I've been shocked with this show the whole time, but loving every second. The dinner when they're supposed to make their choice was an absolute train wreck. I can't believe these individuals actually thought this would help their relationships or be "therapeutic" AAHHHHH HUMANITYYY
I agree. But I'm thinking they didn't expect it to be like it actually was (because even me, as a viewer didn't expect that so much of the show would be out in front of everyone with exes present and open talk about what was going on with partner swapping). Watching, I was actually thinking - thank God I'm single! LOL
I’m assuming (perhaps simply for the sake of my own sanity) that most of them just wanted to be on TV and didn’t think much about anything else. Otherwise… yikes
Can you imagine wanting a proposal but than let’s live with someone else as the love of your life watches and spends time with them than if that’s not brutal enough watching them choose other men/girls to pair up with I really value the couples that at that decision making got up and said no way is my girl going to live with some guy.Ill propose here and now ,leave the show and work it out.A great way to escape the game plan.
Alexis was embarrassing, I mean she went after a few guys and when she realised no one wanted her she put on a victim show to make her boyfriend bad-thats when he proposed. I also do not think Colby is bad for telling she is not attractive, her whole talking point was telling guys how much she wants money. I mean everyone thought she was a gold-digger and that is not attractive. %100
And he didn't even say "You're not attractive" he literally only said "I'm not attracted to you” he just kindly turned her down and was being honest. Her reaction was so embarrassing 😅
@@JanaBanana96 And She said it was the first thing he told her. Like she wanted to manipulate the truth to make Colby look worse 🤦🏾♀️ Like girl he tried to let you down respectfully but you wouldn’t take the hint 😐
I don't trust Rae at all. She's a total bitch. Like, seriously, she is the one who gave her boyfriend Zay the ultimatum and in the end when she knows her boyfriend is ready to get engaged, she then pissed off. She's a total bitch. I know her type, there's alot. She met Jake for one week and she changed her mind quickly and give up quickly on Zay after her 2 years relationship with Zay. I didn't trust her at all. She's just playing a game on Zay.
The fact that Nate showed his ass at the dinner table. And then did a bullshit proposal because two women he was interested in didn't pick him. Lauren who was sitting at the table had she been focusing on him should have realized what was going on right in front of her. I guarantee those two are no longer together
TBH I liked this show a lot mainly because they were honest like soooo brutally honest and I loved that about the couples. I doubt that any relationship would really work out from this show.
I noticed that! Same thing on Love is Blind. Whenever there was drama between the couples, Vanessa would always say “I remember when Nick and I…” “Nick and I went through the same things…” “I had to give Nick an ultimatum too…”
I just love how shanique family praises her like she is this perfect woman who does no wrong and is wife material and thinks randall isn't capable of being a man or being enough for shanique when he is the most mature one in the relationship. I hope they see how much of a brat she was. Lol
Randall ain't shit. He was literally badmouthing her to anyone who would listen, I think she has a lot to work on, but let's not put all the blame on the one. My cape been burned.
What I liked is when that guy said " I am not attracted to you" to that blond girl and she didnt get that he didnt say she was not attractive but he was not attracted to her. I laughed alot when she started telling everyone he was aweful and told him he was rude. Jokes!! Ya gotta love the people who come up with these shows, and those who participate and all of us for loving to watch!! Lol
I know. Also his saying I don't find u attractive I feel was more towards her personality and not her looks (she is high maintenance and not his type). I think she's not used to guys not liking her or her looks ...imo
@@ED80s did he say " I don't find you attractive" I believe he said " I am not attracted to you" Did he actually say " you are not attractive " I don't think so. Gonna watch again
@@ED80s yes cause she thinks she is the best most attractive girl. She isnt used to be told that a guy isnt attracted to her. Its crazy because she then decided to put hi down and cause trouble for him. Its fascinating psychology. I call it white blond woman syndrome, often they think very highly of themselves and become revengeful if they feel slighted. Don't say it isnt race etc. Its especially blond white women who behave like this. They think they are not wrong and every one wants them. Being told " I am not attracted to you" for her is a major insult. And she must take him down. It's a social phenomenon and happens often. Think about. Watching her I remember many women I have met like her before. Dangerous as all they have to do is cry. It's the blond white woman power, privilege of everyone believing them. Scary
@@ED80s thats exactly how she took it. She's a particular persuasion and used people giving her attention. And this was probably the first time she been in a company of men and none of them had a interest in her. Her ego was bruised and had a hissy fit over it
The show was very badly planned. Many times they said they went on dates/ talked off camera and what we get is the same shot of each participants talking about their feelings instead of real action. Also all of the interactions with the hosts are very cringe.
I literally hated that the important parts were off camera. I really wanted to see what happened in the club with Colby and Zay. Hopefully if they have a season 2, they’ll do better.
Seriously, Madilyn literally was like bragging about how much she liked Randall from the moment she saw him. Like if you feel that way you should just be single and date around. You could tell she was so annoyed with Colby over every small thing but wanted him to change and didn't see value in him until other women saw value in him. She was constantly drunk and yelling at him and you could tell how much he was invested in her. And he did kiss someone else but she was trying to sleep with Randall and to me a makeout session with a person you're not gonna see again is not as bad as connecting with someone on an emotional personal level and trying to sleep with them. People are calling Colby a narcissist in the comments because he kissed another girl for Madilyn.... He didn't really explain it well but I think he kissed the other girl because he was jealous of Madilyn and Randall and he wanted to prove to her and him that he could find someone else if he wanted to. That Madilyn could lose him too. But I think once he did it he felt bad even though technically they weren't in a relationship at that point. And explaining it as an open relationship was probably the most accurate way of explaining it to stranger without breaking an NDA. And are we not gonna talk about how Colby and April kissed?? Like that came out of nowhere and I feel like if Colby and April actually dated they would be compatible just because their personalities are so similar but also because they're happy-go-lucky people wanting the best from every situation.
I agree with everything you said. Madlyn was very rude to Colby. I don't get it. I think there's some serious family stuff with her. Also the drinking seems to be an issue.
@@msnandimarie7023 yeah seems like she's an emotional drunk. Like you could tell when she was wasted because she would talk slower. When Colby lashed out at dinner with her friends, I don't blame him. He was putting himself through hell for this woman and she was just drunk trying to get her friends to give her an excuse to leave. And he reminds me of my husband. Straightforward and understanding and not an overly emotional person and Madilyn is the opposite. Super emotional and wanting to talk about everything. When they moved past their issue she HAD to bring it up because if he didn't say exactly what she wanted to her he was an awful boyfriend. Marriage requires forgiveness and understanding. If he apologized and explained his feelings then accept it and forgive him or don't and leave him. But once she forgave him she didn't need to bring it up again and that's where I see his frustration. Madilyn isn't ready for marriage especially not to him.
That kiss between April and Colby looked completely staged. It looked like they had no chemistry and the producers told them to kiss. maybe as part of the show it was agreed by all parties that during the trial marriage partners had to kiss as part of the show.
Madlyn wants to be single and wants men to lust after her. There is no way she should be married at this point of her life. It is a mystery what Colby sees in her and why he wants to marry her right now. Maybe in a few years Madlyn will want to settle down but it isn’t right now and it isn’t with Colby.
It was interesting that on the last night together with their other choices, it seemed like some of them might have been like "what the heck- it's my last chance to be with someone else before going back, so why not?" (Especially with Shonique - maybe because she didn't want to go back to her guy if he had also "experimented.") So many gray lines in this show!
I'm so glad most of the comments agree Madlyn was a big problem herself in the relationship. She really tired to make it seem like Colby is the sole issue with his actions but the only thing I can see being a major red flag on his end is his unconditional obsession over her. Like dude, the way she speaks to you is so bad.
It’s like Shanique and Randall. In the way that Randall spoke so nasty about her and yet she was so infatuated with him to the point of possessiveness 🤦🏾♀️
Zay has a lot of issues to sort out. He is a nice guy but he’s clearly dealing with his childhood trauma and is really defensive about it. He doesn’t wanna listen to what other people has to say if he doesn’t like it and decides to walk away. I mean its really hard to communicate with someone who just walks away.
I agree with the first half but tbh no .. he walks away because he can't express how he feels about certain situations. For example, when Zay and Shanique butted-heads, he asked her why she was making those rude face expressions ... she got defensive, rude, and disrespectful. Her attitude was disgusting but I liked how he tried to get an understanding and communicated with her. Another example, when Zay tried to talk to Rae .. she was super irritated & nasty, she never really liked or loved him .. she didn't even try to connect with him, so I 100% disagree. I love Zay, he was true to himself and knew what he wanted .. Shanique & Rae are toxic asf, they need to work on themselves, Zay also.
@@lyasiahymen7881 exactly he isn’t perfect himself but it really frustrates me because I could totally see how he was trying to go out of what looked like his norm to try and communicate and figure out what’s wrong . He was open and honest that he was jealous seeing her with another man but left it as it was because what was he going to do really . I feel like Rae honestly should’ve told him straight tf up .. I felt happier and connected with someone I just met in 3 weeks than I have recently with you and we’ve been together for two years . She could never give him a straight up answer about if she could see them moving past issues . And gets upset when he doesn’t want to speak to her hell that man even cried in front of her with her mom . She victimizes herself without even seeing it . And Shanique was never going to be able to connect with anyone else other than Randall it was very obvious a hot mess .
@@lyasiahymen7881 exaaaaaaactly. He is literally put in situations with other ppl who can’t communicate, I don’t think all of that is on him. This man was BEGGING to just have one conversation where both of them can talk freely without attitude
@@lyasiahymen7881 yeah I agree that Shanique and Rae were toxic but I'm talking about the part where he goes to Shanique to talk about Rae and she was trying to point out his weakness and talk about his trauma and he just walked out. I hope he could get past this or else his next relationship maybe the same. I wish him the best.
The show popped up on my Netflix recommendations and I thought “hmmm maybe. But I mean what if bachelor fantake does a video to save me from actually watching it..” and you did!!! Thank you!!!
Zay ended up being the person I wanted to be the most happy. He deserves better than Rae. Rae really gave him an ultimatum while not being able to name 1 thing she loves about him 🥴
This is sooooo good! They are all the worst except for Randall. He’s the chillest one. Madlyn and Colby are the absolute worst but they bring the most drama. Alexis embarrassed herself big time those first two episodes. Lol
I agree with portions of that statement. Colby and Madelyn are the worst! I thought Randall was a sweetheart but he went way downhill for me with the switch. I think he and Madelyn smashed, I don’t care about the “ broke up” rule. You don’t have to F**k someone just because you’re on a 3 week break, take time to reflect. He and Madelyn were practically salivating!!
@@Hannahbanana353 Agreed, and I really liked him episode 1. The clincher was when he met up with Shanique after the girls night up. He was like we’re supposed to be fully immersed in this experience. I bet he was!! He had the audacity to say “ so I should just leave Madelyn by herself and come see about you” when she was so hurt by Madelyn’s comments about Randall thrown in her face. That really, really rubbed me the wrong way…expressing more concern about the chick he’s known for 2.5 weeks as opposed to the girlfriend he had for 2.5 years. I felt devastated for her, by his stance. Madelyn would be super okay by herself for the 20-30 minutes while you comfort/reassure Shanique.
The two proposals made me so mad. They didn't go through the experience and reacted on fear and ego. Alexis compared herself to madylin (that's a hard 25yr old🥴).. Madeline fakes like she wanted to be "heard" when she saw Randall she wanted to smash and would've have if he didn't reject her. Her thirst was so cringe as she tries to play a role as if Cobey is the villain.
All these new Netflix dating shows just keep confirming to me that Are You The One is the greatest reality dating show of all time and needs to make a triumphant return
I never thought I'd see this many narcissists at one time...lol there's so much manipulative gaslighting trauma bonding fake empathy going on in this show...but the psychology and humor of it all is so entertaining. I can't wait for season two.
Being with the wrong person, energy and vibe can bring out the worst in you clearly like Zay and Rae vs Rae and Jake. I was the same at 25, a little brat, narcissistic and a manipulator towards my ex because we weren’t right for each other and I was immature with trauma I needed to work through and so did he. I’m with the right man now and I have the utmost respect for him, none of my shenanigans and I focus on having good communication with him and we’ve been great for over 7 years now.
I was surprised to find I got into this show. I liked watching everyone's experience and interactions, with the exception of Madlyn. She is one of those scary women that always make herself out to be the victim. She says things like "I can't keep pretending I'm the problem", when she never once said she was the problem lol. She bad mouthed him as soon as she got there. Everything she gets mad at other people for doing she literally just did. She was mad at Colby for not telling her his experience with other women and talking about her to a woman during their break, when she definitely acted like they were broken up as well and didn't tell Colby the multiple kisses she shared with Randall, all while talking the most mess about their partner than anyone else on the cast. She was malicious in her intention while talking with shanique about her experience at girls night, as she was laughing at shanique being hurt about it. She was mad at Colby for "shutting down"...while she was behind a shut bathroom door lol, and she also walked out in the middle of Randall trying to talk to her too. All of her scenes are hard to watch since she is so irksome. I don't think that Colby is always right but I really don't see why he's so attracted to her. I'm glad Alexis left early, so weird she was still mad weeks later that Colby wasn't attracted to her, as if everyone in the world is going to be attracted to her.
I agree and Colby told Randall at dinner how Madlyn can get aggressive and mean with her words which she did with Randall the day before, yet Randall didn’t mention that and was like ‘’she’s sweet’’ When literally she cussed Randall out. idk what Randall sees in her. He’s also more attractive then her so idk how both Colby and Randall are into her.
@@mayra8358 yea they're both cute and seem like they're looking for a genuine and long term relationship, she should be so lucky lol. Nope not very nice from what I've seen of her so far
First of all Madlyn is NOT cute at all, she drinks too much, she only wants to get fkd, her friends hype that BS up, and yes, she plays the victim like a pro. Colby was dead wrong for not just telling her "yes, I had my own version of the experience for me because I didn't have a connection w/April", while Madlyn was up under Randall the entire time anyway, literally up under Randall begging to get nailed. Colby never switched up on her, he wanted to leave with her from the beginning and never changed his mind. Colby also has MAJOR issues with accountability.
Coldby is manipulative and Madelyn is narcissistic...both is feeding their own medicine....She wanted to smashed Randall so bad she couldnt careless about coldby...she said he better sit in his chair lol....but Coldby know how to trigger her emotions and push her button...He turned that table around and now she all messed up...lol
I am left thinking poor Hunter is going to be married to Alexis. He had father like vibes when he comforted April so maybe he likes being a father like figure to a bratty Alexis.
You know Hunter was worried about getting married to Alexis because he though "maybe she is only into me for my money"... Only to watch this show back and realise, SHE PLAYED YOU! She DID only marry you for the money. 🤣🤣🤣.
this show is so messy that last sequence didn’t even get 50% of the dumb dramatic moments personal favorite “yes. i want you sit in a corner and miss me.”
I'm blown away by how many toxic relationships and toxic individuals are on this show 🤯 These couples either need serious therapy or shouldn't be together at all. Jake and Rae are the only two that actually seem compatible and have a chance at making it work in the real-world. I really do hope they choose each other at the end. I'm calling it now; their couple name is *Rake* 😏
I feel so sad for April though. Jake and Rae do seem great for each other but April actually did so much self reflection and work and she has a heart of gold and no one to share it with.
I feel bad for April tbh she was my favorite she really seemed like she put in the work with the experiment but ultimately Jake might just be more compatible with Rae unfortunately
Trust me, you don't want to be with someone 100% like you. That is why opposite attracts. Jake doesn't know it yet but April is meant for him. They're just young and hot headed atm.
I honestly rather see him with April because when you really look at it.. Rae is not emotional with zay she doesn't even acknowledge his feelings.. she brushes him off plus when they asked her why do she love him.. she couldn't answer that question..I don't think Rae really knows what she wants and Jake's mom was right.. if you're with someone that's comfortable n not challenging.. you're not growing.. you're settling.. he likes the feeling he has with Rae because she doesn't press him about life expectations.. when in reality he does need to get a job.. he does need to figure out what path he's gonna take.. plus she doesn't know Jake like April does..
I was just so shocked that they kept putting in the commentary as the scenes were unfolding. Like Madalyn for example was still extremely drunk as she was commenting on the situation. Maybe they did that to make it look more real? It just looked so messy and uncomfortable…
I am psyched, you're doing this! When my husband got home I was telling him about this show. Told him I had just finished the second episode. Logged onto Netflix and realized I was on episode 5.
Damn as a 35 yr old I’m watching these supposed 25 year olds hold ultimatums already. They do seem like babies now from my perspective lol. So I had my baby at 30 and have been engaged & planning a wedding at this age has been pure bliss! My man is mature, has his life together and we’re enjoying the finer things life together. I partied all through 20s and so did he and now we are ready for our family, our baby is 5 and life is good.. so waiting another 5-10 years later made a big difference. But they did a great job trying to learn more about themselves, I even learned some new insights looking at their issues lol.
I knew the show would be messy so I figured I'd like it but damn I hate everyone. Like it's fine when these reality shows cast someone to hate on, that's typical. But I'm not rooting for anyone so I don't have any investment in any of the couples.
I'm only rooting for everyone to walk away single at the end! Because I can't see any of them lasting (new or old couples). Just a lot of dysfunctional communication and issues all around...
I absolutely love this show. I hope they keep going with this show and make a million seasons. I'm all in on this trainwreck. Also Rae and Madelyn are AWFUL humans. 😖
You hit the nail on the head with none of them being very likeable. Some had their moments when I liked them but then would do something I really didn’t like. Halfway through I was trying to think of one single person to root for. 😅 I don’t think they’re all bad people or anything though. Every relationship has arguments and the show adds a lot of stress and pressure. If people got to see my arguments with my husband probably no one would root for me either… That being said, I know April is a little wild and I recognize her issues but I also think I relate to her most so she was my fave.
Zay asked Rae "why you fucking me everyday?" 😳 That's what killed my impression of him. Break ups happen but he didn't have to call her out like that. He needs some counseling. No one is ever sweet enough to talk to people like that. Then he told the host "be nice" 😂😂😂😂😂. He's controlling underneath it all 🤣
@@lyasiahymen7881 and this is true. But his language 🤮 , and you’re supposed to love her. He could have replaced f&*$ with another word. He was trying to hurt her. But he only hurt himself
The hosts are probably the worst part. Vanessa is always trying to make it about her and nicks relationship. constantly interrupting everyone and making it about herself
What I was aware of was the fact that during my viewing nobody mentioned financial status and the assurance that each couple who were in love had the financial ability to marry. After all isn’t it one of the most important issues when wanting to marry? I’m not suggesting great riches but decent budgets to be able to live off.
honestly this show is like a bad car crash where you have to slow down and take it in as you drive by. its so bad it makes me curious to see the outcome lol
i hate madlyn, she looks really hate colby in the first eps and easily move to another guy, and when they comeback together she said how she really loves colby bla bla bla and after that exaggerate colby's fault to make her feel better and make sure that colby doesn't deserves her as much.
It sounds like their relationship is more established (living together and families intertwined) than maybe other couples are, so I'm not surprised Jake is staying with her. It's sort of like men who cheat and fall in love with their lovers, but always go back to their main women anyway since it's too complicated to implode their entire lifestyle/home, even if their hearts may be elsewhere.
Dug the show…. But my God, the music on this absolutely terrible!!! I mean distractingly over-dramatically, awful. Soulless, no vibe, just horrible music that had words that fit the situation. The musical director need to get that Will Smith slap & then fired.
I don’t know how people stay with someone they clearly don’t want to be with. My easily detached behind, when we are not on the same page anymore I’m out. Why put both of y’all in misery. I don’t believe in the whole let’s be miserable together. Let’s with see what can be fixed or let’s move on
Im glad Jake thought for himself.. i was concerned that he was s push over for April n his mama,n look Aprils moved on n moved in with her man, that quick!!.....,he dodged one!!!..lol...n i hope Rae can come to her senses n hopefully they'll be a great couple,one day GOD BLESS
When they decided to go on this show, that’s a red flag for every couple. That shows you need other people to prove your finance is better not the best.
this show SUCKED! It just wasn't pulling me in like at all. the Permise is very stupid! if you have to give your partner a Ultimatum you should just end the relationship and call it a day! If your man Don't want to marry you, Cheats all the time, doesn't want to post you on their social media, and or is abuse in anyway (emotional or physically), Am sorry but IT'S TIME TO LEAVE!
@@lisah8438 thats not true. I personally don't care what happens at the end but am just saying as a whole...if you have to do Ultimatum in your relationship it would be smarter to just leave that relationship verus trying to force something that will never change.
The show is interesting but the editing is horrible. There would be something that transpired one night, and then they would cut to another couple, and by the time they went back to the original couple they didn’t follow up with what transpired. They did this quite a few times in the show and I was left thinking “wtf, why would they just cut to them driving in a car and not follow up with what happened last night?”. Very frustrating.
I took the rainy days this past weekend, binged this (very much anticipating the ending this week), and I have SO much to say! There seem to be so many flaws in the structure of this show, specifically The Decision table was a mess...I wish they were handling the choices differently. How the heck are they going to have the right number of people choosing each other each season? And you couldn't even follow the order of what was happening because people weren't choosing each other - my head was spinning. It seems like they should have had an equal number of people by gender who are giving the ultimatum as well. It's weird that the hosts would be saying to everyone "you're here because you want to get engaged/married" when clearly there are many who are NOT! I suppose they're figuring out the kinks. I personally like Love is Blind better, but this was an escape for a dreary weekend. Yet, I almost considered just flipping to the end to see how the couples turned out (because a lot of the in between stuff was sort of boring...i.e. why do we care what Colby and April are doing? Wow, I sure didn't expect the exes and everyone to be mingling so much throughout the experience, knowing what was going on during the process - OR - that two "by default" individuals together going out to the club and mingling with the masses! I don't think Colby was a jerk for saying he honestly didn't find Alexis attractive. That was being straightforward vs saying something else (that was probably true), that he didn't jive with her materialistic approach. It was interesting to see how some of the individuals were more desirable to the group than others, though. The conversations between the ladies later on felt like Sister Wives sewing circles! I don't appreciate they have cameras on them even during the middle of the night, and yet...wasn't I watching!? LOL Thank you for the recap and I always love "The Office" references, especially to Michael's bench at the end of Jan's bed! Hope you're feeling better these days, Fantake!
Same. I feel like the show is weak. The permise is very stupid, the cast are NOT IT because they all got problems, they fought alot over BS that made no sense to me, and omg then Vanessa & nick are still horrible as host for this show too.
I think the show is incredible and actually helped these people. Every other reality show just wants the drama only but this is set up to grow and learn from your past mistakes. Yeah of course there’s drama by making them live with other couples but in the end they all got an answer Whether it was to get married or if they needed to break up. And it didn’t leave every single couple single like most reality dating shows lol
Sucker Punch. Near the completion of this farce, on screen indicates one day left for the participants to announce their decision. And then, aside from a few scenes with the participants walking towards the final event, the whole thing disappears, without even a mention "to be continued". Where's the guarantee that Netflix will get the next season or be sold off to a different streaming service. The whole thing is a sham!!!
Just started watching this program and the first person I immediately notice is Lauren. She has absolutely no jealous feelings. Is Lauren a cyborg? What's her secret? Lol
