Thank you for this breakdown. This show is brilliant for how well it portrays mental illness and trauma bonds. I'm not sure if people who watch are catching all the small nuances.
Perhaps there should be a huge portion of the money, from piers Morgans show money, and Netflix, that goes to charity to help 0eople like Martha aswell as donny.
I am grateful for these types of analyses that I am seeing from capable professionals like yourself, because they have helped me understand and continue to forgive myself for falling into situations and toxic relationships like the one pictured in Baby Reindeer. I was very much like Donny when I was in my late teens and early 20s and have always felt immense guilt for, just like Donny/Richard, not stopping the men that harassed me, not being able to be assertive in these situations and actually feeling better about myself because “at least someone wanted me.” As the years went on I realized how little I thought of myself because of my upbringing and how low my self esteem and self confidence was and often still is. I just didn’t have the tools to see how I was being self destructive and how to stop this. Reading peoples comments online I realize how if you’ve never been through this its very hard for people to understand how you can fall into these types of relationships and that yes, you are a victim and you need to learn to forgive yourself and love yourself first and foremost to be able to move on. I loved your video and will follow for more content.
I like watching your videos. However, I find the crackling screen switch audio and the bell notification audio unnecessary and a little irritating. I wonder is that just a me issue 😆. Thank you for the insight into Baby Reindeer.
The background music, the bell, the split screen, all so so aggravating! I wont watch another one if all are like this, yet the analysis is very very good. What a shame.
Thanks for sharing. I would love to hear more on trauma bonding, it was a bit brief compared to some of the labels. Also Donny’s sense of self which is reliant on Martha’s delusions. Please could you do a video on detaching from this and creating one’s own sense of self as an individual. Core belief shifting, and what steps you would recommend in achieving self acceptance. I would also like to ask with Martha having narcissism is it even possible for her to change if she got the help? And be a genuine person. Thanks again for reading and sharing this video
You have a very helpful way of introducing all these concepts and mental health conditions in a simple, easily-understandable way, with helpful words flashing on the screen as well. A good way of presenting. Keep up the good work! And thanks for the helpful info.
This was a brilliant analysis of this series. In the end i think the dynamic was Donny gets attention from Martha and feels good but creeped out by how obsessive Martha can be while Martha has a delusion that their level of emotional connection is much higher than what realistically is and she goes to extreme lengths to affirm that delusion, when that delusion is shattered then abusive behavior is imminent.
the crackling screen audio and light is definitely unpleasant, please change it! the bell is distracting BUT the analysis is good! Just needs a little professional touch up! Thanks!
Because of my work I have learned very much of bodylanguage. So for me I just looked and I saw one thing that I have seen before on others. It is a shutdown, falling asleep, eyes closed, just for a moment and then they wake up and tries to orient themselves. Kind of pushing others away, or themselves. And an other thing is - if they are in a different personality they remember reality as a dream. Multipel personalities 4 or 6.
I am fascinated by the series. First because exactly what you said at the end, it is not often you see men as victims. Second and although I agree with all you see from the mental health point of you, to me it also shows so clearly that such type of encounters can even go through a very toxic relation lead to healing. In the series we can clearly see that Martha steers the man into the way of his confrontation, liberation and eventually healing of this trauma however in a very brut force way. I am sure Martha somehow went through a transformation due to this interaction but not depicted in the series. This is an example on how we can only heal in relation with others and seeing them as mirrors. In some cases more gentle in some others more confronting even almost re traumatizing ways, but only the universe knows that was the most adequate and maybe the only way possible for him to resolve his life. I think the confusion we feel in seeing the series is exactly that one….
En mi opinión, la serie refleja con eficacia el tema del acoso, y también del abuso sexual en un hombre joven, con una personalidad fisurada y muy dependiente de la opinión de otros, tal como lo representan. Es interesante remarcar que el hecho traumático puede prosperar decididamente allí donde no hay capacidad para la resiliencia, lo que facilita el desarrollo de trastornos mentales y conductas repetitivas dañinas para el individuo y su entorno. Gracias por su claro análisis. Saludos desde Mallorca.
So how are we not going to flesh out Martha's life, and the reason why shes the way she is; just like they did Donny's life. I don't believe its anything other than: Lonliness and OCD on Martha's part, which is rooted in fear. Sounds like she was trying to help his self-loathing and depression; also sounds like both have childhood trauma s they both need to work on with a trained therapist to help them unpack.
I think we have to stop and leve this woman alone. She is definitely mentally unwell and we shouldn't be making entertainment out of her condition, that is with the real Martha, Fiona Harvey. It's a disaster....I think normal people sometimes say 'Don't you dare''. I don't think we should make a blanket judgement based solely on language.
Brillon should NOT be presenting ANY CLINICAL OPINION on individuals he has never met. Just because you can comment, Brillon, doesn't mean you should. You know very well that your opinion as a therapist has influence with the public. You also know that your qualifying and disclaimer statements (CYA) means nothing to your audience. It's as ineffective as a judge telling the jury to disregard what a witness has said that the jury just heard. As a licensed therapist your ethical standards are much higher than movie creators and the general public. You are being sneaky when you state you can't diagnose a person that you have not met, then spend the rest of your video discussing Martha, and describing the behavior of those with specific diagnoses. Talk about, "attention seeking." Shame on you.
He is commenting on things that could be happening. He clearly said in the beginning he can't diagnosis anyone without meeting them. Do you know they test psychology students with video studies of people with disorders and try to find out what may be going on , as your test in class? Those students never meet these people, this is how we learn, by seeing clear examples of people with mental health issues.
@@amandar.9872 The identity of the person on video is never revealed AND the person gave written consent. This is not the case with Fiona Harvey. What this " licensed peofessional," has done and continues to do, is unethical. All the disclaimers and qualifying statements will not mitigate the damage he does. A bell can't be unsung. There are many ways to educate the public on mental conditions; publicly commenting on an actual person, as a "qualified," mental health professional, is never acceptable. It's unethical.
