The Secret Method A Narcissist Uses To Manipulate You! 

My narcissistic ex is fighting for full custody even though I have my daughter most of the time. He’s very manipulative and tries to make me look like a bad parent any chance he gets. Last week when he had my daughter, he sent me a text asking me why our 1.5 yr old keeps saying “oh shit.” I was caught off guard and immediately texted him back that I had never heard her say it and that I don’t cuss. He had me questioning myself and had me feeling like a bad mother even though I know I didn’t teach her that. Today after I got off work, I picked her up from his house. He usually comes out to put her in my car and today he had a hard time opening the door of my car because of the wind and said “oh shit.” In front of my daughter. I very calmly brought it to his attention and he was left speechless. 😆 m

Your always right Anthony. You have to remove yourself and be completely critical in reacting without emotion. That is literally the only way you can save your poor exploited innocent children.

this happened to me and we had 13 children together. it wasn't until after the 13th child was born that i could see the pattern of abuse and when i began to speak the truth no one believed me. in the midst of a divorce now.

Helps a lot! When your chest is on fire from the pain and anxiety they have stirred up, you still have to take a deep breath and be aware of yourself so you don’t give them power against you !

She's come to a point of weaponizing my daughter. She also stopped giving currency the day our daughter was born. She also tries so hard to convince me that I'm manipulating and ruined her life. It's incredible the lack of empathy and or accountability that I witness on a daily basis.

They turn on a dime!

I am so tired of this, I don't know what to do

Absolutely solid RU-vid for us. Thank you! This truly has to take place behind the scenes while navigating court. Stay strong all and may peace light surround everyone seeing this. 🕊️

Thank you for breaking the whole sad thing down + explaining it so well.

My god....I subscribed to you over a month or so ago and have not yet watched anything until today. Mostly out of fear out of diggng myself out of the emotional hole that I end in from ANYTHING that has to do with her. This was so valid and to the point I already feel a bit of confidence...just to think someone actually gets whats happening. Sadly she has my 2 little girls, of 5 and 9, I am seeing the control and manipulation for ghe kids and her new husband. Please don't get me wrong I checked out of the relationship months before I ended it, now its a barrage of attacks against me publicly. I know who she really is, she fears my truths will expose her, in ghe last 18 months 8 calls to CPS, 2 arrests, she's sent a building inspector after me, and poisoned the family dog which my two littles love so much....just to hear how right you are helps tremendously. I am in a very small county everyone knows everyone and in the beginning of her campaign it was shock and disbelief for her accusations were well out of bounds for my character. She's done well to get to the judges lawyers police officers and paint a very ugly picture of me thats counter to my actions, which put me in a position to lose my kids, after she had 4 founded cases for abuse, after a leanders law dwi, after appearing in public intoxicated for years, with people in my network protecting her for my sake.....thank you for the post I will be following diligently and learning for I am now pro se.....I will need all the help I can get for this prolonged constant attack has broken me with both depression and anxiety to compound the problem further..thank you ty

Yes but they can manipulate and harm your children...

You are so dead on right now. I'm thinking back 9 years right now going WTF damn

Woah! That does make sense! Initially I got resistance however BIG TAKEAWAY from 5:10 in the video the distancing and stop engaging. Then shifting the lenses to observing the experience feeling or the thoughts going in the head is all from others (the kids father, society, family a.k.a conditioning) it’s not me - watching the river that I’m getting forced down. Detaching/ separating then knowing deeply no harm to my soul, no manipulation to the heart and in the mind. Catch myself, BREATH, and know it’s not me. All that has been said from the kids father, their friends, anyone and calm it down and let it go (don’t protect myself, not to bottle it up, not flight or fight). Acceptance. Grace and forgiving is for me. Thank you 🪴

You are so on top of this!!!. That's exactly what these folks do. It's so difficult for me wrap my brain around this typ of abuse and the planning and the lengths they will go to just to remain in control over someone is absolutely unimaginable!!! 😠.

SO good and right on the money. Thank you for doing this and the work you are doing. Almost 7 years in court with ex husband and I now see how in the end, his own word, actions and unhealed trauma will collapse his house of cards which was built on lies and manipulation of truth.

I want to get out of my relationship because I'm tired of her drug use and finding pills... when I say I'm leaving I get "oh so you're abandoning your daughter." Not even remotely it. I now need a lawyer.

Yeah. Ive been in a few situations like this with combative females (and others). In the last couple of days I have finally realised that I'm not the same.

I need to listen to this everyday!

I lost my 2 kids by parental alienation for running for our lives.....almost 2 years of abuse from their father, going back to court.....it's a very slow painful process where the crime must be committed and somehow documented before the law even considers abuse. Extremely difficult to prove covert abuse of street angels, house devils.

Been a while since you posted a video- hope you post more often- be well. Would love to see your take on the AH vs JD defamation case/ trial.

Thankyou for your advice, this was what my narc ex did he is extremely manipulative and controlling. I remember him doing things like this and giving bk again. I just couldn’t work out at the time what was going on with my mind, cried so much at times it’s like u loose yourself. So glad to be out of it even though he still hoovers ever so often. I’ve had to really fight hard to resist and keep strong. I have learnt to think it’s all a game he wants to play with me especially with my emotions. Will keep strong.

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I can not thank you enough for sharing this info!

That heat in your stomach, oh my gosh, spot on, I have court on Jan 17 2024 I’m in the fight of my life and I’m the one with evidence actual video and photographic evidence but my husband got the protective order ex parte here in va and I had to leave my home in ten minutes. He is a spoiled only child with rich parents that own our townhome and I’m the second WIFE that decided getting punched actually hurt, tired of being called a cunt in public and I took the step to leave, I did it the right way, I decided to leave and he realized this was no false alarm, he saw the filed paperwork for divorce. Three days ago he said he’s going to Costco, he instead went to court had a hearing alone, I was not present, and the next hour three cops told me to gather my things in ten minutes because I now had a protective order against me, I didn’t get to see my son, I slept in my car for two days and his rich parents hired a fancy lawyer. I have 11 days to defend myself in court. I need prayers advice anything . Thanks

Powerful metaphor using currency. I’m referring this today. Although I’m in Canada, perhaps the person will find help in your method. I learned something today, re: mindset kinda like to observe don’t absorb .

Yay! Another video. Please keep posting!

Pavlov......conditioned response

just had a judge brand new to bench fall for my ex lies. Turned in his DV history and she could care less. granted his move away.

See I have dates times of things that he has done the police station told me to journal everything the emotional physical and verbal abuse with no lawyer no clue what to say

Do attorneys who eventually want to fight/win in the long run actually exist? My g/f has been through four attorneys, each only wanting to do the bare minimum. The latest put on a good pitch at first but got cold feet a week before the final, then coerced us mid-hearing before any of our witnesses spoke that settling for no contact was the best option. We know fighting against liars takes a long time, many depositions and hearings. Dad hired a therapist for the kids who lied in court twice, with inconsistent testimony, yet our attorney gave up, without contesting any of this. Add to this an ad litem who put in roadblock after roadblock, and convinced everyone publicly that they care yet speaks a different tune in court. Nobody wants to fight her, not even this last attorney who said he would. How do we find an attorney who will actually fight the long haul? Who isn't buddy buddy with the opposing counsel or the corrupt ad litem? We live in an age where men get to increasingly take children away from their mothers, with no way to fight.

This Exley what has happened to me I am now waiting to go to court to see my little girl it's been 2 months now I have not see her but I got on the phone with in 3 days of not seeing her so I know I am doing the right thing and it's shows I want to see her asap and you explain me and my wife perfectly in this video lol one thing I have is a claim head and she don't thanks for the info

You are AWESOME. Thank you so much for your perspective. You’re so on point.

Love this. So helpful ❤

Beautifully said sir ❤

40 yrs here and filed in may. Our court aug10 zoom call mediation. Therapy diagnosed him can’t attach barriers to closeness dysfunction and when I filed he tried to guilt me by saying I have a nice house car eat great restaurant and can shop. I shop at goodwill. TJ Max So he said just accept him and love him for who he is. So on text I said I don’t know who you are. Who are you. He said I am not romantic no empathy and appear to be 2 people but I am not. I have this in text. No sex for 4 yrs. 3:10 pm.

Nice! The Tethered Soul!

Thank you !🙏💕

My wife went in for dvpo. I paid for the transcript and the judge told her what she wrote is not enough and coached her on what to say and re-wrote her statement. Then approved her dvpo is this legal?

Thank you!

How do I join your free seminar? please

Thank you

Do you work one on one with people by chance? I'd like some help...

What if they are able to manipulate the judge and other people that actually make the legal decisions in this way?

What if the narcassit purposely keep the children from you withought just cause so get you to react to using the children to hurt you

Put in another way. The chimp paradox. Get the audio book! The primal self (known as your chimp) the emotional self. and the rational self. The chimp MUST be excersized at some point. Make time for that. Dont push it down and let it go and never address those emotions. Or you'll be heading the right way for mental health issues. Just tell yourself you will unpack those emotions after or outside of those preceedings

The audio on this video is hard to hear the whole video😢

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Thank you!!