Things Guys Say versus What They REALLY Mean | How To Decode A Man's Words 

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you forgot one: i'm not the marrying kind. translation: i can see myself getting married someday, but definitely NOT to you.

I heard some guys said "I hate drama" at the beginning, they turned to be even more drama. Thank you Ryan I love this 👍👍

As a mature woman, but still beautiful and young, I will tell you girls. If you meet guys who make you feel you don't know where you stand or you don't know what they mean. Leave it! It's a waste of your time. In a normal relationship, people respect each other, care for each other, you are a princess to them. If they feel something, they will accept you unconditionally. You will feel it from the very beginning, that although you did nothing, you were just yourself, apparently these qualities suited them.

So men are essentially two-faced?

Truth! Lol And men thought women were confusing?! Could you do a video on signs between emotionally available vs unavailable men? 😅🤞🏽🤍

"I don't want to hurt you" goddamn it, yes. Guys who say that line, just let them go jump off cliff, for real.

"I'm just not good with parents" translation "i was only looking for a hook up, I have no interest in dating you. " that one didn't make the list, but should have

I’m binge watching this and it’s triggering my depression.

Haha! My 32 yo boyfriend hadn't brought up marriage after a year of monogamous dating. I met a guy in night class who had husband potential. I told my boyfriend that I needed to know if we were going to get married, that he should know if I'm the ONE by now. He puffed up, accusing me of giving him an "ultimatum or else". I laughed and said "No, but there's two of us in this relationship and if I'm not your wife no harm, no foul, I met someone else I'd like to date. I'm good with what we had but I'm moving on. It's not you, it's me." The shocked look on his face was priceless! He shouted "You will not use my line on me!" I said "it ain't your line." And I meant it! We were happily married for 32 yrs til he passed 5 yrs ago. He told me I gave him all paybacks from the women he strung along! I'm start looking for Love 2.0. I hope I get to use that line again! Ladies, know your worth! Great advice Ryan!

You should do one on questions to ask in early stages of dating/getting to know someone without it sounding like a job interview.

One time a guy I was talking to asked me ‘how could anyone hurt you, you’re so nice!’ He then proceeded to hurt me by ghosting me after 3 months of breadcrumbing! Never again! I’m now in a happy relationship because I realised what I deserve, thanks Ryan 💛

Men r sooooo dramatic, tbh.

Idk why my single ass watches these videos I am practically an expert in over thinking but seriously, this video has exposed some truths! Actually a whole lotta truth

"I don't want to hurt you", "I don't care" heard these two. 😔

Why do there have to be hidden meanings?! Are we still in high school guys?! Give me a break. I guess I’ll just stay single...it really is better.

guy says you are exactly what he has been looking for and he is tired of toxic relationships, then later says he needs time to think about what he wants. then 2 seconds later, started dating another girl.

F.Y.I. Ladies when they say "I don't care" means THEY DO CARE!

Whenever I see a guy’s profile that reads: “easy going, no drama” is usually the exact opposite. I get that now 🙄🙄😑😑

Honestly, I don't understand men...Don't think I ever will lol

I can never be with someone who doesn't text or call me in 2 days neverr

💯😅We’re all laughing because these are all true!

A guy I liked said to me"I think you're a real cool down to earth person..." before he said anything else I realized I was getting the friendzone alert 🚨 lol

I love how funny this guy is

This year's Oscar statuette is yours! You really make so much fun for my quarantine!

Please do a part 2. This was amazing. The drama one was on point, I actually had a conversation with a dude about just that. He usually says he hates drama and conflict in his friend group, but to me he said that he secretly loves it and can't get enough of it.

Ryan pls do a video on when man says he is not interested when he really is. Explain how his lies are giving him away.

Look I won’t date dudes who don’t say what they mean. Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don’t say it mean. I hate when guys don’t express what’s really going on and what they’re really up to. It’s a MAJOR pet peeve

I've heard a lot of these phrases with my ex boyfriend. Especially the one when he said, "It's all me. It's not your fault." Yeah ok * being extremely sarcastic* He just wanted to pin his actions on me and make me feel like it was my fault for what he did. Karma will get him.

Whew the “I don’t wanna hurt you” one

wow I speak manspeak, all those years of only having male friends have paid off lmao

I love, love, love your videos Ryan. You are hilarious but I learn something with every video. Your videos leave me feeling a little naughty because you are helping us ladies have the ADVANTAGE instead of being at a decided DISADVANTAGE with men. It seems a little unfair to be in that position but I thank you from the bottom of my heart for lifting the veil off of men's mystery.

“Im the chillest guy youll ever meet” “When Im not chill its your fault”

A mans, “it’s all good” is the equivalent to when woman says, “fine.” Which we all know, it so isn’t FINE.

What does he mean when he says he wants to take things slow and start as friends? He also told me that he really likes me and the book is definitely still open for us. (We dated briefly in high school over 15 years ago. I haven’t seen him since.)

Shame, I actually feel bad for guys😂. Us girls all have such high expectations for them when all they're tryna do is get through life without being broken down the whole time🤣

You are 100% right on all these. I love how you did this too. That space thing my ex pulled. Actually asked me to wait for him. Ha !

"I love you, but I'm not in love with you"....as he's breaking up with me. Does that just mean "I want to save face and not look like the jerk that I'm actually being right now"?? Still stumped by that one...lots of words not lining up with actions on this one so I guess old habits just don't die...ever. 🙄🤦‍♀️

I need to watch this on repeat.

Hahahahaha I had to watch twice, didnt hear much the first time from laughing. Wish I discovered you at 32 not 52

LOL 😂 😂😂😂 that was true , funny and weird at the same time

My ex said that he loved drama. Oh we had so much drama from his side.

HAHAHA the oh how do you and ted know each other? I GET SO MANY DIFF VERSIONS OF THAT Q ALL THE TIME

Your facial expressions are golden lmao! But so much value and, unfortunately, truth here. Thanks Ryan!🌸

I’ve gotten “I ❤️ you” via text but he still “isn’t ready” for a title even though he says we are exclusive. I’m in a whole mess here aren’t I? Lol

Daterboy: one of your funniest videos so far this is way too funny for anyone's own good!!!

This is sooo hilarious! that inner voice's facial expressions tho lmao they are the best!

3:38 "is there an exit around here somewhere?" 😂

This was great 😂 Even though men typically mean what they say more than we do, sometimes they don’t, which leaves us confused. Because if I believe you mean what you say I’ll operate based on that assumption and then when you don’t follow through, I’m confused and sometimes attach that to my self-worth. So it’s good to know that men don’t always give it to us straight either lol

Because of you i got my first boyfriend thank you ❤

You've made quarantine so much easier to take.... you are HILARIOUS... and you've helped me sooo much with the new guy I just started seeing. Thank you!!!

Guys seem complicated and make things more complicated they what they really are. I am like do u want to have sex or not it's simple.

You made me laugh out loud early in the morning:) you’re awesome Ryan !! 💕

He said "don't settled, landriah" i know he means I shouldn't settle on him, so then stop chasing me fool lol

VERY Good. Better than others at this. Funny when soo accurate. But... do ya' really want someone at this maturity level? Aptly named 'guys'.... not MEN.. but some men stay guys forever.

I loved, loved, loved the style of this video!!! " Either hurt you or I'm about to hurt you' love it! Men decoded.

Ok you made me laugh...and that's a hard thing to do. I've got a question....What put you on this path...Dating Coach?

Thank you I’m dumping my friend today😄

I enjoyed the video. My boyfriend hasn’t told me “I love you” yet but has through his actions, words, and sent me something for Valentine’s Day that said “ I love you” on it so he is in his own way.

Usually a Narc. uses I love you, to keep you hooked.....It depends who says I love you

So what do you understand when a guys tell a women "don't get your hopes up too high" I have a understanding but I would love know what you guys thinks

I'm in a new relationship and I recognized a few of those. "Its not your fault" that one had me going, so hilarious!!! Good job Ryan especially with editing, topic discussion, and the creativity. It's exactly what I needed, thank you!!!

How about "o don't know what i want" in a Situation if he wants a relationship or not

Idk but I think I am in love with your facial expressions though 😂 It cracks me up 😂

3:54 at "I need space." that was priceless 😂 men love to submarine, but they deserve to drown under the water.

This is such a mood booster video for those, who are single for the time being. I swear, if I was taken right now, I would probably scream from all of this ambiguity. My truth really is that: I would never get to any of this stuff with anyone in a meaningful way, because I've never had to wait until any of those examples to play out with me. It's just my way has always been different, and I always take the time to read a person's intentions for anything really. And, of course, it takes so much time, that they just bail on me altogether. I love how my patience is being exercised with guys. And it's partially because I am a little bit of a spinster. Although I'm 26 at the moment. Also, I'm a writer, so a little bit of a hermit and introvert by nature. I just really believe that men have a type. And sometimes it's not what one might think. Sometimes, a type is really just a girl, that is naturally kind and forgiving of human nature. And men are notorious for exercising their human nature to all possible extremes. And of course this includes lying and cheating and a bad temper on top of all. But the cues for all of it are always showing with me - horns first, so to say. And just like in the recent commercial for "Hypnose" mascara, I do the same as them like a mantra: "look up, your eyes hold your power" and I show my type to men. And then they see, that my type is stern and judgemental, and in no way am I even going to try and play the opposite card. Because men feel the nature of a woman. They will not try, where they can not get away it. Men really, mostly need that forgiving type of a woman as a base layer, and then some of her other convenient qualities on top of it as a man's personal preference type. And so, actually, a woman should be twice a type. A natural and an added flavor all in one. And so, that's why with me it's a different story. I know my nature, and it's different. And that's why I became an observer, a spinster, and a writer. I found my stance with men, and I'm not bitter about it. I just live my life knowing, that I might never be a choosing or chosen type with men successfully from a marriage kind of perspective, and that is powerful. That is something I am tackling in my writing as well. That's how I believe in a concept of destiny.

So basically men and women are similar, with only a few differences (perhaps women explain more and also when we say "You always do that" we're talking about a mistake that the guy frequently does). I had fun with your realistic impressions, and yeah I believe most people have either said or heard stuff like that in their relationships. Nice video!

Wow. I never knew that there was a difference between what guys say and what they really mean honestly. Great video. 👍👍👍

Hey just ended a 3 year relationship coz he had Stopped all affection towards me and kept turning the blame game to me and watching this video was like omg I’ve heard these Can you do a video on what guys say when they’ve lost interest in the relationship

This video is so hilarious! 😂

You are hilarious 😆

Thank you. I feel equal parts attacked and informed. Feel good. 😒

If someone tells us that love us but they are not affectionate to us or have any actions to back up their words then it's not really love, just a lie to manipulate you.

I don't know.. but when I watch this, I laughed. But the video are true though. Great explaination video! Thumbs up 👍🏽 p.s I also use 'I don't care' a lot too lol 🤭

Guy I’ve been seeing called me dude today. Wtf??

I mean, you do realize not all guys are the sane right? personallity differs alot...here's what i would think. 1>Hey we should hang out sometimes -I really like her and want to spend time with her but also need to play it cool. 2>Look at you! you could get any guy! -I'm feeling really insecure and like you, do you like me? 3>My job is pretty complex -i dont wanna bore you with a detial description about technical design so im just gonna say i draw technical things. 4>How do you and ted know each other? -yeah this one is correct for me haha, i wanna know the history here! 5>Oke, ill hit you up! -man she didnt like the date bc she doesnt wanna make any concrete plans :/ 6> i like you -wanna take it to the next level? i.e. second date/third date/being my gf? 7> i dont need all the drama in my life -im really angry about something. 8> wow you sound really passionate about *blank* -i disagree with you but dont know if/how to tell that. 9>i dont wanna hurt you -we should discuss our relation and where its going to make sure we're on the same page. 10> im not ready for an relationship -with you ;p //learned this one from the ladys out there ;D 11> i need space. -your suffocating me, take it easy i like you. 12> i think you're great! -i do, just not intrested romanticly. 13> that came out wrong. -i just realized how stupid this sounds lol // i mean, i could have worded that better let me try again. 14> its me not you -we just dont match, its a 2player game and if you have no synch why bother. 15>i feel like i can talk to you - spot on :P // also seen this used by guys to play the pity card. 16>That's intresting! -Ehm, no clue how to respond to that.// pretty spot on. 17>Whatever you want -i. dont. care. 18>i'm fine -i got something going on but as far as i know there is nothing you can do for me so please let me just solve this. 19> thats cool. -Ehm, are you sure thats the right move? 20> we dont have to talk about that. -Take your time, i understand it might be a bit much and i dont wanna rush you. 21> you're crazy -you gave me the feels. 22> i dont care. -this is annoying me. 23> you always do this! -this is going to go really wrong, it has gone wrong before and you should not do it! 24>just kidding! - oof i might have come on too strong :$ 25>its my faulth -i mean, im only human i make mistakes. 26> im not angry. -im dissapointed.(i will tell you when im getting angry) 27> i think im gonna get out of here -your crazy//we are on completly diffrent pages.//i need to diffuse this. 28> i love you. -i do. i hope you can see it aswell. Obviously i understand this is partly joking/ partly generalization i was just having some fun ;p

What if you are not dating, and someone says they would do anything for you. What does that mean? I see a lie and didn't really respond, accept to say meekly, "Thank you" .Oh this person is your Supervisor(not all they time). Yeah there has been sexual tension before between the two of you.

And guys say we they can’t read OUR minds???? WTF. Done with the games, the stupidity, the lack of ‘open & honest’ communication between the sexes.

Oh my goodness this had me crying with laughter 🤣 absolutely brilliant!

This is was awesome!! Some made me laugh so hard because totally been there with some men...

Since my divorce, i have only heard the “ i love ❤️ you way early on, from an adorable, future faker” i had to hide my giggles as I knew he was a player. Too early on in my divorce, so he was FUN

If they joke about who you shouldn’t date: do they transgress your boundaries or lack respect or is this a way to manoeuvre out of the perceived Friendzone and figure out if I want a date?

I laughed so loud watching this video...so funny ❤️❤️❤️

That`s why women come from Venus and Men come from Mars. We just speak a different language....

When a guy says "I need time" does this also mean "I need space"?

Me and my husband have been together for six years so from March March 9 2017 to this very day and Beyond and since then to now and Beyond he still making his own plans even though we make plans together but sometimes he does not follow through on those plans together

OMG... one of my favorite videos of yours!!! So much fun to watch and so informative. I’ve heard most of these things and in hindsight and reading between the lines, this is spot on. Thanks again, Ryan! 💕

So anyone, what's it mean when a guy says that y'all are talking? How do you tell it's going good or poorly??🤨🤦🏼‍♀️

Love love love looooove it!!! The 1st one OMG now I feel bad I got the "maybe we should hang out" before & seriously thought he wanted to just hang out so I said "sure my friends & I are gonna get coffee later, feel free to join us" ... #REGRET

I love your humourous approach, I always have to sit down and watch your videos because your mannerisms really enhance the videos 😂😭🤣

Loved this !!!The I need space. Yes most guys will say that because they have a chick lined up, but lets not forget the other reasons. Another reasons could be that she is getting so clingy and she is smothering him. Also his buddies could be riding him about how he doesn't hang out with them. But 9/10 times its because he wants to see how things work out with the new chick he is chasing without being a cheater.

You are hilarious...it's like watching a schizophrenic person...lol.

Had my bf dump me two weeks ago called me asking me how was I didn't say anything asked him he said better than ever and told me give him kisses im like I don get it abandoned me with a baby and yet called me asking for love yet if your doing better than ever why you calling me...I don't get it

what about a guy who's words cut to the bone but his actions were touchy feely. i assume he wanted to hook up but he turned me off with a lunge instead of turned me on with a move, It felt off, insulting and uncomfortable so suffice to say i pretended not to notice and politely left then later he ignored me so I thought I'd hurt his pride so stupid me apologised, gave him the benefit of the doubt but he blew me off with interest and he's been rude, mean and cruel ever since idiot me told him I liked him but not the lunge, he told me bluntly he didn't want a relationship that I never asked for then he continued to put me in confusing situations then reiterated his disinterest. it wasn't even a date, we hung out, he gave me a lift to a gig, I assumed I was friendzoned up until he pounced from behind so I literally didn't see the benefits coming. wanting to hook up isn't the issue but mind games and mental torture were too much...x

Hi mr Aryan hope you are fine... can I ask question... how about i love him i tell him and something like he igrone

Does anyone else think Ryan looks like Bud Bundy from married with children? ❤❤

Can you do a video on how to win a guy back

I have heard all of these. Real life man

Now you say this I know what my ex's boyfriend Robert tackett said to me now. I know now why'd he's been so two face to me.

What about thank-you for being you? Or when you tell him a specific detail and he says it's whatever??