As a wife, I just want to co-sign on everything you are saying here. My hubby and I got married a little later in life- I was 40 and he was 48. We both had a broken one engagement before we met. Even though we were older when we tied the knot, we were able to have a baby pretty easily and now we are settled into life as a family of 3 (been married 5 years). I can honestly say, life has never been sweeter than it is right now. We get along beautifully, we fully support and trust each other and we have each other’s backs 100%. My husband is absolutely my hero and an amazing human being, hubby and father. I thank God for him every day and we’ve been so blessed in every way since we tied the knot- blessed with a child, blessed financially, blessed spiritually, etc. We put God at th head of everything in our household and we are so incredibly happy. I can’t imagine living any other way.
You better say that again and again and AGAIN!!!!! Myyyyy GOD that is sooooo very true but because of the LACK of CONSECRATION, there is NO CLARITY sad to say😢. Folk don't want to really CONSECRATE, ESPECIALLY IN PRAYER 🙏.
I’m getting married next Wednesday and this video truly touched my spirit. My fiancé helps me in ways she doesn’t even understand yet. I pray for decades and decades of everlasting love. I will be THAT man for her. She deserves it. Absolutely phenomenal message. I just subscribed because of it. GOD bless❤
Congratulations 🎉 & welcome to the club David🥳. You'll definitely be that man for her & for yourself dude maestro. Just keep God at the centre of your marriage, consult HIM ON EVERYTHING (I do mean everything 😂) and keep choosing each other everyday. Everything else will fall into place
I teach first grade for "at risk" children and these babies desperately need good male role models - most live with mamas with no daddy in their lives. We desperately need men to step up and care.
I'm Muslim and It's extremely difficult to put into words how much gratitude I feel towards God for making me stumble upon your videos. All humans crave companionship and marriage is the ultimate form of human bonding. I agree, when I first started getting to know my man all the childhood traumas (for him as well) started popping up and we both had to slay them one by one so we could be together in a healthy relationship. I learned to communicate, not be reactive and treat him with affection and respect. All of these things I didn't have growing up but I try my best to be better for him. I don't think I would've been able to do this alone because I can't be "refined" alone. I also now understand what Mr. Gaskins said about respecting people who are in long lasting happy marriages. It takes A LOT and it's extremely admirable. You wouldn't understand unless you tried being in one yourself. Thank you Mr. Gaskins may God bless you and your family.
+ What Mr. Gaskins mentioned about reasons why men might not get married at the begining is accurate. I have two elder brothers over 30 who don't want to get married because my father was absent and neglectful. My two younger brothers are the opposite one is engaged while the other is wife searching. Unfortunately, hurt men that didn't heal or don't care to heal will always view marriage negatively. Both elder brothers have ego issues, can't communicate, evade problems/responsibilities and misogynistic view towards woman.
It’s so true about what you said about your brothers which is so unfortunate I dated a man like that he had Father issues and you can clearly tell he didn’t wanna commit after being married twice due to his Daddy issues and it’s like Grow Up
Thank you brother Tony! Im new to your videos and I'm truly inspired as a 60 yr old man married for 35 years. I love being married to a woman of God who know she been called to be my help meet. We been through it all and we still believe in the power of 2 =1. I love what you're doing and love that you are acknowledging God In all your ways. I'm praying for you and I hope to cross your path. We are male by birth and become a man by choice.
You are my mentor Tony. I just turned 24 yo living in France and managed to get everything in order in my life and now it’s time to look for my partner. The only thing that I’m missing now, I know next year it will be resolved too.
Maybe you’d like to join Tiphani Montgomery’s ministry in their year of the bride fast. It’s not solely for brides but for the bride of Christ. If that interests you.
Mr. Gaskins, I’m 57yrs old and single. I have gone through disappointments with men whose mindsets were so far off target from establishing a marriage or even a relationship that honors God, themselves, women, and families. You are annoited to share this message please continue to sir. God bless you!
There are many, many men who are married and having signed a document did not make them responsible for anything, faithful or loyal to anyone, it did not make them better people, nor did it make them mature. Marriage for most men means nothing more than the perfect curtain to be more irresponsible, deceitful, liars, and to have someone to take out their frustrations of childhood and all their failed relationships on.
One of my favorite things about your content is its PRACTICALITY!!! It makes complete sense. It’s sad that there are people in so much darkness that they will argue for the senseless. Thanks so much for your guidance!
Some men don't need to marry and ruin a woman's life. The immature ..the abusive ..the selfish..the addict ..the playboy. Why would a woman want to marry a man like that ?
@AmericanDreamer this is why I say marriage is NOT for everyone ! Men with that level of issue do NOT need to be married. He will only ruin a woman's life and we don't discuss how marrying the WRONG person is ten times worse than just being single ! Some men and women should NOT ever marry period! 🙄
As a woman evolving, this video was golden. It makes me consider the type of husband I want. Even makes me consider the type of woman I am and desire to grow into.
Mannnnn, you know it’s a crazy world we living in when TG give a better sermon than 90% of pastors out here PLUS he really living it! I’m so thankful for you and your family and the example that you give to us! I appreciate y’all for real!
Hi, the things Tony talks about are in the Bible. He's only telling you all what God expects of us and if we don't abide by what God say, we will lose our lives. Everything that's going in in the world today is in the Bible. They are the signs that the Bible describes to let us know will happen and to let us know that it's getting ready for Jesus Christ and God's Angels to bring wrath on this earth where most people who are doing what God requires of us will lose their lives. Time is very close for Jesus to return. That's what Tony been telling people about their behavior.
Being single is not a sin or bad thing. Remember the apostle Paul spoke highly of singleness as a blessing. Just because a man is not married doesn't make him a bad man. However, like you said some men do have trauma from childhood. Toxic relationship with mom or no father to teach them how to be a husband and father. Black men also have to get their lust spirit under control and get out of that player mindset. They also need to work on the hatred that a lot of them have toward black women. That homosexuality spirit is a problem as well. That is part of the reason why alot of black women are not married. Great video as always..😉
Paul corrupted the teachings of Jesus. Qur'an 57:27 : _"Then in the footsteps of these ˹prophets˺, We sent Our messengers, and ˹after them˺ We sent Jesus, son of Mary, and granted him the Gospel, and instilled compassion and mercy into the hearts of his followers. As for monasticism, they made it up-We never ordained it for them-only seeking to please Allah, yet they did not ˹even˺ observe it strictly. So We rewarded those of them who were faithful. But most of them are rebellious."_ Apart from that, I agree with you 100%.
While I hear what you are saying about the importance of marriage and how it develops you as a person, I do not believe it is the place for you to develop but to “further develop” as a man or woman. I was married for 22 years and believe that my marriage ended in divorce because I nor my ex-husband were emotionally, mentally or spiritually prepared to be married, even as believers. The greatest mistake we make is to not “prepare”, believing that we can “repair” inside of the marriage.
You are speaking the truth! More men need to understand the favor that would come upon them if they would be faithful as a husband. If they understood the favor on their life that they would attain at that point, they would change their tune and reap the blessings and be content in marriage.
It’s sad you have to explain having sexual discipline to your own spouse. Cheating has gone too far and in my opinion women and men need to stop tolerating it. Once it happens, it’s over. Same with abuse.
I agree and as a man of faith if your a Christian correction follower of. Christ we should be the #1 champions of marriage no matter where the world is
I have been listening to his videos for awhile now and this is my favorite because of him saying he can do without sex for 30 days just talking to his wife, lots of men dont understand we women DNT want sex all the time so when you wait this long it's easier for you to be satisfied, I've always said it can't be abt sex because God forbid if one of you is not able to perform for whatever reason what will the other person do to out and be unfaithful saying I have needs as an excuse. GOD BLESS YOU MORE AND MORE AND YOUR WIFE ESPECIALLY BECAUSE YOU OBEY HIS WORD AND YOU ARE DOING HIS WILL
Needed to hear this Tony. Currently a college freshman-my dad isn't very present in my life, but you encourage me to be a better man with each post. You really bring into perspective the importance of marriage and the blessings that come from it. By the grace of God, I will be Godly husband one day. God bless you Tony, keep up the good work.
Tony you know what I’ve realized (because I was guilty of this myself) people want to know the secret but they don’t want to do the work. The work requires discipline and the sacrifice of studying to show themselves approved in an area that isn’t as ideal because you will need to sit with the Lord and have Him dig deep to heal us of our trauma and show us our wrongs to renew our hearts… .and THAT type work is unpopular and too hard for so many 😢
Wow. This is a very emotional video and I am a woman. This is a really holy spirit-led message that I pray every man will heed too. Women need men. Men need women. We need each other! I pray for all the single women of God who are still waiting for the king God has for them. Stay strong and hold on. God has not forgotten about you.
Very true words here. Words of wisdom - can personally attest to the discipline/ clarity given to me by Holy Spirit in the secret place. A single man right now, 30 yo, doing the work to find a wife - prayer, working/ saving, meeting and getting to know when women, and I'm confident the next level in my Godly manhood will be unlocked after marriage. Definitely more to still grow in my single state - constant growth. Appreciate this video, brother - gives me a glimpse into my specific calling
Keep teaching. What it boils down to is when women move accordingly and Understand the way of men, the men who do not fall in line will be left behind.
I been watching Tony since 2020 and never commented although I’m a 37 yr old woman this message really spoke to me because it’s so sad out here I always say this. I can’t wrap my head around it these men barely want to be in relationships let alone get married. He hit the nail on the head these men are greedy they want multiple women there’s so many factors and levels to this conversation.
Yes it is so many of them not all treat women as though we’re disposable like they can pick us up and put us down when they please. So afraid to commit to 1 woman as though their life is over and it’s all due to a lack of discipline it’s sad
Do you know how hard a man has to work to become top 1% in wealth, status, and attractiveness in this society? Let’s say hypothetical, that you are a “prize”. Well, are you a “prize” that is worth the effort he put in?
@@lionlikemessengeryup. She's a biologically enhanced helper and gestational transformar. No man has the levels a woman in love has to enhance his life.
@@lionlikemessengerdo you realise that all you mentioned has nothing to do with what you are on the inside? What your heart,mind and soul are like does matter to a woman. All you mentioned was about how the world sees you. Why is it about your money, attractiveness and status? What then would you be bringing to a relationship if you didn't have enough of these for the world to approve of you?
Amen! Testify, Tony! Blacks need to raise the standard. Stop looking to programs and people to lift you up. Look to God! Stand on the Word! Learn the Word! Claim the Word! Speak the Word over your life and your family!
Pastor Joseph Prince said something similar using the story of Joseph as an example. Joseph in the Bible didn't interpret other people's dreams in the Bible until he literally ran from sexual sin. The Bible doesn't talk about him being able to do that before. To confirm this, the Bible makes it clear in the story of Daniel and his friends that staying pure before God and staying in right standing before God opens the doors to favor and opportunities.
This message got me in tears. I've been divorced 6 year now. I pray often for the faithful man God has for me. Marriage is truly a beautiful thing and I would tell my ex husband alot, how there are special blessings attached to married couples who are aiming to a live it God's way❤
Thank you brother. I'm going through the purging after losing my wife 6 years; jumping to relationship to relationship. From May 2022, God been cleansing me. Yes, I got that spanking too. Your points is true; fruit of the spirit, controlling my emotions and feelings, and more. It's a battle, but I'm fighting to have another wife. I'm still serve God through this. I'm still going through the changes and Thank you brother God bless 🙌 🙏 ❤️
Tony, your wife hit the jackpot with you and vice-versa. I wish you could teach a class, if you have the time, to men who are vulnerable enough to glean from your example as a husband and father. We, women, need it! ❤
Tony when you said, I’m all the way in regarding your commitment to your wife. After pushing through with Skydiving. I felt the chilling unwavering conviction in your heart. Please know you are changing lives with your obedience and faithfulness to your calling. 🙏🙌
That shows you the amount of favor that will come upon a faithful man. I’m a living witness and this life is absolutely unbelievable, but God has it for everyone and is waiting on more faithful men!
Every man SHOULD be married but if you can’t control yourself and you’re not ready work on yourself before you come with your bull. It’s a lot of grown boys that get married because they just think they should and then destroy a woman and their family because they weren’t really in a place to take that step.
Beautiful message! especially that last part. It’s because of my great-grandfather (& he was adopted) that I am now able to work at a YMCA named in his honor. Glory be to God! throughout all generations forever & ever.
I'm 37 and unmarried. Not because that's what I planned to be but I was a late bloomer financially and if your finances aren't in order then marriage will be the last thing on your mind during that time period. Also, I'm the man who go after the women I want and not the women who want me. That's the biggest flaw I recently learned about myself.
Wow Tony going the distance with you wife is the most touching story I have ever heard! Blessing to you, your wife and your family!! I don't see bragging I see the feeling of folks have no understanding of the level of faithfulness and blessing that you have received! THE PEACE IN YOUR HEART IS UNDERSTOOD!!
At one time I hated Men. Thank you your videos have changed my view my life. I'm starting to heal. May God continue to Bless You. You are changing lives.
Tony, I think the word you are looking for is "ARRESTED DEVELOPMENT" I can say that because that's what I was. I was waiting for the train. You know the train with all the women on it. As long as I had money and was ready. The train never came at 25,35,45
"Walk heavy", TG, in your assignment. God designed this whole thing: the universe, man, woman, procreation 🍼. You're doing your part in the body of Christ to train, equip, and prepare people for successful life in the here and now & for eternity.
Dear Brother in Christ I respect what you are saying i'm a 32 year old single male. And i respect with what you say that you don't admire men who does his things on his own. Without a partner/wife. But i have the most respect for men who are bold enough to (trust) women and to marry them. But marriage and all the things that come with it as you describe is not for everyone Have a blessed day!
I’m a widow, and have done everything I know of to meet a consecrated man of God. God seems to be telling me “not now “ . But it gets really hard sometimes to trust His timing.
Tony you are on it‼️If we Seek ye first the Kingdom of Heaven and ALL things will be added. If we Allow the Holy Spirit to guide us we will see doors open that we’ve never imagined. I am walking this out now and I’m growing so much! Thank you Jesus🙌🏼🫶🏼♥️🙏
This is true. I know a woman who went out with a guy who could not phantom, not being physically intimate and be someone’s boyfriend. He couldn’t even give it a chance to see if she could be the woman of his dreams because he couldn’t get pass not having sex for any amount of time.
Omg Tony, this is so well need to be said to the males in this world. My son is a grown boy. He is so disrespectful to me and I have always been there until the time come where I can't take his behavior anymore. I have tried giving him advice on what way to go he would never listen. I took him back in when he was homeless and trying to give him advice on looking for a job that he keeps losing. He has disabilities that he had as a child and he became in denial once he graduated from high school that causes him to lose his jobs. He treats his so-called buddies with respect but disrespect me. I had to put him out for the last time and cut him out of my life. It had got so bad on how he was treating me that I almost forgot about my love for God and Jesus Christ. That's when I realized he had to get out of my life. I told him if I wouldn't go to jail for killing him, I would kill him I was so hurt by him. Then my brain snapped back and said get him out of my life for good because he wasn't worth me going to jail for. So, thank you for putting males on blast. It's so many grown boys in this world that I have deleted man from my vocabulary that I call them males.
It’s okay ladies give Tony some time l. To inspire some more men. And we will see more want to walk in a similar foot steps ! A community ! Black men need more community
This is definitely a word!!.. Thank you, Tony, for speaking Truth to power. In this world 🌎 today, we need to hear this 🙏🏾 🙌🏿 and implement it into our lives..
Sunday sermon is my favorite from you but it was a sermon in this message. TG you’re just a common sense specialist who views the world and people as what is it based on what you see. You have a Reality living mindset like myself. People are not worth getting rattled especially those who do not add to your life. Those who get it & know rock with it and those who will judge and crumble.
Oh Mr. Gaskins!! I wish I could feed this to my husband!!! He preaches the Bible and at the same time trying to convince me to embrace and incorporate his mistress in our marriage. Saying men in the Bible had both wives and concubines.
Tony, I'm speechless. You are a blessing to me. I share your intelligence with everyone I know. You are a blessing to me. I will continue to pray for Father God to bring my Boaz. Thank you for this encouraging message. To God be the glory.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
