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The price of invulnerability: Brené Brown at TEDxKC 

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TEDxKC talk synopsis: In our anxious world, we often protect ourselves by closing off parts of our lives that leave us feeling most vulnerable. Yet invulnerability has a price. When we knowingly or unknowingly numb ourselves to what we sense threatens us, we sacrifice an essential tool for navigating uncertain times -- joy. This talk will explore how and why fear and collective scarcity has profoundly dangerous consequences on how we live, love, parent, work and engage in relationships -- and how simple acts can restore our sense of purpose and meaning.
Speaker: Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work where she has spent the past 10 years studying courage, shame and authenticity. She is the Behavioral Health Scholar-in-Residence at the Council on Alcohol and Drugs and has written several books on her research.
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@hankigoe829
@hankigoe829 5 лет назад
Who's grateful that they've heard of Brene Brown? And that she's doing what she does, of course.
@christinacharles3283
@christinacharles3283 5 лет назад
I don’t know why I am crying. I guess maybe it is because I am afraid to not be accepted if I show my true self to everyone, but at the same time I want joy, love, and authenticity.
@wendybarnes7165
@wendybarnes7165 2 года назад
I'm right there with you. I hope you have found your joy, love and authenticity by now. I see you left this comment two years ago. I'm just now seeing this video for the first time. Eye-opening for sure.
@wendybarnes7165
@wendybarnes7165 2 года назад
@@amyrenee1361 , Me too. I'm in the same boat. I'm going to try though - I am going to try.
@clairef.shepard2776
@clairef.shepard2776 2 года назад
Maybe you are crying for all of us who were raised to put up those fake shields that limit us. It's beautiful you're tears. Bless you!
@paulbrunelle1444
@paulbrunelle1444 2 года назад
Start by giving all of those attributes to yourself, for yourself. Drop any emotional masks you may have felt were necessary.
@willislee2362
@willislee2362 2 года назад
You are loved, joyous and authentic. Just by this comment.
@kendepeal
@kendepeal 3 года назад
"We just stay so busy that the truth of our lives can't catch up. That's the plan." Wow, that's the money quote right there. Nailed it, Brené.
@oljenka88
@oljenka88 Год назад
Well it definitely caught up hard on the past few years 😐
@softtrain-1550
@softtrain-1550 Год назад
I do this on purpose 😶 recently i went and got a second job
@aswathithrivikraman4970
@aswathithrivikraman4970 Год назад
vulnerability refers to the willingness to be open and honest about one's feelings and experiences, even if it involves some risk or potential for discomfort. Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen, even when you can't control the outcome. Being vulnerable can involve showing one's weaknesses, fears, and insecurities, as well as expressing emotions and asking for help or support when needed. Vulnerability is not weakness, but rather the most accurate measure of courage. It's the foundation of trust, connection, and innovation. Great discussion on the dangerous impact of losing our tolerance for vulnerability in our culture. The fear of vulnerability causes people to avoid joy, experience disappointment as a lifestyle, disconnect, strive for perfection, and engage in extremism. The scarcity drives our intolerance for vulnerability because we live in a culture that tells us there is never enough and that an ordinary life is meaningless. Vulnerability is not a weakness but rather a strength that allows people to experience joy, love, belonging, creativity, and faith. "We are losing our tolerance for vulnerability." "Vulnerability is absolutely at the core of fear, and anxiety, and shame, and very difficult emotions that we all experience. But vulnerability is also the birthplace of joy, of love, of belonging, of creativity, of faith." "One of the symptoms that we're losing our capacity for vulnerability is that joy actually becomes foreboding." "Perfectionism has nothing to do with striving for excellence and healthy-- it's nothing to do with healthy striving. People who I interview who are absolutely accomplished, and people who strive for excellence are the biggest negotiators and compromisers that I've ever interviewed." "Faith minus vulnerability equals extremism." "We live in a culture that tells us that there is never enough." "In this world, somehow, an ordinary life has become synonymous with a meaningless life." "What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful." Nailed it!
@auburnsunlight
@auburnsunlight 3 года назад
Symptoms of shame: - When joy becomes foreboding or suspicious, - Disappointment as a lifestyle, - not wanting to get excited about things for fear of them not happening, - Perfectionism, - Faith - vulnerability=extremism, - Numbing But why are we intolerant of vulnerability? - scarcity mindset - nothing is safe/perfect/extraordinary enough, we‘re meaning less if all that‘s missing, sometimes the ordinary is a blessing (e.g. your family being normally healthy) How do we embrace vulnerability - practice gratitude - honor what‘s ordinary about our lives - play, play, play - nature - love, love, love
@aniketsingh6109
@aniketsingh6109 3 года назад
Thank you ❤️
@auburnsunlight
@auburnsunlight 3 года назад
Aniket Singh you‘re welcome ☺️
@VivianixonArts
@VivianixonArts 3 года назад
Thank you
@mikemchugh4354
@mikemchugh4354 2 года назад
Sounds like depression.
@amralaasaleh
@amralaasaleh 2 года назад
Useful summary, thanks for your help
@Sienna10Sunz
@Sienna10Sunz 7 лет назад
13:08: "...you cannot selectively numb emotion...let me tell you, if vulnerability is a sharp edge, there may be nothing sharper than joy." = mindblown 💥
@kieranryan6148
@kieranryan6148 5 лет назад
I guess the joy then ‚when and if it comes‘ makes the calculated decision of going through the insecurity of vulnerability all worth it.
@markdemell8056
@markdemell8056 4 года назад
Joy to me is soft; not sharp!
@gaurav3290
@gaurav3290 Год назад
Can someone explain those sentence of "Sharp edge" ??
@danherrick5785
@danherrick5785 Год назад
@@gaurav3290 Being able to be hurt or affected by someone else is a very vulnerable place to put yourself in. If you allow someone to touch you, it's can be very sharp if they hit you instead. That's the sharp edge of vulnerability. The same thing happens with joy. If you find joy in something, and it gets taken away - it's can be even worse.
@pabloparis303
@pabloparis303 9 лет назад
"We cannot selectively numb the dark experiences."
@cobinizer
@cobinizer 4 года назад
Sure ya can. Drink prodigious amounts of alcohol.
@nishantdalal6637
@nishantdalal6637 4 года назад
That was the best message
@T6451
@T6451 3 года назад
That jumped out at me too
@sm3296
@sm3296 Год назад
Isn’t being vulnerable just us being authentic? We learn as children that we are authentic and loved or authentic and rejected. That’s why so many of us grow up believing we cannot be authentic and or vulnerable.
@taytayshaniqua.8686
@taytayshaniqua.8686 2 года назад
“We all want to believe that we are not going to get hurt and that bad things are not gonna happen and they are. There is a guarantee that no one talks about and that is If we don’t allow ourselves to experience joy and love we will definitely miss out on filling our reservoirs with what we need when those hard things happen.”
@sososanchez3512
@sososanchez3512 5 лет назад
Vulnerability doesn't change who you are It shows your capability for compassion being relatable. Makes you even stronger . One of the best videos ever
@QuietlyCurious
@QuietlyCurious 10 лет назад
Even though she's speaking as a researcher, I find her talks touching.
@outdoormirrorist3404
@outdoormirrorist3404 9 лет назад
Where?
@brigitteellis282
@brigitteellis282 3 года назад
Always
@reidskyler6646
@reidskyler6646 2 года назад
instablaster
@EpicPhalean
@EpicPhalean 7 лет назад
Finally someone who sees that striving for the extraordinary is not the only fulfillment one can have in life. Thank you.
@CarmelaPattillo
@CarmelaPattillo 11 лет назад
This was so helpful for me. I keep feeling that feeling that I'm missing something and what is missing is the being in the moment by being vulnerable. My stomach is flip flopping just thinking of what that means. That is a good thing. I'm going to hug my sons really hard tonight.
@gaurav3290
@gaurav3290 Год назад
Hey, How are you now ??
@septimaserpent
@septimaserpent Год назад
@@gaurav3290 I Wondered/Wanted To Ask The Same! Makes Me Feel Good About The Direction The Collective Consciousness Has Gone In The Past Decade (For The Most Part).
@lexirosereese6951
@lexirosereese6951 Год назад
that last bit is so powerful just in itself. when i lost my dad, i didn’t want sympathy or sadness or pity or whatever, i wanted people to tell THEIR parents how much they loved them, it’s perspective and it’s crazy🥹
@lauracatlin3756
@lauracatlin3756 10 лет назад
Wow! I work as an addiction counselor with active duty military! This is so helpful to present to them! To them, they are taught they being vulnerable is a weakness. I can present this to them as an educational! Thank you Brene' for your dedication to research!
@octopus4925
@octopus4925 Год назад
My dad was military and he was unable to connect with us because he saw vulnerability as weakness for himself and us. It's really sad that they're trained that way
@Djpost2
@Djpost2 11 лет назад
I spent 10 years working in ICU's and numbed my feelings to people's pain so I could do what it took to care for them or at least that's what I thought. It took another 8 years to start really feeling people. I remember the day when i could feel someone else's physical pain as I cared for them, it overwhelmed me it was so intense, and i still struggling with the emotional numbness that is part of medicine today. As she said numbness shuts down the joy in life as well and I miss joy.
@danherrick5785
@danherrick5785 Год назад
If you allowed yourself to feel all the pain of your patients - wouldn't that make you sick?
@austingibson3315
@austingibson3315 3 месяца назад
My wife got sick and almost died. After years of medical, she finally got back on her feet but during that time I had to numb everything to take care of her and stay functional. Now that she's finally better, I have to figure out how to live again. I can only imagine how you must feel.
@EssenceOfSage
@EssenceOfSage 2 года назад
I have discovered the high cost of being invulnerable for the majority of my life. I’m currently cleaning up the wreckage that it left in its wake. Brené Brown has played a part in that process! ❤️ I love this human being !
@septimaserpent
@septimaserpent Год назад
How's That Been Goin' For Ya?
@EssenceOfSage
@EssenceOfSage Год назад
Some days it feels like a can of worms I should have left alone.
@roukytje
@roukytje Год назад
You're doing good. You're feeling. if you close it, what will happen? If you open it, what will happen? If you put your hand in fire, it will burn and hurt you, and you'll pull your hand away. If you think about how burned hand might feel, you'll be stuck in pain and suffer from the thoughts. So, if you can choose to avoid physical pain, why not choose to avoid emotional pain. At least you will not have scarves. Good luck with your choice .Good luck to be just YOU.🌹
@missrhib
@missrhib 9 лет назад
Ms. Brown has more wisdom than I can DREAM to have. I love to listen to her on repeat.
@vipermad358
@vipermad358 3 года назад
She’s making a good living, that’s for sure.
@rachelcaldwell330
@rachelcaldwell330 2 года назад
Who cares what amount of money she is making, she deserves to be making a whole lot as she has done with so many of us that are learning why we are like we are. Namaste Brene 🙏 I feel blessed to have been shown your work in rehab. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and research with US 💗
@khansherani
@khansherani Год назад
I repeat again and again, I am vulnerable. I am vulnerable, I am vulnerable, and I am OK with that.
@aifan6148
@aifan6148 7 лет назад
The dangerous thing is as a society, we are losing our tolerance and capacity to vulnerability.
@jjohnsengraciesmom
@jjohnsengraciesmom 5 лет назад
Yep
@mmurray42
@mmurray42 3 года назад
I c iiii
@helen6517
@helen6517 3 года назад
I don't think society has ever had a tolerance for vulnerability.
@SieNoel
@SieNoel 11 лет назад
Brené Brown is hands down one of my absolute favorite people on this planet. She is boldly going in to the most important topics... The most important fields for real life.
@TheSpeedCube
@TheSpeedCube 11 лет назад
Excellent talk, this should be watched by everybody. In addition to what Brené showed, here is how I see vulnerability: Vulnerability is something we all need, because it opens the way in which our true emotions and feelings flow and as humans we cannon't keep them in ourselves. When you are vulnerable you are not thinking about what you are for the outside world but about what you are in you, and thus you break that barrier to release everything that comes right from the heart.
@matthewscopelite5303
@matthewscopelite5303 7 месяцев назад
That's well said, I do agree, and calls to my mind an image from my Catholic upbringing of the Sacred Heart of Jesus and maybe why there's a barbed-wire like wreath of thorns wrapped around it
@stolicmenace6929
@stolicmenace6929 10 месяцев назад
This human was brought to my attention years ago… and has inspired me so very much. I’m so grateful she does what she does.
@anoopgopalakrishnan7823
@anoopgopalakrishnan7823 6 лет назад
This is so true! for the longest time I couldn't watch a man making a fool of himself in a movie. I would just avoid that scene. But it's after listening to Brene, I learned my own tendancy to appear cool always and not let myself experiment and become a fool. It's still a challenge but atleast now I know where to work on!
@tomsmolen4490
@tomsmolen4490 5 лет назад
I've avoided those cringe-worthy movie moments as well. Thanks for the verbalization!
@jjohnsengraciesmom
@jjohnsengraciesmom 5 лет назад
I think men sometimes make fools of themselves, in movies or in life, to make women laugh. I think that is part of why those movies are popular.
@selenabolton3773
@selenabolton3773 5 лет назад
I have the same experience. I can't watch people sing on the spot because I'm nervous for them. I'm scared they'll mess up and embarrass themselves. It's through your comments that I see now, I was projecting my fear and shame onto them. Thank you for this comment and for being vulnerable enough to share!
@asenase2834
@asenase2834 4 года назад
I never made that connection. Thanks a lot for voicing that insight.
@ninarodriguez8517
@ninarodriguez8517 2 года назад
Totally get it! It is safe for you, to be you!
@sanchitasishodiar2619
@sanchitasishodiar2619 Год назад
People avoid talking about it. Well life is the whole package. Dive in, feel, play, eat, sleep🍫🍫
@JoannaZygo
@JoannaZygo 11 лет назад
I am escaping vulnerability because of severe traumatic experiences and I have developed my own coping strategies. No alcohol no drugs but other. I have been running away for years, moving 2000 km away and each time I move I imagine I start a new happy life. But I never worked this through so wherever I go it goes with me...the nightmares, the anxiety, the suffering. I just found out (at the end of this speech) that by doing all those things to "protect" myself, I am unable to feel joy anymore.
@lisaengelbrektson
@lisaengelbrektson 11 лет назад
There aren't enough...... videos/podcasts/etc of Brene Brown, presenting her work.
@animethics
@animethics Год назад
Nice one
@GoldandPinkLight
@GoldandPinkLight Год назад
"In the ordinary moments of our lives is really when we can find the most joy." Wow! I needed to hear that! I'm so weary of all the "live your best life!" b.s.!
@animethics
@animethics Год назад
Nice one
@deejaystuffs3377
@deejaystuffs3377 2 года назад
Great talk. i have been struggling with vulnerability for as long as i can remember, believing it to be weakness. I appreciate this talk.
@corriegrupstra6817
@corriegrupstra6817 11 лет назад
I was a nurse for 8 years. I also numbed my feelings and emotions there was no room for sharing it with anybody. There was no other way to keep doing my job than to shut down my feelings. It has resulted, 15 years later, in a breakdown. I've missed joy and trust for a long long time. I never understood what happened to me. And now I know. Thanks...
@ceselimilstein
@ceselimilstein 11 лет назад
When I became pregnant with my third child, I was so excited and told everyone right away. At nine weeks, I had a non-viable pregnancy and was grief stricken. Everyone was saying how you shouldn't tell anyone about a pregnancy until 12 weeks but I am so glad I did. I did not have to be alone in my sadness. I had the love and support of my family and friends and it got me through.I would never not tell anyone my joy just because it might not last.. I let my vulnerability heal myself.
@suzanneniederland4832
@suzanneniederland4832 8 лет назад
THIS WAS AMAZING. Dear god this woman hit the nail on the head for everything.
@bradmcewen
@bradmcewen 7 лет назад
Suzy Niederland I sure think so ! Amazingl introspection provoking.
@feelingoffbalance
@feelingoffbalance 10 лет назад
I also examine why certain situations make me anxious and try to get to the root of it (being accepted by others is a big one for me). But the quickest way is to connect with your internal sense of self (by meditating for instance). That in a way takes you out of the anxiety game altogether.
@Halima.meziane
@Halima.meziane Месяц назад
Vulnerability can be both challenging and beautiful. It requires courage to be vulnerable, but it also opens up the possibility for deeper connections and understanding with others. Embracing vulnerability can lead to personal growth and stronger relationships.❤❤❤❤
@ulqha
@ulqha 8 лет назад
The way to go to vulnerability: practice gratitiude and honor ordinary, cuz.. that what makes our life is extraordinary x) x)
@mariekirby1683
@mariekirby1683 11 лет назад
excellent talk - she is spot on about all that perfection and invulnerability. it's a very thought provoking talk - I've watched it a few times already. Our lives are entirely vulnerable - we spend a lot of time trying to be secure and safe - which is to be expected but our emotions and hearts cannot be caged. that is the price of securing them.
@PJB-To-be
@PJB-To-be 6 месяцев назад
Going through life even afraid, but expecting good things based on faith and gratitude is fullfilling. We live in critical times hard to deal with for sure. Brene' articulates so well getting on... having a tight grasp on what's at stake, controlling herself and sharing her insights. Little gems sparkle around her. I am always delighted to hear her. Thank you.
@mmathabanampya8379
@mmathabanampya8379 4 года назад
'faith minus vulnerability equals extremism'
@msmichelle746
@msmichelle746 Месяц назад
This one is where she takes a work trip and panics from overthinking and thinking the worst. 12:48 is where she addresses the numbing of emotions.
@lizzieluz
@lizzieluz 3 месяца назад
Almost 10 years ago I had to go numb so I can survive, and survive I did, well, some may say I excelled at it. Until COVID happened and I had to stop and sit with myself. I always hated days off school because I couldn't sit too long without being busy. I pictured my emotions of grief, pain, suffering, atc like a pressure cooker, can't just take one out without the lid blowing up and completely spilling it's content. I did NOT have time to slow down because we needed to survive every day. Until 2020 when it blew up and forced me to go in what I thought was going to be a couple weeks off work and became so much longer. I realized then I have mastered surviving at the expense of thriving. So I tried to put my energy into switching from surviving to thriving (not so easy when you still need to survive) and failed miserably no matter how and what I've tried. I have finally understood why in this talk and it makes so much sense.
@mr_tschue
@mr_tschue 3 года назад
2020 during covid, I feel so lucky to have come across this.
@kieranryan6148
@kieranryan6148 5 лет назад
Men meeting up for a day together each carrying an opened bottle of beer - that‘s an example of ‚numbing‘. Hands up if you‘ve been there 🙌🏽
@lippolis2812
@lippolis2812 8 лет назад
Brene Brown is SO easy to love! Best Teds ever, thank you!
@andrewadius142
@andrewadius142 9 лет назад
After listening to two of Brene Brown's talks, she really strikes a chord, I live in the pacific north west, and i am lucky enough to have been exposed to a culture that has taught me to the to hear the music in the struggle of life, the west coast natives are always giving thanks, always honoring the ancestors, through participation and observation I have learned the power of vulnerability, i think they honor and respect it., it is nature.
@kxtcxiox
@kxtcxiox 8 лет назад
I'm located there as well and it's true ☺ amazing what we can learn from our local brothers and sisters
@joys2218
@joys2218 6 лет назад
me too
@kimsnyder92
@kimsnyder92 8 лет назад
Gosh... I had the whole family break out in song and harmonizing. I guess I'm an optimist.
@kxtcxiox
@kxtcxiox 8 лет назад
I did too.....its weird people assume death, well not weird it makes sense after listening to this, but I wouldn't think that would be a normal reaction it isn't to me at all.
@kanithiahills6329
@kanithiahills6329 8 лет назад
I did as well! Lol
@anoopgopalakrishnan7823
@anoopgopalakrishnan7823 6 лет назад
You are! :) The lucky one
@moinashiv7631
@moinashiv7631 6 лет назад
So did I! I was remembering my daughter when she was 2, singing Dashing through the Snow, gesturing with her little hands...and me driving​. She kept telling to say Hey! with her. It was sooo sweet! Not saying I don't ever have doubt during moments of joy, but I do try the gratitude way.
@emondragon68
@emondragon68 6 лет назад
Same..she asked the question and I thought " they sing jingle bells?". I'm as afraid of vulnerability as the next person but also have a lot of gratitude. Perception counts for a lot.
@neeturana1
@neeturana1 7 лет назад
Thank you so much Berne Brown for doing this talk. This is one of the truest, most closest to the heart talk I have heard in a long time. We numb vulnerability and most of the time it is project akin to being weak and unable to cope with life. Vulnerability is beautiful cause it exposes us to us and our feelings, connections, and everything that makes us what we are as people. Thank you, for talking about this.
@00005744
@00005744 7 лет назад
"honor ordinary.." thank you so much Mrs Brown
@betterbodies4u
@betterbodies4u 10 лет назад
Dr. Brown your a true healer in to many ways to count. Thank you.
@genahowe4206
@genahowe4206 7 лет назад
I love her talks, but this is definitely the best one! I cried at the end. She really nails it on the head. My husband and I have been going through a crisis. He doesn't look into this kind of thing on his own. And part of the problem has been that he was no longer paying attention to anything I was about, therefore missing my attempts at self-help. It seems I'm always looking into self-help stuff, but not really getting anywhere. But today I asked him to listen to another of Brene's talks. One that didn't hit home in the first half; the one given at an artists' (?) conference. He did listen to all of it. And now THIS is the one thing, before anything else, I want him to listen to. I've already glimpsed into my own issues and he is just beginning. I truly believe this one talk will be the one to certainly put him on the path to healing himself, while I continue the same path, and then I believe we will be healing our relationship at the same time - to a degree. But we will be on the right path to finishing the work and being truly happy and content together. Thank you so much Brene. You are a gift!
@SR-mv2mf
@SR-mv2mf 6 лет назад
Gena Howe wow.. how's it going now?, is your husband on board?
@vikinggeorge7007
@vikinggeorge7007 2 года назад
Well, did it put him?
@genahowe4206
@genahowe4206 2 года назад
@@SR-mv2mf He wasn't really ready when I wrote this as it turns out. I think finally now, he will be more receptive.
@genahowe4206
@genahowe4206 2 года назад
@@vikinggeorge7007 Not then, but it's likely now. He had too much else on his mind and he's one of those who absolutely cannot think about more than one thing at a time. THings are much better, but still need work. We'll see. I'll have to listen again myself. We ALL can get lost too deeply in everyday stuff and need wake up calls.
@vikinggeorge7007
@vikinggeorge7007 2 года назад
@@genahowe4206 Would you like me to talk to him if that would do any good? I have experience in helping people.
@teo0180
@teo0180 11 лет назад
true. iv numbed many emotions in order not to feel pain due to some situations and i now realize that i have not felt joy in a really long time
@murielleleblanc4377
@murielleleblanc4377 6 месяцев назад
I-have abundance in my life being happy,joyous and free
@RalphHerrera-xc8sy
@RalphHerrera-xc8sy 6 месяцев назад
I am having issues in my relationship because of this. I show up time and time again without fear of rejection. My heart is on my sleeve. Without vulnerability, you will never know how to love. Without love we will never find joy. We need to slow down and appreciate the ones that are most important to you.
@cusny01
@cusny01 4 года назад
“Practice gratitude. Honor what’s ordinary in our lives because that is what’s truly extraordinary. “❤️🙏🏼
@SpiralJoel
@SpiralJoel 12 лет назад
If you try to numb out negative feelings by default you numb out positive feelings like joy, be brave be vulnerable, be thankful
@ReturnToTheCaves
@ReturnToTheCaves 11 лет назад
I am not afraid of nothing and i dont think its a bad thing. I just say its not your only option.I am extremely proud of what i am and i am invulnerable.My life led me to this state and i can see how i am at better inner state than all happy people i know.I dont say not be happy i just say dont be blind abut the world around you.
@cadeaverymommy
@cadeaverymommy 3 года назад
I finally softened and loved someone, faced vulnerability, and expressed it to that person. Blew up in my face and lost the person. Ughhhh. Goodness I lost joy... but trying to find gratitude in the situation. 😥❤️
@napoleonpug
@napoleonpug 10 лет назад
She is an awesome communicator. The symptoms had to ring some bells with viewers.
@MsAnniewasserman
@MsAnniewasserman 3 года назад
I've heard of Brene Brown for years, but more from pop culture than any personal experience. WHY did I wait so long to watch her videos? I watched the Netflix special last night. In her special, she referred to her RU-vid video that got so much attention from the original Houston TedTalks - so I just watched that because I was crazing more Brene. I am really connecting with the importance of celebrating my ordinary life. Seems I've been chasing extraordinary moments for a lifetime. It's quite amazing to be alive in 2020 with everything going on. I will most likely watch/listen to this again to remind me of this important message.
@bobbypham5706
@bobbypham5706 11 лет назад
Very true.. I just hope people like her or anyone in a financially secure situation can understand and empathize with the ones that aren't so lucky.
@manalahmed7798
@manalahmed7798 7 лет назад
life-changing, brimming with truth & softness 💗😍❤
@MissDNicholls
@MissDNicholls 11 лет назад
I got out of a traumatic experience and tried to numb the anxiety related and to wipe it from my mind by going blank whenever I thought of it, I ended up developing an involuntary trigger to go mentally and emotionally blank whenever I tried to think about anything and had to work for months to be able to think and feel again. it's dangerous stuff!
@animethics
@animethics Год назад
Nice one
@jlck325
@jlck325 6 лет назад
Yes, yes Thank you beautifully said so grateful!!! 💌
@kategordon1960
@kategordon1960 9 лет назад
Neat and so on point. I know that I have been numbing and it is hard to feel vulnerable when the ship is going down. Thank you for your topic today. My problem is I tell lies when I feel I need to create distance between myself and others.
@RowanHood-KFP909
@RowanHood-KFP909 9 лет назад
My problem is similar, but I tell my lies so that I don't appear less than my peers.
@MsAjayveer
@MsAjayveer 8 лет назад
+Arianna Martinez Same here but how to really tackle this problem?
@shiningdawn8578
@shiningdawn8578 7 лет назад
The only way to really tackle any problem really, when we don't know how or what to do, is to do something differently. It's trial and error, but it is how we learn. If we do the same action, we can always expect the same end result. ie: "If I lie, I can create some distance I need." Ok, so we want the same outcome, but at a lower cost to our relationships with others? Try something different and see how it fares. It may succeed, it may fail miserably, or it may land anywhere in between. Take the ones that turn out how you'd like and repeat them. Eventually, you may find yourself at "If I define a boundary within myself, and openly state it, I can create the distance I need, but without causing lasting damage."
@jarlbalgruuf1877
@jarlbalgruuf1877 10 лет назад
Learned a lot, thank you.
@FrankieSinclair
@FrankieSinclair 10 лет назад
Thank you for this.
@obsidaisy7776
@obsidaisy7776 Год назад
Weakness and vulnerability are synonymous.
@candidjan
@candidjan 11 лет назад
BEAUTIFULLY DONE!!!!! thank you !
@gulnaragayeva36
@gulnaragayeva36 9 лет назад
thanks for great talk.i liked this very much.keep going
@clairemcwilliams6515
@clairemcwilliams6515 10 лет назад
Absolutely love this, have never thought of this
@YorindaWanner
@YorindaWanner 13 лет назад
Thank you for the very interesting talk. I can relate to that when we repress shame etc we also repress joy. I read somewhere that our safety lies in our vulnerability. Much appreciated.
@robertoadame2163
@robertoadame2163 Год назад
Love this lady and her words
@Rula37
@Rula37 10 лет назад
Love your work! It touches the nerves
@kristine6996
@kristine6996 4 года назад
Good topic... Thank you, with love and understanding : 🐣.
@kiaweking
@kiaweking Год назад
Because of the title of this talk I had to listen very closely to her closing statement to understand . "...IN vulnerability weʻll find what really gives purpose and meaning to our lives. Thank you."
@jujubee90275
@jujubee90275 5 лет назад
Always come back to Dr Brown's research. Love her❤❤❤
@aprilt2809
@aprilt2809 Год назад
Thank you thank you thank you Brene for the clarity and compassion in shedding light on our numbing culture which is robbing us of love & joy when we so much to be grateful for. God bless you & your work💜
@thecurrentuniverse
@thecurrentuniverse 4 года назад
Tears at the end. Wish I could like it a million times.
@DeSwiss
@DeSwiss 13 лет назад
Thank you. This was awesome!
@heathermaxfield9825
@heathermaxfield9825 8 лет назад
I love her and am reading Rising Strong now. Thank you for sharing your passion with others.
@Qismekwik
@Qismekwik 10 лет назад
I´m thankful for her heartwarming, thought provoking insights.
@DynamicVisions2008
@DynamicVisions2008 11 лет назад
Highly recommended. Thank you, Brene', for sharing your research.
@kxtcxiox
@kxtcxiox 8 лет назад
wonderful video, great subject, fantastic delivery love her 😙
@Godlovesbertha
@Godlovesbertha 11 лет назад
thank you!
@lizgichora6472
@lizgichora6472 7 лет назад
THANK YOU
@BrigSushilBhasin
@BrigSushilBhasin 7 лет назад
Excellent. Deeply moved and touched.
@leonziotravelzbettyrangiwa4614
Love her teaching open my world and thank you :) Kia Ora! from N.Z
@orfamayQ
@orfamayQ 12 лет назад
I'm greatful that I found out about your research, can watch these videos and find that many of those things I have already realized in my life. Now I'm even more reassured to keep up with them :)
@downhomegirl5
@downhomegirl5 4 года назад
Her research is amazingly beautiful & I get it 💗 Thank you
@1sornram
@1sornram Год назад
So grateful to come across this. Going to practice this daily 😘
@cabrinasulimay5466
@cabrinasulimay5466 6 лет назад
She really has taught me a lot I love her
@Prospirity
@Prospirity 13 лет назад
Wow! Brilliant indeed.
@nishantdalal6637
@nishantdalal6637 4 года назад
Simply amazing speech..learnt a lot..thanks !!!
@laetitiacailleteau9411
@laetitiacailleteau9411 6 лет назад
Love listening to Brenee ALWAYS. I have read all your books and never get bored of watching you - always get me to think so very hard!
@hrabmv
@hrabmv 10 лет назад
this is SOOooo GOOD!!!!
@youareitifyou
@youareitifyou 11 лет назад
love this woman
@niralitanna
@niralitanna 7 лет назад
Loved her every word
@craigjeffries
@craigjeffries 7 лет назад
This is my favorite of her TED Talks.
@darksideofthenation
@darksideofthenation 9 лет назад
Thank you, I am grateful for this wonderful talk.
@laurieelliott3791
@laurieelliott3791 3 года назад
I will be intrigued to listen to all of your speaking 💗🎧
@gbessone
@gbessone 13 лет назад
Excellent. I felt very identified with many things she said.
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