The Price Of Winning & Why Its Worth It 

"If you are away from your family, you should spend that time winning" AMEN

Kobe Bryan once said *the one mistake we make in life is believing we have time*

I almost cried as soon as I heard this. I work close to 90 hours a week from 5pm to 5am Everyday. I miss my sons but I grew up poor and want to give them everything I never had

"If you away from your family, you better win" 💯

As a dad who struggles with this, it hits home. I honestly think of this daily.

"If I eat less, would you stay home more?" Wow. I'm not usually emotional, BUT . . . . . . . you got me that time! Pass me a napkin!

"If you're away from your kids, you better make it count." Wow

powerful words... Had same situation with my eldest who was 5 at the time... Son: "Why are you working all the time dad, how comes you cant play with me" Me: "I have to work son I'm sorry. I work all the time so I can provide for our family, so I can buy you guys things, so we can live in this house safely, so we can have food on our table and in our fridge, so we have running water, electric and heating. I'm sorry but in this world we have to work hard so that we can have a comfortable life and not struggle" My son shows acknowledgement of what I said and walks of as I turn around and get back to work Moments later he comes back... with his little money box... and says "Here dad, now you don't have to work" I nearly broke down in tears when he did that. I was absolutely blown away.

The kids don’t understand high performance intellectually, but they can sense and feel that you are doing the right thing. Just like they can sense or feel when you are away for the bars and other selfish pursuits.

Man this hit hard and I definitely cried. I bust my ass relentlessly to provide for my family and win in life. To set that example for my kids and I've had these exact moments where my 5year old ask questions like this that crush me inside and tear my heart out. At times I feel I'm the only one around that makes these sacrifices. This was so encouraging to me. Definitely the best video you have ever done. ( In my opinion ) . I relate hard core.

In one word: Purpose. If you're making sacrifice make sure you are doing something you love, or for someone you love.

And yet at the end of the day no one has ever regretted spending more time with their kids. My Dad is a very hard worker and I always admired that but what I admired the most was that he’s turned down massive opportunities to be with us more because he said the life he already has with us was more valuable than any one that more money could buy him and I respected the heck out of him for it. Such a great topic to ponder. Thank you for being so open with it and starting the discussion!

I didn’t see eye to eye with my Dad growing up, I was blessed with the opportunity to care for him during his end of days and got to understand what a great father and friend he always was. To all the men out there …. Be Great !!!!!

Being an entrepreneur, I needed to hear this. Many times I feel guilty because I am missing the time with my children. But then I push even harder to harness my goals. "SPENDING MY TIME AWAY WISELY."

You keep getting better and better. Your influence and words are greatness.

This is very profound narrative - guilt of success is a unique and tough thing to handle. This has helped me change my perspective a lot Pat, thanks

As a single father that works full time, this message really hits a soft spot for me. There is always a certain amount of guilt I feel for not being able to spend more time with my son, which is magnified to some degree because of the added guilt of having to make up for his mother not being present. Its all a delicate balance of being an example of work ethic and day to day parenting. Showing your children that a father goes to work every day to provide for the family but also is around enough to answer all of the "but why?" and "how?" as well as build some legos from time to time. Thanks for the message!

I'm not a dad yet, but I believe this message was meant for me. Especially the part where you say that you need to put your vision first. I'm in a place right now where I'm at a crossroads, thinking about whether I should stay where I am and please those around me or leave and chase my dreams. And so hearing this, I believe I have my answer.

As a father I don’t mind working 7 days a week if I have too. The most important for me is to know that my kids have what they need and don’t go trough the same situations that I went to.

The quote about making that time away count hits home for me. Thank you

Thanks for sharing Patrick, this reminds me that a good parent should be busy building a future and setting an example no matter how difficult it can be. My 8 year old son also always wants to do things with me, but is very understanding when I'm too busy. Life is very beautiful in some moments, especially when the children are around and you experience the most beautiful moments. Also the beautiful moments when you have conversations with your parents. You must cherish these because one day you will only have those memories. Very valuable to bring this up again. Thank you. Pieter (Belgium)

Insightful and thought provoking as usual, brother. Thanks for sharing. Btw, it would be great if you could crank up the volume when editing your videos, I've noticed as of lately that they are way quieter than they used to be - way below the average volume for RU-vid content.

The problem is with alot of parents who do this when their kids grow up they’re the ones asking for time but by then the kid has no time for you. Factor that in when doing your risk analysis.

This hit my timeline, right on time! Thanks for this message Patrick, I needed to hear it this!

I really needed this today. I went from being a stay at home mother to working full time, pursuing my degree and I find myself feeling guilty constantly. I feel better about my decisions and it's good to see this perspective.

You are a great man, thank you so much for sharing these stories.

I was in the Army and deployed to Jordan. My daughter was 3 and when I talked to her, she said daddy when are you coming home? It was hard but I knew at that point I wasn't going to stay in the Army any longer.

I appreciate this video, this is a topic that's rarely covered in the culture of working hard to accomplish big goals. My dad and I just reconnected after over a year of a falling out. Sometimes we don't understand why people do certain things until we go through an experience that helps us understand. I'm glad to say me and my dad are speaking again and I was able to better understand his point of view. I wouldn't be the man I am today without his influence, work ethic & love.

I got his book after watching your first interview, and I know I will be getting his new one as well. Thanks Pat and the VT team for providing these great people a platform to be shared.

I’m glad you posted this, never looked at it from this perspective before!!

Pat, every video you post packs such a powerful punch, and this one especially hits home for many families. You are a wise person.

The information & lessons from this video are so bloody valuable that it's amazing. Layered lessons in different aspects of life. One of the most important messages of this video is how God damn important being a good man & loving father is to the success of your family & future generations. ❤️

Thank you Pat I needed to hear this. I needed you to go deeper into this topic.

This was really exceptional thing I wanted to know... Thanks man🙏🏻

I always love your content brother!!! You always have to pay a price no matter if your winning or losing!

Dope, profound, motivational, inspirational, insightful content. This is the stuff/voice that gives me hope and helps me process thank you.

Such a Courageous Discussion. Inspirational.

I couldn’t do that to my sons. My dad was always away when I was kid up till my teenage years.. now I’m a father I know I can get a better job elsewhere and make more money but I’m scared of leaving my sons behind not seeing them daily

You helped me a lot through life. And you're a Good person Patrick!

Always enjoy listening to Pat. Sets my day off right

Being childfree or having children only after being established has many advantages.

With the father out it also is important to have a great mother at home. Not all families have this luxury

Ur words hit directly into mind... Always a storm of thinking and emotions in my brain after watching your video sir.

*🌹I’m 50 years old living in Canada Albert, I’m willing retired at 55 if things keep going the way I planned bought my first house last month and i can’t be more proud that I’m now I’m glad I made a very good productive decisions that has changed my financial status for forever*

I struggle with this daily, thank you for sharing this experience. I hope it turns out right for my family. Thank you!

I’m sitting here balling.. this hits home. Thanks for this

The Joy Of Victory is EVERYTHING!!! Thank you Thank you Thank you Universe!!! I love the Tie by the way

Dad's are so important and they play a big role in our lives. Tbh I'm so blessed to have a great father figure who work so hard and show me what a man should be. One of the most under-rated yet important role of a dad is to show up no matter what and they do it. Cheers to all of the great dads 🐐❤️

Damn the first 2 and a half minutes of this video almost mad me shed a tear! Great content Pat, keep it up!

I also think that those little spare/free time should be spent wisely. Very great video

I spend lots of years away from my child but it has always been at the back of my mind to make sure i win for sure he will then have a reason to understand me

True!!! Thought I was the only one going through this. Left my family 13 years ago to provide and win for them. Almost there

I appreciate you sharing the honest real life golden conversations ❤️

As a parent sometimes we need something to shake us! Great stuff!

I definitely needed to hear this, thanks Pat ! I feel so guilty going back for my masters and leave my son every week….and I always doubt myself if it’s right what I am doing, but then I kind of remember how proud I was as a child saying that my mum has masters and she is successful….it made me happy as a kid, and I hope our son will feel the same about his dad and I Rawan

I found this video at the right time in my life except a ask the question before my son the point of life is to live it and support those you are responsible for

Thanks Pat for sharing. I used to work 7 days a week 98-04 to have what I wanted, provide for my family, buy a home and live life. The site shutdown, got two other trades for the next 4 years or so. Then started to build a career 10-16, and spent up to 5 nights away a week for that time. Guilt Then had a go at setting up a business 16-17 for work balance and no longer work for others. It didn’t work out, the unemployment between contracts got longer, meaning having to face the man in the mirror more. More guilt Mental breakdown of so much stuff avoided whilst I kept getting back up trying to be the example for my kids. Others close to me die, and have struggled to get back up for the last 4 years. Now looking at starting out again after losing it all, with once again helping others through myself, instead of supporting others in their mission. Now mine can align with theirs as a separate entity. That’s where I am at. Virtual hug. Thanks for leading the way and giving back.

Exactly, live your purpose... best example for our children. Not just to pay bills

One of my best picks! Thank you Pat!🤙🏽💯💯💯💯

Thanks for these impactful words of choice right about this present moment of wisdom.

winning isn't wrong or selfish, it depends on your actions and words that'll dictate if your a good winner or a bad winner.

The key to success is to focus on goals, not obstacles. 💪

The right message at the right time. Thank you PBD.

I love your perspective on this topic. I appreciate that you took the time to be introspective and to be intrinsic enough to analyze this social conundrum. Very valuable. Thank you.

I chose to open my house and Foster 30 children. I adopted 4 and I have 2 biological. A friend of mine in Alaska has foster over 100 children. There is zero regrets for the sacrifice commitment and daily grind that is not considered as glamorous, as a point made in this video. Of which I am in no way trying to minimize. We all have choices to make. The important thing is to have clarity about the choices one isn’t or is making. Thanks PBD for sharing your insights.

I’m a strong believer in this..there’s times I question myself..but I always remind myself why I’m doing it...I’m a believer that it’s not the time you spend at home or with your kids the makes the difference it’s..it’s the quality of time that makes the difference...I talk about this with my kids all the time I share my goals and dreams with them ..I tell them I don’t believe in excuses or that things are impossible as long as there is a will..I spend a lot of time away but the little time I’m home I make sure they count!!!🚛💨

Great message Pat. Really grateful for what you do

Everyone has their own path but its good to be in moderation and accompany your family at times

In entrepreneurship, this is such a touchy subject on balancing working vs spending time with the family but the conclusion that you left off with was very good. Great video!

I just came across a paper my wife wrote of my then 6 year old daughters quotes. One was “I wish everyday was Saturday so mom and dad can spend all day with me.” God I would have loved nothing more! I was working 7 days a week 12 to 15 hours a day to make ends meet. My daughter learned how to walk when I was working in camp. We have a nice home, my daughter has been all over the world on vacations, we’ve given her the best life we could but if I could do it all over again I’d spend every minute with that precious child because they really do grow up so fast and then they’re gone. My daughter is still here but I’ll never see that beautiful 6 year old child again.

Thanks, PBD. I needed to hear this. Make it count 🙏🏼🎉💯

Such a powerful video Pat. One of the most emotional ones you ever made.

I am so blessed to have a great paying job that only requires 4 days a week and an amazing wife that stays with the kids. I have Friday-Sunday off and I spend 90% of that time with my 4 beautiful daughters.

I needed this message, thank you!!

This is exactly what I experience and how I feel as I pursue success with a wife and 3 kids who also want my time and attention. Thanks for your content Pat 👍🏾👍🏾

You are an amazingly insightful human, Patrick. I take something from every video I watch.

This man is smart , I love how he looks at life he is my inspiration

Powerful message Pat!

Great video, Pat. Thank you for sharing your insight and perspective.

Thank you Sir! It helps to know that what I'm doing is worthy and that it will be an example for my children👍👏🙏 God bless you!

Hard is different from impossible, hard doesn't mean impossible💪

Today is my father's birthday, but he is no more. Your video makes sense ❤️

Thank you for sharing that beautiful story I am very emotional listening to it. There is no reward without sacrifice

Thank you for reminding me this Pat. Bless you more..

My daughter said something similar “Dad I want you to get fired because you don’t spend enough time to with me, your always busy” so, I can relate 1000%.

6:11 if you didn't feel the what he felt in this very moment you won't understand this is an amazing story , I can relate to this because I started my own business and alot of my time is consumed trying to make my business be consistent with income , I'm often drained and still.push myself beyond the tiredness to do what I have to do to provide and meet deadlines and beyond , I often ask myself that question the personal time with my kid or family vs personal sacrifice to attain something from nothing its a very strong topic nonetheless I do still push despite the pressures at time even being guilt tripped about not spending as much time with my kid I hope she gets to understand it one day as you did with your father, and I kid you not this bring tears to my eyes cause I do relate to it 9na significant level

YOU DONT HAVE A CLUE WHAT RHIS VIDEO DID FOR ! YOU ARE THE MAN ! IT WAS EXACTLY WHAT I NEED IT ! GOD BLESS 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

The information & lessons from this video are so bloody valuable that it's amazing. Layered lessons in different aspects of life. One of the most important messages of this video is how God damn important being a good man & loving father is to the success of your family & future generations. ️

It’s going to be hard, but hard does not mean impossible.💪

It means the father doesn’t start thinking like the child. The child is too young to understand how important finances and business are. The child won’t actually want to be eating less. Nothing dramatic or emotional needed, maybe just a new career to stay home more. Priorities.

I loved what you said, reminded me of my dad in Iran. God bless you.

PBD appreciate this content more than ever

This hit home hard. Thanks Pat!

I can tell this hit home for you pat bc your eyes got watery when you told the story about the little girl.

Thank you! I needed to hear this

Thank you for the advice ❤️

This "sacrifice to provide" concept only makes sense up to a point. Once you've made enough to keep your family fed, clothed, and comfortable, it is very likely more useful to them to have their father around more than to have more money.

Man, this makes me aware of how blessed I am to own and operate a business (adult foster home) where I can bring my kids to work with me, so when I’m not with them, they can see me winning 😃

Love your videos man.. loved, shared, liked and had already subscribed… so glad

Great video PBD, thank you!