The one 'biggest' problem with Arranged Marriages?? 

பெற்றோர்களால் நிச்சயக்கப்பட்ட திருமணம் அல்லது காதல் திருமணம் எதுவாயினும் தம்பதியருக்கிடையே புரிதல் இல்லையென்றால் திருமண வாழ்க்கை கசப்பாகிவிடும்

Problem is the society n relatives.. Need solutions to such issues..

Love marriage oh arranged marriage oh, ethuva irunthalum, Vazhkai ah rasika theriyathavanuku epovume naragam thaan, Its not about how we get married, Its all about how we live ,

Arrange marriage is legal punishment 😭😭😭

Katti kududha podhum ..... parents???? We have to face the problem

நிறைய பொண்ணுங்க வாழ்க்கை இன்னிக்கு இப்படி தான் போய்ட்டு இருக்கு

இவுங்க பேச்சு மட்டும் கொஞ்சம் கேட்டுட்டு விடவே முடியல... முழுதாய் கேக்க வைச்சிடுறாங்க... Wonderful speaker 😊👌

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Well said mam....neraiya girls parents kaaga than yellathaium sacrifice pannitu vaaluranga...avangalukunu oru own opinion kuda Ilama erukanga....mrg ku apuram full control lum husband Kita poiduthu....adutha jenmathula ponna matum porakka kudathu kandippa.........girls avanga life avanga nenacha maari avangalala vazhave mudila........

No marriage no tension..chilll guys ❤

Ethuku marriage......

அருமையான பேச்சு உங்கள் பேச்சு உங்கள் சேவை தொடர வாழ்த்துக்கள் சகோதரி..

Evlovo parents kattikuduththa pothumnudha irukranga

What she says is absolutely right...even to choose a shirt also we are thinking much what about a person that gonna be with us lifelong...if we get a wrong partner it will directly give huge impact towards our life...we are responsible 100% to choose wisely the right partner not our parents...even the parents choose also we must get to know the person deeply for some duration before commit...thank god i decide my own desicion in choosing life partner...and parents support it...even its right or gonna be wrong in future i still will be happy coz the desicion is mine...😊

Love before marriage is the True love. Love after marriage is not love but its a duty.

*The best way merriage pannidu love pannunga life azhaga irukkum ... Enakku arrange marriage dhan but my Hubby ma ah naa rombavum naa Love pannuren ❤😊😊*

arranged marriage only seems a joke to me and most of the western countries. people very wrongly assume that the couple can fall in love after marriage which seems very impractical. It's better to live a hard life with the person you loved with all your heart rather than creating/expressing artificial love and feeling obliged to show affection after getting arranged marriage. there are so many aspects that are going to contradict

எனக்கும் இது மாறிநடந்தது திருமணம் செய்து வைத்தார்கள் ஆனால் அந்தப் பையன் என்னுடன் உடலுறவு மட்டும் வைத்துக் கொண்டு மனைவியாகவே மதிக்கவில்லை.வேறொரு பெண்ணுடன் தொடர்பு வைத்திருந்தான். அதை அறிந்து நான் கேட்ட பொழுது எனக்கு கல்யாணத்தில் விருப்பமில்லை கட்டாயப் படுத்தி தான் கல்யாணம் பண்ணி வைத்தார்கள். எனக்கு அந்த பொண்ணு தான் வேணும். நீ வேண்டாம்னு சொல்லிட்டு போயிட்டான். கடைசியில் பாதிக்கப்பட்டு நின்றவ நான் மட்டுமே.

Most problem arises because of relatives and surrounding people and parents too sometimes making mistakes.

Currently my situations are very bad mam..enaku marriage veanu sonna..ana avanga force and blockmail panni engagement fix pannaga....namba lofe ulla ella decision-making nambala eduka mudiyathu...ennaku appa kidaiyathu so..yen life ulla ella decision ellam relative tha edupaga..en school,college eduvumay unaku pudichi irukanu keatka kuda mataga..but life partner vishyathal naa tha decide pannanum ninacha..aduvum nadakala...ithu varaikum enlife one day kuda pudicha mathiri valthadhu kuda kidaiyathu..ipa forced panni engaged panni vachitaga..pudikalana vidamal force pannraga...ipa ellarum happy ahh irukaga.. 😢

Be brave sis to face any problem at the same time self respect is more important than anything, sis u gave a nice suggestion .

First yanga ammava class anuppanum!.. yappa paru santhegam......

Better understanding is best couples ❤️❤️the person who waits for u till end ...it means true love .. ❤️ never giveup..till end

Ennaku22 age aguthu but marriage aagi 5 months tha Ana yen husband inna varaikum oru naal kuda na solluratha kekkala ..And Na avangala nambitha marriage panni vanthen 😭Ana eppo vanthu amma thangachi pudicha nalatha marriage panne eppo pudigala nu solluranga😭yen life eppo ?mark achu ...I Am 3 months pregnant but intha situation la kuda na vena nu sollum pathu na enna panrathu😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Parents ellarum kekura 1st question,"un life ah spoil paniduvoma"nu stupid ah conversation panranga.. Are all selfish bzc they are search bridal groom.. But women are find out life partner..

Break the rules be self confidence Me also arrange mrg ,avaruku self ah decision eduka therinjaalum old fashioned tradition nu chuma chuma edhukeduthaalum kora solite irupaanga Periyavangamundai vakara koodathu Elaarum saaptadhukaprom than saapdanum Morning noon night nu thani thaniya samaikanum Aama veetuku poga kudathu Na ena saapten ngratha kuda amma kita sola kudathu saapten nu matum thaan solanumam ena saaptenu sola kudaatham intha maari pala thala vali Mrg ku aprom ipdi thaan irukanum coz ne enga veetuku vaala vantha ponu vaala vantha ponu nu kadupethvaanga Edho nan matum thaan vaal porana ena Then breakup 1yr after irukura periyavanga elaam senthu hus ku advice pani now be happy always

Not only arrange maarraige kirtanya even love marraige also lik this bcos aftr marraige mind changing...........

Marriage is only problem...!!!

marriage life is a big problem adhum pudikadha oru marriage life is very very big problem

Just 1 example is not a judgement against arranged marriage.most arranged marriages are successful.this could have happened with love marriage also .

Talk about men's issues too, how men are objectified as just money providers, "Man cant be without a job and should earn more", child custody is always given to the women, divorce property split (portion of wealth being given to women is legal but dowry is illegal), etc.

superb mam ... yen life ithu marithaan irukku. ...

Mam absolutely correct mam arrange marriage parvalainu patha Ippo periya problem aa athuthan mam irukku parents namma children oda future epdi irukum nu lam pakarathu illa avan enna solluvan Ivan enna solluvan nu ponnungaloda future aa spoil pandrathe intha parents than 100%

EXACTLY the same happened with me . Three months and the marriage ended .

Enakum arrange marriage than.. but en parents lam after engagement kuda engala pesa kudathunu than sonanga... Ithuku ellathukum reason un educated ah iruka Namma parents um than reason ... Avanga society kaga mattum than paarkurangalea thavira Namma situation la irunthu paarka maatranga 🙄

Nowadays parents support for problems. They don't know to find solution for problems .If some girl or boy didn't like a proposal, parents force them to marry them.Its really wrong.you are killing your daughter/son's life.give them time to take decision.

Significant topic. Marriage shud happen as a result of mutual love . If it is arranged based on many other factors eventually problems arise. It is not wise to expect that familiarity wud create 'love' later in such relationships. Times have changed and hence we need to rethink for the betterment of social life.

. 10,+1,+2 students ku Mark pathi oru awareness kudunga

அக்கா உங்களை சந்திக்க வேண்டும் எனக்கும் குடும்ப பிரச்சனை

Sathiyama sollaren akka.... Before marriage parents are saying as after marriage everything will be okay,, after marriage,,, let's 2 to 3 yr might go , everything will be okay,,, but they will never think about that girls mindset akka..... Ipo yellaram marriage ye force panni dha cheiyaranga... They need to complete their responsibility... After that marriage,, whether the girl is happy or not? It's not important for them,,,, but girls need to be adjust for everything, y they will saying the girls to adjust?Why the parents can't adjust for that girls???

Love marriage also may not always lead to success. It all depends on how the chemistry works. And how much you love the other person. If you really love someone you will let them pursue their dreams..you won't stop your life partners from achieving / chasing their dreams.

I agree with you sister, in my own choice, if something happens I can take responsibility for it, but others messing up my life, I can't accept it

mam ur my...inspiration in my life... thank you soo much for every messages...

Ada ponga sister..Centimental blackmile panranga sister parents..easy ha solotinga nega ne adukura stand la nilunganu..alamae panitu namuku vazha terilanu soliranga sister..keta kalayanam dan panivaipom vazharathu unga kaila nu soliranga..parents mentality nlaiku yarum Ivanagala tapa pesida kudathu oru karanathukaga pidikutho pidikalayo arrange marriage azhava pani vachiranga..aparam savara varaikum nama sava venditha eruku..mudula dan apa ama nu vazhthom avanga ksathapadakuduthunu nama kashta padrom sister this wat happening in arrange marriage..

Ellarum avanga manasukku pidicha mathiri irukka try panunga.....

Love 100% unmaiyaga irukunum purinjnadakanum

U r right bt it happens not only in arranged marriage even in luv marriage..only thing should stay between them is luv..luv has trillions of power to make both of them to stay together whatever struggles nd fights come between them..It was my own experience..

Good thoughts madam. All the arranged marriages in India is not lived happily. What actually is happening in majority of the families is what exactly that husband said. Women just live for societies expectations and go through life and not living a satisfactory self-fulfilled life.

Epaiume ponugale tappu sollathiga dear parents, nagalum evloo tha sacrifice panrathu engalukum santhosham nu eruka kuthathu

Sex is not the only important thing in marriage. Marriage is not license to have sex.

சகோதி நன்றி போன் நம்பார்

பெற்றோர்கள் கடமை முடிஞ்சுருச்சுனு கல்யாணம் பன்ணி வய்க்காம தயவு செஞ்சு அந்த பெண் காலம்முழுக்க அந்த வாழ்கயோட தான் அனுபவிக்கனும் அதுவும் கயில பிள்ளைங்கனு ஆன பின்ன பெண்களே வேர வழியில்லாம அந்த வாழ்க்கை யே கதிணு கடசி வரைக்கும் வாழவேண்டியதா இருக்கு.

Nowadays Marriage is a pure Business,it don't require true love,mutual understanding & respect ,all their needs are only money...Need to change this marriage system ..

neenga solrathu 100 percent truth ithellam opena pesuna nammalatha loosunu intha arivu jeevinga solvanga

The only way happy life is not to get married and earn money own and be independent

I agree with your speech completely ma’am...what you told was right ..even me and my husband took two years to know about each and we loved each other and now we are happily married and it’s been one year...my parents had that trust in me and they were confident about my decision ...as you told initially for society pressure they want to do a marriage the way how you told but I explained the same way how you told ..,I told it’s my life whom I have to be with that person for longer time so let me think and take the decision...luckily my parents understood and gave me the liberty to choose my life partner.. Now I am happily married☺️☺️☺️

Yes mam I also havng ths same problem.

Neraya men Kum Ethan nadakuthu . I am married 2 years before but nothing happened in first night itself. She have problem in Medical wise . Before marriage she knows but hidden this information to me. So I put divorce. Now society what say to me . If already know your health condition y u r all married and spoiled some other person life. This is cheating .

not only arrange marriage....love marriage also same...

i think you did not address the real problem. Find out the core problem in that man and solve it. A counseling / treatment for the man may solve the problem, provided he is not disable in either physical or mental. Do NOT torch the hut to kill a RAT.

The problem doesn't rely on the type of marriage..either arranged or love .whatever it may be.the partner whom we choose is important.dont live up for the society..live for urself.god has given this beautiful life only for urself.when someone expects you to sacrifice and if they want to live happily by the sacrifices u have made it is an utter selfishness..dont ever fall for that.always be responsible for yourself take a wise decision and be independent.our career and studies are not only for our fame or earnings..it also helps us to be mature..if we fall for the society's selfishness..it is our foolishness..don't moan at the end..

திருமணம் என்பது பெற்றோரின் ஆசிர்வாதங்களோடு நடக்க வேண்டும்.

Akka ungala contact panne mudiuma enekku unga kuda pessenu

Love marriage analum seri arranged marriage analum purithal onu venum. Ennote lifela 2 me settagathu…😢

Keep it up akka ana youngster's middle cls Pasanga face pandra problems ah face pani Happy ah valrathu epadi nu solunga akka bcoz nan romba adi patutan life la konjam solunga akka

God's creation, each one have there individual attitude and behaviour.. it's foolish to think arrange marriage or love marriage should live life long with understanding.

Oh my god. Exactly my story. I keep quite for 16 years now. Pls girls don't wait anymore...parents are our first enemy.

Compare to men and women,women need to think more about marriage.whether its love marriage or arrange marriage... Thank u mam..

I am from Kerala residing in Dubai....we face the same issue in Kerala....atleast people like you are trying to bring some change in this society but it will take time....also if you can please provide subtitles for your videos....🤗🤗

Marriage hey problem than single life is better commite agi mind stress vangurarthuku. Job ponalum kutham pogalanalum kutham. Allience pakum bothu job pora ponna expect panuvanga. Apadi job pona ponnu nala sambathikuthanu papanga. Aduthu marriage annathu nala veetu vela seiyutha papanga. Next velaiku poga venanmnu soluvanga and thandama veetula irukanu soluvanga. Women's life slaves vida mosam. Pavam panuvanga than women uh vey porapanga

This is the best advice I have herd rather than just getting married for society it is best to know you first want to get married and whether that person chosen is a suitable partner.

How can a love Die? To make it simple , humans lost the connectivity to love one an other. This is happening only because of comparing love with worldly life or artificial things such as money ,fame, assets ..etc and then justifying it is really a void. Love is priceless and no one can buy it or sell it or define it as a law to practice it on daily basis to make it grow or feeding it with materialistic things. It is not commercial or a business to work towards a profit trend.. There can be a thousands of reason to hate or dislike or trash or to give up or to avoid some one but there is only one thing that can bind it that is love .Love will find one reason and would magify it to such an extent that all other things would fall short to it and get vanished away. If that one thing that is love only is not there, what the use of other things .People are simply show casing that only they are right or perfect and others are wrong. In simple words they are masking as if they have love. No, not at all these people won't love any one or anybody and it will not happen to them for any cause.Humans lost love, since their heart is filled with artificial things and got polluted. Just be real and don't blame others or compare with out knowing others problem seeing only at one side of the coin and come to conclusions without proper assessment. Everybody are special and precious....due to selfishness, greed ..etc. we lost the control over mankind, moral virtue,values...etc and forget to connect with sacrifice, humbleness ,, kindness to taste what actual love is all about.

it have lot of dependency issues. not easy to cut off.

madam i saw ur video regarding arranged marriage i want u speak to u personally

Same situation faced by me still going in tears 😭

Enna madam pannurathu...mrge venanu sonna...Neraya parents including my parents Ipo eduthukira weapon ... Jathagam....Ella edathulayu jathagam paathachi..Ellam ok solluranga...unaku Enna theriyum...nee pannu...naanga paathukuromnu solluranga...siripu tha varuthu

Psychological issues for intimacy, can happen in arranged and love marriage. It looks like in India divorce takes a long time, that has to be addressed. Simple mutual divorce should not take more than 3 months. cannot conceive or cannot penetrate should come under same category for quick divorce.

Andha video va first enoda amma Ku tha kattanum....tq mam😑😳

problem is not about the type of marriage.either it is arranged or loved, prblm is between two peoples.. this type of conflict araise in love mariage couples also

All love marriages are not successful, lot if failures are there, because of expectations. Arranged marriage means , boy and girl should communicate and understand then agree for marriage, it is all understanding nit only adjusting.elders are experienced they see the financial status and back ground it is good that elders see that even same caste , it will be easy to live with them, love marriages are emotional that we are blind to negative side only after marrying and living with them we understand, we may expect something, before and after, thats why mist ud failure

YES...CORRECT...FIRST THEY NEED TO TALK INDIVIDUALLY BEFORE MARRIAGE WITH THEIR FAMILY TOO.......SECRETLY....BUT DONT DISCLOSE ANYTHING TO OTHERS....THEIR PERSONAL THINGS...ONLY WITHIN FAMILY ....IF U DISCLOSE ALL INFORMATION TO ALL PEOPLE...THAT IS NOT LIFE....LIFE IS SOMETHING TO HIDE AND SOMETHING TO DISCLOSE...FINALLY WE CANT JUDGE ANYBODY....

Dear guys arrange marriage r love marriage yathuvaerunthalum ningka correct ta discission yaduingka Vera yaraium yadukasolathingka opinion kekathingka .k

Force panni Marg pannrathey thappu

No love no marriage enjoy the life 😎

Majority of people suppress the reality and truth. This is the biggest hurdle. Thanks for the awakening video

Intha kalayana azhavalam yaru da kandupichathu avan matum kaila kadachan sethan..nimathi santhosam alame pochu..

Same problem....enna antha ponnu... Player nan college ponumnu aasai padura oru ponnu...

First of all marriage isn't only and only about SEX. Sex or physical relationship is a just an part of marraige. Being an influencer it's very wrong that you talk like this. This will create an negative and bad impact of the youngest and in the society. Such people like you are polluting the society.

Lol Keerthana after coming home I even go back and return the dress.

Marriage is a scam haha

Marriage Tha problem tha single tha gettu

Nammaku pudicha mari valnthal selfish nu solluranga

when you get marry both Husband and wife should learn to give-up and sacrifice for their marriage, problem happens after marriage both give priority to their personal self development but not to their married life, each has to give-up and able to do sacrifice, if they don't do it then the split happens, also mam you said all females who has problems, who can do a job and earn should come out of the marriage , and live if that the case women who are independent and earning should live alone since they no need any one support, not sure why they search a partner, this applicable for men also, a person searching a partner not only for sex but also build a family of his own , having children, holding family responsibility , if you are not prepare to do sacrifice, always selfish of your own career development and growth, does not need a partner support, has a job and money, does not understand the value of family life , want to be more independent, does not care other people emotions and feelings , people like these it's better to live alone that way they can enjoy what they want. this is applicable for both male and female, if people like these get married they not only ruin their life but also ruin the partner life who want to have a family and is willing sacrifice to build a family.

arrange mrg also not bad..love mrg also not gud.. rendu may nampa kaila..

Arrange marriage panravanga yellaam. Paiyanum ponnum nallaa manam vittu pesi apram marriage pannunga.

Keertana, I appreciate your thoughts on this subject. I agree parents should come out of the auto pilot mode. Sons/daughter welfare is important than the society view

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Coreect iam bigg fan of u mama

SAME PRM IN MY LIFE EASY YA NEENGA SOLLALAM BUT REALTY LA YARAIYUM MATHA MUDIYATHU YARUM MARAVUM MATTANGA LIFE IS PAIN FULL

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