The New Rules of Dressing Our Age 

Born in the fifties I started life with culture telling me who I was. I’m going to finish my life telling culture who I am.

I really like "dress your energy, not your age"

Dress your energy, not your age. I love that. I just turned 70 but I don't feel that at all. I kept worrying that I was dressing too young and looked silly. I'm not going to worry about it anymore.

I’m 58 and Ive got to admit…I’m having the time of my life with fashion. I’ve lost 45 pounds and am feeling so good about myself. Do I wish I had done this in my 30’s and 40’s? I don’t think so. I was raising my daughter and didn’t have a lot of time to myself. I refuse to dress like my friends (not being mean). I want to be that woman who cares about her style. (To stand out). Good video!

If those haters know everything about fashion and what to wear at every age why on earth are they wasting their time watching your channel?

Don't let those green eyed monsters eat up your youthfulness.! You look fabulous. I am soon to be 71, and I like your style.

I am in my 70s and I still like the colors and styles I liked at 20. I don’t have hair to my waist and I can’t go braless, but I still like pretty clothes. I am better known now for my smile than my figure.

I have 2 observations about hair - for the record, I’m currently a 72y.o. who wears her hair in a bob that doesn’t quite reach my shoulders: First, In the movie Minority Report, there is a scene where Max von Sydow, is being given an award (a golden gun). The camera pans to the award show attendees who are all very successful business men and their wives (all aged at least 50+). Everyone of the perfectly groomed women had short hair, which was supposed to show they were “older women” and to convey age. I thought, hmmmm, not the image I want to convey…age? Nope. The second story is personal. When my mother was in her late 50s, she had female pattern baldness, so her hair was very thin, very fine and salt and pepper. She chose to wear a long blond wig to conceal this. It ended about 4” past her shoulders. I, who was in my mid-30s at the time, asked her why she chose to wear that length instead of a short haired wig. She told me it was because the long wig was her “youth and beauty.” She then put on a short wig so that I could do a comparison. She was right. She looked about 10-15 years younger in the long wig. My reaction that day was “More power to you, Mom.”

I'm loving you. Growing old is a privilege. We are perfectly imperfect. Do what makes you happy and comfortable. I'm glad I found you. Xx

Ignore these shallow, negative people.

I’m sorry you’ve had those obviously ignorant comments. Your style is very inspiring.

(Melanie here) Someone commenting on your legs being "too skinny" makes me so upset. Who is this mystery person who determined the size of your legs? Is there a body police out there - for women only, of course! That is so sexist. No-one would ever tell a man that he shouldn't wear shorts because his legs were too skinny. Sometimes, I think all these rules are to make women always feel self-conscious and negative about their bodies. Whether it's a comment from a male or another female, it is amazing that in this day and age that with the gains women have made in many areas, women are still "never allowed" to feel good about our bodies or appearance. I am thankful for your positive approach, Nada, and am so enjoying being in the Closet Confidence Facebook group.

Nada, you're beautiful and you dress perfectly! I'm not surprised at the comments you're getting. Women can be so insecure and have archaic thinking because they can't wear the things you and I do. I feel amazing at almost 54 and look great in the clothes I choose to wear. I love sleeveless tops and dresses because like you, I don't have an issue with my arms. You're a rock star and I know you won't let ridiculous comments from jealous women make you change. xo

Nada, I think your hair is simply gorgeous! Never, ever, ever cut! It makes you who you are and is so stunningly beautiful! Also, your petite frame looks so pretty in those short skirt looks! Your legs have a graceful shape and your gamine manner works with them perfectly! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!

No one has ever told me to retreat or blend into the background. I think anyone who's told this needs to find a new crew💁🏼‍♀️🙅🏼‍♀️

Good video👍Smile and attitude are #1 accessory❤Nada, you have both! Love your energy and beautiful smile.

I remember my mother telling me she had to cut her long hair when she turned 30 (1970). I'm a Grandma now and still have long hair (though I often wear it up). I'm so glad I didn't adhere to that 1970's old "rule"😊.

You are a national treasure, Nada :)

Some people are emboldened to say mean (and untrue) things by the anonymity the computer keyboard provides. Their ugly words reflect on them rather than on those they target.

Your hair is stunning nada, never cut it it’s part of your personality, and what defines you. I am 64 and have Lilongwe hair, I love it.

I’m 60 and still wear my hair long, wear shorts and short dresses (maybe not mini’s anymore-only bc I don’t want to worry if I bend over to pick up my dropped items😂. I wear skorts a lot❤. I also go braless bc I finally have more confidence, and my husband and daughter in their 20’s and 30’s say “go for it mom”. I admire woman who enjoy themselves and embrace their looks. And now my new mantra for dressing is “dress my energy not my age”. Love it-I think I have been feeling that way-but now I have a definition and saying for the feeling. Thank you. And as for the nay-sayers-don’t let them project their own issues on to you!❤ keep strong!

I am 10 years older than you and I still wear my hair long. It's salt and pepper grey, but I do it anyway. I wear and look how I feel. I am petite and olive skinned similar to you. I think we should all be ourselves. I really like your content and philosophy. Thank you for what you do.

You make me smile, thanks so much for helping us 🥰❤️

Your hair looks beautiful today.

I’m 66 and wear whatever I feel pretty in. I don’t follow too many rules they try to convince me I should follow. Glad I found you. Love your energy. To he!! with those mean people. I bet they hate themselves and are jealous of how great you look.

I LOVE your hair Nada❤I think some women are jealous of it and also believe this short hair over 50 rule probably came about as women had menopausal hair loss and felt they had no other option?I am petite in my mid-50s and ALL,and I mean all,my dresses and skirts are above knee or maxi length.And I have heard some stylists say petite women should not wear maxi lengths😯I an definitely defining my own style and feel the most confident I have in my whole life

68 yrs. I find dressing in my favorite style gives me better ‘energy’, lol.

You are wonderful! Most of these "rules" were made by men to keep women in their place. We have been brainwashed since birth to dress for other people, namely our boyfriends/husband. Be pretty, be nice, be quiet. Serve others. Let's break this demeaning cycle and teach girls to be confident, authentic and happy! I love your content Nada, I am so glad I found you. MWAH.

You are very inspiring and your energy is fantastic! I love your approach to fashion, style and age. You encourage creativity while (almost) holding our hand and tell us as it is.....I have learned a LOT. Thank you! SUMMER

Thank you such much for such nice reminders and for teaching us to carry ourselves with confidence as we age. Love your energy!

Content is top notch! You are great! (I love you in the black v neck dress and cap toe shoes, beautiful)

Thank you. Enjoying your videos-I am 65 and always interested in dressing according to what works well for me. At 5’ 1”, a video focusing on petite clothing would be very helpful. It’s sometimes hard to find petite sizes that are not frumpy.

Great stuff Nada, “dress your energy, not your age “ has to be the most helpful style suggestion I’ve heard. I don’t mind people knowing my age (59), but I do like to keep them guessing! You portray this guide so well, and I love your energy! Thank you for your amazing videos - both entertaining and thought-provoking.

You are always fabulous!!!

So many great points! At 58 I had a style crisis listening to all the rules and noticing the many changes I was experiencing with my post menopausal body. I decided that I would take the time to find my own unique style and go with that. I just do “me”. Interestingly I don’t get comments about not dressing my age anymore. I simply don’t entertain “dressing rules” or people who judge anymore. You did a great job of sharing typical concerns and reframed them beautifully.

I love your new rules, Nada! They are perfect!! 💖💖

Dress your energy is good. I think it is also important to look for the aspects of your body that you like. It is very easy as we age and our bodies change to be very negative and decide there are no "good" parts anymore.

This video is a breath of fresh air. Thank you 😊. Cheers😉🌷

love your hair and legs!!!!

Great advise, some of your best content. I do like dress your energy, and be more you. For me at 62: I hate my knees, so I wear pants, I am lazy and usually hot, so hair is short to very short. As a home sewer, I am trying to reconcile the modern looks you cover with the garment sewing patterns available. There are a lot of your don'ts out there: uneven hems, undefined waist, loose fitting, etc. Work in progress ;)

the "rule" that depressed me was "if you wore it the First time it was in fashion, don't wear it when it comes back around". when i was nineteen i worked hard and saved up for a pair of burgundy Doc Martins. now in my sixties i yearn for those burgundy boots. but i don't want to look like i am TRYING to look like a kid.

I think it's interesting the original Golden Girls, they looked and dressed "old" no celebs really do this anymore. Wear what makes you feel good. I've never heard the term old legs. Lol

Oh and I will continue to Color my hair because I started in 5th grade when my sister went to beauty school and I’ve never had my natural hair colour ever since. Also it has more body when it’s colored again fine hair

I have just subscribed as I think you have a refreshing and intelligent take on dressing in an 'age appropriate' way which you have communicated well. As a sixty two year old I would certainly wear skirts above the knee if I wanted too, but they dont particularly suit my shape or my lifestyle.

Suggest those people making nasty personal comments could just be jealous. I compliment when i like something and keep quiet when i dont

Ummm...your hair is beautiful and you look great with it just the way it is! 😍

Just discovered your channel from Australia. I'm a huge fan of Trinny Woodhall, I find it really interesting that there is a large divergence between the UK, Australia and I think you said you are in Florida? I've always worn whatever I liked, wherever I wanted. I still do. When I was in a career I wore more classic clothes (a period in my 30s in the 80's). I love Magnolia Pearl (Texas) and clothes which are just different from other people. Trinny wears more "out there" outfits, recycles and upcycles clothes and cleverly mixes high street with designer. My other style icon always would have to be Diane Keaton. I like to adapt things, I buy a lot of things from thrift stores and alter them( and find designer gear there). I haven't worn high heels since my early 30's. I love Birkenstock and Trippen shoes. I make jewellery from recycled vintage jewellery. My current fave jacket is at least 20 years old, but I've replaced the buttons with vintage ones and it's an absolute classic tailored shape that looks great with frayed jeans. I gave away all my "brand" handbags years ago. I haven't done my nails since I was about 32, I'm an artist and a gardener and a manicure doesn't last long. I think avoiding contemporary fast fashion is the best way to keep your wardrobe relevant. For example, Trinny uses clever shoulder pads. I've been enjoying your videos for your different ideas.

I like short skirts but if it's under 22 inches I think the proportions look wrong. I want it to hit several inches above the knee. That seems a bit hard to find. It's easier to find midi length or very short.

Yesss! Exactly ❤

Summer! Thanks Nada

You are beautiful hair🎉😂 thank you for your advices🎉😊

I war sleeveless tops and short dresses. I have good legs and good arms at 66 and get compliments instead of negative comments. If someone says something negative it’s probably their own inability to wear those things or maybe they are just miserable. 😩

Nada, I just love your energy ❣

Great video! I really relate to what you said about balance being beautiful because I feel that way. I know there are women who (like me) have large shoulders and love to make them look even larger, but that's not for me. I love creating, what to me is, a pleasing silhouette using wide leg pants, and pleated skirts to give me hips!

Summer, and I love your hair parted on the side

HiNada, love your channel and sense of humor, also love your hair!

Great video, Nada!! I can't believe people are saying those things about you!! Ignore them - you're beautiful!!

Your hair is awesome!!❤

I have red readers too! Very good! I dress in what I like!

Summer

Love this video. I want to dress for me and look stylish, current and feel fabulous every day as despite the aging body I now have, my mind is still young 😁

Another fabulous, informative, and encouraging vlog! I'm going to be in London the first week of June, and I'd like to find a dress and accessories as a treat to myself for my 63rd birthday. Do you have any recommendations as to where I could shop? (I'll post in the group too) 🥰

Loved this! Do you know the woman that portrayed Aunt Bea on the Andy Griffith show was only 52 years old!

What on earth are they talking about? You have lovely legs, Nada! You go, girl!

Let’s also stop commenting on legs that are “too pale.” Seriously, why do people have to give into the urge to be rude?

Ok....I'm 47. My whole life I've loved shorter dresses. Like above the knee, almost like babydoll dresses. What would you say about that?

summer,

SUMMER..sorry, I can’t find the link 😊

Just turned 63 and I never dress my age. I follow my own rules and growing my hair all one length long because I have fine hair that looks thin and flat if layered. Recent weight loss and flappy arms so prefer them covered but don’t give a crap if it’s hot lol

My hair is to my butt. I am almost 56. 😘

in my life, it is the frumpy dressed women who are the most critical of me. I find their comments rude and hurtful . I hold back on what i say back to them.

!love the dress more you not mature, so true.

I am so sorry you have had such abusive experiences with people judging what you wear. I can see that this has been painful. I don't know it is a normal part of the territory of your profession. It is not normal discourse among caring friendships. If these comments are not coming from necessary business contacts, and the comments are coming from people claming to be friends, consider replacing those friends. You deserve to be treated with kindness and dignity.

Haha I weae boho Im 76 and live abrodd..have maintaned my looks....look much younger feel younger. I get alot of attention am 5ft4in. People seem to lile me. mY hair is long...NO ONE dares make such comments to me. Who talks like this. If owmen are this catty I dont wnt to know them...they just dont dare. And yes I wear bright colors.😂 I wear mpre classics items like blazers red,,orange, mustard, fuschia and yes whote , navy, and camel....I am not a bank teller.

Yes but they are movie stars but the average person is not and do not look like them. I dont think I older women should wear long hair unless it is beautiful like this lady 's .

Very unfortunately, your hands and arms will give away your age ….esp your hands!!! Ugh!!!!🫤

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