Thoroughly enjoyed this episode. You've raised great kids Zarna (and Shalabh). By the time my mom had "the talk" with me, I had heard it all from my friends. And this was in the early 1970s in Mumbai. Sadly there was no RU-vid option back then.
she sounds bit woke though. she cant generalise and say everyone is lil bit gay. hel no how can she speak for everyone else. not everything in the world has to have a shade of gray. Many things are simple and plain white as snow and black as night.
😂 I love this family discussion. Its filled with shock, denial, difference in generational thinking. The kids are so open and honest in their thoughts. Love it
I like this discussion with kids, it's very important topic, every parents has to talk with their kids instead of running away discussions like this which matters a lot in every individuals life.
I think both parents know exactly everything especially the dad. The mom is just being mom. Zarna reminds me exactly of my mom. I'm from Malaysia with Indian-origin great grandparents.
I have foreign parents and they would NEVER be open to having a conversation like this one. I love that you guys would open up with your kids about such a sensitive topic. This is great! I can’t wait to see more!
Open n honest discussion! somewhere Zarna tried her best to save her kids from awkward situation n tried to explain difficulties related to sex n Western way of life,this is what mothers doall the time❤
I live in India. I am a 62 year old grandmom and I can’t believe that Zarna is having this conversation with her kids and being so shocked about the situation. Her reaction is more like something I’d expect from my parents and they were way cooler than this!!!! I think people who immigrate are more conservative than the regular Indian in India. People in India would be amazed at zarna’s reaction.
Omg first of all, I love that you’re doing this so candidly. Many kids won’t have these conversations with their parents at all. But I must say that as a nyc school counselor i find it scary how sure kids today are about their assumptions on the effectiveness of contraception, the emotional weight of these decisions and even their assumptions that their partners are honest and/or even knowledgeable.
So true, my son told me when I tried to talk to him, 'Mom do you know what all is on the internet?". In other words, please do not talk to me about it, whether he was embarrassed or he had learned it all in sex ed by then.
Don’t do anything with a drunk person- is the most sensible statement I have heard from a teenager! So so relatable!! I have a 14 year old and was thinking I still have time- but after seeing this I realize I need to have a chat now! Love it!
So true - but Zarna being an older women, she needs to get educated and training from her daughter and her two sons. Specially the younger one is so wise. But not Zarna. She is trying to hide many things by not being honest in this video. I would give her a C- for her thinking. Her kids are super. She is blind about her husband even though honestly he said that he does smoke weed ( Mervana )
Your family is great! Very honest and real. I'm female, 64, not an immigrant. I hardly knew a thing growing up in the 70s. Todays kids are so much better off. Your kids are amazing. 💜
The mom is so funny I LOVE her, the daughter adds such a Gen Z aspect to the podcast i love the realism to this family dynamic with their entire family
Not preparing your daughter years ahead for the first period, being there as a friend and providing emotional and other support during the days?? You are exceptional. I give you an F. Was oblivious, in denial and authoritative - wants to give her own answers and give her own grades! The children are gems and Zoya is doing the real parenting here where needed. Shalab looks spaced out in more than one way.
That's obviously very mean from someone who probably didn't also grow up with parents who never talk about things like that. I didn't even told my mum when I got my period because everything genitals related was shameful. She said nothing when she found out. They're doing a better job then most American parents and they're setting those kids for academic success and success in life, unlike the typical western parent who wants to be their friend and hang around with them rather than parent. Yes, they're not perfect, but I would rather have them in society than some leftie parents who believe all it matters is that their kid is happy
I loved this! The conversation was interesting and hilarious (parents in denial about what was happening with teens at 16, the whole conversation about a parent telling Zoya the truth about Santa Claus). What a great family with a great sense of humor.
I am Indian, grew up in India, and every single one of my friends' moms (and some dads) and mine taught us about periods before we got it, and then helped us through our first couple of times. Not preparing your daughter and leaving her to her own devices is absolutely unusual
Thanks Zarna, we as parents today are definitely in unexplored territory when it comes to talking to our teens and pre-teens about the birds and the bees. Appreciate you opening up this conversation. Zoya is gorgeous, the boys are so well spoken and your husband is too adorable. ❤
I am so glad you had this conversation, they are so important! I have to say, I was born and raised on the east coast, and my mother never had a conversation with me about my period. When I got it in 8th grade (I started school young) I did everything on my own, (also pre-google, RU-vid, etc) acquired pads, tampons and learned on my own. My mother was and still is heartbroken by that, but I felt the lack of communication led me to do that, I just figured, ok I should do this. Not saying good or bad. Just my experience. Love you guys, keep up the great convos ❤
Being a brown kid in India, this is a hush-hush topic still in most households even in mine, thank you for spreading light and sharing such lovely opinions. I know how to deal with my children (when I have them) when it's time for the talk! Thanks, Zarna 💜
I'm a mom of 2 kids -21 & 16.....i do have conversations to them openly...though not comfortable with the whole biology and technicality. India is progressing too. But yes still growing
@@brijgarg9987Hey Brij, U and your siblings are So Cool....In a Good Way. And yes, credit for that definitely goes to your wonderful parents. Much love to you all.
Such an enjoyable podcast!!! I am so glad u did this episode!!! We brown parents shy away from having these important conversations with our children!!! Our parents did not have these talks with us!!! Thank u Zarna!!!
After listening to this podcast, I think it’s time for me to speak to my elder one who is 12 year old. Am glad I spoke to him about periods and what we women go through those days. Thank you Zarna.. you rock !!
The kids are fantastic. You are all great because you are honest and authentic. Your daughter is lucky youtube was available to teach her about her period, I didn't have that, but I had an older sister who had gone through it and friends that got it before I did, and they talked about it all the time --but my mom never told me anything about anything. Thank God for Judy Blume who wrote books for girls, her characters dealt with many of these topics. Love you guys!
The conversation started when my daughters' elementary school asked for parent's permissions (and yes, I read them) and consented to sex education in 5th grade. We, as a family, went to a seminar that talked about periods and growth so my daughters wouldn't ever have to feel even a tinge of shame or embarrassment (that I did, growing up in India) around menses. I adore you Zarna, because you are the essence of every immigrant parent raising an American child and I feel like you get it and make us feel like while we mess up, in so many ways, we can still laugh about it, together as a family. My daughters joke about me being that typical parent and I myself point out the Asian-ness in me, to keep the conversations lighter and open and never to shut the door on us 🙌
Loved this conversation, Auntie Zarna! I’m in my 20s and when I was growing up, asking questions about sexual health would lead to my parents questioning my character. I wish there was something like this I could show my parents and help them see that yes, these conversations are awkward but they are also important. Thank you!!
Hi Zarna, being an Indian mom of 10 year old girl, this was definitely something that I was scared of “When is the right time to talk to her”. Looking at how you talked about it with kids, I feel more comfortable now. These days kids are open to so much information right and wrong, it’s important to lead them to the right and help them process it. Appreciate your family doing this on camera so that the rest of us get an idea of our kids perspective as well. Love your family!!❤❤❤
This is actually SUCH a good open conversation! Moms like “no way”! The whole time! They didn’t talk about it back then, but it’s forgivable because they are talking about it now!
@@Randomest_Stories💁🏾♀️What she meant was that they were really laughing (‘died laughing’), hilariously…😅not passing away😮💨!!👌🏾 It turned out, well, because the sons shared with their friends and they came over to hear/learn, as well!!🤗
I am impressed how parents try to open their kids on the topic,we as Indians or Pakistanis barely talk to our kids. Good job Zarna.!! The young parents who are raising their kids in US must watch it. It will be great help for them.
Your daughter is absolutely awesome! reflects on you as parents too!She is so aware and mindful of your cultural background making life decisions for the younger siblings like a parent.so impressive!All of them are so responsible! Great podcast.will share it with my kids😊
As an Indian I can feel zarna mam that she is not ready to use words but at the same time she wants to understand what is happening in their lives about sex🤣😅
After watching this, I appreciate my parents even more for giving me all this information at the right time. (btw, we live in India - because somehow if you are India, it is fine to not have given this talk?) Periods needs to be discussed before the first cycle. I can not imagine the panic this poor girl felt when she started bleeding with absolutely no idea as to why it was happening. 🥲 Also the reason why sex talk is so very important, 1. You don't want a bunch of max level curiosity teenagers, going and exploring things without any prior knowledge. 2. Precaution - unplanned pregnancies and STDs. Also Zarna, let's start at the very basic of being able to say the words. Unplanned pregnancy! I am glad that you had this talk though. Step in the right direction. 💪🏽
I'm from India And have same as u 3 kids ...2 girls and one son U people hv done a great job by having a podcast like this on you tube Time has changed and we need to talk to our kids openly about it I too try to talk to my kids 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Meaningful conversation! I am with Zoya. We r family of 4, 2 tennage kids in Uk. We explained my daughter about periods , cared her during her 1st period. Explained to my son. My husband brought flowers, card , chocolates & put money in the card for my daughter. [ I was totally impressed by him , being a Indian man I never seen or heard of it anyone doing it].
I laughed my heart out when the Little one was asked did u feel that way in Florida as well... And he said i don't notice anything anywhere.... And the mom goes "except for people kissing each other in the park" 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@zoyagarg.. I think you are the best and I feel for you . I was in india when I started and my mom was embarrassed about the whole thing because I almost had a panic attack .. no u tubes back then 50 yrs ago .. thank god for the rudimentary knowledge I had from the boarding school I went to. Your honesty touched me .
@@zoyagarg Hey Zoya..U Rocked it..I appreciate All of U, the parents ofcourse and U kids too..Sweet, sensible, sensitive family..Do well in life..Huge God Bless.
Omg if my children can communicate like this so mature and eloquent when they grow up I will be the happiest mother .Bravo you guys did a great job raising amazing kids .
This is so relatable.. I am watching this with my two teenagers and they agree with everything with what kids are saying..Loved this conversation.. I have a kid like Brij and another one like Veer..The Gen Z and alpha comparison is so accurate!
Loved the whole episode! Maybe a great follow up would be healthy vs. unhealthy relationships. Beyond the sexual act and its consequences, there are young children in abusive relationships. How to handle the emotions of lust, love, chemistry, attraction. What to do when in an unsafe position. How to be a good boyfriend/girlfriend.
Coming from a central Asian country with strict parents, I can definitely tell that the fact that you let your kids talk about this, and that you hear them out and that all the family members are included in this conversation, it is definitively healthy. I mean we all make mistakes both as kids and as parents, but like the fact that you’re open minded enough to sit and talk about it, is very important. I really wish I could be as open with my parents as your kids are, I think they’re very lucky and they have cool parents, so kids, appreciate your parents, trust me they’re genuinely cool.
I was kinda sad hearing about your daughter and her experience with getting her first period. I'm trying to teach my boys....that girls bleed and how it effects them, etc. Well my younger one knows from always following me to the bathroom and announcing to people, mommy also wears a diaper. 🙈🙈🙈 but i like this new concept for your show. Will definitely be talking to my boys soon. This is sooooo needed in desi household!!!! Glad your kids agreed to do this segment with you guys.
Alright I'm an indian, I'm Zoya's age and I TOO have two brothers and this is how my parents and brothers react and talk when we are having any discussion. This is too relatable and good. I totally love Zoya she's amazing
I enjoyed listening to all of you. When we moved to USA our son went to high school. Everyone in India had scared us of our son will get spoilt. I had to talk to my son about everything and safety was the first thing I told him about. It is wrong that Dad shdnt have to tell daughter because being a mom I had explained to my son. I loved the openness with your children, you have raised them good.
The period thing was true. Its like huge trauma , for a teen. Talking with young girls is important. Now first period is arriving earlier. Guys a great job with the discussion. Loved it.
Thank you for having this conversation. As an immigrant parent it’s hard to have these discussions with my kids totally understand where the parents are coming from and appreciate the kids honest. ❤
As an Indian teenagers we are not open about these kind of topics. Like we should but society would not appreciate us at all. For us having sex before marriage is like commiting a crime. We think that Spiritual love is more important. Modern generations are more encouraged towards sex rather than true love. We Indian take loyalty and love very seriously. Even there was that One video which says that Indian moms do not say directly I love you to their kids. Oh well yes cause our moms do that with their affection and care, without actually telling us that she loves us.
My wife made me watch this, loved it in first go, watched other 2 episodes as well, subscribed as well. Please keep making such videos with your family. All 3 kids are a very smart and contribute to the discussion in a way which matters.
The episode was good , but zarna should’ve been there with her daughter through her first period . No matter what she says that was very irresponsible of her as a mother , because there are a lot of changes happening in your body and you don’t understand any of it , on the other hand rather than saying sorry she just pushed it on her husband. Well I’m raised in India and let me tell you Indian mothers are there with you through your periods , pregnancy etc . And They are very concerned and helpful about it.
Very glad to hear your kids talk about consent. It is such a landmine topic. I am happy to hear your son talk about it in more black and white terms as this is the one that can be twisted against them easily.
Dad needs to get educated about HIV, and it’s not only same sex couples, also that’s NOT how it started. Love that they are talking, that is so important.
The kids are all so adorable you got to be so proud. It's enlightening to hear their experiences. I am jealous about not being able to have this type of open conversation with kids
I recently heard in one channel that I girl wrote a letter to her parents saying that she is bleeding and she doubted its a cancer and committed suicide coz of shame or poverty. It was just her first period. If her own people were explaining her about periods (MC) , everything would have been fine. God bless Zarna and family. Love to you all. From London.
Ok I'm a 30 plus woman who grew up in India and my mom explained menstruation to me, helped me with my first period. This was very shocking towards the end. But love the honesty abs the coming together of you family❤ looking forward to more of this stuff
Same. I grew up in India and my mom spoke to me about it too and at school we had counselors who spoke to us about sex. There are parts of India where things have improved.
I can relate to everyone's shock on how much veer knows already. I have a 10 year old and I was also shocked knowing things she is being exposed to in school. Kudos to you and your family for bringing out these topics. It is a conversation a family should have. PS I will give you and Shalabh A+ in parenting as your kids are comfortable and honest with you guys. They want to share with you guys and have a conversation.
I was not surprised at all to hear what Veer knew. I guess things were different were I grew up but these experiences were happening around me in the late 80's/early 90's. I had friends with boyfriends in the 4th grade and my own first boyfriend was in 5th grade (holding hands, went to a school dance, etc). My 1st kiss was with my 3rd boyfriend... In 7th grade (he was in 9th grade). Because of this, I started having talks *very* early with my own children (age 8, starting with very basic information).
I really enjoyed this discussion as someone who is in early 20s and I never got any kinda sex talk or even a mention of sex growing up. I feel like it would be cool to bring on a professional to ask questions from about all these things because you as an influencer/comedian has a good reach to your audience.
@@ZarnaGarg That's an awesome way to look at it.. Indeed , Spreading smiles and laugher IS God's work because God definitely wants us all to be Happy and Joyous.. Cheerio
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I have 2 daughters now in their 30's. When they had sex education in school I used that to open the door to discussion about menstruation and sex. It wasn't always easy but I wanted my girls to know they could talk to me about everything because my parents did not talk about these things. Kids learn alot about sex in school but they don't always understand what they hear so a parent can help clarify things for them and at the same time explain the consequences of having sex too early or for the wrong reason.
This is by far the most entertaining podcast episode I've ever heard. Zarna's "no" to everything was awesome People are kissing in 5th grade - no. Teens are getting free condoms in school- no. 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅 too fun t
You are killing it Zarna! This was such a relatable talk amidst all the humor. I kept wondering it was so organic, natural and honest and refused to believe you guys may have rehearsed some of it!
Ok listen zarna aunty ,I am from India ,I am currently 16 ,when I was 13 I got my first time period and my mother helped me a lot ,she even taught me how to wear the pad ( with the help of cardboard) and also explained the whole science behind it .And the most important thing to be noted is that I belong to a very typical Maharashtrian family ,despite of that she taught me guided me throughout and you being in newyork in a way more modern culture just sent a RU-vid video to your daughter 😢😢 But at the same time I appreciate the way u developed understandings in your kids
This was AMAZING! I applaud the fact that you had this conversation (not always an easy subject to bring up) and your kids were open and honest about their views on sex, how they learned about it, what their perspective is now, and when they first were aware of what it all means. You are doing a GREAT job raising them, and they are smart and know that if they don't get what they need/feel they are missing info from you (& uncomfortable asking you directly), they can Google it and/or ask their peers. I told our daughter about how puppies and kittens were made when she was very young (probably 5) and just let it sink in. As she was older, she had sex education in school and learned more. I'm grateful that you spoke about STDs and birth control! Obviously, elementary schools have been providing this information for the past 50+ years. I am 65 and I had it in elementary school here in California. You and your husband offer insight to your perspective not only as parents, but also of your culture, and it is a wonderful opportunity to see and here all that you bring to these episodes. Your children have incredible insight and the discussions you facilitate provide a much missing conversation in society. You are refreshing! You keep the focus on the topic when it starts to vere off center, and you have humor and grace. I love that you appreciate that what your perspective is as a mother may not be the perspective your husband has, or that your children may have. Zarna, you bring such incredible joy with these episodes! I look forward to seeing you this Sunday when you open for Tina Fey & Amy Poehler. Finding you on RU-vid is a great gift! Thank you for your honesty and humor!
This is a wonderful podcast! As a first generation Canadian ( now very old) experienced both aspects as presented by this family: some information, cultural values, and shame or holding back. My mom wanted to change out what she did not receive yet gave a twisted version of what was okay. That said, what I truly delighted in was just the fact that this family sit together to talk, how well they communicate and that the love between them is palpable. Thank you so much for sharing!
I loved this conversation. Especially when your daughter said you never talked to us about sex 🤣🤣🤣. But very decent talk it was. All families should have this talk. Also, your husband’s voice is so soothing. He should do a podcast!!!! And you’re a super mom!!!!
Ok. First off, i am so happy to be here and listen in on brown families having these conversations. 5mins in, instant regret. This is exactly how “conversations” go with parents. And i am approaching 40. Nothing has changed. Zarna is trying to control the conversation so much and you can see the boys’ body language shift as they recognise it is not a safe space to talk. All this does is reinforce the message that: “i as a parent will now allow my kids to be their own person. They are not allowed to have real life experiences and i won’t respect them for it.” It’s completely invalidating. i am anxiety-ridden watching this. Only half way through and i can’t take it. Here’s why i am still here: inter generational conversations are important. Zarna, all your emotions/concerns/fears are valid and carrying the responsibility of the episode on your shoulders is a massive mental load. You would have benefited from a facilitator running the discussion. Let’s see what happens in the second half.
I could literally imagine my mom sitting there and saying the same things , reacting to the way how the generation thinks right now. 😅😅😅 Love from Bangladesh🥰🥰🥰 , hats off to you for raising such a topic including your kids in the podcast, much needed conversation. your raised good children though.
