Therapist Explains Virginia Satir’s 5 Communication Stances! 

Gurl you are dope and getting me successfully through my couples class!🙄🤷🏽‍♀️🥰

Current clinical mental health counseling student here to say thank you for this video! :)

I feel like my POV as someone who is definitely working on improving on a Placator stance is being driven more by craving validation rather than someone making a decision for them. I have time and time again placed my emotions beneath my friends and family and now that I've finally felt like I can be independent (well just got married) and make decisions based on MY interests first, I feel extreme guilt. Like I'm disappointing my friends and family by not making myself physically or emotionally available. And now they won't be proud of me or they will no longer want me around because I no longer meet their expectations. I feel like I am very slowly growing out of this thanks to the support of my partner and best friend through emotional intimacy. But it does make me realize how some of my other long term friendship are going to have to change since I just can't be an emotion battery for others anymore. I am at the point where I no longer have shared my honest feelings with some people and it's creating distance that I did not intend to set. Cheers to personal growth in 2023 😅

Just subscribed. I love your explanations a lot.

Thank you so much! I really needed this!

Hi Steph! I stumbled across your RU-vid page doing an assignment. I see that your focus in in marriage and family therapy but was curious if you do any 1:1 life coaching sessions?

So helpful!! Thank you

Can you do a video on how to learn to deal with emotional responses?

Hi Steph Anya! I love when you talk about communication styles and tips. I find it useful in multiple areas in life. Thanks!

How do you help a placator and a computer in an intimate relationship together. Strong in most areas, weak in the communication department and that spills over into not having love languages met?

Omg in the laughing situation at the end my first response was "drop everything and leave. Run boi run, :/"

I’m think I’m a Placator. I can’t stand it, but when the communication is difficult I do this soo that we can move on

Do you actually take couples therapy bookings? cause your approach seems amazing!

ps. Gorgeous eye makeup :D

Love the video But the music in the background was kinda distracting

How do you handle a placator and a computer in a relationship together? Strong in a lot of areas, but struggle in the communication department.

I think I am a Distractor but I don't mean to. I'm trying to catch myself now if I start switching topics.

This made me realize that I'm a blamer (not always, but def still in times of extreme emotion or conflict), I've never made the link between doing that and my feelings of deficiency but it makes so much sense now

Thank you for this! Virginia Satir is the reason I am becoming a MFT! I love everything that she did and her teachings and trainings were ahead of their time!

Please create a video on Virginia Satir’s theory.

1: that music is super annoying! What is the advantage in creating an extra level of audio? 2. there is no „one“ healthy communication stance out of the five. An equal balance is considered „healthy“. Congruency, awareness and consent are supportive communication and enable grown in the interaction. Each communication stance has a value. Serves a purpose. You have to find the purpose and then check the action/reaction value. And lastly: this is tinted very stereotypical American. There is more in this world.

Great Introduction and Overview of this topic! Thank you!

can you give a congruent communication style example pls

Congruent Communicator 9 min mark Holding Hands Keeps you from Pointing or Begging Truely Understand What do i hear and see What are the meanings of what i am hearing and seeing? What did i see What Did i hear and What feelings do i have during this? Your frustrated with yourself for still allowing your partner to not show up for you.

I'm the Superreasonable... I see the Flaw in it...

Great info. Wanted to stay till the end for the info. Music is annoying. Thank you.

Great contents, but I have a hard time focussing on what you say because of the music loop.

Love your video but the music is very distracting.

off topic but this make-up look is beautiful!!

Thank you Steph I Enjoy listening to most of your topic. It is very useful in my daily life. Thanks.

Oh my God, I wish I could like this a million times 😭😭😍😍😍

Awesome Video Steph!!

Hi steph! I have been binge watching your videos lately because I’ve been working with a lot of couples or individuals that want to work on their marriage although their spouse is not willing to try therapy. How can we help in those cases where only one person is really wanting to make changes in the marriage? I get that they can only control their response and not their partners but how can they then help their marriage? I’ve been giving them communication skills but the other person isn’t really even willing to try something new or address the issues.

Thank you Anya! God bless you and your family!!

I would love a video on how diffrent mental health conditions effect relationships!

Great vid as usual! I would also love to hear about Satir's human growth model. If you have and experiential family therapy vids that would be great. Thank you.

Inspiring.. Future Therapist

Hearing you bring up Satir makes me think about how I need to refresh my mind with the models! Lol! Personally I like the Narrative blended with SFBT approach. Great video!

Communication is key lets not forget which one is iimportant.............

Love your passion for the subject!!

Can you please make videos on popular diagnosis from the DSM that we may see on the test?

Steph, can you do a video on Satir's model?

This was good. I’m definitely a super reasonable person. I’ll try to work on that

Soooooo I’m a computer……..got it thank you for this ❤

Love this!!! All your information in videos has been super helpful.

very good analysis steph.

I was with you all the way til you said holding hands. Idk why it makes me uncomfortable

Placator tendencies. 100%🥲

Thank you for this video! I was trying to understand and apply Satir's communications approach to a case study!