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the ugly truth about beauty standards + my insecurities 

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Welcome to another good ol girl talk! This time we’re tackling unrealistic beauty standards, Facetune, Snapchat and Instagram filters, diversity (or lace thereof), social media, and ~girlboss~ marketing. I also recall my long (and ongoing) struggle with insecurities - somewhat ironically while I slather on my everyday makeup to cover up the very insecurities we speak of lol!
✰ MAKEUP ✰
BASE
milk hydro grip primer (bit.ly/2zPWlNA)
milk sunshine skin tint (bit.ly/2zV7X20)
nars radiant creamy concealer (bit.ly/2PPcayW)
elf perfect finish hd powder (bit.ly/2PNQDXl)
BROWS
benefit gimme brow gel (bit.ly/2PK9eU9)
benefit precisely my brow pencil (bit.ly/2zU4HDY)
EYES
cover fx shimmer veil in moonstone (bit.ly/2PLnhZO)
l’oreal lineur intense eyeliner
BLUSH
glossier cloud paint in dusk and storm (bit.ly/2zSbRZl)
milk lip + cheek in werk (bit.ly/2zPhiZ9)
HIGHLIGHT
milk highlighter in lit (bit.ly/2zUloPO)
crush xo afterglow palette (crushxo.com/collections/face/...)
also love wet n wild megaglo (bit.ly/2zQX9BS)
LIPS
carmex lip balm (amzn.to/2MUqyDJ)
crush xo lipgloss in amor amor (crushxo.com/products/amor-amor)
✰ OUTFIT ✰
top: brandy melville (similar: bit.ly/2zX2gjO, bit.ly/2PJ1LVj)
earrings: my design! (enroutejewelry.com/collection...)
✰ DECOR ✰
my cool lampshade (amzn.to/2NydmUG)
my color changing lightbulb (amzn.to/2NzddjT)
my bedsheets (bit.ly/2zvDnvB)
my wallpaper (www.grahambrown.com/us/twinin...)
✰ MUSIC ✰
middle school by blue wednesday ( / middle-school-feat-mag... )
F A Q
what’s your name? ashley
what’s your instagram? @best.dressed
how old are you? 21 (born in 1998)
how tall are you? 5'5"
what’s your ethnicity? half british and half burmese
what equipment do you use to film?
➭ main camera: panasonic lumix gh5s (amzn.to/2Nb0W1z)
➭ 12-35mm lens (amzn.to/2JiSrz7)
➭ mic: rode videomic pro+ (amzn.to/2QHfZBU)
➭ vlog camera: canon powershot g7x mark ii (amzn.to/2DfL4cZ)
➭ canon m50 (amzn.to/2Dp1bnk)
➭ editing: final cut pro
FTC: Not sponsored. Some of the above links are affiliate links, meaning I earn a small percentage of sales made via those links, but it doesn’t cost you anything extra!

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Комментарии : 10 тыс.   
@ThatArtsGirl
@ThatArtsGirl 4 года назад
“They’re always selling you a new problem about yourself” Ain’t that the f*cking truth.
@obrien92
@obrien92 4 года назад
yay, capitalism! 🤢
@nandno8811
@nandno8811 4 года назад
I literally read this comment when she was saying it
@ThatArtsGirl
@ThatArtsGirl 4 года назад
Shaden that’s really freaking shitty and I’m sorry that someone else’s standard of beauty made you look at your skin through a negative lens. Try considering them your battle wounds for when you kicked their shit out the door and smashed the patriarchy!
@tovenrvik6336
@tovenrvik6336 2 года назад
You are so right‼️The Beauty industry prey upon others insecurity, choose wisely about what you'll think you need ‼️
@mcdreamysbabe1170
@mcdreamysbabe1170 4 года назад
Insecurities are so weird. Sometimes, I’m so confident and I feel like a queen and then the next second I look in the mirror like “WHY AM I SO UGLY”
@sadiabegum1099
@sadiabegum1099 4 года назад
mcdreamy’s babe sameee even though our faces look exactly the same ??
@gabyrey4410
@gabyrey4410 4 года назад
Can relate
@seanrobertson6586
@seanrobertson6586 4 года назад
same
@winddragonlundholm1792
@winddragonlundholm1792 4 года назад
I have wrinkels and I'm 14:D I really want to have chubby cheaks because then I won't have wrinkels but I have like no appitite.
@taneciadepass3760
@taneciadepass3760 4 года назад
Yeah, somet8me I'll do a nice make-up look and feel really pretty. Then a couple minutes later I'll look in the mirror and feel super ugly.
@jellybeansd201
@jellybeansd201 4 года назад
let me just say, this comment section is one of the most supportive and nice comment sections i've ever seen.
@bconni2
@bconni2 4 года назад
unless you love L.A...then the comments suck...
@marianna380
@marianna380 3 года назад
@@bconni2 i honestly hate la
@liannarosario495
@liannarosario495 3 года назад
im wheezing
@kldottie6524
@kldottie6524 3 года назад
hiii it would mean a lot if you checked out my channel
@eyimofeedah3640
@eyimofeedah3640 3 года назад
Ikr
@hollylee4044
@hollylee4044 4 года назад
Can I just confess my insecurities for a sec? I just need to get it out without somebody telling me to shut up for once. I don't like my undefined Asian nose, my thin dark brown hair, my non glass skin, how skinny I am, my nose blackheads, and my small eyes. I think after typing out this long list of things I don't like about myself, I noticed how small these things are. I just wish I didn't have to feel like I needed to prove the rest of the world that I was worthy by being beautiful. I don't need to prove anything to anyone, but I constantly pressure myself to think that I do. Now, i'm realizing that I am beautiful. Not by the world's standards, but beautiful in a way that i'm starting to start to love myself.
@thejungle7429
@thejungle7429 4 года назад
I AM SO PROUD AND I LOVE YOU SM
@Keiralynneee
@Keiralynneee 4 года назад
You are beautiful the way you are and you're right. You should not have to "prove" that you're good enough to anyone. Thank you for sharing your insecurities, it's really inspiring to see you write out all of them. Know your worth. You're beautiful. I love you!!!!
@hollylee4044
@hollylee4044 4 года назад
@@Keiralynneee Thank you so much! I wish there were more people like you in the world 💗
@Keiralynneee
@Keiralynneee 4 года назад
Holly Lee No problem!!💞💞 I just want everyone to feel special and feel good about expressing their true self and their insecurities without feeling horrible about themselves.
@genevievemccalla3632
@genevievemccalla3632 4 года назад
That was quick
@mimineko1019
@mimineko1019 4 года назад
I want you to challenge yourself not to say "this is gonna sound dumb" before a sentence. Please, nothing you say sounds dumb you're so intelligent.
@stephkatrina7687
@stephkatrina7687 4 года назад
Yes yes yes 👏 Any time she said that she always dropped a valuable truth bomb. I know she's very conscious of sounding cheesy, preachy, or self-indulgent but she ISN'T! We need more real talk on the internet 😊
@gaslight.gatekeep.girlboss6476
@gaslight.gatekeep.girlboss6476 4 года назад
THIS!!
@TheSkittishWhippet
@TheSkittishWhippet 4 года назад
Agree! and also I want all of us to take our time and not feel squished to edit out all quietness and pauses, because they can be very powerful too, IRL as online. To not ever let anyone make us feel rushed.
@maariagp7
@maariagp7 4 года назад
"your mind believes your thoughts so don't think things you don't want it to know" and also "stop speaking negatively about yourself or your life, even as a joke. your spirit doesn't know the difference"
@snailmucus3921
@snailmucus3921 4 года назад
Mimineko101 honestly you sound like the best friend to have ngl
@makaylachambers3630
@makaylachambers3630 4 года назад
Every time she says “this is going to sound dumb” I know I’m about to relate to something I didn’t know I related too.
@alicelarsson4258
@alicelarsson4258 4 года назад
You are rite
@ronie1844
@ronie1844 4 года назад
Full on facts😂
@emmaharness798
@emmaharness798 4 года назад
same lol
@FabiolaSuarez
@FabiolaSuarez 4 года назад
OMG SO TRUE!
@jiahnair3072
@jiahnair3072 4 года назад
makayla chambers lol same
@abril6392
@abril6392 4 года назад
Beauty standards are POLITICAL, they are racist, sexist and capitalist. Understanding that they are not casual and factual really healped be be more confident about my looks.
@bruhh137
@bruhh137 3 года назад
@@bconni2 I don't think beauty standards are universal? Asians and western beauty standards are so different and they keep evolving too. And idk about political but yeah they are capitalist. Like of course they are. These companies thrive on people's insecurities to make money. And the part about 'rationalizing the fact that you're probably not good looking' like bruh how do you know? No one is born 'ugly' . Op said they are feeling confident in themself. It has nothing to do with if they are this made up standard of 'good looking person'.
@bconni2
@bconni2 3 года назад
@@bruhh137 ...you can go any where in the world and people are judged by their looks....it has nothing to do with capitalism , sexism, racism, politics or western culture...it's a universal aspect of human nature...but good looks don't make the person beautiful...there's plenty of good looking people who are ugly on the inside and not so good looking people who have beautiful souls...
@plumeria72
@plumeria72 3 года назад
@@bconni2 I don't want to stir up some sort of argument and I do agree with you, but it is fairly common for something or a couple somethings in daily life to make you feel bad about your appearance. Beauty can be and sometimes are sexist, and racist. God I hope that the world changes.
@bconni2
@bconni2 3 года назад
@@plumeria72 ...so if someone has a specific type they're attracted to that makes them racist....? like i heard some Asian girl was complaining that it's racist for White men to be attracted to Asian women because they're fetishizing them..? .i mean, that's insanity coming right off the conveyor belt of the Humanities department at your local University...
@plumeria72
@plumeria72 3 года назад
@@bconni2 Like Ashley said in that video, simple stuff like an instagram filter, can make someone feel bad about their appearence. I mean, making a filter that basically makes someone more white. Doesn't that seem like racist crap to you that ultimately can bring down people's self esteem? Especially since, in messed up yet popular media, it seems that there is a very clear standard set in media for "beautiful people".
@jae4356
@jae4356 4 года назад
ashley’s first video I watched i was like “oh no she’s pretty I don’t like her” then I realized what? Why should I resent her for being pretty? Like it’s such pre-teen angst and it’s so immature to assume pretty people don’t deserve their appearance, I’m a junior in high school and I can’t believe how ridiculously crappy I acted when I was younger...
@ninaaanestad7198
@ninaaanestad7198 3 года назад
Yes! I acted that way too (in my head) to a lot of the pretty girls at my school, and i'm so happy my mindset has changed a lot since then! (Physical) beauty does not correspond with worth, intelligence or kindness at all and that's something i still gotta remind myself of!!
@anxiety8054
@anxiety8054 3 года назад
Same here, but now that i realized doing that is really stupid and immature. ive been able to appreciate alot more female youtubers and its so exciting
@ninaaanestad7198
@ninaaanestad7198 3 года назад
@@milkychii i really dont know. I'm guessing it was some sort of jealousy or engrained competition between girls :/
@ygs8814
@ygs8814 3 года назад
ashley’s first video I watched i was like “oh no she’s pretty I don’t like her” then I realized what? Why should I resent her for being pretty? Like it’s such pre-teen angst and it’s so immature to assume pretty people don’t deserve their appearance, I’m a junior in high school and I can’t believe how ridiculously crappy I acted when I was younger...
@eleanorshaw8005
@eleanorshaw8005 3 года назад
@@ygs8814 why did you copy the same comment 😂
@jettwashed
@jettwashed 4 года назад
ashley is the only 'influencer' that i actually want to be influenced by.
@Amber-co1th
@Amber-co1th 4 года назад
Same girl same
@aditirao7143
@aditirao7143 4 года назад
OMG YES
@slowsinging4544
@slowsinging4544 4 года назад
You should look at Anna Akana, she's really good too
@sonipitts
@sonipitts 4 года назад
I feel that
@rayaqp6702
@rayaqp6702 4 года назад
Preach
@natalieantonopulos2646
@natalieantonopulos2646 4 года назад
anyone else think she’s genuinely so beautiful? inside and out like she has such a big personality but she’s also pretty as hell
@tomparker8282
@tomparker8282 4 года назад
She's stunning
@miowlysiew4846
@miowlysiew4846 4 года назад
a true beaut
@adriadziaa6035
@adriadziaa6035 4 года назад
@@debe654 Whaaat ? how is that? can u explain why?
@KaboodleDoodle
@KaboodleDoodle 4 года назад
@@debe654 why are you watching her video if you think of her in that way? :(
@debe654
@debe654 4 года назад
@@KaboodleDoodle Just because some one has some flaws, it doesn't mean they aren't enjoyable.
@bryanbryanbryanbryanbryan
@bryanbryanbryanbryanbryan 4 года назад
I couldn't help but notice she said "We" instead of "I" A lot. I feel about 7% Less Lonely.
@andreamorales7589
@andreamorales7589 4 года назад
When she was talking about being nervous sleeping over at a guys or your boyfriend's place because they would see you without your makeup. It kinda reminded me of the recent episode of true beauty when she pretend faint so she wouldn't have to stay over with her boyfriend cause she was afraid of her boyfriend seeing her natural face.
@clementineanartist5714
@clementineanartist5714 4 года назад
YES same! I was thinking about that too, when she said she was alternating between two faces.
@foolishhuman5259
@foolishhuman5259 3 года назад
YES EXACTLY!! I wish the author would point this out and focus more on self-love instead her insecurities being shown as "haha lol same 😂 so relatable" because yes, insecurities are something everyone feels, it should not be dismissed or just be solved by dating a handsome boy. Like there's literally tutorials on how to cat-fish in the webtoon 💀and the title is "True Beauty"
@lavanyabalaji5038
@lavanyabalaji5038 3 года назад
It reminded me the first scene of bridesmaid..
@buttermilk7871
@buttermilk7871 4 года назад
Ladies and gentlemen may I present to you... *the real definition of an INFLUENCER!*
@chocolatewafflez2454
@chocolatewafflez2454 4 года назад
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@tala8514
@tala8514 4 года назад
Best comment
@emilyquack8880
@emilyquack8880 4 года назад
Omg but really though!!!!!!
@amychen4930
@amychen4930 4 года назад
she really is omfg
@kayedomingo9027
@kayedomingo9027 4 года назад
Yes she is!!! She is so brilliant and intelligent, funny, compassionate especially in how she empowers other women and how she keeps spreading important messages, she's beautiful inside and out, and she's amazing at everything she does. She has so much humility and sincerity.
@riyah8334
@riyah8334 4 года назад
Early 2000's: Stay Skinny..having a butt is gross 2010's: Omg she's so flat, she has no butt! You literally can't win
@SarahFletcher12
@SarahFletcher12 4 года назад
I remember when the common question "Does my butt look big?" was something you wanted to hear the answer No to... oh how the turn tables.
@stonecat676
@stonecat676 4 года назад
Men of all eras: oh shit, he has abs and money
@glaciergang
@glaciergang 4 года назад
BIG FACTS
@mitza420
@mitza420 4 года назад
@@SarahFletcher12 Yeah but its still bad that we are defined by trends
@MithrandirFreak
@MithrandirFreak 4 года назад
Uhmmmm, you obviously don't remember jlo lol.
@smileyy777
@smileyy777 4 года назад
I always felt that way: asian wasnt pretty. My parents are immigrants who are just so grateful to be in america and are used to a more grotesque kind of racism so they dont understand it. We also live in a white community so theres no one really to talk to about it. Not until an older gentleman basically called me a monkey for being asian did I realize that what I felt was legitimate. I found communities online and bestdressed really hones in on this well. Shes a godsend and super talented.
@Danuxsy
@Danuxsy 4 года назад
he called you a monkey? 😂😂
@Anna-ug8cq
@Anna-ug8cq 4 года назад
People confuse me :( I’m white and I’ve always thought asians were most beautiful
@Danuxsy
@Danuxsy 4 года назад
@@Anna-ug8cq yeahg you dont, you hate asians, just like me. lol
@Anna-ug8cq
@Anna-ug8cq 4 года назад
XIAO Huhh?
@Anna-ug8cq
@Anna-ug8cq 4 года назад
XIAO With a username like xiao? Is that sarcasm 😂
@Heenanveenan
@Heenanveenan 4 года назад
“I didn’t realize that all the things I hated the most about my face were the things that were most asian” I felt this in my core. I just realized this last year. I’m Hispanic, though I often get confused for Asian, especially when I moved to NC from NM where pretty much everyone is Hispanic. I realized it differently though. One day, as I was thinking about the features on a face that I found to be most beautiful, I realized that it was a white face. Rounded eyes, pale skin that turned pink in cold weather, smooth hair (I have curly hair) and the two things you listed: a pointed noise and strong cheekbones. THESE ARE PRIMARILY WHITE FEATURES. Of course I could never be happy with my face. I wanted to achieve something that I could never have. I was so mad at myself for this internalized idea of beauty and surprised that somehow, though I have found so much beauty in a variety of skin tones all my life, it was still ingrained in me that white features were the epitome.
@smileyy777
@smileyy777 4 года назад
Amen 🙌
@AlyssaAcuna
@AlyssaAcuna 4 года назад
for me it’s the opposite , im puertorriqueña but most definitely white passing , all my family had nice curly hair , tan dark skin , cute noses , dark hair , but my mom is European so I came out with brown hair instead of black , wavy loose curls , instead of tight curls , & i hate being the “white girl” of the family just because of how I look
@rosamendieta4579
@rosamendieta4579 3 года назад
Ah same! i’m hispanic (pale though) and grew up in peru, when I moved to North Carolina I got SO insecure because everyone here is blonde and pretty and pretty much the beauty standard:/
@mrs.shushiman1459
@mrs.shushiman1459 3 года назад
the replies just prove that you can never be happy with yourself, so you should save the trouble and just except yourself.
@milane7514
@milane7514 4 года назад
in a society where capitalism needs you to feel ugly to profit the system, the ultimate form of rebellion is loving yourself :)
@hadley269
@hadley269 4 года назад
I’m a rule follower but I loveee the idea of rebellion (it’s something I’m working on, being a rebel even if I’m the only one) and this just makes my day
@BERNIEmeetsSTEF
@BERNIEmeetsSTEF 4 года назад
I love this!!
@ishasatapathy6303
@ishasatapathy6303 4 года назад
Fuck yeah, let’s go a step further and love other people for who they are too!
@amber-gg5nh
@amber-gg5nh 4 года назад
Finally I have found someone in the comments section who can speak proper English and is well spoken. I thought this day would never come😪💚
@milane7514
@milane7514 4 года назад
Amber Lily aww thank you!! english is not even my first language so this means a lot
@irene5333
@irene5333 4 года назад
this is a real influencer raw, not full of inspirational quotes, realistic, and relatable
@LuKa-qk7fp
@LuKa-qk7fp 4 года назад
amen.
@FabiolaSuarez
@FabiolaSuarez 4 года назад
I AGREE! This is what I strive to be!
@Kaiisdreaming
@Kaiisdreaming 4 года назад
Yes totally agree
@jffpviana
@jffpviana 3 года назад
I'm a 31 year old woman and I don't know who needs to read this but please don't sleep with your makeup on, even if you are in your early 20s and your skin is young. Plus you are all awesome and beautiful and you will become more confident with age and life is bloody awesome when you finally realise how unique and sexy you really are. You're a legend and I love your channel!
@ambrosepeets5240
@ambrosepeets5240 4 года назад
Ashley, I want to say thank you. I recently "found" your account, and as a 15 year old with a craniofacial disorder, this video was very uplifting. For years I've hated myself, I listened to what others said about my odd facial features. Convinced myself that I wasn't worthy of confidence. So thank you for defying the social standards, because nobody should feel like a freak for how they look. :)
@simarrandhawa3365
@simarrandhawa3365 4 года назад
Skie Yesss you are beautiful. Love yourself 🖤
@violetsibley
@violetsibley 4 года назад
*petition for Ashley to start her own podcast*
@ashleyhao6837
@ashleyhao6837 4 года назад
Violet - yes pleeeaaase
@peggleblastlover
@peggleblastlover 4 года назад
Violet - *p* *l* *e* *a* *s* *e*
@Benderblender
@Benderblender 4 года назад
Yes pleaseee
@flakes_8401
@flakes_8401 4 года назад
Violet - 1k
@rosalindaocasio3149
@rosalindaocasio3149 4 года назад
Fr
@Steel_blade_alchemist
@Steel_blade_alchemist 4 года назад
I love how she acknowledges that other people think she is pretty.
@thatquietkid5925
@thatquietkid5925 4 года назад
I think its important for her to mention, becuase just because shes really pretty, and other people aslo think shes pretty, it doesnt mean she doesnt have her own insecurities
@agnesptk
@agnesptk 4 года назад
because she is.
@user-xs2gf
@user-xs2gf 4 года назад
That’s the problem, beauty is subjective and depends on the eyes you look it through. I think Ashley is BEAUTIFUL (inside and out), but she and other people might think otherwise.
@carmensclothes
@carmensclothes 4 года назад
So she agrees.... she thinks shes really pretty
@softieclubsss
@softieclubsss 4 года назад
Sheridan Campeau mean girls !! I love that movie
@whatspoppin11326
@whatspoppin11326 4 года назад
I agree with the entire Eurocentric beauty rant, because personally I’ve been insecure my entire life of my “squinty” eyes and how small/thin they are, but I also have another take about how with big lips and a big ass being “in” now, it’s also cool to look “racially ambiguous” (take Kylie Jenner for example) but as long as it’s sexually appealing and you aren’t too far away from the white standard
@luckychonk9527
@luckychonk9527 3 года назад
Honestly the TEAAAA. Its like saying "its okay to be mixed but only if you have white in it"
@bunnywavyxx9524
@bunnywavyxx9524 3 года назад
@@luckychonk9527 this!
@yahistheway.5166
@yahistheway.5166 3 года назад
I am white, and I don’t fit the white standard people speak of… I am not thin nor am I pretty…
@tovenrvik6336
@tovenrvik6336 2 года назад
The Kardashians who have had butt implants, and make their lips bigger, are wt Afroamerican guys, and have tried to get the beauty standard from that race‼️
@tovenrvik6336
@tovenrvik6336 2 года назад
We Scandinavian girls wt bright hair and blue eyes are known for being beautiful, men from other countries get suprised about how many pretty girls there are in Sweden and Norway. Scandinavia is in Europe ‼️💎
@shreya7200
@shreya7200 3 года назад
I love how she uses the mix of expensive band cheap products she is a queen $42 foundation and $1 lip balm
@trina4741
@trina4741 4 года назад
ashley to editing ashley: “we’re not putting this in the video are we?” editing ashley: hECK yEA WE ARE
@randiraesam3421
@randiraesam3421 4 года назад
trina :p 😂😂
@CherylGoer
@CherylGoer 4 года назад
😂😂😂👌🏻
@therandomratarmy7904
@therandomratarmy7904 4 года назад
I JUST SAW THAT 💀
@shannonringle998
@shannonringle998 4 года назад
"I used to tell myself that once my skin was clear or I lost a certain amount of weight I could be happy with myself". This hit home. I just wanted to say, genuinely thank you Ashley. I'm going to make this something I "used to tell myself" too.
@madhulikakorde9260
@madhulikakorde9260 4 года назад
It's so nice to hear inspiration stories! And yeah sis, you totally will
@bi_anca7554
@bi_anca7554 4 года назад
Shannon Ringle i know I love her so much she really puts my POV in the right perspective I would think the same thing that “when my skin clears maybe boys would like me now or if I had a bigger butt and smaller waist I would be “perfect” I just realized that I’m making myself fit into the likings of others and not myself that if someone will like me it would be for me not my looks I think I’m gonna take a break from worrying thanks Ashley!🥰🥰💕💕
@marieralf8621
@marieralf8621 4 года назад
I was telling myself “If your skin isn’t clear you can’t be loved by someone.” These thoughts are so fucked up. Don’t drag yourself
@march9177
@march9177 4 года назад
I mean, I have clear skin and I'm in good shape and there are still many things I dislike about myself. However, at the end of the day, I remember all the wonderful ppl I'm surrounded by and that I am healthy and lived another day and that brings me to a place where I'm grateful for who I am.
@erinhudson4541
@erinhudson4541 3 года назад
something I rlly hate abt beauty standards is that fact that big noses are seen as ugly. like dam I’m just trying to breathe. you don’t have to tell me I look like the witch from snow white thank you very much❤️
@plasticfrog4533
@plasticfrog4533 3 года назад
I read somewhere that the witch trope is rooted in anti semetism, the curly dark hair, the big hooked nose ect. Big noses are beautiful, ur a bad bitch 💜
@aenirrinea523
@aenirrinea523 3 года назад
That and dark skin. Dainty features are worshipped too.
@keowkekdonfc3268
@keowkekdonfc3268 4 года назад
"people don't go up to you and scrutinize your face, like 'oh, u have a blackhead', or 'oh, you have a new pimple' etc etc" "... and the truth is, that's never enough to make you happy, because you just find another thing to hate about yourself, like you're surrounded by hate comments everyday, telling you about your other imperfections in other aspects..." i genuinely love ashley
@444fawn
@444fawn 4 года назад
my friend does that though, whenever i have a pimple she points at it and just says "you have a pimple" as if i dont have eyes of my own and dont look at the mirror each morning...
@caoimhehanretta4012
@caoimhehanretta4012 4 года назад
@@444fawn girl she's t o x i c haha, she might just not realize that it hurts u tho, let her know and if she doesn't change, goodbye! remember that ur beautiful xx
@mijidoe2192
@mijidoe2192 3 года назад
Angel yeah my friend does that as well. More about my blackheads, she says that my nose is not clean¿ because of the blackheads so yeah 🤷🏻‍♀️
@Sofia-ssn
@Sofia-ssn 3 года назад
Angel, that’s what my friend did sometimes. i don’t talk to her as much now. i realized its very very toxic.. you’re beautiful and you shouldnt tolerate that. she just wants a reaction out of you. act unbothered, or if it REALLY bothers you, tell her!! but be chill about it. also this last part might sound harsh, but if you don’t want to do any of the other things i suggested, then give her a little taste of her own medicine. (i wouldn’t, because i don’t want to stoop down to their level). BUT JUST REMEMBER YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL 🥺💗! I KNOW IT. own it, cause you’re a true queen. you’ll learn to be confident in yourself!
@dhrutipurushotham8242
@dhrutipurushotham8242 3 года назад
My boyfriend does the same thing to me. He points out every new pimple or if I look a little plum that day. We had a facetime after ages (yknow quarantine) and he pointed out how fat I had become. He points out my body hair too or how dark my skin is. But I'm in love with the way he's so spontaneous and adventurous. Everything about him just makes me feel lucky to have him. But I've noticed i dress up and sit in front of the mirror for atleast an hour and a half before I've to meet him. (And I don't even use makeup. Cus it's supposed to take time. Idk what I do that entire hour) I suck in my stomach sometimes too I guess. Idk why I said all that. You don't have to reply. I'm just venting. That video was beautiful. I needed that. 😔😫💕
@giovannacoser1695
@giovannacoser1695 4 года назад
the mother i never had. she is the sister everybody would want. she is the friend that everybody deserves. i don’t know a better person. *my reaction to every single one of her videos*
@hermione124granger
@hermione124granger 4 года назад
omg that is kind of dramatic BUT SOO TRUE
@mm-hx4oh
@mm-hx4oh 4 года назад
#sister ashley
@uglyorgan375
@uglyorgan375 4 года назад
It's the exact same comment that was posted under her previous video, why
@vidhituteja
@vidhituteja 4 года назад
Covering up that hickey at 6.07 though !!! 😬
@giovannacoser1695
@giovannacoser1695 4 года назад
@@uglyorgan375 i dead ass didn't know lol, i had just seen a meme with oprah saying that and thought it fit perfectly with this video
@olazurike
@olazurike 4 года назад
absolutely no one ever: ashley: [makes sex jokes whilst talking about serious things] we love an exaggerated blush routine
@RR-kh6om
@RR-kh6om 4 года назад
One of my “friends” would comment on my appearance pointing out my big nose and the acne on my forehead (I didn’t even have that much) and it would hurt me so much but now I just look back at it and realize she only said that to me because she herself was so insecure and needed to feel better about herself 🤷‍♀️
@tovenrvik6336
@tovenrvik6336 2 года назад
If you get acne, put toothpast on them until you have dried them out, put toothpast on emmediently when one pops up ‼️💎
@sketchingstudio5552
@sketchingstudio5552 3 года назад
I'm white. When I was super little, maybe four, I saw an asian girl walking on the street with her parents. I thought she had the most beautiful eyes and I wished mine looked like hers. It kinda shocked me when I later saw a couple other kids pull their eyelids back and laugh as they did the "chinese eyes". Later on I'd look back and realise that stuff like this is subjective; beauty standards are pretty pointless. Doesn't stop me from completely disregarding that and feeling insecure about my other features wooo
@sophie7393
@sophie7393 4 года назад
imagine ashley writing a book.. A DREAM
@toricleland5362
@toricleland5362 4 года назад
sophie ♡ i swear if she did it would make my life, Ashley please 😭🙌🏻
@jasmine57895
@jasmine57895 4 года назад
♡ YESS
@nerdfacedemoji
@nerdfacedemoji 4 года назад
ashley but a podcast
@muntianuanisia7498
@muntianuanisia7498 4 года назад
Omg your profile looks so cute
@peggleblastlover
@peggleblastlover 4 года назад
sophie ♡ or a podcast 🤩
@hasdfghjkl
@hasdfghjkl 4 года назад
the best thing about Ashley, is that I can tell she’s talking as an educated person and not just “influencing”
@captainmillie4017
@captainmillie4017 4 года назад
Hxllelujah too true
@riddhis5701
@riddhis5701 4 года назад
That is so true!! I highly agree :)
@cherfancherfan6682
@cherfancherfan6682 4 года назад
@@riddhis5701 me 2
@Isa-vo1ww
@Isa-vo1ww 4 года назад
Ashley is like a self aware person in the game of the internet or some shit. Like she acknowledges that she is a part of an industry that heavily pushes the ideals and I love that.
@annemariestrehl
@annemariestrehl 4 года назад
I remember that feeling as if going out without makeup seemed offensive, too. Isn't it messed up how girls are made to feel that way?
@allyeverett8288
@allyeverett8288 3 года назад
And starting at such a young age!
@Ashesinferno28
@Ashesinferno28 3 года назад
Yep
@angelaquintero2235
@angelaquintero2235 4 года назад
Can you please just make these “girl talks” into podcasts so I can contemplate beauty standards on my bus ride to school or during my art classes.
@margauxqb290
@margauxqb290 4 года назад
Angela Quintero YES
@rhob-rochfm1489
@rhob-rochfm1489 4 года назад
Anyone pls contact Headgum to produce her podcast!
@muskanmalik1998
@muskanmalik1998 4 года назад
YES PLEASE
@alexisx4368
@alexisx4368 4 года назад
PLEASEEEE
@meganbiggeman2673
@meganbiggeman2673 4 года назад
yessss, but maybe not call it girl talks, maybe real talk, or reality check? idk, just to include everyone :)
@temiarvw1360
@temiarvw1360 4 года назад
Honestly, she is the prettiest person inside and out.
@HiZelia
@HiZelia 4 года назад
Temia RVW #word !!
@audreyoh2289
@audreyoh2289 4 года назад
True
@jl_rimano9038
@jl_rimano9038 4 года назад
Rewatching this again and again everytime I feel so bad and insecure about myself :((
@zekimse
@zekimse 4 года назад
nooooo :(( please dont feel bad! im sure youre very beautiful!
@tovenrvik6336
@tovenrvik6336 2 года назад
Sounds wise, everything that can lift us is good ‼️We can try to find positive things wt ourselvs every day‼️💎
@Sasha_zhiva
@Sasha_zhiva 2 года назад
I'm rewatching the old videos. It's comforting Never thought I could miss a person I never actually met in real life. But I do :(
@khyatiurfmaya
@khyatiurfmaya 4 года назад
I swear no one has ever talked about vagina insecurity and I thought I was the only one who had it.
@ruthwaore1405
@ruthwaore1405 4 года назад
Lol Its good to know there are people you can relate to
@rosevalenzuela3932
@rosevalenzuela3932 4 года назад
Same lmao
@sweetp2732
@sweetp2732 4 года назад
Khyati O. ikr I’m super happy now
@juul5535
@juul5535 4 года назад
Sis..... Youre not alone lol!
@Laura-lp3hp
@Laura-lp3hp 4 года назад
Where?
@loveangelsushi
@loveangelsushi 4 года назад
"The only time that i could go outside without bullying myself first" hit me hard.
@MissTheMae
@MissTheMae 4 года назад
This is the one that made me tear up, too. Damn.
@Marta-vq8hz
@Marta-vq8hz 3 года назад
Ashley: is Asian, thinks (or used to think) eurocentric features are more beautiful Me: is European, thinks Asian features are more beautiful and cuter The grass is always greener on the other side I guess
@ekdud2772
@ekdud2772 2 года назад
it’s tough for asians living in America when Eurocentric features surround us on a day to day basis
@hanabimizuki6024
@hanabimizuki6024 2 года назад
@@ekdud2772 agree. It is sad, i really want that european feature
@giannakayira8133
@giannakayira8133 2 года назад
but i feel like i shouldn’t say that, but i also believe Asian features are so freakin beautiful and would rather look Asian than african!! it just angers me that people are making such beautiful women feel insecure when they’re literally QUEENS!
@pleasedontlookforme8036
@pleasedontlookforme8036 2 года назад
@@giannakayira8133 I get that feeling too, though for me it's "I'd rather be southeast Asian than Central Asian (iranic/afghan) because southeast Asians are so gorgeous". But then lately I've been asking myself why I don't think that I'm beautiful being the race that I am now, and once I evaluated that, like Ashley, it always came back to Eurocentrism and Eurocentric featurism. Anime consumption also really heavily affected me aswell (I grew up on it and still heavily consume it), which whilst also indirectly promoting Eurocentric beauty standards, despite being of Japanese origin (though that's a massive topic in and of itself), brought to me toxic Asian beauty standards as well. I mainly really hated my big nose, which ironically enough is my most ethnic feature since I'm fairly white passing, and I also felt I wasn't light enough, or tall enough, or I was insecure about my jawline, or my body, or my unruly hair - and I would see Asian girls and white girls as women who were born without my "ugly" features - they'd be paper-white fair, small nose, the white women were tall, the Asian girls had beautiful jawlines, and both had the most silky manageable, beautiful hair. But these are just stereotyped generalisations of very vast populations, and most of these people don't look like the beauty standards their societies enforce, which harms them just as much as me. Basically, what I'm trying to say is, not every Asian woman is the perfect image of an Asian woman you have in your head, and being African doesn't make you any less beautiful.
@budi1940
@budi1940 4 года назад
the best confidence booster i’ve had is when my best friend told me she liked me too. i always feel very ugly, and knowing that when she called me pretty, it wasn’t just to be nice, it was because she meant it. i love her.
@m.kjordan5449
@m.kjordan5449 4 года назад
Aww thats sweet.♥️
@tovenrvik6336
@tovenrvik6336 2 года назад
Love makes ppl pretty‼️💎Live and love‼️👍
@lauryn3634
@lauryn3634 4 года назад
*covers up hickey with concealer* ashley: *timid giggle* 😂😂😂😂 i love her
@eyaloukil
@eyaloukil 4 года назад
Omg I thought that was a rash or a mosquito bite or smth, eye. Go get it gurl!
@sock3772
@sock3772 4 года назад
Time stamp ?
@lauryn3634
@lauryn3634 4 года назад
Eya Loukil maybe it was 😂 but i’d rather root for her gettin it on HAHAHA
@lauryn3634
@lauryn3634 4 года назад
Suki Yarsano 6:04
@sock3772
@sock3772 4 года назад
@@lauryn3634 thank you
@danielle-nv6uz
@danielle-nv6uz 4 года назад
one thing i always think when i'm feeling insecure is "who profits off this emotion?" read it on a post a while back and it's always stuck with me.
@Katjjjes
@Katjjjes 4 года назад
I want this written on all my walls
@moonchild2140
@moonchild2140 4 года назад
i've never seen it that way, that's very interesing i'll definitely use that tip too! thank you for sharing :)
@zzkeokizz
@zzkeokizz 3 года назад
A lot of models are more insecure about how they look than the rest of us because Everyone Always Comment On Their Looks.
@yourgirlannelise6604
@yourgirlannelise6604 3 года назад
@E K yea. I feel bad for them. :(
@abbyeh2048
@abbyeh2048 4 года назад
'Changing your appearance alone is not enough to make u love yourself' damn girl that was inspiring
@tovenrvik6336
@tovenrvik6336 2 года назад
If a person get a nice haircut that suits them, cloths that fits your body type and makes you feel good, this things can help‼️💎
@giveupndie4559
@giveupndie4559 4 года назад
the big sis I never had... (with a really dirty mind and amazing fashion sense)
@andreah.8333
@andreah.8333 4 года назад
my thoughts exactly!
@sofianagi2913
@sofianagi2913 4 года назад
I love her dirty mind 😂😂😂❤
@amandamuttonen275
@amandamuttonen275 4 года назад
Nct oh daddy don’t we all😂😂
@sdramw
@sdramw 4 года назад
so basically an older sister
@inesaxus8694
@inesaxus8694 4 года назад
totally relate
@softmongreal2522
@softmongreal2522 4 года назад
*_ashley's amazing skill to randomly insert stuff and tips about sex is very rare_*
@kggroom
@kggroom 4 года назад
Lizzy Grant 🤣🤣
@Heyjerkweed
@Heyjerkweed 4 года назад
I'm glad I wasn't the only one who notice. It truly is a gift.
@annaswanson5903
@annaswanson5903 4 года назад
@@Heyjerkweed word
@azul4904
@azul4904 4 года назад
an beautiful
@alannahcarmodybrowne6420
@alannahcarmodybrowne6420 4 года назад
I love how real your videos are, thank you❤️
@grace4029
@grace4029 4 года назад
Think about your insecurities as if you were the main character in a novel. Everyone’s favorite characters are the ones with quirky personalities, little “imperfections”, and things that are weird about them! This is kind of a long comment but the point is to just love yourself however you can💕💕
@tovenrvik6336
@tovenrvik6336 2 года назад
It's allowed wt a long comment ‼️💎
@sanjanapatil8277
@sanjanapatil8277 4 года назад
I am literally never the person to cry to videos like these but my god, when she said "you think you'll be satisfied once your skin clears up and lose a little weight but that's not true" it hit me so hard because those exact thoughts were in my brain.
@mikak1765
@mikak1765 4 года назад
i think the epitome of how disgusting beauty standards are is how in america tan skin is idolized and being naturally pale is weird but in asia being sickly pale is sought after even though most Asians have warm toned skin
@amulyasubhash7764
@amulyasubhash7764 4 года назад
I'm Indian and we as a country are obsessed with fair skin ( because of colonisation ). When I was a young teen, I was watching a lot of beauty videos when I found out about fake tanning it was bizarre to me because as soon as summer comes we have anti tan packages in salons and fairness creams. Beauty standards are horrible.
@bvleinebleue
@bvleinebleue 4 года назад
i’m an Asian and i have natural fair skin. people always ask me stuff like how do i get white skin or do i use any product and it’s ironic that i don’t even like my skin colour
@aaxx9780
@aaxx9780 4 года назад
i used to try to find make up/skin care product to make my skin lighter (im asian, im tan) and i used to hate how dark my skin is. but now i love my skin tone and i would never want to be any lighter (thats a progress i guess, i still hate my body tho)
@nidhimahesh1673
@nidhimahesh1673 4 года назад
@@amulyasubhash7764 can totally relate I'm Indian and I'm pretty dark and I hate it when people tell me something on the lines of "you're pretty for a dark person" so dark people are supposed to be ugly?!? It just triggers me so much these eurocentric beauty standards really annoy me
@alexandrastamm8452
@alexandrastamm8452 4 года назад
Yeah, Ireland and the UK are heavily influenced by American media and therefore beauty standards, and nowadays so many young adults wear fake tan/use tanning beds etc.
@velvet.flower8933
@velvet.flower8933 4 года назад
I feel like watching you is really good for my mental health. Thank you.
@milenavlloso
@milenavlloso 4 года назад
yes!
@seominnys5389
@seominnys5389 4 года назад
same here
@tanishasethi4441
@tanishasethi4441 4 года назад
yes! you put it into words!
@mishkaatrawjee1271
@mishkaatrawjee1271 4 года назад
ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ Lumi omg same!!!!
@tildegjesingantvor8236
@tildegjesingantvor8236 4 года назад
Sssaaaaammmmeeee
@mayhit
@mayhit 2 года назад
"I wish that I could find the same external validation that I do when I look cute and post it online, as I do when I'm feeling really fucking smart, or really motivated, or really hard-working." I have felt this so. many. times. and never really heard it expressed so clearly and plainly by anyone before. Damn, dude, this statement is a fucking beast.
@sagepatricia1312
@sagepatricia1312 4 года назад
her comment sections are the best place
@tovenrvik6336
@tovenrvik6336 2 года назад
Agree, I have learned a lot from others experiences on the topics I'm interested in‼️💎
@riley9024
@riley9024 4 года назад
literally the only person who could make podcast that would never get boring
@itsnotrainer
@itsnotrainer 4 года назад
Riley exept the mcelroys ;)
@christinebrown1235
@christinebrown1235 4 года назад
completely agree
@kineshit7952
@kineshit7952 4 года назад
tru dat nd I never fast forward her videos lmao
@DulcexClara
@DulcexClara 4 года назад
YESSS WE WANT A PODCAST ASHLEY
@moonstruck-1572
@moonstruck-1572 4 года назад
Riley fr tho 😂
@marghe_b
@marghe_b 4 года назад
A 25 minute from Ashley? About beauty standards? WHAT DID WE DO TO DESERVE THIS?
@kggroom
@kggroom 4 года назад
Margherita Bonatelli Exactlyy 👏🏽👏🏽
@KarmaGirlDreams
@KarmaGirlDreams 4 года назад
When I first discovered your channel, i instantly thought “ Pretty girl.” Like no question. I guess alot of us girls really do beat ourselves down on our looks.
@sleepdeprived5354
@sleepdeprived5354 3 года назад
I’m just gonna leave this here since it helped me. “You need to accept yourself because there’s one person you’re guaranteed to be with for the rest of your life, it’s you”
@tovenrvik6336
@tovenrvik6336 2 года назад
Very well said, and true‼️💎
@haileywoodward768
@haileywoodward768 4 года назад
everyday i skrt skrt but i actually hurt hurt 🥺
@ashleyash5388
@ashleyash5388 4 года назад
You also gotta understand what your body is trying to communicate to you through these skin issues. Our bodies are electromagnetic information fields that demonstrate the issues we are facing in our lives by transmitting information. This information will then show up in our physical body as errors like dis-ease, skin issues, etc. Really what I'm trying to say is to pay attention to what your body is trying to tell you, and don't ignore the signs it's trying so hard to communicate 💚
@lexizheng2472
@lexizheng2472 4 года назад
My mom is so bothered that I have acne. Apparently, she and my dad never had acne, and she’s convinced that I shouldn’t have it. It’s natural. I don’t care that I have it. I just wash my face with the cleanser and go on with my day.
@yara4486
@yara4486 4 года назад
I get bullied everyday for my acne so say that to my ass lmao
@cowcow7273
@cowcow7273 4 года назад
Yeah. Many people ask me how I have such beautiful skin and nails but guys we all have about 99% of the same DNA and I’m just the lucky one in the line. As a girl I am very self confident about my looks and if I could bottle up that feeling and hand it out to everyone I would and I get other people aren’t like me and I am very grateful but I still have my moments where I have to say to myself. “It’s ok”. Remember. Beauty doesn’t come from the face, it comes from the light in the heart
@sanjanan7109
@sanjanan7109 4 года назад
it's hard for me bc where i live NO one gets acne. like, not even a pimple. everyone has glass perfect skin, and they don't even wear makeup. plus, you can't cover up pimples + acne with foundation, its very obvious underneath. to make it worse, i'm indian, so ALL my relatives and family friends have absolutely perfect skin, and they always stare at me lol. plus, its true everyone gets pimples, but it feels a lot different to "get a pimple" than to have actual, heavy acne.
@mei4755
@mei4755 4 года назад
honestly more young girls need to be watching people like ashley
@antoniogabica3280
@antoniogabica3280 4 года назад
Yes! and alexandrasgirlytalk, her and bestdressed genuinly just WANTS to help us. In my opinion they are just THE BEST!!
@mili28manga
@mili28manga 4 года назад
Antonio Gabica i A G R E E
@rositaspigeons1148
@rositaspigeons1148 4 года назад
I am, I’m turning 17 in a week!
@carlosgalvan1792
@carlosgalvan1792 4 года назад
i was summoned
@mishripettinger6170
@mishripettinger6170 4 года назад
I am 11
@bunniesarecutep2494
@bunniesarecutep2494 4 года назад
6:20 okay so i feel like i don’t fit in, because i live in the netherlands, where most girls and boys have blue eyes, blonde hair and all that, but i have dark brown hair and darker skin and dark brown (almost black) eyes. people, boys, girls, they all make jokes about me and say that i’m turkish, and for some reason that’s bad there (like people call people that like it’s a bad thing) and even if i’m not turkish because i’m not, it’s just annoying. a girl bullied me in middle school once, throwing food at me and calling me names. and i don’t want to go there anymore because all my friends are pretty and blonde and i’m the only one that has dark skin and brown hair in my class. everyone there is blonde and yeah.. i’ve been faking that i’m sick and i don’t feel at home anymore where i live. quarantine has been the best thing ever and since when quarantine was almost over my mom got it i got to stay home 2 more weeks. (my mom is okay now, i’m gonna go to school in 2 days) but yeah that’s it i just had to vent welp also i’m 13 so maybe it’s just a phase edit; thank you all in the replies so so so much, it really made me feel better. i’m 14 now, going back to school and i’m starting to love myself and my different features more and more everyday. i know how to stand up for myself and don’t let people walk over me anymore, and i have beautiful amazing gorgeous friends who help me aswell!! thank you so much everyone, all the messages literally made me cry of happiness!!
@chelseaxoxo784
@chelseaxoxo784 4 года назад
Anyone that attacks you physically or verbally for being born however you are needs serious mental help. You are beautiful. Like when you're describing your features all I could think of was gorgeous. You'll probably end up being a model. Tell your parents about this cuz I don't want you to get hurt. And just work on developing your talents. I believe in you❤️
@nikhita280
@nikhita280 4 года назад
You’re not going through a phase, they’re racist pieces of shit.
@rebecca8836
@rebecca8836 3 года назад
Oh my goodness I really relate to this. I have quite an olive complexion and dark hair and I have been told that I’m every ethnicity under the sun - not asked, actually TOLD that that must be what I am. It’s strangely frustrating because I was born in England, and so were my parents, and my grandparents. I never know what to say when people ask me. And I love what you said about people seeming to suggest that it would be a bad thing if you were a different ethnicity. It’s quite bizarre and sad. Also I love acting and my ambition is to do it for a living, so I feel like I’m stuck in this tiny bracket of specific roles I can play. I’ve actually been told that I can’t play specific roles because I’m not blonde and pale enough. It drives me mad. Anyway I just thought I’d share my experience with this so you know you aren’t alone- I really hope things get better for you because you seem like a lovely person and what you look like should never define you. Have a lovely day!
@mijidoe2192
@mijidoe2192 3 года назад
Yup i live in the netherlands as well and racism is still a big thing 😔
@minibat7169
@minibat7169 3 года назад
Please tell your parents about the bullying, especially if they're throwing things at you.
@jasminezeng9946
@jasminezeng9946 8 месяцев назад
Ashley, your videos age like fine wine. *chef's kiss*
@Shelly-kx2wz
@Shelly-kx2wz 4 года назад
Now I just want a podcast from Ashely.
@maryalice3474
@maryalice3474 4 года назад
Yesss, please.
@luisarebelo6752
@luisarebelo6752 4 года назад
everybody doesss
@liula540
@liula540 4 года назад
Yes! Do it, Ashley!
@laceycrabill1565
@laceycrabill1565 4 года назад
I will say it for everyone, Ashley you need to make a podcast
@Dvjkuyfgbojy574
@Dvjkuyfgbojy574 4 года назад
Lacey Crabill a little louder for those in the back 💕💕
@alexandraaikonika
@alexandraaikonika 4 года назад
hell yeah
@whoopeedoopee251
@whoopeedoopee251 4 года назад
YASSSSSSSSSSSSS
@Bea-vc6wt
@Bea-vc6wt 4 года назад
Absolutely yess!
@bushrasharif5951
@bushrasharif5951 4 года назад
Lacey Crabill YESSS
@aveeverma8852
@aveeverma8852 3 года назад
@8:04 "It never worked; I still smiled the way that I smile." t-that _hit_ me so fucking hard cu z i've been in that exact same spot and thought that my smile was "ugly" just because it dint fill the cute-smile-standards™ and tbh i'm still not quite over that thought
@rachelmattingly5587
@rachelmattingly5587 3 года назад
I found this girl a few hours ago and I LOVE HER SO MUCH!
@Rania-fj4yq
@Rania-fj4yq 4 года назад
it’s funny how everything she hates about herself i find very pretty!
@pandalover1238
@pandalover1238 4 года назад
We're always our own worst critic!
@yopi5909
@yopi5909 4 года назад
this comment is underrated!!
@oliviadong9885
@oliviadong9885 4 года назад
true, I am all about chubby face, it looks so young full of collagen.
@charshae9002
@charshae9002 4 года назад
As someone who has really chubby cheeks, I always think other people’s cheeks are so cute and chubby. 😂 I don’t like my own though.
@dracobluelol
@dracobluelol 4 года назад
u got low standards boi
@nini-he8uy
@nini-he8uy 4 года назад
“You’re not ugly, you’re just not your type.”
@relate3986
@relate3986 4 года назад
Space Girl I saw that TikTok today
@error6742
@error6742 4 года назад
I've been through a state where I hated me as a person. I became the person who looked down on others and made people feel bad. After that i lost the people that mattered to me. And my first goddamned response was to change how i look because apparently it helps because it's easier than to love yourself. I can loose weight but i could not for the sake of me loose my pride. And that became my routine. Even after I got everything i could physically want. I was never happy. This made me realize how dumb I was before and now I'm trying to work on my confidence and empathy. I wanna be kind more than i want to be beautiful. You make me realize that.
@thisjourneywecalllife3604
@thisjourneywecalllife3604 4 года назад
❤️
@tovenrvik6336
@tovenrvik6336 2 года назад
Nature are healing, be where there are trees and grass ‼️💎
@pretzellina
@pretzellina 4 года назад
I’m almost 29 now and it took me until 25 to not only accept but also appreciate myself. As a Half-Asian, I struggled with very similar insecurities you did. Small boobs, flat nose, small eyes, etc.. I’m so happy that I appreciate my features so much more now and can be proud of my personal achievements as well. It’s a tough journey with many ups and downs, but it’s nice to see you reaching that point of introspection and enlightenment faster than I did.
@AngeloveMJMJ
@AngeloveMJMJ 4 года назад
“Life is like doing your eyebrows in the morning, you never know what you’re gonna get.” - Ashley, 2019
@nithiyaakarunakaran8319
@nithiyaakarunakaran8319 4 года назад
you should honestly do a podcast - i would listen
@belensilva5389
@belensilva5389 4 года назад
YEEEEEEEES
@janesmith8085
@janesmith8085 4 года назад
Nithiyaa Karunakaran I NEED this in my life
@Sierra-cl9xr
@Sierra-cl9xr 4 года назад
I’d listen too, everything she’s said is like its coming out of my own brain
@Proserpina777
@Proserpina777 4 года назад
I would listen the shit out of that
@caulifoil6939
@caulifoil6939 4 года назад
i need that
@violetapena8664
@violetapena8664 4 года назад
4:56 Broke my Heart. It really isn’t about us girls, it’s about the beauty standards society has show to us. We need to realise that we can love every inch of us and that there’s absolutely Nothing wrong with that. In a society that profits with your insecurities, to like yourself is an act of protest. To every Girl that is reading this: you’re beautiful, but you are also so much more than that, you’re amazing, extraordinary, authentic, and much more. Live free and stay strong.
@Chloe_R
@Chloe_R 2 года назад
Throughout middle school and high school I never left the house without makeup. I honestly hated pool parties because my makeup would come off and people would see my acne. When I had sleepovers I didnt wash my face until right before I fell asleep and I woke up early to put makeup on so my friends wouldn't see me. It wasn't until college that I was able to accept my skin and go out with a bare face
@zainabolabode6933
@zainabolabode6933 4 года назад
when I can’t express myself I watch Ashley she is the voice inside my head tryna talk PLEASE make a podcast
@thereseaanes6712
@thereseaanes6712 4 года назад
OMG YES A PODCAST!!!
@leticiac8087
@leticiac8087 4 года назад
IKR
@bumpfel7005
@bumpfel7005 4 года назад
YES
@amysorrels
@amysorrels 4 года назад
I would listen the SHIT out of her podcast
@samantanicoleruiz9181
@samantanicoleruiz9181 4 года назад
Podcastttt
@VeronicaSWang
@VeronicaSWang 4 года назад
The fact that this video even got dislikes is like literally ABSURD.
@margauxqb290
@margauxqb290 4 года назад
Veronica S. Wang shoulder highlights surely
@clara337
@clara337 4 года назад
I'm 100% sure the accidantally misclicked
@sophiascarfe3718
@sophiascarfe3718 4 года назад
Yeah, exactly! It's other people that are still in awe of this warped sense of beauty and still think that this is normal and right when really in actual fact the industry has sold us problems and insecurities dressed up in bottles and creams instead of nessesary products because if we all were shown everything "wrong" with us with no comment on how or why its ugly or needs to be changed beauty would just be the uniqueness and variety in us all x
@jgyapologist7946
@jgyapologist7946 4 года назад
Or their phone fell and they pressed dislike accidentally and then it died
@divinemabika2685
@divinemabika2685 4 года назад
People have the right to dislike a video... Please, stop acting like everyone has to like the same thing.
@lori5283
@lori5283 4 года назад
This video definitely made Ashley one of my favorite RU-vidrs. I love that she acknowledged how a lot of "female empowerment" still revolves around women's bodies being shown off (or having to look a certain way). There's nothing wrong with showing off your body, but I didn't realize until watching this HOW MUCH a lot of society measures a woman's self-worth based on her body type, size, or how much she chooses to show.
@tovenrvik6336
@tovenrvik6336 2 года назад
Yes, this is science, ppl who are good looking get better treatment, got the job they seek easier‼️We all can do the best out of what we got, get a nice haircut, make-up that makes us look good, choose cloths that fits your body type and makes you feel well ‼️💎
@NatashaAkhtar
@NatashaAkhtar 3 года назад
honestly hearing about ash’s experiences makes me feel so much more normal and helps me to relate to her. i have so much respect for you for making this video🥰
@azukibean3975
@azukibean3975 4 года назад
The poc experience is realizing that you unknowingly subscribed to the idea that your features are undesirable, and then having to slowly unlearn that mindset
@jw-06
@jw-06 4 года назад
Exactly
@tashlovespaul
@tashlovespaul 4 года назад
I’m not a poc, but I’m not Anglo Saxon either, and I completely relate to this. I went to a super ethnic school and then switched to one that was mostly white. I suddenly became so insecure about my nose, how hairy I was, and my frizzy hair. Still working on unlearning that mindset but I hope to empower other people along the way!!
@vanessasridoza628
@vanessasridoza628 4 года назад
Gah! Please do more on the race thing
@jess6155
@jess6155 4 года назад
I know this sucks so much, and it sucks even more to see other poc (I see this particularly in a lot of asians, since I have more experience with that side of poc) falling victim to this to the point where they have internalised racism and hatred towards their own culture and features bc of the stereotypes and ideas projected upon us by white people and society ):
@liawinter5245
@liawinter5245 4 года назад
@@jess6155 yeet i'm half white but i never spent time with my white side of the family, and growing up in vancouver, i was always surrounded by asians. i love that side of my family, but everybody (my friends and strangers) honestly think i'm, like, full white? and, i don't know why that makes me feel really sad but it does? it kinda just makes me feel like an imposter. can't joke about being asian with my friends, can't identify myself as a white girl. i feel really left out honestly and it sucks. i know my friends deal with wanting to be lighter, but honestly? i wish i wasn't stuck in the middle, looking like an alien, like i don't really belong anywhere. it's stupid. and it's weird because i've got all features that don't suit my face at all. and, i know every asian looks different (my mom looks half, but she's full, my half w/a little cousins look full white, and my full asian cousins look half, my grandparents look full), but i just wished i looked a little more like one side with features more proportionate to one? because i've never really met a person who looks like me, and half the time i don't even recognize the person staring back at me. barely register them as human, or female or male (hence the makeup). idk. i just... wish i looked more like my mom's side of the family. because at least i know what they look like, and most of them are still alive, y'know?
@woozisguitar450
@woozisguitar450 4 года назад
Who else is in LOVE with these videos Ashley has been posting lately???
@quibusquabus
@quibusquabus 4 года назад
Woozi’s Guitar ME 🙋🏽‍♀️
@annablum7365
@annablum7365 4 года назад
Yesss :))
@PeterEllieArielle
@PeterEllieArielle 4 года назад
Meeee
@Grace-sr4kv
@Grace-sr4kv 4 года назад
Woozi’s Guitar So freaking in love. 🥺❤️
@FabiolaSuarez
@FabiolaSuarez 4 года назад
MEE! They are so raw!
@camillestark
@camillestark 4 года назад
i realized that when i re- watched this video, i did not really love myself the first time i watched this video. and now rewatching it i realize while ashley was letting herself out to the world i was only focusing on myself and my own insecurities the first time i watched it. now that i really do love myself i now realize that its ok to be a little insecure, also even the people you look up to haave insecurities just like you do. Im talking abt you ashley luv ya gurl
@karam1111
@karam1111 4 года назад
I appreciate how honest and relatable you are! I can relate to the makeup imposter idea that you aren’t as good as you are with makeup on and racial insecurities. I love how you just say it like it is. Thank you!
@luzramirez6727
@luzramirez6727 4 года назад
As a boy, I gotta say I feel so much shit ur talking abt. Thanks for being my internet older sister🖤
@excuseme1543
@excuseme1543 4 года назад
wholesome af TT
@samarneson9475
@samarneson9475 4 года назад
Landen Ramirez yes me too retweet that 💙
@isisjenkins9262
@isisjenkins9262 4 года назад
My heart melted omg
@Randomgirlzrock
@Randomgirlzrock 4 года назад
💗💗💗
@yourlocaltoad5102
@yourlocaltoad5102 4 года назад
Dude, yes. I can totally relate to some stuff and honestly, these videos are soooo good to watch
@joanasoares5559
@joanasoares5559 4 года назад
ashley: "like the e-girl that i am" (16:47) also ashley: "yes i am that vsco girl" (20:04)
@danackroydsbutt
@danackroydsbutt 4 года назад
She must've been watching that Tiffany Ferguson video :-)
@keighlysocha5364
@keighlysocha5364 4 года назад
These different ways to classify teenage girls is lowkey a way for people to hate on girls who like expressing themselves in different ways tbh It feels like it at least lmao Idk the memes are funny too
@jazzy3120_
@jazzy3120_ 4 года назад
YOU CANT BE BOTH!!!
@cottage-core_
@cottage-core_ 4 года назад
@@jazzy3120_ you are allowed to be multifaceted!
@elizabethfinnigan2155
@elizabethfinnigan2155 4 года назад
Old person here: what are either of these girls?!
@softtboiledegg
@softtboiledegg 4 года назад
i just rewatched this because its one of my favorite videos you've made, love you ashley! 💓 oh also you're about to hit 3 million so uhhhh EARLY CONGRATS ON 3M!
@rachelviola3923
@rachelviola3923 3 года назад
what you said about struggling with acne and being insecure about it is so relatable to me because i went through it too and i just recently learned to love my face without makeup :) thanks for being real girl we love to see it
@anastasiashanahan9524
@anastasiashanahan9524 4 года назад
Ok but like when she said at the beginning that she wasn't wearing makeup my jaw dropped cause she already just looked so stunning
@localarmadillo1677
@localarmadillo1677 4 года назад
This^
@amrendennor6961
@amrendennor6961 4 года назад
Ana Han agreed
@amyslotover8467
@amyslotover8467 4 года назад
Ana Han same lol I thought it was just a chit chat but when she said I’m doing my makeup I was like heh
@taniani884
@taniani884 4 года назад
Beauty doesn’t equal confidence, but confidence equals beauty
@ruthwaore1405
@ruthwaore1405 4 года назад
I need that on a tshirt
@babyindirt
@babyindirt 4 года назад
@@ruthwaore1405 kinda chessy for a tee tho
@LuaLaya5
@LuaLaya5 4 года назад
You literally inspire me to restart my RU-vid channel! You’re so genuine and real, talking about real issues and it’s great
@eileenkasan9500
@eileenkasan9500 3 года назад
i've watched this video for like more than 5 times now, and still enjoying it. hope ashley feels more confident now
@cassieblanc3699
@cassieblanc3699 4 года назад
have u noticed everyone thinks ashley is so so beautiful (she is), yet she can't see that? that's u. you're so so beautiful in everyone's eyes but your own. please take care of yourself
@judithtovaasmr9681
@judithtovaasmr9681 4 года назад
Cassandra Halsey thank you 😭❤️
@alainakeenan304
@alainakeenan304 4 года назад
i cried ty lovely
@alwaysgonnaletyoudown
@alwaysgonnaletyoudown 4 года назад
You just made me happy mate ty
@toni-re9jl
@toni-re9jl 4 года назад
Thank you, for just being you 😊😢
@samanthaharris2094
@samanthaharris2094 4 года назад
WHY ARE HER WALLS SO PRETTY
@rose-gl4io
@rose-gl4io 4 года назад
Walllllllpaaaappeeeerrrr
@fishyfingers5044
@fishyfingers5044 4 года назад
bruh that sounds so wrong
@samanthaharris2094
@samanthaharris2094 4 года назад
fishy fingers how so?
@fishyfingers5044
@fishyfingers5044 4 года назад
Samantha Harris it’s what you call the inside of a woman’s parts
@imlonely8752
@imlonely8752 4 года назад
fishy fingers your not wrong but your name is literally fishy fingers lol😂
@zeliemartinet2277
@zeliemartinet2277 4 года назад
I’m so glad you speak about that because that’s exactly how a lot of people feel and you can put words on that feeling and it’s so much a relief
@mollygardiner660
@mollygardiner660 3 года назад
as soon as i saw her with no makeup, i literally rolled my eyes and was like “she’s so gorgeous how is she insecure??” but then i realized that is like the exact thing my mom always tells me
@yellowslush3104
@yellowslush3104 4 года назад
To anyone worrying about hip dips: hip dips are places at your hips that indent, that isn’t because of your weight, that is because that’s how skeletons work. Not everyone has hip dips because everybody’s body is build different
@soulbitten
@soulbitten 4 года назад
In some circles they're known as violin hips, which I think is really cute :)
@bestofFay
@bestofFay 4 года назад
But it look so weird in leggings and skinny jeans and make me feel like my hip and thighs and not connected :( I don’t know how to look good in anythings. Sorry for ranting I’ll go now
@leahattwood9081
@leahattwood9081 4 года назад
@@bestofFay even tho I try not to hide them as there apart of who I am on a day when I'm not fealing my most confident Ill wear mum jeans with a baggy top that I crop by tying it
@lillpill5644
@lillpill5644 4 года назад
w i l l e m i j n I have really big hip dips. I thought for the longest time that it was a sign that I was too chubby. I now run cross country and am really skinny and those hip bones are still there. And now I just learned that’s how my body’s bones are and there is nothing i can do about it
@baseballbatbiss675
@baseballbatbiss675 4 года назад
@@bestofFay I've asked people if they notice mine and they are always like no. Once you stop noticing and caring about it the more confident you will feel no one notices them unless you point them out . Be confident and be happy
@stefaniy8130
@stefaniy8130 4 года назад
All "pretty" snapchat filters have blue eyes, it's bloody frustrating.
@stefaniy8130
@stefaniy8130 4 года назад
@So K 😒 It never ends !
@amywonderland9297
@amywonderland9297 4 года назад
I genuinely thought that the filters changed depending on what the users eyes look like XD
@stefaniy8130
@stefaniy8130 4 года назад
I mean for me personally my eyes were never left brown and i i just thought that even though blue- purple- green eyes are beautiful, they don't suit everyone
@loagitz1425
@loagitz1425 4 года назад
Stefani Y I didn’t know that they put a blue eyed filter since i have that eye colour
@strawberryfox8819
@strawberryfox8819 4 года назад
@@stefaniy8130 as a blue eyed person, let me tell you that I love brown eyes because they look so pure and honest.
@daddiehawkie2820
@daddiehawkie2820 3 года назад
whenever i feel shitty i just come back to you. ash you helped me SO FREAKING MUCH OVER THE LAST FEW YEARS. mentally & emotionally..
@mellowcatxx
@mellowcatxx 4 года назад
Omg this is my favourite video ever talking about beauty standards, she is just sooo on to it and it's so accurate and honestly just feels so refreshing and relieving to hear it. Honestly it was so crazy though listening to her talk about her insecurities of her asian features, I'm a white girl and have really high cheek bones, pointed nose, blond hair and blue eyes and honestly it gives me sooo many insecurities, I look at asian girls and wish I had chubbier cheeks, a cuute flat nose, their gorgeous brown eyes and tanned skin. Honestly the most "white" things about me I hate the most 😭 I feel so blank and white and wish I looked more "organic" and soft like darker eyed and skinned girls... Ahh it's so crazy how we're all looking at each other and going in circles continuously thinking we need something someone else has to be beautiful 😥😥😥 this video was honestly such a good reminder to just LOVE WHAT YOU GOT 💓💓💓
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