Man Humbles A Room Full Of Women 

My wife of 14 years now - when we were dating, on the third date, she offered to pay for everything. I honestly thought it was a test and I refused. EVERY woman I dated before her rarely offered to pay - most NEVER offered to pay. I was just expected to pay as the man. So when this amazing woman grabbed the bill and paid for not only dinner, but the movie as well, I knew I found a unicorn. The very next date she came over and cooked me an amazing meal. She did all this because she was trying to impress me as much as I was trying to impress her. An actual equal relationship! And that strong relationship is now entering its 15th year 🙂 (Add-in) Thank you and respect to all of you who have extended best wishes to me, my wife and our family. I really hope fellow men find happiness and that one true woman who appreciates who you are. I'm thinking on adding videos to my channel about relationships after reading the responses. I understand the frustrations so many of you have - I was there before I met my wife. There is hope, brothers. Stay true to yourself! Respect 🤜🏾💚🤛🏾

Women in this generation: "there should be no gender roles" Also them: "men are supposed to pay" 🤡🤡🤡

The fact that he has to explain this to grown women is almost mind-boggling.

He’s helping them not hurting them. He’s speaking facts.

I met my ex on Tinder - yes, I know... and when we went on our first date, she chose the restaurant - a very expensive restaurant, I might add. When the bill came, and I was about to pay, she said: "I chose the restaurant, I'm paying". And this was in Mexico City, where women are still more conservative than in the US. After that, and without even "talking about it", every time we did something, whoever chose the activity or the place, paid for it. It was the most comfortable and fair unspoken rule I've ever had in a relationship.

I had a female friend years ago, a highly qualified doctor who was a single parent. She listed the (expensive) restaurants she likes to be taken out to on dates. Immediately I knew why she's been single for nearly 10 years.

Older guy here, I ALWAYS paid, she NEVER paid. What did she do? "You like spaghetti? Come on over for a plate of spaghetti and we can spend some time chatting." I remember that "date" vividly, one of the best we had and it still warms my heart almost 30 years later. Married her, had a family, hold her close as often as I can and love her completely. She's still the most beautiful woman I've ever met and I look forward to many many years with her still.

"Let me tell you what means something to a guy: trying" The most easy, basic, and most true statement about relationships between men and women that will ever be spoken.

This guy is great, he’s not even sexist in saying this. He’s being genuine and respectful. World would be a better place if things were talked about like that.

How did this man get a woman, let alone a whole room of women, to listen to him... especially when he is telling them they're wrong? Mans a wizard. Edit: It baffles me how many people can't see a joke right in front of them. My comment was 5 months ago. Leave me alone. So many comments of people not understanding it. It's a comment on the internet. Don't take it seriously. Please. Dear lord.

Couldn’t agree more with this guy! There is definitely a double standard here. Some women say they want to be treated as equals with men, but when “equal” doesn’t benefit them in some way they get mad. As a woman, I find this infuriating!

He’s 100% correct! Woman want equality but on “buffet” terms!

Best line: "This is the most polite they're ever going to be." Too much truth for a room full of women.

I'm a woman and I agree 100% to what that man said. Relationship is about teamwork; don't always be at the receiving end, but also be a 'giver'.

Very well spoken. We guys also deserve respect, dignity & appreciation for what we go through. We don't need much else. Thank goodness I've never been surrounded by gold diggers.

I was in a 12 year relationship and then married her. The best thing about my wife is that during our dating period she always asked me to split the bill, and even if I didn't she made sure that she paid the next time, even when I did not demand anything. That showed how she was raised.

As a woman I was already cringing at the whole "you're the gentleman here, you're suppose to pay" and then seeing that the 90% of the women in the room agree to that statement is worrying. And those are the same women that claim to be feminist and wanting same equal rights and wanted to be treated the same as men. Bill burr was right!

This sounds ridiculous but it's the truth, I married my wife because she bought me a sandwich. We were in school not dating but in a pretty stressful group project together I'll spare you the details but picture a 4-month project with 4 people and hundreds of hours. I happened to be the best editor in our group so I stayed in the lab till 10pm one night and she showed up to bring me a sandwich. Men really don't need much to feel valued, just make an effort. **Update, I'm really surprised this got so much attention. Comments are actually pretty wholesome for the most part. Not sure why but a lot of people asking about the sandwich? It was an end-of-day clubhouse from a Tim Hortons chain, it was stale and it didn't taste very good. I had to soften up the bread with hot chocolate. It's been a long time since then, we have a son now and my wife is a fantastic mother. I know marriage and monogamy aren't what everyone wants out of life. But if it is what you want, try not to let all the negativity and bad statistics stop you from looking. Someone told me you have to slay some dragons before you find your princess and man did I find a dragon or two on the way (That's a whole other story). Be smart, protect yourself but keep looking, she is out there.

This is a great video. Dude was honest while appealing to a considerate manner that we all should expect from a close person.

Once in the dorm i had a neighboor. She was simple smiling girl, i remember we went to market for some food and i paid for her croissant just to get all items in one shot instead of splitting it to two. Later that night i went to shower and left my room open, when i've returned, i saw big sandwich on my table. One of the best things that ever happened to me.

This man is so calm and concise it’s actually legendary!

As a girl, I always thought that splitting the bill is the most responsible thing you can do and a healthy start to a relationship. I would feel very bad if I ever made anyone pay full for my food only my parents are allowed to do that for me and I for them.

What gets me about young women today is all their talk about equality, then they give you a list of everything men should do and yet they aren’t willing to do any of the things they expect from men. I met my husband 24 years ago, he was old school thought he had to pay for everything, our first date was to a concert I bought the tickets he paid for dinner and then he wanted to know how much the tickets were worth so he could pay me back. I told him no he paid for dinner I’ve got the tickets covered. There were other times I had to grab the bill first so I could pay. These women need to get off their high horses and start acting like responsibility adults if they want have a lasting relationship with a decent man.

I've watched the full seminar before, but I gotta hand it to our geezer on the side here... dippin' in with smooth, well timed and constructive commentary which actually adds value to whatever video is on the big screen. Excellent work, mate. Bang on.

Funny how we've reached a point in modern society where grown adults have to be told "Be nice." And have to have basic empathy explained to them.

"You are the gentleman" Yes, but are you a lady? You can't demand a traditional man when you are not a traditional lady.

I LOOOOOVVVE this! Bravo, good man. It's so funny, my father even warned against taking certain kinds of gifts from a man ... to guard against encouraging misplaced expectations.

GOOD stuff here!!! Thank you for sharing! My wife and I were friends before we started dating. We carried are friendship into our dating relationship, we shared paying on our dates. Married almost 24 years now. A lot of our dates involved walking and talking to save money.

This man needs a medal for his articulate analysis of basic relationship issues of the modern day couple. Cheers to you sir 🍻

This man clearly is not a cat lover. If he was, he wouldn't be telling these women how to avoid being a cat lady.

Brother, I've seen a million of good points from you, from your other videos as well. You have earned yourself my respect and Subscription.

My friend and I always contributed and paid our own way. It's respectful and puts you on an even keel with no expectations. Friendship only, which is just streetwise and common sense to me.

I once dated a girl for around 3 months and paid for every meal, parking expense, gas, everything you could think of during that period. I once forgot my wallet in the car and asked her to buy me a drink, she literally hesitated with an offended face and said, "let me check my bank account real quick." At that moment I knew it was going to be over soon.

As a woman I've always offered to pay half, it's absolutely shocking to see what people have gone through in the comments

I keep saying this as a older man, married, people dating need to wake up and realize, no matter how much you have monetarily, if you enter a relationship with these sort of crazy ideas and don't approach relationships like your part of a team where you both work to help each other best you can, then you are doomed to fail, life is too big and too tough and will wreck you if you think otherwise.

Common sense is literally dead ! I find it hard to watch a room full of woman that need to be educated in manners and respect! The world is fine the new generation is completely doomed ! Always a good video pal 👍🏻 keep up the vidz

Staying single, working on your dreams and let other people experience the mistake of getting with these women is literally the best thing you can do in this century.

I met a girl when I was 24 who like me had very little money. She also had some difficult times in her life. On our first date I watched her dig through her purse for as much as she could when the check came. Then I realized she ordered very little because she couldn’t afford much. Even despite my encouragement to get what she wanted. I found it heart warming and of course paid the entire bill as was always my intentions. I married that girl. 14 years later I can’t imagine my life without her. Men should be gentlemen and women should be ladies. This is not “traditional “, it is natural. And in this way you will find happiness.

For real, I invited a female friend out to dinner once, it was technically a date as we hadnt seen each other in years, and she came all dressed up. No discussion about money or who's paying for what - I invited her, so I was happy to pay. But even as I said "Dont worry, ive got this", she said "Are you sure?" - Just the fact she asked me that was a gesture in itself to make me feel like she wasn't expecting a free meal. That's all it takes! I was happy to pay, but that one question she asked me made me feel even more happy to pay. Ladies, it's that simple, I promise you.

Preach 😎💪🤠 This is my wife and I through and through ❤❤❤❤

It’s like the guy in the bottom left corner said. Men are usually willing, but it shouldn’t be expected. It shouldn’t be a standard. I’ve been expected and even demanded to pay for things. From when I was broke and then even worse when I started making real money. The guy in stage is 100% right about it being about the lack of gesture and feeling used when there’s only expectation and no contribution. Dating is NOT one sided, no one is a “prize”. It’s a partnership.

I'm a young man and my girlfriend and I started dating at around 16. In high school before college I had a lot more money to spend on food and dates and started the relationship off paying for everything, spoiling this girl with everything that I could afford, not driving myself broke by any means. When we were in college together and things were harder if she wanted to go out to eat and I told her I couldn't afford it she understood and would offer to pay for me instead. This is how a relationship works. She doesn't owe me for what was done before and I don't owe her for that time, but you do what you can and you're together in things.

inside every feminist is a future middle-aged cat lady.

honestly, that’s exactly it. the entitlement. we already pay for our own lives. nobody gives guys free shit. paying isn’t the problem, it’s feeling like a doormat that is

The fact women are in this seminar to learn the man's side is a miracle in and of itself

He is so well spoken, articulates his point and provides excellent reasoning. Without being able to do all of those, he risks losing an argument even though the point he is making is 100% truth.

True talk young blood! I couldn't even buy my wife a bottle of water when I met her. 5 years later I'm blessed with 2 little ones.

I could listen to this guy talk all day. Like a podcast in the background. Guy has a calming voice. He has Facts

"when you are not even trying to contribute, then he feels used" not a SINGLE nodding face

Him saying “this is the most polite that they will be” is the absolute truth. A lot of people just don’t realize that. What we all have to remember is that most people aren’t trying to be rude, they just haven’t thought things through. On the same point though, most people won’t gaf about being a better person

I am a woman and never understood why a man would have to pay it all 💀

Bro it breaks my heart so many peeps are broken with current courting/dating standards. Yes, I know it’s never perfect all throughout history but dang… these times man.

Out of everything that guy said, the one thing that made the most impact on them is the "I would always treat my partner how I would my best friend, you don't expect your friend to pay for everything everytime you go out" part. No more chuckling from the audience after that.

This man single-handedly described what I have been trying to convince my friends of doing in the most eloquent and emotionally detailed way

If only I could come up with words as efficiently and as precisely to make my point! Wow!

As a man this is 💯 true.

When my husband and I were dating (we were both poor working college students), I still offered to, and did, pay at least half of the time. I gave him the money to have his alternator fixed in his car, he hated my paying for it; but, it had to be done. We always have operated as a team, kinda "us against the world". We celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary last December.....still a team!

Women... "Its about EQUALITY" Men: "So its cool if we split the check" Women: "Not that type of EQUALITY... you can have that one"

Can we applaud this "guru" for how well he handles this question in a group full of women? That was class.

Thank you “Edward” we as a whole are good. ✌️

He’s not humbling them. He’s helping them have better relationships. And that comes across.

Years of feminism and all women in the audience still shouted 'MEN PAY!'

💯 agree nicely presented to these women. I wonder how many of these women agree? 🤔

This man speaks wisdom, truth, and just what should be implemented.

I was on a date with a lady and she ordered butterfly steak. She made a point of telling me she'd ordered butterfly steak. I'd never heard of butterfly steak and I wondered how did they get a steak from a butterfly? I asked her - "do you enjoy butterfly steak?" She replied: "It's the most expensive thing on the menu, I wanted to see your reaction." I asked a lady on a date and she said she couldn't afford it as a single mum. I said I'd be happy to pay, and she agreed after persuasion. I asked her to pick where, she picked a Korean self-serve buffet. It included self-serve soft drinks and when I finished mine ( more than once ) she grabbed the glass and refilled for me. I got a bit annoyed at that as I felt I was interfering with her meal and enjoyment. Her explanation? "I can't afford the meal but I can afford to show you consideration." Guess which one touched my heart?

The fact that this is a “news flash” to so many women is mind boggling.

4 or 5 months, and not paying a share! Mind boggling!

Amen!

The “men should pay” thing would still apply if feminism didn’t obligate all women to join the workforce

This guy is brilliant, very well balanced, honest, and giving these women some perspective, but he does it politely and nicely.

Dating has only existed for about 100 years. And in the beginning, it was seen as a kind of shady, immoral practice. Back then, women were either not working or were paid less than men; fr, not the bs we hear now. Therefore, the man actually did need to pay. She literally couldn't afford it. Applying this to today's dating environment is clearly OUT of date, irrelevant, and needs to be sh!tcanned asap.

This is sublime discourse; moreover, it carries with it a coherent argument for true egalitarianism; expectation - from either party - does not even enter the equation.

I will say, respect to the women for listening and not talking/booing him.

when any woman tries this bullshit on me, I simply ask how many years did she live as a man to feel comfortable about to talk about how a man should be, it works every single time for me.

The real problem with our entire society is that after 4-5 months, you're still dating.

100% NAILED IT !!!!!

The only reason he succeeded in getting his point across, is because he had a microphone. If it was one on one, the vast majority of them would have crucified him before he could finish.

I will never forget this. I had no money or real income for a long time, especially during the college/dating years, and the girl I crushed on must have really crushed back on me. On our first lunch together I barely had enough on me to pay for my own meal, which I inevitably had to reveal to her by the end. She was intuitive and perceptive enough to realize that I liked her so much that I was literally spending my very last dime on me to be with her. She laughed and paid for her meal and the tip for the waiter. We dated for 4.5 years before getting married, and are now 7 years married still going strong as ever...I don't know why I felt compelled to tell this story here, but well...there it is. I'm one of the luckiest men on the planet.

Our concepts of best friendship are totally different across genders. I think contributing should be through gestures.

I’m in total agreement with what this guy. It’s plain and simple. No guy wants to be taken advantage of. This idea of entitlement has gone way out of context. Women should always find a way to contribute in a relationship.

When a woman expects a guy to pay for her stuff because "he is supposed to" that's a major red flag! Emancipation goes both ways ladies.

The speaker did a good job handling the question. I am an older women and even women in my generation would offer to share the cost (if not pay out right). Going 'dutch' was a thing even when I was in high school, which was back in the days of black and white tv. I like the idea of framing this as you would behave with friends gives people easy way to judge a situation. You would not ask your friend to always pay or to always be the one who bolsters you up emotionally.

very inspiratinonal this helps me speak to women.

"It's not about the money,it's about the GESTURE" well said brother🍻

These women are clueless. Regardless of the logic and common sense this guy throws at them they will leave thinking "This guy is a jerk and a misogynist . The man should always pay for me".

this is very true. all a man needs is that attempt to try, just like a parent sees a baby trying to walk.

He was awesome. He is so right about the whole dating thing. Especially about paying for time to be with her. As if her time is more valuable than his. That is a great truth.

It's really incredible, how some women certain things still take for granted and at the same time yell "equal rights, equal rights!" There is still a lot of work to do, and thank god there are men like this guy...

Bro he said “this is the most polite they are ever gonna be and they aren’t trying to pay now” that’s fricking real

I love how proudly and confidently these women show their entitlement & abusive attitude. Society needs to be more comfortable calling them out on their bullshit.

"Let me tell you something that means something to a guy...trying." The bar so low that literally trying is all a guy needs and it's seen as too much.

Honestly being raised by a feminist family, I never knew such kind of stuff existed. Like I grew up learning that we gotta split our bills, pay our part...both the man and the woman are doing the work... Why should only the man pay? Where's the equality in it? Love my parents for raising me like that.

"If a girl doesn't offer to pay for their part, they weren't raised right" No one laughed "If a guy doesn't pay for his part. They weren't raised right" Females laugh

I think exactly like this (as a woman myself). I am someone who is making her career in Engineering and have seen financial adversity as a teen and other traumatic events while living with a single mother. But even when I keep to myself, respect everyone around me, do not belittle anyone at all, I keep hearing belittling comments from the men around me (the classmates I had during my undergrad). I belong to Pakistan and a lot of hatred stems from the fact that women started becoming capable while they wanted to keep them at homes and not make them capable of any thing at all. For some women here, it really is difficult to receive an education. You just get transferred from one home to another and there is no surety how your husband might be and for most of the married women, no returning to their parents home cause they shame you this much. Hence the reason of low divorce rates here. Apart from the priveleged girls, sports is not common for us. It is a taboo. And if any girl IS in sports, they hate her. There is one strata of society, mostly the conservatives that actively bar you from receiving any education, support and enforce early marriages, think of women as only child-bearing individuals and hate those of us getting educated and making our careers. Then there is another strata of our society, where young guys are equating our society to West as if we have got the same problems and as if the women here are doing the same things Western women are doing and in all this, they project hatred toward us who have done nothing to them, pass sexist comments like women are dumb, go back to kitchen etc. So my question is to the guys here in the comment section: How do I survive in an environment where the guys start generalising everyone? And hate you and belittle you? I am honestly intimidated by how much hatred is only increasing against women among men and do not know how will I get to make my place in industry if everyone out there hated me just because of my gender. Also, during my first semester, one of the workshop instructors at my university remarked: "Larkion ka kaam wese bhi safai hota hai" which can be roughly translated to "Women are supposed to only do cleaning work". And I received it while I was clearing chips off the bed of milling machine. Before joining University, I was not aware of how much hatred my society had for women and yes, we are not much different from Afghanistan. Plus I am not a feminist at all. All I say is let us get an education, and let us enjoy life too. Cause they bar you from sports and literally every thing here. The existence for an average woman in Pakistan is mundane and miserable.

When he say: if a woman don't pay she wasn't taught right (the room in silence 🤐) if he doesn't pay he wasn't taught right (all the room "yeeeeah"). I can't believe that in 2022 women haven't understood human nature.

Being a woman I'm offended that they even had to ask such a question. Disgusting.

I think the bottom line is men don’t mind paying, but they don’t like to be exploited either, with that “you’re expected to pay” attitude.

He actually said he won’t date them if they don’t offer to pay the first time, not after 3-4mo but ite. Keep up the videos mane

The teammate / bestfriend analogy is on point. A lady has the right to be courted but let's not forget it's an old fashioned trope which used to also entail ownership of the woman by the man, so if you are a modern "independent", feminist woman, you can't really have both. You have to chose. No double standard.

As soon as he said "confident and self-respecting" guys feel taken advantage of if she doesn't try to contribute.....BOOM! His point landed like a ton of bricks! The type of men that women want most will walk away from them for the reason he stated. Awesome.