The Power of Expectations | Invisibilia | NPR 

Rosenthal had been banned from being present on the UND campus outside of normal office hours a couple of years prior. Something to do with an experiment involving custodial staff e.g. moving their brooms, locking supply closets while they were inside etc.

Precisely! When I became friends with some young girls, as a guy, the hidden expectation I received from one of the parents was that I would protect, influence them correctly and guide those girls, sure there was an motivation to have a girlfriend, but an older guy maybe interested in having sex and romance with a girl, is a suitable tradeoff to protecting the girl from the horrors of a terrible schooling system that will try to infantilize, brainwash and control, they couldn't have known this, but I also intended to protect them from pot, sure, I am fine with other people smoking pot, but not them, same with transgenderism, other people can do their thing, but they are not it, or better against it, and I am allied with them, sure as a guy I have expectations of a girl, and desires, but being a protective force for some girls, makes me more masculine, as they become more feminine as they are protected by my unstoppable force.

Expect positive stuff but embrace the MOMENT. It's a balance.

Hahaha I think you're funny and witty with your humor. Which means I think you ARE smart just off of a first impression!

Those cases are amazing because they are exeptions. People who run into a burning building so save another are heros because it is not something every person would do. Also, underdogs have their own safety nets. Their friends, relatives, coaches who support them and cheer them on.

I do think it gives you a much better shot. That positive expectation and confidence is extremely attractive to women. They'll realize you don't doubt your worth, so they won't start to doubt it either. If you go around doubting yourself and expecting that the girl won't like you because she's out of your league or because you don't deserve it or something, she'll notice that immediately and it'll come off simp-y and unattractive.