Who knew Tiff and Sam would have had the healthiest process at the end? Thry learned how to communicate, actually became friends, and really self analyzed about what they want from a partner.
If I was Tiff I’d need more consistency. Mildred’s been on her best behavior really maybe just the last week of their trial marriage 😂 they still ain’t ready imo, but they are the only couple on a better track vs when they got there.
Lexi and Rei’s relationship is wild. I would NEVER sit my partner down IN FRONT OF MY PARENTS!!! to discuss perceived sexual infidelities and chastise them. That is so disrespectful and uncomfortable. Like I’m shocked at how chastised and sad Rae looks. Her parents should have told her this is not okay. Talk to your parents all you want but don’t bring your partner along too
@@marisabelcabrera5704 that’s also true. I was wondering the whole time why she was just going with it instead of asking to have this convo later. It was so cringey but considering everything I thought Rae handled the interrogation reasonably well.
Mal is completely unaware of how attractive she is and her worth because if she knew she would not be settling I’m sorry, but that is just facts! also, she has a beautiful personality and communicates very well
Idk I think Mal just might be picky. Remember what her friend said about a lot of people falling for Mal, not realizing Mal is just nice 😂 I believe a lot of people show interest in her, so Mal must just not being interested in them.
you are so right about Natasha, there is something SO COMPELLING about her. I want her on my screen full time. I want to hang out with her and be her best friend lol
Tiff and Natasha essentially have a similar viewpoint…it’s just cuz Tiff is in love, it’s almost like Natasha is there to bring them back to earth. Tiff said in the beginning how bad their communication is with Mildred & it’s like Natasha reminds them of that 😂 LOVE IT!
I think Vanessa needs to evaluate her love for Xander. She didn't care about Xander's feelings until after she saw that she cared for Yoly. And Mal is pushing so hard for Yoly without realizing that they need to end it with each other. They're not a good match. Still want the best for all of them.
I think Vanessa got a reality check realizing how disliked she was by most of them. She went in excited, implying most people love her and I truly believe she felt she’d be like Yoly - having people fight over her…and that ain’t happen. Not only did it not happen, but now the partner she came with is fighting for someone else. This cast gave her a needed reality check.
It is completely impossible to communicate with Mildred. I already knew that she and Tiffany were going to crash and burn. They cannot connect unless it’s sexual so they have no genuine connection outside of that. Also, Aussie doesn’t like to be told anything even if it’s delivered in the most precious way.
Thousand percent like there is no way to communicate w/out her going off. And she says she’s Latina and can’t change that.. I really loved when tiff said whatever they said about rudeness isn’t about race I don’t totally remember but that hit
AUSSIE MUST SEEK THERAPY ASAP. She’s sooo repressed and has tons of unresolved trauma. She can’t even have a real convo with anyone without running away wtf
Mal has to have a million ppl loving who they see her as. I think theyre gonna be just fine as hurtful as this has been for them. Idk everyone’s pronouns so I just say they
Even though Lexie and Mal confused me cause Mal seemed to have forgotten about that little relationship, I still feel slight pity for Mal because Yoly is trifling and keeps playing on our tv screens. If Xander is what she wants just say that🙄 but only time will tell And side note Mal knew yoly was going to come and love someone else so if you’re suspicions were right she shouldn’t even be fighting for yoly so hard. This girl just wants to be married
Y’all notice how mal kinda got turned off from Lexi. Like Lexi was still talking about how she wants to have mal in her life forever and mal stopped reciprocating that as enthusiastically?
I feel like lexi was performing too. It was extra a little bit and I think that turned mal off. especially her sharing with her parents that rae slept with someone else...wtf
Aussie is totally impossible. It's more than obvious that she has an avoidant character and clearly she has unresolved childhood trauma to deal with. Please do not push your other half away who is just trying to help. So unfair.
I honestly don’t think Vanessa has grown. I think she’s just scared of losing Xander. She really thought Xander was just gon spend the whole 3 weeks missing her and that not being the reality has her scrambling
Lexie doesn't realize that treating someone well doesn't earn you the reward of that person making themselves into who you want them to be. Who really wants to marry someone that you have to talk into marrying you? Move on and find your person
Aussie DESPERATELY needs therapy. Aussie is a 42 year old person there is no excuse for not being able to communicate properly bc and blaming it on their childhood
Everyone seems to just skip over that Mal was talking about marrying Lexi and then (like Vanessa) when Mal realized Yoly and Xander had developed a strong connection then she’s all on the “I choose Yoly” train.
It’s interesting that Aussie chose a more outspoken partner like Mildred to experiment with. Especially since Sam is so accommodating. Rae or Mal would have been more along Aussie’s type as they both are accommodating, soft spoken/chill, and appear to be deep listeners like Sam. Mildred is very outspoken and doesn’t shy away from conflict. They could have learned so much from each other if there was a therapy element to this show as well🤔
I feel for Mal, I really do and think she’s a great person with a lot to offer…for someone else 😂 Yoly lowkey feels poly to me with her ease of being able to fall in love with people, but Mal knew that before she got with her. Xander seems like a great person, so at the very least Yoly has impeccable taste. I just think there are so many ways Yoly and Mal are not compatible & it’s time for Mal to move on.
@@Meganb1286 that perspective is just cuz I know a couple poly people and like I said the ease is something I hear talked about. Now, I do know women who fall for anybody but they tend to have terrible discernment & the people they fall for are awful. Yoly fell for Mal and Xander, both seemingly really good people so I can’t say if her discernment is off or not. I’m not saying she is, I’m just saying she might be.
I'm so shocked that the cast especially xander ignored the fact Vanessa was like "maybe I need to have sex with another person every 4 years to find the spark again" 😶 she definitely is a performer. I think xander is a passive aggressive Aussie 🤣
I think Aussie needs to seek out a good therapist. There's obvisouly a lot of hurt and insecurity there, and that contributes to Aussie's inability to hold an uncomfortable conversation. I think Sam should leave Aussie to work on themselves, and find someone who is ready to love and be loved openly and honestly.
Vanessa is so competitive I think she sees everything as a competition bc she literally looked right at Lexie when ray said something nice about her with that annoying smile😭 idk if she grew or if she’s just playing a new game
Mal's whole thing is that she feels like Yoly falls in love too easily and doesn't feel special and Yoly responds by falling in love with with a first-person who flirts with her. Yoly is 100% the villain of the season. She's trifling!
I don’t either and she’s not as attractive as she acts at all. I can’t believe they give Yoly power as is she’s that attractive and her attitude sucks. Piss, poor
I feel Xander just didn’t want to say what they did intimately with Yoly while the cameras were rolling like that, which is smart. They’re a physical therapist, I can’t imagine they want all their business out there (even though they did agree to go on the show). So I’m sure once the cameras weren’t rolling, they told Vanessa the details.
I would love to be a fly on the wall to watch Xander, Rae, & Sam’s reactions watching this season *live* cus I’m just sitting here scoffing, side eyeing, & squinting thru this 2nd 1/2 😹 Like, what in the Love Bombing is going on here?
For me it feels like Lexi’s behavior tends to go unchecked because it’s chalked up to her being a “good communicator” and “mature for her age.” In reality, she tends to unfairly project various insecurities onto others like Rae, and it can get pretty disrespectful.
Justice for Sam! Mal should probably just move on, Lexi is very controlling, I hope Rae chooses herself. Yoly and Xander seem really into eachother but I think Vanessa has a strong hold. Vanessa should explore polyamory and let Xander go. I actually think Tiff and Mildred have a chance, but a lot pf thearapy is needed. Aussie also very much needs therapy immediately.
Love this show and your take even better and I’m kinda getting Neil Lang aka the bachelor ring giver vibes from Lexi’s dad like it’s a commercial for him 😂
The people I liked in the beginning (Yoly and Lexie) are getting on my nerves and the people who got on my nerves in the beginning (Vanessa and Rae) I'm feeling kind of bad for. Lexie is Mariah Carey obsessed with Vanessa. OBSESSED. I still have one eye on Vanessa though because I feel like she would be better suited in a poly/less "traditional" relationship but then she's being territorial over Xander all of a sudden and it seems a bit off to me. Aussie...oh Aussie. Aussie gets triggered by the slightest hint of disagreement and it's way too much...I'd think at 42 this must have been an issue with other relationships (romantic or otherwise) in your life and it's bizarre to witness. It's too much. Sam deserves so much more effort, compromise, and compassion. Natasha needs to have a show where she interviews struggling couples and gives them the tea. 100%.
I don't think Vanessa has grown at all. She's an actress. She's making Xander believe she wants marriage to not lose Xander. I bet if they chose to stay together at the end, they're probably still just dating right now. Xander doesn't have a strong back bone.
New villains yoli, Lexi, Aussie, sometimes Mildred. Is a child and very immature because how can you not want to talk about things and be in a relationship ? Yoli is playing in our face. You want to be with Xander? Mal was absolutely right. You fall in love quickly and easily with anyone new. It's the newness she likes. We all like the falling in love. Lexi is annoying as crap. If you don't like what Ray did as a grown ass adult will then tell her you don't like it and be done with it. Because this keep throwing that s*** in her face and then in front of your parents and all that crap trash. Mildred and Tiff together. Just make a bad mix.
@@lorraebrooks9286same I think there is more to the relationship and people are just jumping to Mals side cause they like her… Mal talked so much crap about yoly and talked about babies with Lexi and now acts like none of that happened. Why isn’t Zander getting the same backlash for falling for yoly 🤷🏾♀️
I agree with Xander. Why do I need to disclose EXACTLY what I did sexually while we are apart. What matters is that I had sexual contact with someone. I just don't see how details help, they only seed more issues for the future and ego eating comparisons when the topic at hand is more complex.
Mal is such an amazing human being. I don’t understand how soft, understanding, emotionally available, allowing others to be themselves, which is absolutely amazing to see on camera. For someone who’s the masculine lesbian, I was thrown through a loop.
It's unfortunate that you'd think otherwise bc Mal is masc. This is a problem masc people face; people on the outside assume that masc lesbians are "hard" or have traits of toxic masculinity simply bc they're masc and that's not always the case. Dare I say, that is *rarely* the case.
It’s hard to tell if any of these couples (old or new) should be together. Everyone needs to do some self-reflecting and seriously work on themselves as individuals so that they can be better partners and have healthy relationships.
I just can’t with Aussie she’s EXTREMELY SELFISH!!!! She needs to grow up and stop acting childish jeeez i dunno how Sam and Xander put up with their partners for so long prior to this. Vanessa is also VERY selfish, she wants the world to revolve around her 24/7 and i believe in growth but i don’t think she’s grown at all. I think it’s her ego that is bruised after seeing Xander can exist without her so she’s doing everything possible to have Xander right where she had her before. (Obsessed with her ALONE) Lexi needs to stop telling her family every detail about her relationship it’s sooo childish… I feel Rae is struggling deep down with being queer and needs to find herself ALONE not in a relationship Tiff and Mildred are too toxic and intense for one another it might end badly 😊
I thought the Yoli/Mal dynamic was the reverse? Like Mal was the one keeping distance and Yoli wanted more intimacy, sex etc. I could be wrong but that was the impression I’ve been under
@@hommefataltaemin Lexi has been toxic as hell regarding Rae and Vanessa. Idk if it’s not obvious but if it isn’t that’s the basis of all the drama. She couldn’t stop talking about it to Mal who was trying to be supportive for what? Nothing she only talks about Vanessa and Rae.
I just think Lexie is deeply hurt by Rae deciding to be with Vanessa after she told her that Vanessa didn’t have the best intentions. Then it was the icing on the cake when they were intimate together. I think this would have panned out differently if Rae was with someone else.
Maybe Vanessa has borderline personality disorder? I don't know that much about BPD, but I think part of it is become desperate and manipulative if someone is trying to leave you, even if you acted callous and abusive before driving them to leave.
I don’t get BPD from her at all. I’m not an expert, but I did do Dialectal Behavior Therapy, which is a program designed specifically for people with BPD (I was misdiagnosed, but the therapy did still help me with emotional regulation). The thing with BPD is that the people who have it tend to feel emotions very strongly. My impression of Vanessa is that she’s not showing a lot of genuine emotions. Like in all the times she’s cried on the show, she hasn’t shed a single tear. If anything she’s giving Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She came in believing everyone was going to be in love with her, and that Xander would be waiting faithfully at the end of this. When the reverse happened, suddenly she’s done a complete 180 on everything she wants for her future. Everything she does seems very calculated, or at least performative, and it’s telling that the people in Xander’s life feel the same way. People with BPD tend to be more reactive/impulsive.
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That wntire conversation, if u can call it that, that Lexi had with Rae in front of her parents was so effin inappropriate. That is a convo u have in private with ur partner. Rae couldn't get a word in edgewise. Lexi is rude and veryyy self centered. Everything is about her and completely disregards all of Rae's feelings. 🤦🏾♀️
@@kaylamalinga5912 Mal also talked a lot of crap and was talking about building a future with Lexi and is now acting like none of that happened and they also clearly had lots relationship issues just cause they didn’t air them out so vivid doesn’t mean they didn’t exist 🤷🏾♀️ sometimes you need to be on the outside to see what’s missing I was in an abusive relationship for three years and didn’t see it as such until I got with my current partner and realized I was wronged and my mother and his parents seen it and enabled it…. You have to realize they were in the exact same boat both introduced the ultimatum both realized what was missing both fell for someone new. I honestly respect how much yoly is open about it while Xander is telling everyone she doesn’t know and evading questions while texting yoly and telling her she loves her and chooses her
@@kaylamalinga5912yea ppl feel bad for Xander bc Vanessa is gross/cringe/selfish. Mal is very emotionally intelligent & took the experience to heart. I also think once Mal explained her reservations on marriage ppl understood. Yoly keeps making it seem like it's more than just being financially stable. & once we find out later that Yoly does have an opinion about the subject, you side eye her even more so that may be the blowback in the comments😂😂
Yoly and Lexi always gang up against Vanessa, and its because they're both with the previous partners of them (IMO). I can't imagine someone thinking being w Mal is like a chore (arguably the most attractive person on the show), but I wonder if Mal is asexual or has a different sex drive than Yoly? I dunno....you guys see it? Sex was a huge thing that Yoly and Xander bonded over. Ok well Vanessa is fucking w Rae (Lexi's old partner) and then Lexi is w Mal (who was w Yoly, who was busy falling into bed and love w Mal's former partner of 3 years). The lesbians were lesbianing on this show. And not one was a cat owner? Out there breaking stereotypes all over the place...
Yoly forgot she told us in episode 2 confessional that she was the reason they had to practice Mal touching her intimately bc she kept flinching away. But somehow it's Mal's fault they aren't fucking daily bc Mal doesn't initiate sex🤔😂😂😂
I think you should collab with someone with your thoughts, definitely with someone more mature than you. You're very narrow-minded on quite a few different relationship dynamics and could benefit from bouncing your ideas off someone else. Not sure if this has to do with your own relationship experience, but branch out girl! Be betterl
@Alex Blaser What an odd thing to say. Perhaps YOU should view other channels for other people’s opinions. This channel is for Queen E’s thoughts so that is what you’re getting. Also, claiming that someone else’s opinion is narrow minded and immature is meaningless without further explanation. The opinion can’t be as narrow minded as you seem to think when tons of others are actively agreeing with the opinion.
