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Orphan Complex - What a lot of people don’t realize is that the experience of #orphanhood exists as on a scale of severity.
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@Layla-fr7mf
@Layla-fr7mf 3 года назад
For all my scapegoats out there you are loved and cherished. Fun fact: Most scapegoats have astrology placements (both Vedic and Western astrology) to meet their soul family from past lives and their twin flame so you will be loved unconditionally believe it and be it 💕
@skygelbron6321
@skygelbron6321 Год назад
I find this really interesting. How do you know recognize placements? I have soul family but they’re non-physical and I want to know how to meet them/be at home with them.
@DashaandAlice
@DashaandAlice Год назад
I hope that will be true for me !
@andreajean3348
@andreajean3348 8 месяцев назад
That would be a nice change...
@Dayana-mk5ch
@Dayana-mk5ch 7 месяцев назад
Unconditional love I’m figuring out has a lot to do with being authentic and not keeping yourself or others in a tight grasp/captivity- not having that energy. If a relationship is temporary than it is temporary and a happy memory afterwards instead of a nightmare/sad memory due to the captivity/enduring stuff happening. Just my rough notes from my perspective on things as of late. It feels good to finally be able to feel good in relationships. It really took changing my relationship with the universe & myself- learning about it all.
@andriamacdonald3842
@andriamacdonald3842 5 месяцев назад
Hey sister scapegoat. Sometimes family is just the few you can trust.
@Yo.Momma-_578
@Yo.Momma-_578 3 года назад
I work at a nursing home. I may not have a "blood family" who likes me, but i sure do have a lot of grammies and grampies who love me. 💜
@awoodard7215
@awoodard7215 3 года назад
My mother is in a nursing home. Due to Covid I have not seen her in almost a year. I look to wonderful angels on earth like you to bring love and kindness to her. I pray everyday for your health, your sanity, and that God Bless you always.
@user-ur2wd8du4z
@user-ur2wd8du4z 3 года назад
And all of them have a daughter in you. ❤
@Yo.Momma-_578
@Yo.Momma-_578 3 года назад
@@awoodard7215 im sorry. Its so sad you can certainly tell that they are lonlier with no visitors and i sneak hugs in when i can but with the shields and masks it doesn't feel the same, but i try. Im sure theres cnas and nurses doing the same for your mom and you get to see her really soon.
@mirabellebarim9997
@mirabellebarim9997 3 года назад
Yes I can share the feelings I have had lots of grams and pas along the way in my lifetime 🤗
@soundseeker63
@soundseeker63 3 года назад
I work with pre-schoolers and, on reflection, if I am honest with myself, a big part of why I was drawn to working with kids is that they are so much more accepting and willing to show love than adults! I feel more appreciated each day at work than the rest of my life combined! Children are the best. I love my little people :-D
@david.walters
@david.walters 3 года назад
Everyone who sees this: You’re beautiful, and never give up your dreams, you are on this world for a reason!
@hopewellsubliminallawofatt6284
@hopewellsubliminallawofatt6284 3 года назад
Thank you God bless you.
@laylabarker
@laylabarker 3 года назад
Thankyou 💜🙏
@maria.1313
@maria.1313 3 года назад
Thank you love! Blessings and love back to you 🙏🤍🌹🦋🦢☀️
@bernardbujard9944
@bernardbujard9944 3 года назад
Thank you. I have heard this message before but it is nice to be reminded of it occasionally. Why is it that some people seem to identify so easily with animals that are captive, endangered or going extinct? They are beautiful and on this world for a reason too. This quote is not just about people. There are also orphaned animals. All life is on this earth for a reason!
@universecomesfirst3516
@universecomesfirst3516 3 года назад
Updates on here on my RU-vid and updates on my Facebook 'cody kamrath' enjoy go see
@PatriotResearchGal
@PatriotResearchGal 3 года назад
We are here to be the people we needed so desperately growing up, but could never find. Emotional neglect is rampant and it will end. Much love and peace to all! ❤️🙏🏻🌎🙏🏻❤️
@nickidaisyreddwoodd5837
@nickidaisyreddwoodd5837 3 года назад
Absolutely.
@TheWayWithinUs
@TheWayWithinUs 3 года назад
Your family relationships do not define your worth as a person. Being the black sheep of the family is a beautiful gift that can pay its own dividends in time. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. You are worthy. 🙏❤️
@kekin4562
@kekin4562 3 года назад
When people say "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" i always think of them smugly saying it to a guy missing both his legs from an IED blast.
@mobilebrain5598
@mobilebrain5598 3 года назад
trauma vacuum is what I term the concept of trauma from things that did not happen - even in my teens I could not explain the trauma (and actions coming from trauma) because my dad was rich and my mom good-looking (dys-phrase from the 1960s) - we had money, homes, vacations - but what we did not have - was unconditional love, emotional presence, maturity modeling, etc - and can you believe I had wished my Mom was an alcoholic or Dad beat me up - something - anything - for me to be able to grasp what happened to me, to be able to share it believably with other adults, and to seek another scaffolding of reality to grow up in - but there was nothing - and therefore - when I turned to drugs and worse in my late teens - it was 100% black sheep jumping off the cliff - no family counseling for this 17 yo - but rather a Fruedian shrink in million dollar home probing my mind while my parents showed off new car at golf club - honestly a miracle I survived that - thank you Teal for validating that trauma vacuum can be worse than actual abuse in some ways - it is mental abuse of vulnerable children...
@musica8918
@musica8918 3 года назад
I'm so sorry for what happened to you and I understand how u feel. I just want to tell u that it's fine to feel the way u feel. it's OK. Try to know what your needs are and meet them. Don't give up on hope. With love Your sister
@leahflower9924
@leahflower9924 Год назад
Are you don draper's daughter in mad men lol
@Dayana-mk5ch
@Dayana-mk5ch 7 месяцев назад
I wish for this comment to reach the right people ❤ I appreciate this one.
@sehrinteressant
@sehrinteressant 7 месяцев назад
I can relate to that feeling so much. I did want to experience abuse so people would listen to me and validate my experience.
@AerialYogaGirl.
@AerialYogaGirl. 3 года назад
Caught myself thinking my loneliness in childhood is “only in my head” because that’s what my parents told me my entire childhood, adolescence, and now. Caught that gas light still happening 💡 Thank you, Teal, for reminding us we are worthy, loved, and our emotions are valid - despite what our families have told us.
@mikkovaan8636
@mikkovaan8636 3 года назад
The gaslighting, yeah... I wish people would take a hint before it becomes too much. But you can't expect them to, can only decide what you do with your life and how you live.
@ExistBetter
@ExistBetter 3 года назад
Yupppp
@michellealice1455
@michellealice1455 3 года назад
I’ve always had the experience of being outcasted as a child. Because of this, subconsciously, I started to reject other people as well. Becoming aware of this dynamic has made me less angry at the world, and I’m attracting more and more fulfilling relationships. Thank you Teal 🙏🏻
@jerrytyfting2952
@jerrytyfting2952 3 года назад
Thing is, choosing to belong with "anyone" only works when the chosen person returns these feelings. If nothing of the sort of belonging is returned...it will be the family situation all over again.
@jerrytyfting2952
@jerrytyfting2952 3 года назад
The practice still works on those unwanting of this belonging space...but mostly within yourself as part the outside world is representing within you. While inside of yourself...you can start to process this unwanting.
@mikkovaan8636
@mikkovaan8636 3 года назад
I don't know... I think it's still better to put your foot out there at times. My friend said that if you want something, stop chasing it :D kinda good advice if you get it.
@solo-de5kx
@solo-de5kx 3 года назад
right i usually feel that people accept to belong with me if i don't show a certain side of myself or if they can use me. I am at a point where it's better to be alone than to feel small or used. The child inside of me can't be triggered that much and asks me to see people only when i would be 100% healed and sure to not meet those people again.
@Persephonejackson
@Persephonejackson 3 года назад
@Rebecca Pemberton you will become invisible by doing this. I see you! Your needs and wants matter, they deserve to be heard. Lots of people fell away from me when I started listening to my own truth and setting boundaries but I realised having the company of people who don't even know you is worse than being alone (for a time) in your authenticity.
@janbalaban5268
@janbalaban5268 3 года назад
I agree. Why Teal could say so big nonsense like this? It absolutely does not mean that if you take them as your family, do everything for them, that they will do the same for you. Most probably they will use you, and then, if you will not be able to do anything valuable for them, they will kick you out like garbage. Teal completely missed this.
@EveKatharsis
@EveKatharsis 3 года назад
Strange I was just thinking of how I felt like this all my life and now I just stumbled upon this video
@jelenajanuszko3857
@jelenajanuszko3857 3 года назад
This is me. And some time ago I started noticing how I'm actually the one causing people to push me away by assuming right from the start that they will do so. Three things happen as a result of this assumption: one is that I don't give myself a chance to truly connect to anyone and I instantly shut down emotionally to protect myself from being rejected; two is that people don't have a chance to show me that they truly care about me because everything they do goes through the lenses of that assumption in my mind so many times I won't notice all the ways in which they accept me and include me and will only look for the "proof" of their rejection of me; and three, people eventually give up on trying to connect to me because they can feel the distance and negative assumptions I hold about them. So it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I've made some progress with this pattern and I started including others and opening up to them more and more by taking on this scary yet exciting new assumption: that I simply don't know whether someone will reject me or not. I'm also trying to make peace with the fact that people have the right to reject me and I can't control it, nor should I. And to be honest, it's really damn exhausting keeping those walls up all the time. It feels draining, and like I'm constantly on a battlefield. I've regained so much more energy once I started letting go of this pattern and risking being more open to people. It's not ideal nad I still have moments of withdrawal but it's way less frequent than before. So I guess what I'm saying is, it's true what Teal says and it's worth working on. And thanks for a reminder, Teal ❤️
@carriehobbes2448
@carriehobbes2448 3 года назад
Wow. Thanks for sharing your story. Just wanted to say you are so brave, and you have inspired and give hope to us here. Sending you light 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈
@jelenajanuszko3857
@jelenajanuszko3857 3 года назад
@@carriehobbes2448 You're welcome! I guess sharing myself here is also a part of breaking that protection shell.
@UnlicensedThinker
@UnlicensedThinker 3 года назад
The more powerful you know you are, the less afraid you will be 💪🌞
@dougburr4192
@dougburr4192 3 года назад
I have failed to connect with people or find love in life. I am alone and I always have been. I hope it is not always like this. I know I have flaws but I just want to be loved.
@carriehobbes2448
@carriehobbes2448 3 года назад
Hi Doug, I hope I can help a bit. It can seem so futile when attempt after attempt to gain the love we desperately seek eludes us. It can be such a dark reality to live in. I’ve been there for most of my life but I am finding my way out so I hope to help you by sharing what I’ve learnt. I found that until I started doing the very thing that felt most impossible, the love I wanted so much never showed up. And that thing was - to learn, painfully, very slowly, to love myself. It felt like an absurd notion to me - wasn’t it OTHER people who were supposed to love me? And how was I to love myself if I didn’t even know what it looked like? I’m here to tell you - it’s possible that your journey involves doing that for yourself. In small ways at first - watch some of Teals other videos. Try EFT by the wonderful Brad Yates if you have resistance to it. You will come to find that it is because unconditional love was not modelled to you as a child, that you feel lost about giving it to yourself as an adult. You are far from alone if you discover this. Try websites like Tiny Buddha. Sign up for free Love Yourself workshops, what do you have to lose? It’s not something you will master in a week or a month, but it will get easier and more natural, like any new habit practiced regularly. Try and find books and videos that help you discover how to be a source of love to yourself. This will not mean that you will not need or want it from others, but you will have the capacity to give it to yourself at least some of the time. Confusion during this process is a sign that you are growing - so don’t be frightened if you feel “I wouldn’t know where to start!” Start anywhere, with the tiniest action, and you will find that the next step will show up for you. I hope this helps. You will find your own way to it in time, and you will be able to give the love you desire to yourself. It can feel wonderfully freeing and you will not feel so alone so often. It can be such a joy to discover that sort of feeling. I wish you much luck and light. 🌈🌈🌈🌈
@carriehobbes2448
@carriehobbes2448 3 года назад
Also, please do watch some of Teal’s other videos like “How to Connect with People” and some of her workshop videos around loneliness. They’ve changed my life. Good luck! 🙂
@dougburr4192
@dougburr4192 3 года назад
@@carriehobbes2448 Thank you for your nice messages. I will look at the videos you suggested. Good Luck to you as well (: ))
@rachelanne5060
@rachelanne5060 3 года назад
❤️
@helikopterkahelikopterka882
@helikopterkahelikopterka882 3 года назад
Hi Doug, I think you should start with loving yourself first. Fill yourself first, then you can connect with others. If you feel empty and wanting, this void will put people off, they will sense the pressure. I speak from my experience. Love, Helena
@roselynnmonroe8155
@roselynnmonroe8155 3 года назад
I was raised by my grandmother I was abandoned by my mother and rejected by my father.... The only way I knew what it felt like to connect with anyone was my grandmother....
@kennethshaw8890
@kennethshaw8890 3 года назад
My mom died when I was 7 and last year (at age 33) I discovered that the wrong man was listed as my father... Thank you for this video Teal Swan! Please consider having an event in Dallas someday. You are the best! Please don't ever stop doing what you are doing!
@TealSwanOfficial
@TealSwanOfficial 3 года назад
Thank you
@sal4538
@sal4538 3 года назад
@@TealSwanOfficial you're amazing I just recently started watching your videos and they were so eye opening thank you so much teal❤️❤️❤️❤️
@darja2546
@darja2546 3 года назад
Hey Teal, I'm always happy when you post a new video. This one really resonates. What happenend to me, well I was drawn to my ex boyfriend of almost 3 years because he immediately wanted to introduce me to his family and that so for christmas. I really bonded with everyone and it felt like my brain was on drugs. It filled the hole. After him complaing to them about our relationship problems and them turning on me in all sorts of indirect ways I felt so much pain I can't explain here with words. The power of unmet needs, gee.
@shilohndrah
@shilohndrah 3 года назад
I am definitely hiding out from the virus circus. Don't really feel happy about a zoom holiday gathering for everone to put on the happy mask with slave-sellout on it. As a 74 year old fire dog I so wish for the traumatized orphan in each of us, asleep in us, to gently awaken to the love and worthiness inside.Thank you, Teal, I've been thinking for years about the orphan - age developing into Coeur - Age, where people will care about how they feel and have a backbone.
@lextor4712
@lextor4712 3 года назад
So great to see a women of your age to watch Teal's content.
@Healthycellph
@Healthycellph 3 года назад
You literally read my mind. After doing some soul-searching I couldn’t get to the root of where my deep abandonment issues were coming from… I came to my own conclusion that I psychologically felt like an orphan due to the emotional abandonment of both parents who were still alive. I find it very interesting that this is an actual complex. Thanks teal.
@Jeca299
@Jeca299 2 года назад
Me too
@MJay3060
@MJay3060 Год назад
I went through the exact same thing!! I just couldn’t stop thinking about it, I just couldn’t stop thinking about what it feels like to be an orphan and how different it is from being estranged from family and I came to the conclusion that it is the same. Scapegoats and black sheep and estrangers really are orphans. I stumbled upon this video and I was in deep silence and focus to how articulate it is
@MarinoTarot
@MarinoTarot 3 года назад
This is why I have left my family behind, because there is no way they will ever learn to not scapegoat me.
@KasiaZosia04723
@KasiaZosia04723 3 года назад
Me too. Giving up hope, that they will change, “see” me, validate and love me has been one of the biggest steps in my healing process.
@goodknight9627
@goodknight9627 3 года назад
Teal! I've missed u so much. It's great to see you. Thanks for the love, we really need it. You've helped me so much, I am forever in your debt
@goodknight9627
@goodknight9627 3 года назад
P.S. this video hit home. I commented before i watched it. I talked with an awareness therapist within the last week. First time ever with "professional help". He told me i did a lot of the work for him. I should have told him it was Teal who did your job. I feel like such a beta white knight because i see you as a matriarch and i would be a warrior in your army lol.
@TealSwanOfficial
@TealSwanOfficial 3 года назад
Thank you for your words.
@Brittwhales
@Brittwhales 3 года назад
This is really wonderfully done. A few years ago, the phrase Cinderella Complex popped into my head. This video explains it well. I was starting to comprehend all the damage within my family, and now I am able to see ancestral traumas that have been passed down. Favoritism, lies, manipulation, fights, secrets, adultery, refusal of love. As a teenager, I literally felt like a prisoner in my “home”, and I knew there was no hope in running away. I had no one to save me. I didn’t have a real home. My grandparents house felt like home, but they lived hours away. I was told on several occasions I was a mistake, never meant to be born. My Dad divorced my mom before I was born. Now more than ever, I am working on building my family and leaving behind those who would rather hurt me. Both my grandparents are gone, and the house I felt was home is abandoned... Sadly it feels like being abandoned/orphaned again and again. But I am ready to grow the family I choose and belong with a caring group of people who choose each other and build each other up.
@chandaripplinger7810
@chandaripplinger7810 3 года назад
As a product of teen pregnancy, I felt this deeper than I thought possible. I've felt raised and "loved" out of obligation my entire life. This brought yet another shift for me.
@Layla-fr7mf
@Layla-fr7mf 3 года назад
Thank the universe for soul family, soul partners or twin flames outside of family. As a black sheep scapegoat the best people who have been there for me and have seen my greatness were all outside my family of origin. After getting rid of self doubt and feeling defective from my family of origin I worked on my unconditional self love and worth and within a few months of doing this daily I found my soul family/tribe and soul love. We are rejected to realise our greatness and accept ourselves unconditionally
@atomnous
@atomnous 3 года назад
That describes my experience exactly. I felt things were wrong, but everyone said things were alright and I was lucky. I couldn't even verbalize what was wrong even to now. Some people say I seem like I had trauma, but now I keep saying I didn't have any trauma. If there is, I don't know what it is anymore. I feel isolated from the whole world.
@NickRyanBayon
@NickRyanBayon 3 года назад
I have been trying to figure out this issue for the last month. Wow the timing, the more I solve this scapegoating trauma the more I lean onto the service to self path, you get tired real quick of feeling this way and allowing it. In my case I turned the opposite way, I feel I gave my sense of self up and i became what people wanted while denying myself, yet i still felt emotionally abandoned, and isolated, alone and unwanted.
@petrklic7064
@petrklic7064 3 года назад
Teal is bit wrong with this. Because if you are in role of "people pleaser", you rarely get anything back from them. You need strenghten your ego (solar plexus chakra).
@pavanatanaya
@pavanatanaya 3 года назад
My dad died suddenly when I was 5. Effectively, I lost my mom at the same time.
@mileknz
@mileknz 3 года назад
Very important to hear that. Specially today that I decided to not be part of my blood family anymore. I'm living alone on another country. And with Christmas arriving I was feeling bad about expending it alone. It will be fine, I think. Thank you.
@cassielee1114
@cassielee1114 3 года назад
That could be very special! You could give your “inner child” a lovely Christmas.
@jujudreamz84
@jujudreamz84 3 года назад
For its the sacred child that lost child That desires such change for her growth To make this change is needed Its hard to put into place Its not till we surrender Blessed be
@TheTarotDragon454
@TheTarotDragon454 3 года назад
I feel like this dynamic is a huge cause of what can cause psychopathy in children...
@lilystarr226
@lilystarr226 3 года назад
I feel adopted by the Universe ♥️🧡💛💚💙💜😭 Thank you 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@danielle7061
@danielle7061 3 года назад
Me too 💕
@ambersmith1463
@ambersmith1463 3 года назад
Me too!
@DashaandAlice
@DashaandAlice Год назад
OMG, this is about me! and why I was going crazy... my parents "you had perfect chilhood what are you talking about"! This makes me feel so seen! Thank you SO MUCH, Teal for what you are doing! I'm grateful that you exist and share you teachings! thank you for doing that! You are helping me understand SO much! and i actually feel like "I see the ending of suffering" and can heal fully! thank you again. You are amazing, really🙏
@klingonsexy
@klingonsexy 3 года назад
This explains why I've always been drawn to/by dysfunctional people who were rejected by their families! We seemed to function together for a while, but it always ended badly because we rejected each other as soon as we found something to disagree upon. Thank you for creating a process to help us stop perpetuating our self-made orphan status!
@moonmajesties
@moonmajesties 3 года назад
My heart goes out to the ones suffering from the pain of being orphaned while still having family members alive and around you 😢 Because that is definitely gaslighting and the pain could carry on forever if there is zero mirroring of the reality of what's happening 💔 So please, be brave enough to reach out for support and to experience a new profound sense of belonging from your soul family ❤💙💚💛🧡💜💖
@dolphin7860
@dolphin7860 3 года назад
Adoption is a beautiful thing! Three of my six siblings were adopted... And someday, I’m gonna find them!!!
@anacampesan
@anacampesan 3 года назад
Try one of those ancestry DNA tests, my dad was adopted and I was able to find the other side of my family no one knew anything about. Good luck!
@apemayaxx
@apemayaxx Год назад
@theshadowgarage
@theshadowgarage 3 года назад
This video made me cry 😭 Thank you Teal for just being you ❤️🙏
@gemini_moon9689
@gemini_moon9689 3 года назад
For everyone who suffered from this: You're strong enough to make it through! Even if you may not believe in it....after all you were stong enough to endure this. Treat yourself kindly (mabe even like you would treat an animal or a child that came from an orphanage or an animal shelter). It's okay to focus on that for a while until you actually feel that you're strong enough to do other things :-) You've got this!
@carriehobbes2448
@carriehobbes2448 3 года назад
What a beautiful message. Thank you for encouraging us all. 🙂 I do agree with everything you have said. It doesn’t matter if we believe we aren’t strong enough to do this sometimes, or even all the time - we are!our ancestors survived incredible hardship and passed on their genes to us, so we have strength that we share as a species. I have to remind myself of that sometimes when I’m feeling down and out and hopeless. We are all incredible in our ability to endure when the chips are down, survive, and ultimately thrive! We’ve got this! 🙂 Sending you light across the ether. 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈
@melissabarnes777
@melissabarnes777 3 года назад
Beautiful message. Bless you. 🙌🦋🌈
@peterstye
@peterstye 3 года назад
Wow it just felt really good hearing this. I haven't heard anybody else talk about this universal human problem in this light. If you listen carefully and contemplate deeply on what she said you will grasp the wisdom she is trying to convey and a subconscious block will be lifted, you will be surprised. Thank you Teal Swan!
@redefinedliving5974
@redefinedliving5974 3 года назад
I want people to shed light on this topic because this is a very ignored problem in the world. They are actually the most at risk especially that not many people actually relates to them.
@anaisaerksen
@anaisaerksen 3 года назад
What a wonderful video and, as so often, just at the right time. I've spent the last night and this day crying and thinking about how lonely I feel, that I don't belong here, I don't know how to live this life anymore... This sums it all up. I also tend to push people away, although what I most long for is connection, just did it again a couple of days ago. Thanks for the advice and your words that give me hope again. 💜
@beatrice6209
@beatrice6209 3 года назад
I’ve been following you for the last 4 years. I can now say that I stopped feeling orphan when I started to follow your content. You were that light in the tunnel. You might not even read this, but I wanted to say thank you. You’ve widened my consciousness so much.
@darthfiende1
@darthfiende1 3 года назад
Coming from an enmeshed home, I wish I'd gotten impartial guidance when requested, space to grow, and freedom from expectations. I now give these things to others, but it has a distancing effect.
@petrklic7064
@petrklic7064 3 года назад
What means "distancing effect" ? That you give everything to others (your own new family) and never get anything back ?
@mikkovaan8636
@mikkovaan8636 3 года назад
Could be what Teal calls 'pendulum swing', pretty common in healing and self-help circles. But who am I to say... just that that came to mind.
@ambersmith1463
@ambersmith1463 3 года назад
I think the more you can feel people out and use your intuition and your senses to see what kind of person you are dealing with it can help you to know whether or not a person would appreciate having space or closeness or something in between.
@esmattmorra4829
@esmattmorra4829 3 года назад
I’ve come to a realisation, the reason why I perceive so many “spiritual” or religious people to be often not as nice or enlightened as you would expect them to be, and sometimes rather the opposite, might be because their trauma, from life and family in general, is what put them on a spiritual path in the first place. The reason why godless people are some of the nicest people I’ve ever met, is perhaps because they had such a healthy relationship with their families and thus wasn’t in need of an external godly father or a higher meaning to life. Why many people I’ve met on teal tribe on Facebook for example, were much nastier than I thought the followers of teal would be. Similar traumas and behaviors have and perhaps still do exist in me. Thank you Teal ❤️🙏🏼
@carriehobbes2448
@carriehobbes2448 3 года назад
That’s an interesting observation. I think many “spiritual” people fall into the trap of bypassing their own pain, rather than unconditionally being with themselves. (I admit doing that is very hard if one has a lot of trauma to integrate). I don’t think of those people as particularly spiritual though. Just because someone talks about a belief in God /universe doesn’t mean they understand squat about the spiritual path of life. I’m from India and there’s plenty of yogis and gurus who only manage the “appearance” of being spiritual, and foolishly think that to be numb/above it all is somehow the way to be. I do think spirituality, like every other tool/approach is subject to being distorted, and spiritual bypassing does sadly produce some very nasty types. That’s why I admire Teal so much (she speaks openly about this), and do not automatically assume people on her forums are going to be any different from people in normal life - they are as subject to the shadows of their psyches as anyone else.
@mobilebrain5598
@mobilebrain5598 3 года назад
8:32 - Teal I don't know if you will see this - but your teachings always remind me that I belong here - and I that I have a unique mission...
@strawberrychocolate9383
@strawberrychocolate9383 3 года назад
Thank u! I have the negative imprint of being lost (having no belonging). This will help me so much.
@stanislavapetkova8144
@stanislavapetkova8144 3 года назад
This video alleviates the feeling of loneliness 💓
@Cliodhna-z1i
@Cliodhna-z1i 3 года назад
This is a pattern that is so key for you to cover. Good job teal you're awesome!
@accidentalvhs7363
@accidentalvhs7363 3 года назад
I waited a few years for this video. Thank you for sharing it.
@SharingItForward
@SharingItForward 3 года назад
It's been a few years since I've visited your channel. You're an amazing teacher. Thank you
@penielchery2765
@penielchery2765 3 года назад
Teal, could you make a video on ENMESHMENT TRAUMA?
@DivineLightPaladin
@DivineLightPaladin 3 года назад
I literally just saw it, I think it's already made, check the channel page
@penielchery2765
@penielchery2765 3 года назад
@@DivineLightPaladin I know, thanks tho
@mobilebrain5598
@mobilebrain5598 3 года назад
most important video I have watched in my life - this is 1000% what I experienced in my six decades on this physical plane - felt like an alien emotionally & spiritually in my family of origin - had dreams as a child of myself on one side of massive river and my entire family on the other side - I call myself on OBC (Orphan-by-choice) - but this video in fact helps me re-frame to understand my decision to separate from my family in my 50s finally was not an OBC decision - rather it was simply formalizing what I had felt my entire life - the gaslighting/shame was unintentional but intense - how many times did I hear from my father "Nobody thinks that way" - on the surface we were all-American family - but inside it was a horror house of emotional detachment - thank you Teal for this and many other videos that have helped me move away with balance, awareness, and growth - yes there is alot of anger - resentment to them - even projection or blaming - but I am gentle with myself and understand that I learned this from them and will unlearn it over time the farther in time and space that I migrate away from the toxic biological family and into my original authentic light....
@1HeartCell
@1HeartCell 3 года назад
"You're an adult now." Me: Wait, what?
@lamo.145
@lamo.145 3 года назад
Same
@bearpolar90210
@bearpolar90210 3 года назад
♥️♥️♥️♥️
@patrickfecundelectromagnet3469
@patrickfecundelectromagnet3469 3 года назад
Thank you. This put a salve on a bottomless hole of a wound. Now I can catch up with it and stop endlessly chasing the end of it.
@mobilebrain5598
@mobilebrain5598 3 года назад
10:45 - brilliant - treat others as you would have had your family treat you - this is the golden rule of healing and the ultimate down cycle breaker
@petrklic7064
@petrklic7064 3 года назад
This does not work. She is wrong.
@janbalaban5268
@janbalaban5268 3 года назад
@Rebecca Pemberton So it is time to start giving to yourself :)
@Dayana-mk5ch
@Dayana-mk5ch 8 месяцев назад
@@petrklic7064I second that. Only provide this treatment to people who feel right, otherwise it won’t go so well lol.
@mortechrome
@mortechrome 3 года назад
Holidays drawing close and the family dysfunction of my birth family comes up again. Thank you, I needed to see this, knowing I am not alone somehow-”orphaned” but parents still alive but I can’t have a contact any of them(malignant narcissism etc). Last time I met my dad I felt so ill I was shaking and after he left I was sick. He didn’t hurt me that time but it was like his presence made me shrink into nothingness and fear although I had asked my husband to be there so I didn’t have to be alone with dad. It’s what these people do, they shrink you. Sometimes I wonder how it differs from the pain of having lost two, loving, normal folks? I will never know. Lots of love❤️
@leonardlee6551
@leonardlee6551 3 года назад
Thank you for sharing your gift of insight, to express what may not be seen by others.
@Keyallah528
@Keyallah528 3 года назад
Well, Teal....You finally got me to cry....Although not quite in the 3D physical, It had a lot of moments of feeling like a "red headed stepchild"....In the Inner Soul Journey however, I Experienced the 'Cinderella' theme as a younger women being mocked by two older "sisters"....Then, there was the 'Royals' where I was a young boy looking up at the 'Queen', whose facial epression was not Loving....There were other similar themes but the words that I heard more than once, were about my single parent...."Mother of Whores".... and being sexualized at a young age....I was even "gifted" to the Reptillians in one Vision.... You end up as a 'Nomad', a 'Walk In' here in Unfolding 'Passion Play' with a whole lot of other Outsiders with similar Soul Experiences, such as the 'Heretics', suppressed DF Archetypals, Soul Groups and the more "exotic" beings....Connecting Etherically & Energetically.... Alone, but not.... The Solstice is coming soon and It's getting more than Interesting.... Bigger Unconditional Love and a Soul Song for this moment.... Music is the Voice of the Soul and 'Water' is the 3D equivolent of 'Source' Frequency.... ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-6Tlde1MqJlo.html
@Starmielax
@Starmielax 3 года назад
I was really interested in hearing this as I’ve been thinking about this topic for the last several weeks.
@zoharkiaav
@zoharkiaav Год назад
I woke up smiling, your words brought me to tears... Again...
@chloethemessenger
@chloethemessenger 3 года назад
I can relate. This also why teenagers need their friends more than ever or join gangs. They want to feel accepted and loved. That bond is powerful! Wonderful video. Thank you 😊
@witchwhowrites3466
@witchwhowrites3466 3 года назад
I already feel it will be about me😄
@mauimoon7383
@mauimoon7383 3 года назад
Teal thank you for playing your part in my life helping to heal my soul. I was brainwashed as well at a young age. I consider you to be part of my soul tribe! Hope to meet you someday. Missed you when you were here in Hawaii. But somehow I know you'll be back. Much luv 🌺💖🌺
@shauniebnaturalista6672
@shauniebnaturalista6672 3 года назад
GUUUURL, you are killing me softly with this song. 💔
@motheryuba57
@motheryuba57 Год назад
This is an absolute gem of a mini talk for me who has resonated most of my life with the orphan archetype. My biological Mom said that she felt like an orphan. My daughter says she felt like an orphan too. The three of us, Mom 89years, Me 65 years, Daughter 41 years old still live in a kind of distant estrangement. Whew! the whole orphan complex has been huge for me and yet it is so true that it launched me on the spiritual journey long ago. And though I cannot yet say that I have been able to manifest a chosen family to the degree that I long for I can say that I feel, more and more, a oneness with all of life. I feel connection to nature, animals, plants, the people who surround me in my community. It is still difficult to reach out to others to ask for holding, togetherness, belonging. It's funny how much I've reached out to people who didn't have the capacity to respond like my childhood experience. I have a family day care home in which I welcome young children and their parents into my home several days aweek. The love flows here.
@CarolNaemi
@CarolNaemi 3 года назад
omg the timing! that's my week's theme. thank you so very much! it was SUPER important for me to watch right now.
@cynthiamontgomery9420
@cynthiamontgomery9420 3 года назад
She continues to gaslight me at her ripe old age of 90 plus. Amazing when she passes I will feel better.
@Pilot333
@Pilot333 3 года назад
I fear that exact scenario with my mother, cant believe i am almost turning 50 and still I am gaslighted by her. It makes me want to scream 😱 and leave her forever behind
@JT0007
@JT0007 2 года назад
@@Pilot333 Tell her
@quintjacobes7286
@quintjacobes7286 3 года назад
I wish i had see this video 30 years ago. this makes sens to me. i'm ok now but it took a lot of work... now it goes well but i'm 49 years old now. thanks for sharing
@sophia6955
@sophia6955 2 года назад
I'll be 30 in January and I still haven't found any real friends in this life. I don't have anyone I can call for compassion. People only want me around if we are going to talk about them or if talking about me is going to be brief and uplifting or entertaining. I'm not in anyone's picture frame. I'm not in anyone's plans for their future. People don't call me when they are doing well, they call me when they are sad or bored or in need. I've always gone out of my way to offer my presence to people during their darkness, strangers included, if the situation was brought to my attention and I could feel that the person needed solidarity in that moment. I don't refrain from that inclination because it comes naturally to me but it hasn't made it's way back around. I don't do it in a transactional way, it's on the house and it's just that energy of well someone should and I'm someone and I dont mind but I really haven't found any safe surrender in another person yet. I don't feel close to anyone. I have a lot of people that I am friends to but they just aren't on my team, we are both on their team and my team is just me. I've never had a serious relationship, I've never had anyone's full attention or devotion, I've never had someone offer me help. Any time I asked the people I thought were friends for some help they would either have an excuse or they would agree to it and then later on I find money missing or a nice pair of headphones or my nicest clothes etc all because I maybe slept on their couch for a few nights and I find out they helped themselves to my resources in exchange for "helping" me which it wasn't...it was a trade not help and it was an underhanded trade where the terms were not agreed to prior. It's funny too because these would be "friends" who I had slept over the houses of before, and they had slept at mine too, but somehow now that I'm homeless you need payment for a few nights? What was the nightly rate when we were just hanging out and I fell asleep? No charge then? I never had a real friend. I wish I was being dramatic but it's just the truth. On my worst days I don't call anyone. I don't keep up with anyone and no one keeps up with me. There is no one expecting to see me at any point on any day anywhere and at the end of the night when everyone is going to sleep there is no one wondering where I am or where I've been. The only people who ask me how my day was are strangers being paid minimum wage that do not want to hear how my day was and men who want sex at gas stations.
@CatEyedGoddess
@CatEyedGoddess 3 года назад
Oh my God!!! This women is stunning inside and out! I thought I was alone in this. I know my mother (not my father, her doing) and I always felt like an orphan. My mother is a Narc and it was all about her needs only. If I was crying about something, she would laugh at me and call me weak. If she was crying I had to nurture her. I don’t know what it’s like to have a parent, I had to take care of her first and then myself, yes, I am the scapegoat but I am healing, finally!!!
@spudanky
@spudanky 3 года назад
I love how you start off serious, but often end your points in a smile, happy that we’ve picked up what you’ve put down, even in the heavy realization that the definition of ‘orphan’ is more encompassing than previously realized.
@danielle7061
@danielle7061 3 года назад
Wow thank you so much Teal 💖
@lenaseydoux
@lenaseydoux 3 года назад
I always watch one or two of your videos per day ,is my homework 😂. I would reeeeeally like a video about bullying. Please. What is your perspective about this,why some people attract this kind of behavior. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@mobilebrain5598
@mobilebrain5598 3 года назад
13:00 entire new insight for life - my parents did not reject me - they rejected the fearless, spiritual adventurer that I became because in their fear they had rejected and abandoned and eventually demeaned that aspects of themselves - I am not the black sheep - I am the black mirror - thank you Teal...
@Pilot333
@Pilot333 3 года назад
Great insight!!! Right on spot!!!!!! I am their WHITE mirror for their black self image.
@JoyceWSolomon
@JoyceWSolomon 3 года назад
Teal you have inspired me to actually start my own RU-vid channel
@speshulgay
@speshulgay 3 года назад
Divine timing! I had a very triggering old childhood abandonment issue experience just a few days ago. And I got gaslit and manipulated by a family member. I was meaner to her than I had been to anyone in years. I felt really bad but I couldn’t help but get angry because I was already stressed out. I’m just accepting that I may never be able to be close to certain family members because they won’t admit there was anything wrong to begin with. I’ve already forgiven them. But it does suck that they’re still scapegoating me.
@shellisands7904
@shellisands7904 3 года назад
I Love You for THIS Teal. Thank you. 💜🙏
@vickyclaxton7783
@vickyclaxton7783 3 года назад
This was my conclusion at the beginning of the first lockdown that my life hadn't changed, that actually since my mum passed, I don't see anyone and have no other family my hubbys family is local but I don't consider them family, I have to go, mentally prepared lol. But yes, as soon as we are able to resume usual social life, I'd decided taking up a new hobby to meet new people and make an effort to connect to existing people. Yup, I'm looking to be adopted at 38 😂😂💕🙏
@flordeluniverso1057
@flordeluniverso1057 3 года назад
The message at the end of this video so beautiful thank you! 🙌🏼🌠🙏🏼❤️
@amyellen3845
@amyellen3845 3 года назад
Love this! Belonging "elsewhere" has infinite possibilities.
@AstroSquid
@AstroSquid 3 года назад
Sounds a lot like tribalism, where a group joins together to outcast a person from a group to feel more attachment to the tribe. It's a tribal instinct, where people seek power within their group by showing their dislike for people who don't share the tribes values. People constantly do this!!! It's innate, they show value and status by attacking others that don't share the same values, they do it in front of other tribe members, and act differently when they are interacting one on one where group identity isn't a concern. The problem is this, tribe gives up truth to understand an individual, so they act with the tribal narrative to show tribe they are loyal, it's a power dynamic. Black sheep often see their own truths and don't see tribe, so they become an easy target. That inability to see tribal dynamic can very well be a cognitive problem, where the skill it outmatched by others so even though a person wants to be part of a tribe they loose because they aren't as good as others, and are forced to be the black sheep by the tribal dynamic.
@nicolebarre6168
@nicolebarre6168 3 года назад
I love how clearly you communicate the things I’ve been working through, figuring out & healing. It’s just nice to have someone understand after 44 years. Thank you ❤️
@eclecticd9953
@eclecticd9953 Год назад
I grew up with a mother who was abandoned at a young age and rejected by both her parents. All my life my mother has reminded me not to trust people. To be guarded thus instilling in me a natural distrust in others. I love my mom and while I know her intentions are not malicious i don’t thinks she’s aware of the harm it has caused. While socializing and being friendly is easy maintaining friendships are hard. I’m glad I watched this video. Thank you teal ❤
@powerinference4810
@powerinference4810 3 года назад
As someone who was actually abandoned by their biological family and later abandoned as well by my adoptive family I have been through the trauma of abandonment, rejection, and separation over and over and over again. As I sit here in tears because I am a match to it yet again the timing of this video is as usual spot on. I have experienced the gift of traveling and seeing people all over the world as a part of my family but I’m starving for the intimacy of a consistent, long term connection. I’m willing to examine the subtle ways I reject others and the family concept itself. I’m willing to consider what it looks like to be the sort of family member to others that I needed as a child. I’m willing to sit with the feelings that come up through this process. I’m willing to receive a new paradigm.
@speshulgay
@speshulgay 3 года назад
I used to think I was a late bloomer but some of my family members who have 30+ years on me are not anywhere near as highly conscious or emotionally intelligent as I am. I’ve just realized that. If anything I’m ahead of my time. Thanks for all your wisdom Teal I’ve been following your content for years. I’m finally becoming more aligned with my authenticity and letting detaching from negative self talk and beliefs. You and Leo Gura have helped me the most.
@witty-M
@witty-M 3 года назад
But how do I attract my soul family? This video made me cry.. Im looking for my long lost family but its not that easy..
@witty-M
@witty-M 3 года назад
@@sunstardrummer Razumijem malo, ali ne govorim baš dobro hrvacki. I believe that I am always where I should be and that maybe I need to be alone for a while to prepare to meet the right people. Maybe to self reflect some more. But I know I wont give up searching. And maybe the right people are not as far away as I think 😉 pozdrav iz Slovenije ✌🏻💚
@ambersmith1463
@ambersmith1463 3 года назад
So am I! No, it is not easy and sometimes I wonder if it will ever happen while I am on this planet.
@biancaaustin5859
@biancaaustin5859 2 года назад
Wow. This is me and after a lot of healing I feel so powerful, like I could and will absolutely shake hands and hug anyone as I see and know/refer to them as my brothers and sisters. ❤️
@MiissIsis
@MiissIsis 3 года назад
This synchronicity is too much, I was thinking about this overwhelming fear I couldn't place... and realized it was... this..... And now I find this video.. posted... today. Ok Universe 💕
@chrissysnowmusic799
@chrissysnowmusic799 3 года назад
I’ve never felt so seen. Thank you, again, Teal xo
@jarcau_vegan
@jarcau_vegan 3 года назад
Thank you. Thank you. 🙏🍀 No matter how you feel, what you think, say or do. No matter what others have said or done to you. You always deserve more love, not less. I love you.
@db88821
@db88821 3 года назад
Ahhh I loved this, thank you Teal & Co. Love to everyone here xx
@danielle7061
@danielle7061 3 года назад
Coming back to this video again to remind myself that I belong and that people belong to me 💞
@abbykendrick5748
@abbykendrick5748 Год назад
This might be the single most important thing I’ve ever watched.
@dewey5391
@dewey5391 Год назад
Thank you sooooo much!!! I’ve been piecing this together for a while but you really completed the picture for me and I appreciate it so much!
@MiauxCatterie
@MiauxCatterie 3 года назад
i love this. i grew up as the scapegoat in a neglectful and toxic family system. i moved far away as an adult, but i've felt like an orphan since i was a small child. validating this from the outside was very healing to me. it also helped put some of my own emotional unavailable traits into a new perspective. thank you teal.
@mobilebrain5598
@mobilebrain5598 3 года назад
and ending with that GIFT of orphanage - which I have experienced in my travels - that I can connect to 'others' so much more quickly due to my lack of belonging with my family - it is a gift - although one that requires a great deal to balance emotionally
@bringeroflighteternal9789
@bringeroflighteternal9789 3 года назад
Thank you Teal , this message was so very personal and real. Wow
@TheRaNetwork
@TheRaNetwork 3 года назад
how is she so brilliant? I just dont understand how someone so young can be so goddam genius
@genie602
@genie602 3 года назад
That's helpful, I have been practicing that in a way for a long time. I've always been able to hear people from the other side of the veil, since I was a kid. So I feel the love and support from the angelic realm, from the heavenly realm of love and light and those from that side of the veil. When I need to connect and I need their love, They show up unconditionally. I am a person that can connect to strangers anywhere in the world on a soul heart level. My whatever you call it I call it blood relatives, including my adult kids, are often cruel. I've always been the nice one, the one that overlooks these things, looks for the positive and the good in others, So I became the favorite doormat in the family. I realized how heavily it was dragging me down. An acquaintance told me I should take a 30-day break for my family. I'm going into my second month of that. Another aquaintance told me that it would break the unhealthy patterns I've developed with certain family members. I have a grief realizing none of them will ever be the relationship I idealized, ie the mother I needed her to be, the older sister I needed, the loving kids I hoped I'd raise, etc. I felt grief in letting go of my unrealistic hopes of that kind of family. I also let go of the people pleasing, which stemmed from a desire to be loved within that toxic family system. It's difficult around the holidays when other families are extra nice to each other, extra good to each other, plan their annual trips to see each other and be together to spend time together, exchange gifts and wonderful meals they put ove into cooking. I'll just dream about my ET (Palaidien) family lol. Only 15-20 yrs to go whoo hoo This video is helpful.
@joanna_fay
@joanna_fay 3 года назад
I have felt like this all my life. You put it so well into words.. Thank you, dearest Teal. Hope one day I can meet you. Love you
@Carroty_Peg
@Carroty_Peg 3 года назад
SO TRUE!!! Thank you for bringing this into awareness.
@peacefulpisces6651
@peacefulpisces6651 3 года назад
Teal, thank you so much for this video. I'm sending you love. ❤
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