For me Revenge is a constant relief. I feel good and after the fact I no longer care about whatever happens and often forget it even happened. Unless I didn't get revenge then I will constantly hate and hate unless I do something to hurt them. Then I'll be fine.
I wanted to know why revenge even exists at all as a part of the human phycology. It doesn't look useful from an evolutionary point of view. Do you have a short answer?
@@gulagbatman1318 From my point of view it is an advantage. See despite people believing revenge is bad for you, which I suppose it can be at times. That doesn't mean it is a bad thing in general. For example revenge and justice are tied together to a degree. Revenge can motivate even then most fragile of hearts, Into defending others, or attacking hostile things, or people. Which also helps in making humans as persistent as they are now. I could go in depth but I just woke up, so---
@@gauharkhan6004you should just move on revenge takes precious time and recourses which you can't get back is something as irreversible as time worth that pleasure?
I am the same. For me, towards people I have to take revenge to feel better and then I can slowly move on. If I don’t take revenge I can’t move on because I will keep thinking about the injustice
This video isn't what I experienced. After Revenge, and I mean a real revenge. I felt incredibly good, even years later I felt good about it. I felt great knowing I had the last laugh and that I one upped them and they have no idea it was me.
It's not just you, it's how humans operate, as long as you follow the golden rule and are not the initiator of violence (no matter what form or how minute), vengeance should be yours and is completely understandable.
I totally hear you! If the person is still breathing only cause you're allowing them to and have tarnished their repuation beyond repair that is a good long term feeling
Nothing wrong with getting revenge sometimes. Some people need to be punished. Like criminals rapist child abuser's and people who are just disrespectful for no reason what's so ever.
@@matt-tp1ww and Decide who deserves to Live? Who are you, God? Remember that nobody has ever done something to deserve to Live. You just Live, thats all
you CAN still give justice to correct a person without exactly enacting the self harm of revenge........doing so means you must understand what EXACTLY will shape a person into the mould you are trying to project them into If moms can teach kids how to act via a time out or punishment.....it IS possible to do the same with a criminal. You don't need to use revenge to give out justice. Justice can lack hate, its easy honestly.
I was bullied relentlessly since Elementary and throughout Junior and Senior High school. Ever since we graduated, I still feel the pain I have endured from my bullies and holding a grudge against them
It still isn't intelligent because your going out your way spending precious time/resources instead of just moving on revenge is a pleasure and a high risk low return pleasure
@@Vincent-li8rx no. I decided against it in the end. It came to me all at one that I should not interfere with anything that another human being has brought upon themselves. Who am I to declare their just deserts? God knows the pain they have caused me and I now understand that if it matters to me that much, then God shall allow me the small pleasure of witnessing their self-punishment as t the time it happens. Which, by the way, is far more of a punishment than I could ever have once thought appropriate!! But...the further a person is from being spiritually enlightened....the longer their karma takes to return back to them and in all honesty I may not even remember this person when the time comes that this takes place.
@@Damesanglante if that's what you want to think. But you speak as though you are talking to a person who encountered something as serious as rape and never reported it. Which is thankfully not my case.
This video makes revenge sound completely unhealthy, but doesn't account for why it is such a universal emotion, not just among humans but many social mammals. Natural selection is pretty ruthless with behaviors that only cause problems. Yeah, taking revenge can cause cycles of retaliation, but turning the other cheek can also encourage chronic abuse.
@@thundavolt I agree with you. It's really sad to see so many people always seeing only the two options when more often than not there are plenty. As you potentially implied, just ignoring what happened and moving on is the ideal way. Besides just strengthening your self control, it leaves the other person in confusion - confusion = makes people think. Simple. Now the people in the comments who claim revenge to be the optimal way of coping with their mental instability, are not only unstable but also mentally defficient.
It also doesn't apply to everyone. I have never once felt bad or even regretted hurting someone that has wronged me. I feel good, and afterwards I no longer care and forget. Hell sometimes I remember and feel that feeling of victory over them.
@@philipsvensson9368 Yeah, sorry but that's to entirely true. For example you don't always have to feel sad to want revenge. There's been occasions where people, and I from experience haven't been bothered at all by other people. Yet seek revenge when done wrong, as a sort of punishment for the other person. Sure you can say there are other, and better ways, but not everyone thinks those ways are effective enough for them. Like for victims who lost family to killers. Sure they go to hail but I could never be satisfied with that, I'd rather kill them myself and risk jail time. Cause I'll be going to jail stratified.
People who done harm they made choice and so they did it ....so it is nothin wrong with revenge and seeking retribution and it doesn’t make you bad person at all.
eye for an eye, soul for a soul if you feel extreme rage and hate release it. anyway possible breathing or a rampage Become the spirit of vengence Bring justice
Justice and vengeance is the same exact thing. I feel like positivity cults have taken over psychology as well. & the number one enemy of every single cult is always reality itself. Vengeance is one of the best things that you can ever experience in this lifetime.
Revenge is Avenge Except the thing your trying to avenge is yourself. However people will always take this the wrong way. Just because your fighting for you doesn’t make you selfish. Sometimes you have to fight for yourself. You’re not always with others
w.d Gaster If you’re fighting for someone else then you’re avenging and that’s way different from revenge. Rage and Hatred can be seen as evil, yet we cannot live without it. If you can channel your rage and use it for something and use it the best that it can be, then I view that as something noble.
I got revenge in many ways in my life. I learned that there are three kinds of revenge. The first kind is they know you did it to them. The second kind is they know something happened but they don't know who did it. And the third kind which is surprisingly my favorite is you know you got revenge but they don't even know anything happened. The moral of the story is if you treat people poorly without dignity and respect well don't be surprised if there is a reprisal.
For me revenge feels better the longer after ive obtained it. It never not feels good. Someone messed with me/pushed me and i pushed back. I stand up for myself, im not gonna let people throw me in a corner to die. Im proud to stand up for myself. I think there are some aspects to the psychology of revenge that are overlooked here.....Ya know.... I let small things go, you dont always need revenge. But sometimes you do...sometimes you have to stick up for yourself and let others know they cant push you around.
You can always be pushed around if someone is stronger than you. I'm happy that you're able to live inside a peaceful illusion where your dignity is preserved, though.
I never felt bad the revenge I got from the people who wronged. Some of this goes back 20 years and I still feel great about it. Especially the ex boss Who I caused to Leave her husband because I payed some pregnant girl to trick the ex boss into thinking she was pregnant with the husband's kid. Best revenge ever!
@@neotreo3670 Moral compass applies to both parties. Something happened to him obviously so he reacted. Once again, it's okay for them to do what ever they want to you, but if you do something to them in reaction, your the bad guy. THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE IT IN THE FIRST PLACE.
@@bystanderbutch3509 obviously it applies to both parties but just because their moral compass if fucked up doesn't mean yours can be as well, you have to have standards no matter who wronged you. They shouldn't have the power to mess up your mental. I'm not saying those people can do whatever the f they want but the person I'm talking to ain't one of those people, so can't speak on their actions and I thought it was assumed that the ex boss did something really terrible to get that
A grave injustice was committed against me today! People all stood as bystanders. Just realised one has to do it himself or herself to undo that wrong. So yes! VENGEANCE WILL BE MINE!! AND I WON'T REST UNTIL I GET IT!!
Yes Do you know honestly I’m beginning to think that can give me some comments of this video I’m wondering if we should all nuke our selves to fucking extinction.
Well, some of us cannot get massive success because they gave us a trauma that unables us to move on. Regaining our power and energy from that person is healthy and it's justice.
*Being hateful and doing revenge are different.* • Hate is blatant stupidity with lack of understanding between each other. • Revenge is burning desire to comeback and prove your right and/or their wrong. Sure there are better ways and option, but peace was not an option.
"I'm just going home to see my little girl on her birthday. And if no one gets in my way, nobody will get hurt". William Dfens Foster. The sacred texts of Falling Down.
I'm Greek and Italian, revenge is a risky business but this thing about "you feel worse after taking revenge" only applies if it is for petty bullshit. Vendetta is a more serious thing, and often it is satisfying, but only if you make sure you eliminate the possibility of future retaliation.
@@GrecoCalabrese because regardless of the reason and intent it still takes up time and recources and the only gain is emotional gain and if the reason you are doing is to make yourself feel better then I can only see 2 outcomes 1 it ends up making you feel good in the moment but not in the long run or 2 you feel good in the long run. But you messed up your moral compass. Also I haven't heard of. A case where someone was depressed, they exacted revenge on someone and felt good in the long term. But I really can't see a way something that takes up the resource of time and usually to get the good feeling you take more time (and more preparation) for a slight emotional benefit logical.
@@cosmikpowa3133 Perhaps English is not your first language, but hypocrisy usually refers to one doing something that they accuse others of doing as immoral. In the case of making sure nothing happens in retaliation as a result of taking revenge, that is more to avoid a situation of your actions causing a kind of back and forth and opportunity for retaliation, which would defeat the whole purpose of taking revenge in the first place, assuming the reason was to react to some kind of unprovoked misdeed.
'Not taking revenge' is an ideology developed by wrongdoers themselves in order to save their asses. As simple as that! Do not forget, do not forgive! 😎😎😎
The thing I've noticed is when your the wrong doer, your mistake is pointed out and your punished. When others wrong you, your supposed to let it go. The hypocrisy of society is astounding.
Helpful advice I was attacked by one of my next door neighbours two weeks ago and just sustained as few bruises from it as I covered my face and he couldn't swing a punch properly to save his life and for the last two weeks I've been thinking awful things to get pay back on him! I've been losing sleep and reacuring dreams. Watching this has given me a better understanding and the need to let it be and let karma bite him back. I've got a lot going for me and not going to let a bully defeat me. Thankyou.
@@xxhamedxx01 I slept with other guys n sexted when I was wid my 1st n 2nd bfs Felt so good I won't ever get married I am too vengeful n vendivtive to bring in laws n stats in love relationship U can get away with murders
yes, I liked this video I realised a while ago that even if I were to ever completely reduce someone down to just the experience of insane pain, I still would not feel satisfied. I'm still hurting, and someone else's pain isn't ever going to reduce the pain I feel.
It sounds like just forget it and sublimate the energy to do something productive, impractical.Revenge is the best way to quench anger, other approaches are just substitutes when you can't access this best way.
True. One Bam explosion instead if years of thinking why did they get away with it. What would have happened if? I am powerless etc. It took me so long to get over things. Now i did revenge and not even evil just a truth bomb and it is off my chest. It is not weak. It is putting it back where it belongs. And the damage well. Learn from it and become a better person. Both
What? turn the other cheek? and be successful? trust me, no amount of material reward can make you feel complete until you revenge on that Mother-fker... revenge is really sweet
I dont agree with what is said in this video, revenge is always great, It makes us feel powerful, Otherwise we feel like a looser, whom anyone can harm and walk away with that. Waiting for God to punish them sucks and does not help us move on.
I am not patience either so god get my revenge and karma to people that treat me bad so apart from screamingon this people and they instead of apologize continue saying bullshits then i just revenge
@shilpishah5954 yeah it can be great but you have to be careful at the same time on who you do it too because everyone's built different. Some people you get revenge on might have killers and assassins in their family and they might come for you and some might learn from their mistakes and some revenge can put you behind bars. So at least choose how you wanna revenge wisely.
For the past 3 years I’m planing different revenges in my head for the kids who bullied me for 7 years straight and caused me depression. Istg if I just can take revenge I’ll feel so much better, cuz I’m thinking 24/7 I’m so tired of it.
Imad Abou Tok yup specially in street fights i had this ex bf of my gf kicked my ass with his 3 friends. And psychilogicaly i want revenge coz i want to sleep better
i really dont get it about how people behave... they easily hurt others without second thought , yet when their victims fight back / getting revenge the bullies making a huuuuuge fuss about it. If dont want to feel pain , just dont be casually inflicting it...
this video is 100% wrong. Revenge makes your life better, period. Opposite of that would be not getting revenge, which results in your wounds never healing.
Revenge is the best medicine, also hurting someone's ego who betrayed u and hurt u is a drug and I am addicted but sometimes u just have to look at their lives being miserable 😂😂😂😂wow
@@Traumatised311yeah you can get revenge, but don't do it to where you can get locked up and are away from your family. And you'll stoop to their level and become just like the person you got your revenge on. So if you're gonna get revenge, at least don't get yourself locked away from your family.
Revenge is one thing but abusing one person over and over again, being obsessive, not wanting to let go of the past and moving forward with your life to be better is another, it might just be some sort of mental disorder.
Revenge is is not Justice ! don’t be emotionally a child please! Revenge can go out of hand , then you can end up doing more wrong than the wrong that was done to you in the first place.
Heck, even God (the most merciful, gracious etc) emphesized a lot about vengeance in the bible about killing thousands of people throughout the history and ordained some pretty gruesome punishments for his adversaries.
Just something to think about; sometimes people can’t reach for success because the pain of their unfulfilled desire for penance has risen to the point of becoming paralytic. Those people are going to need a different answer than the one you’ve provided here if the goal is to get through to them. Thank you for the effort though.
I've been wanting a form of revenge or justice for over a decade. Fortunately, I am a fairly patient person, however, life is ephemeral. I harbor contempt against those who have wronged me and the vile bastards that corrupt the world with evil and depraved actions.
The most amazing thing that a person can do is to find the courage and strength to forgive. That is how your soul is kept pure and innocent. It is also something very rare nowadays. Revenge gets you nowhere, actually it infects your own soul with evil. Avoid a toxic person, of course, and keep him away, but instead of hating him, you should rather feel truly sorry for him and pity him for his rotten soul and mind. There is nothing in him to be jealous of, but rather to feel sorry for him. Loving your enemies is the superior moral level and it is acheivable!
Eventually your forgiveness and patience runs out. That Christ guy was alright and if EVERYONE did what he said, revenge would never be necessary. The whole do unto others thing. Even he ran out of patience with people. When he got a little violent to the money changers in the temple, he also knew some times it takes action to get them to learn. What's this jealousy crap about? Personally I've never been jealous of someone who's a piece of crap. I believe you never commit an act against someone unless they first commit an act against you. It's ALWAYS wrong to hurt innocent people. Provocation brings on revenge, otherwise it's live and let live.
I really like this thought and I certainly want to keep it. I appreciate the insight. It helps a little but I still have this rage about me especially dealing with someone who fakes compassion towards others.
This advice is not working. Even after 7 years pass. It's not about "feeling good". It's not about "moving on". It's about justice. And helping ones who did bad things to understand that what they did was wrong.
Justice doesn't exist. Maybe instead of wishing so hard for your method of thinking to be validated, you could try accepting that the world doesn't run based on your perception of justice.
I’m here to clear the evil revengeful thoughts but apart of me don’t. Once you get revenge it’s a feel good moment FOREVER. I don’t know why people feel the need to try to stop someone from being angry and wanting revenge when they weren’t the one that was wronged and mistreated. I have a human right to feel anger and want revenge. So if I can believe God created me to be happy, upset, angry, depressed, glad, and those other emotions then he get me when I want to see revenge. He knows I’m not perfect so I’m ok with sweet none regretful revenge. Always gotta be an eye for an eye.
I have always struggled with resentments, forgiveness, and anger. I am working on it though and it's getting better. I am working on it with a therapist and 12 step sponsor. I wrote down all my resentments and how they effected me to motivate me to let go. I had to write down my part in the resentments to see where I was in the wrong so I could make amends, change my behaviors and character and if appropriate reconcile the relationships. Now obviously this doesn't apply to every situation like if you were abused you didn't play a part. You also have to realize resentments only hurt you not the others. I also get into psychology and human behavior so I like to try to understand why people act the way they do for example mental illness. This is NOT justifying or condoning their actions. If you're one of those people who is vindictive, don't do it just because of the consequences, but they will get their karma. If it motivates them to change and make amends that's great.
Success is the reason why whoever wronged you do. They're jealous. Punishing them with an improved you would just give them thoughts and feelings they've been used to.
All of my life ive been a nice guy... i don't swear,dont scream i read books... noice guy with no desires of harming anyone.... But one day my family and me decide to move,ya' know new school people etc.But this particular guy... im gonna called "Ron" He was and asshole but the kind of asshole that the people and girls wanted.i get a good crush in one girl,ron too so we decided she gonna be mine like reasonable people.Ron kiss the girl.later he tried to "help me" to conquist her. Some time happen,we are in the classroom and he was a bit aggresivewith my other friends at one moment i don't give it attention,later one of my friends came to me and say"Ron punched me"i stand up and watched ron into the eyes and say "Coward!" I get close and say it again,he says"Teel it like a man" i close my hand and throw a punch into his face while screaming "COWARD!" He lays on the ground... like the coward he is i take my revenge Hell it feels good
I bet if he punched you, you would also be crying on the ground. I wish it would happen. I wish someone would finally call you a coward in the same way you did to this "Ron" so you can learn your lesson. But that'll never happen.
@@mrblue___ Was just a blank stare from across the street, but the torture this chick put me through, before ghosting me, seeing the rage in her face when I blanked her , felt like..... justice 😊
Actually, revenge is fun and delivers justice through immediate consequences to the perpetrator which feels sexy and cool. THEN, you can get your success and rub that in their face like salt into their wounds too 😘
No! Once justice is served, that's good enough. But you could be different, and that's cool. Everyone is. To me, the satisfaction of the payback is good enough. But do what makes you happy. Life's too short not to.
What does success has to with revenge? Suppose someone killed my daughter im I going to get my revenge by being massively successful? What absolute bullshit
@@agwanmolgamingworld8102 child murderers and predators always exist no matter what you do...more effective in spending time and money to give awareness to kids and create better places and situations to reduce the likelihood of things like that from happening
Revenge is getting justice from the unfairness of horrible people if you let them go without accountability of their horrible action they would think they can get away of everything but if you give them back the consequences of their action they will learn how to treat people accordingly. I believe revenge is a sweet justice. Dont let people get comfortable hurting you . Fight for your right you are not born on this planet just to be used and abused by bad people.
As a bully victim I did want revenge on those who made my life a living hell but I chose to let it go and I'm now living a healthier life. Revenge does not solve your problems it only creates new ones. Revenge is a dark and powerful feeling to us all.
I am bully victim too, but i want revenge for something that kept without justice. I was sent to the hospital and lost a testicle, mt family also was broken for that. I decided to reverse things once and for all. If you think what you wrote then keep your head down like a sheep for the rest for your life, patético...
they always talk about how revenge will eat you up inside or it will somehow hurt yourself. Then again how often does someone get hurt so bad that they would seek revenge. To let abuse go unpunished can allow them to continue that abuse on you or someone else. One must ask the question if what if your enemy had done the same thing to someone else as they did to you. Would you care as much. Some times perhaps revenge is necesary to bring justice for what has been done to you aswell as what has been done or may be done to someone else.
All artificial systems of justice are inherently flawed and paradoxical if you dig enough. Stop trying to use excuses to justify you acting based on your hurt rather than trying to fix it.
Revenge and to Avenge are also two different things avenging a wrong done to the innocent in a justified way is much better morally than someone who seeks revenge for petty and selfish reasons . That is akin to swallowing poison and hoping the other person dies . It's an exercise in futility and an act of self destruction
Guys, help me with something I was in a class and I needed to leave earlier. As soon as I stood up the teacher said "hey!". I imediatly knew he was talking to me but wouldnt raise my head because I was embarrassed. He repeated in an angry tone "hey! You there!". I had to look at him, then he Said "whats your name?" I answered in a low tone "Gabriel". Then he screamed while Turning his face against me "GABRIEL"! indicating he would not give me presence that day. I left the class feeling horrible, a coward, extremwly embarrassed. I believe that is the problem with revenge. Sometimes we misinterpret what is going on and act angry toward someone we think did something wrong but actually didnt. The teacher thought I was lazy or was trying to take advantage of him but it was not the case. Do you guys think he was too harsh or he was right to call me out? I am not against revenge. But I think we must be sure the person was wrong and not let our pressumptions guide us
I think he acted a bit outta line and and your theory makes a ton of sense I have to agree with it but I also think you coulda told him ahead of time your plans and if he acted outta line then you could get back by reporting him to the school that way it's a fair and decent way in my opinion at least.
@@dumbredneck4464 I would call him out IN FRONT of the class the way he humiliated or attempted to publicly shame you. He obviously has insecurity issues about his proficiency as a teacher
Feeling like you were wronged within the context of a game feels a little different from the wrong of being, for example, raped. This video feels really, really, really overly simplistic - why do some studies say revenge fantasies can be psychologically helpful for rape victims? I'd love a video that tackled revenge with a little more nuance.
In 2011 my ex sliced my throat, she was sectioned after trying to take her mother's life just 2 weeks later. In 2021 I found out she was living on the streets begging for money, I tracked down where her home/box was & the she was with her hand out under an alcove, I made my way over & she was looking down into her empty cup & I dangled a £20 just under her nose, her eyes lit up smiling as she tried to snatch it from between my fingers I swiftly pulled it back, palming it & flip her the bird as she begins crying & asking why? 10 years after nearly bleeding out ON MY BIRTHDAY I got my closure & what some may call revenge, I have high morals but I don't like innocent people getting hurt & trust me, my ex hurt so many people
@2 God gave us the *capability* and the *choice* to feel that way. In other words, free will. Revenge is not evil if you have no history with the enemy in terms of wronging them. It justice. But deciding vengeance is justified is dependent based on the story as if it were a kid being dependent on his/her parent(s) to be raised and eventually find out if they can take care of themselves or not. Many factors come into play to decide that. So 99 times out of 100, revenge cannot be justitifed. But that's because humans are so flawed by nature that you'll hardly find a justified form of vengeance. And if you believe that vengeance is unjustified *NO MATTER WHAT* in this cruel world, then you are only creating (rather already have) an endless mad cycle of innocents being prayed on by the sourge. I have already realized that. Will you?
@2 That's why therapy is a thing. Because they cannot just be angry that they lost their own, but many others lost their own too for reasons unjustified. They say nearly 100 people are shot per day. But how many of those per hundred each day are deserving?
That's a narcissistic point of view (the quote anyway). I'll give you a better quote to aspire to. "The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." - Edmund Burke.
@@riiddisbuk2496 Narcissistic Seriously from where people like you come what you have quoted means the same What I mean is to assert importance on self-defence
@@riiddisbuk2496 who the hell are you to judge Just shut your mouth you bad person And keep your useless thoughts in mind Do you even know who GURU GOBIND SINGH JI was someone who sacrificed his children 7 and 9 years who were stoned in wall 14 and 18 years sons in a battle when only 40 soldiers including them were against 10 million army, his mother, his father to save another religion and himself Biggest sacrifice made in human history and for whom, whoever who will become a sikh will be saved from heated waves of Dark age this time which is passing.
What about if you were hurt deeply by a person and forgave them eventually after them doing good deeds for you. Then after five years the same person screwed you yet again. And walked away. I feel revenge here is much much needed. Specially if there is a way for it they don't know about. What do you think?
I have the ability to time travel. Over my "lifetime", I have tortured, murdered and killed my wrong-doers multiple times ranging from petty indiscretions (Cutting me off in traffic) to full blown serious crimes. The joy I have experienced while suffering zero consequences has been tantamount to nirvana. Obviously engaging in such endeavours eventually becomes tiresome after the 700th murder of the same person. These days I'm pretty chill and for the most part, unflappable.
You've committed more than 700 murders and have gotten away with it, meanwhile an innocent person who just cut you in traffic had to suffer through an agonious death, possibly hundreds of times. Wonder who's the bad guy.
Wow! Being honest here this was actually very helpful! She basically gave an exact verbal description of my mind! Especially I was shocked on the solution she gave to the problem. Its basically a cycle that goes in my head: I m studying, or doing something idly, suddenly those dark memories come back. First I feel sad, then I start getting hungry for revenge. Then I visualise the entire way I ll commit my revenge. I feel the rush of pleasure at the thoughts of revenge achieved. But then I realise that it ll take me to prison for the rest of my life. So then I start thinking about the bright career I have in front of me, and then I will be just independent finally. Then I won't have to give a damn about him. And I just feel the drive. And this drive pushes me towards success.
These scientists don't know what revenge is, they have never been wronged. Revenge is more than a personal form of revenge revolves around feelings of anger and resentment. Revenge is much less concerned with justice than it is with personal satisfaction or an “evening up of the score.” Since it is such a personal feeling, *revenge deals with real or perceived wrongs*
My revenge is watching people, that have wronged me, get old and wrinkly. I don't seem to age in fact I seem to be getting younger the older I get. It just makes them look and feel bad when they see me.
The body does not understand the difference between an event in your mind versus a real life event. Planning revenge means you re-live the horrible moment or scenario again and again! You lose mind space and time going to the past and not planning your future. Go for success!!! nice one Vanessa :)
