The TRUTH about husbands 

Its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

Her name is Suzanne Ann walters, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online. Very impressive!

I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online. Very impressive!

Can you tell me more by what that means to you?

@@olgabushak2942 It’s being free of arrogance and egotism, so you don’t assume others are wrong, or inferior to you, or are less deserving of respect and all other important things than you.

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@@olgabushak2942it means that until you intentionally pick the right circle (friends, family, and spouse) you will ALWAYS be surrounded by HATERS that tell you, you need to be humble and modest. The part that they don’t tell you is that no matter how much you try to be modest if you are shining in life, you will always create the same level of attack against you. 💯

I also respect the work here. I'm just clarifying what I understand from his words.

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I find infinite more wisdom in Christianity. You must be reading the wrong people.

Someone can tell you, then you can learn the same thing at any age.

Jews are the Elder Brothers of Christians. They gave us the Torah and Old Testament. We share the same source of Wisdom. -Shalom!

Right. Competition

But it’s the truth for heterosexual young couples In old age the power balances out 🤷🏽‍♀️

@@irreplacable1988 How does it balance out in old age?

Every relationship has hierarchy. Power is not a bad thing in the right hands. The problem is society is convincing all that men in power are all inherently wicked, so they can only be good with a female lording over every move.

​@@leeolie3728I agree with this. Seems men are expected to be more and more responsible but retain less and less authority. Feminism teaches women to be strong and independent. Strong independent women obviously don't want a toxic authoritarian man. But unfortunately they also reject the healthy stoic masculine leader as well. They can't seem to tell the difference or want to acknowledge there is a difference.

But can't you serve without being needed only for your abilities? I mean, everyone can do the dishes, and if you'd do, it would still be serving. Actually, I think this point of view of basing human relationships on how useful you can be very problematic. Maybe that's why men have a higher chance of leaving their partners when they're ill than the other way around. I myself prefer to be with someone who doesn't need me, but still wants me there, simply bc they love me.

@@Mrsgmuller73but then why do women refuse to love?

@rofishy2 I can't speak for every woman, but I have loved in the past, and I love now. I have loved a man who I didn't need, I just enjoyed his company. I have resented a man I needed and a man I didn't need. I have loved a man I needed. The problem is wanting to reach a perfect formula that will guarantee you love. That's not how it works.

​​@@Mrsgmuller73I believe this is indictive of the huge issue modern male female interaction has. Is men project their view and experience of the world onto women and expect them to be of the male mindset. And women do exactly the same. Instead of ACCEPTING the nature of the being as your counterpoint. Thusly equalizing the relationship. You cannot tell the buyers of your product(which is you) what they should want. They tell u what they are willing to buy. Can you provide it?

@seanpeavideo I have no problems not telling the buyers what they want to buy. I have a problem with those who think there's only one kind of product to purchase/ they are the only one making the product. The truth is there's hundreds of brands of the product (following the analogy), and there are niches that will buy each one of these brands. And even if you make the "best" product, there are consumers who won't like it. And even if you buy this so-called "best" product, there's always a chance it won't fit you, or you won't like it, or that it will be defective. The author of this post is considering there's only one kind of product to offer and gets confused why aren't ppl buying it. He's failed to see that there are other similar products that satisfy customers' needs as well.

He’s not addressing the hyper feminism and its saturating presence that is taught to men and women in the West. It’s in little girls cartoons, in ever level of schooling, ect ect.

You nailed it! 💯

Keep reminding him of what you’ve put on here

What was it that then that you needed? Material goods were and, to a certain point, still are the most basic need.

​@@kresovk5correct

@@kresovk5 materials mean nothing, I could have loved him In a tent if it meant I would have received the love I desired. Love respect and kindness. Those are needs. God provides the rest.

@K.L.Kelley Yeah, everyone loves to express themselves in extremes they would never stoop down to in actuality. Besides, even for the general answer, "receiving love I needed" is still incredibly vague, as that is the end goal, not the method.

@@kresovk5 okay so to simplify or in your case expand: attunement, affection, gratitude, respect, honor, faithfulness. That is what I required. Basic human needs consist of significance, love and connection, certainty, growth, contribution and uncertainty. You can determine your own needs by self reflection and examination. Those are needs. Materialism isn’t a need. And God provides those things. You aren’t in control of anything.

You don’t. That is living with a roommate, not marriage!

Because, although u are married, u may not always be married. There is no guarantee that your partner will love u forever. He may decide to leave. I have heard stories of one spouse taking all the money from the joint account.

Great teaching!

@@user-xu9ib9cd6d Yes, and fights over money are one of the biggest reasons for divorce. Sometimes it's better to keep separate accounts.

Being "unequally yoked" is a terrible thing 😑

Yes, cultivated as a husbandman cares for his viney! Watched over continually with dedication. See why this old word is used!

Introduce a “Random Act of Respect” day Designate one day a week when you both try to show extra respect for each other. This could include writing a love note, bringing flowers or simply thanking them for everything they do. Remember why you fell in love Cultivate common interests Laugh together remember that predictability is often a sign of stability and security in a relationship. Instead of fighting it, embrace it and be thankful that you have someone who is always there for you, no matter what

@@calmchill7583 thank you so much for your reply. Such valuable wisdom!

I knew you were going to say that.

You can confirm that you, personally, are turned off by not "taking charge" but what do you mean by "taking charge"? Do you confuse confidence with arrogance? Do you dislike living with the consequences of your decisions, and so dislike making decisions? I'm genuinely curious.

She’s pretending to know things. If she really knew things she would NEVER complain nor let her girls complain about “controlling” guys. Most modern men are trained to never take control and this lady is that ignorant to never speak up when women shame other men for taking control. The gals want a leader, and don’t want to be a follower. Basic American new style-

​@@jmso8096maybe I can help elaborate a bit. Confidence is good, arrogance is annoying and unnecessary. Women are perfectly capable of making all the important decisions in a relationship, but to do so is exhausting for her. It's not about not being able to live with the consequences of a decision, we do that all day everyday without a spouse. The issue is that women were not created to lead a relationship, we were created to help. I once heard someone say "weight is meant for shoulders not for hips" and I agree with this statement. All it means for a man to "take charge" is that he's capable of leading the relationship through making important decisions with strength and isn't afraid to do so. And that comes from a place of confidence in God and in himself. It doesn't mean he arrogantly says "my way or the highway" it means he consults God, consults his wife and has earned her trust in a way that allows him to lead her and make difficult decisions for her and the family when necessary. It also means that he can make ANY decision when necessary, including making plans for their future. But if the man is constantly only trying to please his wife to the point he's so scared of making the wrong move that he shrinks back and lets her decide everything at all times, for a woman that's exhausting for her and shows a lack of self-confidence in the man. If he can't stand up to his woman, he can't stand up FOR his woman and is therefore a pushover and is no longer safe. And pushovers are unattractive, male or female. Everyone appreciates confidence, but no one respects a "yes-man" or someone who cowers every time he has to decide something, agreeing to everything. At that point the woman becomes the head of the man because the man put her there and this defies God's natural order. This is why relationships like this typically end in resentment for the woman and emasculation for the man because he never learned to lead and she never began to follow. The natural order is reversed and this is not a healthy way to conduct a relationship.

To avoid accountability a woman must not take charge😂

A woman who is not religious is such as big turn off.. I can confirm stay away from women who doesn't have faith within her heart...

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Ah, thanks for mentioning that. I missed the last one tznius for modesty

Thank you for this❤️ blessings unto you!

that's a lot of work you did, God bless you!!

I'd change the word 'unpredictability' to 'desire'. I'm sure Sarah never left her tent without first being presentable to the world, meaning, Abraham rarely saw Sarah in those 'human moments', e.g. not at her best, before/after bodily functions, etc. etc. Familiarity breeds contempt is so true.

And a woman who is capable isn't lost so it isn't so much that it's 'leadership' so much as "decisiveness." Have the ability to make sound decisions and have a world view with integrity to back them up!

The men need to be stronger and stop being takers/ receivers.

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Wow, just like that you've summer up all about men and women Ina simplistic statement, which is the end of the story lol. How dumb

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This sounds like a comment from a woman

100% nonsense

You have to be in a relationship for a very long time in order to understand what he’s talking about. When he says a man is a man and a woman is a woman, he’s not talking about status or equality. Example, if man were to act like the woman in the relationship, (ultimate receiver) that brings an imbalance. That being said, if you are the man acting like the woman (receiver) and you enjoyed or preferred it then your supposed to be the woman🤔. it’s too complicated when you’re trying to play both, it’s seen in society today as praiseworthy, but it is an imbalance when talking about a marriage that is between a man and a woman. He says it all, in a marriage. It’s not about you anymore.

@@annee5582 I don't get it. What's an ultimate receiver? Someone who doesn't do anything in a marriage? I'm pretty sure most women contribute a great deal when they're wives. The ones who do absolutely nothing at all are known as trophy wives or gold-diggers, but even then, they provide a certain companionship to the man.

HA YAH & ❤YAH HA

Emotional support: "How was your day?"

Just because you have one house does not mean you don’t need a second one that you share with your husband 🙌🏼 You just make money out of yours by renting it out, quit your job and dedicate your time to stay healthy and sane for your family, be the best wife and mother you can be, with no job stress 🎉😊

Amen to that

Why would he be saying about what women need to be, lol, you people are rediculous. he better say about men coz he's a man and he's wise. I've seen manny religious men talking about how women should be and they always recieve a backlash

​@@zeehuss7275 Yeah narcissist group is always right and can't do no mistakes.

I can't disagree.

@@ms.d5195 It's not a dig, just a fact. Men and women think very differently, one is more logical and uses more technically descriptive words, while the other more emotional and uses an emotional expression instead of a technical breakdown. If you recognize it, whichever you are when dealing with the opposite, it helps with communication. I never understood women don't want something fixed when they complained till years after my wife and I were married. She got tired of it, knew how logical/technical I was, and simply explained it since "You're not listening" didn't equate to me, I think I replied "I am listening, this is how you fix ...." - problem solved, I quit doing it. 🤷‍♂

Tznius means modesty

@@amandamclaughlin3436 thank you so much

​@@amandamclaughlin3436so modesty will save a marriage,? I don't get it.

@@cynthiaalsup3585 modesty isn’t just what you wear but how you act in judaism.

@@amandamclaughlin3436 but how then will it save a marriage?

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Read the title again: HUSBANDS, the video/topic is about the husband

They run from a woman who is needy, not a woman who needs

There's no difference

​@@NightinGal89 Yes there is. The difference is this: if a man doesn't do for me something I can't already do for myself he's not a man I can respect or desire. It might be he grows and catches food. It might be he knows how to maintain a house physically. It might be he knows how to manage and invest money so it grows. It doesn't matter what it is. It matters that he adds something to our lives.

@@NightinGal89 There is a HUGE difference between a person in need and a person who is needy, the difference is the "OTHERS" or in other words: "what will others say". For a person who needs something, the "what will others say" do not exist. A person who has a need to fulfill, will ask for help from those related to him, in order to fulfill the need. Once the need is fulfilled, he stops and can now help others. if there is a need to fill, it is filled according to the ability, the amount needed and according to the manner, a lion eats meat, an elephant eats grass and also an ant. On the other hand, a needy person uses need, to impress. And in order to impress, everyone related to is used as a means to achieve the goal. An unattainable goal, because it is in an inner layer, therefore this need will never be fulfilled and as a result, the person will never stop use people as a means and never be able to help others who are not directly related to the goal of impressing the "others".

​@NightinGal89 we all need something. We are human. But that need shouldn't dictate our behavior as being needy. Being needy is a symptoms of unresolved trauma. Needing things is a basic human desire.