"They Are Envious" - Robert Greene Explains "Frenemies" And The Phenomenon Of Envy 

The logic of envy is ugly .... like its the worst thing ever ....

Envy is a true sickness of the soul.

And relatives unless it goes within their interests

It’s dangerous.

💯

Very very wise

Everyone is envious to a degree.

@@xXyasabeXx that’s what ‘envious to a degree’ people would say. I take it you know every individual on the planet 🌎 wow 🤩.

Not all of them though. I understand where you coming from.

Struggling with this atm!

Female cousins.

You’re lucky

Yeah I can vouch. Had a distant relative (con artist) come to “help” me care for my grandpa when he had a stroke in my 20s. No one would come and help us and she got into his head and said she would come help. Bad idea. Grandpa told a friend before he died “I made a mistake”. That con artist not only stole his legacy (and my healthy trust fund he was passing on), but she isolated him so much, I was having to call to find him almost every day. Found out he was usually in the house but they were disconnecting the phone and leaving him or buying up all sorts of cars and things. I still feel guilt because I had moved to Canada and was fighting for him remotely. He was my best friend. I trust no one. ❤

Same

Same

Exact story of my life.I just can't understand how you envy another.You can never have everything,why bother being jealous of another.

I can resonate! My big sister tried to kill me at least twice that I know off!! This thing is so dangerous 😢

Ditto. So over it.

Exactly

I learned that boring means, safe, consistent, predictable and reliable so all the good things!

The purpose of life is not to play it safe

You r a good person. Don’t have regrets. God will give you more

Agreed! Jealousy and envy are normal human emotions that we all have, hence the notion of never taking it personal! Two issues I see, individuals who claim that they have people around them that are jealous of them can also be suffering from a little bit of narcissism, jealousy and envy at times can be not so easy to detect at first so people need to have enough self awareness to be accurate in their assessment! Secondly, I’m a little more understanding of someone’s perceived jealousy or envy towards me or other people! Who knows someone’s genetics, upbringing and environment?!?!? Where I don’t believe in a world of freewill then I’ve become a bit more empathetic towards someone’s hate even towards me! But as I sense it, I deal with that person accordingly, because as discussed, these people will literally ruin your life! It’s up to us as individuals to use our jealousy and envy appropriately and to not let it destroy us!

Very well said.

@@erykahhoney588 much appreciated! 🙏

This is so true, thank you

There's an important difference between emulation and envy.

So basically to turn envy into inspiration❤😊

I don’t think there’s a positive connotation to the term envy. If you want to be motivated by someone or their achievements, then they are your inspiration which seems more seems the positive form of envy. Envy to me, sits right along with jealousy which can both turn a person dangerous if not controlled.

That last part. That’s because you’re precious. 💎

Judas was not envy. Read the real story!

No the enemies of your enemies are your ENEMIES!. Wake up people!

Do not keep your enemies closer. Get away from them as fast as you can. I speak from experience.

@@alwaysblessed2794 if you have no friends then you have no enemies.

@@sophiawilson8696 you wake up sheepeople 🐑

Did you tell her?

You're correct. This is not the best advice.

This is very good advice, actually. The two difficulties you're having are, 1) interpreting the word "better" in a somewhat superficial way, and, 2) a failure to adequately consider the alternative. About the first, "better" doesn't mean "self-flauntingly, boastingly better." That would NOT be "better" people. Rather, people who are "better" are those with a solid, mature, healthily integrated self-understanding, a healthy altruism (which means, they're also not anybody's doormats), a healthy ambition in life to keep pushing themselves for more learning, discovery and rich exploitation of their own gifts in ways that contribute to the lives of many others. THAT is "better" and there is NO downside to trying to associate with, learn from, emulate such people. Don't confuse "confidence" of the best kind with narcissism. He's not saying, of course, 'Go out and find a bunch of narcissists to associate with." So, no, it's definitely NOT bad advice to spend time with the most healthily confident people you can. About the second, your failure to adequately consider the alternative. Usually when a concept presents some difficulties to comprehension, a very helpful trick is to imagine its extremes, so that the concept becomes stark and easily identifiable. So consider the alternative in the extreme: you can't really believe that there would be any upside to surrounding yourself and immersing yourself, your whole life, in a circle of people who are all plagued and riddled with crippling insecurities, jealousies, envy, mutual suspicion, petty rivalries, laziness and a refusal to get up and TRY, all of them scrambling after their perception of the biggest piece of a pathetically miserable small pie, ready to stab each other in the back to be the Big Fish in their fetidly ingrown small pond. You think you'd do yourself, or them, any good by wasting your life among them, ESPECIALLY by the way, if you did it with the notion "Okay, at least I'm 'better' than this crowd, so by being with them I'll improve them"? (As if they wouldn't read that right away, and you can imagine how they'd just lo-o-ove that.) I think that pretty much settles that. As for your last question. Again, what do you mean "people who are better than you"? If you mean they're TELLING you they're better than you, then guess what: they're not better than you. If you mean, more experienced, more wise, well-balanced, genuinely helpful and adept at maintaining boundaries, then, don't worry, Rocky, you won't be able to harm them by associating with them even if you wanted to (and we'll assume it's not your purpose to want to, right?).

Really?

Well envy and narc go hand in hand for a narc you are forever enemy i tried now am off .....

I have a crush on him. He’s soothing to me. I could listen to him talk all day!

wtf does that even mean, hes struggling to breathe

Actually he "looks" like a man who's been through life's mill, paid his dues, shows the scars and has rich experience to share, and the talent to express it in a highly articulate way. Also, he "looks" like a person who doesn't glibly come up with shallow, vacuous observations from any armchair of self-gratifying, dues-free sarcasm. That's just my own impression, of course.

Right? That infamous photo of Sophia Loren giving Jane Mansfield. The side eye was not because she envied her. It was because Jane Mansfield showed up with her tits spilling out of her dress to try to steal the limelight from Sophia Loren. It was the other way around, she was jealous of Sophia and her class. Sophia was looking at her like what a disgrace this woman is.

Link for the full interview in the description. Thank you for watching.

I saw something recently that said to empaths “be careful of the OTHER empaths, they are the ones who won’t let go of you, who will freak out if u try to leave them behind”…omg it’s so true?

How true!

You don’t… Many people do

This is the reason the most civilized societies were protestant…because the spirit of envy was subdued thru the regeneration of its men and women by The Spirit of God….the farther you go from The God of the bible the more you see societies revert to their true nature…chaos and tribalism…the only way to make people “cooperate” in this context is thru an iron fist

Amen