The PROS vs CONS of Marriage 

At work, most of the men who are married tell me not to get married.

Some men don't want to get married because they see it as a financial trap.

A divorce can destroy your life emotionally and economically.

Marriage is like water: it can be life-giving, like hydration or life-taking, like drowning.

Married men don't actually live longer. It only SEEMS longer.

Marriage is profitable to wedding planners and divorce lawyers

"Married men may live longer, but they are a lot more willing to die" I saw this spray painted on a van downtown 10 years ago and i still think of it often.

Marriage is just one of many things in our life that we just follow for no reason and without question. Start questioning

After a few years, if you divorce, your closest person becomes you worst enemy and knows the best ways to destroy you. Then they take your family and everything that you own.

Your con list wasn't even close to how long it is in reality.

Was supposed to get married last June, but called off the wedding a month before. Hands down the best decision I’ve ever made.

When I was young, my wealthy grandpa was dying in his bed, had all the family members gathered by his bed. His last word to me was "Never get married.. all you need to do is hire couple nurses when you are old.." that line stuck in my head since I was young and I've been only dating since

So a 50% chance to Lose more than half of what I own? No thanks

I’m gonna tell you what happened to a friend of mine. He dated a girl for 5 years and She moved in with him. He bought her dream home when they got engaged. It was a really expensive and nice home. So a year later after they planned a huge marriage. It was an expensive wedding. They had everything in order. He loved this girl to death and would die for her. So a week before the wedding, she comes up to him and says she’s leaving him and that she’d been cheating on him the whole time, and that she’s found another man, and leaves him there. He lost thousands of dollars from that wedding. He eventually lost the dream home. He lives in a small apartment now, has bad suicidal depression, and hasn’t had a gf since her because he doesn’t trust women other than a couple friends. The man is most likely gonna die alone :(

I'm a millennial. I got married in my early 30's. My 2 year anniversary was yesterday. Happily married, with a kid on the way, to a woman I've known for over 10 years. We're very practical and we try not to do things in a 'traditional' manner. My wedding cost under $5k including rings. We rather buy a house and stay out of debt. We're best friends. Life could not be better!

I would love to see a pro marriage comment. This comment section is brutal lol FYI , not married. But love to hear both sides to every disagreement

I will tell you right now that marriage is one of the most wonderful bonds in life. I’ve personally been married 7 times

If an airplane had a 50/50 of crashing, would you get on it?

I love being single. I get to do what i want. No dealing with anyone's ego.

Love is blind but marriage is an EYE OPENER!!!!

"Fewer and fewer men are getting married these days". In other words-- "More and more men are wising the hell up these days"

What about alimony, child support, and losing custody of the kids?

Why can't you live with your loved one without getting married

I learned young, that marriage was simply asking to completely ruin your life. Even as a child, I knew of not a single solitary example of a marriage which was not a veritable nightmare. I commissioned myself to remain unmarried. Thank You God. I can surely see I made no mistake. Why would a person get married in the first place, I could never understand that; marriage belongs only in storybooks. I certainly never regretted it. Now, had I done otherwise, I'm sure this comment would read VERY differently.

Wait. Unless I missed something none of the "pros" would benefit men.

If I gave you a parachute and told you there was 50% chance it would not work, would you still jump? Marriage is a 50/50 chance.

I've been married for 3 years now, been together for 6. Definitely greatest decision we have made. She lifts me up when im down, keeps me level headed. She makes hard decisions easy for me. We travel, explore, started businesses, HAVE 5 CHILDREN. It's saddening to see how many people are so negative about marriage. Find the right person for YOU. Not your situation. It did not take long after us being together that I knew we would be together forever. Theres always ups and downs but with proper communication and patience and genuine love there should be nothing that cannot be overcome. BTW we are millennials. 28 years young

If a woman tells you she wants to get married because you make her "happy" that's a red flag. Why? Happiness is a mindset, which means that as she ages (nothing to do with maturity BTW) her idea of happiness will change as it will for the man, however the man DID NOT get married for "Happiness", he got married for the vagina and companionship. How can happiness for her change? Let's look at her default languages. Her first love language - money. Either you do not make enough to excite her anymore OR you make too much which requires you to be away from her more. Her second love language - attention. They love to be desired and to turn heads, its why they cover their faces with powder and toxic chemicals to appeal to both sexes (not just men), some argue they wear toxic chemicals to appeal to the same sex more often than the opposite sex. Either you make her feel sexy 24/7 or you don't look at her "the same" anymore. Her third love language - Adaptation. The female species believe that as a man you should adapt to her changes in life BUT DO NOT expect her to adapt to yours. Of course they will say they would or "I'm not like that" but statistically they're lying. Who do I personally blame? I blame their grandmothers and mothers OR lack thereof. As little girls they were not taught the role of a woman in a family & to some extent in society. So as they grew into their manipulative bodies & vain mindsets they created their own ideology of what it means to be a woman which sadly in current times repulse men (at-least the ones with standards) and will begin a life where they become damaged. Their outcome is limited 1. Single Mom = bouncing around men hoping one commits to raising the DNA of another man 2. Lesbian - deciding to scissor their significant other for as long as that lasts 3. Alone - where they become bitter and grow a dislike in men due to their inability to identify the problems within themselves. As men we have to set standards high and also develop ourselves (physically, spiritually, financially) first in order to retain respect from the female species. Girls will stop going to clubs for whoring hour if men would stop going there for whoring as well. Girls will stop makeup and surgery if men admit how dumb or ugly it actually looks and our desire for natural beauty Girls will stop divorcing you if you lay down your intent in marriage and for crying out loud STOP GETTING A MARRIAGE LICENSE! You DO NOT NEED A MARRIAGE LICENSE, do you own research about that, this way the state is not allowed in your affairs and due to NO CHILD SUPPORT given she may even try to work out the marriage since there is no monetary incentive to ruin her children lives by removing both parents from under the same roof. In closing one thing both sexes need to realize and some will through painful experiences, YOU CAN NOT FIX A BROKEN PERSON! Broken people BREAK normal people. Do everything in your power to find out if the person is broken or damaged before you invest your time, love and energy into that individual otherwise they will hurt you in the long run.

PROS - 0 CONS - Unlimited

Marriage isn't really the problem. Its just that over time people sorta hate each other. And today no one cares enough about anyone to work thru it. No one is a princess and their are no prince charming. Just depressed individuals who want out.

If my sister ever get married I am going to feel bad for my sister's husband

Marriage is like betting someone half of your stuff that they could love you forever

Also, I would like to add to the suggestions at the end to not listen to your f*&%ing parents. Whether they pressure you to get married, or if you decide to get married and they pressure you to have a big expensive wedding, don't listen to them. Do your own thing, especially if you're paying for it.

I like how my friends got married. They got married in a local park, dressed in clothes they already owned, asked the guests (only friends and local family) to bring the food, and the person who asked them their vows was my friend's aunt. In the end the only money they had to put up was for the marriage license and any paperwork.

Society's pressure to get married looms in your 30's like you're a freak if you're not when I just genuinely want to be financially stable, happy, and as stress free as I can tbh

I have friends who are married and it seem like a prison camp. 🤣

The person that created marriage is crazy, they be like *"I'm so in love with you that I'm gonna get the government involved so you couldn't leave me"* .

the fact that you don't mention the skewed divorce courts against men as one of the main reason men avoid marriage shows you did little research.

I would definitely get married under one condition: we split or share whatever we made together, but we both leave with whatever we came with.

Just got married 5 months ago. Our conversation last night made me rethink every decision that I have made.

I'm gonna explain in 2 WORDS why women still want to get married : Walt, Disney.

I wanted to married when i was 21 but my gf (same age) said we are young and we must live our lives before we made this big step! Now at 34 i dont even want to hear about kids and marriage.

Marriage is not good. I know 4 or 5 couples whom are married that are not happy. Its scary some of the stuff they tell me. I say dont do it.

Dont get leashed. Enjoy your freedom. You will regret it.

I hate the Concept of alimony.

Without even watching the video...dont do it, don't do it and don't do it!

Lets be honest Marriage is only beneficial to women, with the occasional exception. Why do men avoid marriage?? For the same reason men in jail avoid picking up the soap..

Marriage or Divorce, either ways its like a Death Penalty for Men anyway. You can ask any married or divorced Man for confirmation!😂😂😂

I’m a married woman and strangely enough I believe that men have little incentive to get married. My husband has been divorced a few times before and it’s given me insight into the inequality and sexist nature of divorce court. I agreed to sign a prenup so that in the (God forbid) event of a divorce, I wouldn’t take his pension that his ex tried to take. I feel for divorcing men who genuinely are good fathers and and husbands but their wives were too unwilling to work harder at the marriage knowing full well that divorce favors them. Why should a divorced woman be entitled to anything? If I quit my job, I am not entitled to the same lifestyle that I had while employed. It’s my responsibility to make my life better, not depend on an ex anything.

Q: How are women and a hurricane alike? A: When they arrive they're both wet and wild, when they leave, they take your house and your car and everything else.

The women can marry themselves now, start a family, and protect each other...since they don't need no man.

Marriage isn’t that bad.. been married 5 years & i only think about killing my self every other month .

Divorce is a great way for your ex wife to take HALF of what you own. so fuck it, why should anyone give up half of his shit

Married men does not live longer it just feel longer

Now I understand why people in Asia get married to virtual characters, they remain young and cute for ever and they don’t take your stuff, win/win

More and more people realise, it is not worth it to trade your freedom with marriage

Thinking that marriage is an obligation is the first mistake. Thinking that having kids is an obligation is the second.

Ok so basically you don’t get one piece of paper you get another!?!? And even if you don’t get married you may still have to go through legal proceedings to separate shared property, animals, and/or children. Weddings wouldn’t stress people out if they would just enjoy getting married instead of trying to impress people who are probably rooting for your failure.

I got divorced 5 or 6 years ago and went celibate, and I’m living my best life ever!!!! I smile before bed and upon waking up!!! 👍🏽🥰

There are no advantages for a man to get married just life ruining risks that all rely on her feelings, marriage is the worst contract you can get avoid it.

It's no secret that divorce laws in the US favor women. Oh wait, it must be, because here's a video about why men aren't getting married that goes for over ten minutes without mentioning alimony or visitation rights.

Those who create debt for a marriage ceremony are just foolish. I get that they want to have a "happy celebration" but they should be able to afford it foremost. Plus, a big wedding cake, a white dress and black tux, and countless guests are not what makes a marriage ceremony "happy." Far from it; from what I've seen it creates more stress than happiness. But hey, you do you booboo.

I'm married for 13 years and I wish i wasn't! And i approve this message!!! Just don't get married for Gods sakes!!!

guys. remember when u were so happy and free when u finally moved out of home? having a wife is like getting a mom back again

I met my dear wife when I was 18 we married when I was 21 she was 23. The first two years were so hard we fought all the time but something crazy happend we became a family. The problem with this society in general is we don't work at marriage we throw them away, people cheat on spouses or flirt with some one else, they feel it's OK to do things like look at pornography which destroys marriages by giving people unrealistic expectations and causing a perversion that A. Makes them view the opposite sex as sex objects and B. Causes them to look else where other then there spouse. Marriage is awsome when it works, when it works you wake up with your best friend, team mate and all the other greatness that comes with it. People view marriage these days as just a legal document that ties two people together but in reality it takes two people who likely didn't even know each other growing up and makes them a family. I hope society doesn't give up on marriage. Good marriages, lead to good families and better society's. Also remember, the meaning of life is love, love is true happiness. We can not make our selves happy we become happy by showing true love to others in return they love us and this makes us happy. Me and my beautiful wife have been together for 13 years total and I have no doubt we will be together untill the sad day one of us dies. I would give up all I have including my life for her and my daughter as well and I know she would do the same.

I have been single for most of my life. I have no interest in geting marryed or having kids. I like my freedom to much.

There's an interesting thread on Plozee about this. A couple of reasons why ppl are choosing not to get married: - independence. You aren't tied down to anyone. - money. You get divorced and watch your wallet get lighter. Lawyers are expensive. - tradition. Do we even question why we do things anymore? Who cares if people have done it in the past. We need to ask ourselves if marriage is still suitable for the 21st century

All I see, the wedding bands and rings are shackles around your hands and feet!

My parents pressure me and my sisters to NOT get married. They have been happily married for 43 years but they tell us there is nothing wrong with living with someone you love and building a live together without the legally binding documents.

It's funny how in your pros you miss one of the most important reasons to get married. Look at the stats on the difference between kids raised in a two parent household vs. kids raised by single parents.

I just cancelled an engagement and fully planned wedding that was supposed to happen in 3 months. Glad I came to my senses. I think marriage at this point in society is less about love and romance and more about money and government benefits. You can still have a long term committed relationship without marriage and the risks of what comes with divorce.

Thank you for the unbiased research you have done 👏🏿👏🏿

There's this thing that I saw once (probably isn't true for everyone) that the more you spend on your wedding the more likely you are to get divorced with the person you married

You missed a huge con for men. You touch on women being more independent and earning more, but don't mention that they are still the ones that make out like bandits in a divorce. Why would men want to risk their finances for an arrangement that has very few pros? Fix the divorce courts and you've done step one for fixing marriage. People who decide to leave a marriage shouldn't be entitled to lifelong monetary payments, go get a damn job.

Animation is dope and appealing. Helps with the explanation as well. Good job!

I think marriage can be a beautiful thing. As long as it is about loving each other unconditionally. No control. No expectations. Just best friends without an agenda. ♥️

I was married 2x 7 years the first time in the 90s cost me $300,000 plus all the depression and financial problems that came with it, the 2nd time in the 2000s again for 3 years cost me $300,000 never recuperated from the financial problems, it cost the women nothing they had nothing when we were married. and then after the divorce they were financially independent, what a deal for the women. Marriage is not a good thing today the government and the law makes it very difficult. what do we have to live for if the great thing that we can have in this life ( a family) is destroyed by the laws made by incompetent leaders..

I don’t see any benefits for man not one

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I am never going to get married, Only to have a woman take half or more of what I worked so hard to get!!!

I cant wait to not get married.

married people dont look happy to me if anything they look stressed

Me and a buddy of mine are thinking about getting a place together. We've known each other since middle school and have been good friends for 11 years now (longer than what most marriages last these days). No we're not gay, but there is probably not a thing I don't know about him and vice versa; that's how strong our bond is. Both of us have been down on our luck when it comes to women. Though I've never been in a toxic relationship myself, my buddy has had his fair share of heartbreaks. One girl he dated hurt him so bad he tried killing himself. It's nice knowing that we can rely on each other. If one of us had a rough day at work, then he or I can take comfort in knowing that we're coming home to a cold beer, video games, and a good friend. You don't need a woman for emotional support when you have friends and family.

A friend of mine was engaged for 15 year's but divorced after 3 year's...

Put simply, if you're a man, it's all Cons, if you're a woman it's all Pros.

Do you have reliable sources regarding the 1st half of the video talking about the history of marriage ?! The Sources you listed are mostly opinion articles not facts.

I'm a man and I'm afraid my free life after marriage will disappear. Now my parents want me to get married. I wonder if life after marriage is as stressful as I thought it would be!

I have found that marriages seem to end at about 13 years. Either in the form of divorce or where the couple stays together but aren't really together. Marriage is good if both people desire it greatly and are willing to sacrifice and work...I mean WORK together always. Keep respect there too.

*It's all about true love.* In Disney

IMO, for men, if you are not married by age 30 the cons greatly outweigh the pros. I'd rather have my freedom and money.

Ive never actually met a married man who told me he was glad he got married. Most in fact told me that I should avoid it. I tell younger guys the same thing.

The modern idea for a marriage and why lots of people want to get married is because it's essentially a contract to make it hard to just walk away providing stability and making it so you have to be open and work through things avoiding the hardships of a divorce is a good incentive to work things out together, not that you need that structure necessarily as plenty of couples do this without being married but some people need the structure and some like me just love the idea of have a special day with someone you love and having it as official as it could be between you both, plus the structure helps relieve anxiety about not knowing exactly how my partner feels about our relationship because no matter how much she says stuff to me that's reassuring nothing will beat a legally bound contract to relieve anxieties

The greatest con ever pulled was this idea that being "commitment phobic" is somehow a negative thing. Like, it's rational to want to handcuff yourself to another human being for the rest of your tiny miserable life. FFS.

Go mgtow. We aren’t incels. Don’t hate women. We are simply not playing the game anymore. That’s the only winning move

So 50% chance you can loose everything. So why get married only to have a woman take everything, I seen men get destroy after a divorce so why risk it?

Going through a divorce let me tell you lawyers are some vultures.

Did anyone else notice that there is an increase of women who want to be married, but also a decrease in women who want to be home makers? And at the same time, a decrease in men who want to be married? Coincidence?? I think not!!

Look, here's the point. You don't get married because of money or because you want someone to do all the job for you, you get married because of love, and that's around it. Don't want to get married? Don't, you're not living in a country where you're forced to marry. Keep on whoring around as much as you'd like, man or woman. No need to judge. You want to live together with the person that you love and not get married? Fucking go for it. You want to get married to make your relationship more 'official' and be committed to someone for the rest of your life? Dude, that's your choice. If we're talking about a marriage where everything revolves around money, why the fuck did you marry in the first place? Marriage is a choice in modern society, we're not living in a third world country where you get married to an old man at the age of ten. Stop complaining, do what you want to do, and treat people with respect.

We were married in the 70's and because we were both students 18 and 20 yrs old we had more or less a free wedding. The guests prepared their own food for the reception! Our spending money for the fortnight honeymoon in a sparse Welsh cottage was under 30 quid!!!????? As the Monty Python sketch goes "We had no money but we were happy". Together we set up a business college, built a house in the country then had 3 children. We are a perfect match and are still happy together and having fun 43 yrs later! We so appreciate our union.

Never marry when you’re young. Wait until you’re ABSOLUTELY ready. Not everyone is ready to commit to a life long partnership