Glad we got that daily video and sponsor out 👍 Here's your comment for engagement. Hope it was all worth it lol This is the equivalent to fashion channels formula of rehashing the same information.... just varying it far enough from the last video and changing titles..... so you can hit an algorithm and get followers. If you'd REALLY like to help (just my two cents, bc who tf am I?) You should be actively talking to women. Not dudes.... However.... we all know men dominate RU-vid and this content bc women GENUINELY do not care as a whole (bc they don't need to till it's too late) I think men are WELLLLLLL aware of what's "wanted and needed" by women. Actively changing the culture (specifically WOMEN.... YES... WOMEN. The ROOT cause for this sh*t show) would be GREAT! Not asking for some Fresh and Fit, Whatever podcast, Just pearly things.... any of that. Much like your interview formats you did before. Those worked really well (again....imo) BUT... you do you. Your life. Your channel. I'm just some random guy on the internet 🤷♂️ I think we all know what the issues are.... they just aren't profitable to talk about. Like church.... a REAL church.... the truth is uncomfortable and doesn't pay. And so..... men will continue to walk away, maybe get occasional sex, and not marry. Legally it's suicide (both in time and finances). The emotional toll is not worth it. And so.... our society will die. At least people got their bag and monetized off of it though 👍 (this includes those other channels I mentioned btw so don't feel targeted lol)
You know this topic gets weird because you can almost never listen to what people say they want but instead notice what they behaviorally go for. And i hate to say it, unless you're mature and have enough experience and reflected on that experience. There's a very good chance what someone thinks they want and actually want are not nearly the same or similar.
I totally agree with what you said. Also, if I may provide my own input albeit a more surface-level one, these things that Courtney talked about in this vid, no matter how much you possess of these traits, if the girl is not at least attracted to you in the first place, these things won't matter at all. You can be literally and figuratively the perfect man to date/become a partner in life, if she's is not attracted to you in the first place, nothing matters after that.
@@Marcus-gw4bb Right, of course. Everyone has an attraction floor albeit sometimes surprisingly low. I think it's disingenuous to say most women today aren't concerned about men's physical appearance, be that height or even the "attractive because of charisma". Because in the cases where women tend to be okay with a man who's less attractive, it's because of how he makes her feel which creates the attraction.
Important things: 0:28 First Thing - Health; 2:42 Second Thing - Intelligence; 3:43 Third Thing - Prosociality; 4:00 (it's very important who are we in heart, and in head); 5:07 Fourth Thing - Resources; 6:45 Agree with that - Looking for a partner that is financial responsible and financially independent; 7:07 Fifth Thing - Sense Of Humor, and 8:01 to summarize all the told here. I agree with all the told here. I might add on fifth thing that you have mentioned Courtney one thing as well. I know that some of you will find this as either surprising, and strange, etc. This thing is that some women like when men gave compliments trough joke or joking. But from all the told here we can narrow it to one thing. And that's to be gentleman (cause all of these things gentleman is doing it, believe it or not).
1. Height, preferably 6'2"+ 2. Swag 3. Money to spoil her, give her life of leisure 4. Time to spend with her, he can't be too busy 5. Fun, he has to be fun and entertain her Did I get it right?
I have just googled the research paper you base your findings on, and after reading it, i would like to make a few key points. The whole study is based on a quantitative anonymous survey, which methodically is known to have a great deal of response bias, as people often answer as to what aligns with their cognitive schemes rather than their actual actions. On top of that, some of the scenarios displayed in the article are framed so that many of the nonaltruistic actions are framed in a way that there is only one answer that could possibly align with ones cognitive schemes, therefore providing only one viable and possible answer. Would love to hear a black piller such as Wheat Waffles view on this.
I’m a single dad (no co-parent) it’s incredibly difficult to maintain a high demand and high paying job. If that’s not attractive to work a lower paying job then so be it. I have to do what’s best for my daughter. My mother is the only help I have.
I'm younger than you, but I am a woman, so, of that's alright, let me say my piece. First of all, I'm sorry u got screwed over. I applaud you (and any parenr) for prioritizing your daughter. If I were seeing someone who prioritized me over their family (assuming they weren't toxic and especially a child), I would not take that lying down. Kids should always be the priority. 2nd, give your mom kudos! My grandmother was a huge part of my life and I'm eternally thankful for the help she gave my parents. 3rd, for me, it's not about the amount you earn. It'd be more about the financial responsibility. If a man made more and spent it irresponsibly (like on a gf, or gambling, and not his kid), I'd be upset. Either way, someone out there will find you. For me, that's attractive, but I'm also not in a age bracket where kids are common, but if I were I'd find a man in your situation (with the values you've stated) immensely attractive because I know he prioritizes his family and loved ones. Heck, I'd probably help him out just to give him a break. I hope that gives you some hope! Good luck!
I remember sitting once in psychology class learning about Pavlov thinking "Those stupid dogs!" And then the bell rang and we all ran down to the cafeteria for lunch ... - Moscow, Russia
Personality does matter. Of course looks open doors but that doesn't mean you get to stay indoors. Maximize your looks and hopefully you've also been working on your people skills and your mental health because a Magnetic Personality paired with a strong mental fortitude that is held within a masculine frame will always and I mean always keep you inside those doors. You definitely want called back and when you do, you will know how I feel
The idea that women (or anyone) should feel defensive about wanting a partner who can provide resources is absurd. Anyone considering a long term relationship had damn well better think about how they are going to survive and achieve their goals together. There is a huge difference between imagining your life together, including family, and being a "gold digger". Wedding yourself to a partner who may be unable to contribute adequately to the partnership (whether it be financial support, ambition, personal effort, or emotional support) would be foolish.
Resources: I earn a pretty good salary; 100k. But 1/4 goes to taxes, 1/4 goes to Child Support. So that drops me to 50k right off the top. Then I pay for 1/2 the kids’ uninsured & activity costs - another 3k per year. My rent is $22.8/year. College tuition is $16.5/year. I am in debt, but slowly climbing out. I call that Resourceful.
I do agree with all of that. Something about resources... I had some female friends who crushed their happy relationship and went after resources, to get the vacations they always wanted, to buy stuff etc. After a few months most of them told me: I'm not happy, I feel like I'm in cage, I don't feel safe and a lot of other BS. As for the safety those men gave a lot but protected their resources. As I said I had such female friends. Now I don't because I was honest when asked about my opinion
Yea it's one thing that really sucks. I'm insanely good with money, but I've only worked low skill jobs like retail so far so I just don't have tons of it, but I'm the type of person where you could give me $20 as a gift, and come back to me a full year later and I'll still have that exact $20 bill. I just spend money on essentials. But idk it does suck knowing that even though I have that fiscal responsibility I won't even qualify for most women because I don't make $100k+/yr. I mean hell I'm going to be training to be an electrician and even they only average ~$60k from what I've seen, and that's after YEARS of apprenticeships and training.
@@user-fv7sy7kl4p High value women prefer honesty and there are such women ... 3/100. Ten years ago I would say 9-10/100... I've decided to be brutaly honest with every woman. I have romantic relationships from time to time but I don't have any female friends 😅 and my life got better 🥊
Scrolling through the comments, and I think the reason so many people are claiming that women just want tall men with money, is because they're contrasting what women say they want with what they see women go after. All of these things Courtney says women are looking for (including resources) sound like they're great on paper, but do the women in reality actually seem to be looking for those guys? Or do they run to the nearest authority figure as soon as a guy with all five of these things approaches her and tries to introduce himself?
Because looks do still better. Courtney is just pandering to her simps while acting like psychology is some exact science or you can pigeon hole all women into the same category regardless of culture, personality type, genetics, etc. because a whopping 200 person survey indicated a preference.
I agree. Because alot of these men who complain about women going for the richest men also complain about women going for pookies and ray rays. And pookie and rays are usually broke and living off his girl. I can probably argue that looks and boldness far exceeds money and resources for women, especially nowadays. If a girl likes how you look and you actually pursue her, while she knows its risky to be with a man who doesn't work or make alot of money, she'll be too busy think about sex to say no. The same think happens with men: you find a girl who has the looks you want and she flirts with you, she might have 10 red flags, but your drive for sex will cause you to ignore so much unless you are mentally and sexually disciplined. I could probably guarantee to almost none of the men who complain even approach women in real life, so they assume no girl would want them. They are waiting to be pursue, which isn't going to happen because women don't pursue.
@@avaliausd. Absolutely, you know none of these bitches are approaching women in real life. When you get older, it's easier to walk away from red flags. I've cut lose some serious hotties simply for being dumb as rocks, unable to carry a conversation, have any sort of emotional instability they refuse to acknowledge or work on, and much more. But then, I'm sober and have done years of regular therapy and I can spot their issues before do and put my mental health above anything else. Guarantee most of the men in these comments could use a lot of therapy themselves.
Some will think you’re handsome, some won’t. It’s also a matter of actually finding the women that like you. And being handsome helps, but as you said, it only gets your foot in the door. You better have a good personality, confidence, and your shit together to back it up. They won’t stick with you long term on looks alone.
Correction: WESTERN women. Women from the Philippines are wonderful people. They care about personality first, looks last. Go where you're celebrated, not tolerated.
I didn't watch the video, I want to guess. 1. Tall and Attractive (6'2 minimum) 2. 6 figure income minimum 3. Status (Over 50k followers on IG minimum) 4. 8 inch eggplant 5. Talks about his feelings and cries Did I get it right?
@@desb3459 Cause they always throw in some BS answer like #5 to seem like they want an emotionally intelligent dude. When they really want is a rich Chad that shower them with material things and blow there backs out.
No, your list isn’t accurate. I think a lot of men are simply going after the wrong types of women. Great women exist & they’re not unicorns. Believe it.
@@truthseeking-t7l I go after all types of women my brother. And if you couldn't read the sarcasm in my post. I can't help you. I post on CR's videos all the time. Even she finds the humor in my comments. Lighten up simp.
There is one dark secret - nobody tells, when woman choose the man she must be sure there will be no shame when she introduces him to her girl friends. No matter how you look or earn or what ever, if you have anything that could be laughed at - forget it yu are waisting your time, she might put you into her friend zone. So if her girl friends have boys that somehow do not match you - pass.
😮I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s. It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others. But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm. Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend. So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel. I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life. And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction. Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not? Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't. I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long. Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. Guys, men, have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk and stand a certain way, breathe a certain way, have a certain lifestyle, because leading or taking the lead is something that is behavior based, skill based, think a certain way, and many more things, that i either don't know or forgot. Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating. One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard. So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game. And I don't get or understand why a guy or a human male or just a person in general has no right to feel depressed or feel bitter and forever resentful if they manage to get their first relationship late-in-life. For example, if a person doesn't have their first relationship until their 30s or 40s and older. People say that a person like that should still be happy, but I feel a person like that has to have a right to feel forever depressed and bitter and resentful because they feel that their youth went to waste or their youth was stolen from them. I feel men have a right to be angry about something like that more than women do because for all-time men have always been dealt with the burden of having to accept or take responsibility for their lives while women can simply rely on others to do it for them. For all-time relationships and dates are basically handed or given to women on a silver platter but not for men
Yeah you sure have the right to do so, but the fact is that nothing will change, you can seethe all you like but that won't change the world nor your situation so it's better to change mindset if your goal is to achieve something
@@nobodysperfect06I get where you coming from. I’m a 26yo guy, never had a girlfriend, and I don’t expect to get a girlfriend no matter WTF I do or wherever I go in life. And quite frankly, I’m fed up with wasting my years trying to change that. Better to make the most of the rest of my 20s and thereon pursuing other life interests, because I’m just not getting anywhere with women. I tried! Nothing worked out. I’m done.
These comments are well expressed. I wish I could help, but I’m 67 now and divorced for 14 years. Pretty depressed for much of the time. I think we might do better with some therapy, but I’m also afraid if that doesn’t work Ill be more messed up! Keep trying guys!
I think you are focusing on younger women. As women get older, especially if they're single or divorced, the resources part becomes less important compared to health, sociability, and a sense of humor. As long as he is financially secure, most in their thirties and older start wanting more of a partner than a sugar daddy.
What women do men WANT..... What age ranges? 20s..... So.... suuuuuuurrrrreeeeee women in their 30s single or divorced will now care less about finances because guess what? They're like men in their teens to 20s....... they're desperate 😊 No thanks. Women don't want me on my come up.... I don't want them at their decline 🤷♂️ Even THEN... women don't experience what it's really like to be a man until near 40 (and even then can probably just get laid or find a dude late in life who just wants a person 😂)
Courtney I just want to add one thing: Preselection. Probably the most important one. When a women sees a man is desired by other women or is partnered up (especially if she’s attractive), you will see their interest in the man go through the roof.
That doesn't fit the formula of this channel. The men who watch are part of the invisible 80%. They aren't preselected because they can't get selected in the first place. Telling men who are too short, too poor, too flabby, too shy, and too serious to just go get women to hang off your shoulders in order to get a date and/or a relationship doesn't work. Telling them to be healthy, smart, social (a.k.a. friendly), goofy, and that their lack of income doesn't define them = the formula. As long as we all say our affirmations in the mirror, it will come true eventually. The Chads who are preselected have all the options. They are also the reason women complain about not finding good men when Chad dumps her for the next flavor of the month.
I think it depends on the health issues. If it's something you have control over but just aren't trying to fix, yeah that's probably not attractive to women.
All of these things women are looking for are not bad in and of themselves. I agree they are worthwhile things to seek in a partner. The issue comes down to how men can translate those things into actual action, namely a date leading to a long term relationship. Since soooooo many more people are meeting over social media, the internet/dating sites have distilled these things into measurables which stand as proxies for these 5 things. Physique is the proxy for health, yet women don't seem to want to see the gym selfies unless you are a professional athlete. Credentials are the proxy for intelligence. I have yet to see a man place his Mensa credentials on social media in abstentia of college diplomas. Having neither is an automatic left swipe. Studies show men have drastically lost friends over the course of the 21st century. I take it listing the gaming names of the people who play together on one's favorite RPG won't get the ladies excited. A picture of you and the boys drunk at a frat party back in college probably won't get the job done either to show your sociability. Ancient resource gathering like hunting, fishing, gardening, and farming may have interested women of the distant past. How many women do you know get the "icks" when they see a guy's profile with a fish picture or standing in camo holding a weapon? Obviously, cold hard cash in the form of a man's income is the only measurable women are looking for when it comes to resource gathering. Finally, how does one tell a joke over text. It's not easy. Women will never find out if a man possesses these qualities over social media. They are getting only a very partial picture of the men they are looking at. When 80% of men are invisible and don't get a chance to speak to a woman before being called a creep, it doesn't matter how healthy, intelligent, social, or funny they are. If you really want a date these days, flash the cash like a peacock.
1. intelligence - problem solving capability, creativity, good judgment, the ability to provide & protect the family, hobbies, talent, learning mentality 2. personality & prosociality - caring, supportive, good social skills, good at maintaining relationships (friends, family, with her), kindness, generosity, 3. resources - financial stability, being able to manage money spending wise 4. humor
Prosociality also indicates that a potential partner has a "safety net" among friends and community. That reduces the likelihood that he/she would need a sole caregiver in difficult times. It's very important to me.
1. Health - My Health is good I stay healthy and exercise. But on other hand I do have a disability that puts me in a category of not being seen as boyfriend material even though even though I am so what’s the problem yes I can’t drive and that makes me sound that undependable and unreliable at times but I have no control over that. and trust me my emotional state is good it can be most of the time I do what i can to be of the best version of myself but if it doesn’t seem to work for a woman then oh well. 2. Intelligence - I do my best to be to smart and do what I can but I’m not family oriented guy I know women want a guy to start a family but I don’t have that as an option anymore so maybe that’s a problem to why women avoid me because they know oh he had a vasectomy because women have intuition that tells them things about a guy instantly, so I can get this understandably so. Well the 4 qualities you listed out check out except for for the 3 one which is empathy and I still try to work on it as much as I can. 4. Resources - okay look what should it matter for finances and all that. Like look at me I will always be making less than 3k money that’s not much for a woman if women want a relationship sorry but it’s a true factor as someone that’s on SSID Money Social Security Income For Disability. 5. Humor - oh I’ve got humor it’s good and dark and funny but only if the women understands what I’m saying within the joke.
As I started working on myself, I became more choosy for myself, and I desired less women. Now, as I’ve told my partner a few times, I feel lucky that I’ve both worked on myself and that our paths crossed. It takes both. Working on myself gave me more patience and less of a desperate feeling. I haven’t lost time. I’ve taken the time I needed, and that’s okay.
Hi Courtney, as a brit I have to tell you because it got me giggling worcester is pronounced wuss-ter, don't worry though I'm fully aware our place names are ridiculous lol
I agree with most of what you said on the resource point. That being said, if a woman and I are talking online and she asks me for money, any amount for any reason, we are done. I presume she is a scammer, and I block her. Things are more difficult if we have actually met.
I was told women can decide if they are interested in under 2 minutes and they have a power the can detect if a man is good or bad. Well, men like me that are an acquired taste (meaning the woman needs to take time to learn who they are) are left out in the cold. My life is a great example, women now days (from my experience) need to be impressed in under 2 minutes or they walk. Like always, demographics plays a big part, but like algebra it's about finding X with half the equation missing that would help you find X.
General comment: What reasons do these women give for initiating divorce? Are the guys jerks? I know I’m not. I’m the “nice guy.” She divorced me anyway.
first and most important one - not a jerk/criminal/abusive/agressive person/person that cant mind their own business without looking for fights or degrading others
Top 5 things women look for in a man, REAL VERSION: TALL, RICH, RICH, RICH, RICH Alternative version: 90y old, RICH, RICH, RICH, will marry her I've been on about 100 dates in my life and not once did a woman care about intelligence or being well-read, no matter her own (educational) background. They all just wanted to know if I'm rich to make up for me being a short guy. My genius level IQ does not interest women, period.
To add on the sense of humor, the humor has to be compatible. Not everyone has the same sense of what someone thinks is funny so don’t assume what YOU think is funny is funny to others.
1.money 2.status + stature 3.money 4.status + stature 5.money there ya go, everything else she said irrelevant if you have 2-3 of those things in modern western culture
Exactly. We in the Western world are living in a feudal, cast system, but people are conditioned to not recognize that fact. So you are absolutely correct.
Women complain about equal wages😅but at the same time they have it easy because they can marry someone with resources. Someone is always ready to fly them out on IG.
As a guy who turns 34 in almost 2 weeks it just feels like I missed the boat in being perfect. I work nearly every night and have my own place, but I guess I still to do a billion times better. Man, this life sure is something.
I have no debt, 800 credit score, live alone, own my own car and have $70,000 invested with stocks and am continuing to add to that. I don't own my own home though and I don't make a lot of money so I might as well be living on the street dancing for nickels.
Great advice. As a woman who’s almost ready to re-enter the dating scene to find my forever partner, I 100% agree. Men, please remember that resources and a high income are NOT the same. I follow Dave Ramsey and Anthony Oneal’s advice about money. I have a job. I have no debt. I am working towards building an emergency savings fund of 3 to 6 months of living expenses. Soon, I will start saving for a down payment on a home. I’ve never been on a $300 first date. In fact, I took a coupon to the last first date I went on. (If you follow Ramsey or AO, this is common practice.) When it comes to money, I am all about paying for things with cash. Paying off debts. Staying out of debt. Saving and investing. Any man that I date needs to have the same mindset and behavior. If a man makes $50,000 (an average salary), but lives like he makes $70,000, our relationship won’t work. I can’t build a life with someone that fiscally irresponsible. If he lives like he makes $50K, we might work. If he lives like he makes $40K or $45K, I’m ready to go to Vegas. 😆. We can throw a reception when we get back. Men, I am in the process of revising my list of qualities I want in husband. What do I want? Someone who has a job. Someone who values learning new things. Someone who is respectful. Someone who can meet my love languages (quality time, physical touch, i.e. cuddling and snuggling). Someone who has no problem having a game night at home, making dinner together, or just hanging out on the couch. If he can’t appreciate my dad jokes, he’s out! In order for me to attract my husband, I need to become what I have on my list. Obviously, I can’t become a man. Can I improve my health? Yes. Can I read more books? Yes. Can I socialize more? Yes. I have no problems interacting with people. Please be respectful if you choose to interact with me. Thanks.
Yours is actually one of the most cogent and respectful posts by a female that I've seen in a very long time. While being willing to be 'for' a Man what you expect 'from' a Man is seemingly logical, it isn't necessarily the best approach. Hear me out- I'm trying to treat you with the same level of respect that you displayed. In general, men want a woman who is: - Fit ("can I improve my health?") - Feminine - Friendly - LOYAL. We also want a woman with a body count as close to 0 as possible. You don't have to like it- statistically it's true. If you're a "Boss B" or an f-enist (IOW not a Tradc0n) but you still want a traditional Man... many men are saying "No!" to that raw deal. Men and women look for different things in a spouse: women desire security (which is why income/resources is such a 'big deal') while men desire respect (you should know this if you're a Ramsey fan). A man's size, strength, intellect, job, etc. are all wrapped up in "security"... as is love, by the way. A woman feels secure when she is loved. A man feels disrespected if a woman isn't feminine and loyal. Since he is driven to be a provider and protector, your: job, income, degrees, savings, house, cars, etc. don't mean 💩to him- because those are more hallmarks of traditional masculinity, not femininity. Most women aren't willing to share their resources with a man, anyway... "He who finds a wife, finds a good thing." That means you need to BE wife material, not be willing to *become* wife material... 'if the circumstances are right' and AFTER he finds you. A Good Man won't allow wife material to remain on the market for long. because it is exceptionally rare to find one in today's marketplace cesspool. Nothing wrong with reading books, but men aren't really interested in your mind: we're interested in your looks and your heart. Before you get upset about me listing "looks" first: 1) God made men to be visual creatures; deal with it; 2) looks *may* get you "in the door", but who you ARE determines if you get to *stay*. I've met plenty of "9s" and "10s" who instantly became "4s" (at best) as soon as they opened their mouths; also "4s" who became "7s " and "8s"... If you have a desire to read, try finding books on how to be a Biblical wife, on cooking, on social manners, etc.- or find someone to take such classes from. You'll quickly set yourself apart from all the others. Remember: women control access to seggs, men control access to relationships. Women who freely offer their gift often don't get the marriage gift offer from men (not Good Men). You'll need to be able to explain your relationship history ("almost ready to re-enter the dating scene"). Be honest. A good/strong relationship can't be built on a foundation of lies. If he finds out you only told a partial truth or lied by omission... that is a violation of trust and is disrespectful (what is the primary need a man has from a woman again (no, it's not seggs- that's a close second)? If you've been div0rced, that's a huge 🚩; 85% of dee-vorces are filed by women, often for "no fault" reasons, then they steal half the man's stuff with the help of the courts. Men are wary of this threat. You've also proven yourself to be a vow breaker and home wrecker. Almost 100% of women claim their ex was "toxic"- unless you have police reports and eye witnesses a man can talk to, just... don't go there; we've heard it all. Own your mistakes. If you chose poorly,- admit it. If you're a single m0m... HUGE🚩(unless you're a widow); too long to explain in this already lengthy response. Also, I assume- if you're traditional- you're looking for a "forever *husband*". Cut the 4th wave f-enist crap. If we were to wed, you'd be my "wife" (an honorable title which means far more and is more specific than a mere "partner"), and I'd be your husband. You're giving off a mixture of traditional and f-enist vibes: 🚩🚩. The fact that you come across as more of a "home body" than a Club Girl are Big plusses- as is the fact that you don't appear to be very materialistic. Your fiscal approach is rare yet refreshing. If more people enrolled in FPU, they'd be much better off. Discipline is underrated. Good luck.
Two comments: First, studies show men don't care how much income a woman makes. What they do care about is financial intelligence. This is why the advisors you are following is very important. Men don't want a woman who will rack up tons of debt or purchases on their time. The time they work for financial resources for the family is valuable to a man. He's willing to spend for necessities, not frivolities, especially frivolities which don't involve the whole family. A family vacation is much more tolerable than the wife's girls' weekend trip to a resort. Second, men value intelligence - not credentials! Men like having someone to have good conversation with during the lulls of life. Reading worthwhile books is a good thing. The problem with most women is their conflation of credentials with intelligence. I know many rural "rednecks" with few to no credentials who are geniuses at their careers and crafts. There are also many people with fancy credentials who are dumb as a box of rocks. Most people with those fancy credentials look down on those who aren't at the same level. This seems to be true especially of credentialled women. They have attitudes of haughtiness because they have an advanced degree in Grievance Studies or something similar. Men know women look for higher credentialed dates and the women's filing rate for divorce approaches 90% when the women out earn their man. As long as you don't become insufferable with your newfound knowledge, a man will love to spend time talking and cuddling with you.
@@pace1195 I'm with you except for one major thing: "girl's trips" are an *absolute* "NO" from me. Too many horror stories of women doing what they shouldn't. Plus, it's disrespectful to the man to leave him behind.
Hey Courtney, I love mostly all the content you push out and I think if you just do a quick summary at the end it will help me and hopefully others keep the main topics that clicked with us, fresh in our minds, so we/they don’t have to rewatch the video again 😅 Am I the only one who does this? Hope this helps you and the viewers. ❤
I think some of your advice is mainly geared towards younger people. But listen to you regularly. I have lots to learn. Am 65. I live in a very nice house. All my things are paid for. Would like a better car. Am healthy go to the gym regularly. Have all my teeth and most of my hair… haha. This dating scene is new to me. I have a lot of women friends. Don’t date them just am their helper always fixing their stuff. This is all very hard.
Don't place women on a pedestal- they'll lose respect for you and will dry up drier than the Sahara Desert. That doesn't mean treat them like 💩 (like Chad and Tyrone)- but be confident in your masculine frame and refuse to be disrespected by her or elevate her above yourself.
@@SeekerGoOn2013 No, creativity, especially creativity that can bring fame and wealth, is seen as a valuable trait. Being a simp is validating her with time, money, and gifts while getting nothing or punishment in return. If she is buying your album or book of poetry, you're not a simp.
Hello, an Englishman here. I went to the University Of Worcester which I think you referenced, and it is pronounced 'Wooster'. I know we English have names that do not sound like they are written. It's a querk of British English. Love the video, and all the best to you. Take care.
This is what I call chefs kiss 🤌👌 from Courtney…. hearing her speaking facts… legit. Do take her advice. Coming from another woman not just a woman, THE woman Courtney Ryan!! is golden quality advice very accurate and authentic years of experience coughing dating people,relationships and single Goofys like me lol. Plus coming from a married woman is a bonus, it’s a learning process especially when we’re curious about types of men women wanted in a long term relationship. Thank you 🙏🏼
Convinced ill be single my whole life.. i dont have financial independence rn and i was dealt a really shitty hand in life losing my bestfriend who was my mother n the only person who i knew had my back.. i take accountability for my actions but ive never been the type to go out and find trouble.. ive always been humble n know my worth but since my mom left the world. No one is there to emotionally support me. Like no one cuz no one gaf and thats cool but what am i supposed to do when i literally have no one to talk to or at least relate to on some level. Life is unfair and for all you people reading my comment, be grateful and appreciate what n who you have because it could be gone tomorrow. Maybe one day ill find peace and a support system similar to what i once had
I'm sorry for your loss man. I really don't know what I could say to you but I will listen to your advice and appreciate the very few people that loves us in our life's, like our mothers. Keep your head up high brother, you got this 💪🏻
As long as he is good with his money and financially responsible then I would say some of them would probably say yes. Maybe not every single one but I don’t think necessarily that would be a deal breaker in it of itself.
At the end of the day #4 is by far the most important in reality. More so as women get older. Or put another way, assuming he isn't abusive to her, with an excess of #4 all the others can be overlooked. You can't say that about the rest of the list.
I just want to thank you Courtney for making logical and sensible videos, I recently ditched following Alpha M cause his videos seem like he's always putting his viewers down and very look at all my money but you I find your videos way more helpful and well thought out
Hey Courtney, Charm is deceptive and beauty does not last, so enjoy it while you got it, because the man you got will have to love you for what you have on the inside, not the outside.
Good video Courtney, but I think most of your offerings are falling on deaf ears and callous hearts. But keep up the good work because there are many who are taking notes.
5:08 There is nothing wrong with women looking for resources. It goes back to the very beginning where, the woman would be carrying a child and so the man would have to provide for her as well as himself. It is incumbent upon men to not only cultivate those resources (which is part of becoming a man of value), but also to ascertain if a potential mate is ONLY looking at him for what he can provide, and then disqualifying them accordingly.
Of course a man is only looked at for what he can materially provide, unless he's a top catch in terms of looks & height -- which in a way is also just something of outward value he provides, though. It all comes down to status, this way or other. So for men to disqualify potential mates that are only interested in them for their status (be that economic or genetic) would ultimately mean to disqualify about 98% of women and hope for the proverbial unicorn. That's what's called a dilemma.
I'm sorry, did anyone think personality did _not_ matter? I thought you were going to say the studies showed that physical appearances does matter because that is more debated. Of course, the outside matters too, as does the inside. That should not be a debate any longer, I think. Thanks for the video.
1. Health (e.g. clear skin, body weight, mental) 2. Intelligence (e.g. problem solving, creativity, successful in career) 3. Prosociality (e.g. good behavior towards others, has a positive outlook on life) 4. Resources (e.g. a sense of security and financial responsibility/independence) 5. A sense of humor (e.g. uh, I think I missed the punchline!) Here are a few items to add to the list: 1. Chemistry 2. Confidence 3. Drive and purpose 4. Faithfulness 5. A man who respects equality
Hey Courtney, just a heads up, the chapter segment of "Prosociality" doesn't have a marker in the video unlike the other ones. It still shows it as "Intelligence" even though it's on a new chapter. Just wanted to let you know!
When it comes to resources, the vast majority of women do not want to be with a partner who is building. They find that u attractive. I stead of working together to build long term together, they want no part of that. If a man isn't totally financially secure, they'll turn and walk away. So many women put that in their dating app profiles.
I have been accused of beeing smart by some women. I think I am just informed. I have many intrests so I research them and somethings stick. I have found that some woman are put off by what I do know. So I am a little surprise by it. I do not shove things down a persons throat or try to make them feel stupid. But if I have an interest I show passion. When talking to people if I do not know anyting about a subject I ask question and a good listener/ Hopefully I can learn. SENSE OF HUMOR this very big with me. For one its how I flirt. I remember I would be at a bar or night club and try to say something funny to a lady and if she laught or at least smiled I had a chance to keep the conversation going even if what I said was stupid. But if I got nothing I did not want her anyway.
Of course I got nothing to add here so I'm sitting here and nodding my head in agreement of each one of these 5 things women look for in a man. I know I got some of them and others that I need to work on and improve...oh, goodie I sound like a broken record.
