I am 2 years the other side of being that woman. It wasn't that I tried to change him but I stayed long after I should have left. We were married and I felt guilt for "giving up". When I did, he immediately moved in with another woman 3 states away. I wanted to add that getting to that point of ending the marriage was as addictive as what I think heroine would be. I cant describe the brain fog. Im grateful to be whole again. But God...
Cmon Ace! Whewwww! The mommy issues are real! My Ex all day, but he's cunning and calculating. Methodical, soft spoken. 2.5 years all a sham and a scam. User and loser I appreciate him dumping me(the discard)❤️ He blessed me with the gift of goodbye🌻
My current situation, I’m currently going no contact. And yup he was nice the first few months and it’s been downhill ever since. No more toxic men for me, I’m over it!
Smh 🤦🏾♀️ ace is wasting his breath most of these women who are pregnant will take a baby daddy back. And turn around and have a second baby. It’s waste
When looking at a man BEFORE you even date him , ask yourself “Would I want my son to be like him? Or is this the type of man I would want for my daughter?” If the answer is no then move on.
I wish I had considered this. I'm just beyond lucky that our son is exactly like me down to his bones , he's nothing like his dad, the whole family has remarked on it at some point . I've told both my sons to look tother grandfather ( My father) as an example of what a man should be and thankfully they both are. But it's a sad day when you're sitting freaking out saying to yourself ' I hope he doesn't turn out like his dad' . No woman should have to get to that point . I'm just glad I'm finally done
I’ve never heard the discard comes when they’ve used up the person. That makes SO much sense! He will NOT let me go. I’ve tried to fully break it off, was legally separated and living alone for 5 years! Didn’t know about narcissism and he said he had fully changed, he repeated everything I said I wanted. I found out he was lying again after he’d moved back in with me and we moved half way across the country!. Thank you for this. I was laying her awake, late night watching this, can’t sleep while he sleeps soundly on the couch! And I closed my eyes as you spoke about my worth, soaking this in. Thank you so deeply. Needed this. Yassss “God’s got you,” best word yet! I agree. This fight ain’t mine! This spiritual battle is not ours to fight.
OMG where have you been all my life why am I just now finding this video I could have been out of this relationship a long time ago if I would have watched this you are so on point you stated everything I was going through down to the narc sleeping peacefully and most of all using us for a safe place when we should both feel safe around one another Thank u for ur time and patience for this amazing commentary💜💜💜 may god continue to bless you
So many comments about the sleep thing. Guess what. I’m in a cold dark spider housing basement w my cat and dog, it’s the end of November, it’s feeezing down here. Guess where dude is? In the bedroom with the fresh sheets and fresh blanket and all the fresh clothes like 7 loads worth, no shit, and becuz he didn’t get the light bill paid I had to do the laundry at the neighbors. Which he went over n watched the game w the dude. But never once come down to see me. And he mad cuz I was there longer after he left cuz I still was doing laundry!!! Saying I wanted to be there…. I’m done w this BS. He always sleeps good cuz I won’t wake that asshole for nothing. But never lets me sleep that’s a constant thing I can count on. He don’t think no body needs sleep but him. If I had a car, I’d be fuckin outta here yesterday! I shldve been out 2 years ago. But y’all know how it is. Fuckin sucks man. For everyone
I completely agree! I am dealing with this now we have to talk we have kids regardless if we like it or not , just bull shit excuse for him to keep calling every few weeks
sometimes we as women were not healed or healed of the codependency that keeps us chained to these types. both codependency and narcissism are extreme opposites of the pendulum. It's like a magnet. both are extremes and both are toxic. I had to heal my codependency and learn that over giving of myself to keep someone around is also manipulative, controlling and toxic in order to try to get a man to meet needs that I could not meet within myself due to not being healed and not effectively loving me. Narcissists are actively abusive manipulative, controlling, takers who try to get their internal needs met from childhood by hooking you to take. Healing codependency and learning how to love and parent ourselves is key. We are supposed to be in the middle, not an over giver, not an over taker.
He makes me feel so horrible about myself, idk how to get away from me , hes living in my garage , he knows we aint together, he does what he wants but i am not allowed , especially messed up being that i left him a year and a half ago but 3 months ago he got fired, and got evicted so he moved into my garage and noone will make him leave , i tell him to but he wont leave . I am suicidal again, i question everything again, he is never going to leave me alone until i run far away. 😔 I either settle , or give up on this life . Im sick of fighting, argueing, hateing myself , but its been 13 years and somethings gotta give , im sick , im tired, im broken, i have no family, i have no friends im the only one fighting for me and im so tired ........i just want to be unreasonably happy the rest of my life, be really loved. I have no clue where to begin, im terrified of people and falling in love , im terrified of everything, i know the cycle i know i want out but I dont know anything else . I have peft and noone will help me help myself . Fml, your right. He will never leave me ........you have read the rest of my story before and this is all ive always known.
He is not worth dying for. I have been in your shoes and I'm so sorry you are alone. I want you to know God see you, He hears your cries. If I can do it no family and very few "friends" willing to deal with my mess, then so can you. We become addicted to the pain and the person. I had to change the locks and leave him a note in the car. It broke my heart but it saved my life
Well my son and him got into a fight today , my son has had enough of him treating me this way . And never again will he ever get that close to my children again
I’d like to say something and I highly doubt you will read this but hey,🤦🏼♀️ -one thing I really got wrong about was ASSUMING that because he had a strong respectful loving relationship with his mother, that he would be a good man to his woman, future me. Well I was the absolute most wrong. His mom supported him even when he was physically mentally and emotionally abusive to me. She even denied the obvious fact that he is on drugs now even after being arrested and charged with possession and paraphernalia. Women, the relationship a man has with his mother is NOT always INDICATIVE of how he will treat you. Don’t be like me and have to find out the hard way sis♥️
But he did leave me..gave them what i gave my blood sweat and tears to. Keeps coming back but not for me bcus he with someone else loving her and giving her everything i i want and need.
I haven't been in a relationship situationship entanglement booty call nothing in 12 yrs. I never get love and i e never had love so i give up. Its bad enough there are 10 girls plus to one guy. Then the dl ones the gay ones the ones in prison the pool shrinks then factor in you're over 40 and whats left ain't checking 4 you. Its a losing battle war and stateship. Im done bn shit on.
What do you do about people who projecting they feelings about themselves on to you? Would you continue to date them? Those are the ones that may have been in an abusive form of a relationship before. This makes people feel empathetic for the person however you don't want to be drawn into the drama of the relationship concerning them.
What do you feel about a person who has a different religious views than you do. This kind of worries me when we're not communicating about the things that separate us or bring us together or relate too equally.
Ephesians 6:4 - "FATHERS, don’t make your children angry, but RAISE them with the kind of TEACHING and TRAINING you learn from the Lord." (Notice it does NOT say "MOTHERS" are supposed to be raising up or teaching and training these children....People need to STOP blaming the MOTHERS. It's NOT her JOB to RAISE these kids. Her job is to carry out the orders of whatever the FATHER dictates.
Did you ever see that TV show called psych. Or Dr. House. How do you deal with a person who does reverse psychology Tactics But when you do it they call you a witch or manipulative. However it began with someone else activities.
I’m sorry but I disagree, a female better not call me asking questions about my ex that is her new new! When it comes to family you can listen them anything but you have to first pay attention to the family to see if they are close, what their morals and standards are like before you trust what they are Saying. You just may have the most stable person in the family or you may be asking family members that indulge in the brokenness of the family! Jealousy will rip a relationship up and many times family can be the only ones close enough to do it!!
I’m just tired of yall pretending like yall baby daddy is “bothering” or “harassing” when you keep answering. You look forward to that because it makes you feel like he still wants you, when he doesn’t.
