@taasmr4203 bro this video is for men.. I highly doubt many women are listening to this. Plus us men do the same thing but with toxic narcissistic attractive women.
Whatever reasons other men have, I just want a woman who, coming home to her is better than coming home to silence and solitude. Until I find that, I will be happy to stay single.
I’m with you there! I’m 49 and honestly it’s just my mom and me. My aunt and uncle move down south several years ago and my brother and his wife moved over seas in 2016. Not to sound grim, but when my mom is gone it’s just going to be me and I really don’t want to come home to an empty house. I’ve never really had luck with women so that makes it worse.
I’m 41 and currently single, never married. Just haven’t found the one yet. There are pros and cons to being single. Being I’m 5’7 and was consistently rated a 3/10 on Photofeeler, women aren’t exactly throwing themselves at me, despite a hamster wheel of self-improvement. I’m just focusing on getting my money up, stacking precious metals, crypto, etc.
Notice how Courtney never addresses many of the unrealistic standards women impose upon men in a general sense. Throughout her entire video, she places the problem which has lead to many men staying single squarely on men, and her solution is not to address occasional culpability with women, but to lecture men on "improving" themselves as if (as usual) personal male inadequacy lay at the heart of the issue. Courtney also fails to address that many men are remaining single by choice. And this is obviously incomprehensible to her, because like most women considered attractive, she believes all men in the general sense exist under a mindless pursuit of romantic or physical relationships with women, so much so, that women can treat men abusively and no man will ever simply cease pursuing that woman. If you beat a dog enough times, you don't blame the dog and lecture the dog to somehow be a better dog.
I gave up trying to date end of 2011. I got tired of mass rejections, serial daters and so on. Also depends on where you live that holds many factors. The most amusing thing I see on the dating apps where she wants a man +/- 3 years of her age. CR, thank you for for all your wonderful videos.
I think men stay single because none of their relationships lasted. The older they got, they concurred it was all a waste of time and money. The next relationship will be no different (just a different woman). And, you have to date a lot of women to find one that isn't using you for money, time, status and resources. Only to find the same thing most likely will happen anyway. You started out paying for everything and it ended with you paying for everything (winning). Then your told your the common denominator, your picker is broken, something is wrong with you. So men have simply stopped looking for relationships. Odds are she's leaving anyway at some point. Save your time and money or eventually meet the government.
Hi Courtney thanks as always. I would say I am mix of being rejected in the past, shy, lack in social awareness, focusing on on one person (moving away from this finally) and lacking in self belief. So, maybe not ready to get back in to dating yet. Thanks, Neil.
So im prioritzing my career and my physicsl fitness.. after being with a women for 5.5 years and marrying her, 34 days into marriage her leaving me, having another man in my home that I bought before knowing her, and finding out that shes pregnant with his child while also now battling her in court because she wants half and is basically trying to get me to pay for a child that is not mine as the times don't line up at all, we last slept together in October, she became pregnant in january/early February, I'm not dating for a long time, if ever. I have found great peace alone and honestly, too many women are like this, yes not all, but too many, and it's not worth the risk. I'm in better shape, making more money, got promoted, yes I have no active sex life etc by choice, and that's okay. I was a good partner to her, paid all the bills, majority of the cooking, cleaning, let her live in my home, helped her upgrade her education which allowed her to make more money, never yelled, or screamed at her, no abuse. We didn't have a fight for 3 years. I'd rather grow as a person on my own now. Nobody is worth the risk of destroying my peace. Marriage is a joke in today's society, and needless to say, I'm very untrusting now.
I busted my ass from 18 to 32 to "make it" and now I'm expected to take the same women/type of woman seriously who wouldn't give me the time of day 5 or 10 years ago? Yeah, no thanks!
Yeah, I think that realization is the worst. I think men do NEED women... but typically when they're trying to build themselves up. That kind of support can be invaluable... And I think most men that had that support are willing to share their successes with that woman that got them through the dark times (I suppose, in that way, many women need men). But if they weren't there for you, I have a hard time with that. Kind of the same with old friends. I make new friends from time to time, and they're fine... but the guys that have been with me for decades hold a really special place in my heart. I'll go to mat for them, but not necessarily "the fun new person" I just met a year or two ago.
Do what I did and just have fun with them, just don't commit. The most sex and fun and good food happens when the woman is trying to get you to commit. Just date one after the other and enjoy different women. Yeah they get mad when you break up with them but so what.
I agree with this sentiment. I didn't go from an overnight Walmart stocker to a senior analyst to suddenly become appealing to someone that didn't know I existed. I can self reflect however and think about and see the growth over said journey. I am a much better, more appealing man than I was in 2014. But the first sentiment still stands.
I think humans in general adapt to the situations we find ourselves in. I was shy, socially awkward, and fearful to approach women in college, and they also saw my defects. So I never dated until my 30s, and by then I was only drawn to toxic women who destroyed me emotionally. I was sexually frustrated for decades, but all anyone ever told me was I needed God not a relationship. While I understand that from a theological perspective as being correct the lack of compassion and empathy was overwhelming. I no longer care to try anymore, and my genitourinary system no longer functions (which helps me). I am trying to repair my relationship with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ! But the pain is real and I am struggling not to withdraw emotionally from everyone!
My middle son just turned 19 and has no interest in dating. He has watched his father and most of the older men he knows get drug through a divorce. He sees the young women on social media and observed their behavior. He watched his sister divorce a young man after one year. The list goes on and on. I can hardly blame his hesitation. The culture is a shit show.
@Swearengen1980 Most of the men they know have been taken to divorce by women they know. Are you saying there is no risk or that a 19 year old male can't see the risk in this "Me Too" "Believe all Women" culture. Are you this naive? Or just desperately simping for the liberal ladies who make up the majority of females? 🙄
Watching millions of men get systemically tortured by women in court left me with a bad impression of women. Whatever Courtney says, that is 100 percent women's fault.
dont wast time on her answer about discuss above. She did the same to me on another video, and when I wrote back, she deleated it. Courtney is the most false
No, it's individuals who give you a negative impression of a whole gender. Whether men or women, people aren't all the same, and it's neither healthy nor mature to assume they are based on very limited personal experience.
I’ve found even in my 50’s that many women still have the accountability of a child. You can talk about self improvement or shyness or whatever else you want but the fact of the matter is modern women have changed, they expect us to work 5x harder than our grandfathers did to get a woman that is 1/10th the caliber of woman our grandmothers were. And most of us simply said “no thanks”.
I’ve found that being a man who’s “made it” in life that being single is easier. The main problem I run into with dating is this simple question. Does she actually like me or is she just trying to get me to be a provider for her?
Your simple question has a simple answer........ she's looking for a provider. It'll vary from woman to woman like blatant golddigger to a lovey-dovey wolf-in-sheep's-clothing and everything in between. Understand Briffault's Law and the term HYPERGAMY and you'll see this is how women are wired on a primal level. Briffaut's Law and hypergamy were terms used regularly during the early days of MGTOW and the internet. The content was much deeper back then, but the premise hasn't changed. Feminism, etc didn't help women....It EXPLAINED them. All of this has pretty much nuked the nuclear family and absolutely NONE of it came about by accident or chance. Welcome to the New World Order.
It all equate to the same thing. If you are self made and married, provider is the word, if you are not married and self made and planning to marry, provider is also the word.
Honestly, the reason is we’re scared. Scared to lose confidence, scared to be falsely accused of things, scared of trying to be nice and we get called out for being “creepy” for trying to ask someone out.
Agree with all your points, Tony. Also society and the media have made sex all about the woman's orgasm and nothing else. I'm "supposed to know everything" and "do everything" to that end or be judged swiftly and harshly. This is a big reason massage parlors are thriving like never before for average income men, and escorts for rich/wealthy men.
They love that word "creepy," don't they? Of course, the current occupant of the White House use to take his cloths off and jump into the shower with his 13-year-old-daughter, but that didn't stop these stupid feminist clucks from voting for him. Total hypocrites!
I think fear is a large aspect of it. Fear of not just rejection but having your reputation totally ruined over something that is false. Fear of not being good enough no matter how hard you try. Etc
I simply enjoy being single, mainly because of the freedom to do what I want and when I want. I can go to the restaurants, movies, hobbies, activities, and travel destinations I want without criticisms or distractions. Kind of nice. 😊
I agree it’s great to be single, I’m just really uncertain we were designed this way. I think the world in 2023 is a new way of living, perhaps the court system s & pressure on men is far too much nowadays. There’s nothing romantic about the reality of today.
As long as you got some guys to hang out with, your family to visit, then staying single is the best thing for most men in this current modern generation. Once modern women finally get it, then I'm sure the world will go back to normal. Until then, let the women vent and sort out their issues. No hate against women, but they need to learn the hard way.
4 years ago I came home from work to find that my fiance and daughter had moved out. It was like getting hit by a bus. 3 weeks later my daughter came over for Father's day and told me she didn't want to live with her mom and her new boyfriend. I then got custody of my daughter, focused on work and I became a supervisor for a great company. In those 4 years I didn't date, I didn't do much besides work and raise my daughter. When 2023 came around I told myself I didn't want to be alone, but I didn't want to be in another toxic relationship. I joined some dating apps and realized that dating and women in general were not the same as 20 years ago. So I had a few terrible dates and was starting to wonder if I was just going to have to accept I'll be single for the rest of my life. Then I got a message from a lady who seemed to have her shit together and was "normal"! I was concerned at first because I'm in Wisconsin and she's in Illinois. After the first date, I knew she was different...in a good way! We've now been together for 4 months and the 40 minute drive is well worth it! She met my oldest daughter and granddaughter last weekend and they gave their approval! This 4th of July she will be meeting my youngest daughter! I'm nervous about it, but my daughter is the one pushing to meet her! She said she wants to meet the lady who's making me a better person and a better dad. Bottom line...don't give up! Yes I was hurt by women in the past, but I do not judge other women by what my ex did. Time heals and gives you the opportunity to make yourself a better person. Don't give up just because you've had bad experiences. Learn from it. Courtney, your an amazing woman and give great advice to people who need it. Thanks for all you do!😉
I was married for 17 years, and have been divorced for over 10. I know that it's more a situation that I haven't met my someone yet, vs I'm going to be single forever. Reading your story cements that thought for me. Thank you.
glad you landed a winner, it's rare, believe me -- at 67 I quit 20 yrs. ago, now almost a millionaire, yeah it's lonely at times, but I don't regret having a peaceful, drama free life, dating is risky today for men esp. if you're a target for golddiggers or scammers, I handled divorce cases as a paralegal, that really was an education in female behavior, the best women I met for marriage or LTR were over 40 yrs. ago, I wasn't ready then, now it's too late -- case closed
@@IamdeaththedestroyerofWorlds My wife is Japanese. I know guys who have married Thais, Vietnamese, Chinese, Korean, and Singaporean women. My sister-in-law is Polish.
I've been single throughout my 20s, have negative experiences with toxic women, focusing on myself and more introverted/lack of social skills. My generation messed up the dating game, women shaming men for being who they are, wearing 304 badge and acting like men. All of that is why I'm single
Actually our generation didnt ruin anything bro, the system became more corrupt ruining the boomers, which ruined the millennials along with the streamlining of the internet which ruined generation z worse and so on and so forth, stop blaming the people nobody wants to live this way its the system thats corrupt until all the cattle realizes this it will continue then yes if everybody thought for themselves they would have no body to blame.
Went to the gym, tried to be better, to be noticed. Took all the dating coach advice, went out, I even lived in San Francisco....my own place. Had hobbies, college education....not super high income but above average. I speak a foreign language. Basic fashion sense. Yes, I bathe......and in the end....I turned 40. Still deemed by women as "a great guy but..." and dating sites I got no replies. Also witnessed first hand a gazillion times the gal choosing the drug dealer, the thug, the cheater, the first class a-hole. They went by looks only. Hopeless for most men and at 40....was entering middle age. It was just time to end the pain. Hit the shower and get on. If women just told men "we want only hot men" it would end the confusion, and women would lose the right to complain. No, they will never do that. They will still peddle the sisterhood lie that "they like men who are confident, friendly and thoughtful, and looks never never matter to them"
3 minutes into this video, men are single because men have to improve on this and that and have to get therapy. Uhh if I want to do those things I am doing it for myself definitely not on creatures that can't be satisfied anyway.
After some bad experiences, I find it difficult to trust anyone. My last girlfriend told me she loved and cared about me deeply throughout the day for over a year, then straight up dumped me out of nowhere with a lousy scrambled explanation, then ghosted me. She literally cried in my arms days before telling me how thankful she is for having me and all the great memories we've made and will continue to make. I treated her like gold. Never argued, cursed, raised my voice, cheated, manipulated, assaulted, begged or forced intimacy. I bought her gifts, paid for 90% of dates, praised her, and complimented her constantly. What hurt me the most, and how I know it really is over is that she didn't even bother checking on me on the anniversary of my mother's death, and she knows that I struggle with alcohol addiction. It amazes me how someone can literally go from lovey dovey texts/calls throughout the day for a year to complete silence like turning off a light.
I had this experience. I thought it was a great relationship, but was broke up with the woman saying this, "There's no issue with you or our relationship, but it just doesn't feel right." So I can have my feelings disregarded because a woman is just questioning her feelings? It's going on 10 years I've been single. I've tried to have girlfriends, but it's just not worth playing with my emotions.
@@brianwaller7383 And when you prove them wrong, they just stare at you and throw out an insult or ghost you. But God forbid a man does that to them...
I've been divorced for 29 years. Haven't dated much since then. I was MGTOW before it even had a name. Nothing wrong with going at life alone. You are 100% in charge of your own happiness. No more placing emotions and trust in a person that lives by emotions, feelings, and hormones. All these can change daily. Stay strong and on your purpose. Remember ever woman wants a good man until, that man requires her to be a better woman.
MGTOW is pure cringe as all hell, thanks to my interests (and using youtube to basically reorient myself on modern dating, this was not a fruitful endeavor) I've had the same toxic shit ran across my screen again as the same dumb shit I saw 10 years ago only now I know what mgtow actually stands for, and I still think it's stupid. Basically anything you try and make into a movement or idpol is stupid and cringe in my book. It always is, and it always attracts the worst sort of clowns and toxic narcissists into it. The only primary thing I've even changed my mind on in the last 15 years is I am a lot more cynical about love and relationships, and I now also agree that tattoos are a really bad red flag but I'm getting used to seeing so many people have them. So I can't just judge someone based on if they did a tattoo or not, it's just in that particular instance I didn't know how good I had it until I started dealing with intoxicated relationships and tattoos. I don't like admitting it because I still mostly think well of these people, it's just that those relationships were a shitshow and it's changed my mind into thinking if a woman has tattoos it's a bad sign. I'm way more leery of people now and fundamentally less willing to waste my life just "giving somebody a chance." If you're white the answer is no. You got three and a half decades worth of chances from me, you're done. I will not settle for anything less than at least being annoyed and disappointed in another language.
My take is simply that solitude is addicting. I just come home to peace and do what I want. My dating experience has been pretty bad, and I've decided to take some me time. I don't know if I will be dating again. I turn 38 in a couple of weeks, and I really don't want to bother anymore. I'd rather be financially free and alone than take the risk of marriage. I wish the women well in life, but social media has changed relationships permanently. There is no going back.
I had a girl staring at me at the gym. Her head was turned ninety degrees staring for five seconds. She did it three times so I asked her name and she Ran Away! I got 12 matches on tinder and everyone ghosted me after a few days of great convo. I give up.
Take the lead and set up the date soon. Why are you having a few days of great convo? They’ll either agree to the date or they’ll flake out and disappear, but at least you’ll know early in the interaction if they’re worth your time.
@@banginbadger75 Oh right women do that edit actually wait what the fuck Hey how do you even tell the difference if people are scared to talk to you because you're "creepy" scared to talk to you because you're unapproachable or scared to talk because you're really good looking? Is there a, like look to the eye or something? ...I sadly need to know this and I don't
I’m a 27 year old mechanical engineer. Very physically fit. Outgoing, friendly personality. Great job making 6 figures. My life has been very "together" for years now. I’ve cold approached/asked out easily at least 50 girls this year in every type of setting from the gym to church to grocery stores and coffee shops to bars and have gotten nothing but ghosting or already in relationships. It’s tough out there man. Not really sure what more I can do…
Just rent them for the night. It’s cheaper in the long run, as you don’t have to remember birthdays, anniversaries or Christmas. As Terence Popp would say….‘winning’ !!😂
@@dave87gn True. I have a friend he is extrovert, not goodlooking, dont have a money, toxic all time, abuser like bullying others and women love him...
It's not that guys "struggle" with social skills, it's we aren't attention whores like women are. We aren't desperate for people's attention. "Strong social skills" is actually the bad thing, because it means you NEED attention, you can't function well when alone.
I know plenty of people in general that have terrible social skills, so I would say that it's a separate issue than what you're discussing. I do agree with you that most women tend to seek out attention and validation from people substantially more than most men do. Frankly, I couldn't give much less of a shit what random people think of me, but it seems to be considerably more important to most women that they are perceived as good-looking or whatever; the constant need for this reassurance is taxing for the rest of us, for sure.
What you’re talking about here sounds more like attention addiction rather than social skills. Social skills just means you can communicate clearly and easily and understand queues like when a conversation is over, if you’re talking too much, etc. Women are literally addicted to attention though which is why so many are posting thirst traps on insta and have tinder accounts just to receive hundreds of messages but never respond to any
@@Subsistence69 Fair enough. As an extreme introvert, I CAN communicate and have conversations with people. but I really don't like doing it. It's just mentally draining and I don't need to have conversations with people to be calm. I do better alone. Doesn't mean I lack social skills, I don't need people's attention to satisfy some egotistical part of myself lol.
@@ItApproaches understandable. Im more of an introverted extrovert. I dont just strike up conversations with strangers for fun unless Im out at the bars or a party or something but I do value my quiet alone time which then just makes going out even better when I do. I find Ill be more enthusiastic to see and talk to people when Ive had proper breaks in between
@@Subsistence69 Introverted...extrovert...that's a paradox. That cancels itself out lol. May as well just say you are neither introvert nor extrovert. More of a drifter between the two.
Hit a point where I just said "enough". I always treated women with respect and kindness. I was always insulted and put down for it. Women I have dated going back to the 90s have insulted me for being polite, courteous and kind. I have been called "gay", "weak" and told "you are not a man" I am done.
men are staying single cause we don't need to be involved in drama , not get shamed and focus on our lives. and also the fact that feminism had empowered women that they can do anything that men can.
There is a ton of red pill videos of on the street comments from women stating they don't need men anymore. So the interviewer says so who turns your power back on in the middle of the night after a storm pushes through? Women? Who do you call when there is an intruder in your house? Women? Who created the job that you have that gave you this independent lifestyle? Women?
Im a mixture of all these reasons. I’ve had all negative experiences with women as I’ve been rejected by every single one. I’m in my early 20s and come to realize that focusing on yourself is the best thing to do as a single person in 2023. My generation is the reason why dating is going downhill and hookup culture is rising. I’ve met many different types of women and only a COUPLE were down-to-earth while the rest all had some negative aspects about them that would scare most men away. Plus they LOVE money and wealth so if a man does not have that right now (including myself), u are SOL majority of the time. It’s sad most women don’t want to help and support u through your toughest times and rather just wait at the finish line for u, if u even make it…
Last girl after the 3rd time she looked at me I approached. We talked for about 5 mins and then her boyfriend walked in. Other people at the bar noticed and were quietly laughing at me. I just closed my tab and left. I'm 31 now and haven't even looked at a girl in nearly a year. Had 3 relationships in my 20's when my energy and attitude was very high. I was always looking to grow and improve. I remodeled a kitchen for a girls mom and she later dumped me to go back to her druggie burn out ex. Another girl I was with I updated all the galvanized water lines at her house to copper for higher pressure and cleaner water. She was living with her mom as well. She ended up having a threesome with 2 other guys. Now I'm just a one night stand guy when the opportunity arises. I also made up a fake name for myself. I don't even tell girls my real name anymore. It's not worth the time or effort
@@taylorjlee well you’re a woman you have a different job and your job isn’t to make a bunch of money and do the masculine burden of performance needs to be the loving wife and girlfriend and that feminine person and it’s probably because you weren’t that and you were probably more like a dude because you sound kind of masculine
@@taylorjleeat’s not true that’s why you see young women being wife’s up by billionaires and older wealthy men as well as the waitress, stay at home moms ect you heard the phrase what’s mine is mine , what’s yours is mine, what’s ours is mine ? That was not thought of by a man. Men are looked at as an atm while women are looked at as a mother, stay at home mom home maker , ect her money career does not matter to men nor does her money , it won’t be shared in the first place it’s hers, just look at the amount of stay at home mothers vs stay at home fathers there has ever been very small percentage. Women want money security safety men want beauty feminine fit motherly for offspring not a masculine boss , we have that at work.
You hit it right on the head. You never get back what you put into a relationship. Especially the longer the relationship goes, the less you get back. The most fun and effort by the women happens in the first 6 months. I got really good at dating and was having a blast. Then I got married....... Big mistake.
I was touched by your comment. Many people have been in the same situation. The only comment or advice I can give is talk to your partner, sincerely and calmly, and hopefully, they will get the message. Best a luck to you in yours.👋✝️
The problem here is that men don’t understand that women view relationships with us as a means to an end. Before a woman starts a relationship with a man she thinks to herself “How can this man upgrade my life from where I currently am?” “How can this man take me from point A to point B?” Women view relationships more pragmatically than we do, men are the TRUE romantics people. Men enter relationships to give, women enter relationships to consume. I’ve also realized, that dating is way easier for me now as a man who’s now older and the wealthiest I’ve ever been. So now it’s like, why exactly should I be exclusive with women anymore? What’s the incentive? If anything, I feel like getting in any sort of relationships would make me spend more money, and get laid less lol.💯
@@ccastaneda669 Shit like this is a pretty good reason why functionally secular materialism is a dead end. I just got done thinking a lot about this and my overall antipathy toward white Republicans and white liberals in America at this point, and I am just now realizing how much my past is filled with a forgotten and defeated people. So much of the people I know are also saying they are not having children, and are therefore not terribly interested in doing things "for the planet" and say such gems as "I don't give a shit about climate change because I'll be dead by then and I'm not planning on having any kids." Meanwhile these very same people are making the solipsistic, nihilistic arguments like "everything is a spectrum, everyone is right from their own perspective" and basically just not willing to make any kind of definitive statement about anything, neither morally nor factually, for fear of being disagreeable and upsetting someone, and this has gotten the same in afflicting the churches as well. I am directly putting these churches on blast for supporting the lying serial adulterer, not just the homosexual friendly "we have gay ministers" I mean the for-profit megachurches ran by cuckolds like Falwell Jr. and acting as boosters for godless men. I'm pretty much convinced white people are a dead end in America and I'm exfiltrating myself from them. These are not a people that can be saved. My heart definitely goes out to these young black men saying things like "how can you save a community that's in love with its own dysfunction? You can't" yeah well, the same problem in white communities, how can you even so much as have a discussion with a group of people that don't believe in the CONCEPT of truth anymore? Which is all rooted in the worship of money and the narcissism of this society, such that now you have men just abandoning their women and turning such a sacred act as marriage from the literal bedrock of all society and support net for children into first a contractual obligation for sex, and finally abandoning marriage altogether for "dating." You are a nation of whores, you Americans. I don't even mean the sex workers--they at least make an actual "honest" living, even the tricks. They do the same as all of you they're just much more honest with themselves about the nature of their work and the relationship between capital and labour. This is a sick society that I am convinced it cannot be salvaged anymore. All the rest of us are picking up stakes and pulling out. We need to begin relocating to green zones which should ideally be as much away from the most intense storms, droughts, and wildfires so that those of us interested in the survivors can lay out a path for our future children.
My life experience is laughing real hard at your comment. You guys need to slow down the intake of incel videos, your vision of life is becoming even more cartoonish by the day...
33, and single for 10 years. I still have no interest in a relationship. I can spend time on my hobbies, and push my career further. I’ve got enough money for a house, and I’m continuing to save. Highly recommend it to other men!
Notice she’s never once mentioned that most women reject most men most of the time. And that most women reject men 10 out of 10 times, even when men are doing everything right. She leaves it out conveniently and that’s because women aren’t suppose to hold eachother accountable no matter how at odds they are with eachother because the sisterhood must be protected, even from the truth, harsh or not, at all costs ..
She's done videos on this, however I have noticed she likes to do videos that pander to both demographics. It seems she wants to bridge the divide, but such a thing is not possible without dismantling the current cultural zeitgeist that celebrates high body counts, late age of birth, no fault divorce, and women having unrealistic expectations.
Being ran-through isn't something limited to a few women who went viral. The reality is that the vast majority of women are ran-through. Second is marriage. It's a one-sided contract. The government actually has an incentive for relationships to fail. Thus the no-fault divorce. The government takes 15% of child support. That's a huge amount of money. Call it a Bachelor Tax, if you wish. But here is the reality...the man can literally do everything right, but she meets a new Mr. Excitement. You come home and find her getting railed. Relationship over. But, even though she is the one who was wrong, she leaves with the kids and half of everything. The man may even need to couch surf to keep from being homeless. I work with the homeless for out Church. Most of the homeless are older men...30+. Most absolutely destroyed by divorce. Self deletion is also mostly men, for this same reason. Now, tell me why a sane man would ever get married? No matter how you want to explain it, the man is literally gambling with his future. There are NO safety nets for men who get married. A man's safety net comes from NOT getting married.
Being a heterosexual single male at 57 years of age who never dated in my life I have come to the conclusion that females are just not worth it for me. I speak for myself.
as a 33 going on 34 male, they are not worth it from my perspective either. The rewards are not worth the risk. Sex overrated, kids are lots of trouble, etc... the court system does no favors for men either in a large variety of situations you will more than likely encounter at some point
Lately, I feel like I'm single just because I'm not absolutely perfect. I find that women today, more so than I've ever seen before, are all about their own demands. They talk about their prerequisites and not their perks. Whenever I'm on a first date, I feel like I'm walking on broken glass wondering which of the 50 items on her secret must-haves checklist I'm not checking off.
I'm 44 and have my life together.. fit, making six figures, good looking (former model), etc. The main reason I'm single is the lack of appealing options. Here in my area of the country (Cincinnati OH), the quality women tend to get married early. It's hard to find attractive, feminine, mentally stable women. The majority of single women over 30 around here are overweight, have children in tow, and are just generally unattractive. Add how they usually have an over-inflated sense of their value on the dating market. Often times they have money problems, and issues with mental health. Tack on the trends of facial piercings, and tattoos. At this point, I am content just focusing on my hobbies and my career.
44, Findlay OH. In shape, not 6 figures. Not a model, but i did used to have a uniform. My life is good. Just thinking about dating means an interruption to my peace and quiet. Even thinking about the effort is just a turn off in itself. There just doesnt seem to be any tangible gain to having a woman around.
Same age here. Same exact scenario on the east coast regarding women. Not sure which there is more of- tattoos or mental/emotional instability. Both repulsive.
So basically you kept hoe-ing around for too long and everyone with sense that was around you moved on to a guy that was actually worth dating and marrying. Better luck next time Chad.
@@hotpockets69 LOL I have no regrets. Yes, I definitely had my fun and enjoyed myself. While at the same time serving my country, finishing a Masters Degree, building a successful career, and building a successful side business. Tell me you're a jealous loser without telling me you're a jealous loser! Best of luck to you 👊
Love the new background set-up Courtney! In today's dating market there are a lot more benefits of being single than being in a relationship and while a relationship can indeed be a beautiful thing I don't blame a lot of guys who make the choice to ride solo. My philosophy is just to stay single until you've gained a sense of identity and focus and find someone who you think is a solid match.
I'm single because I'm invisible to women and always have been. I've always been a loner and not particularly attractive. I don't have the best social skills being autistic and it used to really bother me but lately, I've become more comfortable in my skin and just accepted those are the cards I've drawn. I'm content with work, hobbies and my pets. Tbh, looking how shockingly toxic the dating scene is now, I'm glad to not partake in it. I don't need someone else's baggage, trauma and drama in my life.
Sounds like you've got things worked out and you're a tough person that's better than most of us however keep your heart open because for the future you never know😊
I'm single because I got an injury which put me on disability. As you've mentioned on your channel several times, social status is a big thing women look for in a man. Being on disability has now made me feel not worthy on the inside, so even though I'm tall, in shape and get called attractive often, my limited income and limited abilities keep me from having the confidence to talk to women who smile and give me advances in public.. :/
"on the inside" "my limited ability" "from having the confidence" "to talk" Don't try and blame that shit on your disability bro, you made a conscious choice somewhere down the line and I think you're trying not to bruise your ego. People get so wrapped up in trying to avoid "psychological injury" they make excuses for their refusal to have questions answered about themselves they may not yet feel ready having answered.
@@pandemicneetbux2110 I might have said the same things in the past, until it happened to me. Nobody ever thinks it will happen to them. It's sad that there is so little solidarity among men. This is why we don't open up to anyone; you get some rant about how your problems are self-inflicted and you need to stop being a little bitch. Have a bit of empathy, dude. Men are hurting. Some more than others. We're not going to get anywhere with attitudes like yours.
@krowman8458 I can only respond to what I see here, based on what you said I'd intuit whatever your injury and physical problems were/are that it made you self conscious about yourself as a result it damaged your confidence and bruised your ego enough it impacted your overall behavior and presentation. Like, you can be a strong armed dude in a wheelchair, a woman in a wheelchair can have dating problems but still find someone, my point being even with as shitty as many modern girls are, I think you are not realizing how much what's going on with you impacted your self concept and how much that's modifying your behavior and presentation. Like you straight up just said "keep me from having the confidence to talk to women." That's not a women problem at that point, that's a you problem. I'm saying maybe you just flat out don't want to approach them because you're afraid of the response, and it's wrapped in self image. You're letting your SSDI checks change the way you view yourself and it changes your behavior.
I'm not bitter towards females, I'm being a better person for myself. I'm being a better dad. Some females have an unrealistic outlook on men. I could go deeper, but I won't.
Bro, all you need to do is make $300,000 per year, and be 6'5", buy her a Pagani BC, and accept her bodycount of 90+.... Sounds like you are just an incel 😅
Ill add to that actually. A girl i dated couldnt even manage to get me a 60 dollar video game for my birthday….. you know what she wanted for her birthday? Wait for it….. A trip to spain.
This is what pissed me off so much, there's this huge group of toxic, entitled assholes out there, and yet majority of what they are saying is literally what all men are actually saying, so since some people don't want to hear this uncomfortable truth they try and pin it all on either these guys that are bitter, guys that got hurt, or "introverts." I swear to fucking God it's like the modern woman just cannot possibly process or comprehend that we're not interested and we're done looking. I think that this is so crushing to their ego and self image that they'd rather do anything in order to try and avoid it. Like I don't know sometimes to feel a sense of awe and admiration for a person's can-do attitude despite being so unattractive, vs. a girl that sincerely doesn't know she's unattractive so she's actually being choosy and entitled because her friends gas her up. "Is the problem me? No of course not, that's just crazy. Clearly the problem is every man on earth hates women and they all are assholes and are scared of women. Yeah. They don't like women. That's why." Yeah they hate women, that's why they're all getting married in Thailand. That's why all the couples I see lately are interracial. That's why Karen was a meme all pandemic long. You know, this is the one time this channel truly felt outrageous and out of touch. No, we like women. We just don't want to deal with a certain kind of women, and those women all seem to think they piss courvoisier and shit gold, they legitimately think that because they can bottle a fart and sell it that they're all that, and that's the problem. This is why you should be happy about simps being ragged on, it's because the people simps damage the most are actually women. They're not your friends. They're enabling you to rationalize all the worse traits that will leave you single, used, heartbroken, and giving up on anything but dying alone. And it is sad man, I'd much rather women and men get their shit together and make a functional society, but it is clear to me that white girls just never are gonna do that until the girls that are just being born now start watching the 35 yo women of today all end up in nursing homes alone and look on in shocked horror swearing to never be like you people. Like that's actually what is happening right now. The first gen of these girls is women like pearl who do not want to be like these repellent Karens. They actually like the company of men and want to land a good husband, they want a real life, they don't want to be instagram hookers taking selfies around the world some guy they're having sex with is showing them. These people literally don't understand that they have a problem. They're still at the full on denial stage. They're going to end up reaching a point of anger soon where they start really attacking foreign born girls as the true reality starts setting in. Some of these tiktok videos you can see they're beginning to pick up on it "am I really that awful to be around?" YES. Yes you guys are. I literally can't have five freaking minutes of conversation with some people without being interrupted, harangued, talked over, bossiness, being argumentative, gaslighting me, being mean spirited, being self centered, victim blaming and above all being entitled while deflecting any blame and responsibility. They are this way not just because of any one factor but because they've been raised this way for decades by successive barriers to happiness from feminism to their dysfunctional boomer parents to their shitty high school friends with their toxic tiktok girl advice to the horrendous culture to seeing boys that are legitimately as bad from birth and made even worse the minute they started dating the wrong kind of women (and no I don't even mean badgirls, I mean bad women). So as a result of that they have generations of trauma and lying bullshit to unpack which it never even occurred to these people to question. Go and see what Viet girls are doing. Go and see what Syrian and Iranian girls is doing. Go and see how Ugandan women get husbands. Your guys' problem is you literally think you already have it all figured out and that you can just sit there and tell men what they want and what is wrong with them for not wanting you, and act like this is all men, and act like those men feel that way about all women, when the simple fact of you not even listening to us speaks volumes about why we don't want to marry you. You don't even listen. Ffs a prostitute is a better listener, and she's actually good at what she does and doesn't lie there like a dead fish wondering what's on The View. But so many of these women are never going to do any of this, they're going to keep seeing themselves as the hottest shit ever, keep calling themselves baddies, keep having their ego inflated by the legions of swipes on tinder they themselves wouldn't even date (and guys who won't marry them anyway), keep feeling like everything that happened last 100 years is endless progress, feel like they do not have to listen to anybody ever, and above all truly and sincerely believe they did everything right because they think they did what society tells them. It's unbelievably sad what you sit there and think about things sober.
@@pandemicneetbux2110So you type up a rambling Iliad of a comment dripping with resentment and indignation about how you supposedly don't care about women anymore? Get real. You can only attract what you are. Birds of a feather and all that. No matter how good you think you are at hiding your spite, women of merit will sense it and steer clear. Fix your attitude or buy a dog and die alone are your two options.
You didn't mention babies. Babies are a big risk for men now even if they love women. No matter what mummy does, daddy has to pay. Very risky. No deal.
As a point of clarification, a relationship is where both parties work in unison and harmony towards some goal. How modern women define “relationships” amounts to me putting in 80% of the work trying to keep her amused and entertained, while she just brings herself cause she’s a queen 👸👑
Lol…. So, lemme get this str8…. As I guy, I’m supposed to “work” on self improvement. Become the best version of me, both mentally, physically and economically, before I’m ready to date? And I guess women don’t, since they are already perfect…? That’s priceless…. Last time I checked, there’s no law against women asking out, or pursuing a guy. As a high quality guy who makes over $200k, modern women don’t offer anything I want. The ROI is extremely low. Especially with American women.
They never do like “you for you.” They like how you make them feel. And you are totally replaceable, particularly if you hit bad financial luck or other hard times.
The unwillingness to commit can go both ways. I’ve been on dates with women who will occasionally keep in touch, but become flaky when I try to make concrete plans. It seems like they don’t want to outright reject me, but still keep me around in case they can’t find anyone better. I’ve learned not to tolerate this, and it’s been a great lesson on having more self-respect and waiting for someone who is all-in and willing to commit.
Had a girl do this to me for about 2.5 years, long time, I know lol. I cut it off spring 2022 and I have been so much better since then. I hardly even try to talk to her anymore, she still continues try, though. I'll entertain it if I have the time, but usually I leave her messages as "read."
It is tough to be in the dating market these days. It seems like so many girls out these have such unrealistic standards for what they're looking for in a man. Plus, I don't need the stress and drama some girls like to bring to a relationship. I'm not giving up hope however, I focus on being the best version of myself, and I will find someone who truly appreciates me. Until then, I don't mind being single.
@@Bennysol Social media is pretty much a redflag to me. Like I didn't even realize how good I had it that a lot of people around me weren't super into it then. Now that instagram, tinder, onlyfans, tiktok and the other trash took off on top of twitter, fb, reddit, the other garbage, I basically don't even see social media girls as viable partners and this is mostly what white women are. The overwhelming, vast majority of white girls are wasting their time dicking around on social media. They don't even have hobbies or anything and they just regurgitate the latest crap that spreads like a virus or chainmail across their network. Ever since touchphones became a thing everyone's been going down hill. It's not even what it is now, but the nature of it, like I can't see myself accepting a girl who's doing onlyfans and tinder. Yes, onlyfans and tinder are the same category to me. You might want to think about what that actually says about your tinder account and the gross way men on there are viewing you, and why there's men that don't have tinders. Hint it's not just because they think they can't find a woman, it's because those guys aren't interested in hookups. Like I found out the weirdest shit in last few months, from the "dating rotations" thing to the fact apparently I swear to fucking god, I shit you not, there are women out there that are seriously doing porn right now and trying to argue "yeah but my future boyfriend should be fine with it because I'm doing it for money." It's like, here's a whole generation of people so soulless they honestly believe "it's for money" excuses every bad behavior, because modern American society's sole virture is acquiring currency. Because of this vice being called "virtue" I've just started writing off whole blocks of society as bad sectors. They're unrecoverable to me now. A person who thinks Trump won the election, there's 22 genders, worships the American dollar like God, and doesn't believe in objective facts or objective morals, they cannot be reasoned with, and you cannot have a real discussion with any of them. Given I am unable to have an hours long phone conversation with these girls the way I used to with my girlfriends, means they are undateable. The fact so many girls have taken to texting means there's really no point to being in a relationship with them aside from casual sex and hookups, because they basically don't have any capacity to operate in a relationship as a human being anymore, and only are down with texting and banging. It's sad but these people trapped in this horrible culture really don't understand how it actually looks for someone from the outside looking in, and it's made me incredibly leery of even dealing with women at all who may have attached themself to this pernicious series of modalities. And basically, men are just tired and fedup with you all at this point, so if you don't feel like dating an incredibly naive 21 yo young buck who hasn't wisened up yet, well good luck with that.
This! Most single women by age 30 have at least 20 bodies on their record, most have more. None of the guys had every feature that she was looking for. John- 6'2, William made six figures, Dan had a really big D, Chad looked like a model etc... This is how most women categorize men throughout their 20s, until the wall makes contact around 30. Now she's bitter and angry she never met her unicorn and is reduced to having to settle for the unattractive beta male provider or remain alone with litter full of cats.
Its fine for young men to date, but they should not commit to one woman and certainly not marry. Most women are massively indebted. Credit cards, student loans, plastic surgery loans, car loans. Legally those loans can become marital liabilities after a few years of marriage. That means once you divorce, and most people will divorce, you will be required to assume a portion or all of her debts.
Courtney, Good video. I was married once. A complete disaster! I ended up raising my daughter as a single dad. I enjoy the company of women, but they are just too complicated to deal with. Being single…. I’m “free” to do whatever I want, when I want, without having to be accountable to anybody but me. That is a peaceful feeling!
Important things: 0:31 First Thing - Negative Feelings Towards Women; 1:54 so true who is capable in ruining things; 2:22 Second Thing - Focusing On Improving Themselves; 4:56 Third Thing - Prioritizing Their Career; 6:14 advice to balance between work, and our personal life; 6:24 Fourth Thing - Not Looking For Commitment; 7:53 Fifth Thing - Introverted / Social Skills; 8:15 Explanation of introvert; 8:45 Explanation of shyness; 9:31 Explanation of lacking social skills; and 10:09 to summarize all the told here. I can agree with interlocutors that your new background set-up is excellent. I might add that you should put a bookshelf, or bookshelves as well there. That way you can recommend interesting books that can help either men, and women 😉🙃🙂🤓😎. What you have told there Courtney I can agree, cause some of these things are so true. Also some of the things that you have told can also apply to women as well. I like improving myself, at least cause of me to do not enter in deep problems, and not make them as well. When I was listening to you I have remembered few quotes that I have saw them (and few of them I have mentioned). And they go like this (you can correct me if I'm wrong): 1. Robin Williams once told this: " It's not the worst thing when you are being alone in life. The worst thing is to be in a company that makes you feel lonely." 2. Vladeta Jerotić once told this: "Those people who love solitude are those people who have paid dearly for someone's presence in society." 3. Vladeta Jerotić once told this: "It is a great skill to be able to talk to a person." 4. One quote goes like this: "No one is too busy, you're just not their priority." We have to work on ourselves (men and women), and on this path we will meet our soulmate (you may never know what will happen, and that is one major big truth, believe it or not, dear people).
@@Hez-r7h Glad that you're asking. I know about him, cause I'm from Balkan. And he was also born in Balkan (correct me if I'm wrong). And where are you from?
How could she "conveniently" forget the most blatant/obvious reasons men are avoiding womyn? 1. Many are not desirable. Many *choose* to not be fit, feminine, friendly, or LOYAL. Instead, they choose to be masculine and constantly dump on men. 2. Many are 304s. No decent man wants a 304. 3. Womyn file for dee-vorce 85% of the time, often for "no-fault" reasons (this jumps to 95% if she has a worthless college degree). They're home-wreckers who break their vows. 4. The courts are stacked against men when the wife breaks her vows and wrecks their home. These are all VERY pertinent... yet *somehow* don't make the "Top Reasons" list. Go figure...
I'm currently single due to the dating dynamics these days. The beautiful women who are what I am looking for have criteria they are unwilling to lower in terms of height, wealth and non-approval of average men. If she cannot appreciate what I am offering her, I'd rather be single until I find the right type of woman. I got a bit above average income, average looking, 5'7, normal bodily shape.. and women need to start accepting average men without seeing it as "settling". 80% are average, and the average is what these women should go for. Instead of saying "I only want men in the club 5% who will never ever ever settle for me".
Obese women probably don't want Ya...and here You talking about beautiful Women...at 5'7" on top of that.Get real buddy...Girls can see Your desperation and lack of attention from other Girls.Try to go for ugly Women and see where You stand.
I feel your pain in a different way. Let me explain, I'm 6'1, good build, handsome face etc... Physically most people look at me and think, he's got it all figured out. Wrong! Work a dead end job in my mid 30s, and little hope to make the infamous six figures quota most women are looking for now. It's like having a corvette exterior, and under the hood it's a cavalier motor. It's extremely embarrassing with no quick fix available. Good looks are nice to have, but with my job title. The best I can get are single mothers and land whales.
Honestly as a 29 year old dude, the biggest reason why I've stayed away from dating is because I still live at home. Breakups/life happen and I know the right people would be able to look past my current situation/see how I'm trying really hard to work towards a better future. I've worked on my overall appearance/confidence quite a bit, but the living at home aspect is a mental block I just can't get past. Any advice?
Like the other responder here said, the right girl won't mind - she would have enough character and judgment to see where you are and the potential you have in the future. But be prepared, the majority of women out there won't give you the time or the day if you're living at home. I met my wife when I was still living at home, FWIW.
I’ve been a federal worker for almost 3 years now, and my advice is to save, save, SAVE!! Since you still live with your family, use that to your advantage by getting advice from them on how to budget your expenses, and get rid of any necessary debt you have, like a car loan, in order to get some weight off your shoulders. That’s what I did, and now I’ve been on my own since last year because my family’s the GOAT!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻
Being with someone who makes you wish that you were alone instead, is a really bad thing to go through. It happened to me years ago and required me to seek therapy. Since then I have given women a wide berth. Nothing is more important than piece of mind.
53 no kids...never married...only 1 "serious" relationship...I LOVE my freedom and prefer my flexible lifestyle...I answer to no one...come and go as I please and do whatever I feel like doing...its a priceless life IMO...
There is no higher calling for me than to be a married father. I’m not trying to be so bitter but when I see how divorce rates are higher than they’ve ever been, child birth rates are the lowest they’ve ever been and how women have become so picky and unreasonable, it’s really hard for me to be optimistic. I’ve been trying so hard to work on myself and be a better man but people (especially women) pay me no mind. It’s very difficult for me being so traditionally conservative while also surrounded by people who don’t share similar beliefs and values. It’s like I’m completely invisible. Maybe marriage and children is just not in the cards for me?
@@qb4428Do you think it's morally okay to stay in a relationship with someone for more than 10 years until you marry? Personally I'd argue it makes sense to build up your money, but then I realize how much money is lost if you marry and divorce lol.
Don't let perfection be the enemy of good. Life is messy and rarely goes to plan. Remember you don't actually need to be married to have a child. It is also one of my deepest hopes that I can have children, but I might have to take a nontraditional route since finding a partner has been fruitless. It is a noble goal to want children, and we need more fathers like you. Ask yourself how flexible your plans really are, and take a path you never considered before.
Listen, it's not all 100% mens' fault here.....As I've said earlier, most women aren't worth the time or money or both. It doesn't matter how much money I have, how fit I am, how well I dress, or how accomplished my career is, if a woman is not into you, she's not into you....period.....and it's very frustrating when you see an attractive woman, and you try to strike up a convo with her, and she walks by you, doesn't look your direction, and acts like you're a ghost....why go through this garbage over and over and over and over again?......
"A lot of the reason guys give up on dating is because they don’t have a huge social circle that have women in it." This is a great point, that someone wrote below, that should've been mentioned in this video. She mentioned shyness, introversion, and lack of social skills, that might keep a guy from meeting women, but it's not the same thing as just not being where you can meet women. You need opportunity. And that comes from "proximity" and "repeated, unplanned interactions". I used to have a job that was perfect for that...where I worked with women and met new ones daily. And I took advantage of that situation...had a good time. And I had some friends that had game nights that I participated in, so that was a bit of a social circle to be around women, and had some fun there too. But later I became self-employed, working at home, and my "group" split up, so I no longer have the proximity and interactions I used to have. It was part of my previous situation, so I didn't have to work at it. But when you have to find a new way to put yourself in a situation where you can repeatedly meet women, in a friendly setting, it takes a lot of spending time in places you wouldn't normally hang out, not to mention expense. There are videos on places and ways to meet women, getting involved in various activities, and some of those ideas may work. I may try some of them. Although many of them seem like something I wouldn't want to do long enough to meet somebody. At least in my experience, beyond school age of course....work and friends have been most successful for me. And without those options, it's hard to be in a good situation to do it. You obviously have to put yourself out there to make something happen, and maybe join something.
I was in a 9 year relationship that ended last year. On top of that, I was living in Germany for the past 5 years. I returned to The States recently. I‘m going through a reverse culture shock; especially with women. I feel like I’m in the movie Idiocracy! It seems like women are all the same, 2“ eyelashes, tons of makeup, bridesmaids hairstyles and children out of wedlock/single mothers. Everyone talks like a teenage valley-Girl. I don’t see the point in getting married; it’s not a good business venture for a man.
i'm single , i think i got 2 match on tinder this year . i did not get any respond from message i don't think i'm negative toward women , i just don't feel like i'm the kind of men they want . it call being realistic !
For dating when looking for a partner: are you gonna be more of a solution or a problem to me? Because that's what it ultimately down to happening. If dating to find a partner or dealing with bad women makes me tired or frustrated, it's simply not worth it. Period. I rather work on my dreams and enjoying my peace with family/friends. Traveling is fun too. Women, if you want to find a marriage partner, be worthy of the man's time.
Thank you for informing me I need to improve myself in so many ways. I think having given it careful consideration, yep, i'll stay single. You have missed considering the big one. Marriage is a funeral with a cake for men, and a pension plan for a woman. Until seeing this video, I actually felt pretty good about myself, now I feel even better about my life choices. I shall keep all I have worked hard to achieve and enjoy my secure life, not likely to be decimated by a totally together woman, who suddenly decides to trash my life.
A male who has been soured on females because of poor treatment or trauma is not likely to change with self reflection or therapy. Both my doctor and counselor have come to the conclusion that I will never heal as long as every female I meet is a toxic person. After attempting to have positive interactions with girls my age and being mistreated yet again which just made my PTSD and fear of females worse I have just plain stopped interacting with females in person and never will again. One more terrifying interaction will without a doubt kill me.
I'm sorry you had to go through that pain. Some people might say that's karma to meet multiple toxic people consecutively after healing, but tbh it seems very common. I get nervous even thinking about it. I'd probably attempt it, but if I have even an ounce of bad mental health I've never dealt with before in a relationship, I'm not taking my chances on damaging it. I see this as a valuable lesson for guys to never push your sanity any further. You'll go insane.
Seems you are the perfect candidate for embracing the decline. Go for younger girls; with no intention of long term commitment. Hire an escort to get the physical release. Move to a different country where you may be valued more. Be more selfish. Experiment with drugs to get at least short bursts of happiness. These things are a logical response to an illogical dating market. If enough men check out, eventually it might reset. Unfortunately not in our dating years, but for future generations coming up. Having so many single and unhappy young men is a big problem for the stability of a society. At some point, governments might sit up and take notice. Men can't be discarded forever. My favourite quote about this is: "The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth" - African proverb. Men have been neglected for too long. Something has to change or break.
People say they have PTSD for every damn thing, look I'm sorry but I don't have much patience for that shit either. I've known people from adoptive homes and broken families, talked to people fleeing war zones and crime, brothers or fathers dying of suicide, heroin addicts and sexual abuse survivors, you know what they all had in common? Not a single damn one of these women ever uttered to me "I been through a lot." They're all strong, survivors, and I respect them for that. I respect their inner strength. In some cases it was partly why I found them so attractive. So I have to (callously) ask, is this actual PTSD, or is this basically just a woman being a bitch? Because I don't care if you're sensitive it's true, you have to man the fuck up and no you don't have any choice. If you keep seeking out bad women, that's a you problem. Like I already personally know I am drawn to some not so nice traits, I just don't care at this time, it'd take way too long and too much effort to change my wiring atm. I don't know why people are so soft these days. After all the damn people I've known from serious trauma who made something of themself I just can't take people seriously anymore, and I really grown to despise these enabling female therapists that keep trying to do some fucked up Munchausen or something effect to weak males in a vulnerable state and then turning them perpetually fragile, maybe because she's milking money from you I don't know. But one thing if I had a son and found out he was seeing a therapist, I'd be tempted to pressure him to stop. I have seen people get worse and worse from therapy.
Yeah ngl, I'm 32 and I'm pretty much burnt out on dealing with "dating". I don't need to babysit, there's work to be done. I was lucky to grow up with an amazing mother, aunts and grandmothers and the modern woman can't hold a candle to the past generations imho. I've lived with a girlfriend, dated a single mother, played step-dad, have had numerous dates and girlfriends and I have no issues with social situations or any anxiety talking to women. My advice is based off of my life, mistakes and my experience --- to young men out there, trade in the video games for weight training, get a job using a skillset to sustain your living and use your free time to work on making your dreams a reality. Find one woman that respects and appreciates you and your work ethic and returns it in kind. You are valuable to the world and your gifts/talents are needed. Don't waste your life chasing after baddies. You'll see later on how most of them end up and you'll be thankful you spent your life focusing on your skillset, dreams and productivity. You will be a more put together person, have your affairs in order and then YOU get to choose where your life goes and who you share it with.
Trying to achieve financial goals first, such as buy a house, be debt free, have a good career. The government makes it difficult to achieve those goals with inflation and re-distribution of wealth by printing so much money, life gets harder and harder for everyone.
I think it’s difficult for men to commit to a relationship once you’ve found your peace. It’s hard to justify taking on someone else’s drama. Especially with there being little benefit in doing so.
Courtney, remember that group panel you had with several women who had insanely unrealistic demands, e.g. a a salary of a quarter million dollars annually minimum, among many other demands, with NO negotiation whatsoever -- and offer very little to the table? There's your answer.
Ever wonder why male dating coaches never quit, but female coaches are quitting in frustration? I'm big on dating, but I feel sorry for men that are in competition with women's fantasies and insecurities. Real safety and security is a myth to most men, so till women find ways to stand with all men insecurities intentionally rains on couples till they split.
At this point in my life, 53, been there, done that enough with relationships. Too much manipulation and change agent activity after honeymoon stages. It is so awesome to just think about what is now important to myself.
I am old lol, At 65 years old, I watched the Woman's Liberation Movement in the 60's. Here we are 60 years later and our children in grade school are not sure witch restroom to use. Black Family's (and White) has been decimated by our governments handouts. Everything happens for a reason. This has all been Engineered for a reason. We have lost our Christian Values.
Let me give some sanity to this awful comment section - if you are a christian then you should pray and fast for a spouse - then Let God deal with how it comes. They need to be ready and probably taught lessons before they can be with you....Also it is imperative that you hear God on the subject - if he says "there is no one" then focus on yourself. If he says "just wait there is someone" then wait. There are a lot of women who need to be taught some lessons before marriage who are Christians...Let God deal with it and begin to pray and pray because culture is tough and he knows your situation. Pray and fast - dont just pray for a spouse. Fast for it and let him deal with the rest. When its time (if the time comes for you) you will know.
Hi. I would like to add one more point: The current state of the law, that puts the life of a man in a woman's hands. That doesn't mean that the woman will hurt you, but I don't feel comfortable giving the keys of hell to any person.
I’ve been single for ten years. At the age 33 I’ve realize that I find love great and if I don’t that’s great as well. We must heal ourselves before we give ourselves to someone. Working on your foundation is key part in a man’s development.
This is the most mature and self-aware comment I’ve seen so far!!! Thank you for this comment. Wishing you luck on life’s journey, however that unfolds for you! Great love in your life or not, with this mindset, you will live it happily. EVERYONE should, great love in Their life or not!
I used to be a lot more displeased with being single than I have felt lately. Now, in between having a job I really enjoy and practicing mindfulness in physical exercise like yoga, I feel like I am enough for myself and I'm okay with taking time to really start dating
The gurus of Yoga never meant for Yoga to be exercise, but an aligning of one's mind/soul to key principles of the religion. Next time you go to pose, consider whether you even like Hinduism or believe in its theological implications.
@@ryan_danger Do I need to do the work to demonstrate to you that I tell the truth and reality of this issue? Who started Yoga, and why, and what does it mean, and how come it exploded in the USA just a couple decades ago whereas before it was an Eastern religious practice?
@@exothermal.sprocket I am allowed to enjoy something regardless of its context and I don't need you telling me how I should feel about anything. See ya later
@@ryan_danger I would hope you are mature enough to take any intelligent conversation about something involving life as a potential to learn. Have a nice evening.
I've found that being single allows me to focus more on self improvement. When in a relationship, it's viewed as selfish to focus on myself. Which, yeah, I suppose that makes sense. But if I stop focusing on myself I become unattractive. Just feels like it's a lot harder to keep yourself appealing once they have you. Also, in 100% of my relationships, she went from really cool to slightly less cool every time we secured milestones. It was like every sign of a deeper commitment allowed her to unhinge herself a little more.
What the fuck? Self improvement is literally synonymous with relationships to me. Like in the sense that being in a relationship, you want to for example not get fat, because your partner, you want to not get fired, because your partner, you want to not have that extra drink, because partner, don't smoke, partner. Idk the concept of someone actually getting on your case for like working out or getting an education is bizarre to me and in either case you ignore those people.
@pandemicneetbux2110 I dunno what to tell you, man. I'm finding lots of toxic women that seem to equate working on oneself with selfishness. Looks like 31 people have had similar experiences. And we're commenting on a video talking about why men are getting away from dating. Seems like SOMETHING is amiss in the world of relationships and the picture perfect way we like to envision them. I feel like if any of us had the answers, we would probably be sharing them instead of looking for them on videos like this one
Every choice is made based on some type of cost-benefit analysis. Men see the attitudes of modern women that expect much and offer little, and they see the way they are punished by the legal system if things go wrong, and the cost-benefit doesn't work for them.
I’m not surprised that this video blames “men” for the reason more men are single nowadays without looking at the outrageous demands women make and the appalling behavior modern women display.
Sometimes it would be nice for women to make much more of an effort in starting a relationship; it gets tiring always being the one making an effort. They rarely start a conversation; rarely give a clear sign they're interested, often drift off and don't keep a conversation going, don't bring up going to do something, often want to keep talking and talking online before doing something and it fizzles out or they move on to other guys in their DMs, don't initiate a first kiss, and usually don't initiate whoopy when in a relationship. A submissive woman is a good thing, sure, but they're often overly passive.
Have you become a French maid or something since your last video? lol I think many men in this day and age are put off by the fact that men are very confused. Feminism seems to have shifted the perception that traditional masculine attributes are in fact negative 'toxic masculinity'. Men now do not know whether to hold a door for a lady or whether they will be accused of being patronizing as women are capable of opening doors all on their own. When it comes down to all of the reasons you have given all stem from feminist perversions of society. Women have become used to the idea that they can have everything without taking any responsibility for their own actions. A far more traditional approach to proper gender roles and responsibilities would reduce an awful lot of confusion in society.
It's not hating women. It's hating what has been done to marriage as an institution where you can leave anytime you feel like it without honoring the commitment you made. Also the idea that men are all evil just turns me off of American women. Women who sleep around and have about 20 body count is a turn off too. I could look past that if no fault divorce was destroyed but its not. I'm not going to want to get married to women who hate me off the bat and i'm not going to get married when she gets half the assets upfront if she feels like she is bored. The last issue is why would i get married to a woman who wants me to build a life before she shows up. That type of woman will take half just because she is bored.
Relationships with women more often than not are a pita, and I have heard more than one guy say "women are mean", my relationship with a girl I thought was the "right one" ended after 10 yrs and one child even though we agreed to stay together. I was 42 then, I'm now 64 and only dated once since that relationship ended and decided it just wasn't worth the trouble. It seems like It's a lot worse "out there" nowadays.
Shyness is a huge obstacle to meeting new people, especially when you're an introvert. But finding common interests - eg, sports, walking, theatre and spending time in those things can help.
