Great summary Sheila. I have also found that asking for frequent feedback and making changes based on it is a great way to get others to actually ask for feedback. I have experienced this in both my personal life with significant others and at work. People tend to be more open to what you think of them after you have opened yourself up to what they think of you. The bottom line result for me is I have been able to improve the quality of my relationships, personal and professional, by soliciting feedback and by influencing positive changes in others. I have also been able to improve the quality of my work. It all begins with wanting to be a better person. Asking for feedback is one sure-fire way to jumpstart that process. Attending courses like this and reading personal development books by authors who's work is based in scientific investigation is another. Thank you for this refreshing perspective on feedback.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:07 🗣️ Feedback conversations are often dreaded and dismissed, and the focus has traditionally been on teaching feedback givers how to give better feedback. 01:28 🧠 The real leverage is in teaching receivers how to process and make sense of feedback, regardless of the giver's authority or skill. 02:54 💡 Feedback sits at the intersection of two core human needs: the desire to learn and grow, and the need to be accepted and respected as we are. 03:51 🔄 Developing the skill of receiving feedback positively can lead to better performance at work, happier marriages, and more effective parenting by modeling how to respond to setbacks and criticism
"getting better at something is a key piece of what makes life satisfying" I constantly forget this, I've been a bit depressed today and I don't know why. Hearing that has given me a bit of direction and I'm excited to get back to productivity.
I honestly disagreed with everything you just said until you said getting better at receiving feedback is an essential thing in people's lives that was really the only logical statement you made, also when you said it is up to the receiver to get any benefit from the feedback, sorry left that one out but honestly they basically have the same meaning.
i agree that feedback conversations are important, but its also important to give feedback without belittling the other person. i don't mind feed back, but i have met people who give feedback and make you feel so horrible while there are others who teach you the same thing and you grow and learn without having to compromise your self confidence in what you are trying to learn.
Learning is a part of life and can be painful. Those that learn and seek to learn through feedback report higher satisfaction in work and tend to have stronger marriages. Always seek to learn and improve; it may be painful to learn and implement
I really like the sound of this course but I really find the "give your credit details and then cancel" subscription model objectionable, it is frustrating because I probably would subscribe, but not to someone using that tactic :-(
It matters; I don't have the time or interest to sit and name all right now, but academically speaking there are mountains of cross disciplinary research which completely prove the importance of delivery. I don't disagree that reception is the most fundamental part; to put all of the responsibility on the receiving end, however, when it is, after, all a transactional discussion, is remiss.
Although, in my opinion she started off boring and I instantly had a negative feedback (Wondering why it took so long to end). Anyway she was spot on the issue of marriage since most spouses are unwillingly to "listen."
Feedback is just a passive/aggressive buzzword. Closer to the actuality of what the American system wishes anyone to learn is, as you used at your essay's beginning, Persistence. Salesmanship- forcefully pushing one's own agenda, is the 'shame' of which we should not speak. Do not go to Wall Street or other 'halls of power' and utter 'feedback' aloud. You'll just be laughed at.
That is completely incorrect. I'm not saying that people have not used it that way, but that is not what feedback is. Sounds like maybe you worked corporate at a terrible place, which is sad. The issue that the speaker is talking about is that very mentality though. You can't see it that way or no matter how it's given, it will do you no good. She simply says that it's the onus of receiver to use it, it's not the responsibility of the giver to make it as nice as humanly possible. No one should be a dick, but no one should automatically be defensive about someone telling them how they can improve. Realistically, if you want to prosper at a given job, you need to work within the confines of how people want you to work at that job, any other expectation is unrealistic. Your environment does not adapt to you, you adapt to your environment.
