The Subtle Art Of Becoming A Man 

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Something that stuck with me from years ago: Being male is a matter of birth, being a man is a matter of age and being a gentleman is a matter of choice. Might not always apply but I do like this one.

You become a man when you see through the lies that have been fed into your mind, see the world how it really is, and become the master architect of your life.

I'm 35, and I'd say I didn't really start becoming a man unteill a few years ago, when I started gaining financial responsibility. I still have quite a ways to go though, being overcome by fear.

Hi Antonio, fellow Eagle here. So i am in the OA as a Brotherhood member. The OA was always nice, but it depends how active your council’s OA Lodge is and what they do. Aside from that, something im not sure if u knew about from Scouting: Eagle Palms. When u get more merit badges as an eagle, for every 5 per 3 month period i think it is, u can go for a Palm. They start off as Bronze, then Gold then Silver, but part of the issue these days is most scouts wait until the last minute to complete their Eagle BOR, and never have time to achieve a Palm. As it was, i made Eagle in February, and only could qualify for a single Bronze Palm, which i tacked onto my Eagle Medal’s Ribbon like some cluster for an award when i was in the JROTC. And while the OA is nice, idt its that big of a deal as ppl make it out to be. It could be argued that to take time out to be involved in OA lodge business and the leadership there, while beneficial to ur image as a scout and helping the community and all, can take time away from the MAIN FOCUS: Making Eagle. Cuz like i said, most scouts take until the last minute to finish Eagle, so less distractions i suppose, the better. But to tie this to the rest of the video’s discussion, i think the journey of becoming a man is not just accepting the responsibility but to develop character. Scouting does that, and both that and ur Marine Service did that for u even further. Philosophically, as i am a history/philosophy major, it is our experiences who make us who we are. One defining thing that happened in my life was when my best girl friend, my first kiss and someone i genuinely cared for, died from drug addiction. The worst part was for the last year of her life, i didnt really hang with her as much anymore cuz i went out without my shitty flip phone once back then and my mom was wondering where i was and didnt want me hanging with her anymore. It worked out i guess in that i never got pressured to use. She would often cut class tho when we had Gym together in my Junior (her Senior) year of HS. I was only there until December when i got sent to BOCES bc of someone bullying me with some fucked up rumors and the fallout of it (another major turning point in my life). But we reconnected late that April, she told me she was in rehab, and then fast forward another month, to June 1st and she died. The worst thing is thats a week before my birthday on the 9th. So for several years (this year makes 11 shes been gone), i would always feel bad about celebrating it and get depressed. Its taken me time to cope, but Arthur Schopenhauer once said “Mostly it is loss which teaches us about the worth of things”. That loss still affects my relationships with ppl, and i try to remind myself about how fragile life is. Yet i still take my life for granted sometimes…. Oh well.

At 23 my manhood was engaged. I was just out of the USMC, finished college, and had started in my business career. That's the point I remember feeling totally confident and focused.

I became a man at age 11. The night my father died. That night, I took ownership of my actions. Decided to not burden my mother unnecessarily. To own the results of my decisions. Signed, Lieutenant Colonel, United States Marine Corps (Retired)

I become men at August 2021 at age 26. I had to end things with very kindly with a woman I know and was friend for a long time. Because it was right and must thing to do. I realized the difference of being kid at age 18-20s and being a man with honesty and doing right things even when it's wasn't pleasant. I looked at time and I realized it was time to grow up. It was time to end being nice little boy and doing right things that even tho it will hurt people you care the most. I realized the energy inside of me and realized "it was about time". As Quote: "A man does what he must - in spite of personal consequences, in spite of obstacles and dangers and pressures - and that is the basis of all human morality." - Winston Churchill.

For me it was 1998, aged 29 with the birth of my son. My whole world changed and my aimless days as a bachelor came to an end.

For me it was when I was about 30. I finally cut off my toxic family and other relationships and became careful of who I associate with, stopped chasing pleasure and short term gratification, started going to church again, started reading more, etc. I also reevaluated my tastes, goals, imagine, etc. and eliminated what wasn’t me anymore and refined what is

Going to the gym is extremely important. I started this May only but gym helps my posture and I'm working out 6 days a week to get a lean body

When did you become a man? Personally I don't like these types of questions because in my opinion, you become a man when you turn 18. It's at that age you can be on your own. You can sign up and join the military or go to college. You don't need a legal guardian. You said you moved in with your aunt at the age of 16. In my opinion that made you responsible, but not sure it made you a man because even though you took on more responsibilities and you were essentially the man of the house, you still needed a legal guardian. In my opinion the question should be, what kind of man are you? We are all men. What kind of man depends on life experiences and how we react to them.

My brother was an eagle scout. Scouts and the military were never anything that appealed to me at all. Now, most people I work with were in the military.

Love that you reference Optimus Prime's scene from the original Transformers movie! That inspired me so much as a kid!

First degree black belt test at 12 y/o with all other students together only competition with the rest of them kept me going

As an Eagle Scout you were a man before most of your peers. Fellow Eagle and father on an Eagle so I know what it took to get there. By the way, there’s still time for you to be inducted into the OA. Just go volunteer. We need all of the good people we can get to teach our future leaders.

Amazing video thank you for the tips🙌🏻🔥

8:59 caught me off guard 😂

Well said! Thank you.

I needed this. Thanks

Great discussion.

I am a scout too! ⚜️

Another amazing episode, all too inspiring!!

When I had to fight for custody of my kid and became a single dad. I beat the system. Get up early, train then get busy.

Great video. Discovered this channel recently and I really enjoy your content. You've made me want to change my entire wardrobe! I already started by buying two blazers.

Outstanding presentation. Thank you.

I was 22 as a 2LT taking over a scout platoon in Iraq. Like you, def a moment.

Great video!

The Optimus Prime scene brought a flood of nostalgia!! Thanks Antonio 🫶

Another fellow Eagle here. Great video as always. The clothing brings us in, it's videos like this that keep us coming back. Semper Fi!

totally agree being a volunteer. Often it gives you more energy back, then you put into it

I remember very well. Had just moved to a flat after leaving my girlfriend. On a limited budget, I had to choose between an (at the time) huge 50" plasma TV or a washing machine. I stunned myself and everybody else by buying the washing machine... That was the day I grew up and became a man. Oh, and leading men in combat helps. But mostly, it was the washing machine.

Honestly guys, you become a man not when you noticed that you have a pecker, but when you start to think like a man in a mature fashion and you have the right attitude and the right approach to life and you do what your intended to do for the greater good of you and those around you. it has nothing to do with how big your package is or how many women you can convince or how you dress, it's all mindset guys, in my honest opinion.

18! Donned the green suit and in college. That was it!

I moved out around the the age of 21 to 23. I started working at 25. In my opinion I became a man the day I moved out and started taking responsibility over my life and began studying. Up until I moved out I lived at my mom's place, my childhood home, in the same room I had since I was a child. I skipped highschool to play games instead and life felt pretty hopeless. One day I had enough and so I went out looking for friends. I met this woman and she helped me through so much. No matter what she was always there for me. After a few months we started having feelings for each other and one thing led to another and now 12 years later we have two kids, we're planning to move in to a bigger house with two floors and several bedrooms. Most importantly, I finished school, I have an education and a really good job I like a lot. I worked hard to get here but I would have been nowhere without her. Anyway, when I turned 21 and began the journey to where I am now, I became a man.

I like your shirt colour Antonio. Great video too!

Well Done.

I remember when I became a man, it was in the army. In Finland all men have to go in the army. When I was younger I was great at explaining why nothing is my fault and I often got away with a lot of crap. I tried this in the army when I miss behaved and my superior cut me of and yelled to my face " I don't give a f**k about you're explanations" That was important momen't in my life, to realise that words don't matter, but actions do. I was also given responsibilities and no one was watching me if I do them, but if I didn't I was screwed.😂 In Finland we have a saying that army transforms boys to men and that is often the case.

So many people look at "failure" as a bad proposition. And it is, if you don't learn from it. For those who do, it is a step to "success".

Antonio: “…very few us will never have to go up against Decepticons or Cobra…” Me: “and some of us WILL, my friend!” 😎🤟🏻

In my opinion, I became a "real man" on my first deployment to Iraq. Squad leader, convoy commander. Plenty of responsibility to erase any doubt. Others will argue it was long before that.

With me it wasn't gradual. I just looked in the mirror one day and didn't like what I was seeing. I'm not talking about clothing. I used to think I was "woke". I wasn't. I am now.

Sir, nowadays having diversity of thought is frowned upon in this cancel culture especially in the West.

In my opinion I became a man the second I became responsible for another human life. That day came when my daughter was born.

Great thumbail 😀 love it, as I consider style and clothe also a factor. Most men nowadays look like boys.

I did become a man when i did my military service in 1980 as 19 iwas trained to be combat medic

I'm an Eagle without OA as well

Never thought I’d see a unhinged laughing version of Antonio today 😂😅

According to chairman Mao, I became a man when I walked the Great Wall….about six years ago!😎

I became a real man when I realized: 1) None can make me responsible for anything if I don´t want to. Instead of saying "yes" or "no", I can just walk away. 2) Courage is for idiots, you have to simply setup the situations to avoid the need of courage. Depending on courage is like depending on hope. A fool´s bet. 3) You cannot overcome or control fear, as fear is a paralising emotion. If you are not paralized, is not fear what you are feeling. 4) There´s no resilience. There´ll be a day when something will throw you in the dirt, never to get up again. Deal with that. 5) There´s no heros in the Armed Forces. Specially when you belong to the biggest, more equipped and better trained army in a contry impossible to invade and you are paid to smack some starving burka guys overseas.

I see nothing wrong with being feminine, it's just that you still have to be a kind and respectful individual.

Antonio you went to UNÍ ?

I knew you had some Texas Charm 🍻

Theses days using “man” as an adjective can have negative connotations. You should consider using words like “adult” “ responsible person” “confident man” instead of just “man” and

I define a man as an adult male human. Very important reality check and thank you. Very semantic, but I wish there was another word for what you wanted to convey.

Autobots, let's roll!!!!

As a nurse working in corrections I tell parents and young inmates, you’re a grown A$$ man when you’re 18. You go to big boy jail at that point not “he’s young and just a kid jail” or “he’s till figuring it out” jail. You can be drafted to war and will be expected to save the women and children during chaos or emergency. 18!

When you can afford your dreams

I didn't have the time to watch all of your videos. At least this one is a shimmering kaleidoscope to me. I hope this is matching your intention.

Being a man is a building process and no, losing your virginity doesn’t make you a man as I’ve seen folks who lost their virginity before me still act like a spoiled brat.😤 🤜 but anyway… Since I was 8 I learn some things I had to teach myself but when I was ten my mental process is waiting for me to get my own place. As a teen I quickly had to learn to be a bit more realistic about a lot of things even though I hated reality. Long story short, my parents split up and my mom got ill. I hated that I was faced with the choice of being a kid vs taking responsibility to keep the house going. I didn’t want that discipline at the time. However, when things started to get serious once money problems started to interfere with even the small stuff, I had to draw the line somewhere. I started to take a job that to be honest, I ended up hating but had to tolerate. My mom never fully recovered from her illness, but she stood up despite it. I slowly began to put things together and realized what that discipline meant. I should have learned it even before high school. The childhood impulse’s although not as presence during my teenage years wouldn’t let me understand when the opportunity was presented to me, where by creating decisions that to this day make me wonder what was wrong with me. Nowadays I feel like I’m still growing. The discipline doesn’t stop because you think you figured everyone out. Life loves to throw a few curveballs here and there when you least expect it. This is only the surface version since I don’t want to get too deep more than it needs to be.

Crap, I am at men's age but not a man yet

You become a man if you have the right tools on your body😅 simple.. lifestyle, job, money, status or clothing doesn't matter.. Live the way you want.. Be happy. 😊 And the most important thing: be a man and don't listen to people or stupid RU-vid channels telling about how to be a man rather than a boy.. 😅 life's so simple..

Had to chuckle at the thumbnail. I am constantly amused by grown men who dress like a sloppy teenager. I hadn't thought of it as a masculine/feminine thing but I do now.

Marine Corps Boot camp

The day you realize no one is coming to save you and that when you die, there won’t be a co-author listed on your autobiography.

Outstanding.

you start becoming a man when you stop listening to society's standard of "becoming a man" and just be yourself, improve yourself. society standards only creates insecurity that is why alot of guys get depressed because they felt different and faking themselves up until they get me tal breakdown. masculine and feminine is a personal preferences, just be yourself and don't let weak insecured fragile masculine boys dictate who you should be as a man.

Question: When did you become a man? Answer: When I finally stopped listening to my high school buddies who simply wanted to be 17 forever. I must have been around 23 to 26 years of age. Yeah, it was a process, not an overnight change from diapers to skivvies.

Did you just say 7 kids?

Besides my overall distaste for the educational system in general, the fact that failure as a concept was basically completely removed is something I truly despise cuz it only created more problems for people who WILL have to deal with it at some point and the later they do, the worse it gets.

WHAT IS A BOY SCOUT???THERE CALLED SCOUTING AMERICA!!! LOL

You become a man when you take your first life or bring your first life into the world.

Bruh I'm 16

I usually love your videos. But that thumbnail and title are toxic AF.

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Did you just say 7 kids?