 'couples/parents' don't have. She told me everything to try to impress me with her vileness. She insisted that I was JUST LIKE HER deep down only I didn't have the guts to be open about it. It's a thrill a minute.
13 yrs wit one. She definitely was something else. Going that long isn't a badge of honor. Just means I have a high pain threshold for abuse. Not soemthing I'm proud of..
But why is that? I’m currently with one but trying to get away. She makes no suggestions or comes up with ideas. She sits and waits for me to do it all. Their almost not humans more zombies. I gotta get away
@@richardsepulveda6094 The two that I know are for sure zombies. It's like they're just existing not living. They're never really invested in a "relationship" because they only see it as transactional, tit for tat, there's no true connection coming from them. She needs you to do it all just in case anything goes left you'll be the blame. It's all some kind of set expectation game on you because unfortunately at the end of the day they know they're empty and cannot measure up. Imposters.
Yea every job has 1. I've made a mistake before by challenging him. Then I found out how far these people are willing to go when your presieved as a threat. I won at the end but it sure was he'll trying to proof that I was being sabbatoged and was a target.
@@jayr8534 what they do if you resist there offers because they want to be closer and they want your good.. Blah bla .. And u be obliged to deal with them at work or school??
I just left my job because of the narcissist I worked with and was abused by but it worked out better for me because I have two jobs I love now one being that animal care job he said I would never get and bets yet he knows I got that job because my mum told him when he asked about me after seeing her in the street
Don't give up on your dreams. This was wonderful, and if you're a victim of narcissistic abuse, that's a hard opinion to maintain. Keep going, don't settle for existing. Enjoy your life, believe in yourself. You're good enough.
This helped me realize that people’s judgement literally should never be taken seriously. It was comical but also almost made me feel bad for the insecurity and criticism that narcs inflict on themselves in their own head. The criticism other’s see is just the tip of the iceberg.
"You're not better than us." I've heard this comparison from my ex narcissist so many times. He always thought in terms of lesser or greater than. He'd always accuse people of thinking they were better than him. That's a red flag. This is a great video!!
That red flag might come at the very end of your relationship when your husband says I make more money than you and you went to college he likes that about himself but he got there because of my dad they lived double lives and they hide a lot I mean do you think they’re wonderful person it takes three or four years to even said somethings not right but you can never figure it out there we steps ahead of you
@@Portia620 They are also the most ungrateful people. They will get jobs because of other people but then claim they were self-made. The fact that they appreciate none of your efforts will hurt. Just ignore the narcissist's narrative. We both know they're full of shit.
My narc husband has accused me of thinking I’m better than him too. I think he’s actually projecting his own self esteem issues. He always seems to view our relationship as some sort of competition. He gets angry and threatened if things are going good for me, like he thinks it makes him look bad in comparison. I’ve told him so many times that we are not fighting a war against each other. We’re supposed to be on the same team, conquering obstacles together. That concept seems impossible for him to understand. It’s madness.
I couldn’t get myself to leave my narcissist bf. When we were good, we were REALLY good. But when we were bad, it was really BAD. Finally one day…I just had enough of his gaslighting. I felt frustrated because I could see clearly and he kept pushing me under and making think I was not feeling or seeing things right. And I know damn well his narcissistic behavior and gaslighting going on. Once I was fed up, my feelings for him left and it got easier to leave him.
Literally how the narc that i dated thinks and acts especially the terrance douglas scene .. my ex thought every guy was his enemy n thought every female wanted him 😭🤦🏽♀️ the relationship was literally false illusion and he lived in his head wayyy too much
Yes, exactly! My ex also thought every male he encountered was somehow trying to “one up” him, and was obsessed with being the “dominant” male in any situation (it was so strange to me because I never in my life made classifications of people in this way - as superior/inferior, and when I tried to tell him not everyone thinks that way, he literally didn’t believe me) .... as far as thinking all women want them - that is the absolute truth! He even tried to tell me that my (sweet, 65 year old) mother was coming onto him ... these people are NUTS.
@@carlwilliams5403 you got to litteraly go no contact. Don’t speak to the person at all even tho you loved them they never really truely loved you . Its tough but you have to heal from these type of individuals
@@2TROLL1 you should research narcissism relationships. You dont know the person is this way in the beginning. They ACT normal but become manipulative, emotional abusive, obsessive, possessive and so much more hurtful hateful things. Who I THOUGHT I wanted never even existed bc these type of individuals pretend well. What brought you to this video if you dont mind me asking…?
We need to remember EVERYONE is first a beautiful perfect and whole soul, and secondly a human being. And as humans, we operate mainly from ego and usually carry around a lot of wounding, baggage, etc. Hurt people, hurt people. Narcissists are made, not born. Which means having a level of compassion to understanding why they are the way they are. Most narcissists were raised by narcissists, experienced abuse in some way, and have serious inner child wounds. To say a narc will never change is to condemn someone to a physical prison by completely disregarding the real power of unconditional love that comes from the divine and is contained within each of us as our soul. It is important to have boundaries with narcissists, but to demonize them would be putting yourself on the same level of illness. I had narcissistic traits. Then the Divine had me fall in love with a covert narcissist and this derailed my life. BUT, it was the catalyst for my spiritual awakening, healing, and ultimately me becoming my best me ever. I believe people can change and we dont have to accept labels that seek to keep is bound in toxic ways of living.
@@emilys2849 Self awareness is the first step to healing. Perhaps a combo of spiritual healing work and counseling or therapy might help you on your journey. You are your best advocate, so dont give up! ~ Namaste 💓
This is spiritual warfare between good and evil..evil people hurt people..plenty of us been hurt..but we help people..God gave them over to a reprobate mind..until God shows you that they chose evil..you wont understand
I was raised by a narcissistic abuser and I did not turn into a narcissistic abuser, however, with the narcissist, I became a reactive abuser and I knew that this was in fact killing me slowly. I agree that narcissists can be created,, but I also believe it has to do with our brains and how they’re connected. I cannot ever not have empathy, which is sorely lacking in my narcissistic abuser and all those I’ve met with the same tendencies.
Narcs are made. But any expert on them will tell you that they very rarely change. It’s a dangerous message to perpetuate to codependents that don’t understand that and keep sacrificing more of themselves to try.
@@AJManol I was a codependent who got destroyed by a narcissist. I believe this is more of a spiritual issue. I am definitely NOT saying someone who is being manipulated by a narc should try to change them. If you recognize the behavior, you should seek professional help for yourself. Counselors can advise on how to deal with the situation depending on the severity. What I AM saying is you can still love that person unconditionally, with the compassion and understanding that it is a sickness, not a terminal illness. EVERYONE can CHOOSE to heal, but they have to first acknowledge. I believe we are in a very unique time in human history where more people are choosing to wake up to their divinity and the power within them. And in doing that, they are learning that they can heal themselves through choice and intention. But it is 100% spiritual warfare. However, that all being said, learning to love and respect your own energy comes first, which means having healthy boundaries. For example, if you live with narcissistic family and you cant escape for one reason or another, you can still love them while also understanding their condition and keeping your distance energetically so they cant continue to manipulate and hurt you. I hope this all made sense.
I don’t think this portrays what a true narcissist is like. They are more interactive, abusive and play mind games with family and friends. This video did not nail what a narcissist are do.
The film maker wasn't getting into family or relationships he is just portraying what an individual who is a narcissistic is like. I think he did a great job. A narcissistic is on a whole different level and path in life.
I also don’t think most narcissistic people are this self aware. They think that they love and care for people truly. They just love people according to what they can do for them. If someone is doing what they want they love them in that moment. Once you say no or put your foot down you become the enemy
God this was weirdly Validating today I needed after I was wondering wtf happened with my nex. So many phrases that was like OMG I knew that seemed off. Especially the looking people up online. They think everyone’s obsessed with them but they’re obsessed with everyone else, really
For 58 yrs I've been dealing with my brother..Guess it's time to say Good Bye little brother.. Thank You for being such a Teacher to me!! I now understand you!!
This narcassist dude i dealt with is obsessed with me. I cut him off so he started slandering campaigns around the neighborhood & was calling me on different numbers.. I had to change my number. Narcassist is just another name for demon
My nex was like this, would tell me I criticise people and that's not the person be wants to be with and then 5 minutes later would criticise someone, would go over to a random man in public and tell them to stop staring if they looked in our direction. Its crazy how they operate
I have an NPD mom and unfortunately grew-up with narcissistic tendencies even though I’m not a full-blown narcissist. I am trying my best to work on these tendencies and somehow do better. I really don’t like the fact that they’re so prominent in my life. Happy so start seeing a psychologist in March about this! This is a great work of art btw
I relate to this video almost exactly the same! I, too, would like to change this behavior/disorder for the better. Its possible, its doable. Best of luck.
Great job!! I would love to see what you could with one in a "committed" relationship. The love bombing, manipulation, fits of rage, gaslighting, devaluation to the ghosting. You are very talented. Thank you for making this short film, very eye opening.
I knew a woman who was exactly like this. Most evil human being I’ve ever met. She tried to beat me up because she was jealous of me being younger than her & she was insecure about aging. She had a stage name she went by: “immaculate.”
This video gave me panic attacks the whole way through… The extreme similarities between the narcissist who abused me and the narcissist in this video shocked me. This video is too ACCURATE! The cycle of Narcissistic abuse is scary, to say the very least, and I still have unresolved trauma from my experiences. Seems that my abuser still has control over my mind even though I have no contact with him anymore… does anyone else still feel controlled like this?
It’s amazing how these Narcissists think they are better than everyone else. They feel they are so untitled to everything. I feel sorry for these types of people. It’s sad really. Very good film, well done and spot on. Good job.
He has no blemishes on his face in his sick head. Reality is that his face is full of blemishes, especially the right side of his face. The way the narcassist thinks is so twisted. Creeps me out every time!!!
Narcissist are really envious of everyone who achieved anything they didn't, who has a better appearance, I could really see someone I know in these thoughts... Never a nice word about anyone, especially if they actually achieved something in life, good career, buying a house, the diploma they earned, and so on. Everything is something to trigger the envy and make them upset, trying their best to put down whatever those people achieved, if it's diploma they cheated at school, if it's a career they got their job because supposedly a family member or a friend got them in the company and anyway they're just not doing their job well, and so on. Sadly as you portrayed it well, they learn how to hide their real personality, and often you see their real face when you're stuck in their"spider's web"... Good movie, nice work!
God I actually feel sick...im 9 weeks out my narcissistic relationship an still trying get my head round stuff that he did an said...this has turned my stomach.
They don't feel so don't feel bad. Mine made me feel like I was worthless feel bad for their victims however I do understand if you haven't experienced an abusive manipulated narcissist
@@deniseann4757 and then they hold on to the past victims in their mind like trophy's. And, constantly compare. But, refuse to accept the blame for things going down. Unless their using it as a tool to grip your attention.
I get what you're saying on how someone can get to this level. They have been abused deep down to end up like like. Their coping skills are only to protect themselves.
I’m a clinical sociopath and there was a time I had thoughts like this guy before I became less delusional. Although the ending was creepy lol never done that before.
2:53 This really shows how they project their feelings onto other people. He says it's sad but then immediately says "actually for them" to deflect his insecurities onto someone else because deep down he knows that what he does is sad.
Wow this is really spot on. You should do one with a Narcissist guy and how he views his relationship with his girlfriend/ wife. You know like different dynamics would help lots of people.
PEOPLE OF GOD IF YOU ARE READING THIS THE LORD IS TRYING TO GET YOUR UNDIVIDED ATTENTION HE’S GIVING YOU ANOTHER CHANCE TO REPENT AND SAVE YOUR SOUL!!! Dear Lord Jesus, I know that I am a sinner, and l I ask for Your forgiveness. I believe You died for my sins and rose from the dead. I turn from my sins and invite You to come into my heart and life. I want to trust and follow You as my Lord and Savior.
What a great movie! Seeing the narcissist's side of life: tensions, insecurities, observations, all non-sense mechanical qualities of reasoning that are unrealistic and connected w/ his lack of connection to everyone, since his superior attitude shows that narcissists are in fact sick in their heart, which is dead by default and they know no-love... I really enjoyed it! :) (English is not my first language, can you notice it? lol)
My narc ex was very neat, organized (almost to the point of obsessiveness), intelligent, accomplished, and definitely knew how to cook and make tea lol
@@smarteam5920 high functioning narcissist who only does thing the "perfect way" to make people around them feel guilty. It is their favourite tool. Doing "everything" the "right way" and blaming everyone else, guilt tripping. I live with someone like that currently. Boy. If narcissism was a disease this person is stage 5... Nothing i ever do is the right. Whatever she does is the only way it should be 🙄 as if i came from a cult and need to be re-institutionalized in my own damn home, and she isn’t even a blood relative...the entitlement makes me sick 😔
@@buckwheat_flower -for me, i stopped taking care of myself cuz i felt so miserable inside my mind. like people were out to get me. i just wanted to my partner to love me like my parents never could. it was selfish, but they offered to love me and i took it without truly considering how i was acting. it sucks cuz it’s like i loose my mind every time in a relationship and forget all the things true love had taught me about true, genuine relationships. it’s like amnesia for selfish, mental comfort.
I interpret this in such a sensical way that really plagues me. I mean legit, ew, Disgusting thought process. I really do love & admire this concept! I applaud you:D And as somebody who has very tragically, from my perspective, dealt with these kinds of people (that number of individuals being 3-4) it really does paint a wider, menacing picture in which I can totally see the points made here! There's no capacity for integrity & fulfillment, anything somewhat considered 'diserable,' rather focusing on the idea of being more and more than anybody else would never be able to grasp. That's also simply a vision I withhold, within my frame & concept of mind!!!:) Great job, bud
I think Narcissist don’t even care abt others...or..like in this video..the pictures sticking to the wall..they don’t even care..they see people as objects...they wanna compete..my ex is a narc..so I knew..the gaslighting part...the most terrifying...I hope God will heal Narc...🙏🏻✨🌿
The narc looked very peaceful and quite on the surface, like he was coping while he had a battle in his head, until someone appeared and triggered those battles: (Who is this? Who does he think he is?!) Frightened and extremely intimidated by someone else’s beauty and CONFIDENCE, the battle in himself got directed towards another, a narcissist had chosen his new target… someone who threatens what he believes about his glorious self and he is going to do whatever it takes to prove to himself that he is the best! I’m happy I watched this, this helps a lot!
I love the fact that the narcissist had a pet male betta fish because male bettas start flaring when they see another male betta (they fight afterwards) it’s a very nice detail
Beware This guy can be on a spree to kill innocent ppl if you tell him a bad joke 😭 The sad thing is they think like these about ppl who love n care for them
Narcissism is a personality pattern characterized by a lack of empathy, increased levels of grandiosity and entitlement, and a chronic seeking of admiration and validation
My ex narcissists status on his phone reads as follows: paint my illusion line by line.. I’m a tattoo the ink is time!!! That was the clearest message to all his vulnerable victims yet I only realised after one day he left without a word.. took all belongings from my home including gifts he bought me
The garden variety of self absorbed is grating enough.True narcissists make me recoil,and I've only vaguely known two.This kid would end up a politician.
But he's not necessarily displaying self awareness. More like his thoughts throughout every interaction and observation in comparison to himself. Everything in his environment he's deeming whether it's on his level or not or good enough for him or not. This comes off more to me like snap judgements rather than awareness.
I agree. This is too much self reflection for narrsasist and the narc would never be alone this long. They always have a gf/bf and a side piece and a bunch of prospects. Addiction would of kept the narc up all night and missed a test and that would be the gf/bf fault. Cause they didn't wake them. Well couldn't wake the narc cause the narc snuck out when the bf/gf were sleep to go meet a booty call to get new supply.
@@shawnamartin5279 so if he wanted to have a certain girl as a girlfriend and she said no and resisted his offer cuz she sow through him what he would do then? He can harm her or reuse any info against her or something!!
Very nice attempt..u can go far with this topic..believe me, u can make a series on this topic only... Am a victim of narcissistic sibling..i feel like what i see here is 1%.
