Therapist Reacts: BIG HERO SIX and Grief 

"If you avoid caring to avoid hurting, you also avoid healing." God that's a great line.

I never realized Baymax's voice softened and mildly broke when he asked at the end "Are you satisfied with your care?" This hurts

I just now realized that tadashi's last words were "someone has to help"

It's amazing how much emotion they managed to get on Baymax's face despite his expression being either •-• or - - -

I will always love this for the fact that Tadashi programed baymax in a way where if Baymax doesn't have the tools to help a patient he will actively seek out information to allow him to do so.

I also want to point out that they were raised by their aunt, meaning they had already lost their parents. So losing Tadashi probably had that much more impact.

I love the double meaning of bamax's first statement after having the doctor chip reinserted on the island: "my Healthcare protocol has been violated." I think that violated is the perfect word here because it is used in very matter of fact, near clinical connotations like when talking about legal contracts or device warranties, but can also be deeply personal and intimate. On the surface, a piece of software was forcibly shut down without the proper procedure. But more than that, Hiro violated Bamax in his anger, disrespecting Tadashi and his creation. Hiro took what made Bamax what it is, the closest thing Bamax has to a soul, and tore it out to leave the empty chassis as a killing machine. I love lines with deeper meanings like that

I completed sobbed after watching this. I lost my niece 1 month ago, my mom 6 months ago, my brother 2 years ago and my father 5 years ago. I've pushed all of it to the side and I see that now. I've been trying to find the light, get help and this video has helped me heal just a little. Thank you.

"Are you okay?" "No, I'm crying over a kid's relationship with his marshmallow robot."😭 Big Hero 6 is so underrated. Also Fallout Boy killed it with Immortals

"This is a very not subtle metaphor for Tadashi raising his brother." How. Did. I. Miss. That.

Big Hero 6 always hit me the hardest of all movies, because my mother died when I was around Hiro's age because she threw herself in front of a car to shove an old woman to safety. I remember feeling so distraught and blamed myself for all of it. What if I hadn't been elsewhere, and was at her side to stop her? What if? What if? What if? I was a child. I couldn't see the future. I think it's inherent to grief to give the agony of it a meaning. Of course it had to be my fault, why else would it hurt? But there is no reason it happened. My mother was only 40, she would have had double that if she had survived. The driver was drunk and full of hate in a massive truck, someone could've helped him before he took my mother away. So much could have happened to change this. But it happened like it had, and everyone has to move on. And I have, for the most part. It was over 15 years ago, I'm an adult now. I can realize it wasn't ever my fault. It wasn't that old woman's either. The blame rests entirely on the man who decided he needed to run someone over at a wedding. I have my mother's ashes. I've been everywhere in this country, from Seattle to Miami, and I've always had her heart-shaped metal urn with me. The box has kept her chocolatey-smokey smell for all 15 of those years. She can't hug me and wipe away my tears, but I can still hug her. I still have her photo. I still know her name. Grief feels like the end of the world. Maybe it always will. But you will grow, and that would make your lost loved one happier than anything else in the world.

24:14 Anyone else notice that as the emotional music builds baymaxs voice becomes less and less robotic and more atune to his brothers... Ow. This pain was a 10.

I've heard that in anime, when a character is "happy crying" the tears fall from the outside corners of the eyes and sad crying has the tears fall from the inside corners. It took me a while to figure out why that works, but if someone is crying with their head bowed, the tears fall from the inside, and if they're crying with their face uplifted, tears fall to the outside.

I love how each of Tadashi's friends act as big siblings towards Hiro, even though he's not physically present any more. Gogo calls out Hiro when he's being stupid, Wasabi encourages him to be less reckless, Honey Lemon is the most caring, Fred encourages him to be passionate about science, and Baymax is a last reminder of Tadashi's passions. Friends are family.

"Every time you feel anger, it's actually something else in disguise" That hits hard, for sure. My mom has told me all my life "anger is the second emotion", too

This is only tangentially related, but I was diagnosed with a disabling autoimmune disease seven years ago. My best friend was across the country, working at Disney World at the time. She sent me a stuffed Beymax, with the note, "Now you have your own personal healthcare companion." He helped me through a very difficult career change, and a very difficult transition into being disabled from able-bodied. To this day, he sits on a dresser, and every time I see him, I think of how much love and support I have, and how it's possible to find happiness, even after something devastating happens.

I love how Baymax says "My healthcare programming has been violated." Because Scott Adist delivers it in Baymax's quasi-emotionless voice, it has this factual aspect that makes it hit harder. Baymax was violated. Tadashi's legacy was violated. This isn't an opinion. This is a fact. And yet it has just enough emotion, especially combined with the others recoiled with him, that we can see that Baymax - who's still learning emotions - is deeply hurt by this, which sets up Baymax refusing to open his port later.

It's interesting that the "fade to white" can mean exactly what Alan said... going to the light. But in Japan, white is the colour related to death and funerals, which may as well be a clear cut of "Tadashi is dead".

Also the fact that in the last scene when Baymax told Hiro to say he was satisfied with his care, Hiro cycles through all the stages of grief in the span of a minute or two... so beautiful and symbolic

19:40 absolutely love the detail of Tadashi mouthing the lines

Alan: “Thanks, people on the spectrum.” Me: *rewinds to hear that again because we get so little appreciation irl*

Also, just wanted to point out that when Tadashi says “people need you”, or “you’re going to help so many people” - he’s not just talking to Hiro, he’s talking/looking into the camera and to the audience, telling someone out there who needs to hear that they are important to this world. Powerful, subtle, and so good.

At 14:55 I’m shocked you left that moment at just ‘oh Callahan, we hate you’. Callahan and Hiro are in the same emotional place in this scene, lashing out in anger and vengeance in response to their respective losses, collateral damage be damned. Hiro didn’t react to Baymax hurting and scaring his friends at all, he was too focused on vengeance on Callahan, just like Callahan didn’t care that Tadashi died trying to save him, he was too focused on vengeance on Clay. This scene set up a fantastic parallel between our protagonist and antagonist, and by Hiro’s later moments of major growth and emotional impact, we see the difference right there that the support network Hiro had made. Callahan wasn’t seen to be supported by anyone, he stayed in that dark place; Hiro’s friends helped to pull him out of that dark place.

One of the things I love about this movie is that Baymax is always literal. Lines like "I see you have fallen" can be interpreted both in the literal that Hiro fell down, but also that he's fallen mentally as a result of Tadashi's death. "Tadashi is here" is literally "Tadashi has recordings here in my chest" but we hear that and think "oh the people we've lost are always with us", same thing with "I will always be with you". Baymax is a robot in the very traditional sense, he is just programming no emotion whatsoever, but his design, calming voice, and our own interpretations of his literal words create this much more human character.

The quote that is the only reason I'm still here after loosing my dad almost 3 years ago is "He wouldn't want his legacy to be that his death destroyed me." It's still a struggle everyday.

There's a strange sort of comfort in staying in your depression. It's unhealthy and you know it's unhealthy, but it just feels so much safer than trying to heal or change. There's safety in the sadness, and it's really difficult to get out of that space

9:12 as someone on the spectrum this means a lot. We can’t always see the social cues but we see that you’re hurting and we just want to help.

There's this thing going around about how, during the Baymax test sequence scene, Tadashi is not only speaking to Baymax and Hiro, but also to us, the audience. Personally, Tadashi's line "I'm not giving up on you. You don't understand this yet, but people need you, so let's get back to work" has stuck with me ever since I first saw this movie in theaters, I even have it downloaded as an mp3, and whenever my depression hits, or I just need to hear Tadashi's voice, I play the sound clip. It's helped me so much.

This is the most underrated Disney movie. No death hurt me as much as Tadashi & watching Hiro have to work through his grief & depression really resonated with me since I lost my father. This is the best movie to show how to work through those hard emotions.

15:13 When Bamax says, "This is not what..." it's implied that he would say "... I was programmed to do", but when I heard it, I instead thought of how it sounded like he was going to say "This is not what Tadashi would have wanted". It hits a whole lot different when you think of it like that.

I am starting therapy on Monday after years of being an ostrich and choosing not to feel anything in order to not be hurt again. I'm very nervous but I know its the right first step. This episode really got me!

"The more you care, the more you can hurt. And to an extent, it feel like if life has no meaning, then at least it doesn't hurt. If you avoid caring to avoid hurting, then you also avoid healing." This will always remain in my heart. Amazing words

Another nice thing is Professor Callahan is a foil to Hiro's grief. He's an example of what happens when you don't deal with grief in a healthy way. Callahan becomes withdrawn, bitter, and obsessed. He blames everyone because he blames himself for not protecting his daughter. He is stuck in permanent anger and bargaining. Though his bargains are all one sides "you took her from me so now you must pay" bargains. He never accepted the fact that his daughter knew the risks and willingly went forward. He never let go of his own agency within that decision and never accepted that he couldn't have done anything to stop her. Where Hiro eventually learns that Tadashi would've gone in no matter what. He wanted to help people in need above all else. Eventually Hiro accepts that fact and begins to cherish the happy memories he and his brother had instead of wallow in the sadness that he won't be making any new ones with him.

I feel like the five stages of grief should really be called the five expressions of grief, because "stages" makes it seem like a process you go through and suggests an order, but there really is no order in how you express your grief.

Oh my God I don't know why I didn't realize Baymax's chip is on the left side of his chest where the human heart is located. Baymax's chip is a representation of Tadashi's caring heart!

As someone on the spectrum: we know what hurting looks like and we know we all have different needs when we are hurting. I think people on the spectrum are a great blank canvas, we don’t assume what you need, we don’t tell you to just cheer up, and we don’t ignore you because that’s easier than dealing with your feelings. One of the biggest misconceptions is that we lack empathy and that’s one of the most wrong and hurtful things I’ve ever heard about because we absolutely do have empathy and A LOT of it, it’s just looks different. For example I have learned that my boyfriend needs distractions, and my best friend needs silence. So I adapt my approach based on the person who is grieving and i make it all about the person and not about myself, except i feel like relating to the person could help.

"Sometimes we need the clean happy ending that we'll never get in life." OUCH. That's why they're painful too, though. The end of Encanto struck *particularly* hard with Mirabel's whole family telling her "We see how bright you burn, we see how brave you've been." They see her and her accomplishments and understand and respect her. My family will *never* say anything like that to me. Ever. So... I love that Mirabel's family finally recognizes her for the strong person she is... but it also hurts to know I'll never have that.

"My healthcare directive has been violated" is a line that still hits me in the chest - Baymax isn't just a robot, he's a member of the family, and the idea that someone could just overwrite you if they disagree with you is terrifying.

At 4:59, that's the scene my dad worked on!! It's really cool to see people reacting to the animation my dad worked on.

What I interpreted in the part where baymax stay behind is that, Hiro finally is letting go of Tadashi. That he's ready to move on and create his own baymax with Tadashi still in his heart.

You all got me good with this one. When Jon mentioned keeping his father’s voicemails, I went and looked for voicemails on my phone from my Mom who died two years ago this week. I found three voicemails. The first two made me smile, random messages about stopping at Walgreens, could I pick something up, etc. In the third one I heard her say my name, and then it hit me that I hadn’t heard her voice say my name in two years. Then I was on floor in a ball, ugly crying hard. I guess I had more grief to expound emotionally than I knew, so I thank you all for that. Better out than in, as Mom used to say. ❤

"Why do we want to be depressed?" It turns out that depression is, in part, a physiological phenomenon, not a purely psychological one. It's not just a chemical imbalance, it's actually an illness response. When you're depressed, you want to be alone, you want to rest, you don't want to go out into the world and do things and meet people. This is the same thing that your body does when it detects an infection, because your body knows on an instinctive level that when you are infected, you need rest so your body can direct energy towards repairing itself) and isolation (so you don't expose anybody you care about to whatever you have). Depression is, in part, the body's response to detecting an infectious disease. Even if there is no disease, the symptoms the body uses to detect one may still be present, and can often be brought on by poor physical health. One of the first, best steps to fighting depression is improving physical health. Get more rest, drink more water, eat healthier foods, and step outside for some fresh air. Or as another fictional character we saw deal with grief told us: "To train the mind, you must first train the body."

i love that baymax is entirely devoid of humanity and is never anything else even when hes like "tadashi is here" and "i will always be with you" hes just being completely literal

15:43 you could say that all Hiro is seeing is red? Because of the lighting in that moment, it was red.

"There are people who are gonna love you back to life, and they're not going to take no for an answer. Thanks, people on the spectrum." That really hit home for me. I had a devastating break-up during the height of Covid with my life partner of 14 years, and my beautiful, wonderful, socially clueless friends on the spectrum were the best thing that could possibly have happened to me at that point. No matter how much i wanted to, they absolutely refused to let me crawl into myself and never come out. They were insistent that I was going to *live* again, and damn it if they didn't succeed. Love your spectrum friends, people - they're sometimes odd, but they can be the most amazing, huge-hearted humans out there.

I'm crying because of the movie scene and then Jonathan says: "It'll be allright. There, there." and then Alan says: "I'm satisfied with my care." Now I don't know whether to keep crying or start laughing.

It's insane how much emotion and intent they were able to put behind the seemingly cold expression of Baymax. His face never moves and you can still tell exactly what he's trying to convey through the subtle vocal delivery and mannerisms.

One thing I love about Baymax is everything he says is literal because he is a robot. When he says Tadashi is here, he is talking about a series of recordings of Tadashi, and when he says I will always be with you he is talking about the chip with all his memories and programming.

I love the parallel that Tadashi risks his life because he needs to help, and by the end of the movie Hiro also risks his life to save someone, he has to help.

Those fades to white.... yeah. It just feels so much like the static of being overwhelmed by everything. It's not even the darkness of depression, it's a mute blankness of just too much.

I currently just “lost” a friend, they didn’t pass away, but they are no longer in my life anymore, and even though they aren’t completely gone, I found myself going through the stages of grief, so thank you for this video, this helped give me the final push into acceptance

During 22:08 and his response at first is “yes- no- I don’t know!” I wanted to mention (from personal experience and opinion) this is the logical side of his brain and emotional side fighting over which side is correct because Hiiro knows that killing the professor is wrong but he’s also driven by emotion that he wants the professor to suffer just something I wanted to mention because I did that a lot as well 😂

This film is so underrated, Hiro is such a good main character.

It’s pretty rare for me to comment on videos, but I wanted to thank you for talking about the power of technology for keeping someone’s memory alive. It prompted me to go back through old voicemails and recordings. I had one voicemail left from my mom, and a recording of my dad telling a story. They brought up a lot of emotions for me, and it was exactly what I needed. Thank you for sharing your experience so openly; it really helped.

This movie always made me emotional and since English isn't my first language, I have only watched it in my mother language, and the phrase "I am satisfied with my care" was changed to "I feel better". And the last scene with Baymax and Hiro, when he says "I will always be with you" and they hug, after that Hiro says "I feel much better now" and that never failed to make me cry. The movie had always been my favorite and after losing a friend I had, it is held even more dear to me because of how similar my process is with Hiro's. It still hurts, it was a pretty recent loss, and I'm sure it will keep hurting for a very very long time, but I feel better now, and this movie always helps me out when I need that comfort, along with watching some more Cinema Therapy, of course : D

@26:12 I find it ironic that Jonathan is wearing red like beta max!

That moment, when Baymax says, "I will always be with you." His voice changed ever so slightly, making it feel like he was Tadashi saying that.

From someone who experienced depression, the best way I can explain Why people want to stay depressed is because depression is a comfortable misery. After all, you can't be let down if you expect the worst out of life. Even if you try to heal there is always that fear that tells you: What if it gets worst? and that is why you always need that friend who ignore all the social clues and take you to do fun activities against your will.

I've just sent both of my Labradors into a frenzy because I cried so hard at this. They're both desperately trying to offer me their toys to cheer me up.

I don't know why I'm commenting on a year-old video, but I just wanted to say that the "imagine the person in the room with you" thing works for a lot more than grief. I have depression, and I have physical contact with friends VERY rarely, and when I'm most alone it's very easy for me to get into panic spirals. And every time, I get out of them by picturing someone- usually a fictional character, which probably isn't ideal, but it works- and what they'd say to me. And because I'm externalizing the solution to someone I can pretend is separate, I can let myself acknowledge what I need to do to get better.

You can meet the Baymax character at Epcot in Orlando. When you hug him, he feels exactly how you think he would. That's what makes the animation so amazing, they did an impeccable job with texture.

I got diagnosed w ASD this year and seeing the "symptoms" and getting that verbal "thanks people on the spectrum" really feels good. consoling people is difficult but helping people is rewarding :')

One of my favorite things about this movie is how much detail there is in it. This movie isn’t actively hyper realistic but the amount of detail that they include into the movements and human actions are the most incredible part and they raise the scale of realistic portrayal. Things like -Hiro swallowing after he screams tadashis gone -Hiro rubbing the lamp when he’s uncomfortable talking about tadashi with Baymax -baymaxes head moving ever so slightly when he talks And like they said the small detail of things like tears in the waterline. All of these things make the movie FEEL real and you don’t have to rely on the movie LOOKING real. It’s almost like if it FEELS real it glosses over things having to LOOK real.

To me the second fade to white after the EXTERNAL explosion signifies the realization of what Hero just lost and the INTERNAL explosion that comes with it.

"anger is always masking something else" God that hit me hard and makes so much sense to me.

I love the symbolism of Hiro taking out Baymax's healthcare chip (analogous to Hiro's compassion) and just leaving his fighter chip there (analagous to Hiro's anger and hatred) soon after he realized Callahan indirectly killed Tadashi, and how his closest friend got hurt trying to stop Baymax from just completely obliterating Callahan, which I think is a representation of how anger resulting from grief _can_ sometimes lead you to unintentionally hurting the people that are trying to help you if not managed properly.

One thing you guys didn’t show a clip of was the moment Hiro echoed Tadashi’s last words, “Someone has to help.” You mentioned early on in the video about Hiro not knowing who he is and I feel like that’s such a powerful moment in his character progression. This movie completely destroyed me emotionally though, I feel like I was the only one who didn’t know what was going to happen to Tadashi. Getting blindsided like that was devastating

As someone who lost their brother suddenly, I can really relate to the main character. But instead of pushing people away I couldn't be alone with myself, the pain was too much alone and with people, I could push it back. Push it out with my mind, but at night when alone I just sobbed till I just passed out. I ended up having a nervous breakdown that nearly completely derailed my life. My brother was my best friend, he was the one person I knew had my back, I knew I could count on, and I knew really loved me for me. It was hard, very very hard but it's been almost three years and every day is one step forward to recovery.

At the moment where you showed the clip of Sirius Black saying, "The ones who love us never really leave us," suddenly through my open window, the smell of my beloved grandmother's old house carried through to me. I lost her almost a decade ago, but I still think about her every day, and often still cry. I just lost my father at the end of last year, too, and couldn't get home to see him because of the pandemic. It's been hard. Thank you for doing this movie. Of course I'm crying again, but it's somewhat cathartic.

My mother, who was my inspiration said, "You don't get over grief, you just eventually get through it." If that helps anyone. Gotta go through the grief before you are okay. Bless you, guys!

I think this movie really gets me because I’m 10000% Tadashi in this movie. And I can definitely see parts of my little brother in Hiro. And this movie always gets me because seeing Hiro’s response to Tadashi’s death just makes me start thinking of how would my death affect my brother. And this movie shows me how I think he would deal with it (minus you know, the whole superhero and robot part lol). But my brother looks up to me so much, and I’ve recently left for college, he’s going to middle school next year, and I just know I’m going to hate not always being able to be there for him. I never had an older brother growing up and I know how much I would’ve loved it if I did. And just knowing that I have a chance to be the person I always wanted in my life for my brother is just such an awesome opportunity. Knowing that I won’t always be there for him absolutely devastates me. I’m his older brother, I’m supposed to be there to look out for him and protect him. That will always be my job no matter how old he gets. On a different note, this really makes me think about why I am the way I am, and I think it has a lot to do with hating being away from family and having lost many important people to me in my life from such an early age. My first experience with death was from as early as the age of 6. Ironically enough, it was the loss of my two little twin brothers (miscarriage). From then on I always saw myself as the glue that held the family together. My parents were absolutely devastated after we had lost them, and rightly so. I really didn’t understand grief yet, so I just assumed it was my fault for asking for brothers and even to this day, I still some what feel that way even though I know I couldn’t possibly have been at fault. Somehow blaming myself makes it hurt a little less and I don’t know why. But since then I’ve known I don’t like losing people. And being in a military family didn’t help with my dislike of losing people. I’ve lost many friends due to moving, I’ve lost other family members to just natural causes. The most impactful one happened two weeks after we lost the boys. My great grandma who I was really close with got in a car accident and was on life support for a little under a month. In case you couldn’t tell, she didn’t make it. But my whole life I’ve been absolutely terrified of losing the people I love and care about. And recently just over a year ago I lost someone who I held dear to me. And the worst part is that they’re not really gone, they just chose to leave. And I didn’t realize how much more that would hurt me. And it sounds so stupid in comparison but when I look at why this hurt me more than anything else I see why. With the other people I’ve lost they didn’t choose to leave. They wanted to stay, they wanted me to stay. With this most recent one, they chose to leave me, they chose to go the rest of their life without me. And that stings so much more than I could ever hope to explain. Sorry, I’m getting really off topic now. But back to my main thing, I think the main reason I’m terrified of growing up isn’t what most people’s reasons are. I’m not scared to make my own path, to go it alone. Maybe not go it alone actually, more like I know what I want to do and what I need to do to get there. I know I can do it. I’m scared I won’t be there for everyone that I love and care about, especially my family. And I know I need to start learning to accept letting things and people go, but that’s just, god it’s so hard. It’s not even me being selfish like I need them to be with me. It’s more like I need to be with them incase they need me. I hardly ever think about myself, I’m almost always thinking about how I can help others, or what I can do to make someone else’s life easier. I don’t know. Sorry for the essay if anyone ends up reading this. It’s 6am and I’m feeling homesick so I got emotional and started typing out my life story in a RU-vid comments section. In case you can’t tell, I’m lonely asf lmao. If you actually read all this, thank you, and you definitely could have done something way more productive 😂

I’ve been a film lover for my entire life with my ultimate goal being a filmmaker but I was very detached from the overall emotion of the movies. I liked excitement and joy and that’s about it. This was the first movie I ever cried during and accepted the full spectrum of the emotional consequences of storytelling and it will forever mean the world to me for that

When Hiro says "it still hurts", I felt that. Especially since I lost my grandmother and my last phone call with her still haunts me to this day. Schaffrillas Productions may make fun of this movie all day long, but there's no denying how emotional this movie is

Just like most deaths of a family members, Tadashi's death hits as an explosion, sudden and tragic.

As a kid that lost his mother semi recently, I get what hiro is going through. The sadness that you think will never end, that rage that makes you feel powerless, and most importantly, the acceptance that the person knew what you were destined to do and they’re always watching you, waiting to see you achieve greatness. My mother always loved to help, so I hope to one day help others just as much

I lost my dad about 8 months ago. I could not confront it until I watched this video, and I have watched it multiple times because I need this. I can't accept he's gone, I need to hear John's words and Alan's realism. I am sobbing.

"What is grief, if not love persevering?" - The Vision (Wandavision)

Everyone talks about 'Inside Out' as the catharsis film.. this movie made me react (internally and externally) so much harder than 'IO' ever did. 💯

Something I noticed: Baymax moves one part at a time, the whole movie. He turns his head, THEN he turns his body, THEN he takes a step. EXCEPT when Hiro removes his medical chip. Then his movements are fluid, he moves his arms and legs at the same time, turns his head while walking. The detached movements that show Baymax as Baymax are removed when Hiro removes "what makes Baymax... Baymax."

As someone who feels broken quite often this movie helped a lot. "I'm not giving up on you. You don't know it yet, but the world needs you" Do you know how impactful that is to those of us who have given up or feel like we're cast aside? Alone and unwanted? It's something we long to hear. And for me it deeply resonated

I'm going to quote one of my favourite Marvel shows ever: "What is grief if not love persevering?"

"if life has no meaning then at least it doesn't hurt" I felt that so deeply.

25:28 I was blinking together with Alan, what a coincidence we must've both had a radom gust of wind in our eyes

9:14 I figure pushing past social cues and continuing with relentless love/care helps a lot because that's what pushed me out of my walls and encouraged me to jump over my hurdles. -Signed a high functioning spectrum resident.

I watched this movie about a year after my older brother died in an accident and it honestly changed my life. This movie really helped me come to terms with my brother's death and try and be more like him as a way of keeping his kindness and warm heart in the world somehow

I think Hiro's form of Denial is that while he accepted Tadashi _died,_ he hadn't yet accepted the idea of Tadashi no longer being part of his life. There's a great quote from Hiro in the S2 finale of the follow-up series -- which continued exploring Hiro's personal journey of discovering who he wanted to be -- where he says about Tadashi _"I used to think having a legacy just meant that people remembered you, but now I realize it's more than that. It's when the things that were important to you live on in the people who loved you."_

Right around 20:00 we all cried together

12:34 I nearly spit out my water, I was shaking so hard. You two are truly friendship goals.

"Thanks spectrum friends, we love you!" Is probably the most heartwarming and precious thing that anyone has said to those of us who are Neurodivergent. Thank you.

This episode of Cinema Therapy hit me extra hard. My sister committed suicide a few months ago, and for long I’ve been depressed, so it hit really close to home. I’m really struggling, and it’s so hard to handle the grief and guilt. Your videos help me feel comforted, and I really appreciate you for what you do. I’m so grateful that you put out these videos, they really help me cope with all the things that has been happening. Of course the pain and grief isn’t going away anytime soon, maybe it never will, but I’m learning how to better deal with my feelings thanks to you guys. I just wanted to thank both of you, you’re both great people who deserve all the love appreciation in the world. Your videos are great, and so are you two.

Honestly really everyone in the world are just an amalgamation of everyone that they have met, gotten close to, loved, etc. They influence us and therefore they are always with us

I feel sorry for "adults" that refused to watch animated movies because they are "too childish" or targeted at children. Animated movies have some of the most thought out, developed, and relatable characters. My brother joined the army about 10 years before this movie came out, and was deployed twice to Iraq/Afghanistan. I remember the constant fear of losing him. When this movie came out, that fear was re-ignited and I absolutely related to Hero and his grief (even though I never actually lost my brother). I still cry watching this movie, hell I cried just watching the clips with you guys again. Thanks for the excellent commentary and insight into both the psychological and theatrical elements of the movie.

I haven't watched this movie in so long, but man did I need this today! Great insights as always. I would love to hear your thoughts on grief when it's a result of estrangement as opposed to death. I feel like there's a lot of crossover in terms of the feelings you go through when you lose people because you chose to cut them out, but obviously there are some significant differences, namely that they're still out there, somewhere, but not a part of your life anymore.

About the “wanting to stay depressed because otherwise it feels like a betrayal or you dont/didnt care enough” Thats exactly what im struggling with right now except sorta backwards? My father died two months ago from a very sudden hemorrhagic stroke. I loved my dad, i had s great relationship with him and it hit me really hard but after a week or so I was “fine” when it came up (which is pretty often cuz im the executor of his estate). My brothers are still incredibly melancholic, but im just not. i feel like ive fast tracked the mourning process somehow and im years into it, but that feels like i doing something wrong when i think about him and im not acutely hurting like my family still it.

TW for discussion of a loss and coping metods! When I lost my grandpa, I barely stayed in the denial stage. I was on vacation during that time on Kos, scrapped everything and came home immediately. It was a tough time, especially because I went straight to the depressive stage. I tried to isolate myself and pretend to be fine but eventually, a huge fear of death and illness came up. I started imagining health issues, which caused my heart rate and blood pressure to rise. I often got dizzy and had trouble breathing because of that fear. I know this sounds awful but this was actually what caused me to seek help. I got so scared that I went to family to talk about my concerns. I was barely of age back then and didn't really know how to fix appointments with specialist doctors yet. My family took me by my hand, got me to rest after I haven't slept in 8 days (actually) and finally made me eat (after going without for 8 days as well since I was so nauseous). They even helped me make some appointments to help ease my fears. Took me quite a while to get over the rest of the grief after that anyway and I still feel hurt and fear of forgetting his voice or face (Thank god for phones). There are tons of things I wish I would have done when saying goodbye, even staying, even though grandpa insisted I go enjoy myself on my holiday. What I am trying to say is that getting help in grieving situations is incredibly hard and if you are currently going through something like this, then I'd like to tell you that it might not seem that way right now but it will get better again. Try to seek help or even just closure with family or friends. Don't isolate yourself since it will only make everything feel worse in the long run. Try to find comfort in some blankets, a place, a drink, maybe a book and most importantly: other people who are close to you. They probably feel the same as you and grieving together and being there for each other, makes it so much more bearable. I know that everyone grieves differently. Methods for coping should never be harmful. And please accept this virtual hug!

What I love is that while we can interpret the end as "Beymax can feel emotions" he has never once used a figurative expression. He is purely literal, so if we weren't absolutely sobbing at the moment we would've put together that he'd literally always be with him.

I was in nursing school when this movie came out. I sobbed as a sibling, a writer, an artist, and as a care provider. My nursing instructor that I asked said that they also cried. So many of us cried because we will help so many people and we know what grief is, and if only we could help everybody and keep on helping. Damn this movie is great.

18:16 To be fair, most people in that situation would have stubbornly replied "Yes!" multiple times with even more conviction. It's surprising that Hiro was actually considering Baymax's question rather than dismissing it.

8:30 He does go through Denial in a small way, because Baymax says “Tadashi is here.” Trying to show Hero that Tadashi lives on, but Hero knows he isn’t really there and Denies that a part of his brother can and does live on.

Grief has been a huge part of my life the last few years. Last year I lost my best friend to terminal cancer (she was 32). I’ve known her since I was 13…..almost 20 years. And a week after her funeral my husband’s grandmother passed away. Then last November my grandfather passed away and THEN back in March (a year to the day when my best friend passed) my friend from college passed away too. And it’s been 5 years since my friend Ryan died from kidney failure. He was 28……it’s been really really hard. Going back and rewatching this movie and the “Tadashi is here” scene brooooooke me. 😢 but the “what is grief?” line from WandaVision really has helped me