The REAL Reason 90% Of Men Are Lost In Life | Scott Galloway 

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He is right about being paternal. I work in the trades and started noticing the young guys following me around the shop or the grounds. It took a few years to realize this 18 19 20 year old dudes were desperate for some guidance, for an older man to take interest in them. Now when I hire these young guys I realize I am not just a boss, I am a big brother.

I left teaching because of the "creep" factor. You hardly make enough to live on, so women don't want to date you. You're constantly being watched because no one can believe you'd devote your time altruistically. If you spend too much time with a particular student ( because they're the only one who is listening to you) you get accused of favortism. Ulimately, there are too many downsides, so when I stopped teaching and went into IT, it all turned around. I spend most of my time alone, but the peace is irresistible.

What he says about boys not having male role models is 100% true. It’s like the entire school system made a pact to uplift and encourage the girls, while ignoring the boys. I’ve never had a mentor, teacher, counselor, no one who ever took me under their wing and gave me some good advice. For most guys, the heroes we saw in sports and movies were who we strived to be like. I’m now in my 40s, doing okay for myself, but definitely under-achieving. I was a decently smart kid back in my school days, but, where were the real-life role models that could’ve helped steer me in the right direction?? It’s a travesty, smh.

"We've decided, when it comes to men, that compassion is a zero sum game. And that if you feel bad for men, it immediately out you as someone that could be anti-women." DUDE, PREACH !!!

I got my ideas about masculinity from my dad, who rarely tells me how he feels but is always showing me and others by going out of his way to help them.

My view of masculinity is : thoughtfull, wise, rational, objective, expressive

Men are discriminated against in higher education. A few years ago I applied for a Respiratory therapist program at a college after meeting all the criteria. I worked in the government, I was an EMT, I had worked at a hospital at the time and had been in healthcare for 6 years, I had excellent grades and grants too. When I went to the interview the Female interviewer said this program wasn't for every body and gave such condensing tones and even called me "dude" this grown 40 year old woman telling a 28 year old man he was a dude. I then talked to a lady who interviewed next after me who had worked as a CNA for 2 months and told me she got the spot in the program even after she said she had no idea what she was doing. Granted she was a nice lady but the discrimination was very apparent. If you ever want to see what female on male discrimination looks like, work in the hospital field. If you aren't a doctor you are essentially at the bottom of the pyramid. There truly is a class system.

Scott is 💯 on point. Get out of the damn house, breath air, live life, be with friends. FIND A PASSION

I was a high school English teacher in a low income area of NC. I had a group of young boys who were in my classroom before/after school and in between classes. They were like glue - being around me whenever they could. Part of that may have been that I was young and fun - but I know for sure that all of those guys lacked male role models. It's a problem that has serious real-world consequences. Boys need good male role models.

There is no shame to be a man. Stand tall for yourself.

I grew up in a family as the only boy with 3 sisters and my mother of course. My father was more or less present and didn’t like me so much, he was hitting me physically from time to time. My parents divorced when I was 15. My father and I didn’t see eye to eye so I left home at 18. I was surrounded by my 3 sisters who gave birth to 6 girls (my nieces), not a single boy in the family besides me. When there is a family reunion, I’m surrounded with 10 women (mother, 3 sisters and 6 nieces)! Needless to say that I am the black sheep in the group, they ignore me totally like they have always done. I avoid those family reunions now, I don’t attend them. I went on to succeed the most compared with my siblings, graduated from university, had a great career in commercial real estate, married a great wife and we live in a very upscale neighbourhood. The message is take control of your life, don’t give a f_ck about people who ignore you and be strong.

The moment that we accepted the outlandish idea that fathers are irrelevant, we placed that last nail on our collective coffin as a society.

Scott The number three item "look after yourself" I believe should be number one. You cannot look after others until you can look after yourself first.

Even when there is a father in the home working full time and a mother working full time (which there basically is no choice) workers have barely any vacation time to spend with their kids. Hard to be a good model when your burnt out all the time! Europeans get 5 weeks off when they start a job. We are lucky to get one. Time to advocate for our workers.

The issue I see amongst some men and voices online respond to that question of be a protector is…”well what’s in it for me? Why do I need to sacrifice my life for a society that hasn’t done anything for me in return “. I don’t know how big of an issue this is but if things continue the way they.

I think this is one of the most balanced opinions I’ve heard around masculinity and being a young man, this is seriously an antidote to the current environment and I welcome it’s approach as a 25 year old trying to navigate my place in the world . I’ll be buying this mans book as soon as it’s available as I think / hope it will make me a better person and a better man

I'd say that technology, trends and ease of access is the main reason behind, but also the trends of influencers and celebrities. In 70's for example you would got all the music, sports and activism to meet people, get together and find a proper roll models because celebrities were vocal about social injustice. Today kids have everything within a reach of their phones where they get influenced by people who are constantly looking for sponsors. Today we live in a society where most celebrities and influencers would sell anything for money, including themselves. That leaves so many young people attached to narcistic people who only care about their image in media, without doing much to protect, provide and serve those who need attention and help the most.

I fear that if this trend of men being ignored in this time of crisis goes on for another 10 years or more, I only see the majority of average men in the future eventually becoming so violent and filled with rage that they will lash out on the few top 1% of men seeing no other option then to eliminate the competition to be able to even have a chance at a normal life. It is an extremely dark road we are headed for.

There are Very Few RealMen that can Teach and Lead young Men Today.

"You don't have to understand something to be a protector" should resonate with every man everywhere.

Women are the perfect “yes men” and it lends to an easier entry into the middle management work force

The planet needs more Scott Galloways.

Every time Galloway opens his mouth he says something challenging and thoughtful and pretty brilliant. This guy really has a handle on where relationships are at and where men are at right now.

Marriage and love require and demand strength and it takes work and courage to grow up. It’s the power to endure emotional pain, to sacrifice for a loved one to openly communicate. Mature relationships only come from those qualities and a desire to support each other long past the stage of physical looks and expectations of perfection.

Even if a boy has a positive role model (aka as a Dad of boys I can vouch for) they can still struggle. I have noticed if boys are not athletic or academic, they can easily be left behind in school.

My 14 year old son is going through a truly rough time right now. We're going through a rough time. I see so much of the struggles Scott describes, in my son... it breaks my heart every minute of everyday. I wish the men in his life were brave enough. I wish they cared enough to be better men.

It just gets exhausting reading and watching over and over again the negativity that is used to describe masculinity in the West today. I can't help but find it harder and harder to find examples of positive masculinity to hold as a goal and to aspire to, in education, media etc

Lead with strength, governed by empathy.

Great presentation. Nailed it on the head on every point IMHO. I'm 68 yrs old. Had a successful career and 3 boys who are now successful men. I must admit that growing up today is much more challenging than back in the 60s, 70s, even 80s. Just too much distraction and rapid changes. I'll try to help bring my very young grandson along the proper masculine path...as I did with his dad.

We grow up to find out our role models are very flawed.

i think an important thing to consider is that in the past, the great inventors, sports figures, astronauts, businessmen, artists, but also ofc actors were THE role models, and in many films certain actors would embody this healthy masculinity, or at least with positive attributes. Nowadays, the biggest role models are influencers, many also young or without much education tbh, but more importantly they are not the great entrepreneurs or innovators of the past, they're not groundbreaking artists, no longer are the role models for young men people who achieve great things. I mean what you have one or two famous rich ppl like Elon Musk or Jeff Bezos, but u look at any alpha male influencer video and its these sort of unachieving youtubers or twitch streamers who are presented as role models of excellence. However problematic past role models could be, they were better than this.

This guy is so well spoken

Thank you so much for shining a light on this and opening up the conversation. Healing this is vital for healthy society and a future living Earth.

This is the type of direct and to the point discussion that needs to hit the road! SO much of this resonates with the reality of my 13 year old son's life and what I run into in the business world while I visit the US. Men will no longer get on an elevator alone with a younger woman, I get comments and looked at from women some times because I am not only masculine I revel in it. Why do they look at me...? Society has taught them that men are predators and they should be more like women. I will pause here but Scott thank you again for being out there and for being so direct with your message!

Great vid 👍. Direct explanation of a manhood 💪

Finally someone who doesn't see things as black or white.

Scott Galloway is so right.

Mental health counseling is very important as is a reading the great philosophers of all ages. I never had a male role model who offered me a complete picture of the best facets of behavior but with the above help I was able to Integrate into my own life the best of what I saw from the men within my life. No one is perfect but it’s vital to strive to be a better person. That’s how civilization gets better.

Well said Scott, clearly a significant problem - accountability in the context of having an internal structure in which the guy is accountable to himself, but he has no training on *How* to handle himself.

Woman: "Men need to open up and be emotionally vulnerable." Man: "Well, sometimes I feel like... Woman: "Awww...did you whittle man-child fee-wings get a boo-boo? MAN UP, LOSER!!" Man: "Well, I guess I will see what Andrew Tate has to say."

One thing about accountability, is to stop looking at it as punitive and start looking at it as a responsibility. Through accountability one grows, learns and understands to be an adult or a Man. "Save our boys 👍😎👍"

Thank you!

I'm glad Scott is sharing his nuanced and caring perspective in this conversation that often gets polarized. And I'm glad that he's out there trying to help young people, regardless of what's going on between their legs. The vacuum of positive, healthy mentors and role models for young people under the influence of testosterone can lead to some pretty awful sh*t. So, trying to outline healthy, societally beneficial masculinity seems worthwhile and challenging. Although "protecting, providing and procreating" all seem to be pretty universal human inclinations regardless of whatever reproductive organs a person has, but I get what he's saying. For me what also might be helpful is to study what are (in general) the irrefutable hormonal and biological byproducts of having whatever sex organs you might be born with, (especially for young people) and try to identify how to positively channel those behaviors in our culture. Until we collectively get better at that, if I had to pick my poison, I think I'd rather have young testosterone-influenced people like my kids err on the side of watching a little too much porn and being a bit more passive in romantic pursuit than buy into misogynist, narcissistic, objectifying rape culture. Of course, it isn't an "either/or" path, which is part of his point, but I think it's something worth bringing up.

I was lucky, my male role model was my father. Not a perfect person, but the best man I ever knew. I think many boys today don't have a father in their life. They don't how to be a man because there is no man in the household.

Some things are spot on. Others, fly in the face of logic and reason. As a 30 yo male, I completely understand the trans position. I just think they should wait until their prefrontal cortex has finished developing. You don’t want to make permanent, life-altering decisions while your brain and emotions are in flux. His emotion is getting the best of him here.

This prof is my new hero

Galloway makes excellent points

He's a treasure.

So glad to have had totally different raw models as male protagonists . Grandpa, father, uncles, husband etc. were all galaxies above such a chaotic negativ data collector.

This is such a great video. Lots of wisdom

I was in sports in school, army then fraternity and there is nothing like being around your boys and comrades when you're young. We mostly give that up for family which is goof but we should still have those places to be.

Real reason 90% of men are lost in life: low wages, high cost of living. Nowadays, you can work your ass off for years and never get closer to owning your own roof over your head, which is the most fundamental thing in life. If you can't be owner of the most fundamental part of your life, then what's the point of living?

Worked for Morgan Stanley & BA in Economics & MBA! Started a Marketing Consultancy firm in 1997! Elected in 1999 to the WEF gobal leaders of tomorrow! Tells me all i need to know about him.

The part when he describes what is wrong on the right and left visions of modern masculinity it's just perfect. 6:09

We need this man.

One of the biggest challenges I’ve noticed is “men vs women: who has it worse?” Is a stupid competition to have, but unfortunately a lot of women (understandably so) are frustrated seeing men complaining about men’s issues, because of all the hell most of them constantly go through. And then men (also understandably!) are frustrated when women say “men can’t have problems!!!” ….yeah, we absolutely do have problems I understand women wanting men to speak up and stand up for women, but women often say “it’s not our responsibility to rescue men.” And like in the one hand I get that, but at the very least, if a man is “whining” (I hate when people call it that 🤮), please please please do not “kick him when he is down.” If a woman can’t rescue him, that’s fine, but please don’t say “hahahaha you don’t have problems, and if you do, it’s the fault of men! Deal with it on your own!”

This guy says a lot of truth. The thing I don't agree is the role of the protecter as a men. I have done my share of protecting ppl beeing assulted on the streets, got beaten up while doing so. Since they attack in groups of 4+ ppl. Even got stabbed once, trying to help. But if society rejects male in general and you get yelled at, when you hold a door open for a women, why should I risk my life for a stranger? Im at the point where I protect my famelly and frends, thats it.

I truly appreciate this interview and various insights . As an approaching 56 year old male I admit - I do not grasp “TS”- at all. At all. And I am masculine , provider and protector. And how it is made sense to protect that “group”- made sense . And I have a step son who has transitioned- and “she” has never been able to express or explain to my wife or me - what is this all Yet, I can see how I can “accept” and my role… And I got through college and graduate school - bc I wanted access to females I was the same . Same motivation

I'm a woman, a lifelong feminist--who's ALSO tried to understand the "gender role pressures" on MEN. This is a CRUCIAL conversation about what AUTHENTIC and HEALTHY masculinity is. I will actively search out more Scott Galloway!!! Thanks for important ideas on your podcast!

Being a provider can mean providing full support for women making more money, making it possible for her to reach her full potential. My female doctor has a "house husband" who manages the entire family, kids, finances, housework, errands, cooking (a great chef), shopping, social arrangements, etc. so she can meet the overwhelming demands of taking care of other people and still have work/life balance.

As a male therapist that works with kids, I appreciate the last two minutes. Totally agree.

Great video! Love the refresher of all the different types of capital you outline in your book. One thing I’d add - there is something you can do about cultural capital: you can move.

As you go through your research there is one big category you didn't mention that I believe you need to address-on-line betting and gambling. The companies and apps that support that industry are targeting young men...I believe it has the potential to be more dangerous than porn

As a man ages in America, he realizes that starting a relationship with a woman isn’t worth it.

Excellent conversation on today’s young men struggles. I really enjoyed professor Galloway’s ideas … congratulations for your channel!

Be accountable where you can, not for anyone else's mistakes but your own. But young men (boys) need guidance (to be raised) too.

it kinda happened for the youtuber Shoeonhead , when she showed compassion for men in one of her videos

women need positive male role models as well. my childhood and life has been faaar from ideal but I thank god I've always had a good father in my life even though my mother abused him and he ultimately ended up leaving, and I'm glad he did. he stayed for SUCH a long time though really trying with my mentally ill mother and I knew it was for me, his only child daughter. my mother treated me well but turned into a monster with him and I still don't understand why (she passed when I was 23 so I never got to have that conversation as a mature woman with her). I wish things had ended up differently but my father has always been a good man. he isn't the physically strongest and has severe asthma but as far as the "three pillars" this guy just spoke about he is superb as far as I'm concerned. I also think I ended up having a healthy standard of what to expect from a man in relationships of my own because of him. I promise you I will not end up like my mother did and how she treated him. it breaks my heart because it's sort of an unspoken secret between me and my father, it angers me so much how little resources I see for men who were or are in that type of situation. people just think domestic abuse is a drunk man beating his wife still even to this day it seems... also... I'm a millennial woman and I HATE this blatant misandry I see all over society for what it's worth haha.

So wonderful! So worth learning and acting on.

Who’s having a difficult time talking about men’s issues? It’s to the contrary, women have been saying that men need to deal with their issues just keep our name out of their your mouths. This conversation is refreshing and need to go nationwide ❤

The distruction of the nuclear family

Being transactional leads to being emotionally unhinged.

I don't necessarily agree with everything this guy says, but I think he brings a positive voice to this important subject.

Really well said, Scott.

More men should show compassion and empathy instead of a hard and aggressive exterior. Being able to show emotions would be a good start.

Interesting, now imagine this conversation had money not exist . The real problem is capitalism is eating itself.

Excellent talk.

This needs half a million views.

His quote about the average age of a 1st time home buyer 1980 to 2024..... that's Supply-side economics at work.

Enjoyed up until 9:20. No, children cannot consent to being put on chemical castration drugs.

Excellent video! More videos like this are needed, as are books such as Richard Reeves’ “Of Boys and Men” in those physical spaces still operating as bookstores!

Very intelligent commentary. Superb video.

0:33: 🔑 The video discusses the lack of compassion for men and the consequences of this attitude. 4:01: 📚 The education system and economic policies are biased against men, leading to shame and rage. 8:05: 🔥 The video discusses the importance of firefighters as protectors and the role of masculinity in society. 11:55: 💬 The speaker believes that part of masculinity is being the initiator in a romantic relationship, but emphasizes the difference between pursuit and being a predator. 15:47: 📺 The speaker discusses the impact of pornography and excessive online usage on young men's motivation and engagement in real-life activities. Recap by Tammy AI

Porn is the problem

man chase woman. i often heard this concept and was repelled by it, because i thought "why can the women just sit there and be shy and its ok" i thought that whole thing is unfair. But i knew i had to deal with it because i want to be with a woman and - lets be honest- they are not exactly throwing themselves at me. i will have to come to them. And having it explained like his is super helpful.

I would caution against intervening on a fight, especially on a subway, unless you know you can win, or you will inspire support from other passengers.

2.39 minutes in and Jesus this is good.

Switched off when he talked about transing kids at 15, yet he talks about brain development earlier, major blindspot

The men in my family taught me what not to do by their careless, undisciplined behaviour. But that's better than not learning anything. I was blessed not to confuse dysfunction from functionally positive behavior.

Philosophical true to a point, 72 years old, grew up in the 50s and 60s with grandma, never finished high school, but! Went to college, Tulane university didn't graduate, went to work and out lived most, living a health holistic lifestyle simplicity and with in my own means. I agree with you on what you are talking about, people should live within themselves, now you know, max world x 👍🌎

In all this over left tiktok porn society that seems the world to be becoming nowadays I think is relieving to hear Scott Galloway speaking so honestly about masculinity, even better knowing he is not a far right abdicate

Fatherless America single mother America

I’m not lost. I’m right here!

He nailed it!

That first pilar of masculinity he state being all about that protector role is OUTDATED by a century now. If we are to evolve/emerge a healthy and relevant renewal masculinity we have to simply GET RID of that protector role. It really is high time we understand men's lives isn't worth LESS than women's or even maybe children's. There is an inherent sacrifice, putting voluntarily one self in harms way that come with the protecting...that is simply incompatible with the equality society strive for and rams down everybody throat. Litteraly, let the feminists handle the house fires.

When blue and red sides square off at the 'split', the red side will have no difficulty recruiting for militias. It will be a growth industry. Pray the split is peaceful.

Scott, all the best mate, you're content is phenomonal.

June is men's mental health month. Praying for all men today. Don't give up.

The biggest attractive characteristics of masculinity that would group in it all is courage, something missing completely in our society