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@thebowandbullet Год назад

There are lots of attractive people I'm not attracted to. I can recognize that they're conventionally "good-looking", but they don't do anything for me. I find attractiveness is a combination of looks and personality/values. I also find asymmetrical faces really interesting and attractive.

@BenSwagnerd Год назад

I think as ive gotten older, ive become more and more interested in people who look *interesting,* like... a perfectly straight smile is "normal/ideal" but oh my LORD i love an "imperfect" smile. And all sorts of stuff like that. I don't want someone who looks photoshopped.

@dmortal999 Год назад

I'm the same way. A persons personality can make or break their attractiveness to me/

@excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339 Год назад

@@dmortal999 definitely. Personality shapes the overall attractiveness. Conventionally good locking people become really ugly to me if they behave shallowly or cruelly, but kindness, open mindedness and a forthcoming attitude can turn someone “regular” freaking gorgeous

@DiogoChris Год назад

This!

@conocerseasimismo Год назад

Me too. Omg. Exactly

@roselover411 Год назад

"I wouldn't say I'm attractive or unattractive, I'm just here." Most relatable line i've heard in a long time XD

@user-yk9sk7pg6v Год назад

I agree, but then he said he thinks he's a 6 or a 7, which to me isn't someone 'who's just sorta here', you know? 'Just sorta here' is like a 4 or a 5 maybe, 6 and 7s tend to me be slightly more than 'just here' (in my opinion).

@unHolyEvelyn Год назад

@@user-yk9sk7pg6v 6 or 7 is definitely an above average rating, but 6 is definitely "just here"

@Kinglore2000 Год назад

Make. A slogan poster. Of that. Put it. On your wall. In your room.

@kelseybetsey4076 Год назад

Based on his personality, Conrad was the most attractive person there (IMO)

@redpanda_009 Год назад

And the blonde guy for me (I don't know how to spell his name)

@mihaelabiolan819 Год назад

Conrad was such a sweetheart. He seems very good partner material.

@revbr4v087 Год назад

He was definitely the most based lol

@LailaDragoness Год назад

One of my favourite quotes ever from Doctor Who fits this video perfectly. The character Amy (played by Karen Gillan), who is portrayed in the show as a very beautiful woman, is speaking about her husband Rory (played by Arthur Darvill), who's portrayed as a more mediocre looking man: "You know when sometimes you meet someone so beautiful, and then you actually talk to them and five minutes later, they're as dull as a brick. Then there's other people and you meet them and you think, "Not bad, they're okay." And then you get to know them and... and they're face just sort of... becomes them, like their personality is written all over it. And they just... they turn into something so beautiful. Rory's the most beautiful man I've ever met."

@kay-jay1581 Год назад

Oh I’m a sucker for Doctor Who Amy and Rory’s relationship was amazing. And yes! I love that quote looks and personality and getting to know somebody are important.

@instanthumanustaddcoffee Год назад

YES

@kirstenmanson5515 Год назад

I was reminded of that scene too!!!

@ML-di8lt Год назад

CAME HERE TO SAY THIS

@MARYWTHER Год назад

Right when Jonathan was saying that I was like "Amy???" lol

@wijcik Год назад

Appearance gets you in the door, but personality keeps you in.

@Haley_777.14 Год назад

I'm not even in the door

@stardusstie Год назад

There is such a fine line between confidence and cockiness. I personally could never be attracted to someone that would so unabashedly say “I belong at the top of the line”. But it’s also not attractive to be really insecure and point out your own flaws constantly. I think Conrad was the most attractive person here because of his humility and his relaxed attitude about everything.

@sarahlandis289 Год назад

Conrad is the guy with the plaid, right? Yeah his confidence gave him 2 extra points in my opinion. He gets an 8

@LifeisFoo Год назад

I'm not going to be naive and say that looks don't matter. However, personality can really make a huge difference. I've met people who are objectively physically attractive but their personality is so off-putting that they are ugly to me. I've also met people who I would have considered neutral when it comes to looks, but their personality shines so much that it makes them incredibly attractive. And I love that you touched on this. One of my good friends, who has issues with self-esteem, posted pictures of himself that were "altered" to show what he would look like if he were from different cultures. They were all altered to make the person more attractive. But when I first saw it, I was confused because I initially thought that they must not have changed anything. I honestly did not see a difference between what he actually looks like versus the altered photos. And I let him know that. That the altered photos, I feel, are what he looks like when he smiles.

@Aethelhadas Год назад

Your friend's project seems really interesting. If he's ok with it, could we check it out? If not I totally understand

@Olivia-xf4gy Год назад

Conrad was the most attractive to me based on his personality and thus his overall looks haha he may have rated himself the "lowest" but he actually seemed the most comfortable in his skin Personally, I think to the world it looks like I don't care about looks cuz I've dated people "tall" and "short", "thin" and "athletic" and "fat" and "obese", etc. But definitely i think physical attraction is hugely important!! It's just that the personality is so much more important and that's what brings out the individual physical beauty a person has. When I look at my husband, to the world he may seem short and scrawny, but I see his hard working hands, his kind eyes, his strong shoulders that are constantly carrying and piggy backing our kids, his bright smile that lights up my day, etc.

@sarahlandis289 Год назад

Yes! This! 😄

@Zhenyaka004 Год назад

Personally, for me, the importance of someone’s looks starts to diminish over time For example, when I meet someone, I can’t help but rate them in my mind, put them on an attractiveness scale from 1 to 10. Also, their hair plays a big role in that (cause I have alopecia, I’m bald, and I like to look at other people’s hair because I don’t have mine). But the longer we interact, the more my vision starts to “blur”, and I genuinely lose my ability to rank them on that scale, I can’t anymore cause now they are so much more to me than their looks

@cevcena6692 Год назад

Same. I don't lose the ability to assess appearance but appearance matters less over time. Within the first week of knowing someone, appearance matters a lot, but after a few months, it's barely a consideration

@guenwinters4300 Год назад

As a fellow demisexual, it really comes down to who the person is. I've found people I was not physically attracted to at first in any way, but found after getting to know them, I did find them attractive. Then others who I knew were objectively attractive, I did not find attractive after getting to know them.

@flutenanyidk1806 Год назад

There was this guy I crushed on pretty hardcore for a little bit in junior high (grey sexual) because the man was GORGEOUS. I got to know him, come to find out that he thinks pretty poorly of rich people but lives in a wealthy community, and bragged about he just gets all the girls because he's that pretty. He got away with that because his arrogance came across as confidence to anyone that couldn't see through it, but it only takes a couple times of, "I get all the girls" for it to be decently obvious.

@lisarodriguez6966 Год назад

After speaking with my young teenage daughter, she said that I was demisexual. I had no idea what that meant until she explained it to me. It's hard for me to keep up. I told her that I have to be stimulated intellectually before any type of romantic feelings develop.

@RandomKeto Год назад

That's just called being a woman lol.

@PizzaMadeMeFat Год назад

@@RandomKeto no it's called being demisexual 🙄

@CMXR Год назад

@@lisarodriguez6966 wtf is demisexual

@Arob4343 Год назад

I like how the girl didn’t want a nose adjustment for just looks, it was for the utility of wearing glasses

@johnnydark6019 Год назад

Conrad is the most attractive by look and personality. I know why he was on least side just because he is so nice, didn't want to offend anyone and knew that other people in the room care so much about their look, and others didn't say anything because they knew it's better to not bother people, who wanted to be on the top. But still he didn't deserve to be on the bottom, someone should've stand for him

@jordanparker938 Год назад

Definitely a combination for me. There are people who, objectively, I’m like “yeah, they’re definitely cute/hot”, but it’s entirely uninvolved and unemotional if they’re just strangers that I see in passing. There’s a complete disconnect. I don’t necessarily start thinking or observing them as a “sexual” entity or someone that I’m sexually attracted to until I talk to them and see what they’re like as actual people. Likewise, there are people that I wouldn’t think were conventionally attractive under passerby circumstances, but I adore their personalities and who they are as people, which completely flips the narrative.

@excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339 Год назад

Very well said! I also have two “scales” to rate attractiveness - the emotionally distanced “this person looks great” that involves men/women/enby alike but only their appearance/ first impression and the “I’m really interested in you” that is reserved to people that I want to be friends with or maybe develop feelings for.

@theetherealshaye Год назад

I’m autistic and I don’t understand the way our society views attractiveness. I’ve had issues with the way I look in terms of how society views me, but when looking at how I view other people, I don’t compare. I view people as though they are in a vacuum. I focus on the way their facial features fit together like a jigsaw puzzle, and how their style and fashion sense showcases their personality, and brings out their facial features. I focus on the whole, not parts. I find unique styles the most appealing to me because of this, and so when people are giving numbers to each other, I don’t get it, because those numbers are arbitrary. They don’t encapsulate the physical harmony within an individual person.

@Aeiouaaaaaaaaa Год назад

I’m not autistic, but I’m an artist who creates characters and the way you’ve described how you see people in real life is very similar to how I create characters from imagination (with some differences, of course). I don’t know if there’s a point to be made here, but I just wanted to say that the thought process you described is really interesting to me and it’s a valuable way of understanding people!

@sarahlandis289 Год назад

Yeah I find it hard giving numbers too. But society does it so I try to figure it out sometimes. But for me the numbers aren't solely about looks, personality is a huge factor.

@itzmeeazriel2712 Год назад

Wow I'm autistic too and this exactly how I view attractiveness too! I never thought I would find another person who related to my world view so thank you for commenting

@isabellek293 Год назад

I knew a girl who I didn’t get along with at all and absolutely hated her face. After a while we actually started becoming friends and I started to think that she was actually pretty and then we ended up hating each other again and once again I found myself hating her face and I thought she was super ugly(this was over the course of a few years) now I don’t really know her anymore and it’s been a couple of years I don’t find her particularly pretty or ugly, literally the same way I feel about her personality. That’s how I realised that personality played a huge role in attractiveness. The more I like people the more I love how they look and vice versa with disliking them.

@nataliedickens1289 Год назад

Jonathan’s ending point about focusing on being attractive to the right people, and not most people really got me. To figure out first who you want in your life and then work on attracting that particular person rather than the people you aren’t actually interested in, or the world at large.

@kaylor7947 Год назад

I know this is just a Jubilee video, but idk how much you can determine about someone's personality in such a short period of time like the game had them do. To top it off, the circumstances were kinda awkward which would make some ppl too uncomfortable to be themselves. Like all they were really able to tell about each other is how extraverted and self-confident everyone was, but I feel like there are a lot of other traits that you can only appreciate after a longer interaction. eg. intelligence, loyalty, kindness etc. It's just sad when the quiet ppl always get ranked last on these kinda vids.😂

@michelegraham1181 Год назад

I know, right? And their “personality” question were them just describing their physical appearance and what they’d like to change. The only real insight that we got from each of them was their countenance and their reactions to each other.

@aimeeontheharp Год назад

This definitely had a lot of issues as a study. When they were blindfolded, they all still described what they looked like, rather than getting to know each other. I agree that they all should have done their own ranking anonymously. The blonde girl really ran things; I wasn’t even sure if she was one of the participants at first!

@Anastashya Год назад

The therapist is the most attractive 😳. Personality and appearance 🥰 I feel sorry for the young ones because they’re really being put on the spot.

@oopsididitagain2556 Год назад

When it comes to attraction for me, it normally is a pair of how they look and the personality

@nobirahim1818 Год назад

Same when it comes to a prospective spouse

@daykibaran9668 Год назад

For me the same

@Startingpointtraining Год назад

I like your idea of making it a secret ballot. I'd also like to see it done with the rule that they *aren't allowed* to talk about their appearance. That would be the bigger indicator of looks vs personality in attraction. Most of their discussion was describing their appearance, which is probably why the results came out similar.

@angelahepworth775 Год назад

What I have found attractive in the past is a person who can walk into a room and lift others up without putting themself or others down. Attractiveness for me is a mixture of confidence and where the person’s focus is.

@eternyti Год назад

For attractiveness, personality is the big important one. Physical looks are important mostly in the case of "I don't need to find you attractive so much as I just need to not find you unattractive". It's more important that they don't check any of my physical "no" boxes (of which there aren't many) rather than a bunch of my "yes" boxes. After that, its all about what's underneath.

@trevorwilkerson8769 Год назад

They all seemed to be of the same age. If someone older & wiser were there it would likely be very different. Of course a wiser person probably wouldn't be willing to participate in this type of activity.

@AlatheD Год назад

It's definitely about personality for me. I'm also demisexual/demiromantic, so I need some personality to establish that connection. Physical appearance has never been a big thing for me. I would absolutely hate to be part of an experiment like that, I have a pretty poor self-image. OMG, thank you for mentioning polyamory! I am polyamorous, so I always appreciate a bit of representation or acknowledgement. I had a thought about that during a Cinema Therapy episode.

@swatisaini6447 Год назад

Please don't mind I am genuinely curious. How do you manage being in relationship with more than one person at a time?

@AlatheD Год назад

@@swatisaini6447 I absolutely do not mind genuine curiosity. Monogamy is taught to everyone, sometimes pushed to what I feel is an unhealthy degree, personally. Don't misunderstand, monogamy is exactly what a lot of people need. For whatever reason. Maybe that's just the way you're built. Maybe it's what was drilled into you. Maybe I'm built differently. (I'm absolutely not mono-shaming, it really is the best/perfect/only way for some folks.) I have such a huge capacity for love. I love many people, in the way even monogamous people do. Friends, family, we all can love many people. It gets confusing for some when it comes to romantic/sexual relationships. That's a polyamory thing. Personally, I do not see any person in my "love orbit" (regardless of what kind of love) as "more" or "less" than the other. You may hear monog folks talk about something similar regarding, say, children. 3 kids, but you don't love one more than you love the other two. You love them differently, but one is not more important than the others. That is how I feel about my paramours and metamours. I love S, and N, and S loves B, so I love that person too. Because they make S happy. Compersion (being happy for someone else's happiness, basically the opposite of jealousy Or the literal opposite of schadenfreude)) is a huge factor, according to many people. In my eyes, if B treats S well, is a good partner, brings happiness/comfort/etc. to S, why should I not be happy for S, whom I love dearly and want to see happy. Fair disclaimer here, jealously gets in the way for a lot of polyam folk. I don't get jealousy, it just doesn't happen in my brain. *shrug* So it's not a problem for me. It can be for some folks. But does the way you feel jealous of your partner outweigh the way you are pleased when they find joy in something that's not you? A hobby you're not into, a movie you don't enjoy, or maybe a blanket that feels uncomfortable to you, but makes them make happy, comfortable noises? This the way I've always been, but I know there are polyam folks who've learned to be polyam because seeing such joy in their partner pleases them. It is complicated, but most relationships are. Ultimately, I want my partners to be happy. I don't want to claim them, because one human claiming (read owning) another is just ... (disgusting to me in many ways) not real or viable. My partner(s) is a whole human, in and of themself. Just as I am a whole human, in and of myself. By loving/being in love with each other, we are adding to each other, not completing each other. My apologies for the long answer, but I am happy to clarify any questions this may have induced.

@mikabrown6985 Год назад

I was just thinking "well I'm demi so it's almost 100% about personality" so happy another demi also commented

@guenwinters4300 Год назад

@@mikabrown6985 i thought the same thing xD Yay demi gang! I was excited when Jono said he was one. Makes connection with his advice and opinions on therapy, especially about relationships, alot easier

@foxherder Год назад

omg polyamory! I am also polyamorous, and I hate the stigma around it and lack of knowledge, because it’s not cheating but so many cheaters will use that as an excuse and so many people will see it as cheating. recently I’ve heard of several people not telling their partners they have another partner and claiming they’re polyamorous and it hurting them. they have every right to be hurt, there should always be a discussion around it before getting romantically involved with someone else while in a relationship. those type of people disgust me (cheaters who claim to be polyamorous) cuz they’re just giving us bad rep

@Clarion11 Год назад

My spouse and I have expressed to each other before that, yes looks matter. You don’t typically try to get the attention of someone you don’t know and find physically unattractive. But, once you actually meet someone, their personality can make or break your attraction to them.

@kryskay989 Год назад

What's more interesting to me is how the one guy recognized the difficulty of reconciling his perception of someone with their appearance. There is so much non-verbal communication/connection that happens when you can see/touch compared to just talking. I think a lot of attraction involves how someone expresses themselves physically while they're talking. So more than looks and personality, attraction relies on how people connect mentally, emotionally, and expressively.

@atelierwofuru7425 Год назад

Being attractive depends on so many factors. We don't all have the same priorities either. For me it is a mix. I am personally attracted by how someone is in their behavior, yes personality wise but the way they move and the kind of energy they show if you will, their tone as well and a little bit of how they look physically like everybody. Someone super confident or vain kinds of puts me off. I'll find somebody caring and soft and passionate will be attractrive to me. Tbh, I am a drmi-sexual gay man, so I nearly to never feel attracted by someone I haven't talked to for at least an hour.

@gracebrown3074 Год назад

Conrad definitely seemed the most interesting to me! He seemed like an actual person someone I could get to know and would enjoy being around.

@jimmoriarty9440 Год назад

I'm flavor of ace spectrum has me completely confused about physical attractiveness, so watching these kind of situations is surreal for me. You all look great!

@whatdoyoulivefor735 Год назад

I'm fairly pleasant looking, especially when I groom myself well. I think I've relied on that to a degree .. sadly. I'm pretty shy and I feel insecure about how attractive my personality is. It has taught me that personality is exceptionally important in attraction. I have attracted men with looks but when I struggle to open up and show my personality and just can't loosen up around them ... They lose attraction and it doesn't matter how outwardly attractive I can be. Personality. It's everything in the end!

@aliciasipocz8406 Год назад

In my life I have seen stereotypically attractive people (9s and 10s), but they were immediately less attractive with some bad personality traits, vanity, selfishness, rudeness, etc. I've also been told that I'm just a 3/10 pretty much all my life, but I feel more like a 5 or 6 in appearance, but 8 with my personality.

@JMOlsen_ Год назад

If that picture is of you, without Photoshop or filters, then the 3/10 claim is ridiculous. Looking for compliments or letting the bullies judge you?

@Turnpost2552 Год назад

3/10 understand that is like no longer a face in women standards. Most women are 6 and above and totally datable in guys eyes. Depending how tal you i dont know but face wise potential for an 8

@sarahlandis289 Год назад

How anyone would call you a 3 out of 10 is beyond me unless they wanted to date you and didn't think they had a chance, and maybe tried hitting your self esteem so you'd date below yourself

@Duriretlan Год назад

It took me ages to figure out attractiveness vs attraction. I can be attracted to people I don't find attractive very easily based on personality and chemistry. I have never cared about looks in my relationships with people, but in general, when acknowledging attractiveness without a personal dynamic involved (like a stranger or celebrity), it's predominantly physical. Sometimes a personality will shine through so much that it takes precedence, and sometimes it has to be footage of them instead of a photo for them to stand out. I assume this is pretty common, but sometimes I'm confronted with a reality that some people really do experience attractiveness as attraction and would potentially act on it without having to explore chemistry. I always wonder how common that is.

@djpulytea Год назад

for me, a guy can look like moldy scrambled egg thrown violently onto asphalt and then do or say something that makes me admire him and I'll be like : 👀 you've been FINE this whole time, huh?

@ellingtonlilly Год назад

I am pretty shallow sometimes but when it comes to relationships the personality is the main thing. However my initial interest in someone is near completely looks based and then changes as I know them. I’ve also had friends that I’m not into but then I grow to find their features attractive. I’ve also been told I find less conventionally attractive people the most attractive so idk. I care about looks a lot but I have a wide array of features I find attractive. I’m also an artist who mostly draws people so anyone with interesting features to me just catches my fancy pretty quick. If you look distinct I may just automatically find you attractive. Like if you got certain facial features you don’t necessarily love but they’re very much *your* features I probably love them cause they’re what make you look like you. Crazy smile? Love it! You think your nose is weird? Well it’s yours and it’s great? Don’t like your eyes? Well I like looking at your eyes ☺️

@user-yk9sk7pg6v Год назад

"I wouldn't say I'm attractive or unattractive, I'm just here", but then you said you think you're a 6 or a 7, which isn't exactly 'just here'... 'just here' is like a 4 or 5, where as a 6 or a 7 tends to be slightly more than 'just here'.

@mccorama Год назад

You should watch The Mummy (1999) ....that's just a bowl of hotness

@brandycarr5378 Год назад

It is a combo, looks do make up some. But overall personality it the majority. Easily a 65/35 ratio for me. Overall, hygiene is the key 😅

@selchert Год назад

Looks can get my attention but a good personality will keep my attention

@selchert Год назад

Also noticed the super hot guys (not sure about women) tend to have crappier personalities, and average guys with a good personality become hotter.

@novembermedusa Год назад

You cannot help to feel a certain way when you see someone for the first time, of course you are taking in what you see. Even if I am not looking for a romantic partner. But for me, right after that the importance of their personality kicks in and it either adds, or not, to what I see. I would not be able to like someone for their looks alone if they were repulsive with their behaviour. I also found myself a few times being rather neutral about someone and then the more time we spend together the prettier they seemed to me. I don't like this comparing, it seems it can be nothing but hurtful.

@bl9081 Год назад

I think Conrad was the most attractive imo, especially his personality

@tiffanycespedestavarez234 Год назад

I’m not a fan of ranking people based on attractiveness. I don’t think that’s how attractiveness works for me. I think it’s more of a work of art; you can’t really compare one masterpiece to another. And even if you could, the way we see ourselves can change from one day to another.

@lowings848 Год назад

Everyone is physically beautiful. A wholesome personality, good qualities and characteristics are very attractive to me. People who have integrity and decency. Men who are assertive, confident, funny. I saw a comment about how people move, I second that. And last but not least, peoples voices. If I had to rank them by voice I would put Conrad in first, then Zyi and the rest of them, and the two blonde people together in last place. I'd have fixed my teeth as well. I grew up poor that's why mine isn't fixed and I was bullied in school.

@alexandraprytkova387 Год назад

I honestly think it's a terrible experiment. They should vote confidentially and rank them after that. This just shows that some of these people are very acertive and others are not.

@sharonsomers5342 Год назад

Jim Jeffries once said he's a 5 because when he walks by, nothing happens. Nobody looks twice for any reason. And yep, that's me. Because most people are about a 5. And I'm most people.

@deulgis6644 Год назад

I honestly don't think they're rating by personality in that first segment - its more like ranking by assertiveness

@thesupergreenjudy Год назад

Rating yourself a 10 isn't confidence, it's cocky which turns you into a 1 straight away for me

@lalakuma9 Год назад

I agree that Conrad has the best personality, but his looks should have been ranked higher up too. Plus I think some people are offended with the idea of being rated lower than 7/10 in looks, because they measure it like a letter grade (7/10 is a C and 5/10 is an F). And I feel like women are especially offended about the idea of not having good looks, because society tells them that much of their worth is based on their looks.

@Melly16yr10 Год назад

Personally I hate this whole assigning numbers to people & honestly makes me feel like a shitty person & crap about myself, hate it.

@Alassandros Год назад

If symmetry was actually important to attractiveness, pirates would cease to be sexy.

@walle5667 Год назад

Definitely the line would look differently if folk could rate themselves in private. It is too awkward to be super honest in front of people 😬 And also you "look bad" if you think yourself more attractive than others. There definitely also is a difference between good looking and attractive. You can be beautiful looking, but not very attractive. A mesmerizing smile can be very attractive even if a person is average looking. Most striking experience I had was at an internship. There was a guy who was so gorgeous, looked absolutely stunning. But the second he opened his mouth and all this bs came out of it his attractiveness plumeted to non-existence. Was super sobering 😁

@Vmtdj6848 Год назад

He is right about people who’s personality you like getting more attractive

@lasantuzza777 Год назад

i honestly feel like each of these individuals were the same level of attractiveness they were just different “types” if that makes sense.

@mamaof2528 Год назад

In the beginning, it’s 90% on looks/style, but getting to know someone will make or break that. You can lose/gain something like 80% of your attractiveness based on who you are in my opinion. Jeans with the holes, Jean jacket, and tattoos are my favorites.

@HalE14 Год назад

This video made me weirdly self-conscious 😂 but your ending dialogue about only needing to be attractive for one was uplifting. I think that’s why I felt self-conscious. I am concerned that I’m not “hot enough” for people. I don’t know why it matters. Maybe just because I pay attention to hot people so much and want the looks they have. I could write a novel on why im self conscious but I’ll spare you the pity party 😅

@Tamailana Год назад

To me, someone's attractivness (subjective, ofc) is like a foundation. If it's not high enough, it's going nowhere. There are men I instantly know I'm never gonna be attracted to, but might be friends with if I like talking to them. But at the same time, being handsome is not enough. I've met men that *looked* attractive to me at first glance, but it never turned into me *feeling* attracted to them. I mostly fell in love with those who looked like "maybe" from the start and there was just something about them, their personality, worldview, behavior, ... that made me feel attracted. Veery much so. It's a mix, really, a subjective one. Looks matter, but only if the personality is a match too. I think what gets me is open-mindedness, interest in different topics, respect for women, confidence, dependability, sense of humour, bluntness, dirty mind, ... stuff like that :D And of course... thick hair, nice smile, right height and not being too old/young for me :D

@Turnpost2552 Год назад

For me but the opposite. I am a guy.

@rustjones385 Год назад

This list was garbage😂😂😂 Conrad is easily top 3

@ArielMorris Год назад

So funny they put him last, cuz I think Conrad was the cutest of them all…

@papakneegrumps1987 Год назад

Well thanks 😂 I'm flattered

@recoveringsoul755 Год назад

I don't need tattoos, it's like permanent makeup. How is that person most attractive? People become more or less attractive as I get to know them. So don't do anything dumb on the first date

@mariquilla8891 Год назад

When I first met my husband, I though he was ok. After our first date, I thought he was the most handsome man in the world (and I still think it).

@adellhammel8849 Год назад

Okay, I admit I can be attracted to someone based solely on looks. But the first real relationship I had, I didn't really find him attractive physically until I got to know him better. And the second relationship, which is the one I'm currently in, it was actually his confidence in himself to be different than others that initially attracted me. So for me it can go both ways.

@baileybertucelli2972 Год назад

please react to Married at first sights !!! I loved your love is blind reaction!

@yojo3315 Год назад

Conrad is cute though. 😂😂😂😂😂

@lavinder11 Год назад

Determining beauty? It's 100% based on looks, but attraction to a person is a mix of looks, your type and their personality.

@annelise5 Год назад

Do you have thoughts on the halo effect?

@Miissakuravidel Год назад

I don't want to be rude.. but 6 or 7 is really high. That means more attractive than 70 percent of people no? Like 5 would be average.

@JMOlsen_ Год назад

It is not that sort of scale. It is more like a bell curve. Most people would be 5 to 7. Relatively few 4s and 8s. Below 4 is severe deformities. 9 and 10 are exceptional beauty. The distribution is a bell curve shape item. 5 is below average but not repulsive looking. 6 and 7 are the average range and common looks for people with a reasonable life style ( decent diet, health and few to no addictions, but not exceptional looks either).

@michelegraham1181 Год назад

I really did not like this. It made me feel bad for some reason. Conrad was the most attractive to me, but he’s very boyish looking which is what I like. But now he’s always going to have this experience in the back of his mind reminding him that he was the one who was last in line.

@papakneegrumps1987 Год назад

Ah jeez. I don't know If I needed this reminder 😂

@annabrown3337 Год назад

Oh I love Jonathan's matter-of-fact "meh I'm here and I'm fine with it" Interesting social experiment

@annabrown3337 Год назад

I like the guy with the untamed hair, loved what he said being in a good place

@totallynotacultleader Год назад

The most important thing to me is morals/values and personality, which makes someone truly interesting and attractive. And that attraction definitely grows the more I get to know someone and love who they are. I do also need physical attraction though, it would be a lie to say that it didn’t matter to me. But I think it is so personal who we are attracted to. I fall head over heels for people my friends are indifferent to, and vice versa. Also, for me self expression is a huge plus. I gravitate to expressive fashion and makeup for example, but definitely not the most important thing. Just something I like.

@Turnpost2552 Год назад

lol its not personal who you are attracted to.

@totallynotacultleader Год назад

@@Turnpost2552 I personally think it is. Firstly, there’s many varying sexualities, life experiences, cultural norms, etc. that may shape standards of beauty and what we deem “attractive”. A lot of my friends crush on people who I am not into whatsoever, but they may think that they are so good looking. Also, getting to know someone personally can definitely play a factor for a lot of people but I feel like it varies for everyone. Personally I am not really into super masculine men (just a preference) but that’s not to say that someone else isn’t or that they are not attractive, just not to me. Or I’ve been head over heels for a woman that my friend just wasn’t that into for them. That person was so beautiful for me (looks, personality, energy, style) but not at all my friend’s type. I will say that society and our individual life experiences play a role to shape us, and akin to the idea of “no original thought” I would not say that who I am attracted to is entirely 100% unique of anyone else. There are also standards of beauty deemed by society and I would not say that I am completely apart from that. Like yeah, most of us can agree that Zendaya is a goddess. But I do think that our experiences shape us and in that way attraction can be personal (not entirely unique or deviated from everyone else, but still have its own twist). I’m curious what your opinion is, if you want to elaborate further. This is just what I think, I could be wrong. I’m no psychologist or specialist haha

@hope.143 Год назад

I'm one of the last people to realise if someone is attractive based on their physical features.I feel like personality can emphasize physical features.For example if someone gives a hug to comfort a friend his ,his physique can be emphasized in a good way.Kindness and consideration goes a long way.

@fmor2779 Год назад

I can't say that experiment was all that informative. I mostly saw a group of people who limited their speech as not to sound too vain or simple minded. In short, they didn't seem all that honest wich wouldn't surprise me. I'll say this, in my experience people in general like somone who is confident and healthy. The rest varies person to person in terms of personality traits, phisical traits, morality, maturity, financial success, etc.

@BeeWhistler Год назад

Yeah, I think they underestimate the eagerness to not be the bad guy or to be seen as marginalizing someone in a minority. Blunt, but a very real influence.

@cocoidiea8643 Год назад

I find arrogance unattractive. I think confidence is attractive as long as it comes from not how someone looks but more about being comfortable in who they are.

@WindierIndoors Год назад

For a long time, I've identified as demisexual (capable of being attracted to people I have a strong bond with). The bit about people becoming more or less attractive dependent on my interaction with them is so true! There's this guy at work I became attracted to because of his personality, but then when we dated, many things came up that made him a loooooot less attractive. But his features were literally more attractive before I knew those things.

@gabrieladanclar9831 Год назад

really is just personality i’ve caught feelings for a guy who i thought i’d never like in the beginning

@charlieh8111 Год назад

I think attractiveness is such a fluid/ personal thing. As a kid I was so disheartened by the general convention s of what was deemed attractive, and would see myself as ugly because I didn't fit the bill. Now I'm 34, I daresay my views will continue to change, but right now in so glad to have a much healthier perception. For me i find not only personality but also how you treat others, and yourself. For sexual chemistry, yes, physical factors would come into play, but overall kindness is the most attractive feature

@YataCallie4411 Год назад

Most attractive personality wise for me would be Conrad because I m a sucker for funny people and I love how he shared that it took him a while to think of himself as a 6 cause that's relatable. As for looks has got to be fellow non-binary because of the creative expression of tattoos, and the way they ooze confidence in their body language. I'd be stuttering if I talked to them because I'd think they are so cool XD

@carr0760 Год назад

I truly don't care what people look like. I have never chosen a date based on how they looked. Personality is the most important thing for me without question and as I become attracted to someone's personality, I also become more physically attracted to them. There are plenty of people who are considered to be objectively good looking that I feel absolutely no attraction towards, And I've dated plenty of people that most would say are objectively not physically attractive. You can be the hottest person in the world, but if you're a jerk, I will feel nothing for you. Same goes if you're not intellectually, stimulating or emotionally intelligent.

@ArikGST Год назад

I am currently in the online dating game and it completely changed how I view attractiveness. Yes, the looks are VERY important, they are what makes you click on a profile, but I find myself actually writing to people that have something interesting/witty/funny written in their profiles. A lot of very physically attractive people don't bother writing an interesting profile, so what ends up happening is that I send messages to people that on the surface I would consider average or slightly above average in looks (5-7/10), but who have otherwise an interesting profile, while the hyper good looking people get swiped left because they either have nothing or only boring things in their profile. Also online dating is like THE melting pot for personality disorders but also for honesty xD

@incognitogirl6201 Год назад

As an Ace, attractiveness is definitely a personality thing for me. That's not to say looks are nothing but I'd much rather have somebody sweet than somebody good looking Personally Conrad was the most attractive for me. Very humble and sweet seeming. I think he's the funny one for sure which gives some major brownie points in my book.

@DTM-Books Год назад

I would kill to be seen as a 6 or 7. To an ugly person like me, “average” feels like an unattainable goal. As for the people in this video, they all look equally attractive, similar appearance and personality. They all look like they could hang out together. What we’d really need is a variety of heights and body types. You need scrawny nerds, fat people, punk rockers with tattoos, etc.

@denny3460 Год назад

I too have a striking nose and planned on rhinoplasty but I didn’t have the money at 18 and I am so glad. It shows who I come from.

@taybaybay5553 Год назад

I've always seen myself and average and I don't see anything wrong with that but people see it as insecurities. 🤷‍♀️

@6112arjun Год назад

Everyone's high on copium in here

@Eldalote87 Год назад

For me it's definitkypersonality. I can see people and see how they're physically atttractive to others. If they're assholes they need to go. But the only thing I love physically is eyes that are open and expressive. When we're talking all relationships, I need to see they're honest in every way. I've been lied to to much. Just give me realness.

@portella6493 Год назад

I am one of the people who carries their whole playlist on their jacket. My hair, my makeup, my clothes, all reflect a thing in life that I like. I am generally more attracted to people like me; who like to express their personality through their looks. And if we can get along in a 5 minute conversation, that person is definitely attractive! (Oh, this does not mean I don't find people who don't express themselves through their looks attractive. Almost all young bodies between the ages of 18-45 are pretty darn attractive to my eye. But mostly, if they are not my type, I don't notice them.)

@kellifavazza8021 Год назад

You made a very interesting point that the result after the blindfold was removed was probably more related to people being embarrassed or unwilling to say.. no I don't think such and such should be in that position and less that it's truly the way they all felt. I feel like doing it the way you said, individually and without everyone seeing/hearing would have been far better of a result

@tbttube9920 Год назад

The thing I think is interesting about this test, too, is that for me I literally have to watch someone move. Like move their body in their natural environment. In a test like this, everyone is stiff and nervous, and I wouldn't be able to tell if someone was captivating on a deeper level just by listening to them blind-folded or seeing what their face looks like or something. There are plenty of people I can look at their faces and think, "yeah, I get it, they're pretty" but will feel absolutely nothing for them. Conversely, there have been people who's face I didn't get a good look at yet who were immediately captivating because of the way they move. That said, who someone is is definitely the most important thing to me. For me it's guys who are sweet, kind, not afraid to cry, and protective but not in a "white knight" kind of way. Just like, I'm gonna hold onto you till you feel better, kind of thing. Even standing up for to other guys is nice, cause honestly sometimes that's helpful because men don't always listen to women. It's that balance of knowing I can take care of myself, but also I'm gonna make sure you're okay and don't get hurt, if that makes any sense. Also, eyes tell you everything!

@mimmyrose2970 Год назад

I'm a solid 2 lol

@sarahrzewnicki7292 Год назад

It’s taking me a long time but I’m slowly getting more comfortable with myself, who I am, being single, and not comparing myself to others but just to me 😊

@polarberri Год назад

Yes I feel you! It's taken me so long to get to this point but I am ok with how I look and how I am, unless it's a bad day haha. Proud of us :)

@sin3358 Год назад

As a pan woman, who's constantly surrounded by beautiful women, I find it odd what straight women think is attractive within a girl vs what it really is. I think I can speak about all genders who find women attractive here since we're usually the same, looks aren't the most attractive thing. For guys, yeah they go after the pretty girls, but usually those guys who stay for looks alone are playboys and cheat eventually, but the ones who realize the personality sucks never stays. Most of my high school friends were very attractive people when it came down to their personality, tho they had cute looks to back them up as well. But most of them were just so amazing and you'd love to hang out with them, then we had these stunningly goddess like beauties in my class who, never once, did I stare and gaze in adoration. I had a lot of crushes when younger, as I tried to figure my sexuality. I had a crush on a lot of my classmates, all except the prettiest girls in class, because their personality was so bland and boring, I could never come to like them. Instead, I fell for the most confident girls

@emiliawrede8452 Год назад

About the question if personality or looks are more important (for romantic/sexual attraction): I feel like the looks are like the "entrance", like for me a person needs to be around 5 to "enter the competition", but from there, the personality can make a difference of at least 2-3 levels, in both directions. I once had the biggest crush on a guy that was like a 5 for me just because he was soo funny and nice to talk to lmao

@duygubayram5485 Год назад

Looks do matter to some extent and I'm sure I have a lot of those innate human biases that I don't even recognize, but I think I had a pretty atypical childhood in that my mom is really obsessed about looks (and so is my society, middle eastern) so I always went strongly against beauty or finding it as an important factor. I grew up actively rejecting it, I never cared about how I looked (like up until 23ish I just rolled out of bed and went to places and never thought about it - now I'll just groom myself but I still am not very into fashion or make up etc), I refused to judge or form opinions on people based on their looks, and I never approached or dated anyone based on looks. I just never bought into that culture. And I do notice a lot of differences between how I approach it, and even how much I register physical features, compared to other people. I do not retain people's looks in memory well, I don't remember their clothes, I generally don't look at people very long. I also have less concerns around beauty standards and fitting in and have less anxiety around it. I think there is a big socialization element there that people ignore. But! I'm also very connection averse and I think that also plays into what you said about our brains liking to categorize to make fast decisions... And because I refuse to do that I feel like getting to know people and picking who to talk to out of crowd feels very overwhelming to me and I usually avoid it.

@Turnpost2552 Год назад

Umm lol what Middle East covers womens face up, we are the least obsessed about looks. I guess your mom is an outlier.

@duygubayram5485 Год назад

@@Turnpost2552 covering women's face up literally points to obsession over and overvaluing of looks but you do you

@Jojo66630 Год назад

Voice. If I was blindfolded, I'd rank them by personality and voice. And maybe smell if I was standing next to them. Somehow people tend to forget that we have more senses than vision.

@rebeccayoung6247 11 месяцев назад

I honestly believe WEIGHT (OBESITY) plays such a HUGE role to ourselves and our confidence and it cannot be denied that it plays SUCH a big part of dating/to opposite sex , especially males of females.

@saramarkowicz Год назад

I also loved that he sais he was a "solid six". Now I feel good saying I am a solid seven haha !! Good perspective

@picklepirate Год назад

The best way to do this is if they privately said each of their scores, first thinking it would stay private and then it being revealed

@SaucyJTD 5 месяцев назад

I have physical traits that I am attracted to initially. These traits include hair color (I like brown or grey/white), eyes (like if they draw me in), height (I do prefer taller, but I'm short, so that's not difficult lol), and a great smile (doesn't mean perfect teeth, just how it changes his face). From there, personality is what dominates. I'm strongly attracted to intelligence, humor, and being generally good but have a backbone to stand up for themselves. Confidence is good, but not too much confidence. It should match their general personality and true skill.

@jennifer7685 Год назад

This is just ridiculous. It’s just personality, no one here is objectively different from assumed beauty standards. They’re all attractive.

@anastasiagraboviuk6079 Год назад

For me the most attractive were two people at the end when they were with the blindfold: the tall ginger guy and the lady, who thinks she is cute. The guy seems really confident and happy with who he is and doesn't try to compete with the others. The lady is generally sweet and a little bit shy, her personality is in general pleasant. They both also looks good to be fair, but in this case it's the personality that is deciding for me. I didn't really like the blond guy, who thought he is the most handsome and the non-binary person with the tatoo's, because they vere so over-confident with their looks - even though they really look good, but I don't think either of these people look bad.

@puppypoet 5 месяцев назад

Me and my husband have been together almost 19 years. His knock out good looks first snatched me. But then, over 30 emails in one week before our first date, I saw who he was and that was all I needed. There will never be another man (outside of Jesus) who I want in my heart. Andrew is my one and only, and we will defy everyone and make it to our 100th wedding anniversary! 🎉

@wafanaeem6478 Год назад

To be honest, at first I am attracted towards looks. So like if I have a Tom Cruise looking guy with an asshole personality; basically Warner from Legally blond; on one hand, and Quasimodo with Chris Evans’ soul on the other hand, I will definitely be drawn towards the Tom Cruise looking. But once I get to know them, I will definitely be attracted to Quasimodo.