Listening is attentive. The pause between the sounds is also part of listening. Observe eye to eye. Feel he warmth, smell the odor, ask small questions, give proactive gestures to allow freedom to express are very subtle parts of listening. It is deep and emotive. Great talk. Regards
I find that people love to be listened to but dont always reciprocate this and listen back. I am constantly listening to others and giving them the space to express themselves, and its getting boring. People will quite happily use you for their attention needs.
Maybe you can try to see what might be learned from it? I mean, you are listening for them, but even more so for yourself. You can learn a lot about yourself, about those people, and about people in general, by listening. I can understand that you also have needs to express yourself though. That only makes sense.
I notice a number of people agree they also have this experience. I too have become the “listener”. The question is also where are people speaking from? If it’s the heart speaking there isn’t a problem. But often the talk is just a cover up or release of tension for the other person. That’s painful unless you can get underneath by asking the right question. Also people are always reflecting something about ourselves so it can be revealing and confronting to see how and where we do that ourselves. If I manage to face a projection in myself the outer behaviour seems to vanish. But it’s important to know we have the power stop the “listening” if it’s not really sharing and that’s healthy.
As a former teacher, current personal coach, parent, and business owner; the training that I received at the Ojai Foundation has helped me along life's journey in many aspects. It is in this TRUE LISTENING -- ON A SOUL LEVEL, that I have found my voice... "THE DANCE OF THE SOUL, is SACRED, it all begins when BEAUTIFUL AUTHENTIC ME and BEAUTIFUL AUTHENTIC YOU live in COMMUNITY and IN FREEDOM!" As always I wish you, "Life, Love, Laughter, & Light!" --Sheila
So far this is the number one best RU-vid channel I’ve ever watched and everyone that has been on here has done beyond excellent with everything that they are teaching sharing and giving
How I miss the The Ojai Foundation and sitting in the lap of Grandfather Land, listening to lives unfurl and hearts open....Thank you, Mr. Berg, I never met you but I certainly felt the peace of the practice of listening, of council come through your voice.
thanx leon for bringing Council to israel - we at Uriel center have trained more than 80 facilitators since 2007 and they spread the word(and the silence...) Toda raba - Eran and Nurit halevi
Such a useful and true to the matter regarding relationship. Listening is the center point and most important activity any couple should do to and for each other. I can really related to this speaker personally and it is all truth.
wonderfull thank you for the inside vision and for sharing you wisdom and expirience ! namaste , it is very inspiring for me to learn and teach a powerfull and simply way of relationships in harmony ! salute big ugg my brother !
Super video with the beautiful quote from Jesus, “If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.” That’s completely true.
Good talk. One technical aspect that might be helpful for all uploaders to be aware of--check the volume after uploading. (Of course, it could be argued that the low volume on this was designed to make me listen more closely--but, I had to max out the RU-vid volume setting, and my laptop's volume setting to hear it.)
Feelings isn't a cognitive tool. Faith is the commitment of one's consciousness to beliefs for which one has no sensory evidence or rational proof. When man rejects reason as his standard of judgement, only one alternative standard remains to him: his feelings. A mystic is a man who treats his feelings as tools of cognition. Faith is the equation of feelings with knowledge
So earlier today Much earlier I was taking a drive to town to try to get out of the dog house you know e few extra Christmas presents and a I am sorry card. This is a over 100 mile round trip because I live way out of town . So the route of my get in troublenss is me not listening and interrupting my wife .So on the long drive back at around 1AM I decided to put on some videos on listening and the first one had no audio .I was like you have got to be kidding me. Then over halfway through this video that was great by the way a Moose was in the middle of the road so I swerved in to the oncoming lane then back in to my lane and barely missed the Moose and my heart rate is jacked and all I can hear is my heart beat and my thank you Lord prayer for not hitting the Moose at mile 82 of the Park's Highway. And than I realized I was not listening anymore and had to rewind and play again so I get it right. I have been married for ever 12 years but I still seem to interrupt my wife . Hopefully your tools put in to practice will help me be a better listener thanks .
Leon, thank you for you sharing yr experience. Hope for humanity if more people would connect to their souls through not running from feelings. Mostley males prefer to suppress feelings considered weak(fear and pain) man prefer to show agression in stead of heartfelt pain and tears. One of the stupiedest things parents and teachers learn boys "boys don't cry" that's why boys kill and fight as this behaviour is more accepted and even glorified in movies tough killing fighters, soldiers. We are shaped by our culture and influenced by media and sports. People hitting each other (boxing) untill the other one falls is glorified in stadiums and sports theaters. Figures like james bond who prey on woman(specific young skinny sexualised) and kill for their government are glorified. If we would choose to make mother theresa and father damien and Gandhi heroes or ordinary people helping others our heroes we would lead our children to better choices (not greed and abuse, but love and sharing and caring) we would start to see a better world.
"What's more seductive than a man who wants to listen to you and share his feelings?" Ummmm.... Money?? Seriously, women are so emotionally sophisticated that men's feelings are generally BORING. ;)