The Truth About Singleness 

Whoahhhh. That purple is incredible on you 😍

LOVE for all feminine women out there

"if you have high standards for him you need to have high standards for yourself"

*When relationships develop naturally - they last longer.* Be content with yourself, before jumping into something that won’t fulfil you.

I'll be 27 this summer. I thought that I'd be married with kids by now, but that hasn't happened yet... Honestly, I'm grateful not to be responsible for young children at this point. I WANT to be a mom, but I needed to learn some more valuable lessons that I will ultimately pass down one day ❤ In hindsight, I realize I wasn't nearly as ready as I thought. These days, I spend a lot of time alone. I'm trying to understand myself the way God designed me, and I'm putting effort into fixing mistakes I've made in the past (hello, credit repair and returning to school!) A lot of the "loneliness" I was feeling was lust. Once I realized that I was still nurturing soul ties from my past, it was easier to simmer down. I want romance for sure, but my faith that God will provide a GOOD man who loves Him, has grown exponentially in this season. I'm excited to be married one day 😊 I know it will happen. Thank you for this helpful message of encouragement!

Humans are a highly social species. It's completely normal and healthy to want to find a partner and have a family.

Just because a strong women doesn't NEED a man doesn't mean she can't WANT one

I was never a good "dater" until I started looking at it from a different perspective; not every man you go to dinner with is your future husband! You can learn from these men; and use that to improve yourself! I knew on my first date my husband was the One because I felt at ease, it's not always a lightning bolt ladies! We spent every weekend together after that first date and have ever since ❤️.

Anytime I tell anyone I want to be married they always say things like "no. Go live your life." Well maybe the life I want to live is as a married woman with kids. So get out of my way and let me live my life.

Strong women have standards... *AMEN TO THAT!* Thank you for always providing interesting points of view. 🖤 I am currently single and proud of it because I know my worth and I value *real* relationships... I'm not a "friends with benefits" kind of woman. I'm a "in it for the long term" lady. 🖤 Light and love to you, dear!

I feel personally attacked by 10:27 😂 guess it’s time to finally get a social life

I believe people should blossom where they are planted, wow. You really are a true inspiration.

Loved what you said. I am almost 25 and also looking forward to be in a happy relationship one day. But I am also grateful to be Single right now and to have all this time to focus on myself, work and my studies and become the person I want to be. And when the right man comes along, I will have a lot to share with him :) Greetings from Germany

I really needed to see this. I’ve felt so guilty about wanting a relationship and a husband. I forgot that it was natural and healthy and a beautiful desire to have. But you’ve reminded me that it’s natural and beautiful.

Omg, I absolutely love this talk! When I was 16, I used to think girls were desperate for wanting and having boyfriends at school. This kind of thinking carried with me till I was twenty. In my culture and religion, girls are married right after college. I didn't want that even though I knew that was what would happen. I thank God that He's given me some time (and a very obvious lack of men who are husband material to my parents' woe😂 ). I didn't do nothing since the two years I finished college however. I started a small online business and I've been so happy with it and myself. And by God's blessing, I feel ready now to get into a relationship. Your channel has helped me a lot to get comfortable with my feminine role too. Hopefully, my future husband (wherever he is), is ready too and making his way to me😂

Thank you so much for speaking about this! It’s so isolating to try to talk about how I want a bf and how I want to get married and be told by other women that it’s “desperate” and I “just need to be happy single” and “focus on your career/yourself”. So for you to talk about this really made my day!

Great topic! Definitely agree! Unfortunately, even when I go to church or listen to sermons online, they tell single Christian women that they need to be content in their singleness and reach a certain level of spirituality if they want to get married. My pastor even said stop looking for Boaz because Jesus is your husband. I think that false doctrine is why many Christian women are ashamed to admit they desire marriage. If you are a Christian woman and want to be married, then you have the right to do so. God will not restrict you from marrying a good Christian man if you want.

Caitlyn can you make a video on your hair care routine. It looks so healthy and beautiful. Do you color your hair?

Would love to hear your testimony! Thank you for all that you do! The world needs your voice! 💕

I'm already in a long term committed relationship - but I found this video so so helpful

YES AMEN so on point!!!!!! If you're over 25 and want a serieus relationship, don't go out clubbing but sign up for a serieus dating site. Where the men will want the same thing and have the same values as you do. There are (many!) men out there who want the same thing, they just don't carry signs on their head :) They are shamed even more than women are unfortunately...

Thank you for this video. I was always told, that I should "just be happy" in my singleness and should'nt think about marriage that much and that I am very young (I am 18). So I thought, thinking about marriage from time to time would just make me feel down and that I should avoid thinking about it. But now I have another way to deal with this topic. Thank you very much! :)

This is wonderful 💜 I would love to see more of your perspective on fashion. A closet tour, look book, thrifting tips, ect. Your wisdom from your journey would be really helpful for us starters 👗👒

I'm going to send this to my wife. I think she would enjoy your channel quite a bit. Thanks 🙂

The water buffalo thing made me choke on my Diet Coke 🤣 incredible

You're a blessed woman. When I found your channel I felt better instantaneously because I realize that it's ok to be exactly who I am. It's ok to dream about a marriage, I am not a weirdo like everybody made me believe. Thank you lovely!

As a single woman I’ve never had that war with myself! However this is one of the very many reasons why I have over the years been attacked by feminists. I know that people don’t believe this truth but it still needs to be said. Being a strong woman is to not be a feminist! Very poignant video!

Even as a guy this really spoke to me it almost made me cry its so wonderful to hear this instead of beating up myself for wanting a relationship

Hello! Thank you for the videos on this topic. I’m almost 22 and never had a relationship and it kind of gets me down in the dumps, especially when I see others my age getting married or having fun with their SO. I can’t seem to let it stop bothering me. :(

“Not 14 year old” lol that cracked me up 😂 I love your videos 😍😘

I love your videos, such a breathe of fresh feminine air ❤️

I definitely really appreciated this video. I have a saying "If I would not date me right now, I shouldn't be dating anyone right now" and I think that it encourages me because I know that I need to grow to be a person that I would be proud to date and I know that I can grow to be that person. I dated women for many (about 7) years, and have since decided that it is not God's plan for my life to date women, but I did not think that I ever would ever want to date/marry a man because I always had a poor opinion of men in general due to my past experiences, my heart was very closed off to straight men particularly. However, after a lot of prayer, reading, and introspection I have come to forgive the men in my past and myself for those interactions and become far more comfortable in myself, with having deep friendships with females that I found to be difficult before, and with the idea of having a family with the man God chooses to marry me if He so chooses. However, I know that I am not ready to be open and genuine with a man in a romantic way because I know that I still have a great fear of being emotionally hurt and have the tendency to shut out a man when he begins to think that he knows me at all and I have a hard time connecting the idea of emotional and physical connection with the same man. Anyway, the main point is that I am comfortable in my singleness because there is so much I can learn and so much that can help me build my character during this period by just taking care of my brothers and dad, getting involved at church, gardening, maintaining reading habits, staying healthy, etc.. While I know that I want a husband one day, I know that the changes that need to be made in my heart for that to be a good marriage need to be made over time and will only be made if God wants them to be. I think that this video had a really great message that resonated with me deeply, so thank you for putting yourself out there to talk about this issue! -Jazz

Exactly what I needed to hear!😊 thank you!

Great timing on this one for me. God is so good. Thankyou for living out your calling. ☺

Thank God, someone said something. You're a blessing.

I just found your channel the other day and I want to thank you for taking the time and effort to put these videos out into the world! We need role models like you for girls to look up to ❤️ Thank you so much!

Im so glad you made this video because i felt bad about wanting to be married but really, it just feels natural for me to be in a relationship.

This is the part I struggle with. Since I was hurt in the past I became a bit more desperate in my approach to relationships, which was why I fell into casual relationships. I’m starting to learn to love myself not just for my sake (although it’s the most important thing) but in order to build and prepare myself for finding a man that I can be with in the long run. Thank you for these videos Caitlin, they’re very refreshing and helpful 😊

As a 34 year-old virgin who never has had a boyfriend, I know what it is to be independent and always be alone. 😂 I have standards and obviously am not desperate. I rather be alone than with the wrong person, but the issue is that young, educated, & Godly virgin men are rare. I believe in mirroring the romantic partner whom we desire. 🤗I've been working on myself for a while, speak multiple languages, am fit, educated, plant-based, and seek the Lord. The more time that goes by, the more difficult it is bc I only will marry a Godly virgin man who understands my sacrifice, self-control, and patience. You have to be in my shoes to understand long-term virginity, and that itself is rare! Everyone whom I know who is married/engaged didn't wait for marriage. It's ironic, but the Lord never promised that he'd give virgins their spouses, right?! I think the more virtues someone has, the more difficult it is to find a partner. If everyone kept virginity for their spouses and sought the Lord, virgins would have choices galore. 😂 Long-term virginity is a virtue itself and has taught me virtues and lessons which are necessary for a successful marriage and necessary to understand people who unfairly suffer. Some children are orphans, child slaves, and are starving bc they have no other choice in life. They drink the cup which they are given. They don't have anyone, and their basic needs aren't met which means I don't deserve anything including a spouse (although I would like one). Many people don't understand this especially when it comes to spouses, sex, and having families. Most people take "basic" things like food, water, sex, being able to move without pain.. etc for granted. People think that they are entitled to these things, but we aren't! I've also heard lots of hypocrisy from people who have no idea what it's like to be in the shoes of 38 and 47yo virgins whom I know. I understand their pain of not being able to get married, enjoy their youth with someone, & have families. When the Lord closes the doors, there's nothing we can except for pray & be obedient. Long-term virginity and forever singleness is a test to see if you'll still seek the Lord although he doesn't bless you with your basic desires/needs.

I’m 38, not yet married and greatly desire to be. I usually won’t listen to anyone talk about singleness unless they hit 30 without being married. But, this was great 😁 Keep up the good work!! I enjoy your channel so much.

sis side note: your teeth are sooo perfectttt, are they real? loll please don't take this offensively love your advice 💕❤️

I'm 19 from Australia! Thankyou so much for this video!! You are like a big sister I never had❤️

Also one of the most toxic things is someone else pushing you to want a relationship when you need to be in singleness. Some people are sadly quite imbalanced and crazy :(

I actually hate being single. I’m a relationship person, and I thrive best while in a relationship with someone. Ive been single for almost two years, and I’m ready for someone right now. Not just anyone, though. Id like to find someone like my grandfather, who’s the kindest, most generous and respectful man I’ve ever met. He’s my model for what a good man is. Im just having a lot of trouble finding it.

Wow I love this shirt on you!

Hi! Can you recommend me a bible? I’ve never even opened one but I feel like I should... I’m 19. Loved the vid 💞

Your refreshing content is absolutely reshaping my life. My marriage, while already doing well, is now flourishing and thriving in a new way. My interpretation of my life, my skills and weaknesses, my pursuits, and our home and family, are improving immensely thanks to taking some of your refreshing, kind, yet authentic wisdom along with me on my journey. You resonate with SO many folks of different walks of life. You reach folks who may not be like you, but can appreciate your message or respect a different way of life. You are bringing people together in understanding. Bless you for starting this blog and channel.

31k already?! It's awesome how fast this community is growing! 🥰

We need a dating site for feminine women and masculine men 💃💪🏻

I don't understand why this video would get hate. I'm a girl with a strong moral compass, I have my preferences and I'm particular about how I live my life. I've gone through most of it being single and it was a blessing! I needed that. I thought I was ready for a relationship but I really was not. Now I'm with a guy that is happy and eager to spend time with me, respects me and my decisions, teaches me a lot about people, life and even myself, and I try to be kind, understanding and supportive of him. Even now there are many challenges for me to face in this relationship, I can't imagine myself facing them a few years ago, when I was a lost, unhealthy teen, yet I understand why I longed to find somebody that would be into me, it was normal. Thank you for this amazing video, lots of love to you and your hubby 💕

This has nothing to do with the video, but I want you to know how blessed I feel to have you in my subscription feed every week :) I've watched all of your videos, rewatched some, a couple of time. My fav is the self esteem one. None of them I sped up, skipped or multitask while watching. And I tried. Just couldn't bring myself to do it. Every single minute delivers helpful knowledge in gentle but clear and impactful way!

I want a relationship but reality of life is making me shy away from them, I have an autistic younger brother and I feel he takes first priority, I don't think anyone would want to be in a relationship with someone like me 😬

As a 22 year old college student, I really thank you for this video. I am single currently and basically everything you said really hit home.

Women can be independent and strong. That means they can independently crave a unique sort of relationship where two people love each other and support each other!!! Letting women do what they wanna do means letting women want that unique connection if they want that connection!

“Not 14 years olds” -me 15 feels attact 😂 I was not looking for marriage so it’s ok 😂

Hello from Colombia my feminine sisters!! Send you all a hug. I love all of your videos but I miss the dog 😟

"A strong woman doesnt need a bad man! A strong woman needs a good man to build life with!" 💯💯💯💯💯

"Don't start too early, you have to be of dating age" Well, that's pretty early for most. Even before one reaches sexual adulthood those feelings will manifest. Just look at how young people are when they start being romantic. I think ignoring those feelings overly long is asking for trouble. One evening the moonlight's spell will amplify those feelings, they will take a hold of you, and you do something regretful. The dating market now is full of girls who lost their innocence young and broke that relationship, now they are in their late twenties and still think a good man will take them. It's better then if you make the right choice beforehand. Don't take a relationship lightly, choose carefully and advice your father in this matter. He is wiser than you, let him judge the man you wish to marry. If you are both at the start of life but already married then you can make better choices. You can work towards your family from the start. That is optimal, and you will not be tempted by pleasures of the flesh any longer, you will not do regretful things in your youth.

I have found the older I have gotten, I am 35 that I have realised the importance of my femininity and learned not to suppress it so much, I realised that the more I went against it and of I'm honest did go through a phase where I hated men. I was not happy, I was angsty and miserable even depressed sometimes. But why do we do this? Why is nowadays being like a man and losing our feminine qualities of gentle submission, and gentleness and having a natural need for companionship is seen as "strong". Now I know I am strong, very strong, I've been through so much without the help of a man, even at times I've wished I had someone to come home to to make me feel better. So I know I do not need a man as I've survived so long without one, well without a good one. And I have been hurt by men a lot, went for a lot of losers but I realised the key is not hating men and pretending we dont need them, what I learned to do is try understand them and most importantly spot early on the not so good ones. I have accepted now that I have always been a romantic and I was one of those little girls who always dreamed of getting married and now it's more so about getting married and also having that companionship not because I'm needy but because I like company, I like to share my thoughts and goals and dreams with someone and I want to build a home. I think companionship and closeness and intimacy are natural needs of the human condition so nothing wrong at all with not feeling like you are living your best life without them . I will always be a feminist and a strong woman , that will never change yet the key word is always woman! I am a woman and proud to be one and embrace my femininity and my vulnerability and my dreams to be a wife and to find a lifelong partner. I know my friends are lying when they say they are happy on their own, I am able to admit to them, that something is missing from my life without love. Dosent mean I dont value myself or dosent mean I depend on a man for my self worth it just means I am able to embrace my natural desires and vulnerability and openness and romantic nature, it is part of my strength:) x

Ha! The water buffalo comment! Hilarious!

Much love from Kenya. I loved the video, am all about being feminine and I love this channel for confirming that being feminine is not a crime as i grew up believing.

I'm not religious, and being a homemaker isn't for me, but I enjoy hearing you talk about relationships and glowing up.

The problem with this is that so many women don't really understand the difference between want and need. So often my friends tell me that they need a relationship at that makes me cringe, if you need it you are open to bad relationships because you might accept whoever that makes a move. I'm single, I'm happy and if I find the right person of course I would want to have a relationship. 😊😊😊

Oh my gosh. Thank you so much! I’ve always been beating myself up for wanting a relationship. Being told to not seek love but I can’t help but crave it. I love myself, but a huge part of me has been single for a LONG time & im ready to enter into a partnership.

Nice video. I dont get why society assume single women are desperate (if you say you are happy, people think you fake it). It is exactly as you said - be grateful, live in the present moment. Take your time to know yourself and what you want. If you dont feel it right now, dont push it. It is okay whatever you want, just be honest with yourself. One of the most important lessons I have learned is that becaming a woman requires a lot of mistakes. A lot of us dream about being innocent again, but that is bs. Dont do that to yourselves, sisters! If you stop haunting your lost virginity you find amazing woman - strong, caring, passionate. Every diamond looks like a regular rock if we dont cut it and shape it - dont forget that :)

What would you say about a woman wanting to be married but not have children?

Preach it girl! Love it. Don't settle girls. I asked my husband on our third date if he wanted marriage and family. I knew what I needed and I wasn't going to waste time! Ha! My husband is a good man so he was ok with that question.

I need a woman like this in my life

I will make easy for u....just pray to God for the right man..no necessarily the hottest guy..they are narcissistic shallow bad man.....just pray to God...he Exist ...

Strong women definitely have standards! Men can also smell the desperation in thirsty women and tell the difference! Being single is a time to take time for yourself and grow yourself so then you can give in a healthy marriage/relationship! ❤️🙌

do you think i can still join the sisterhood if i’m planning on a non-traditional (same-sex) marriage? 🌷

Thank you...in my community(I’m black) I’m considered weak cause I desire marriage with children. This makes sense.. my brother says I’m just a woman and not in a disrespectful way.

I keep wanting to press the like button and keep realizing that I already have XD

Why does this video come up first when I search for "singleness Orthodoxy"? Are you an Orthodox?

Thank you, so many women are shamed for wanting to get married.

🌸🌺🌸🌺 Bas , inspire pak 03:45 Golden words “ it’s not about strong women don’t need no man in her life “ Correction “ strong 💪🏻 women doesn’t need a BAD man in her life “ “But a strong women can definitely come together and benefits from a good relationship or marriage and a family with a GOOD MAN.. Good men are GOOD.. Good men are a blessing “ 🌸🌺 09:08 stop putting yourself on a pedestal and think your some sorta queen B 🌸🌺 10:23 if you wanna get married you better put yourself out there . 🌸🌺 12:08 Also don’t give desperate vibes who would take up anybody.. you‘ll attract desperate guys only .

i simply love your traditional views and standpoints

Well I’m currently single and I am not ashamed to say that I need a man. In the meantime I’m going to focus on loving myself and increase my feminine powers..

No offense ...a lotta "strong women" are single...and I pressed pause, take it from a b guy, after 30 you have to be more loving and approach people more often, the I'm so perfect I'll just wait for Prince perfect act has to be dumped. You have flaws, that's why your single, that's it.

I love your channel 🥺❤️❤️

Church people told me that God wouldn't send me a husband if I didn't get my needs met by Christ. The problem is that it's a catch-22. If you pretend to be fulfilled by Christ, then God doesn't have a husband timed-out for you. But if you admit that you're not fulfilled dating Jesus and want an actual relationship, then God won't send you one. You're screwed either way.

I was in 2 bad relationships lately. I want to be in a loving relationship so bad. I’ve gotten my heartbroken so horribly and I’m scared of being in a relationship again.

I knew a lady who claimed to be a Christian who had been single her whole life, and she got extremely offended when I said I wanted to learn how to care for a husband and family. She kept telling me that a husband isn't going to complete me, even though that thought never once entered my mind. A lot of times, Christian books are written on the topic of "Jesus is your true prince charming", or people say "you might be called to be single, and you need to be happy with that", which is true to a point, but a lot of times, it makes it seem like desiring a husband is a bad thing. It's not for other people to tell you what the future may hold for you, or to judge other Christian women who are dating as if they grabbed the first guy they saw because they couldn't bear to be single. If you're desiring a family in the future, go ahead and speak to your pastor's wife or older married couples. They can teach you everything you need to know. Little girls aren't taught how to prepare for marriage in the future much anymore, and it's sad. Even if they never get married in the future, they can use their knowledge to be hospitable to other families and members of the church, or further pass it down to younger generations to do the same.

Mrs. Midwest with all respect you are wrong. Women have the right to be alone doing a job they hate with tons of college debt to pay off. Feminism is right. Women can have all of that bliss without a man. Simple wonderful. We also need to support our Tran-women athletes as they continue to break every born female record out there. Our Lesbian sisters also need to understand that when they sleep with a trans-woman..they are not sleeping with a man...but with a woman...because they feel that way. Yhay feminism, destroying societies one relationship at a time. Thanks for trying but the average guy does not trust women these days. Good Luck!

Please do a makeup tutorial! Your makeup is so classy and beautiful❤️

I don’t know how to express how much I appreciate you right now! I feel like it would be a really long story to tell you all the ways I was told be the cool single person all my life since I rarely dared. don’t worry about dating . Get your education, and I did. I have my masters. but I always. thought to myself... I can get my education to be creative and still have a husband and family. I have friends who have families and husbands and great careers and creativity. I have amazing friends who don’t work who are smart, strong. There’s this whole glamorization of being the cool aunt or the 40-year-old single woman that is fabulous. That’s only in the movies. I can be the awesome aunt to my nephews and niece abd he married and have a family of my own. I can still write plays and be in a relationship.

Dating has always been a big issues but i come to realize thats is me ...so im stopping everything till i fix myself....thank u grear advice nothing more beautiful then a beautiful woman put together thats confidence like you.

What do you think of the difference between men's way of thinking vs woman's way of breaking down things in our heads? Between my girl friends, and even my guy friends, we have a tendency of saying that women overthink situations way too much. Although, whenever I listen to my guy friends, i'm realising how much they overthink everything as well. I'd be curious to get your perspective on this! ^^

Love this! Preach it! It takes incredibly strength to be single in the world we live in today. It's so rare these days as a woman to have standards and morals, so we also have to realize that it is probably just as rare to fine men with standards and morals. If you keep on being yourself and upholding your standards and morals the right man will find you in God's timing. In the meantime, don't let the world tell you something is wrong with you because you choose to be single. There is nothing wrong with desiring a godly relationship, and it's worth the wait. Trust me, its so worth the wait. God's plan for us is always so much better than ours. #stayconfident #stayfeminine

Yes I agree!! 100%. I love your channel 💕

Thank you amazing im grateful for this

Could you do a video on how to find a man who wants a housewife?

Finally some truth about this subject! Thank you so much for sharing this and bringing some clarity on that...

Girl, I love you. You inspire me and encourage me. God bless ❤

I please want to meet him and marry him for the rest of our lives. ❤️🙏 Angels guide him to me please.

I actually feel really good after watching this video. Thank you ♡ I feel so much better. I thought I was weak, but I realise that it is normal now. So thank you ♡

😂😂 “even the water buffalo goes to the river during mating season” Lol

Great video! I’m still single and since I was early teens up to now it’s very annoying when I mention wanting to get married one day and people jump down my throat with their feelings/ thoughts that mentioning such desires means desperation. Thanks for the encouragement!

Thank you so much for this video. Definitely want to see one about perfection. How else would you recommend putting myself out there and meeting guys?

So great to hear this perspective!!! It always bothered me when other women would say " you dont aCtuAllY want a relationship " I think I do thou .....