The Preteen Phase Is Gone. 

YES BRO THIS..... THIS. I'm 17 and we need a follow up from boy's perspectives. I had a p*** addiction at 13... just beat the addiction last year. Its a very serious issue. PLUS... us boys are expected to be chads and perfect and such by girls.... echoing off of the girls acting wayyy older as seen in this video. It's just a wave of expectations that we dont deserve and will never match up to. And yeah... social media is the main culprit.

One thing can’t happen without the other, stay on your grind bro 🔥💪

Yes!! I second this

This thread gives the Grandma of an almost 11 year old hopeful feelings for the future.

She can't give advice to men.

Me and my siblings were the same way! Except I had 3 sisters, I'm almost 2 years older, and we tended to play Wii games as well (New Super Mario Bros Wii, Wii Sports Resort, Just Dance (which I hated), and Smash Bros Brawl), as well as the WiiU games of course. We'd also play DS/3DS games like Animal Crossing or Pokémon together I'm glad I had a good early childhood

You got to experience a non social media childhood ! I feel bad for the kids growing up nowadays... going outside and Playing with your friends are the best memories to have!

Yeah, I’m in a similar situation. While I defiantly don’t have as many siblings as you (I got 4) we all love spending time together and playing games y one is always flabbergasted when they realise I have a good relationship with my siblings. And to my friends or people that know me I may seem like I’m perfect, I’m always happy and try gn my best but that’s onyl Becuase of my siblings. I’m really glad I’m not the only one and I hope you have a good day!

Same and sometimes ipads are a good way to connect with your siblings because you get to play games together like roblox and minecraft

A lot of these parents just want their kids to fit in and be accepted by their peers.

I'm going into elementary teaching and as a conservative mother of 2 girls - I dread witnessing and interacting with the parents of these girls. In Kindergarten, my oldest had another girl instruct a group of girls to twerk on a boy and was smacking their butts while they did it... There's question about Tiktok in class discussions. My daughter didn't know what that was...lol

@@petesmitt It is that very line of thinking that created this mess in the first place.

Your parents said the same thing about you and theirs said the same thing about them.

Really? I don't mean this as an insult, just a question. Is there a dress code at your school? I remember midriff baring tops were always forbidden at all the schools I went through.

When I first started using cosmetics at around 10, all I bought was Burt's Bees since they were sheer and nourishing, and my mom didn't object since it was just to care for my lips, and even in high school when I transitioned to more items it was always in nude shades.

Starting a healthy skincare routine can be beneficial for younger kids to help develop good habits. I suggest you get her (if you can afford it) a safe gentle cleanser a moisturizer and a spf. You could find safe ones with cute packaging if she prefers that. I don’t get the drunk elephant trend because the packaging isn’t even cute.

This is the first time I'm hearing about Drunk Elephant.... I don't even know what that is. I have 2 boys, youngest is 11, and a girl age 9. Thankfully my daughter hangs out with other homeschooled kids and her cousins who all are Christian conservatives. I think I'll keep it that way as long as possible.

@@sarahm-a2782 while I agree with you on a lot of things. Trying to shelter your kids won’t be good for them try and let them find their own friends when they are young because as soon as girls are like 12 they can be really nasty and she should be prepared for that. This will also help so that she won’t rebel once she’s older.

I’m 13 years old and have had a skincare routine since I was 11. I actually really recommend it. It’s nice to start good habits early.

Well that's what kids are doing now, They're not pretending, they want attention from everyone

I also remember when we used to think that growing up was so cool and adults got to do cool things that we weren't allowed to. Now kids these days won't have that experience since they are pretty much allowed to do what adults do.

Yeah, the parents involvement

Its mainly the parents fault, Parents should not prioritize being friends of their kids especially in teenage years

The adults who are pushing kids to do this are probably the same ones who are calling for the age of consent to be lowered. Sick people!

I think I tend to see a lot more girls like you in my class this year, maybe it's the specific program but I don't see the trend Brett spoke of so much.

Good for you ❤

Being a kid is absolutely more fun!! Don't ever quit it! I'm in my 30's and I'll always be a kid at heart and so will my husband. Don't let anyone ever change that about you! ❤️

well i’m going to be an 8th grader but me and my friends don’t wear makeup or have TikTok at all but it’s just i hate the kids that are obsessed with makeup and trying to impress boys! but me and friends play roblox and talk about like video games and we even do party’s and it’s so fun to just hang out with friends!

Avoid makeup, tanning etc. Especially when you're young. Both really do more harm than good. Ppl would always say "what's your secret"? I told them I don't plaster layers of gunk on my face every day, and don't tan bc it damages skin, and can't be repaired. Thankful I took my mom's advice when I was your age

omg i used to play with barbie’s when i was 13 but i gave it to my little cousin but me and my friends still act like kids lol and we are full of fun stuff but my friends have a phone but i have an ipad but i barely use it.we don’t wear makeup or crop top,or even talking to guys! i’m so glad my mom and dad don’t let me wear makeup but i can wear makeup for special occasions.now im 14 in 8th grade and still with my bffs.

I like that, thank you for sharing.

Love that

I'm a guy and sometimes I actually think girls look prettier when they DON'T try to over-use makeup or other products! - or try to wear attention-grabbing clothes. To be honest, how you look is not the most important thing in life - who you are on the inside and how you use your life to benefit others is...

They suck as erasers, but darn are those things adorable. I also like the ones shaped like foods, we had a burger that would actually come apart into its different components. It was super satisfying to slot the lettuce, cheese, burger, and tomatoes into the peg on the bottom bun, the fit was perfect

lol I actually still have a couple - the fancy japanese ones 😂 they hold sentimental value at this point, reminder of the fun of preteen years 😊

I don't but I'm now remembering animal crackers fondly

My sisters and I (we’re all still in school) have cute little avocado ones with faces randomly sitting around our house right now. 😂

Truly. I loved those things so much. I loved collecting them.

We just wanted a whale tail 😂

same

😂 family Guy horror films are not for kids

For real, I used to sneak at night to be able to watch family guy because it felt so naughty.

It’s almost impossible to find good tween or teen stuff that’s decent. I really started reading YA when I was 12. Part of that is because I read really fast, so any age appropriate books were read in less than a day. Libraries still have some good stuff, but when I go into a bookstore looking for books to buy, I buy books that I already know that I want to read. One of my favourite books growing up was the Secret Garden, but I spent much of my time reading the Hunger games, I was like 10 btw. We need more tween and actually for teens book series.

I never had trouble reading old classics that were meant for adults, so reading children’s classics was pretty easy for me. I think sometimes that kids aren’t as smart as before, probably because of screens

@@jaden_skywalker I was basically the same way. I remember checking out books labeled as being 8th-10th grade reading levels from the elementary school library. Hunger Games, Harry Potter, Inheritance Cycle, Ranger's Apprentice, The Book Thief, and many others like those. It got to the point where in 6th (?) grade, I had to have the English teacher modify one of the class requirements for me because I had already read and taken the reading tests for so many of the books in the library. They had a program where you could read a book, take a quiz to prove you understood it, and get points for it. There was always a minimum required for class, but you could win prizes for having the most in your grade. By the time I was in middle school, I had read so many of their books that I didn't have anything new to read, and the system doesn't allow you to test on a book more than once. In order to not lose points from class, I had to manually log what books I had read with the teacher so she could prove I read something for the classwork.

@@GoldenFieldsSchleich Like I said, The Hobbit was originally marketed as a children's book. Many of the adults I know wouldn't be able to read it.

My favorite children - teens book is the Percy Jackson series

Not to mention the nails 🙄🙄

Cultures vary on this....this is actually pretty common in Asian cultures and have been for thousands of years...of course retinol wasn't a thing back then but rituals to keep skin younger started for a lot of Asian girls around 10.

When I was 12, I wasn’t even thinking about skincare. I only started doing daily face washing when I was fourteen.

Does any of that matter when she's pulling un more money than her parents?

According to McKinsey, the beauty market in 2022 stood at $430 billion revenue (I'd assume globally). So there would be some people for whom manufacturing life-long consumers of goop that once used is gone is desirable. Since the 1980's kids have had disposable income, so parents can try and raise their kids on their terms, but they'd have music, television, fashion companies interested in circumventing or subverting their parenting. But the McKinsey article also discussed Gen z explicitly. It mentioned messaging around the brands, making expenditure in the beauty category as a technology of self. So rather that makeup being a questionably necessary item, it can be something where smearing the right goop announces yourself as a nice person. That creates an additional psychological hook and an excuse. Plausibly a kid can accuse their parent of denying them the materials necessary for the expression of their 'authentic' self. Yay consumerism!

Amen to that! No need to grow up so fast.

I keep telling my kids that. Especially, my youngest 2.

How does one protect it, though, if one can't afford to home school?

Too true I grew up in a harsh hell of life that I wouldnt wish on anyone I had to grow up way too young and fast and no it's not just social media its lazy ass parents not actually parenting I survived obviously but I made sure my kids didnt have to survive the same but they learned manners and common sense unlike the majority of them it seems at least es those 30 and under

Yes! I tell my girls this all the time

Same I love Harry Potter, any reading, Netflix shows, skincare, and Disney and I’m a teen.

@Inmytaylorera and sadly, I can't do a lot of things because I had 2 surgeries

@@yahnailovesu0285 oh no that’s horrible

@@Inmytaylorera it's fine

Totally agree with this. Girls without fathers in their lives hit puberty earlier than girls with fathers. Couple that with parents giving their kids smartphones and letting them make tiktok content, and not having a proper family to raise their kids in, it's no wonder tweens are growing up on social media and missing their childhoods. I do miss the tween places, too. I have great memories of going to the bookstore and picking up an innocent tween romance with handholding, then shopping for colorful kids clothes and accessories and Icing and Limited Too.

I played Barbies until I was 12-13. Granted they were being rescued by GI Joe in their car in a river made by the garden hose and being pulled behind the 4 Wheeler to scrape her “breasts” off to make her a Ken.

​@@Saltine_American😂

Many conservatives want them married with kids while in their teens!

My son is 15, has no social media. He’s very helpful and polite but still gets to be a child thankfully.

I pretended to be Nadia Comeneci because, well, I'm old lol

@@user-pb8bp6sr2u idk it’s endearing to think that throughout time, certain behaviors like that don’t change. It’s just girls being girls... It’s like playing with doll. It’s cute to think that a little girl, whether it be thirty years ago or thousands of years ago, was playing with dolls and doodling the same way I was as a kid. Girlhood is beautiful. ( edit: childhood in general in beautiful, but since we’re talking about girls here… )

In 4th my friends and I decided to be bee catchers and would look for them in the field at school but instead of catching them. As soon as we saw them we bolted lol.and 12-14 we were obsessed with fnaf we would draw it. And at that age me and my bff got tape and made a school bus out of cardboard and walked around inside of it outside. 😂

@@user-pb8bp6sr2ulol I was an 80’s kid, so it was Kim Zmeskal for me!

At 2nd grade I was at reccess with my friends and we were all pretending to be FNAF animatronics while one of us was the security guard. It was goofy, but it was truly a fun experience.

It's a fun phase! Let her enjoy it! She doesn't need social media to turn her insecure and unconfident--as it most certainly will.

Same! And there's a huge difference between what my daughter does and what she knows about and talks about and what her friends who go to public school do and know and talk about!

That’s sweet

That’s a good mom! She would always tell me, “Go outside! Be a kid!” She wouldn’t let me have social media when other people would in eighth or even SEVENTH grade. I’m glad so I could just have no worries.

I think this hits the nail on the head! If they grow up too quickly, they can get stuck in arrested development immaturity as an adult.

I've had colleagues of that age who've never made a bed, washed a dish or cooked a meal.

​@DavidZ4-gg3dm yeah well adults can do and act however they want 🙄

"I don't look older you just never grew up"

@@TOOTHLESS666 Why aren't healthy adults doing all those things for themselves?

I jokingly say they remind me of baby giraffes or something because they just aren’t proportionate and having quite grown into themselves at that age.

Nobody dictates that preteens is not supposed to be the prime of your life. I will keep this in mind

@@schwako1 what on earth are you talking about? The awkward, painful phase of childhood shouldn’t be the prime of one’s life, that just means that person has had a pretty sucky life

@@schwako1 Go back to the mental institute you broke out of

Yeah I just be gaming, I still remember all them all nighters

So true. Kids don’t realize they have from 18 to 100+ years old to be an adult.

I don't think it's really impacting men in a significantly negative way, but women are highly susceptible to marketing propaganda and brainwashing, and it has clearly scrambled their brains completely

Bad parenting is destroying society!

@@catherinewardwell2117 Bad parents allow their kids to be on social media.

Man I miss the early 2000s so much

@@catherinewardwell2117 Both social media and bad parenting are destroying society, 2 simple solutions, you ban these social media platforms (Tik Tok, Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, Tinder, sinful dating sites, adult sites, etc), and you also introduce God. There also has to be laws put in place to incentivize parents to be good parents, those who aren't being good parents will be subject to repercussions, punishments, fines, even jail time/prison if necessary.

Holy crumbs.

This urban culture influence shit is what really makes me mad bro. I've seen it sm and its turning young girls into basically 18 year olds trapped in a 13 year old body. Just be a freaking kid 😭go play and watch disney princes

I still like Bubble Guppies and Bluey. Maybe that’s why I feel immature lol.

My brother and his wife don’t let their daughter watch just whatever thing. They all get along seemingly very well, she’s kept her grades up, is respectful and respectable, and doesn’t “show her ass” off in public. Some people want to be parents and others want to show up their own parents.

World slowly goes back to tradition again

Samantha, First Congratulations. Second, I hear you. I was in my 30’s when I had my youngest. My eldest turns 30 this autumn. Middle is mid 20’s. We watched a lot of Veggie Tales, & we fast forwarded through the scary parts of Disney movies. We also took them to church a lot, midweek services. You do the best you can. Try to keep communication open. Driving them around is when the youngest would talk about what’s going on in his world, school etc. our kitchen is always open, if they’re peckish at 2:00am want a sandwich & to talk about stuff, I tried to be always available & open to that. Kids are processing things at their own pace & it doesn’t always look like everyone else’s home 🏡 but we worked at these things so they were comfortable unless hiding something to talk about stuff with us. Parenthood is tougher than it looks. Find some other moms you trust to be around your kids and have a playgroup, it’s for the Moms sanity. We make our own communities now. Don’t go solo, ones head isn’t always a good neighborhood all the time. Go for walks with kiddo in stroller, helps to get fresh air and sunshine for them and you. The what to expect books are nice to try to figure what they’re supposed to be doing when. Yet if gifted the kiddos will hit milestones earlier. Parenthood is tough at times but like cross country tough, a good tired. Godspeed

Are you Christian?

Yeah now the “transition” is a little different

You’re lucky! I, too, went to church and it was the place I felt the most whole. I also played sports and read a lot. I was in gifted classes. However, I felt awkward in my body, I started being bullied so harshly and even woke up to being tagged in Facebook posts saying I should end myself all because of rumors that came from being having fever blisters on my lips that I had since I was a toddler. But kids are mean and made up disgusting rumors about me and ruined my whole experience. After a couple of sui***e attempts, my dad pulled me out and let me home school. Now my children will NOT be attending public school.

@@kristenadorno luck isn't real,but God controls

That age range was when I felt like I kinda solidified who I was and who I wanted to be. I'm still a tomboy, but that was when I realized that caring what other people thought was a waste of time, especially when those other people were stupid tween bullies. Nowadays, bullies generate AI p0rn of other kids and post them online. It's _insane._

Shows and media trends are propaganda tools that 100% influence the masses. So miss me with the iTs ReAl LiFe pEoPLeS’ eXpErIeNcEs bull crap.

Child to preteen? Preteens are children.

THERE NEVER WAS

Pretty clearly Euphoria is not for kids any more than Velma is a Saturday morning cartoon.

Got a Euphoria ad for this video lmao

Exactly! My ex was always indoors in the computer as a teenager. His mum told me ‘at least I knew where he was and I didn’t need to worry’. Ma’am the internet is INFINITE. You have NO IDEA where your son is.

can we please bring back the 1980s parenting where your parents will beat your ass if you screw up but as long as you finish your work you can do whatever you want and the parents wont care? Please lol God I would have loved to be a 2000s kid too... it sucks being 17 rn

Social media. I keep saying IG, tic tac and OF need to get banned

My 9 year old has a Gizmo watch so I can call her inside from our acreage without running all over looking for her, or she can call me if she sees one of our livestock in trouble. She has no social media, no internet access outside of a few curated educational sites (and only gets on once or twice a week as part of homeschool, with me in the room), etc. We play video games like Zelda and Mario together as a family on occasion, and the kids have tablets, but they only have access to them a few times a month (usually in a waiting room or a long car trip). We read a TON of books. She plays with toys, crafts, plays "pretend", and plays with her toddler siblings aaaallll the time. She's teaching her 1 year old sister a dance right now while I'm cooking dinner. Playgrounds are her love language. 😂 Then we go to something with other kids her age, and more than half the kids are on a screen the entire time, not wanting to interact with anyone beyond watching videos on their phones. It makes me so sad to think these kids are losing that exuberance and zest for life in pursuit of the dopamine hits from social media. 😢

BTW, we gentle parent, and that absolutely does NOT mean kids get no consequences for behaving poorly. They are still held to standards of behavior, and are expected to follow rules. The idea that gentle parenting means permissive parenting is wrong. Unfortunately, a lot of these folks learn how to "gentle parent" from social media influencers, rather than the good resources out there, so they don't know the difference between gentle and permissive parenting, to the detriment of their kids.

@@ghost247music8 That's why I obsessively watch Gilmore Girls lol I'm nostalgic about a time when I wasn't even alive

It's supposed to be...but anyone can click "yes" to the question and/or type in a made up birth year =/ You'd think they'd put it to where a state ID needs to be scanned as proof

Preach

But any parent worth a damn can make that a reality for their child, at least while they're at home. It's simple. You just don't go handing them devices from infancy, a phone in primary school, their own laptops in middle school, etc. Now it's partly because we couldn't afford these things when our 4 kids were young. But we didn't allow our kids to have their own computers or even have a simple flip phone until they were a senior in high school. But guess what? They all grew up just fine. And they all have social skills where they can converse, looking people of all ages right in the eyes, because they didn't grow up stuck behind a screen or constantly looking at their phone. Now did they miss out on stuff? Sometimes. But it was never anything that actually mattered. And now that they're all 28-35 years old, they're all grateful we didn't allow them to have those things while they were young. They got to experience childhoods AND conversations with adults so they themselves were prepared to "adult" & be mature, independent, responsible citizens in their communities. Nobody's living in our basement playing video games all day and night, staring at social media, or sitting brain dead watching all the trash on TV thinking that's reality. 😂

I mean old that’s not fair though I disagree social media is for everyone

Who does the restrictions?

It still very mucb is. My daughter and her friends ate normal preteens and they are not online. Many still exist.

Did anyone else have those colored pencils with rainbow striped led in them? They usually came out brown, but when I was eight that pencil was one of my most prized possessions. The few times you managed to twist it around at just the right timing and angle to get no brown were super satisfying

as a child of the 80s, it's nice to see that some things don't change. all hail the multicolored pen!

When I was in middle school thry were only four colors lol

Yes! The rainbow pencils and sparkly gelly roll pens 😍😎

They were so fun and addicting.

I feel that way all the time too. In school I always wear an almost full face of makeup plus tight shorts under my clothes that cover almost my whole body up. I hate it all so much but I just feel so insecure next to those girls who literally look naturally gorgeous. When I go without makeup I often get made fun of by guys.

Might sound odd, but act like you’re better than them. Seriously, you’re above the nonsense because you’re here commenting after realizing how vain and ridiculous it is. You can absolutely own it and know you’re too good for it. They’ll talk about it, maybe tease you, but you understand the psychology behind it

Isn't that like a normal teen

Do yourself a favor and learn early to ignore all that crap. It's normal to feel uncomfortable at this age, but develop mental toughness to push past it and just do you. You'll be a lot happier in the long run than if you chase the trends and try to be like everyone else. If you feel embarrassed, force yourself to laugh it off. Practice this until it's real. Cause I promise you, every one of the people you're talking about is even more insecure than you feel, especially the ones making fun of other people. Don't be like them. Be fiercely, unapologetically you.

@@sabrinamusicreviews8025 I feel like I'm being stared at if I have my bare face, maybe I'm overthinking it. I have acne but I don't think it is even that bad but other girls have clear skin somehow and I don't, it's uncomfortable. I'm trying to get used to not wearing masks in school anymore, I'm so used to wearing one because of my face 😔

Also, I have tweens and I’m not sure if parents are actually dropping their kids off at the mall anymore lol. We used to get dropped off at the mall and go to all those stores. But malls aren’t a thing anymore, and it’s not as normal for kids to have that kind of freedom at that age.

@@MelissaCaskey-wm7zp - depending on where you are, kids unaccompanied by adults could be banned due to flash shoplifting.

Yes, 8 years ago the age to go unaccompanied at our local pool with multiple lifeguards was 10. They are now trying to make it 14 and I just want the kids to have somewhere to go meet up with friends.

Same age, i agree. Ima a male but gang no need to pull up to school like that LMAO.

I wasnt even allowed to get makeup until i was like 16. i used to just use my moms lol. these kids spending $200 on sephora or target is insane

I’m almost an adult and I still don’t wear makeup, I also never bothered with fashion trends of any sort. I wear what makes me comfortable, because I don’t need to impress anyone. I’ve had a great time being a kid, and my parents made sure I spent that time learning the actual skills I need to be a functioning adult, not letting me play a childish charade of adulthood to gain attention

Same here. At the end of this year I’ll be going into High school and it’s upsetting to see so many my age put this stuff on their faces that in the future will completely damage their skin in their later years, but besides the point, it’s just upsetting. Thankfully my father won’t allow me to wear makeup, even if I wanted to, so I won’t fall into this gap. Just wish more parents cared more about their children’s health and safety.

I'm 17 and I really feel bad for your generation. Everything is just going down the drain for yall. Seeing 13 year old girls do adult type tiktok dances is just disheartening to me.. not to mention they all try to look like models. And yes I've been jailbaited a few times. If youre 13 please dont try to look, act, dress like 18. But its the downfall of society ig. Oh well.

Good just speed it up until it hit rock bottom

@@crazychase98 it's turtles all the way down

My husband and I agreed that when we have kids they can’t use social media until they’re 18,I was given a Facebook at 10yo(I’m 22 now),was allowed unsupervised time on the computer and had a full blown p*rn addiction from 10-19 because i was unsupervised and not told about it.I thankfully never spoke to strangers online but having social media so young,plus being allowed to watch horrible tv(in a Christian house mind you,my family just watched trashy shows and movies thinking they were cool for letting us watch )and movies,plus video games not only ruined my attention span,opened the door for addiction and got in the way of creativity.After what I have seen from such a young age I know that I will educate our children on what’s out there without letting them get involved with it from such a young age.

Damn, I’m a millennial too but I must be older cuz I remember when Facebook was exclusively for college students. I don’t consider myself to have grown up on any social media platforms.

​@@AliyahNadeau Same, girl, same. When I tell you this feels like I just read my own life story... I started my porn addiction at 11. For so long I blamed my mom for this because, even though she was careful with where and who she let me hang out with, she never monitored what I was watching at home. She probably thought keeping me at home was keeping me safe, but little did she know that my unmonitored access to internet and social media would lead me to a decade-long addiction that still affects the way I view myself, my sexuality and even my marriage. Having grown up as a Christian girl and having fallen into this horrible addiction and lust made me feel so disgusting throughout my whole life. I am so thankful with Christ for several years later bringing me to a real understanding of who He is, who I am and what He did on the Cross. I am 27 years old now with a lovely husband who understood and stayed by me through my battle with addiction. I still face temptation, of course, but Jesus has given me freedom and has carried me through it all. I hope you experienced this too, sis. ❤

I refused to “friend” anyone under 18. I wanted to be an adult in an adult place. We didn’t let our kids make Facebook accounts until they were 18 because we were concerned about privacy. (I never posted their pictures and referred to them as DS-dear son, and DD-dear daughter)

Ya no, that's a bit of a stretch.

Its frustrating me as a 17 year old... like bruh if youre 13, please dont act, dress, talk, like youre 18 😭 13 be looking like 17-18 now and its CRAZY... what the hell is in the water bro

@maryrichardson1318 I feel the 'hormones in food' and its wide reaching side effects is a very large conversation which is long overdue; your comment is the first time I have seen it alluded to even in socially aware content such as this.

There is definitely something wrong with our food. Especially considering a lot of kids and teenagers consume a lot of fast/junk food in general.

@@ghost247music8 Stop complaining and smash while you can.

The sad thing is that feminist absolutely support this. This is where the "girls mature faster that boys" mistruths come from. They talk and act like they are older, so that means they are more mature as fact.. However, this is skin deep only and when they are challenged, they instantly break down and become a "I'm just a kid" victim.. This is where it all starts...

I know someone who is 34 and she looks like she is still 15 years old. She has never used a beauty produce or makeup in her life! She eats a very healthy diet

Same. 😂

Same i was obsessed with like the lip gloss cell phones they sold at claires it was my favorite thing ever i wasnt even aware of what retinol was

Claire’s girl clip on earrings and the cheap makeup

lmao, I still go to Claire's to this day.

Same it was the clip on earrings for me though 😂😂😂

Boom!!

I knew someone who said her son would only wear baggy pants or basketball shorts at 10 and couldn't get him to wear anything else. I told her, he can only wear what you buy him. He's 10! If you don't want him wearing something, stop buying it. He won't go to school naked....I promise. She thought I was crazy

same but i wanted to be a Winx fairy or have firebending

Just graduated after being a homeschooled kid my whole life, and I’m totally with you on this. At ten I still anticipated quick sand being a much larger concern than it actually is

Love this! I homeschool my teenage son:) He will never go to pub Ed

I was homeschooled too

I thought I was a dragon for way too long 😂 like Jake the American dragon i was homeschooled for awhile but mostly went to a private Christian school

No one talks about the insecurities guys have nowadays because of online gym culture! It's so frustrating because a lot of the bodybuilders online use some kind of steroids. As a girl, whenever I dared to go without makeup or wear casual shorts for a day at school, I'd get nasty comments from groups of those "popular" guys walking by such as, " how does she walk around looking like that?". It led me to be constantly covered up with clothes and makeup, even during hot summer months.

I agree completely, I’m 16 and work at a summer camp. One of my girls (10) is obsessed with makeup and hair and looking pretty, she talks about a RU-vid channel and her follower count and her want to be famous. She also tells me about how she only likes guys because they are hot and have abs. All at 10 years old, it’s sad to see honestly

I think the biggest problem is that not many parent are like you. They give kids smartphone/tablet so they don't need take care of them while posting pictures of their "perfect family" on FB/Instagram.

Same, all the way down the list. We are pushing back the tide as best we can!

Same. And good job!

What do you mean "modest clothing". Do you mean the mothers are wearing modest clothing? Isn't "modesty" something for adult women to focus on, not little girls?

​​@@sabrinamusicreviews8025exactly...they listed off gardening and nutrition like that's something kids should be focused on. 😂

The commercials where the best to make!

You'll probably need to homeschool then, cuz they get like this as much from peers at school as they do from the internet. Public school kids w no phones are still like this.

@@missakialexandria I do realize that and I probably would homeschool them

"if my kids want to do something fun, they can read a book..." 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

Not your kids. Chill

Yes yes homeschool is the way to go. My 13 year old still plays and I limit his screen time and he’s not allowed on social apps. He does not have his own devices either. When we go on road trips, he rocks a toy box with books, colouring, toys, etc and no device for up to 13 hours! It’s all about training, practice and being a role model. Stay strong on your values as it will make a huge difference in your children, their personalities and their development.

Your giving your kids the best possible future as adults.

I'm still cringe 😔👍

I am or was

I am 🥸

Facts!!! And we weren’t even “ugly” we were literally CHILDREN!! You can’t “glow up” during a biological “grow up” period!!! Ugh

I would love to show you a photo of me at 14. Woof.

This isn’t gentle parenting, this is permissive parenting.

make serious, firm, but lenient non-helicopter freerange parenting. Its the only way. That's why 80s kids grew up to be good people.. they had responsibilities and freedoms early

What the hell is a dunk elephant?

@@stingwcw it’s a skin care brand that young Sephora girls love, it has bright colours and packaging

Yeah I get what Brett is saying in the video, but extended adolescence is not natural or necessarily positive. Neither is playing at the wrong type of adult. It's natural to start imitating adults as you get close to or enter puberty. It's up to the parents to make sure the adults you're imitating aren't social media influencers and sloots. These years are when parents should be introducing real responsibility and encouraging preteens to start thinking about their future, doing well in school, exploring real interests to see what they might like to do as adults. Jobs like babysitting, dog walking, mowing lawns, etc. And if the preteen kid finishes mowing the neighbors lawn and wants to watch cartoons for an hour, awesome. There's a balance and we shouldn't rush them to grow up, but I think it's actually trying to make them "be a kid" that creates that desire to act like the worst kind of adult.

Nah, you're wrong. Sorry. A person isn't really an adult til they 30 years of age. But, for sure, you are right about the need of change. Glad I was becoming a man in my late 70s into the 80s. Wouldn't trade it.