This Is Why So Many Women Are Single 

"Men want women who will bring peace into their life" That's golden, Courtney. I wish more women understood that.

"I stopped looking for a Dream Girl, I just wanted one that wasn't a nightmare" - - Charles Bukowski.

Women don't understand what intimidating is. Being constantly difficult and argumentative is not "intimidating" its "exasperating"

Year ago, I was a provider at a medical office in Arizona. One day, in the break room, several women in the office said to me, You're a really good guy and we think we've figured out why you don't get a second date. I said, "Tell me!" I really wanted to know what is was about my personality that was preventing me from getting a second date. They said, "Its your car." I drove a white Honda Fit. They said that girls don't like guys who drive little white cars. I said "Surely women aren't THAT shallow" and they said "Oh yes, we are!"

Something she said that is so true is "stop letting your friends convince you of that". Women who can't get men, they are told it must be the men. Men who can't get women, they are told to correct their flaws.

Trust me, men aren't intimidated, we just won't put up with the nonsense most women bring, especially baggage! Here's what you can do... 1. Stop being combative 2. Stop being selfish 3. Stop ghosting when it gets real. And if it's too real for ya, you can't handle a relationship, Stop dating, get help! 4. Stop with the narcissistic personality...seek help! 5. Own your shhhhhhht 6. Stop watching these dating reality shows and crime shows, we're not all predators! 7. Drop the attitude! You're not 5 years old! Happy 2023 yall!

This is really well put. Men don’t leave women because they are “doing so well”, we leave women who aren’t nurturing, affectionate, etc.

I am a 56 yr old man. Everything you said is true ! I want happiness, not drama not games. I don't care about your money but I do care about your personality ! Actually I find myself caring more and more about personality and less about looks as I get older.

It's true. We're not intimidated. I can't tell you how many women I ghosted for their narcissism, delusional conceit, false accusations, combativeness, shallow materialism, entitlement, lack of character, heart, & congeniality. In other words ... A-wholes. Not even other narcissists want to be around narcissists. They're destined to be alone. It's actually the best for the rest of the world. It must be nature's way of quarantining the disease.

Do not ever underestimate a woman's ability to rationalize bad behavior and avoid all accountability and consequences for her actions

This past weekend I decided to be bold and honest with my friend about her coming across as a flirty person and that some men could take that the wrong way. She cussed me out in public, stormed off, and abandoned our friendship. It hurt that I couldn't be authentic with her, but she was a bullet I dodged in friendship!

Disney's She-Hulk series really shows how some women think about men. There's a scene where Jennifer tries out online dating, but no man is interested in dating a successful woman. I watched this with my friends and we got mental over how wrong it was. Financial success doesn't make you intimidating, it often makes you more attractive. What's really intimidating is when a woman looks down on a less-successful man who dared to ask her out.

As a guy if I ever heard a female saying they are single because they’re “intimidating” I would take that as womanese for “This is how I cope when I get dumped because I’m too masculine”

There's a great Thomas Sowell quote: 'When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear.'

"Real progress begins when you get tired of your own sh!t." Timeless wisdom.

My ex needs to hear this from a woman. She loved to argue. She could literally say something I agreed with and somehow make that into an argument. Once she asked me a question about something she knew I would know about, then proceeded to complain that I was mansplaining. Just looking for conflict for absolutely no reason

This lady hit the nail on the head. I don't want a competitive partner, but a we mentality is team. I could care less how successful a women is, I am independent on my own. I want a team effort , not a combative, competitive relationship

As a single 29M, the first thing that turns me off about a woman is when she turns everything into an argument. I can’t speak for all men but if she is 10/10 but argumentative she instantly drops to 1/10 and it is not about not valuing her opinion but I just like someone who is kind and peaceful who calms me down when I am tired and I can depend for advice on important issue without shouting at me.

It's funny that I had the conversation in a group of women (I'm male) where one was trying to figure out "Why this guy ghosted me." The women all told her how wonderful she was and how she intimidated him. I asked why she liked the guy, and she rattled off a long string of very positive attributes. I then asked how many other men she was dating at the time, and she said, "Four, but this is the guy I really want." And I had to say, "He didn't get that message if you were dating four other men. And men can tell when some woman is running them in rotation." Low value men will allow themselves to be run that way. High value men will not. They won't waste their time with low value women, and when they find a high value woman, she'll get their undivided attention. If they don't get that in return, ladies, expect to be ghosted. And don't kid yourself that you intimidated any of them.

"Women don't really hold themselves or each other accountable." - most underrated statement Courtney makes. Men are supposed to handle their own trauma and their own emotions. Women are not: they are encouraged to seek someone to soothe them and affirm them. Men are supposed to be completely secure with a woman being exactly who they are, and seek not to alter them. Women, via hypergamy, are encouraged to ensure that the value of her man is rooted in what he can do for her. He must be strong. He must be enviable. He must provide resources in excess of what she makes. He needs to be her therapist, her bankroll, her bodyguard, her waitstaff, her manual labor. She needs only to be herself. When he does wrong, other men around him are supposed to correct him, and he is required to correct men who do wrong. He is a good man if he submits to the self-policing men do for their own gender (knowing we are judged solely by the worst of our number) and polices other men who do wrong. She is always a good woman even if she engages in bad behaviors. Another woman will validate and affirm that she is right in what she is doing. Holding another woman accountable is social suicide for any woman.

11:30 - "Sometimes women are wrong" Well Courtney finally said it. Protect this woman at all costs!

I ended things with my ex because she always reminded me of how independent she was, how she didn't need me or anyone, and would even say she got to where she was without anyone else helping her, but always leaving out that I paid for her bachelor's and masters, helped her with homework, took her on vacation when she'd be stressed, etc. Most people don't want a difficult person in their life. Doesn't matter what gender they are.

After being married 47 years we discovered the complement factor. She fills in what I lack, and visa versa. We cheer each other on and are a team. So recognizing each others gifts is not being intimidated, but it’s knowing what each other brings to the marriage and loving each other for it.

I'm single because i want peace and i haven't gotten that. I hate fighting, i like to communicate in a calm manner. Relationships have been nothing but headaches for me.

As a man I've dealt with this with my female co workers via the lunch table Just by listening, The amount of defense a women will have from other women is amazing to be honest. But most of it is validation and rationalization of bad behavior. Some of these women don't care and most have an attitude of "as long as I'm pretty and have a p*ssy then I can get away with whatever I want. "I'm not the problem, I'm the prize 🏆" and with that thinking. Men start to just walk away entirely from that.

I fell in love with my wife after our first argument when I was prepared for a drawn out battle with her and she apologized right away. I’d never experienced someone who was willing to take accountability for their stuff. We’ve been together for twenty years and she’s a partner who has helped me be a better person, we have been stronger together. Those people are out there and are worth waiting for.

"Women don't respond well when you tell them maybe you're the problem" It's difficult when you have 100K people telling you that you are awesome just to make you feel better and only one person is willing to tell you what your flaws are so you can actually be better. While well meaning that kind coddling keeps them completely blind and unable to reflect on themselves.

Absolutely, I’m aware that I’m broken from childhood issues and aspects of my marriage that were bad. This is why I tapped out from dating for a while. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. And something not mentioned here is sometimes it really is a numbers game. Sometimes people really aren’t compatible and it’s nobody’s fault. It’s just how it is. Don’t give up, keep improving yourself, and keep meeting new people. ❤

Takes courage to say this as a woman. Society needs more people like you. Thanks!

“Men want someone who will bring peace to their life” Exactly! Nailed it! Perfect! Preach!

I always use the example of a Roommate. Ladies would you want to live with a roommate who "challenges" you, is very opinionated, wants everything in the house to be done their way ? Or would you want a roommate who's friendly, easy going, happy to compromise ? Everyone would pick the 2nd option yet all these women expect men to pick the 1st. And if they don't pick the first it means they are "intimated" or "not strong enough to handle you"

Another thing is to ask a woman "Name one flaw you have". The answers will always be the same....."None" and they wonder why theyre alone.

HOLY F*CK, this woman is spot on!! Nobody likes argumentative people. It's not a male or female thing. It's a "Don't be an asshole" thing.

Men don't look for a rival, they want a partner. That's literally it.

I got tired of coming home to complaints. I also got tired of being blamed for everything that went wrong when she clearly made a poor decision that resulted in a poor outcome. A sign of maturity is being able to admit you screwed up and own it. Men are taught this growing up. Women not so much!

“Women don’t really hold each other accountable” was the understatement of the century. I work with and encourage a lot of women around me to fight this problem because it’s a huge problem in/for our modern society

1,000 times yes! As a woman in her 30s, I have friends younger than me and some into their 50s that have been single for many years. I am not brave enough to tell them this fact, but they do have the "I don't need a man" mentality and they do want to be put on a pedestal and men just don't stick around for it. Yes, as women we need standards and we have to know our worth... but if you've went on numerous dates for many years and it never worked out, ask yourself why and be honest. Men crave affection and peace, so why would they stick around for anything less?

My sister was on her 3rd failed marriage at the time. My advice to her was "There is one constant to all your failed marriages. You." Needless to say, she didn't like my insight. I think she is on ex #7. I call her a succubus because she becomes what they are looking for. She likes what they like and works to make them happy. After a while, she gets tired of being this image she puts on. No matter how many times I tell her she has to be herself, she doesn't listen. I only ever had 1 girlfriend and I married her. We knew each other in high school and dated after I graduated. We married when I was 19. This was in 1995. We are still married. Most do not know what they are looking for. I was looking for what I needed and not wanted. I think that was the key to why I didn't date in high school and have been married this long. You don't need a 6 figure income, a luxury car, and a big house. You need to feel love and be needed. Living under your means is also key to happiness.

I just got out of a near 5 year relationship about 2 months ago. My mistake is I did things on her timeline. She decided when she moved in, when we got engaged, when we bought a house, etc just cause the sex was good. My biggest lesson, having just turned 33, is to create your life while you’re single, and when you meet the right person, don’t lose your identity as an individual. It will ruin your relationship.

"Men want women who will bring peace into their life" is the most truthful statement ive ever heard

Self awareness is a rare commodity nowadays for both men and women. Our society encourages delusion..."i intimidate men", "beauty comes in all sizes" etc

"You have a bad attitude, and you're not very likeable..." Thank you!!! Yes ladies, if you have a bad personality and garbage character, we don't like you! We're not intimidated by women.

I'm a woman in a long term relationship and I agree with what this woman is saying. Very few people want to be with an argumentative person or someone who acts like they don't want to be in a relationship. A relationship should be peaceful.

First Girl nailed it. Guys just want someone who is nice works together, funny. Dont care how much money you make or even what you look like. We care that you're nice to people and good person. Healthy things yet hard to find.

“Rather being a team, than independent” is the key line right there! That’s exactly what I’m looking for. You can be strong and independent all you want but if you’re not willing to be a team together, it’s selfish and not worth anyone’s time and energy. And that’s unfortunate. One simple paradigm change could really change everything.

Being opinionated and being confrontational are 2 separate things. Men want and NEED peace, but we also like a woman with opinions, mindset and intelligence. My partner shares her opinions with me in a respectful manner and never has an attitude about it, she's successful, has a great career and is extremely intelligent; else she wouldn't be my partner but we can talk and have different opinions about stuff and be respectful about each other with love and care.

A girl said something to me once along the lines of “your intimidated by me” or something of that effect. I remember saying “no, your just insufferable” She didn’t like that haha It was true though

I love the part where you said "don't let your friends tell you that. . . " So much in those few words! Women advising each other about men is SO frequently off target, they're generally clueless on what men are really like.

That was someone who can actually reflect on their life and make improvements. Best type of people

My wife is an amazing woman. She is a caregiver, she is very selfless to the point where people think they can take advantage of her... but they can't. She is also very strong willed and we both can be very stubborn. We are a great team and I'm thankful every day for her. There are so many self-centered, horrible people out there that I feel very blessed to have found her. I've supported my wife through her nursing career and once she gets her DNP she will have the capacity to out earn me a little bit. Like you stated. I don't care about that. I'm happy for her and extremely proud of her. We are a team. Her success is our families success. She sets such a great example for our daughter.

The reason my wife and I have been in a happy marriage for approaching 20 years is that we approaches it with a team mentality. It is all about what makes BOTH of us happy, not just one individual. If she wants to do something but detects it might not be my thing, she will not unilaterally decide she’ll do it, no matter how much I may not like it. Not taking your partner for granted goes miles in a relationship. It shows kindness, love, and most importantly, RESPECT for your other! If you’re acting like a Boss Babe (or Boss Man), it’s not a relationship, it’s simply all about YOU! No partnership survives without the active participation of BOTH involved parties. Great stuff, Courtney! Glad I found your channel.

I can’t say it enough. Whether a girl makes a lot of money or a little money makes zero difference to me. As long as she has something in her life that brings her fulfillment, I’m good. Her money or lack of doesn’t change the fact that I expect myself to support the family.

‘Men don’t care about how much money you are making, they care more about your attitude, how you make them feel and to be honest most importantly how you look and complement the relationship’ this is just a great great video.

Hearing that girl's story reminded me once of a girl I had to cut off. I mean, we couldn't even have a decent enjoyable conversation... her attitude and stuff she said was demeaning and inappropriate. I remember her later emailing me saying she thought the reason men didn't stay interested or approach is because they were intimidated by her. I never replied, but thought, No... they get a whiff of your personality and run the other way as fast as possible.

Yes!! as a woman who is called a pick me girl because of my views I love this!! ❤❤❤

I saw that video where the woman said she was a croissant. There was a comment that said, “yeah, you’re flaky and make a mess!” 🎯🎯🎯

“Embrace femininity and bring peace.” I’m literally relaxing just thinking about it. 🙏🏼

Courtney your channel is a breath of a fresh air. It's crazy how saying things that are a common sense has become an exception instead of being a standard. Keep up the good work!

My 27F manager had this issue too. Never had a relationship, never been asked for a date. One time she brought us for drinks, and asked us if she should change or lower her standards. And the other girls were like 'no, don't change, you're a catch'... But in my head I was thinking that she should at least iron her clothes when she goes to office... Can't say it because it's just my first week there. She's not a narc, she just appears very strongly opinionated and proud, in addition to her lack of style. I was also removed by her in the team sooner because I do not succumb to her leadership style.

I'm a successful man of average height, good looks, with many hobbies. I am caring and creative, and very hardworking. The problem is that if you do one little thing that a woman doesn't like, they can dismiss you outright because so many other guys are waiting in the wings. In their search for perfection, they end up with nothing but desperation in their mid to late thirties and by then it is to late for any man that wishes to have a family.

Ultimately, people just want to feel connected with loving partners who are easy to be with. Being bossy, difficult, always right, or disconnected is not easy to live with.

“We set such high standards for others, while holding ourselves to such low standards…” Damn, Courtney. That was beautiful. I’m using that and quoting you in the future. It sums it up so well and so succinctly. Just want to add, I’ve been watching your channel for a couple months now. I’m married and not looking for anything from women these days, but I do work with mostly women, and I decided I just wanted to get to know a more feminine perspective. I think you communicate in such an approachable, respectful, and insightful fashion, that I find myself thinking, “you know what? I’ve seen that behavior! I understand what you mean! Oh, that makes so much more sense now!” So keep up the work, offering your helpful commentary and observations! And while this is neither here nor there, I really think you have a fashion style that is understated and elegant. Really goes well with your content! Also, you don’t sound like a five year old. I remember you saying that others have said that, but your voice is soothing and even. So. There’s that, lol.

So many people think of a relationship as a competition instead of a partnership and then wonder why the relationship failed… look for a partner instead of a competitor and you’ll both support each other regardless of who succeeds!

The bar is so low that when a woman is objective and rational, she gets kudos.

Courtney, I'm a 64 year old man and the one thing I can say I have noticed getting more and more out of hand with both men and women in my lifetime is that there is a super-abundance of super-egomaniacs on both the male and female side. The arrogance and highly materialistic expectations of both sexes in North America, and doubtless Australia, New Zealand, the UK and western Europe, is the ruination of more relationships than I can shake a stick at. Marriage is a lifelong partnership, _whatever_ may happen to you as a married couple! You should never view your husband or your wife as someone you will heave overboard just because times get rough or someone "better" comes along. If that is how any person is, do not marry them! Just Pass Go and Collect your $200, and keep looking! Of course, if you can find that out about someone before getting married your life will be far better, ha, ha! 👌💘😉

I've noticed this trend with myself. When I date a boss babe it feels like a competition. When I date more down to earth girls it's usually harmonious and peaceful

That’s exactly what I want in a woman: a companion, not a boss. I wanna be encouraged, not belittled. This is my third video I’m watching if you and I cant get enough of your content. Thank you for advocating for men ma’am. Happy Sunday!

Courtney is so straightforward--and so right ! Too many women don't work on improving their attitude as a primary way of improving their success with quality men. Female Friends over-coddle female friends--and noone g r o w s.... I am an older man--and I approved this message !

A female friend once told me I would never date someone like a waitress. Implying her income wouldn’t be high enough. This got me thinking - do I come off like this? She didn’t know I grew up waiting tables and pumping gas to get through my first 3 years of college. What I care about isn’t not how much money a woman brings to the table, but how much positive attitude she brings to the relationship. Is she curious, wanting to learn, looking to support the people around her. An indicator of the type of person she is - her laugh. If a woman has a heart felt laugh, and laughs easily , this is almost like her soul is speaking out. Nice video. Thank you!

Hey Courtney! I love the direction of your channel. I am a 58 year old man who is married to the same woman for 38 years, and I have had multiple careers, and currently my wife works from home as a Senior Analyst for a major company while I take care of our farm. (Over the years we've flipflopped roles of who has been the primary breadwinner at one time or another depending on who is going back to school, etc). We have raised many children, adopted one, and helped raise children from other families too that are all successful and now we have a number of grandchildren around the world. My wife is amazing and I thank God for her every day. We are a team, and support each other -- we depend on one another and have our whole life. I would be less than honest if I said we have not had a number of ups and downs, good years and bad, rough patches and such. I've had to work hard to speak "woman" and understand her better all these years -- and the difference is that I married a real WOMAN. I told my wife she can never die, because from my perspective, most of the folks out there in the world are narcissistic little girls and boys that may be chronologically 30 or40 but they think they are so special because they have advanced degrees, can win at video games, and can chat on twitter, facebook, and all of that simultaneously but they have no ability to make real friends or understand real hard work or teamwork (The LEGO song "Everything is Awesome" is not just a song!) because they are a bunch of functionally helpless prima donnas. Finding mature, compassionate, selfless, deep thinking, team players that want to build a family and grow together and support one another is becoming more and more rare these day because the boys and girls of today (regardless of age) are only concerned with what "I" want. "I" never makes relationships. If girls and boys don't want to wake up in their 50s and still be alone, they need to snap out of their fantasies of how great they are (the Tic Toc people are cringeworthy because none of them are hot or sexy but just sad and disgustingly desperate and delusional) and start thinking about "we" -- or just decide to marry their cat and dog and settle down. Oh and as far as high maintenance -- I've taken my wife out to the most amazing places around the world -- but her preferred place to be would be at home knitting while I read books to her like the Shadow and Bone series or Discovery of Witches series (the books are infinitely better) or some Jack Reacher action books out loud (over coffee or tea); and given her gifts like jade from Thailand and gold from Turkey, but what really says love to her is when I surprise her with (get ready for it ) -- bags of dirt -- topsoil for her greenhouse. Yep.... after all these years, to find that one of the ways to her heart was to get her more high quality dirt.....I should have started sooner!

“Men want someone who will bring peace to their life”. Nailed it. High value men protect their peace and pursue their goals. When the right woman comes along they ask that woman to join them.

My girlfriend is not a feminist, she just does whatever the hell she wants. She doesn't talk about it Respect

The closest a man gets to being "intimidated" by Boss Babe is simply in knowing that if she feels more successful that you, she'll have no real interest in you. Being with you is settling.

I started dating someone recently, and whilst we were walking around after dinner she asked me what I think are green flags in a woman. The only thing I could think of in the moment was pretty much word for word what you said: someone who gives me peace. It really is that simple, I'm a basic guy

The BEST book we have ever read for our marriage is His Needs, Her Needs. I learned my husband needed to come home to a peaceful home. As a stay-at-home-mom with three children under 5, we had to work this out! As soon as he walked in the door, he played with the children for 30 minutes, allowing me to read the newspaper in the bathtub to unwind. I came back renewed, calm, and happy to finish the evening’s chores. ❤

I’ve always heard the “they’re intimidated by you” because I’m shy. I hardly say anything. I think in reality, there might be some of that because people don’t often know what I’m thinking, so maybe they’re thinking that I’m thinking the worst things when I’m not? But I also think I’m just not seen because I’m often in the background and am too shy to put myself in the spotlight or even put myself out there. But the people who know me see my wild and more carefree side and come to me for advice because while I don’t speak a lot, I observe a lot and can apply that to try to help people. My shyness is something I’m trying to work on, but the past rejections from when I was more social and open always have their way of coming back to haunt me. It’s slow going, but I’m trying. I hope one day I can get into a position where I can find my own person

I really appreciate you bringing up the "intimidation" excuse. My last two relationships ended because the women constantly complained that I worked too much or that I didn't have enough energy to go all day with them on a few hours of sleep because of my schedule. But the second I cut back on hours at work they were complaining because I wasn't making as much money as before. They used the excuse that I was just too intimidated by them because they weren't afraid to voice their opinion. But it was actually because I just didn't like the trouble they brought to the table and the unachievable double standard. I love ladies, but If it is easier to be alone than to deal with the nonsense and bad attitude someone is dishing out, then I think the decision which needs to be made is very clear.

Personal accountability, on their behalf, is a rarity these days.

Honestly, watching red pill content and watching men talking about women, it made me more open to some toxic behaviors that I had. You are so right when you say that men want different things than women. Also us, women, don't always bring up problems in a healthy ways. I realized that nagging and bitching is not how you get through to a man. My man doesn't always care about the same things that I care about and that's okay! I can't tell you how much just small changes that I made in my own behavior to prioritize our relationship and our peace made a significant changes that helped my relationship thrive. Also taking more accountability and learning not to take all criticize from my man as a direct insult was so helpful;. I also stopped being so argumentative and aggressive when things didn't go my way and made a conscious effort to compromise and even other solutions. My man is so happy now and so am I.

Amazing revelation! Now it's time for women discover warm water.

It’s not intimidation, it’s annoyance lol. Great video!!

A friend of mine told us that he felt his relationship was going down hill. We all bluntly just said "bro it's no her fault. You have to get your shit together, clean your house, put on some nice clothes and overall just fuc**** treat her better". Now there married and have a son. Honestly you hit the nail in the head with the fact that women friends never talk honestly to each other. I can't even picture a woman replying like I did to my friend.

"You can be a very successful woman and men will like you if you have the right mindset and you're not a brat." I LOVED this moment of brutal honesty so much that I laughed at how right this is. Truly, I won't need much time at all to recognize behavior like this, call them out on it directly, then leave if they don't change.

There are SO many issues touched on in this video. Great video.

"Taking accountability for our actions is how we evolve as humans. " Thank you Miss Ryan. This video has been an eye opener for me. We all have character flaws and can improve ourselves... regardless of gender. 🙏🏼❤

"they're intimidated by me" helps them not only avoid accountability, but to do so in the way which most gratifies their egos!

This reminds me of a couple conversations with my best female friend. She ran into a big problem with her boyfriend because of many underlying issues that stem from miscommunication from the get-go. A lot of her girls just kept talking about how awesome she was and that her boyfriend made all the mistakes. She then decided to speak to me since I was a guy so she could understand guy’s perspective. I broke things down for her and pointed out that multiple issues that they were facing were by no means the fault of the boyfriend but rather the fault from both or sometimes even from her. She did say that she did not receive a big blow like that before from the girls and it was refreshing for her to hear the guts of the problems than to keep hyping herself up and took no accountability. The couple is on much better terms now and they seem to be much happier afterwards. Many people seem to have problems with hearing the truth and feel that their feelings trump the honesty. Those people need to get a reality check so they can grow.

Peace, Trust, Loyalty and EQUAL COMMITMENT

When I heard you say “they don’t like you”. I put down my coffee down and said wow! First woman I’ve heard said that and you know exactly how men feel. Yes we don’t care how much money a woman makes but rather it’s about what kind of peace you bring into one’s life. That’s worth all the money in the world. Thanks for your great videos and the hard work you put into them. I’m a new subscriber of a result of it ❤️

I’m a guy saying this - this is awesome! We all like it when people are successful, but vulnerability is what makes successful people attractive - being able to get real about your true self, true feelings and emotions, and true desires. Those things are what help us all stay anchored in our reality and ourselves, and what brings our expectations of others to something far more realistic when it comes our relationships. This helps me understand men like me and women so much better. Thank you Courtney Ryan😄

I've dated women that were high maintenance and a little too ambitious for a comfortable reality as well as down to earth women that struggled with debt and familial issues, but it was never about how much money they made or how together they had their lives. All I really wanted in a relationship was a friendship, a team to make the best of what we had, and someone that would challenge me to be a better person while also having an open enough heart/mind to share in similarities. Sure, I'm intimidated at times, but it's not about feeling like I could be lesser than someone because they "look like a ten" while I'm some average joe or because they would easily be the breadwinner able to pay more bills in a timely manner. The intimidation factor only applies when the vibe they give seems to point toward a more entitled position that should likely be a red flag, but being an easy going guy that is eclectic enough to be friendly to all types of humans I tend to ignore the flags in hopes maybe I can (at the very least) make a new friend with a foot in a different world than what is normal in my life. I'm always seeking new adventures, skillsets, knowledge, and expanding my tastes in all that is possible with what little time I have on this mortal coil. So am I intimidated by someone being so different or "out of my league"? Not directly, it's all about the personality that determines the level of confidence or intimidation in my approach. Confidence is sexy, but entitlement is the opposite. My personal two cents anyway.

Courtney,...thank you for this video. What you are speaking about is difficult in today's age for women to hear but you are kind and sincere about it. My wish is that you and your husband have a strong and blissful marriage with open and honest communication between you such as you are presenting. This is not a meant to be a criticism of women today,...more an observation of what I have experienced in my own life. I think you are spot-on when it comes to women catering to each others negativities rather than telling them what they need to hear to improve as a person. I know that there are some wonderful women out there,...but they seem to be harder and harder to find. I'm talking about women who actually do take accountability and who do admit to mistakes without deflecting it or making it about someone else. This is a rare and beautiful quality in anyone, man or woman. Thank you for your efforts in trying to help both men and women. I see it and value it even though I am sure that you have your detractors who will impute bad motives or intentions to you. Continue doing your best to assist both sexes and may your future be bright. I am happy to subscribe and support this channel for all your work in mending and helping relationships in a world that seems to take a perverse pleasure in divisive and selfish takes on them.

Thank You Courtney! This was so refreshing to hear coming from a female. I am a 30 year old male who struggles with dating. There are plenty of women I stopped talking to because of their attitudes. The whole Independent boss babe with a bad attitude is not a good look for women.

I thank you Courtney for what you are putting out to women because you are spot on regarding how we feel about relationship's. The one thing I love most about my wife of 32 years and 5 kids is her kindness towards everyone but especially me. I have never come home to find myself getting yelled at about anything. She enjoys the peace and quiet as much as I do. I do believe her positive attitude and loving personality makes me love her more and want to do more for her. She has worked a large portion of the time during our marriage so I wouldn't consider her a submissive stay at home wife but she knows she can get a lot more from me in every way possible through her love and kindness.

a thriving relationship requires love, patience, and HUMILITY! been married since 2011 and if we didn't stay humble we would have never made it thru the tough times ❤️

Finally someone as girl said it. I dated a girl who demand that always open the door of my car for her and it was so exhausting. Sometimes i did it one time because i wanna it to but there was this line where it was a script in her head in following things to be perfect.

This video/message is 100% spot on. My GF is significantly more successful. However she's not competitive with me, is feminine and is content to let the man lead in our relationship. If she weren't, I'd bounce and she knows it. Women need to understand that "independent" doesn't mean "disagreeable". If you're "the Boss" at work, don't treat your man like an employee at home. Women can be successful and maintain their femininity. Its actually great.

Takes a lot of maturity to be that self-aware and secure enough to change what wasn't working for her. Good for her!

Basically, most men have the same general criteria that I have: someone who is reasonably attractive, honest, calm/gentle personality and who genuinely wants him. Your basic low maintenance woman. The problem is that we usually get someone who pretends to be these things sometimes for years on end. We have to look for signs of these negative personality traits. The entire purpose of the long courtship is to find these traits.

The TikTok girl is right, but she also kinda has a weirdly off-putting demeanor like she's got a ton of life experience when she probably doesn't lol.