I tried a few of these techniques too. Now Ryan Reynolds gin company is on fire and Ricky Gervais is using my naked body as a lamp shade. Baby steps guys. And positive affirmations.
That only applies if your type of fun is deemed acceptable by the NPCs. It’s an uphill battle because npcs are rotten stuck up white knighting easily offended pricks and they are the majority. There’s a reason why most of the coolest or most genius people have struggled to be accepted by the zombies.
Wrong, some people think they are funny and having fun themselves while they are either being rude or not funny even though they have fun making a joke
@@turonturon8301 I think the point they’re making is that your sense of humour should be true to yourself, and not using another person’s brand of comedy or being someone you’re not, whilst also appealing to the people you’re with
@@littlevoice_11 Ahh, I wish..that’s a beautiful thought, truly. but we need to account for the fact that all laughs are not elicited by making others/to make others feel better. It doesn’t address the fact that some people are not well meaning. So perhaps it might be better to say something along the lines of.. imagine how nice the world would be if everyone’s daily goal was to ease someone else’s suffering.. just as nice, just as thoughtful, but perhaps less loopholes when it comes to trying to create utopia 🙂
A good tip I’ve learned is that if you are too self deprecating people look at you like you have image problems, but if you only get a laugh at someone else’s expense you look like a jerk. Keep an even value for both of these jokes and you will be seen as funny.
The video brings it well, make fun of things about yourself or others that you're not super insecure about. And when making fun of others, make sure you pick someone of equal (or higher) social status than you, and not beating down.
I agree. As I am shorter than the average man (but still taller than Michael J Fox!), I often use this a humour. However, I have been told that it may come across as insecurity. So, I try for balance.
Avoid jokes at anyone’s expense. Just because it is funny coming from an actor in a film or a comedian does not mean it is funny coming from people you encounter in life.
@@SM-bm6jo That's usually what I do. My jokes are either self-deprecating or talking about something in a humorous way. I don't target other people on a personal level, because I want them to laugh and feel better, not feel bad while thinking they have to laugh to keep up a certain appearance.
Was just in a conversation with my crush she asked me a question and I took about two minutes to fully analyze the complete funny answer that would surely make her laugh, unfortunately I didn't get a chance to tell her because she walked away later saying how "She got uncomfortable being stared at dead in the eyes for 2 minutes while I said nothing and breathed deeply" hm weird
As someone who has been doing this for the past year, it has done miracles. While I haven't become a world-famous actor like Ryan, I have become more interesting to people in my social circles. There were some other changes as well I had to do to achieve that, but I have noticed that people invite me to hang out much more often.
@@vikrantdeshmukh1944 I stopped being to self-centered and started carring about other peoples opinions. Started working out, which resulted in both loss of weight and higher self-esteem. Tried being more outgoing and trying new things. The main thing was that I tried to be as positive as possible. After Covid, I realised things can (almost) always be worse, so I grew to appreciate what I have. Oh, and I stopped trying to pretend that I was edgy. Now I cringe when I remember those days 😅
@User 1234 As an introvert, it can be challenging to feel confident and interesting in social situations. However, there are several ways you can work on improving your social skills and be more engaging in group settings: Look for topics or activities that you and your group members are interested in. This could be anything from sports to movies, or even food. If you share common interests, it's easier to engage in conversations and activities. For my group, we discovered that only half of us enjoy going to the club, but everyone enjoys a good game of Monopoly. So now, games like Monopoly and Uno are quite common during our group meetings. Even if your interests don't align with your group members, it's still worth sharing your passions. Talk about what you love and why you find it interesting. You might be surprised by how receptive others are to your enthusiasm. Again, the Monopoly example. Turns out, all of us were interested in it, but nobody decided to ask because they were afraid of rejection. Luckily, we had one common friend recommend It to us. If you're not sure what to say, ask questions. People love talking about themselves, and it's an excellent way to get to know others. Ask about their hobbies, interests, and experiences. This is also a great way to start a conversation. I always ask my friends how they are doing. The key is to be genuenly interested. People can sense if you don't really care. Pay attention to what others are saying, and show an interest in their stories. Ask follow-up questions and provide feedback. Active listening is an essential skill for building relationships. If your conversation becomes only questions and answers, then it feels like an interview. Maybe you have a story that relates to your conversation. If your friend did something that made him feel proud congratulate him. If you are talking about your dream vacation, be open and involved. Show that you care. Don't try to be someone you're not. Embrace your personality and quirks, and others will appreciate your authenticity. This is THE most important thing. If you need to pretend that you are someone you actually aren't, you won't have any fun. Surrounf yourself by people that know you, and that appreciate you for who you truly are. Remember, being interesting isn't about being the life of the party. It's about being yourself, engaging in conversations and activities that you enjoy, and building genuine connections with others. Changes don't happen overnight. They take time. For me, it took years before I noticed real changes. What's important is to remain steadfast on your path, and to know what your desired result looks like.
I think it's key to not focus on awkwardness at all. Sometimes a joke doesn't land, but this doesn't resonate with all the times when it does. Don't take life and yourself too serious! Love the content from this channel BTW! 🙏
Key Moments 1:23 Try a 1 second pause hence they complete the joke in their mind 2:40 Ask yourself what is the most absurd thing you can say [ surprise your listener] 3:30 go-to-jokes = re=use jokes
4:05 When people don't laugh at my jokes I do this smiling half shrug and say "well I thought it was funny" even if the joke was a complete miss, it removes all the awkwardness. Or it just makes them laugh anyway
But you cannot speak for how others feel about your bombs. It really depends on many things. Every situation is different. Some people are not funny yet they make jokes. It doesn’t improve things. It makes them worse. You don’t have to make jokes. There are many ways to be fun and interesting to people. More important is just don’t be a buzz kill sucking the life out of everything.
@@SM-bm6jo I never feel obligated to make jokes but I want to blow the conversation wide open for when I'm not funny. There aren't many ways to do that but I find it important. My jokes land 99% of the time though but those 1% are the most important and that's why I use that line. Saying nothing will leave the awkwardness which is unnecessary
On the point about trying jokes, even if they don't land, people will quickly forget the ones that don't land if you just move on. So if you say three jokes and people only laugh at one of them, they will still think you are a funnier person than the person who makes no joke at all.
More important is recognizing you are not a professional comedian who has tested, reworked and perfected material all year before that appearance on The Tonight Show. You don’t have to make any jokes to be interesting, kind, interested in people and life. I’d rather spend time with the latter than someone who is funny 1 out of 3 times.
My English teacher was a linguist in the military and he did this to us first day of class. He invoked in pretty much the whole class a specific thought then taught us how to use alot of these tactics in debates to win arguments. Good stuff
I laughed at 4:35 while trying to think if "a puppet" is a legal classification of anything. For example, does one need a license to own and operate a puppet? 😂
What are some gym hacks? Banana and Black coffee works amazing as pre-workout fuel Include compound exercises in your daily routine to increase your strength and endurance Deadlift is the king of exercises Follow a consistent workout routine, but change it in 3-4 months time Go to gym during off-peak hours Learn resistance training Find a workout buddy (works for some) Have a target set on your mind Keep gym clothes separate and don’t mix with casual wears Don’t buy sugary drinks as your go to drink during workouts Create your gym playlist and if needed, ask your friends to contribute to the playlist Take a shower after your workout Don’t eat junk food after the workout because you’ve burned few calories Don’t workout on the same muscle every single day, muscle needs recovery time Stay hydrated Hope this helps. :) ++
I think most of your analysis only relies on the star performers whom the people have already come to listen. But the real world scenarios are different, nobody is waiting and patient enough to listen you. So it makes this necessary to be spot on in the first go, i.e., when nobody's actually waiting or even expecting you to speak up.
I like to use a joke when someone asks me what I do for a living. I say "I'm a stripper the love handles really drive the girls crazy." It draws attention to the fact that I'm comfortable enough to comment on my weight in a fun way as well as making them laugh.
Great video! I wonder how many of the examples here are biased toward to fact that they took place on a tv show where the expectation to laugh is much higher. Regardless, I'll be trying more of this!
Usually when my joke bombs, I sincerely ask to let me try that again and tell it differently for sure it will bomb again. Then I say welp we'll find it eventually, usually this gets a laugh. However, if the conversation continues and goes another direction, I try to relink my first joke attempt to that new conversation. You already created a story of relevance within the interaction returning to the familiar. The worst way this can fail is they laugh at all your failed attempts but since you orchestrated it, it will come out as you are making fun of yourself. However, in most cases relinking the first joke to another conversation creates a fun story telling technique and makes everyone feel involved.
What are some activities that can help to build confidence in life? 1. Do something you enjoy 2. Walk tall, smile, and look others in the eyes. 3. Each day, create one small task to stretch beyond your comfort zone. 4. Do something unexpected on purpose to let go of your inhibitions. 5. Seek out uncomfortable situations to help you grow. 6. Create a good self-image 7. Be positive 8. Speak slowly and distinctly. 9. Study your expertise daily 10. Achieve small, easy-to-attain goals to help you feel successful. 11. Change one small habit daily 12. At the end of the day, write down five things you are grateful for. 13. Declutter your living and work space. 14. Exercise regularly 15. Try a new path. 16. Be nice to others. For more reading: Stay positive and be happy
I've said things where people roll their eyes at me and other jokes where the couldn't control their laughter. You just say it and who cares if they like it or not
Anecdotally. very funny people often seem to have developed their skills during a childhood where they found that humor was the best way to defend themselves.
Quite the opposite, actually. People are funny because they know what most people respond to, and then they practice. Every day. Everyone can be funnier. It's one of the great equalizers.
Here's the problem I have with this- I watched the first four minutes and found none of it remotely funny. I always see people laughing at unfunny jokes only because the unfunny jokester laughs at his unfunny joke first. I refuse to laugh for that reason. And more and more I think these late night shows are just actors creating this type of scenario and tricking the audience into thinking they're watching something entertaining.
Humor is subjective, but to be funny one just has to know what most people respond to and give it to them, even if it is not your personal taste. Cheers!
What advice would you give yourself 10 years ago? 1. The idea is to die young as late as possible. 2. Nothing makes a man so adventurous as an empty pocket. 3. Losing an illusion makes you wiser than finding a truth. 4. Pain is weakness leaving the body. 5. Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. 6. Every experience, no battle how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind. 7. Stop trying to force it. When it’s the time for it to happen, it will. 8. To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom. 9. As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. 10. Jump, and you will find out how to unfold your wings as you fall. Give me an upvote if you feel the same.
First of all: amazing as always. I've got two characters breakdown propositions for You guys: 1. Harry Bosch (Bosch tv series) 2. Cory Ellison (The Morning Show).
This is interesting however, although some jokes can be easy to learn, being funny isn't really something that you can just show to people and then expect them to be able to replicate it. Comedy is so much more than simple jokes. There are things like timing, setup, gauging your audience, etc. When you're actually trying to be a comedian after receiving some instruction like this video can provide, most of the time everyone else is laughing, you hope, while you're working. That work can be quite taxing and may require serious concentration and technical expertise. That really isn't fun for the performer. If you are naturally funny it's a gift. One that does require a certain amount of structure but in general, you're having a good time while you are just being you trying to make people laugh, which is a very good goal is have. Good luck to all who want to give it a try. You have my admiration and well wishes.
Rule 1 to being funny: Be very attractive. Rule 2 to being funny: Don't be ugly. Ugly dude makes a joke sort of funny. Ryan Reynolds makes a joke hilarious.
These jokes are not “easy” they are personality traits. To be sarcastic takes a very specific level of both practical intelligence and social intelligence which you can’t just take a course to learn. Sarcasm (dry humor) has nothing to do with charisma so if you think that course will get you the ability to do so you are a fool.
How do people even come up with ridiculous mental images in the first place? Like where do they reside in the brain, because I apparently do not have those particular brain cells.
Wow I didn’t realize how many examples are UK. They’re all characters that are popular in the US, but it makes me wonder why there is so much charismatic attraction to these people. Is the accent helping? Is the different culture helping them somehow?
UK talk shows are longer format than the 4-6 minute interviews US late shows. And they are more conversational and improv-based than the scripted spiels the actors say in the US shows. The UK shows allow more of someone's personality, and therefore charisma, to come through. They also do more group interviews, like Graham Norton, so we see more of actors riffing off each other than we'd ever see in the US.
I'm not quick witted enough to use any of these in the moment . - Instead now I have more fuel to hit me 1 hour later, when I'm already walking home, to feel bad.
Love your channel. I was going to check out Charisma University but this whole thing of just having testimonials to show how good it is, is just a red flag to me. I want to be able to know very specifically what it is I am buying. Are there any links for something like that?
Would like a video on how to handle people who constantly interrupt or interrupt in an attempt to finish my sentence for me, especially if I pause for a second to find the right word. It drives me nuts and usually ruins the "one second pause before the punchline" because it screws up the timing, which is everything with humour. The worst is when I pause before the punchline and someone tries to be funny with the wrong (IMO less funny) punchline and the whole set-up gets deflated. In other words how do I tell someone in front of other people to "LET ME FINISH" without shouting let me finish when they interrupt or talk over me?
you can use your body language to specify that you are not finished, like 1. holding a an index finger and waiting for everyone to focus on it and then bringing it down when you are finished. 2. or double-down on the joke by repeating the line said by the person in a funny way which makes sure that you are not joking on their expense but also lets them know not to interrupt them in future.
You probably sound like you are trailing off. Try saying you last few words louder right before the pause. People will probably realize your thought is not over yet. Cheers!
Hello Ivan, I have been a follower and a binge-watcher of your channel for quite some time. I have used your videos many times in the past in our workshops and classrooms as well. I have written you a mail. Look forward to hearing back from you. I will keep coming back to these insightful videos in the meanwhile.
Reading through the comments, I see quite a few where people are sharing the things they do, many of which go against the advice in the video. I have a few thoughts...just my opinion... Not everyone can pull off the same joke or action. What works for one may not work for another, for various reasons. The audience matters as well. A final thought on this: "Stealing" someone else's material (whether the joke itself, the pattern, a facial expression, w/e) can be seen as extremely bad form. People tend to be polite (or at least they should). Anyone who has difficulty discerning between genuine laughter & other types (polite, awkward, forced, etc) may want to look into ways to enhance their skill or to compensate. Anyone who ranks above their audience (a boss, elder, more popular person, etc) rarely should assume that they can "always tell" when someone's being fake. Another common situation is trying to spare someone's feelings, pretending they're funny or have "made a good save" after a bombed joke. ...or they just may desperately want it to be over. Acting sheepish & apologetic, getting the sympathy laugh or a kind smile is rarely the best goal to pursue. Perhaps let it go, switch the focus, allow/encourage someone else into the spotlight to move things along? I'm sure this channel (& others) have better ideas than mine. Not everyone likes extreme humor. Not everyone likes all types of humor. Not everyone likes your type of humor. Know what kind of humor they like? THEIR type of humor. The kinds that make them laugh (when others besides you deliver them). Uncomfortable laughter can easily get TOO uncomfortable. Might want to read the room when dragging out the oooo stinky & naughty naughty jokes, slapstick, or the snooty pretentious stuff...or anything controversial &/or wherein you're being a jackass to someone else. Watch for body language, stolen glances, wry smiles, side conversations....& know who you can trust to truthfully, but kindly, lyk what's not working as well as you might have hoped. If there isn't someone, perhaps spend some social time looking for people who'll not just support, but appreciate you ☮
Honestly, I can pull this off np, but how are people that are shy or insecure going to able to do this? Does it not incolve a certain "status" in a "known" group? (I wont do if I am in a new group of people)
Honestly, when your goto jokes are puns as corny as farmers markets in Iowa, you get used to people not laughing pretty quick. But it's a great skill to work on for state breaks.
