Everyone should start here! What hit especially home was your discussion of renovating and the significant other. I renovated the kitchen of our 1896 Queen Anne in a suburb of Boston. The entire house needed work, but the kitchen was the second one I designed and I had a good idea of what I wanted and what to expect. I compromised a great deal with my then-husband, but did get the wall oven/cook top and the bigger window. My ex specialized in buying houses that needed updating, and then putting them up for sale when the work was done (without my buy-in beforehand). I lived in a "mess-in-progress" for 20 years, only to have to say "goodbye" to my kitchens. This time, things will be different. I'm happily divorced, and I'm planning my final kitchen. I am chef and pastry chef, and I'm designing a hard-working efficient kitchen. This design will be my last, and I won't be working for my dream, only to have to say goodbye.