The STRAIGHTS are STRUGGLING 

I think a good point with the comics is that a lot of her problems could be aliviated if she. I don't know. talked to her husband about them

@@oliverjoukowsky4451 I feel it's likely that she probably does talk to her husband about them? Like, she says he reads them and thinks they're funny. Isn't it likely that they have those discussions when he reads them? I think it's more likely that this is an exaggeration of their relationship dynamics, because the "I hate my spouse" stuff is super common for cis het people. I think she's making content that's relatable for her demographic and it seems messed up to you because you're not a part of that demographic. I don't like it, but it's not for 29 year old white trans men like me.

Expectations are pre-meditated resentments, and peach mom is #1 at not communicating expectations

Okay ... I think the husband himself reading and enjoying the comic might mean something or other.

@@oliverjoukowsky4451 Besides the fact that reading her bio would tell you she does and he likes the comic, seeing this and assuming no conversation ever happened is presumptuous. Imagining a scenario in which a poor man is being secretly maligned, picturing him scrolling through with shock and hurt in utter confusion at what was never discussed with him is not the obvious conclusion to draw. It's nonsense, you think they could live together and he never looks at anything she draws? You think conversation wouldn't happen over these long years of posting? Possible, but nowhere near sensible to assume. The only explanation I can see as to why so many have felt comfortable making this projection is a pretentious belief that no matter how little you've seen, it's never too little to make you uninformed. You saw a comic and felt a feeling. So you've seen all you need to. Begin casting judgements about the resolutions you are not present for to the conflicts you are also not present for.

imagine a guy saying this while chatting u up like bruh

@@alyssinclair8598 NICE PFP

I cackled entirely too hard thinking about this 😅

It especially kills me that this guy says we should let this thing we have let it negatively affect our self-confidence and make ourselves MORE sexually available as a result. Like idk about any other cis woman but if I let anything negatively affect my (already fairly low) self confidence my reaction would be to make myself LESS sexually available, because I'd feel too insecure in my own body to so much as remove my clothing in front of anyone else, let alone let someone try to fuck me.

@@0XBlondie96X0 yeah. could be another issue women run into with sex and confidence but how many times have we had the discussion about men not properly washing their ass? at the end of the day, you gotta worry about things YOU can change

Literally our last line of defence

This.

@@phoebedarker because men respect another man's property more than a woman

Back in my early days at university I would do nice things for women and they would just get defensive and act rudely towards me because they immediately thought that I was being nice because I wanted to get in their pants (I'm a gay man and so that wasn't even in my mind). It really made me feel upset that I was never appreciated by women and was only viewed as a threat, but over time I realized what women have to go through and deal with from many of the straight guys out there and so I didn't let their behavior upset me anymore. I just tried to make them feel safe and kept my distance at times so that I wouldn't make them too anxious rather than always trying to be courteous and helpful towards women I didn't know very well.

Okay but the biggest sign they're putting out when they say "I have a boyfriend" is just that they aren't interested. If they're playing hard to get with this sentence that's supposed to hint at their unavailability, they're not really putting in the effort. I, as a woman, personally think it's dumb to play hard to get with something that's supposed to make interested people go away. Aaand weird to think about but a lot of women do it because they're trying to be nice, actually, and they don't know how else to reject someone without being even ruder. I guess you can ask if they're telling the truth?? But I mean why bother? Unless you have actual proof that they might be lying, it really is just best to leave the woman alone

Or she's the abusive one who flies off the handle. Why is it that people only ever consider the man to be the toxic one in the relationship, & that the woman can do no wrong? She can totally be the abusive one & the post with the birthday money was a call for help because he's sick of constantly being yelled at

@@BooksandBuns "...either he's giving her a reason to yell that often, he's being abused, or..." that was already one of the options in the comment.

@@BooksandBuns "he's being abused" FUCKING READ YOU IDIOT! The comment isn't edited!

@@BooksandBuns now reread the comment you just replied to again, specifically the 17th-19th words of said comment

@@BooksandBuns maybe next time make sure you've actually properly read a comment before going on a rant about it in the replies...

underrated comment, creative idea

Terribly underrated comment

@@sleepysouffle5415 not really, this comment is plastered constantly across social media

@@OpossumOnTheMoon Because it's true.

@@sleepysouffle5415 Creative how? What a weird thing to say.

@panko What? Did you reply to the wrong comment? Wtf are you on about?

@anherb It's related, but the angle is different.

I am able to relate to people no natter gender in ways, yeah we are different but not that different lol 😆 also opposites attract :P you don't have to fully relate. If it bothers you, date men. :P but I am pretty sure it's not a deal breaker that we are different lol

THIS

Modern? That’s been going on since society began.

But what if his aura and frame are very masculine? Should I try to donkey?

@@TyTurner at that point, you need to save the peach for your kids

"Auto bitch shield response" sounds like something Iron Man would say to Jarvis.

Women do put a bitch shield up against men. Women are generally not that friendly to men.

maaan I know VEEEEERY few straights who are somewhat ok. not completely but at least better

I still can't believe people remember that song.

I’m ok. Not really I’m depressed as hell. But that’s because I had to deal with abuse as a child and think about killing myself daily. Has nothing to do with women or my partner.

Right I forgot all gay people were perfect paragons of society. I’m gay and trans and if you don’t see what utter bs this polarizing content is you are very lost.

@@wikiwoof9590 nobody said that the gays were okay, it’s just a joke video showing the problems with straight culture and toxic masculinity. no need to get so pressed, mate.

As someone who also has mental health issues, I am so glad you are starting to get better, and I am so glad you have such a supportive partner! Hang in there! Things can get better!

@@scarlettptheoriginal Aww thank you. I have had a rough couple of days since I posted this, but I try not to stay in the rut. It's just the PTSD nightmares that occasionally come back.

@@3scarybunnies211 that sounds awful! I'm sending you (virtual) hugs if you want them! Just remember the rough days eventually pass. I hope your nightmares go away. Remember, mental illness is a liar - whatever horrible things it tells you aren't true.

@@scarlettptheoriginal Aww thank you. Hugs are always appreciated. I think I'm starting to come out the other side - it has been a rough few years though.

I hope when you get better you do the same to him and let him take time off while you do everyhting as a thank you. Nice thing to do from your husband, really nice

So what? You've never seen a toxic non-straight relationship? Or do you think those just don't exist? Straight or gay, humans in general are effed up

I completely get where you are coming from as well. p.s. you missed the perfect opportunity to call it "Dire Straights" instead of "struggling straights"

@@oisnowboy70 oh no… 🤦‍♀️ 😄 Thanks❤️

I have never experienced this, my parents like eachother and logically if a little boy is picking on you cause he likes you he should grow out of that as an adult. You were dealing with some shitty people I guess

It’s not straight relationships, it’s shitty relationships. I’ve been in an abusive relationship with a women and in a shitty relationship with man (not bad just personalities didn’t clicked) It’s just finding the right person for you. Just because I or you haven’t found the right person yet, doesn’t mean they aren’t out there.

I thought it was a punk-rock band from the 90s.

" Willow delicately parted her knees to reveal her velvet temple horrifying Marco as he recoiled at the female anus inching ever closer..." In the distance a peacock wailed.

@@TheIndigodog Go on...

I want Chuck Tingle to write an entire parody book of that dood's novella on the horrors of female anuses.

@@lucienfortner841 Man name of Chuck wouldn’t write about the horrors of anything unless it was hetero.

Yeah I can think of like 1 healthy straight relationship off the top of my head and the rest are basically that

@@TyTurner it's SO depressing.

The baseline I take from the cartoon is mainly "never ever have kids". If I want someone following me to the bathroom I just have to leave the door open for my ferrets. But instead of being annoying they're just cute.

@@Eagle_Owl2 yeah, I'm not down with the fad of performative hatred of children. We can laugh that the straights aren't ok, but the fact is, we're no better when it comes to kids, and it's every bit as awful.

yeaaah from seeing how cis-str8 men I can tell he is probably oblivious and gaslightning as well every time she brings it up

Yes! Weaponized incompetence. It's something she talks about in her comics too! It's definitely real and not a trait I would want in a partner 😵‍💫

oh my god I’m so sorry

@@sophiathefurbst Thankfully my son saw right through his bs and confirmed I had heard what I heard. We are in the process of leaving, cause I have since learned a bunch about narcissism.

This was something that my narcissistic father did to my mom all the time. So so relieved to hear that you’re getting yourself out of that toxic relationship, best wishes

@@blue1584 Thank you.

i don't understand

​@@politicamufu648 If you are having standard straight sex, all you have to do is move down one inch lower and you'll be having gay sex.

Is that a prostate joke? Lol maybe I’m just stupid 😂

@@pansexualdickhaver6878 Hahaha! Okay, I'll spell it out completely. When straight people have standard sex, the man's "D" in the woman's "V". When gay men have sex, the man's "D" is in the other man's "B". Okay, clear so far? So what's the difference between straight sex and gay sex? About one inch. If the straight man moves his "D" just one inch lower, then he'll be in the woman's "B" instead of her "V". Technically he's now having "gay sex" with his woman. Get it? (RU-vid is so gonna block this comment.) 😆

I getcha XD

And not just straight, cis marriages. My wife says a lot of things to me about the kids always choosing her - it’s not true (they pick me when they want breakfast or practical help, but her for emotional support) but when we are all sleep deprived and not getting time to ourselves or support from others it often does feel very ‘me vs them’. Things felt so much better when our eldest got older and we slept more - and then we chose to have more and accidentally had twins and now we are riding that wave all over again. The difference is, not many people know LGBT parents to see and hear the similar issues. And those of us in it feel too much shame that we aren’t better at it to talk about it.

The reason divorce is so high is because women have a choice of being a mom of 3 kids. Or only being a month of her 2 actual kids.

Also probably why wm divorce more

Like ok alpha. Where's your pack? Where's your fannypack of emergency snacks and bandaids? Who are you protecting besides your ego?

I saw a skit where an alpha meets an ABO fan that's what it made me think of

unfortunately, they do know... and they've corrupted it. Most A/B/O fics are misogynistic, homophobic trash these days.

I used to troll guys like that in comment sections using my worryingly extensive a/b/o knowledge

You mean like mpreg or just the other " alpha" stuff

If it was about my parents it would be "Oh, last peach? There were like five of them when I went to sleep." and second pic would be my dad in darkness eating peaches in 3 AM. Little gnawing mouse.

Aww that's so adorable! Come to think of it that sounds like me and my partner too.

heheh, I do!

@@okuno54 that's. an incredibly specific thing to have just laying aroud lol

Online shopping is a great excuse no one will believe.

@@cuntforcetrauma well it’s useful! Never know what need measuring

As guy who does a bit of sewing and embroidery, I do, and it's pretty handy for non-cloth related measurements too, like buying furniture or repotting a plant. But if I was to venture a guess, I'd say it's because he's been tracking his transition progress.

In case of my mum it would be "Last peach? They already ate all of them? Lucky to get at least one this time"

Bro.. this comment brings back memories of living with my husband's parents for two years. They were stereotypical fox news watching boomers in their 60s. He would straight up ignore her, tune her out, half the time. Because of that she was shrill and would constantly nag about things since he never listened! A perpetual back and forth and they were always both so miserable. He'd often pick at her and talk down to her with little comments about her medical marijuana "oh getting high again?" "gonna go smoke a doobie in the garage?" talking to her like she's an addict even though the cannabis stops her from having to take 10+ more pills every day for pain. She was doing the majority of the housework too! Once he retired (more so got fired from his job of 40 years for stealing dog bones) he sat on his ass to watch fox news all day while making fun of her medical marijuana. The straights are not okay lmao. edit: I can't say this without adding that he would feed the dogs chocolate ice cream when no one was looking, then when confronted about it would joke and say it's their birthday. it's goddamn toxic to dogs you old coot! Dogs slowly got fatter and fatter as I was there. That old boomer wouldn't listen to anyone to save his life or his dog's life.

yes

@@eon6274 I'm Sorry HE STOLE DOG BONES????

@@ahhh4117 Yeah he, consistently for months or maybe years without getting caught, STOLE dog bones from his place of work. He'd spoil the dogs by feeding them crazy things and lots of dog bones. No kidding, they had a schedule of three bones a day and on top of that he would sneak them more. Saw him feeding them stuff like fig newtons, donuts, and he'd even get them each their own cheeseburger if he went to mcdonalds. Their last two family dogs died from obesity related problems. Not even a letter from the vet would make this man stop. Edit grammar

About the peach thing. My mom has always been like that, saving the last piece for us. But my dad on the other hand would inhale everything he saw, the sweets my got for us, the last piece of cake, or something you bought for yourself and even told him not to eat it, he of course would without a second thought. This would always result in mom basically having to explain basic decency to him. It would kinda hurt because he just straight up told you by acting this way that he does not care.

100% agreed

I agree

She doesn’t deserve to be dogpiled, but damn her and her husband need to go to counseling

All of it is toxic af

I saw that too and I was like what…

but what if i gift them a pack of DUDE WIPES? surely they'd feel manly then?

@@StephyWephie I think I laughed so hard for like five minutes straight.

I'm a cis guy and my sister gave me a couple of dinosaur plushies for my 26th birthday. They're still on my bed every night.

@@Dalekzilla54 hearts out to all the boys who will never get gifts since some dude felt emasculated once

I was thinking the same honestly

That would be a much better message. Viewing what he did was a good thing, where everyone deserves to think about themselves every once and a while. Especially when it's something so inconsequential. But given all the other stuff... I'm not sure. Maybe as an artist she should put more work into making the message more clear. Because to me and many others it REALLY sounds like she's close to a nasty divorce.

100%

Being well-prepared isn't feminine. Having things you need through the day is responsible and dare I say, adult behavior

@@ahhh4117 Exactly. The 'dumb husband being babied by his overworked wife' trope being normalized in everyday life ended in many men being just awful at basic skills for daily life, like cooking, cleaning, organization, preparation, etc, or even just fucking bodily hygiene.

How'd it go? You ok?

That's very good of you, i can only prepare for myself and sometimes i still forgot some stuff lol. And how did that go? Are you fine?

Eyo I have the exact same thing bc I'm autistic and have anxiety so I do the same overprepared thing. Always giving out band-aids and painkillers and reminding people when their classes are. It also gives me dysphoria sometimes, but it helps me to imagine a cartoonish overprepared male character in my mind and then pretend I'm playing that character. Helps remind me to associate my traits with MY gender and not some arbitrary pointless stereotype.

damn that's a good one

Yeah but she also doesn't do anything about her situation I think ty is right communication would be a great first step sharing the mental load of raising kids and the chores of adult life is really important I get her resentment but especially her kids didn't ask for this Iam glad I don't have to find something like this about my childhood bc the internet wasn't a thing like it is today

She definitely hates them. If you see her comics, she was free to do whatever she wanted to but now she has to take care of 2 little people and she was not prepared for how hard it is. I have a family member in a similar situation: she wanted to have kids, she cried and screamed and did crazy stuff to get pregnant, now that she has the kid it's very obvious that she wants her single life back but she's stuck. We all warned her about going in without thinking but you know, no one listens up until it's too late

I was about to post how most of the issues relate to the kids.

@@cruelaz if you have to be told to do your dishes at the end of the night or get your laundry in the hamper how much of an adult are you really though?? Like there shouldn't need to be a conversation about these things. If you have a functional body, some free time and open eyes then your wife shouldn't need to say "hey honey it would be so nice if you took out the trash!" Communication is important when things aren't blatantly obvious.

yeah, it sucks for the kids, for sure. the issue for me is though...it´s not HER fault. it´s systemic issues that raising children as a 2 person couple while having jobs and doing all the other household chores is just an insane societal model whcih is rather unique to modern hyper individualized societies. Even if you do not struggle financially or healthwise this is a very overwhealming situation, far from ideal. in other cultures children are taken care for collectively, in larger family groups or other community arrangements. all the women i know who had kids were completly burned out, mentally ill and overwhealmed. then you add the mental and physical workload expected to be done by women into the mix, which men mostly not even see as existent, like knowing all the things kids are allergic to, like or dislike, getting birthday presents for the kids when they are invited to another kids party etc. ALL these hundreds of tiny things that men mostly still do not even consider. the hidden workload of emotional labor and organizational mental workload of knowing when the food storage needs to be refilled. i think this comic is important, politically. yes, it sucks to make that passive agressive comic. but then again: i appreciate women HAVING an actual voice these days so they can make that and get a discussion going that clearly needs to happen. having and raising kids need change on so many levels its messed up like it is now.

I’m honestly appreciative that my parents got divorced instead of staying together just to despise each other

Makes me happy that I only have one parent, haha

To be yelled at. Just make a damn contract already and enjoy safe and consensual

So heavy emotional manipulation instead of... Art

A vacation primarily

@@origamiandcats6873 rich people shit

Yeah she needs a me time badly tbh and better communication with her husband too

gender rolls sounds like a funny pastry

@@insu_na No doubt as inedible as gender roles are unsustainable and unlivable.

Marriage, kids, ‘great’ job and mortgage? Yuck. I’m glad I’m a demi nb who just wants to live in their camper van. Life isn’t easier being lgbt+ but thankfully for me there’s no dehibilitating structure. Peace ✌🏽

@@marzipanbugg I hear that: demisexual, aromantic gay man of nonstandard masculine identity here, who walked away from a medical career years ago when it became clear how much of myself I'd have to strangle and mutilate to be accepted into their club. Lucky for me that I found an ideal partner and best friend (asexual/aromantic man who claims to be straight but loves me and is all in for the long haul with me, regardless); between the two of us, we find a way to live that works for us, and I'm glad to hear that you've done likewise for yourself. Peace, friend...

The explanation is perfect, Thank You

I hope your mom becomes free from him.

I'm sorry your family is going through this. Hopefully your mom gets the job and can separate from your dad... sounds very stressful. Kudos to you for supporting her

Thank you I'm going to send this to them lmao

It is a good video. I didn’t know about these comics before their video but they explained the situation quite well.

Yeah thought slime made a good video about it

Some of her comics are more about internalized misogyny than her husband being lazy. Just eat the peach, that's what a normal person would do. Ofc it's easier said than done. It's genuinely difficult to unlearn all the unhealthy ideas about what being a woman and mother means that we've all be subject to.

Men AND women should put their kids first, no excuses. They have no say in their existence, but their parents did, and so they have a responsibility. Ultimate responsibility, I'd say.

@@cortster12 Depends. If we're talking general big life decisions that will impact the kids then, yes, they should definitely keep the kids in mind. But there's a difference between being a good parent and being needlessly self-sacrificing on literally every turn, especially when said self-sacrifice may actually end up impacting the kids negatively such as staying with an abusive partner or overworking yourself to the point where you struggle to be emotionally available or start resenting your kids.

​@@teaartist6455 mucho agree

I bet you that peach would never actually get eaten if the husband didn't have it. Infuriating when everyone tries to save the last of something for so long it goes off.

yeah that's exactly what alot of her comics including the peach one are about, she even has another post related to it encouraging mother's to "eat that damn peach"

She did clarify that it's not really a problem to her, and she is now advocating for moms to "eat the damn peach," ie, it's okay to look after yourself instead of constantly living for the kids. The husband didn't really do anything wrong but they both just have a different mindset, which in large part comes from the fact that mothers are expected to be the default caretaker.

It takes two people to make a relationship work, so blaming it all on her by saying “she has rancid vibes” “send her ass to counseling” is pretty harsh. If she makes comics to vent about some of her minor gripes with her marriage and he’s cool with it there is literally no issue here. You don’t know these people, you can’t draw any real conclusions about what their relationship is actually like.

@@blue1584 creating vent comics expliclty about how you hate your husband and posting those for the internet to see isn't healthy

@@alyssinclair8598 Again, you don’t know them. It’s overstepping to jump to the conclusion that someone you know next to nothing about hates her husband, you literally don’t know anything about them in real life. A few comic snippets that were most likely just made to joke about some common/relatable minor relationship annoyances and not be taken seriously are not a accurate way to assess someone’s entire marriage and compatibility with each other. They could have a great relationship and he might think these comics are hilarious and encourage her to make them for all you know. Because you literally know nothing about these people in real life.

Her husband is literally hiding outside or in the car to go on his phone lmao idk bout you but encouraging a relationship where one person doesn't feel comfortable going on their phone isn't super cool. It's such a weird thing to complain about, imagine what other things she must constantly give him shit about! Even if this is just a joke they're in on, I couldn't tell you what the joke is and how it does anything but give equally terrible wives a place to complain about their own husbands in an equally unhealthy way.

Really straight means cis het. Bc can you imagine trans people acting like this

Thought Slime's video was great

I've not seen the video but maybe discuss each other's relationship issues in therapy not online with millions of people? idk it's stupid

@@j-skullz It's art, not complaining. I mean would you say the same about a comedian who made jokes about their personal life? Of course not. Maybe some of it is made up, too.

Very true. Children love bathrooms for some unknown reason. But only when you're in them

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yeah, but the moaning and nagging IS the only thing i experienced women were allowed to use as an outlet for the unfairness and invalidation by their husbands, in straight relationship. it´s part of the dysfunctional societal model of straight relationships. so i think it´s politically and culturally great that she puts it out there, clearly it resonates with many many women and there needs to be a dialogue. for the individuals involved it sucks. for the couple and the kids, it think it´s real messa to have that posted.

@@siiiriously3226 It would be really cool if she made a new series highlighting the whys of the situation. Like, in the peach example, why did she feel that she wasn't worthy of eating the last peach, whereas her husband felt totally fine doing that? Assuming her kids weren't suffering from scurvy, the fruit is there to be eaten and enjoyed. Why do women feel they shouldn't enjoy things unless everyone else's needs are met first? I'm thinking a comic showing her growing up and seeing other females in her life ignoring their own needs for partners or children. Or a comic showing her husband reading how she's really pissed off and feels underappreciated but then he's just laughing. Maybe that's how it goes every time she tries to speak seriously but because he's grown up around men who make jokes about their "nagging wives" he doesn't take it seriously. And it would be nice to see a comic of them having a proper conversation about it and how they don't want their kids growing up with the exact same discriminatory views about gender roles. Maybe in couples counseling. I think this applies with all areas of disgruntlement - that it's really healthy to have somewhere you can vent and rant and to feel seen, but that if that becomes the norm every day it has the opposite effect. The next step needs to be doing something to remedy the situation, if that is possible. I wonder if the issue is worse in the US? I notice so many TV shows have the overworked mum, lazy dad trope. And the majority of "are the straights okay?" finds seem to be from the US. I feel like in the last 20 years we don't see that as much on UK TV. Shows like Outnumbered show both parents as working really hard and they tend to communicate with each other more. Also loads of kids TV has really positive male role models (Bing, Bluey, Topsy and Tim, The Dumping Ground). I'd be interested to know if US kids shows have also changed.

One thing I've noticed also is that, in our Western society, we enjoy complaining with one another. Especially if it's in a shared sense. I remember reading the experience of a local tour guide in Japan who took a Western Jewish family around and the older mother complained about everything to the point that the guide almost was in tears despite doing everything to accommodate her. In fact, accommodating her in everything seemed to annoy her more. But at the end, the mother left her an extremely generous tip. In Japan, complaints are (at least IRL, apparently) taken seriously and people there attempt to fix whatever is the matter. But many people in Western culture just find comfort in complaining. I do to some extent. However, there is alot to unpack here. The fact that the complaints are remarkably the same and from the same people people across the board are indicative of persistent issues in the relationship dynamics. It's almost like a boil that won't go away so they just regularly lance it to relieve the pressure. But it always comes back.