I have been watching this podcast since the very beginning and I am pleased to share that at 32 I'm having my first baby. I left a toxic Marriage and got pregnant immediately when I hadn't been able to for 5 years. This podcast has helped get me through and it is making me feel like I can do this. It's scary and exciting but I feel in my gut like this is doable and it's okay to be excited despite the unconventional circumstances
I've delivered 6 babies, and even though I had severe complications, an emergency c-section, and even delivered twins with later pregnancies, my first birth was the one which tore me up and was the most difficult recover. I had to have an emergency 3rd degree episiotomy with that one. It was my most difficult delivery physically. I call myself a "solo parent" because my husband passed away unexpectedly. There is no dad in another house. He lives in a cemetery. My husband, my mother and my best friend all passed away within 18 months, so I'm a SOLO parent. Raising grieving children while you're grieving was the biggest challenge of my life.
When Lala said, if you’re not sure, don’t have kids, this is how I felt regarding having children (I have no kids, partly due to other factors). I love sharing in others joy in their children though. Loved seeing Ocean meeting Sosa for the first time ❤. Great episode!
Lala, I love your ache. Thank you for saying that. My daughter felt a lot of shame when my granddaughter was born because they did not ask her about bottle or breast feeding. They assumed breast feeding and she felt pushed into it and tried it and couldn’t do it and it made her extremely depressed when she was already dealing with PPA. So, thank you for saying that. Congratulations on the birth of baby Sosa. Honestly, a beautiful baby. You are so blessed. 🩷
In my generation a single mom was thought to be a lot of things. None of them good! So glad you show respect for those of us who did it alone. I’ve never heard such reaffirming words. I wish my kids listened to you.
I absolutely love that you are putting it out there that you have help and that you are having the mood swings and encouraging women to get help! You are a warrior
My sons birth mom wanted to be induced. I was so grateful to be in the delivery room, I had my first under a General and then lots of complications. Now they’re 20 and 27. ❤️
its so wild how similiar our birth stories are for our second children!!!! i had such a similar experience down to the cord around the neck and a blue baby. so glad you are both healthy and happy!! congrats la
Lala you're a machine! I could never have kids in 48 now. I. Love watching and listening tu you. Hi from Australia 🇦🇺 ☺️🎉congratulations darling to you all❤
My son, due to a very late episiotomy, stayed in the birth canal too long. He aspirated so much fluid that he stayed in the hospital an extra 10 days with pneumonia. He also had a cone head to rival SNL!
My hospital...UPMC for women in Pittsburgh was great!!!! They did ask me if i was planning on breatfeeding ahead of time and they neve asked again or said anything else...and I made the decision for both of my babies to not breast feed andi think either choice is good!!! With our diets nowadays the food we are given to eat for me it was healthier to give my babies formula!!!
Congratulations Lala you're truly amazing! I love love love this, love you so much GiGi did great lol. Love hearing about your life and your journey, you're killing it, I'm so proud of you and I don't even know you. You're an amazing woman and mother.
I was the unlucky one I guess. I have given birth 4 times, and not one time was I ever even offered an epidural. I never knew they gave them like they do now. 84, 86, 87, & 89, not one of them was an epidural ever offered. I had my babies naturally, no drugs what so ever. So happy for you that all went well and you and your lil one are doing good. Fabulous!!!!
Epidurals and spinals aren't just offered. The parents do their research and become educated about all possible options during pregnancy, and they are available during labor if you request it. They were a readily-available, widely-used option in the 80s. I chose not to ask for one with my eldest child in 1989, going med-free, but my mother asked for one, having one while having my sister in 1978.
I gotta say I've been using beam dream for 5 months. I went out of town for 3 days and for and forgot my beam and was right back to not being able to fall asleep. Was horrible! If you have a hard time sleeping, try this!
Having a friend who is willing to play Grey's Anatomy for you is pretty cool. 💗💗 The assumption of breast-feeding IS the progressive change. They always used to ask you your preference during hospital registration (or during labor if you didn't pre-register) and if you chose formula feeding, they just got formula ready for your baby, never mentioning lactation except to advise you how to care for your breasts as your milk dried up when you left the hospital. Progressives fought and complained that they were "encouraging" formula. They won, and laws and policy were then changed to where it is automatic assumption of breastfeeding, and they are not allowed to even mention formula unless the patient says it first, requesting it. Then they are still required to try to change their mind (they call it 'additional education') once more before actually caving and providing the formula. They also are no longer allowed to give the mom formula to take home for the first week, as they always did. THIS is the new progressive way, and most don't like it. It used to be easy. You just circled or wrote breast or bottle on the paper, and that was it.
So Beautiful, congratulations!! Happy she is here safe !! she is such a beautiful newborn! To Easton, I am not sure if it's the moon or what but I have been struggling with my anxiety this week & others mentioned the same. CBD with NO THC helps me alot.. the struggle is real! ..
Loooove this pod but not Easton bashing people at the end who choose to remain childfree, saying it’s selfish. Please give me one reason to have kids that ISN’T selfish - I’ll wait! Glad LaLa said earlier that she thought it was good for people not to have kids if they don’t want them.
Agree 100%. People that have children will never admit that having children is a self fulfilling selfish act. Not saying it's wrong to have kids...but don't say NOT having them is selfish when it's actually the complete opposite
@@gtgirl_99I do actually agree with you because right after, when Jess kinda spoke up (GO JESS) he said that’s probably what he was gonna do, too. Either way - be mindful of the words you speak, dude!!!
You don't have to wait long! Anyone who is raising a child could give 100 reasons and examples every single day why it is not at all selfish lol. Though one with no parenting experience obviously wouldn't know these things, which is understandable. Almost every reason one has kids is SELFLESS, so that statement is not at all accurate. As adults, we have children for all we can give of ourselves to another human for them to have a full and happy life, not for what they as just children can give to us. We do all the work as parents! The children just live, grow and learn, not owning us anything back. If someone isn't capable of that or doesn't want to devote that much to another human, they shouldn't have kids which why it definitely isn't for everyone. Your comments present more that you are getting upset over your own inner issues, not over Easton stating his opinion, which of course he has every right to do with whatever words he chooses to utilize.
I am also September 2! 1961. No wonder you always triggered me. Even down to the DOB. I knew you were Virgo but 9/2! I live turning 63. I’ve had such a rich and full life! It’s nice to sort of plateau off now. Respect to GiGi. Living my dream of being that mom and grandmother with all that love around you. $ Can’t buy what y’all have.
Congratulations mama! Been a fan of the show since the beginning and you came on and changed the game! All my love and support for you and where you continue to go. Sosa is gorgeous!!! So happy for you and the fam! You deserve it all!! Xoxo❤
It's a normal have to remove the fluid at a fast birth. Glad all is well with no drama. These things happen upon birth. You need to trust the process. It must be scary to suddenly have issues happen. Don't blame you or anything. These things happen. Congrats🎉 Lala, Ocean and Sosa baby.
Ok, so I had 2 5lb something babies and the pain was excruciating the first long the second short. My youngest was 7lb 1oz and had very little pain… something to do with the uterus not having to work so much to push out the baby
I think that breast feeding is best, however, it isn't for everyone. Women should.not be pressured and even if that is what your plan was do not let it stress you out. There are great formulas out there and you can buy breast milk
I don’t think it’s wrong to encourage mothers to breastfeed. If someone is unable to or it really doesn’t go well for them, fine you tried and you need to prioritize your health and wellness. But I do think it’s wrong to not even try it out. So many undeniable incomparable benefits to both mother and baby, for their health, bonding etc.
