The tremendous growth that comes from surviving a narcissistic relationship 

I sing around the house. I do what I want. I laugh more. I’m less stressed even though my future is completely unsure, I believe in myself and I have hope for the future. I feel free.

Alone is better than toxic, nonsensical, abusive, or insane.

I am my own bestfriend. And i realized i am a good bestfriend. Thank you Dr. Ramani. ❤️

Strength gained: The ability to see myself clearly. Even before the narcissist I could never see who I truly was, or what I could truly offer. Once she was removed from my life I could finally see that I was always too good for her. That I have more to offer than I ever realized. It was like the fog had finally lifted. It gave me a new sense of confidence and charisma.

Once I got rid of all the toxic people in my life, there was hardly anyone left.

"Trust your own honest eye and not their lying mouth."

Please do more of these type of positive reinforcement for narcissistic abuse survivors! This truly makes me feel more empowered and happy. You're a life savior, and an amazing, intelligent woman that I and the rest of this community love! Thank you for everything. Your teachings will will stick with me for the rest of my life 🙂

I survived a covert narcissist, did a 18 year stretch.....😅 I recognized early on that these behaviors were bizarre , just didn't know it was an actual personality disorder. I knew I wasn't crazy. Her behavior checked all the boxes. While researching, it struck me like a javelin.....finally, my situation was scientifically explained. Since the divorce last year, I've put over 6000 miles on my bicycle and ran over 450 miles. Life is good once the cosmic pressure dissipates. 😌

“There's a place in the soul where you've never been wounded.” Find it. Protect it.

Now that I’m out of my narcissistic relationship, I realize how envious he was of my wholeness and empathic abilities. So envious that he tried to destroy them.

After 35 years of marriage and on my 58th birthday, I finally got the courage to pack a suitcase and walk out the front door. ( I had just been told that I was getting older but his girlfriends were getting younger). I have turned my life around, I managed to reestablish myself and I like who I am. It was tough but this feeling of contentment and happiness is unbelievable. Thanks for the amazing videos.

I love being alone. I'm 5 months out of living with a narcissist whom I married years ago. I am sleeping better, the nightmares have stopped, and I'm even breathing easier. I also love sleeping alone since I am safe now!

The benefits are: 1) Increased Patience 2) Increased Resilience 3) You suffer less 4) Willing to cut out toxic people with ease 5) No Longer be an enabler 6) Much more comfortable being alone 7) Learn to take ownership of yourself

There was a time when I could not even read 5 pages of a book, without being distracted. I was always on edge and stressed out because of the miserable relationship I was in. Two years back, I broke off all contact with the narcissist and finally I'm back to being a voracious reader again. I prefer being alone and happy. I'm here to express my love and gratitude to Dr. Ramani and all the other survivors..

In relationship 38 years. He smothered who I was and built his artificial world around me. He loved me, hugged me, wanted me around on his schedule. Yep. I was in some kind of prison but didn’t know it. Gas lighting, lying, minimizing, vague insults, control…. All of it. Makes you doubt your reality. I dug my head out of the sand, and was done. So I locked him out and blocked him. Have to reprogram myself and live my own life. So I’m taking long walks, playing music, dancing, gardening. Anything to focus on just me. I’m not his robot anymore.

My gifts of surviving generational narcissism: gratitude; deeper love and appreciation of Self; deeper connection to the Divine; knowledge that although the narcissist showed me the devil, I know it has NO POWER OVER ME!

The strength I got from leaving a narssict relationship - Never to trust people blindly - Identify the red flags early on in the relationship before its too late - self reflection - I became much more resilient - finding myself again I was lost in a narssict relationship - learning to let go of toxic people

This is what I have written down in my journal for the three biggest lessons I learned last month: 1. Just because someone has traits you can sympathize with does not mean you owe them to be their therapist. That is, if a narcissist had a difficult childhood and maybe was abused themselves, it is not my job to work them through their trauma--especially if they don't care to do so. 2. Not everyone has good intentions. There are people who do--connect with those people. Follow your intuition and let the others go. 3. Being "picked" is not something to strive for. It's nice to feel liked, but being picked by the wrong person can be a hurtful, damaging, and even traumatic experience. Aim to attract the right sort of people, not every person.

If I was to go on a dangerous mission into the wilderness, I would like to have by my side narcisistic abuse survivers, as they are the most badass fighters on the planet! I totally agree with everything you said in This message dr Ramani. Thank you so much for being a Super Woman!!!

"while being alone may not feel good, it certainly beats the hell out of putting up with the nonsense and abuse of a narcissistic relationship" I laughed my ass out of this one. I guess I start to heal :)

“Your child-like view of toxic people…” That one hit home for me. I realize that I have been projecting my goodness onto other people. I was naïve in believing that just because I wouldn’t do something, a narc wouldn’t do it to me. My mind had a hard time conceiving that someone who claimed to love me and wanted to marry me would intentionally gaslight, manipulate and abuse me. Now that I’ve accepted the reality, I can heal and discern peoples character better. I TRUST my intuition now. While I was with the narcissist, it’s like I had to unplug my connection with my own intuition to keep tolerating their presence. Now that I’m free, I feel like I got my soul back.

I never realized I was THIS strong

My dad is a narcissist and my mother is the enabler- i was living with them a few months ago. My brother is a narcissist too.I'm suffering from depression since childhood. Now i understand everything.I've decided to leave, i moved to another country on my own, it's not easy but i know everything will be alright. I feel more at peace now even if i'm alone. Thank you for your videos, right now i can put words on my experience and feel more validated. Thank you, thank you!

Having a narcissistic parent (and a not-so-good other parent) I learned that my happiness should never depend on others. Being successful, to me, is being able to create your own joy.

I can spot them a mile away now. I didn't used to know they even existed "before."

The strength I got is definitely being able to read people and social situations a lot better

Since my recovery (which took a couple years), I have always said “That was the worst experience of my life and I wouldn’t take back that experience for anything”. I know myself better, i trust myself, I have self worth and I have confidence from finding success, DESPITE this person trying to ruin me to my core. I feel like I’m hyper aware of other toxic people now and can see through all the bullshit in seconds and i have pride that I went through all of that and came out the other side a more whole version of myself ❤️

I learned how to love myself. That sounds so simple but it's huge. I am so proud of myself for surviving not just the abuse but also all the hardships that came after adjusting and learning how to live my new life. I feel such peace now.

Biggest thing I've learned since walking out of my marriage with a narcissist is absolutely trusting myself to be my own defender, advocate, and friend.

A “ connoisseur of people”.....😁 Yes indeed. Sending love to all survivors.

After 50 years of relationship and 45 years of marriage, I have taken my life back!!!! I'm able to enjoy my own company, while excepting it's lonely, but better than being abused. I'm doing things now that I've wanted to do for years!!!! I learned how to grow up and enjoy it. I'm proud of the courage it took for to say enough is enough.

Learning boundaries. Not allowing people in my space unless I want them there. Learning that there is a naivety within me to openly trust people instead of allowing them to earn my trust. This goes beyond a narc. This is everyday people. I'm learning to discern and trust my intuition. Knowing that I have to be intentionally single to get to know my real self so that I'll be confident when I do decide to be in a relationship again. The pure amount of joy knowing I survived a narc relationship is overwhelming in the best type of ways.

There is nothing more comforting than looking in the eyes of another narcisistic abuse surviver and finding camaraderie in the silence and peace that somebody else gets it what we have been through ! Thank you.

Cheers to all the survivors who refused to break, who rose from their ashes time and time again! You guys are all some of the most badass people on the planet. So am I. It is not easy to rise and shine after all the mindf**kery that a narcissist puts you through. But we are striving to, and that's commendable.

I’m dating myself! Buying myself flowers, going on trips, reminding myself of God’s great love for me. I am not responsible for my stbx. Praise the Lord from whom all blessings flow!

I escaped after two years of hell and I’ve never felt better, first few months were rough but the realisation of what she was and letting go of the feelings I thought I had was amazing, I finally feel like I’m me again

Great Closure to the Series. Through the series I've come to understand that I was married to a covert narcissistic. I told him that I didn't think I could handle another 30 years of trying to make him happy. He responded "Well, so do you want a divorce?" For the first time of hearing this statement for years whenever I brought up something I wasn't happy about, I said YES!. You could have heard a pin drop. A friend told me last night that the word "divorce" was his form of a handcuff to keep me shackled because he didn't think I would ever agree to a divorce. I moved out yesterday! Thank you Dr. Ramani for your informative youtube videos.

The strength I gained from surviving narcissistic abuse is that I am able now to teach my children to avoid toxic people and create healthy boundaries.

In my 50s, meeting and marrying my husband, who also survived a childhood characterized by having two narcissistic parents, it was like meeting myself...we were both successful enough financially, professionally and emotionally to simply "be" in one another's company. People who saw us together were always amazed at the loving quality of our relationship. It was magical, marred only by his passing away 20 years later.

The first thing I noticed as I am still in the early stages of healing is that I gained so much more energy. Before I would only manage to get myself to work and home, my house was a mess whilst in the relationship and I would look around at everything that needed doing and feel overwhelmed. I now have time and for friends and family, I am finding myself again. I am truely blessed as i have an amazing support network. I used to walked on eggshells around him as I never knew when a rage episode would hit. I made all the excuses under the sun to justify his behaviour and I would change how and when I did things just to avoid an argument. This never worked as it would still be an issue and I still did something wrong according to him. Each day gets a little easier. I no longer feel depressed, I now feel free and like life is beginning. I find myself restless at times and think of things to fill my time. Unfortunately I don't have any routine with my occupation so finding classes or hobbies is a bit difficult but I have found new things I enjoy like rock climbing. I wasted 9years of my life with a narcissist. And for the first time in a long time I'm truly happy. I was unsure at first if leaving was the right choice but then I had heard of how he started treating the people he moved in with after we broke up and I knew then I made the right choice. The hardest hurdle was walking away and knowing it was the right choice. Love bombing and gas lighting definitely were the major challenges to overcome as he seemed to know my limits better than I did. Once i had cut all ties life got easier as whenever I was contacted by him I got anxiety attacks and would feel guilty. Now I hope he can find away to overcome his own demon's but I also don't want or need to know what's going on in his life.

Dr Ramani. I asked God for clarity at the beginning of the year concerning my 4 decade marriage. Your series has been the answer to my prayer. I am now ready to go forward into 2021 armed with the knowledge, strength and courage that I need to move forward. Thank you a thousand times beautiful lady. You have changed my life and so many others. Peace and profound blessings to you.

After my long narcissistic relationship was finally over, I found that my former need to defend myself or explain myself to others disappeared. I had stopped defending myself against the narcissist’s illogical and hurtful accusations, and it carried over into my interactions with others. It’s truly wonderful- so much more peace.

I feel like the female Rocky Balboa, staggering on my feet, bleeding, seeing double but still fighting, stronger than ever now, thanks to you Dr Ramani! God bless you!!

Self-Love is the key to a happy life. Love yourself at all your ages and for all your experiences. Then you're never alone. And you've got your own back and keep the boundaries you need. Allow for 5-minute friends (new people you meet) but remember to stay detatched and observe people if you want to make deeper friendships. Allow others to prove themselves to be safe.

“Don’t let someone who thinks so little of you decide your worth”. I let him be my judge and jury for 27 years. I left a year ago. Cannot even describe the feeling of getting to decide my own life and live it without fear.

I never used to have the energy for anything, I'd struggle to get out of bed and do anything. Now I actually have my life together, I eat well, exercise, have meaningful relationships, I have learnt new things about myself, things that I like to do like reading, I never knew I liked reading, but now i can't go a day without reading something. I feel like a different person. Stay strong, those of you who are still battling, I still battle through the scars... But it is possible to survive, you can do it. we can do it!

There was so much chaos, static, and over stimulation in the narcissistic relationship. Being away from his energy and clearing out the old remnants of it. Are the most fulfilling replacement. I am cleaning the pollution that I lived in by being married and living with a narcissistic spouse. I love the clean, clear, calm energy I am creating and living in now.

Oddly enough I discovered my worth and how to love and care for myself. Going from feeling like the most undeserving worthless pos to feeling cared for and loved beyond measure is healing and powerful beyond belief. I've never felt closer to Spirit in my life and my gratitude levels are off the charts. I am humbled by my blessings. I couldn't have done any of this without videos like these from Dr. Ramani and everyone in this online community. We are not alone!!! ❤❤❤

Your series helped me realize that my ex is a covert narcissist suffering from combat related PTSD and childhood PTSD. He broke up with me and I moved out 1 month ago. As soon as I moved out, the migraines and GI issues I was experiencing ceased, I sleep a full continuous 8 hours nightly, and I can actually string a coherent thought together. I am rediscovering who I am while sitting in my mumu drinking wine singing as loud as I want. God made me built to last.

Things I learned/ became after I ended a relationship with a narcissist: 1- Immediate sense of relief right after the relationship ended. It was like “Thank goodness I don’t have to deal with this drama anymore” 2-The feeling that I can accomplish anything! Which is exactly what happened. I pursued my dream job which I currently have. I left my country and started living alone. 3- I became A LOT better at setting boundaries with everyone including loved ones like family and friends. Saying “NO” was a lot easier. 4- Instead of becoming a magnet to narcissists, I became an identifier of narcissistic behaviour, and avoided it at all cost 5- I became more cognizant of my own behaviour. I started asking myself questions like “would it sound passive/aggressive if I say this”, “When I apologized for this, did I do it the right way”, “am I holding myself accountable for my own BS”... etc

Another good thing to get out of it is to separate yourself from impulses and emotions and analyze what is truly going on around you!!

I recently had a conflict with a friend of 5 years. I stood up for myself, and with one response, “….you’re just determined to be angry with me” I saw the pattern of behaviour that's existed our entire friendship. In my previous life, I certainly would’ve ruminated about what I did, and how to repair it. Now, I recognize her inability to hear me in any situation. I feel wiser, saner, happier, and now there’s space for healthy friendships.

I’m a living and breathing example of a narcissist survivor who kicks butts. I am so strong and grown so much emotionally and career-wise. I sometimes thank the abuse for it. But I thank these lectures more for emotional and mental strength I have. I am self aware and no longer take things personally. I am able to assess where the problem lies.

I never enjoyed being alone but since my suffering i can't get enough of being alone

I survived. ❤ I am still on a healing journey but I agree I have gained a lot in this process. My balance might be out sometimes as the pain hits still once in a while. It resets my determination for peace and I keep moving forward. I hope you all find peace and safety.

My favorite power up has been the ability to, when someone tries to tell you a lie about yourself, say ‘no. That’s not me. I know myself.’

Things I learned from surviving a narcissistic relationship: I trust my intuition. I don’t gaslight my feelings, I feel how I feel and I sit with my feelings and process them instead of pushing my feelings down. The gift of discernment, I get a tingle down my back whenever I feel someone being dishonest with me. I know what type of questions to ask dates and what kind of red flags to look out for. Most importantly, I am no longer afraid of the unknown.

Since leaving and cutting off all communication with my 2 narc parents and sister, I have 4 things. 1. Being able to laugh at their bullshit attempts to abuse me. 2. I'm totally comfortable being alone (as long as I can concentrate on something other than replaying the abuse in my head.) 3. I can finally (almost) sleep through the night without the nightmares that have plagued me for decades. 4. I have ceased being so hyper-vigilant and scared about strange noises. I feel much safer.

After a 40 year marriage and a childhood of narcissistic behavior I'm finally getting my feet under me. It's only 3 weeks now but my emotional separation is in effect. Thank everyone for their thoughts. I'm listening.

During my long marriage to a Narcissistic person my mother always told me, all along, “You were the strong one”. Looking back I realize why she said that. I no longer am willing to risk the insatiable cost of being involved with troubled ppl. I realize that I am so much, bolder, stronger and affective than I ever knew. I understand my value, and appreciate myself more now than before. Indeed, if you have survived and left a Narcissistic relationship you are a Super Hero! My adult child refers to me as a BAB! I cannot help but appreciate that! 😂😂💯. Being out of the relationship is one of the greatest gifts I’ve ever given myself! I Love your channel, love the comments and Value all who have lived what I have. Blessings to all of my fellow Warriors! Personally I took up new hobbies, invest in myself, overall I’m “living large”, and by my own standards! Woop woop! There is Hope, Joy and Life beyond Narcissistic relationships!

The inner peace that is a daily reminder that having freedom to live your life without anyone controlling you is the best gift on this earth 🙏

I'm still going throughbthe healing process, but I've noticed how much happier and confident I am. I don't take guilt and crap from other people. I don't get walked on. I'm eating better and losing weight. I don't feel suffocated. And most importantly, my husband and I are better than ever since I cut off my mother. Hubby and I don't even have to say a word and we know when one another is happy, stressed, upset, etc. My relationships with my siblings and friends are also better and the times we have are so much happier.

Twelve steps. We admitted we were powerless over narcissism that our lives had become unmanageable. These videos make me feel empowered to find knowledge for myself in new ways of thinking. I’m 72 yo & a new life is on the way He did me a huge favor narc/addict. My deep dive started 3 months before I discarded him. Closing out a past that never was. Not sorry ,grateful for the people who believe in ME. Thank you Dr R

I put myself out there more. I stayed in the house with my narc for 13 years. Now that I am free, I'm willing to travel more (with a mask), I have two jobs and I'm back in school. This is the happiest I have been in my life.

Seven years with an overt narcissist and 40 years with a covert narcissist. I have been out for three years, doing extensive therapy, reading and healing. I am 74 and discovering my authentic self and the reality of my issues with codependency. I have never felt more free or stronger in my life! But this comes with a stark reality of my relationship with others in my life, including friends and family. Establishing my boundaries has brought a certain amount of loneliness, but it also brings me joy knowing that these are my choices and make my life emotionally safer. Thank you, Dr. Ramani, for your extremely helpful videos!

After 65 years of narcissism, beginning as a baby, what I developed was a willingness to give myself time, patience and self validation in EVERY relationship....work, family, friendships, community endeavors, public initiatives, all of it. I don't owe anyone an answer, don't have to alleviate their need for a quick or particular response, don't have to give second chances, don't have to share myself and my thinking. I decide for me what is healthy, what is in my best interest, and who I am really dealing with. I have simply started to enjoy my own opinion. So, when my 50 year relationship with a friend began to show cracks, I just watched. I put myself on notice and began to wonder how long I had shelved the "shit" she was shoveling. How many times had I ignored the diminishment? Was I just being too sensitive? Was I privileging myself unfairly? The day came when I had given her enough rope that she hung herself; and I thought "There it is. And that's enough." I've never looked back. First my birth family, then my associates, then my friends. Cleaning out your closet, though painful, does get easier. And in truth, it's like lifting the concrete vault lid off the casket they built for you. You finally are free to breathe.

I am a little over 2 years no contact from my abuser. The amount of growth is phenomenal. I'm still healing but I've got the melody in my heart back. I'm a whole person again. I pray that everyone still stuck in the trenches find their way out. I'm on your side my fellow brothers and sisters. Never stop growing, never stop learning. You are worthy of self love and self respect, you have value and God loves you and so do I. 🦋☀🌈🌠🌼💜

I left a narc after 15 years. The best antidote was taking back my power by going to grad school and realizing that I had all the tools, skills and talents needed to live on my own terms. It was affirming and confidence building to be respected by others in tangible ways. That was almost 30 years ago. I got my PhD, remarried a fantastic man who respected me and enjoyed a long and productive career. I have never regretted my decision to believe in myself and walk out that door.

In a weird way, realizing that someone was jealous of me, someone I reassured day in and day out was talented and worthy, to have them be so jealous of me made me accept that I am also talented and worthy, so talented and worthy that its threatening. Being devalued conversely made me see my true value without the humble filter of self diminishment. It's not an act of violence to shine and it's not an act of kindness to hide.

I just got out of one.. almost a month in, I'm regaining my strength, energy, my willpower, my joy, peace, compassion. Kudos to all fellow survivors of narc abuse.. "I see you" 🥰 Let's keep going! 💕 Thank you So much Dr. Ramani for all these helpful videos... thanks for guiding us through the journey of healing 🤗💐

Self love and putting my needs first is what i came away with. I am now my own best friend. And it feels amazing!!!!

In a dream I found someone huddled in a corner crying and scared to death. I bent down and noticed it was a young child with his head buried into his knees. I reached my hand out to lift up his chin and to my surprise it was my face. I picked up this child, smiled at him and said, "nobody will ever hurt you again as your guardian angel is here." Find that child in you again - pick them up and hold them high.

A strength I've gained is that I honestly don't care what other people think of me anymore. If the narc wants to spread lies about me...I couldn't care less if people believe it or not.

Ditto all you said. I also have a far, far deeper appreciation of kind, supportive people. I used to think of that as "normal," especially since I live in Japan. No longer. I now see that kindness, no matter how small, as a strength they are sharing with you. And they've probably been through their own hardships. I also love the idea of "cleaning up my life," as you said.

I'm so happy! After years of these relationships, I love myself again and feel so calm when I go to sleep and wake up.

That it wasn't my fault - it brought such relief and tears

I can now sleep with both eyes closed instead of being on edge when ever he was home. I packed my things when he went to work one day and moved into my own place.I feel so much more relaxed & happy without the narcissist in my life trying to break me.Being alone Never felt better.Good luck to everyone out there.

Have personally walked away with an enhanced sense of humor and a deep peace. Everything is going to be all right.

Even I survived by narcissistic abuse and my biggest strength is that - nobody's bullshit and yelling hardly affects me

I've never watched anything that has sincerely touched my soul and validated EVERYTHING I'm feeling recovering from narcissistic abuse in my life. Thank you 😭😭😭

Remove the fake friends. "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." - Maya Angelou. Don't enable any abusers. Identify and eliminate. Choose your battles wisely. We need not react to every opinion, every comment, or every situation. Kick the drama and keep going ahead. "Don't wrestle in the mud with a pig. You'll get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it." - George Bernard Shaw You wouldn't do anything bad to yourself, would you? Like smoking, excessive drink etc. Why subject yourself to something bad like a narcissist?

I used to be an immaculate house keeper. My home became a cluttered mess. Took so much energy just to run dishwasher, unload dishwasher, throw bags away..etc. now I am cleaning, decluttering, feel so much lighter, like a fog has cleared from my brain. NARCISSISTS STEP FAMILY SUCKED THE VERY OXYGEN FROM MY JOY, MY LIFE. With in 1 month of going no contact....the garbage man hates me! Clutter is a sign!! I'm free of NARCISSISTS and freeing my home of the affects of narc abuse. I have my faith and my furbabies!! Even reaching out to friends again. Amazing!!

I’m grateful to my friend Shelley who brought Dr Ramani’s lectures on narcissism to my attention. I understand that I should celebrate my freedom rather than fear it …. and spending time alone after 40 years of marriage to a narcissist, feels like I’m learning to walk again. However, here is the silver lining …. I CAN walk. There was a time when I did not have the strength or the ability to stand. Thank you Shelley for your endless support, and for helping me keep my balance as I take those baby steps towards a happier and much healthier future.

This series was a serious eye-opener. Yeah, it's kinda depressing, but it was brutally honest and vulnerable. And it made a lot of things fall into place.

What I like to call: "Post-traumatic Bliss"

I felt like running everywhere! Once I had my eyes and heart opened by this journey of discovery. My first narc was my Mother but even after she died I was still 'in role'. It wasn't until I saw the first video that my release began. It will be an ongoing process I think but the relief is HUGE 😊. It's a wonderful feeling and I can't thank you and this community enough. I am learning to be me for the first time in my 60s.

I married a man with a narc mother. His whole family (5 people) worshipped and enabled her grandiose way of seeing herself . She played her children off of each other, created division snd strife and then do something charming and generous so you always found yourself in guilt mode. So disorienting! 35 years of this until she finally died at age 100! Dr. Ramani I thank you for your clear presentations on narcissistic abuse and believe that not only will we who listen to you receive relief but those we love snd generations to come. ❤️

I'm learning to listen to myself Make my own decisions Being independent Liking my own company Ok with being single Understanding my emotions Learning to respond and not react

I learned my true self-worth after I saw the narcissist for what he was. I attracted the narcissist bc of my low-self worth. But when I finally broke up with him, I saw the games and lies for what they were, manipulation to keep me small. Someone once said, Narcissists masquerade as soul mates. A narcissist is NEVER a soul mate. Someone who truly loves me would never treat me so badly, try to control me or take me for granted. I am A much stronger person, no Longer co-dependent and thriving and happy on my own. Thanks Doc! It’s been a heck of a journey.

The simple freedom to express myself how I want to, when I want to in all ways on all days, is absolutely PRICELESS beyond measure. I can feel the simple joys of this bubbling up from deep inside. I love how my life now is an expression of me and me alone.

Found strengths: unwillingness to continue to supply them, ability to identify flags early and walk away, seeing the gaslighting for what it is, being an objective observer of the past, and leaving emotions out of it, helped me stay in the present and see the forest for the trees.

“Surviving narcissistic abuse is a superpower” Brilliant! How cool to know one’s spirit is, in fact, unbreakable 💖

Surviving made me learn my self worth!❤️ I still remember the day it clicked. Instead of feeling shame and self doubt when he was abusing me, I saw the manipulation for what it was. It was like these invisible chains I didn’t even know where there just broke off of me and I suddenly experienced a deep gratitude and love for myself. It was the most freeing experience I’ve had to this day❤️🥰

Thank you for validating our pain ❤ very often we invalidate our painful experiences and we think of ourselves as weak. But those who could wake up and stand for themselves against narcissist and their abuse are really strong people! It’s like being a warrior of light against darkness

"Survivng narcissistic abuse is a superpower!" Oh yes, it is! We have such inner strength, it's almost unbelievable. 💪🏻

I’ve learned that I am capable of not only taking care of myself but thriving on my own. I was always the major bread winner, why was I so afraid?!?

To everyone here, you all inspire me, humble me and I feel such a kindred connection, reading about your experiences and triumphs. I salute you all, I celebrate your victories, I rejoice in your healing! Your transformation is my transformation! Thank you 🙏🏽☀️

Resilience I never knew I had. The ability to release toxic monkeys who NEVER clapped for me but were draining. Gratefully Mag

While I am still sad about being alone I am extremely happy doing the things that I want to do. I do find myself dancing around my house to music again and being able to come and go whenever I want not being criticized for every choice that I make. Thank you, Doctor Romani, for helping me through all of this. Pain and displeasure over the last three years ❤

Having two narcissist parents and just ending a marriage with one, I've had to confront my deeply held belief that if I was only better, said things kinder, did more, I would have connection and attachment with these people. I was told it was all my fault. Untangling some of that belief has been very challenging.