Your mother is always with you. You are her legacy. You carry her in your footsteps and in every breath you take. I'll be praying for you in all the days that are too come.
I’m sorry about the loss of your mom. I understand the grief. Losing my mom felt like an earthquake had happened under my feet, my whole foundation was shattered. The pain was so acute, so physical, sometimes it felt like I was going to pass out. It’s been 22 years, the grief is still there but the pain is manageable. She had her birthday on 11/9 was killed on 11/13 and was buried on 11/16..so this time of the year is bad but somehow it gets better. Listening about how your future kids will not know your mom is very heartbreaking. I’m so sorry.
Yess it feels like a horrible drean that you can’t wake up from and your stuck with a painful reality that you Are forced to digest. I for the first time had a panic attack, also almost passed out and had some weird heart issues for a while until i forced myself to stay strong. The more i allowed myself to process the nightmare the more my body got sick. It was too much to handle for me. So i am very careful with my thoughts and emotions. I love her so much.
I lost my farther recently and I understand your pain. He got his wish to pass at home. It still feels like a bad dream, I can't believe he is gone. Sending you strength and light.
I'm so sorry for your loss 😢 my mom passed in 2018, it hit me like a ton of bricks, I spent 2 weeks in denial waiting for someone to tell me it wasn't true, then came even more pain when I had to acknowledge all of the experiences we wouldn't live together. I'm still healing, she was 52 I felt robbed! My aunt said something that eased me, she said talk to her, share your achievements, and remember she lives in you, you're part of her so she's always with you. I hope you find comfort
I’m sorry for your loss, I loss my mom back in 2021. My dad is Nigerian and the thing I hated hearing from him and other people was telling me to be strong like my first friend I had in this life didn’t just pass away. My sadness was and still is valid, that’s part of my grieving process. My mom knows I’m a cryer and was the one person that comforted that side of me. Do what you need to do at this time.
"Maybe long life isn't the reward" So much of what you shared really touched my heart. I cried watching this and thinking of my own mom and the love I have for her. I love you Mayowa
im sending you so much healing energy. i lost my dad 3 years ago at the beginning of covid. he was 63. and I'm still grieving. i also dislike the phrase 'everything happens for a reason ' i always thought it was something people used to justify the unjustifiable. i feel your pain. Your memories of your mother will keep her with you forever ♥️
Sending you extra love and healing🫶🏾 My dad also passed 3 years ago, during the start of COVID, and he was in his 60s. It's crazy to find a person that relates to my situation. I felt so alone during this grieving process, thank you for posting your comment. It helps me so much🥺
I'm so sorry for your loss, Mayowa; but what I'm grateful for is that you're allowing yourself to feel it, which allows grieving. Your mom sounds like an absolutely amazing person, and I'm so glad u had her. May she rest well.
Her spirit lives in you. Her empathy, her passion, her love and light.I thank the creator for her and her memory. Sending you strength during this time of grief.
Mayowa, I have nothing but empathy for you. I'm 33 and I lost my mother in 2016 only 1 week before my 27th bday. I was my mom's oldest out of 3. In my opinion, there is no greater pain in the world than that of losing your mom. It was also a sudden death that none of us saw coming. So I know exactly the type of pain you're going thru. Please take all the time you need to grieve. We will be here waiting patiently for you. ❤️❤️❤️
Sorry for your loss, Mayowa. When you shared that your mother loved what you did on RU-vid made me smiled a lot. I’m happy you’re doing hobbies in the meantime and planning to get back to RU-vid. Of course, whenever you’re able to❤️!
Your grief is so powerful, and it hurts, i cried watching this, but i also smiled too. I can feel the love shared between you two and it's warm. I know you're in pain and sucks and I'm deeply sorry.
Awww I’m so sorry Mayowa. I was wondering where you were. I love watching your content and seeing you on my timeline. I’m sorry for your loss. Wishing speedy healing and endless happy memories. She will always be with you. Sending you big big hugs! Sudden passings are the hardest because they are so jolting. Sending you comfort 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you. Your mother was an extraordinary woman. We know this because she raised her daughter to be an extraordinary woman. Hugs and love to you.
I watched this video when you posted it originally and I’m back again rewatching it today after losing my mom suddenly yesterday. My mom always seemed invincible for some reason. This pain is agonizing and unbearable. Take heart 🩵
Mayowa, sending my deepest condolences to you and your family. Sending you the warmest coziest virtual embrace. Losing the matriarch of the family is beyond difficult. We think we can imagine how hard our mothers worked and how selfless they are, until they transition. The realization afterwards of just how much they do, how many lives they've impacted hits you with a giant wave of gratitude and grief. I'm sorry that you're going through this while pouring from your cup into your dad's cup. Please enlist help from others, a housekeeper or PCA/CNA to help with your dad and chores even part-time will free up space mentally. Maybe your sibling(s) or a relative can stay with dad for a few days so you may have a break. You're reaching that caregiver burnout and I'm concerned for you. You make so many amazing points every video. I won't try to respond to them all, but I agree. People dismiss grief a lot to avoid discomfort. Love that you notice your mother's presence and allow yourself to feel her. As a Black woman I love seeing Black mothers and daughters have a deep bond. It's unlike any other. Thank You for sharing your experience Mayowa. 💚🤍💚
take your time to grieve. it might never be okay, it might create a permanent crack in your heart, but that's the price we pay for love. you grieve because you love her and she is grieved because she's loved. time can fade wounds and turn them into scars, but that scar might never go away, nor should it. i'm so sorry for your loss
“I’m thankful for the mom I got to have in this life”…. Whew! Be grateful for that baby girl cause I can tell you a lot of us didn’t have that! Take your time and grieve how you need to, honor your mother always and we’re always rooting for you!!
Mayowa, I am so, so sorry about your loss. A mother is a person who can never be replaced. She will always be with you. Thank you for sharing your mother’s beauty, humanity, and legacy with us. Thank YOU for sharing with us. Your impact on your viewers goes further than you know.
It's powerful that you're sharing and being open in this time of grief, your channel is often a safe space to vent & feel seen, so I am glad you're airing out what's on your chest and letting your heart be heard. I am truly sorry to hear about your mums passing. I want to highlight what you said about taking on responsibility & hope that you can lean on community wherever and whenever possible, even for things you might see as little. The effort behind the responsibilities that a black woman takes on is easily overlooked because it's expected from you, I hope you can be held through this
Sending you healing energy. Her presence lives within you, carryout the great times you shared. I lost my father 10 years ago and sometimes it still feels fresh. He was only 46. My Prayers are with you
So so so sorry you’re dealing with your mom’s death. I also lost my mom suddenly. It is the hardest thing. I felt like my roots were ripped up for a long time. I did eventually re-gound but it took time and I am a different person now. You are forever changed by her loss but it can be a positive change, and she will help you on your journey.
I would say because you are processing everything, it's too soon for you really get a grip on how you're feeling, but if this will help you I am all for it I am so sorry for your loss, this is an incredible tragedy for anyone. Please know that we love you and care for you and we have missed you
You are in a state of grieve for your mom, and caregiver for your dad, and caregiver for others in the home at the same time. I must tell you this, your whole persona is radiating such beauty, and strength.
Sending you a HUGE virtual hug. This January will make 2 years since my dad passed away. And I still cry almost every day. So I understand. Wishing you the best in your healing process.
My thoughts will be with you constantly today. I recently lost someone, and the grief is earth shattering. May you receive an abundance of strength and have the will to move forward. This video itself is a huge thing to do, by you sharing I hope it helps you and those experiencing the same heartbreak. Prayers.
I'm sorry that your mom is no longer here. I hope the right people come along side you to just be present. I am a Christian believer. So, I think folks of my faith can be better at just being present and leave Christianese out. Sometimes walking out the scripture is enough, the recitation overload feels disingenuous, unrelatable, and just not human. Thank you for reminding me. I lost my brother to suicide over 14 years ago. He was only 23... and boy did folks, particularly many Christian folks totally missed the mark. Some of my unbelieving friends were being in the moment with me. Just being human. I can relate to the sudden lost of your mom, so i just want to just be with you. Be well soon. ❤
I am sooo sorry to hear about the passing of your Mom. My Mom passed 20 years ago and it still pains me. I have the comfort of when ever I see a butterfly in my hometown, I know it is her. About a month ago a monarch butterfly 🦋 was flying around the driver side of my car while I was at a long traffic light stop. I knew it was her and said Hi with a smile! Sending you love and hugs. Just know that our Moms are always with us. 🦋
When someone is grieving I really choose my words wisely and try my best not use phrases like they will be ok, everything happens for a reason. Because I don't know what their feeling. By Best Best friend mom pasted away last August, her mom was truly like a mom to me but I still know the loss affected my best friend totally different then it affected me. She is still struggling with her mom's passing and I am so intentional in the words I speak to her. I send you love and pray for peace in your heart and mind.❤
I'm so sorry my sister. I don't know how your coping with this. Your energy is so beautiful. The words that you are sharing is healing for others. Mom is an ancestor. Oh gosh the more i listen to you as i write the love you are sharing is ooozing out. I hope you stay connected to your African spiritually.
I am so sorry. My heart breaks for you Mayowa 😢 I actually can relate to you about caregiving and grief. So many ppl pissed me off with certain things that were said when one of my parents passed as well. If you don’t know what to say, just say nothing or say I don’t know what to say please
I’m not a spiritual girlie in any capacity, however, may love and light come your way. I hope that you have a loving, sustaining support system in your corner during this difficult time. We are never prepared to lose our parents at any age, so being angry and confused about this is normal. Your pain and sorrow is valid. And I appreciate you explaining your current circumstances because you didn’t have to.
@mayowasworld 💜💜💜 You gave your mom the gift of time. You heard what she didn't say when she said she was tired and you came home. Helping to lighten the load with caring gave her precious time to live life, spend time with you and other loved ones. When "good" people die young it is a reminder that time is unforgiving. Every time you apply makeup you honor your mom, recreating traditional dishes she taught you, is honoring your mom. The grief reminds you of her presence in your life. You get to be that elder for your nieces and pass on the memories and lessons you gained from your mom. May she exist peacefully, freely and joyfully. Ase.
I'm sorry Mayowa, very sad to have you back with this news, but you shared thoughts of your Mum beautifully. And you must take up gardening, I began 3 years ago and instantly became hooked, being in the UK I am somewhat limited by a growing season as opposed to climates when you can grow things all year round, but even in between seasons I'm planning what I'll grow for the next season. ❤❤
Mayowa thank you for taking this moment to share your pain with us and allowing us to hold this with you. This type of loss is the most unimaginable pain and I know the world is at a loss without her. Life is never the same after this type of grief. Sending so much love and light your way as you navigate this new world.
I still can’t accept or process my Mother’s passing. It seems so surreal, I haven’t grieved, it’s two years now, it will Take me some time, I lost my Father nine months later, it is hard.
I don’t even know what to say, and I can’t even imagine all the emotions you’re going through. I lost my Dad when I was really young, so I completely understand all that you’ve shared. I hope your mom’s soul rests in peace, and I pray that everything goes well for you. Thank you for sharing this❤️❤️❤️
Pele 💜 I love your spirit and the influence your mother has on you. I love that she’s loved on you the way she has. You’ve been poured into and you graciously pour into those of us whose mothers didn’t offer the same care. Thankfully, your access to Ifa, you can both continue to pour into one another. I’m really sorry for both of your loss Pele 💜
I was just thinking about the fact I hadn’t seen your face in a while and looked your channel up to see this. I am so so sorry for your loss, Mayowa. I wish you the best during this time and I appreciate you openly rejecting so many ideas people put on us in times of death.
Hey Mayowa, When it comes to understanding and expressing grief words completely fail us. It’s just that strong of an emotion, however thank you for sharing your heart with us. You processing your grief with us is actually a precious and delicate experience that I’m sure we don’t deserve. Sending you my sincerest condolences and also praying for you. Also if I might add, whoever told you “it is well”, may have came from a well meaning place but had no tact. That expression is found in Christianity. It means when someone relies on God’s strength instead of their own to get them through difficult life situations. Especially when things don’t work out the way they wanted them too. Anyway like I mentioned you are in my prayers, and God loves you ❤
My condolences I understand your pain lost my mom 8 years ago she was there when all my siblings had kids and now that I'm a mom of three without her here it's hard but keep your head up
wow peace be upon you. holding space for you in my heart. the way you spoke about your mom made her beautiful and warm energy so palpable. i could understand certain elements you opened up about as my mom and i were caretakers to my grandma before my grandma passed away this past january. caretaking and grief are both oceanic experiences. please give yourself time. i am sending you much love and strength during this time 🤍
I don't like when some say "it [death] was their time." I know in the Nigerian diaspora some have said that. I talked to my dad not too long, and he's in his mid 60s he doesn't show it, but he never got over his mother's passing. Also, your mom lives within you and your memories, and everyone she encountered. I'm sorry, Mayowa ❤❤❤
Look at how God and or our ancestors work. You said I didn’t have anything positive to say and then you said one of us not the MOST positive things You were Thankful , you acknowledged the future (children) , and another beautiful quote “maybe this is a new way to know my mother” Thank you for this ! I will continue to heal because of beautiful ppl like u who remind me that I’m not alone .. we’re never alone ✊🏾🫶🏽 ✨
Empathizing with you. So sorry for your loss. I lost my favorite brother this past February he died of cancer he was four years my junior, I was his care giver. You are right it (care giving) gives a different perspective about end of life. THANK YOU FOR SHARING your experiences with me. Sending love 💕 to you little beautiful sister
Oh we really don't know how to sit in grief and sadness, may we learn to not rush it all. Love and light to you 💛 I love that the Nigerian food you cook tastes just as good as your mom's 😅
My deepest condolences to you and your family. Im praying for your heart and spirit. Losing a loved one is tough😢 but they're always with you. Stay strong love❤
Sending love and light your way!✨ I joined the unexpected mothers passing club last fall at 28. I felt, I FEEL, I will continue to feel because I loved, I love and will continue to LOVE her. They lived, they live, and WILL continue to LIVE. In us, with us, thru us.They are with us Mayowa. Allow yourself to be upset, frustrated, sad, happy, joyful, numb, the whole spectrum. Thank you for putting this video out.
Queen, thank you so much for sharing. I am sending you my love on your healing journey. I will definitely donate and if there is anything else that we can do to support you during this challenging time, please let us know. Also, you gained a powerful Ancestor. 🖤
I'm so sorry. I lost my mother from kidney failure back during September 5th. We had to take her off. Life support definitely understand how you feel my condolences.
I am so, so sorry. I understand your pain and grief. When my Mom died part of me died with her. It took years to learn to live with the loss. Be gentle to yourself, just take one day at a time and learn on friends and family who truly love and support you. I'm not ashamed to say my "adopted" family and therapist saved my life.
My sincere condolences!!! I lost my mom at 4 years old. I am 53 and I still miss her.. Grief has no timeframe. So please do not punish yourself because of those intense feelings. The fact that your mom liked your videos is EVERYTHING!! You will never forget the things she taught you.. She’s still living on in you.. (((((((HUG))))))
I want to first say that although I do not know you personally -- I love you so deeply for being so vulnerable and real with us about your grief and devastation + your work as a whole because I have truly watched everyone of your videos. But truly, thank you for posting this because sadly I am also deeply grieving the unexpecting passing of my own grandmother who is essentially my mother but so much more. I even have 2 tattoos, one being very big on my leg of her, so I hope you know that I will not pretend to know your own grief nor your divine mother but please know I see, feel and hear you so damn deeply and similarly right now. May your grief lighten as it can for you over the coming months. Please stay safe and stay rad. Also, take all the time you need. I'll wait forever for your content, love.
I was my dad's primary caregiver although I had siblings, it was difficult because you must modify your life around them. He went home with the Lord Dec 31, 2022 at 96yrs old.
I am sorry that you lost your momma. I lost mine a few years ago. The pain of it is always there, but that pain becomes softer. I think of my mom almost everyday and smile. I have pictures of her on the wall so that i can see her face. I know she wants me to live my best life. Before she passed i had been working on a science fiction book rough draft and read it to her for each new page i wrote. She said she wanted me to finish the book. Prior i had made a virtual film that she saw so i was converting it into that book. Finally did finish the full rough draft. Next will get the rewriting and editing done. Then after that the final book. 😂😂😂😂 Hugs tight. I did a lot if meditating, crying, self discovery, reminiscing, and healing after mom.
I love tht u inspired yr Mother to lock her hair. Tht is her legacy to u. The ultimate acceptance and approval and I love tht for u. Mom's are the most important person in our lives. May her memory be a blessing and a comfort to u. Time will heal yr heart. 💞💫🙏🏽
Awwww, Mayowa I'm sorry to hear about your Mom passing! Sending prayers for you and your family 🙏🏿🙏🏿❤️ I was wondering if everything was ok. Because you haven't posted anything in a while. I had to look up you Channel manually to find you 🥺 Sending healing vibes your way!! All the way from ARIZONA 💕 I love you Girl ! Keep your head up 🙏🏿 Stay Strong for your Mom, your Dad and your Family 💝 🙏🏿 I'll be waiting patiently for your next Video! Whenever you decide to post it. Take your time ❣️
Awww nooo😭💜 babeeeee😫! Huge huge huge condolences. Wow😭. She is with you, she is in you! It's not fair I know😭, so sorry honey. It's so not fair💕 Also in your own time of course, it would be great to hear about your beliefs especially in light of the Rema thing. But please take that time off. Months! Whatever you see fit! Amazing point about HOLDING GRIEF! Yep! When someone's father passed, I didn't know what to say and all I could do was hug. We had never hugged before that and it was the only thing I could do because I could NOT express in words. There was absolutely nothing to say. Lastly, absolutely! About meeting grandparents. 3/4 of mine have passed - my mother lost her mother in her early 20s. 1/4 I have met once. And you definitely grieve the hopes, dreams and wishes. From what I have seen of my mother, all the stories she has shared, I would lay in her bed and ASK HER loaaaddsss of questions, it always ends in tears because you don't get over that heartbreak and the way it all went down just adds to that. You're grieving past, present and future and 1000% like you said you have to hold that grief because A WHOLE person is.... THERE IS SOME MUCH TO GRIEVE. You're grieving the whole of them, their entirety and everything and everyone around them. Ooo yess!! Please get into growing! I did earlier this year and it has been absolutely amazing. I think in this time, it would be healing in a way. To be in nature 💚! To go back to basics in a way.
I don’t know what to say but, I’m thinking of you. You are a beautiful, loving soul. You showed up and you keep showing up. Thank you and I love you. ❤
I lost my mother in 2020 at the age of 16. It was unexpected and I was there during her last moments. Three years later I'm still in grief group and individual therapy. Please remember that grief is permanent, and we grow around our grief with time. I'm sending you so much love and thank you for sharing with us
Mayowa, I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing yourself and your mom with us. Hearing how you’ve been navigating your grief is moving. Someone recently recommended this book to me - Notes on Grief by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. It may be something helpful to read (or reread) if you feel called to.
I just discovered you by watching the video on the "ugly stage" of locs. ❤ your first video changed my mind on locs. And this one touched my heart. I'm so sorry for your lost Mayowa, you changed my life in just one moment of watching you. Stay strong ❤❤❤❤❤❤
RU-vid recommended your vid, and I'm so glad I watched it. I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in 2020, and I'm still processing. Don't let anyone rush you out of this process, you'll be doing this for the rest of your life. I'm Liberian so it resonated with me when you spoke about her wisdom, etc. I can't tell you how much of what you said, I felt to my core: 1) cooking- I cooked like crazy the first year after she passed. It was like I was doing inventory about the foods I could cook, especially cultural foods. We ate those on special occasions, not everyday. 2) wanting her to meet my kids. I'm not sure if you guys do this in Nigeria, but in Liberia after the baby is born, they're bathed and "shaped". She did it for her other grandkids and I thought she'd do it for mine also. So I def felt what you said when you said grieving is also the process of letting go of dreams of your future with that person. She will always live on in you. Thanks for sharing, it was healing (and validating) for me ❤❤❤ Our beliefs are different, but "everything happens for a reason" is definitely a hated phrase of mine. I'm praying for you 🙏🏾
So many of our experiences & conclusions are nearly identical. My mom passed late Sept 2023. I believe my relationship with her transformed, not ended. Thank you for speaking on this.
