*Showing up as confident and self-assured, then mixing in some mystery, naturally draws people in. Consistency with a bit of unpredictability truly is the secret to keeping things exciting!*
from my experience nothing you can say is more powerful than what she imagines about you…. Really appreciate the amount of comprehensive information you give generously Jim. I really look forward to all your videos and really liked your book Attract and Keep Her it was so helpful to me. Hope the audio version becomes available on audible so I can put it on my rotation.
I got a book recommendation and an amazing quote to live my life, as a young guy becoming a man. “Nothing you can say is more powerful than what she imagines about you…”
My style: 1. Strike a casual conversation and see if she is responsive. 2. Investigate if she is single. 3. If she's taken then forget it. If she is not then engage again and asks her number or social media acct. 4. Stalk her social media to get more info. about her. 5. Don't shoot any message yet. Instead engage a conversation face to face for the third time and ask her out. 6. Identify her initial interest if she declines or not. 7. If she declines the first time, wait at least five days before asking her out again. 8. If she declines the second time by making excuses or whatever without counter offer, then forget about her and move on and start talking to other girls. (show her you're doing this and see how she reacts.) and never ever re engage. A woman who has high interest makes it easier for you. A woman who is not has all the excuses in her pocket.
Good strategy. I’ve noticed women who are interested will: light up when they see you, and break other plans they might have had to see you. If her interest is low it will be the opposite.
It's pretty simple. If a woman is interested you'll know it for sure and if you are unsure if she is interested assume she is not interested and move on until you meet a woman who you know is interested for sure.
In reference to the woman going outside, women sometimes do that in hopes of having you go up and talk to them. There's been a number of times when women simply stand near me and as I've gotten older, I just engage them in conversation next thing I know they're giving me their phone number even when I'm not really pushing for the phone number. Often times when women just separate themselves from the group of girls are with and stand near me or make themselves available by standing alone and you notice that they have nothing to do and there's no reason for them to stand there, it's oftentimes just making themselves available to you. That woman walking outside may have hoped he had talked to her or hope that somebody at that party had approached her. Women don't usually go outside, in the evening, during the party by them selves unless there's a reason
I once had a girl separate from her friends and stand close to me. She didn’t make eye contact but it was so obvious that she wanted me to talk to her. I did, and she immediately asked me for my snapchat. Looking back, a much older and hot chick did this to me, and I regret not being confident enough to talk to her.
The moment she says she's not into Mexican food, it's over. I have my own standards. Lol. Appreciate the information. Wish I had learned this in high school. Lol. Nice to see you back
Yes and it doesnt sound creepy either...women HATE pickup artists...they give off creep signals. It actually is being a gentleman though that sounds oldfashioned. When you let a woman know you have a little curiosity about her as in do I really want to date this woman and start a REAL not bs conversation and give her a chance to respond. Let her ask questions too she will if she is interested.
Excellent advice to lead the difference from chasing in the beginning Be careful with daddy issues women or narcissistic for her to lead or chase out orlf the gate Examine her inner child and or relationship with her fathers bonding and if she too had to chase her father's affection and parents relationship You don't want a long term relationship with a woman that has daddy issues Many do if single especially if divorced and with children Unless she's cognitive of those issues I've discovered this the hard way Especially if you are from a broken home And an emotionally absent mother
Great video! Arriving at the same conclusion as the pattern outlined in this video in dealing with a female i have an interest in for some time. Made many mistakes along the way but thankfully nothing too bad to ruin the budding relationship. Anyway through trial and error ( probably more error than trial) i have finally been discovering exactly what you described in this video ( only the video brought much more clarity to my understanding and how to continue to proceed). Thank you so much!
@@jerrystephenson1172 Yes I can say as a clinical psychologist steeped deep into the real research of attraction embedded in the field of evolutionary psych that YES thIs is IT the it factor that draws women always. Womens brain evolved from primates. Primate females stay close to encampmemts with their young, so did ancestral human females who nursed their young for up to three years picking plants, nuts, seeds,,fruits nearby which made up 80 to 90% of the diet...meat was a rare treasure and loved by all packed with muscle maintaining protein and blood needed by females iron to reproduce. Powerful men and apes were the best hunters....wileyness counted too, a smart smaller man and ape might be able to trick game into a pit where it could be killed, ingenious animal traps were invented by high IQ males. Women, modern human women, inherited the preference for taller larger bodies within reason more masculinzed bodies and face, height, large brow ridges, square testosterone produced jaws. But males with high testosterone are more prone to accidents of daring as teens, deadly fights for dominance in the male hierarchy, they take more risks more chances in life but a % hit it big...in battle, in finance, in business. This is why women prefer cues of wealth and status in a man...protection of their and their youngs bodies in primitive cultures in developed ones better access to a richer and fuller life for themselves and their children re better educations wealth can provide, better diet, better medical treatment....life CAN be better with wealth. Dont blame women blame our ancestors. And besides we dont choose the brains we inherit just like men dont choose to be drawn to prime female sexual signals....young firm breasts, buttocks, a .7 waist to hip ratio, and well.matched facial features large clear eyes, puffed lips, a small lower jaw giving the face a babydoll like appearance...attractive around the world in every country research has been conducted...you inherit YOUR BRAINS to seek these signs of good female reproductive health. THAT isnt your fault either...we are made this way to reproduce and find the best reproductive bets. Sybil Francis PhD clinical psychologist/ professor
ANY woman that's a 6+ gets HUNDREDS of DMs on a dating site, per week. If you play waiting games you are forgotten. At the same time they DO watch for guys that seem like they are too eager. Follow up has to be fun and interesting for her. If she gives u one word replies or doesn't reply in 1-2 hrs move on.
I wish someone had told me this stuff when I was in my teens and 20s. Even when girls initially liked me I did all the WRONG things that work in the movies but lead to RejectionLand in real life
Amazing work, as always! Can you please post videos more consistently? :) I find your work really effective and helpful. And I'm pretty sure other people feel the same way!
If you have to have a coach on your shoulder to date you're in big trouble, just go with what feels good inside you ,your intuition and your positive energy will connect with other positive energy stay positive u have whatever you want .
Dude, if people didn't need coaches or advice then there would not be thousands of videos on this. Guys need help bc they do the wrong thing so often. What seems logical to us, like being open and honest and telling them how we feel doesn't work on most women unfortunately. I hate the rules of dating but they are there. If you don't know the rules you will be doomed. Videos like this help those who doesn't know. It's a shame you can't just tell a girl how you feel these days, but you have to play these games or you will be the guy wondering why she chose some guy who treats her like crap
Absolutely amazing video!! Come back to this all the time. So question, multiple times on first date, she asked me- are we going to have a second date? I played it off and said- I don’t know, jokingly… I never agreed or confirmed a second date. How do you proceed when on the date she asks for a second date
I’m beginning to find out on these dating sites that if you tell the truth and don’t lie they fall for you I’ve had two different girls that I’ve talked to the last three days and already they are thinking about marriage and all you Gotta do is be yourself be honest I don’t bullshit but they can exploit you.
I know what you mean. It seems crazy right? But stop for a second to think that any other animal usually has males literally fight each other to death to be able to win females. The reality is that we also need to beat the competition to spread our genes
There nothing you can do to get her intrested in you - dude, ever heard of golddiggers? If you suddenly become rich or wealthy. I bet those women suddenly are intrested.
With nr 3 "Specific date and time instead of schedule" some coaches suggest to ask when she is free to meet. In order not to run into rejection if she is not available that date and time a man proposes. Not sure which one is better.
Never ask a woman whenever she is free. It suggests that you have no life of your own and is available anytime she is. Let a woman know you have other stuff going on in your life too. Hence, give her a day or two that you're available and if she ain't available on those days, allow her to give another option, in an effort to test her willingness to go out some time with you
When u meet with a person u like and then meet accidentally at show then had fun but then make plans for a date after at the end of the show is that chasing
8 dates deep with a woman, things have gone well enough. She mentioned recently wanting to date me but is "nervous" and "unsure." I took another week to give her time and asked her out on another date. Things went decent. I asked at the end about dating and she kinda blew it off and tried to get out of talking about it. She then texted me late a day later about nothing serious and i didnt answer her. Is it time to move on? Or do i just move on and understand all i can do is see if shell text me something relationship related by giving her complete distance from me?
@@rascal211 that's always possible but if a woman wants to be with you she will do things for you. If she just wants the stuff you give her and not give anything in return then you are being used.
What if she is testing us without responding! What if she is testing wether we r genuinely interested in her... And if we chase somebody else if she don't respond!
T:26 The recipe you are giving only work on paper or if you are already in a relationship otherwise this level of interaction and length of delay is a guaranteed ball bursting method . 😄😄😄😄😄😄😆😆😆😆😆
Yes, getting that first date can be tricky. Most likely there are other guys talking with her and if you wait too long she can already be making connections with another guy.
You are wrong about a woman losing interest and cannot get it back. When you become rich, famous and ignores her, she'll definitely get attracted to you again.
Really Dan it isnt...just practice one step at a time then string ir all together...he is right about this stuff, It works, its just how women operate.
Dan, Jim is right. It is natural to assume that everyone's brain is wired similarly. So it is difficult for us to recognise that the female brain is in fact different, and then to act accordingly. Take strength and courage in this learning process. We are all slowly improving.
What you doing is making men not being themselfs and changing them to how women would like them to be. Not cool, if a girl likes you she should like you for the way you are, not for what she wants you to be so F that. You should shame yourself by making this video where you tryna give the power to women, unsubbed.
@@danielmoreno657 It does, of all the fake boys, they appreciate me being me. I am winning while being me and you’all losing by faking something you are not.
@Anek I still blieve they should be their self, if not they will commit to something they can’t enjoy fully and they will only be insecure and not get full out of that joy. Instead if they being them self then they will find the peace of joy that suits them. But if they don’t take care of them self ofc no women will want them. I would still get chicks even if i looked avarage. It calles confidence of what I’ve been through in life my guy.
