MOST DETAILED guide to choosing a partner | Based on relationship science 

Haha. Well single life can be good too :D

@@Shridharlifeschooling yeah really..

@@Shridharlifeschooling please make a video on single life for people entering or above 40s and road ahead with no marital prospects...

@@Shridharlifeschooling hmm maybe but it’s very lonely you don’t even have an emergency contact

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we should avoid the wrong ones while searching/waiting for right one

@@shilpirana9568 The first one is a priority, a necessity so that one's life doesn't become a living hell. The second one could be a luxury, a wish fulfilment even without which living is possible and even better with social services as people need knowledge, awareness, enlightenment, spiritual susceptibility more than a significant other in the time of growing number of humans vs resources.

best advice🤗

@@poonambairagi2809 thank you🙏

So, Looks is not a actual criteria to choose the right partner...

True… Attraction is more towards personality and how we feel with the person.. if we are attracted to someone we can spend 5-6 hours easily.. however if we r not attracted we can’t even tolerate the person more than 1 hours.. I feel we are even attracted to our friends.. there r ppl who we can’t even talk to

in genz lingo vibes

attractiveness is not bad but it should be reciprocated. else sex life will suffer. i have had two girls confess to me but I didn't find them attractive. now after many years, I do. so a woman is fine if shes shows equal interest in you

What should you choose love or money for marriage?

What's ur suggestion for how to choose partner

@@jayeshbhagat4754 You both should share the same belief system 80% of the time.

In your case it's was hit and miss scenario, and it's doesn't prove anything.

Those days love conquers all. Today, compatability conquers all.

भौतिकवाद भोगवाद बाजारवाद स्वार्थवाद गलाकाट प्रतियोगिता "मेरा जीवन मेरी मरज़ी मेरी ख़ुद गर्जी" के दौर मे इंसान का खुद से रिश्ता सही नहीं है तो भाई दोस्त पत्नी सन्तान ससुराल के साथ क्या खाक सही रहेगा.......

This too shall pass

Yes ...it's very hurtful

Coz we are loyal at their back but later came to know from years he was cheating u

Don't worry u will be fine..

Yes. And you're doing great. Stay strong

Watch @shwetabh gangwar ,u will find other perspectives as well 👍

@@saswatupadhyaya410 that will confuse her

He makes men specific videos

I'm really stuck at the 6) points you made. Physical attraction is important because as a man I need to feel excited about physical stuff. Any guidance on how to look at this requirement in an arranged marriage? Two girls with almost the same nature but one is okayish looking with a good salary and the other is good looking but has an average job. I should be looking at long-term stability as well but at the same time confused if I can ignore the looks.

@@VG-ew4cnPhysical attraction is important but you need to understand what physical attraction is for you, it could be a tall guy, short guy, fair, dusky, curly hair, straight hair, etc. But do not rely on the social standards of looks- fair only, tall only, etc. Find out what your heart truly desires and what you truly like.

@@VG-ew4cn no you shouldn't ignore looks It is the only thing makes a man fall in love with his wife Choose the girl whom you find attractive Salary of the girl have less importance You need to love her first Otherwise you will fail to love her and then she will have to live a miserable life where her husband doesn't feel any kind of attraction for her It is most painful situation for women ( coming from a woman)

We can learn to reduce its importance. Not zero. Just less.

Attraction will spark your interest but it won’t maintain the relationship.

Very true,if attraction isn't important why do you need to have a relationship with a girl/woman ,this guy is just stupid

In my experience, attraction can develop over time. Like u find a guy visually unattractive at first but then you start finding them cute once u get to know them.

True without attraction I don't think u love someone unconditionally .... it's not a different kind of love ...not a friendship ... looks don't matter

mrrg and relationship are wymn's business.. it's kind of transaction.. where men have to pay like a fool while she may or may not have s3x

So you mean physical attraction is much more important?

Solely Depends on person .. if he or she is a good human being no need of just advice .

Same here

Couldn't agree more, been there😢

Agree

Me too

absolutely lol, especially the last one when he said, keep repeating a mantra and he gave his mantra, "if I experience a red flag, I'll leave." Just imagine how torturing and disastrous it is. It's like he/she is only waiting for a red flag to appear to use it as an opportunity to end the relationship lol. In that case you already have made your whole life a suffering even if you get a perfect partner. No one is perfect. Humans are full of flaws. I'm sure everyone will definitely encounter some red flag (from their perspective) at some point in their relationships. Its like he/she has been waiting for the red flag opportunity his/her whole life lol. I'd rather say instead of the red flags see the green flags, like if the partner is understanding, trustworthy, respects his/her personal space or not and Physical attributes are comparable or not. In simple words see the person has good sanskar or not. If someone has so much fear then they should simply avoid any long term relationships especially marriage. My friend had narcissistic, selfish nature who hurt me a lot finally I stopped talking to her. Still I'm not running behind such a level of perfection. Although I'm afraid of relationships. But my point is you should be more brave rather than being more cautious if you want to be in a good relationship. Relationship should be about emotion and not some robotic brain logic and dumb mathematical calculations. If the partner hurts you constantly then bad luck, choose god now 😊

@@nishantkumar6960 👍

So true.

Too many bengalees are getting divorced.. it will be foolish step for bengali men to mrry and lose money in alimony and child support

@@Deb_deCoder soo typical to reply in my comment. I shouldn't but still let me tell you I am working and not expecting his alimony..and if we talk about child support let me remind you the child belongs to both so support should also be provided from both end...Anyway it's difficult to make dumb ppl understand Bengali girls have strong backbone, so we don't need to depend on men's alimony, our education is enough to provide for us and our child .

Glad to know you are self aware and are doing better. Many women are going through the same and are sooner than later realizing that toxic relationships are not worth it. Kudos to you.

But emotions will die soon.........Logic and rational thinking is always correct. Imagine if bullets are emptied,the gun is waste.But knife will be still useful.

@@naveenjose7710 The point is. No one can take logical steps when overwhelmed with emotions. And you will fuck up the relationship yourself at one point in time. You cannot make a checklist, to stop yourself from falling for wrong people. It's the part and parcel of the dating process. You will never know they are right or wrong, before the moment of test comes. If this was possible, psychologist would give certificates of traits a person has, to make dating and selection of partners easy. Even they can only guess what a person is, or will behavior in the future.

@@kaberigomes2117 Yeah.There is nothing wrong with following emotions.In a relationship if the other person truly loves you or values you both can change their behaviour pattern for mutual interest. But sadly,if one follows emotions like pure lust , body shape, colour, beauty.Love from these emotions fades away and will be problematic in future.

@@naveenjose7710 We are straying away from the video. Just answer me this question. Will you now like a girl but leave them after going through this checklist recommended in the video. Plain and simple answer.

@@kaberigomes2117 After some life experience not only girls,even with male friends one will do checklist and interact carefully. Last month I even rejected sex offer from a married lady doctor who is in my neighborhood. Careless relationships come with heavy price later.

Ameen

respect his decision.. he may have lost attraction for you while being in the relationship

no attraction is necessary. after being attracted try to find qualities. don't find qualities in random people. these things are hierarchical, not lateral. attraction first, loyalty second (but a must) , then nature

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Aaap kehna kya chahte ho?

Exactly

jayesh deore I agree to you but can I give you some advice regard this ?

​@@sele403please can u give the advice . I am looking forward to hearing from you.