How to be confident without success: be your own prophet 

This is the best timing for the topic of this video for my life. Thanks for your awesome videos

This is Gold

Doc should call this The Fire Festival Approach 😂

Patchy beard confidence is true confidence. I give too many fs these days to grow out my patchy beard.

I know a guy that is 44 and on the spectrum - he has weak social skills and no confidence. I don’t even know what to recommend him

Also called a potluck?

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Bro... that's actually such a good idea to have. That's brilliant.

Frl cause when I see that I’m like wtf

That could’ve been me if only I made the first step

I’ve had that motivating thought in my head all of my life!! Very cool that you put this out there!!

Dupe statement

As someone who currently experiencing this and not knowing the pinpoint to express this out, i would say this is on point. Thanks for this words.

that is very true

The key is afte rthe failure is to put your mind focus on the effort, not the result

it's the 3 C's : courage > competence > confidence

Absolutely true.

I know you're joking but honestly yes. I know a guy that beat cancer while others around him failed. This was his mentality because there were days it was genuinely a challenge for him to get out of bed and make it to the bathroom when he was in the hospital battling cancer. Sure, he wasn't thinking of running a marathon at the time but now that he's healthy, I'm sure he can run a marathon if that's what he really wanted to do.

Make your bed. That's a HUGE confidence boosting success.

baby steps

It's the first step!! Literally...

Being grateful to get up and move. Being grateful helps improve my confidence. I'm working on it daily.

That was exactly my thought too, but he does add quite a lot by selling it, thereby showing how it can be sold. ;)

Your father is a wise man!

Most of the time you learn more from failure than you do from success, if you succeeded all the time you wouldn’t learn much

The worst thing is when you succeed because you were lucky. Then you think you don't have to learn.

@@nerozero_ repeated exposure has a way of correcting that. You can only get so lucky so often.

@@donfabian1542 yes he was, but I didn't always have the good sense to listen to him.

I was thinking of that exact scene as I listened to this.

Here's the verbatim quote by Archie Gates: "The way it works is, you do the thing you're scared shitless of, and you get the courage AFTER you do it, not before you do it." I know, I know, but I hate it when people use quotations when they are not quoting something correctly. Especially when Google exists.

Do what you fear and the fear will go away. I read that in the book think and grow Rich and I've practiced it and remembered it ever since.

Great quote great movie

@@someguyusa It is what it is, even if paraphrased, the message is clear.

Not many people get this. Being ok or even good with yourself because of how you relate to yourself. How comfortable you are with being you. Being at peace and liking yourself

This is the first topic I've heard Orion be wrong about! One failure and his definition fails. This definition can be true regardless of success / failure rate.

Just trust your self, let go of anyone who doesn't want you... Want it be a friend, love of your life, family, anyone Just care about those who care about you. Career doesn't matter that much It's important to make a living and be happy. Don't get it hard on yourself Lower the bar Practice, then raise the bar Accept your failure, but it is not going to remain as it is.

Reinvent yourself. I have adopted a seriously brilliant trick to get me into a mode of stoic strength (mostly mental). It sounds ridiculous but it works: see yourself - your character, behaviour, responses, habits etc, as the embodiment of James Bond - seriously! Literally pretend you are your own ideal version of Bond, and in any given situation, whatever the feeling, ask yourself - how would Bond respond or would he be the little bitch that I'm being in this moment?... Good luck.

I don't know you or this woman you are smitten with but I can pretty much guarantee years down the line from now you'll look back and think "why did I put her on such a pedestal, she really wasn't that special".

Sorry for that but be strong am here from Uganda we may be friends

There is a saying my grandfather once told me. It’s in Spanish but it goes like this…”God doesn’t close a door without opening a new one”. Honestly I’ve been through my fair share of difficulties in life and I can tell you that the worst things that happened to me were always the best things in the end. I’m in a much better place because those things I thought were bad at the time happened. My financial and relationship situations are much improved because of difficulties.

your moral guidance and beliefs builtin into you in rising are as motivating as degrading, it works only if your set of rules actually pushes you to do the things beyond your limits, thinking god will help or you must do something being your imperative no matter what then yes it will do, but if they say you cant do something important you should it will create a double wall, also most of people have different rules than you and you will be forced by life to do things according to others outlook and what then?

Great, I'll love to hear more of your story in detail, if you want to share ❤

That's so true happy that you did it I would also want to hear more of your story and maybe get in touch to know

Wow...I'm happy for you. I'd definitely love to hear more

​@@SumitSharma-cg7pt I'd love to hear more too

That's how startup business works, and that's exactly what I don't want to do.

Tell us more on your story..id like to hear it

Please elaborate! Coz I'm curious to know how you manage to endure and survive those long time painful and hurable experience... Because I'm in a similar situation currently...Mine is three years of chronic illness.

From whon is the second quote? I would guess Clausewitz, but actually I have no idea.

Love that.

Ironically, embracing the Buddhist concept of "Not Self" and relinquishing my ego has given me what others view as a psychotic level of confidence. Relinquishing ego allows one to transform without limit, and transformation allows for the accomplishment of all things. Thus, success on a long enough time horizon is guaranteed.

Where is the diving board? This is the deep end of the pool?

It kinda isnt. You can be Self-Realised and still have tons of traumatic patterns that make u feel fearful in lets say a dating situation. What the Self Realization does tho is that you are never 'resisting' such things anymore, hence not making them worse whenever they occur :D In a sense you arent 'bothered' by it anymore, but, it will still affect your behavior, appearance etc!

​@@JorisWeimaya it's true

Have been on a keto diet for almost two months now. Quite strict (while up to 50gram carbs would be alloud, I cut that down to 10-20 per day at max (only eating carbs in case they are inherent in some vegetables, for example carrots). I would have changed my habits earlier, had I known, what too much carbs and salt etc. are doin to the body. I am on my way finally gettin really lean. The problem of having a bloated face isn't a problem anymore - there is no salt that causes water retention. Unbelievable also how greatly a keto diet affects the brain performance as a positive side effect. Cuttin out unnecessary calories and unhealty products will bring the body into a state of feeling free of some avoidable ballast (+their cravings!! What a great salvation!!). Overall...It seems the brain is able to work faster (might be my subjective perception only, BUT: I am a native german speaker, always have had a quite fluent and fast english comprehension; after changing my diet, thoughts are coming even faster (perceived increased brain performance) and that affects my speaking abilities. I also read that (higher) body fat percentage affects not only the subjective body feeling, but physical processes. So the feeling of being "reborn" everyday I am having now is probably a more the result of "cause and effect", but I guess the keto diet, while being the cause for tze long term effects to shine (only), will have a certain impact on it's own. Meaning: Being lean eating sh*t will lower brain performance, being overweight but on a keto diet might improve brain perfomance, despite the negative effects of overweight.q That would mean, of course, that overweight people not only risk to be sluggish physically, but also mentally (to a certain degree, depending on the individual, without being able to change that willingly - brutal!). The fact that I am writing this, mentally being the opposite of blue pilled + not being overly enthusiastic about humans, the actions they take and their behaviour (though human psychology is personally one of my biggest fields of interest, as it helps to understand life) is proof enough that a Keto diet puts you in a stable and good, sometimes great, mood - even for days.

this idiot belived in a global state solving humanity problems..

I enjoy this quote. I swear this was in "Call of Duty 2" way back in 2005 as well.

That’s because with wisdom comes doubt.

Dunning-Kruger effect

absolutely true

Well emotional issues need emotional solution

@@alexandrenedellec7116 Your statement is vague. It might sound reasonable to someone who is naive simply because it's of the general form 'x requires x'. But is in fact a logical fallacy. For example, the statement 'criminal issues require criminal solutions' has this same form, but you don't solve crime by more crime, instead you make the problem WORSE ! So, to make your statement TRULY reasonable, you would actually have to explain exactly how bringing more emotions into emotional issues serves to solve those issues. Otherwise, you are simply asserting a fallacy and hoping nobody notices your deception.

@@alwaysgreatusa223 Indeed. That's *paralogism* instead of a *fallacy* because of my intentions. And bringing more emotion to emotion IS useful. Breaking an emotional Anchor IS done by activating an Anchor linked to the opposite émotion and triggering both AT the same Time. So while assumed that bringing more emotion to émotion would not be helpful it would since both emotions Can be opposite (whereas what you assume in the fact that it would not be helpful as it was supposed that the other émotion you add was also negative)

@@alexandrenedellec7116 Perhaps you can make this clear with a specific example. What you have said so far is still vague -- you are simply talking about countering a 'negative emotion' with a 'positive emotion'. What makes any emotion negative or positive ? Also, assuming you are right, simply for the sake of discussing your vague point further, to the extent this is a real and effective strategy or solution -- and therefore is a methodical or pre-planned way of dealing with an emotional issue --, the solution itself appears to be rational, not purely emotional.

@@alwaysgreatusa223 destroying Anchor? ok Let's Say you are stressed talking in public. Even talking about that make you feel Bad. (Negative Anchor). You set UP a stronger positive Anchor (for exemple the last Time you were the most confident in your life). Talking about the situation that stress you while activating the stronger positive Anchor will negate the Bad one and even replace it if it's strong enough. ( You do it by using submodalities (how you picture the émotions etc) and repetition.)

stop following standards of others and look for person with more reasonable standards, to go from 0 to 1 you not only need to belive you can do impossible, you also need to be relaxed enough and have time to spare to freely shuffle weird ideas fully ready to embrace one of these taking risk with it, 'put your standard even lower (except health, the more organic you eat the more y;u save on medicaments) and saved more put on "i will risk this as its nothing" stake, without fear of loosing it buying opportunity

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@@tcggggghaha literally yes

hard work is the worst thing you can do in life lol its about learning faster working faster so avoiding hard work as fire and doing only the essential hard work with 110% capacity and relax after otherwise you will never learn to work even harder but you will burn up becoming another marathon zombie

Is it really you? Or is it just the current economy/job market with mass layoffs from tech firms? Or your programming language/area of expertise is getting dated? Confidence, like fear, is an emotion, and emotion is weakness. It's better to analyze your situation rationally, than focusing on feelings. You'll feel better.

its good i stopped programming, this job style is a hell (when you do not what you would like to code and thats 100% in such job plus time pressure constant learning and need to fit into somebodys structure) lack of sun and fresh outside air, movement, looking into distance is the most painful in it but what you can create is amazing! wish to had more IQ/RAM and perseverance to implement but i would waste years to get to needed skill, why bother lol Good luck, if you cant find job, just migrate elsewhere, world is big

@@szymonbaranowski8184 absolutely, I wish somebody would have told me this when I was at the university. A tremendous amount of time and effort invested just to be at the mercy of companies that barely know how to build functional software.

Hes legend

Hello it was a nice session