I'm the same way. 5 months out and I still can't even think of a relationship. I don't understand how she was able to jump right into another serious relationship. Makes no sense.
I don't get HOW my ex was able to jump into another relationship within a month after we had a 4 yr relationship. She has been with him now for almost 5 months. Has reached out to me 2 times in 5 months and last time told me she missed me but told me she was happy lol.... So why are wasting your time calling me and telling me you are happy and content but telling me you miss me and said you were sad talking to me. Im almost 5 months out and went on a date and have zero desire to connect with anyone romantically. I don't understand how she did it and just posting pics with his family and all like they have been together for years.
I hear you and first of all, if you have zero desire to connect with anyone romantically, I would highly recommend taking as much time as you need to heal yourself until you know you are ready for a new relationship. I say that because that's what I had to do, too. As to your ex, sometimes when someone is SO hurt by a breakup, they jump into another relationship to try to heal the wound. It's like a putting a band-aid on a broken bone. She is reaching out to you because she really does miss you. Doesn't sound to me like she is happy or content at all. Maybe she is just afraid of being alone and he fills a void for her. Don't get too wrapped up in social media pics. (A) Everyone puts their best foot forward on social media, regardless of their truth. We all know that. And (B) she may be posting just to make you jealous.
@@pickingupthepieces_breakups well the social media pic was posted by another family member of her boyfriend. She doesn't have social media. It was an Easter family pic. But anyway, that phone call was all over the map. First she started out saying that things were moving quickly with them I guess to insinuate that they were going to get engaged?? Which is insane because she has only dated this guy for 4 months at that time. And she travels during the week so they only get to see each other on weekends! So 4 months of weekends. Lol.... So a month into her relationship I noticed on her Pinterest page she had pinned engagement ring, wedding and baby stuff on her page,! Only a month into her relationship! To give you an idea of how bad this guy is and how many red flags....he is 32 and has never moved out of his parents home, has had a very up and down life, drug issues and alcohol in the past, hasn't had a serious relationship since high school, known womanizer who lost track of how many sexual partners he has had, only has high school diploma and low paying job. I on the other hand am educated, master degree, make 6 figs, own my own home, 2 paid off cars. So I definitely have my life together more than this guy. She had been family friends with this guy for many years but they had never dated because he was always a mess of a person. She breaks up with me and goes out on a date with him in the same week! 2 weeks into their dating she is at my house telling me she loves me and misses me and wants to think About getting back together. That was the last I saw of her. She reached out 2 more times via phone and it never went anywhere. Just her almost sounding like she was trying to convince herself she was happy. Told me like 3-4 times on the phone she was happy without me even asking her lol. I was like, great I'm glad you found happiness. But like I said in the same phone call telling me she was sad talking to me and that she did miss me. Haven't heard from her since. Been over a month. I'm trying to heal and it seems like it is taking me forever. I met a really nice girl, beautiful, smart and good personality and I just can't connect. I'm completely emotionally unavailable and it pisses me off because any other time I'd love to talk to this girl. I'm still in love with my ex and Miss her deeply. Almost 5 months and I'm still feeling this way. Very frustrating. I do feel better than I did but I'm no where near a relationship. I can't force that feeling and I'm not sure how she did.
When people first made that suggestion to me, it sounded ridiculous, impossible, frustrating, and unnecessary. Then I did it and realize that it was very necessary and very healing. ❤🩹
To bad for her she has only this life cycle to volunteer her accountability ( almost all of her majority male friends group unknowingly shared their experiences to this Ultra Sensing INFJ-T when both of us were present Extraverted Feeling (Fe) Extroverted Sensing (Se) is the best way to verify everything that goes unsaid and hidden from others. Stoneface like a master. I feel other's emotions in real time so any abrupt changes in them will definitely create a marker for the words your about to say. Oh and yes I will let you dig a hole very deep. Then I will grab the ladder and disappear from your eternal journey hope you are greatly entertained by what you attract in your future because "You only hurt yourself" is a major % of Universal Law : Attraction = It must exist within before it can ever exist externally. No? Mmm
@@pickingupthepieces_breakups Your Imagination is your Identity... What you focus on happens... Reality is what you Create... Through Faith anything is possible...
