The Truth About My Open Relationship - FtM 

Thank you!

Yes!

*hops around a cemetery* don't be malicious, don't beeee malicious

My mom’s opinion is that ‘it’s disrupting the sanctity of marriage’, and I’m just like ??? So ??? Is it disrupting the sanctity of _your_ marriage?

Ya he can be malicious towards kc Miller Bt no one can be malicious to him.... Yaaaa soo right.. he can attack anyone

lmaooooo

that legit made me chuckle

That's how gaybies get made

Could proably let off the "rural" part even. Although a bit suprised the case even in NWA

You never know, tho. Maybe they're just stealth because of transphobia or they didn't even figure it out yet because it's so rural and no other people are there who could help them figure things out.

my best friend is a nonbinary person who lives in a hunting cabin in the woods in arkansas

@@casemma0101 They're living the dream

Yeah it’s often because it isn’t safe to be out and visible here 😅

I found a term for my sexuality lol

Yikes

This is a good insight for me. Thanks. In general I think it’s important to destigmatize all emotions so we can learn to handle them healthily, but I hadn’t thought about jealousy specifically...

Thank you so much!!!

I find rules to be a very unhelpful framework for polyamory. I find it way more satisfying to talk about what my relationship to my partners is like and what we both want it to be like, rather than make rules about what it should be like. I strongly feel, that no one has the right to demand exclusivity from someone else. I don't like other people making rules for me. My expectations of my partners are mostly around them being honest with me and keeping me reasonably informed about their other connections. I don't think I have a right, nor do I have any desire to limit their other connections. But on the other side of "making rules" there is a huge pit fall of demanding "equality" in relationships. Having a new partner move in with an established couple, has a bit of that vibe. Relationships with different people are different. I have a partner that I live with, the relationship with them is very different from a lover that I see occasionally. And that's okay. Some people misunderstand this as "hierarchy" and try to avoid it. I see it as honestly describing what connections are like. I have been in relationships with that rules mindset. And when I no longer wanted to relate in that way, we had a breakup over it. Since then I have only dated people, who have a similar attitude towards freedom in relationships and it has been way less stressful than the "rules" model ever was for me. There are people who can just be chill.

I felt this thanks 🙏🏽💯

I *can* be mono (and I am at the moment), it's just not my "most natural state". But sometimes one has to compromise. Love to all the polys out there. It's still a lonely and very misunderstood way of being.

i also love this comment

I know. The 80's hair!😎

.........To the beat of the rhythm of the night 🎶

YES.

Rad to the bone! I love it.

@@HeatherCadieux right??? Kinda of really want it now lol

Thank you! We're restocking black and white very soon!!!

Hey Heather, could you please explain what OnlyFans is? 🤗

@@niccidean2659 I know I'm not Heather, but I'll explain for you! OnlyFans is a website where creators can upload various types of content for fans, like videos, music, or photography. Many people use it for posting nude or sexual content, as the site allows it. A creator can choose to make following their page free or charge a monthly subscription fee of their choice, as well as choose to put certain content behind a separate paywall. It's an easy site to use for creators to make money off of the content they make, basically! Heather is saying she can't afford to subscribe to Ty's monthly fee haha.

Hannah Arrow thanks Hannah 🤗

@@notrlylol thanks Hannah!

I have to admit, I was a little confused about whether you guys were together or just room mates but it wasn’t my business so I didn’t pry or anything. Thanks for the video! I think a lot of couples could learn from y’all

It's definitely not for everyone, but as with ANY relationship, it can go well or it can go badly. My fiance and I have been open (with similar rules to Ty and Christie, actually) for years and it's never been an issue, but I tried doing an open relationship with a previous boyfriend and it was a trainwreck (but our relationship in general wasn't exactly stellar, lol). It requires a level of commitment and honesty that a lot of relationships just can't withstand. You obviously don't HAVE to try another open relationship if you don't want to, but I would suggest truly examining your feelings about it and considering how much your aversion is based on the previous experience vs the actual ideological/emotional/sexual/etc concept being appealing or not. Either way, wish you the best!

@@azuradawn5683 thank you for that! Ive been needing to for awhile, I would hate to have it brought up again and not even know where to stand on the whole thing. I know the main issue wasnt the openness but everyone there. Like you said, with the right people it'll work, and it does require people willing to put in the work. I just need to learn to separate all the people who didnt recognize that and the people Ive met who did

I'm sorry you had a bad experience! As long as you're content in whatever you're doing, open or not, that's what is important! :)

haha! nice

If you’re going to look up to someone...isn’t Ty just so lovely ☺️

thank you i worked hard on those!

THANK you

@@christyalexia the truth

Boom....

so if my significant other left me, even after telling them I'd be willing to have an open relationship .... then they didn't actually love me. did they??? I agree with your comment. I'm just asking for clarification. this has been driving me insane. I would have let them fuck WHOEVER they want ...... forgave them for cheating on me multiple times ...... but I guess that wasn't enough.

What has being LGBT got to do with it.... im lesbian and as monogamous as any straight perso

​@@thoraneh7365 What does monogamy have to do with straight people? Are you assuming ALL straight couples are monogamous? In my comment, I DIDN'T say "everyone" in the LGBTQ+ community, I said "people". I have been an out gay man for 45 years, so I have just a little bit of experience in the LGBTQ+ community ;) And I have 0 years experience in the straight community, so I can't comment on that. FYI, I have been in both open and closed relationships. My last relationship was closed and lasted until my partner passed away, 10 years on. We had both previously been in an open relationship. Over the 10 years, we did discuss opening up our relationship a couple of times, but neither of us wanted to do it. It was kind of a health check for us.

@@MrChrisbtacos I would say if you were in that situation, there were other things that contributed to the breakup other than whether you were willing to be in an open relationship or not. I'm not the one to ask if they loved you or not, but people can fall out of love also.

I understand. I’m similar. I highly respect polyamorous people and polyamory as a whole, but it’s just not for me (at least right now). I know that a lot of it is because of past trauma, so I try not to be hard on myself about it. 🖤

That's totally normal! For years I was never interested in having an open relationship and the thought of it also made me nauseous as well! It was upsetting to think about but well... here we are!! lol it also helps that we have certain boundaries so it doesn't feel like I'm competing with other people. We love and trust eachother very much!

I really don't understand why there should be this need to "make you be ok with it", if it isn't. With all due respect to poly and non-monogamous people, there is also nothing wrong with being monogamous and wanting a monogamous partner (and no, not wanting an open relationship does not make you immature or close minded - it is actually quite mature to know what you want and to not settle for less). :-)

@@AlisInterrail agreed! You never have to do anything you are uncomfortable with and not everyone has to want an open relationship. Being in an open relationship or have a monogamous one is okay. Nobody needs to make anybody feel like one is superior.